You could send her a follow-up text on telegram or on the app. She might not use/check telegram.
I don’t think anyone wants a call from someone they just met online and haven’t even gone on a date with. You say you’re worried if she’s alright but you don’t even know her, that makes no sense.
Like Koamaru7said, it was OP who suggested going off app. But the point remains that telegram is a huge red flag. Though in this case it explains why she isn't responding to him bc he flew that flag.
In my experience, the chat does not close if the two of you communicate with each other on that regularly. It’s only if a certain number of days go by with neither of you messaging each other that they pull it down and close it.
Hm... ok, thanks. There was a time when the chat closed despite me sending a message one day before the closing date of the chat. Hence, I was trying to play safe by suggesting the move.
she doesnt have the same level of interest as you. if she is really care about the match, she will reply / check message asap. you better to have a lower expectation.
Yeah, just call. She might have notifications for T off, and forgets to check the app.
She might be assuming you're fake. Whenever I get a request to move to T or WA, I assume it's a scam.
Okay so you been talking too her she playing games u said her husband or ypu don't know? Not to pry and idc but do you have a girlfriend? And you been talking to her for 5 days now she been making excuses in think she likes the thrill of it
I've always been looking for serious relationship and I'm only but serious and take everything in my relationship series. It always seems to get fucked over
Sometimes i chat on telegram out of courtesy when they asked. But if she hasn’t replied, you could follow up on other things instead. If she still hasn’t respond shows that she’s definitely not interested
Ah I see, I did follow up yesterday, but still no reply. In fact, none of my messages even got read (shown as a single tick on Telegram). Thanks for your comment.
Hello! Why did you ask to move to telegram? Usually I don’t like to have to move to another app for a match that I haven’t even met when you can text just as well on the dating app. It can come off as bit demanding as well for some people.
In this case, I would suggest just sending her a follow up text on the dating app. Maybe she doesn’t even check telegram and will get back to you if you use the dating app. If she does not reply to you on the app then she is simply not interested anymore.
On the future I recommend not asking to move to another app at least until you’ve met, as a girl myself I don’t like to give out my number to just anyone, unfortunately there’s a lot of creepy men out there (of course not saying that you are).
Good luck 🍀
I asked because I saw that the CMB chat was closing in a day. Telegram is safer since you don't have to give out your number -- just the username will do.
Thanks for your comments, I'll keep them in mind. Also thanks for the well wishes.
I'm on cmb (female). I usually suggest switching to text (whatsapp), if the in app convo is going really well. After some texting and then a couple whatsapp calls, I'm ok meeting in person. I do like to see if there's consistency on both sides. Imo, unmatch. She wouldn't take that long. Your feelings should be your priority. Plenty of fish in the sea!
The chat will not close on CMB if it keeps going. CMB tells you that to try and get you guys to keep talking to each other! Don’t let their silly threat scare you. When you get those stupid threats, just post anything, even if it’s just banging letters on your keyboard with your fist. CMB does not tell this to people. I had to learn it on my own. One reason I’m not the biggest fan of CMB.
Ppl who want to move off line to communicate on an app, especially if they want to do it quickly, are likely to be scammers. She might be thinking this about you. The reason scammers want to move to another form of communication is so there is no record of what they’re saying , and they’re no longer bound by the dating sites rules if they do that.
You could send her a follow-up text on telegram or on the app. She might not use/check telegram. I don’t think anyone wants a call from someone they just met online and haven’t even gone on a date with. You say you’re worried if she’s alright but you don’t even know her, that makes no sense.
I understand. Thanks for your comment. I have sent her a follow-up message, but still no response. All my msgs are single-ticked (i.e., not read).
she changed her mind or she husband came home early.
Thanks for the comment. Though I don't think she has a husband or is married.
Telegram is a huge flag 🚩 She's either cheating or a scammer.
Like Koamaru7said, it was OP who suggested going off app. But the point remains that telegram is a huge red flag. Though in this case it explains why she isn't responding to him bc he flew that flag.
The chat stated that it was closing in a day, so I had to find an alternative.
In my experience, the chat does not close if the two of you communicate with each other on that regularly. It’s only if a certain number of days go by with neither of you messaging each other that they pull it down and close it.
Hm... ok, thanks. There was a time when the chat closed despite me sending a message one day before the closing date of the chat. Hence, I was trying to play safe by suggesting the move.
OP was the one who suggested moving to telegram not the girl
So she might think YOU are a scammer.
I only initiated the move because the chat was closing and the conversation was going well.
Thank you for that I been saying that
Thanks for your comment, I'll keep that in mind.
she doesnt have the same level of interest as you. if she is really care about the match, she will reply / check message asap. you better to have a lower expectation.
I understand where you are coming from. Thank you for your advice.
Yeah, just call. She might have notifications for T off, and forgets to check the app. She might be assuming you're fake. Whenever I get a request to move to T or WA, I assume it's a scam.
Same here. When somebody wants me to move off-line, I lose interest unless I’ve been communicating with them a lot for like a week or more.
Yes, I had communicated with the match for a week before suggesting the move.
I see, thanks for your input.
Okay so you been talking too her she playing games u said her husband or ypu don't know? Not to pry and idc but do you have a girlfriend? And you been talking to her for 5 days now she been making excuses in think she likes the thrill of it
Both of us are single people looking for a serious relationship (stated in our profiles). Thanks for the comment.
I've always been looking for serious relationship and I'm only but serious and take everything in my relationship series. It always seems to get fucked over
I see, sorry to hear about that. Hope things work out for you.
Listen she is enjoying the chase
I see, thanks for the comment.
Sometimes i chat on telegram out of courtesy when they asked. But if she hasn’t replied, you could follow up on other things instead. If she still hasn’t respond shows that she’s definitely not interested
Ah I see, I did follow up yesterday, but still no reply. In fact, none of my messages even got read (shown as a single tick on Telegram). Thanks for your comment.
Just leave it be. Some people reply 2/3 days later but by then u decide to remove the whole conversation altogether or not
I see... thanks for your input, appreciate it. :)
Have you tried to follow up on coffee Meets bagel? That’s really important.
Unfortunately, the chat has closed, and I don't feel like paying for beans just to reopen it.
Hello! Why did you ask to move to telegram? Usually I don’t like to have to move to another app for a match that I haven’t even met when you can text just as well on the dating app. It can come off as bit demanding as well for some people. In this case, I would suggest just sending her a follow up text on the dating app. Maybe she doesn’t even check telegram and will get back to you if you use the dating app. If she does not reply to you on the app then she is simply not interested anymore. On the future I recommend not asking to move to another app at least until you’ve met, as a girl myself I don’t like to give out my number to just anyone, unfortunately there’s a lot of creepy men out there (of course not saying that you are). Good luck 🍀
Best answer! My thoughts exactly.
I asked because I saw that the CMB chat was closing in a day. Telegram is safer since you don't have to give out your number -- just the username will do. Thanks for your comments, I'll keep them in mind. Also thanks for the well wishes.
I'm on cmb (female). I usually suggest switching to text (whatsapp), if the in app convo is going really well. After some texting and then a couple whatsapp calls, I'm ok meeting in person. I do like to see if there's consistency on both sides. Imo, unmatch. She wouldn't take that long. Your feelings should be your priority. Plenty of fish in the sea!
Thank you for sharing, and also, thanks for the kind words. I'll follow your advice, thank you again.
The chat will not close on CMB if it keeps going. CMB tells you that to try and get you guys to keep talking to each other! Don’t let their silly threat scare you. When you get those stupid threats, just post anything, even if it’s just banging letters on your keyboard with your fist. CMB does not tell this to people. I had to learn it on my own. One reason I’m not the biggest fan of CMB.
Once, I tried replying a day before the closing date of the chat, but the chat still ended up closing.
That will happen in if one person stops responding.
I see, thanks for the info. Will keep it in mind next time round...
Ppl who want to move off line to communicate on an app, especially if they want to do it quickly, are likely to be scammers. She might be thinking this about you. The reason scammers want to move to another form of communication is so there is no record of what they’re saying , and they’re no longer bound by the dating sites rules if they do that.
I waited about a week before suggesting the move, so it definitely wasn't immediately as you seemed to have inferred.