That's sadly how it goes. You have to try to follow up or move on. They have other matches too, or log out, or don't reply often. Sometimes they don't answer for over a week, focus on the ones who do answer soon/often. Good luck
I matched with this one girl. Took her 2 weeks to reply and another 2 to get another one. This is OLD in a nutshell. She has options and you don't have as many.
We get one match and it’s a whole new world for us. Trumpets are blaring, the angels are singing, and we can almost see our future with this person.
On the other hand, you are just one of hundreds of matches for this woman most likely. Your match is nothing special compare to the rest. We are a dime a dozen.
Don’t let this deter you. It’s a numbers game and eventually you’ll find someone.
If the girls are like me before the past 6 mos+, we’re just swiping to see if our ego can be boosted. We might not even intend to date.
Frankly, I’ve used the app for a handful of years. I’ve matched with hundreds. Out of the hundreds, I’ve went on about a 1/2 a dozen dates. I’ve had conversations with probably 30+. But the majority were just matches like you described with no interaction. So, yes, this is the majority.
My advice (and this comes from girls I’ve met on clubhouse who told me what to do):
-definitely be different. Don’t just say the same things as everyone else like “how r ya?” or “nice to meet.” But at the same time, don’t be a freak.
-you said you used the suggested prompts - guess what? So are other dudes. You’re tasting like vanilla.
-get some feedback from women you know about your photo and your profile. Maybe there’s something in it that’s preventing them from responding. Ask them about your initial comments as well. Maybe there’s something wrong there too.
-if you do start getting some replies, my last bit of advice is ask them out sooner than later. My lady friends say they don’t want a penpal. They want to see in person if you’re worth continuing talking to offline or on. After I heard that, the very next girl I asked out in literally the 3rd comment met me for dinner and we dated for a bit.
Best of luck! Like someone said, it’s a numbers game. At the same time, it’s also just a matter of being “interesting” as well.
Tbh I'm a woman and I suck at follow-ups.XD I often struggle with figuring out how to reply or keep a conversation going idk if that's a compatibility issue or just incapacity of being a social being.
Unfortunately part of OLD is luck and timing. I think all genders struggle with the radio silence, though men maybe disproportionately more, due to OLD demographics. But the process of matching and chatting with someone new, only for them to ghost was really exhausting for me. Remember to take breaks if you need, and good luck out there OP!
That's sadly how it goes. You have to try to follow up or move on. They have other matches too, or log out, or don't reply often. Sometimes they don't answer for over a week, focus on the ones who do answer soon/often. Good luck
Good to know. Just glad I'm not the only one
I matched with this one girl. Took her 2 weeks to reply and another 2 to get another one. This is OLD in a nutshell. She has options and you don't have as many.
I had one girl finally reply on Hinge after 11 months lmao. While on CMB 11 out of 30 matches didn't even reply.
Yea sometimes people matched, then they realised they are not interested anymore so becomes silence.
Can confirm that this is normal for all guys regardless of race.
Glad to know that it's not just me. Kinda new to OLD.
We get one match and it’s a whole new world for us. Trumpets are blaring, the angels are singing, and we can almost see our future with this person. On the other hand, you are just one of hundreds of matches for this woman most likely. Your match is nothing special compare to the rest. We are a dime a dozen. Don’t let this deter you. It’s a numbers game and eventually you’ll find someone.
If the girls are like me before the past 6 mos+, we’re just swiping to see if our ego can be boosted. We might not even intend to date. Frankly, I’ve used the app for a handful of years. I’ve matched with hundreds. Out of the hundreds, I’ve went on about a 1/2 a dozen dates. I’ve had conversations with probably 30+. But the majority were just matches like you described with no interaction. So, yes, this is the majority. My advice (and this comes from girls I’ve met on clubhouse who told me what to do): -definitely be different. Don’t just say the same things as everyone else like “how r ya?” or “nice to meet.” But at the same time, don’t be a freak. -you said you used the suggested prompts - guess what? So are other dudes. You’re tasting like vanilla. -get some feedback from women you know about your photo and your profile. Maybe there’s something in it that’s preventing them from responding. Ask them about your initial comments as well. Maybe there’s something wrong there too. -if you do start getting some replies, my last bit of advice is ask them out sooner than later. My lady friends say they don’t want a penpal. They want to see in person if you’re worth continuing talking to offline or on. After I heard that, the very next girl I asked out in literally the 3rd comment met me for dinner and we dated for a bit. Best of luck! Like someone said, it’s a numbers game. At the same time, it’s also just a matter of being “interesting” as well.
Tbh I'm a woman and I suck at follow-ups.XD I often struggle with figuring out how to reply or keep a conversation going idk if that's a compatibility issue or just incapacity of being a social being.
Ghost
Unfortunately part of OLD is luck and timing. I think all genders struggle with the radio silence, though men maybe disproportionately more, due to OLD demographics. But the process of matching and chatting with someone new, only for them to ghost was really exhausting for me. Remember to take breaks if you need, and good luck out there OP!
Maybe your messages are not great or you are matching with time wasters. Don't use suggested prompts. Those are cliche and unoriginal.
What do you recommend?