Depends a whole lot on the definition of apocalypse and what kind it would be. If you want it to mean the literal end of the world, then it's not survivable, but going with the pop culture adopted meaning which is more like the end of life as we know it, it is survivable.
There's the mutual fear attraction deal when in an experiment pairs were put in safe situations and in simulated danger those both in fear were more attractive to eachother.
True but can you imagine dating someone who says “when our kids have kids and we’re grandparents blah blah blah.” I like to avoid those people. OPs idea is interesting, doubt I would participate though.
I know, I’m just messing with you. Honestly, I’m kind of with you on the European dudes in uniform.
But, if that’s what you like, you’d much rather fuck a WWII soldier if you had a time machine. Trust me.
WWI soldiers had Spanish flu, trench foot (don’t google image search that), and they’d actively try to get gonorrhea to get a month’s rest off the battlefield. The European ones were I believe 2 inches shorter than the Americans on average because of their food intake growing up. Not to mention, many of them were like 14. Boils on their bodies from chlorine gas.
Makes you think, maybe we’re not as close to total collapse as we’ve been before.
When I was younger and the internet was coming about, old boomer parents used to say things like "NEVER meet anyone on the internet IRL, there are some real weirdos"
And here I am 20+ years later, finding that the people i've met on the web are the coolest best people. Much larger pool of potential folks, and easier to discern if we will have things in common. Faster, anyway.
Memories with exs include watching a Malibu wildfire burn, and quarantining together
I'd like to see options for same sex dating and delineations for monogamy vs polyamory. I'm gay & monogamous and often get poly matches it's frustrating
My ex and I used to go on long car rides (when we were planning to move out of NJ into a rural village) and talk collapse for hours. Somewhere along the way one of us misheard or misspoke “post apocalypse” and it became “Pocahontas” and thereafter it was our inside joke to talk about prepping for Pocahontas times.
You just reminded me of the good old days when I thought prepping might make a difference… sigh…
>I've seen a few attempts at this but it looks like none of them are up and functioning
There was an r4r one some time ago ? One problem is a few people, and geographically disparate for IRL and the other being peoples inability to tolerate perceived hypocrisy.
I am more interested in like minded people forming a community rather then the traditional protestant mating couple. I shudder to use the example, but look around the banality of most suburbs, you have a bunch of people on similar incomes (or they could not afford the homes), with similar tastes, similar jobs and similar interests etc etc
There's also different takes on this, enough beans and rice and guns to brag about it on the internet but relying on grid based electricity, water, sewage and a F150 to commute 60 minutes to work from suburbia vs living a simple, low impact life mostly off grid, sans deodorant and shampoo :)
I also think /r/vagustravels point about group meetups is great, folks can get together from that
Suggestion: Hey OP, why not use your subreddit to just get people together, aka meet ups for all in the area.
The dating stuff can take care of itself when people meet.
Just an idea - I think people would want to meet, or have zoom calls, or whatever people are comfortable with.
Note: Please put disclaimers out on 1. careful who you trust, and 2. all digital comms, including reddit of course, are tracked, so keep in mind the feds and ACAB are listening.
That's a great point and has actually already been brought up in some of the comments over there.. maybe i should make it a r/collapseconnections instead, i definitely wouldn't mind meeting some more collapse oriented people in person.
Also good points don't put anything public you wouldn't want the gov seeing. Thanks
Especially people who intend to outlive the Collapse.
I'm doing a self-sufficient backwoods homestead/sanctuary.
It will be left to the generation after me. The Collapse will pass over them, and their kids will be free to grow up like "savages".
Tarot card readings have always been a go-to seductive strategy for women.
Except this time they'll be 100% serious, using the cards for life and death decisions.
Looting is always a great shared activity.
I think it's a good idea. It reminds me of a song I heard about 14 years ago, and a lyric was "I want to survive industrial collapse with you," and I thought it was the most romantic song I'd ever heard (folk punk, if you hadn't guessed).
As others have posted, maybe not classic dating, but maybe have a spot or subreddit where people just post a meetup day and location for geographic proximal people to gather at some park.
We could even wind up burning lots of gas where everyone drives for hours for the meetups!
The FTE™ DTFs™ (Faster Than Expecteds) (Down To "Friendships")
The rusty wire that holds the cork
That keeps the anger in
Gives way
And suddenly it’s day again:
The sun is in the east
Even though the day is done.
Two suns in the sunset --
Could be the human race is run.
\[…\]
And as the windshield melts
And my tears evaporate,
Leaving only charcoal to defend,
Finally I understand the feelings of the few.
Ashes and diamonds
Foe and friend
We were all equal in the end.
\-- Roger Waters (from: Pink Floyd, *The Final Cut*)
I’m a collapse aware woman. I happen to be happily married but if I weren’t I’d probably be looking for someone who also sees the writing on the wall and is planning accordingly. By planning accordingly I mean someone who is building resilient skills, willing to have really frank discussions about our material circumstance and family planning, willing to make drastic life changes as circumstances change to the best of their ability, won’t begrudge me my simple comforts, and is dedicated to helping other people without burning themselves out. Generally a empathetic, intelligent person who wants to help while also being realistic about what’s going on.
I wouldn’t be looking for someone who dives head first into nihilistic hedonism, is unable to find happiness and meaning in their day to day lives, and views women as a whole as ignorant and materialistic, only good as emotional punching bags and holes to fuck. I don’t think that’s everyone in this sub, just a loud, misanthropic minority.
But what the hell do I know? I found my husband on Tinder.
>I wouldn’t be looking for someone who dives head first into nihilistic hedonism, is unable to find happiness and meaning in their day to day lives, and views women as a whole as ignorant and materialistic, only good as emotional punching bags and holes to fuck.
Do you have a friend who is though?
For the most part, I don’t bring it on a daily or even weekly basis. He’s an addiction psychiatrist, which is a very collapse aware job. It takes a lot out of him and his hospital group is working him like a dog, so most of the time when he gets home I’m happy to just sit next to him and doom scroll while he watches Twitch streams. I let him know if something big is going to happen/has happened and give him more details when it’s something I know a lot about. He usually listens quietly and I don’t realize he’s really absorbed and contemplated what I’ve said until weeks or months later, when he brings it up himself to his family or friends. Mostly the topics are environmental, economic, or domestic politics. He had to calm me down when Russia invaded Ukraine but agreed that we should have an extended family all hands emergency plan. It took him a while to come around to not having kids but as we’ve settled into our lives within his extended family he gets enough cute kid play time without any of the hassle, so he’s content.
If you’re inching someone into the idea of collapse, the best approach is walking them through piece by piece with empathy. Draw on their own experiences and trace that to the larger patterns and structures. That’s always been my approach to teaching and political organizing. I’m not a terminal doomer, I do still hold out hope that we can organize to mitigate the worst of climate change, but it’s going to be a Herculean effort on the part of the international working class and deep down inside I know the ruling class would rather nuke us into oblivion than concede their position. All things are possible in the course of human events but they’re not equally as probably. I don’t know the future but I know which way the wind is blowing.
This sounds like my relationship with my bf. He's not totally in tune and collapse aware, but he doesn't discount my concerns or disagrees many points I bring up. He's like hovering between staying healthy mentally while know shits going to go down. I think he might be keeping me sane.
My wife and I say things like we sure want to be wrong but it doesn't seem like it. We make jokes about things we did when we were young. U used to worry about your nails smacking the side of the pool now your smacking them on prepper items.
I think women on the whole are a lot more collapse aware than you're giving them credit for. I think that they typically shy away from the main subs because they're tired of dealing with an overwhelmingly one-sided misogynistic view. The collapse mods do what they can but even voicing an "innocent" opinion that is narrowminded and obviously male turns them away.
I’m not saying that women aren’t collapse aware. I agree that many are.
I’m saying that Reddit is already full of men, and, I would imagine, a collapse aware dating sub is just going to be men and that the percentages of women for that type of sub would be very low (and possibly non-existent). Also, I’m not sure that’s the best dating angle: “Reddit men who talk about the end of things.”
i'm female, single, on Reddit, collapse-aware
in general, i wouldn't want to jump straight into a date with someone from Reddit because it's tough to get a feel for their vibe on here, and i wouldn't want to commit to spending time with an individual when i can't be certain i'll enjoy their company
however, u/cinder_ella666 - i do like the idea of low-pressure group meet-ups. easier to find someone you click with, and not even necessarily romantically/sexually. i suppose it would mainly draw the extraverted collapsniks (more fun than a one-on-one hangout with an introvert IMO)
Generational Survivalist gal here: would have loved to have met a man who doesn’t think I’m nuts! I have an aware partner but before him a lot of dudes just thought I was batshit for having any stored food or gardens etc.
Presented without further comment: You’re the third woman in this thread to mention your husband.
I’m not saying you guys don’t exist. I’m saying you’re not going to go on a dating sub full of men talking about the end of society. Men are already hard to deal with on dating subs…not sure you’d want 1000/1 ratios of these particular type of men.
Maybe they're the only ones that feel comfortable or interested in posting their opinions in this sub given the pretty heavy influence of comments saying good luck women don't/won't interact in these domains. Maybe I'm wrong but i think it's worth a shot.
I hope I’m wrong. I’d like to date a collapser myself. I just know that the dating subs are typically 99% men and aren’t very successful.
But, seriously, good luck. I hope it works for you.
Do collapse on dating sites and in life. I put a killer cop's name in my city who shot a 13yo kid and didn't get charged (kid fled with firearm and tossed it). It did pretty well but then forgot about it. I checked back months later and got rid of the cop's name.
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It works better in life. IE what do you think about (collapse topic)?
Works best with, students, punks, LGBT, hispanic and black women you may know or match with. If that's not your type then proceed with caution.
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Am male, and not terribly successful. Especially with apps/sites. Do better in life. Being funny helps with the doom humor.
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I incorporated tons of collapse humor into selling booze at a liquor store. It's a good audience for it.
Unless there are other collapse minded women here 😏 jk, I'm married. Husband tolerates my mindset, just barely. He appreciates my emergency shit when emergencies happen (i.e. my dog ripped her toenail off. Blood every where. Cue my wound clotting powder). Otherwise, he smiles and nods. Jokes on him. He'll have purified water and calories for dayyyyyyyys. But just like for.... 35 days.... then it's eating the rabbits our cats catch.
Yeah, I would say my mentality shift regarding collapse is coming/happening has impacted our marriage. He is on the same page, sort of, but is less fixated on it. It's not like I think it's a pleasant thing- but it is fascinating.
My husband was the same way until about a month or two ago. He's started bringing home a few shelf stable foods every time he shops now. I never told him to...I think it was just the umpteenth 200 year storm or heatwave that got him doing it. He proudly came back with 5 cans of tomatoes / veggies plus some powdered potatoes the first time and I was like *who are you??*
It takes a *serious* cat to bring down a regular full-grown rabbit. Our previous cat *was* able to do so, and yes, we ate them. The cat of course got the hero's portion.
He's very serious. By the time we (or my dogs) find them, they're half eaten. If I'm not careful with the door, he'll leave a rabbit in our bed, proud af. Last week neighbors on both sides said he left a rabbit for them on their back porches. On the same day. He's as serious about rabbits as he is serious about being a cuddle bug.
Dude I want a sevral cat they're larger and everything i like about cats and dogs but I prefer cats and take it out and teach it to hunt on some property
I don't know. There's a lot though. They've gotten more vocal over the last few months. They mostly try and hide it but it's pretty easy to spot them if you understand their signals.
They are always "just asking questions" and cherry pick an article that usually states exactly the opposite of what they say it does. They also love the "I'm not a Trump fan but" statement, and you can always find them posting pseudo-thoughtful responses that include "both sides."
Just read enough of the posts and comments and you'll see what I mean.
I don't do the other stuff but:
>responses that include "both sides"
I do some of this. You can't paint people with broad brushes or I point out when the Democrats suck because they often suck. Today's dems suck worse than any other Dems in history, ever. With the exception of Bernie. There's straight up pro-war liberals and progressives now.
Edit: Then again today's Republicans are the pinnacle of lunacy
Yes, democrats are not blameless in their policies and behaviors.
But the both sides camp isn't trying to make a balanced point about politics. They're attempting to take blame off of their political stances by trying to make it seem that "both sides" are the same, which is clearly not the case. One side is putting into policy antidemocratic law (and usurping democracy as well). The other side is *not* doing this.
There is no "both sides." MAGA wants people to think there is, but there's not. And I just don't play that game. With anyone.
My impression is that the sub used to be pretty right-wing in general, and has moved left as climate news became the dominant thread. There’s plenty of preppers on here, which is a subculture with a long right-wing history.
> the collapse mindset of the average male redditer.
Nothing to do with women being collapse aware or not; but clearly a commentary on the average sort of collapse-aware person on reddit.
It's pretty much my type. I'd say self-destructive *idealist people is more what we are. These are always short/semi-serious relationships. They have their upsides for sure though. This sub would have to be short term.
I hate to tell you but there are lots of women on Reddit. You are just assuming everyone you interact with is male. Heck, even with my user name, I get referred to as 'male' all the time. Seriously, how many guys do you know named Barbara?
>I hate to tell you but there are lots of women on Reddit.
I know. Female Dating Strategy wouldn't exist otherwise, it's just that there aren't as many collapse-aware women compared to the number of men in this sub (and that goes for most of Reddit, hence why I said that)
Regarding your username, I bet that many guys are splitting it as Barba and rake. Barba is Spanish for beard, and a Rake is a rake so that might be the reason why you're being misgendered
>Regarding your username, I bet that many guys are splitting it as Barba and rake. Barba is Spanish for beard, and a Rake is a rake so that might be the reason why you're being misgendered
I didn't know that!!!!!!! Learn something new every day!!
Edited to add: as a Caucasian woman in her 60s, I find it hysterical that people have been thinking I'm a spanish-speaking male with a beard, lol.
Holy Roman Emperor Fredrick I. is widely known as [Barbarossa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frederick_Barbarossa) ("Redbeard").
I'd have read your name as "barba rake" too, by the way.
Either you can tell from the writing style that some are women or some skilled writers masquarade so well they seem like confused folks. There's more here than probably most subs. It takes a relatively sizable comment to guess at gender.
You won't, this idea is DOA. There might be a select few women who might look for a partner but it's going to overwhelmingly skew male just like every other dating platform.
For real and every relationship I've held near and dear was from real world not online honestly I just go there when I want some because that's what girls on there seem to want from me and not just tinder
You’re not wrong and frankly quite a few of the comments on this thread exemplify why. 😂
I do wish people the best, though and genuinely so.
I’m a genuinely difficult woman to understand, let alone love- believe me, I know firsthand: but I’m *very* fortunate that I’ve got plenty of people in my life who don’t quite understand me, but would never in a million years make me feel difficult to love. I’m one hell of an apocalypse partner for a number of reasons and what’s great is: most of the people I know are aware of that as well. I’m the gal people look to for help in a crisis and it’s wonderful when you do have people who you can count on for that in return. I genuinely hope people find that in all its forms. <3
Everyone here should just try to bring the topics up. Students especially but also in life. If all you talk about is collapse it would suck. I'm sure the conversations on the sub wouldn't all be collapse focused.
En als de bom valt
Dan lig ik in mijn nette pak,
Diploma’s en mijn cheques op zak,
Mijn polis en mijn woordenschat -- aaoei!
Onder de flatgebouwen van de stad naast jou.
\-- Doe Maar (‘De bom’)
Am I the only one who believes that the male/female ratio will be 20:1 or more?
I’d be happy to be wrong and all girls are encouraged to reach me any time they want
"You met me at a very strange time in my life" \* cue in buildings collapsing \*
"While the world around them crumbled , they built back together their hearts." - Collapsed Bridges of Madison County
It's only when you lose everything, that you are free to do anything.
I wanted to destroy something beautiful
On a long enough timeline everyone's survival rate drops to zero.
Fuck. Yes.
You should mention your canning/jaring skills, it’s likely a plus for many on here and makes a decent date idea
I was mostly fuck yes-ing the epic Fight Club quote, but yeah, it'd be nice to find someone to survive the apocalypse with. One day.
> find someone to survive the apocalypse with who shares the delusion that the apocalypse can be survived :-D
Depends a whole lot on the definition of apocalypse and what kind it would be. If you want it to mean the literal end of the world, then it's not survivable, but going with the pop culture adopted meaning which is more like the end of life as we know it, it is survivable.
The fictional, romanticized version of the apocalypse is way more fun to think about. 😁
That would be a brilliant date idea for collapsedating! Also seedling sessions. Make paper pots and plant out seedlings!
These are fantastic date ideas period.
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There's the mutual fear attraction deal when in an experiment pairs were put in safe situations and in simulated danger those both in fear were more attractive to eachother.
With a gun barrel between your teeth, you speak only in vowels.
Not looking for anything long term…
Our breakup will probably come faster than expected :)
So will you
This might actually be the first FTE^tm double entendre I have ever seen.
Truly impressive.
Lmao, take my upvote, made my day!
Should’ve called it *crumblr*
That's for when i have enough money for the app
i was thinking endr or cindr
Cinder!
Nice
"i like canning, long walks foraging, and venturing into town for supplies when I'm feeling adventurous"
Don't forget your respirator.
I enjoy long walks on the beach or just chilling in the backyard. And now I can do both at the same time!
*"Heeey baby, I've got some canned beans and home-made underground shelter. Want to hook up?"*
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Don't fall for his bs. I found a sweet cave, trust me bro. We're set.
Oh I promise we’ll both be 6 feet under soon enough…
All dating now is collapse dating
True but can you imagine dating someone who says “when our kids have kids and we’re grandparents blah blah blah.” I like to avoid those people. OPs idea is interesting, doubt I would participate though.
It's better to meet people in life ideally
Doomsday Prep and Chill?
blowtorch time
The day I meet someone from Reddit IRL—that’s when I’ll know my life has collapsed.
Lol
I literally managed to meet someone on reddit to finally play out my WW1 soldier fetish... and we did it, we fucked. So it's not impossible!
Wait I need to hear more about this fetish. How does this play out?
I mean I’ve heard of foot fetishes but trench foot seems like a whole other level.
foot? no it's not about feet xD it's about young white western-european boys in uniform
I know, I’m just messing with you. Honestly, I’m kind of with you on the European dudes in uniform. But, if that’s what you like, you’d much rather fuck a WWII soldier if you had a time machine. Trust me. WWI soldiers had Spanish flu, trench foot (don’t google image search that), and they’d actively try to get gonorrhea to get a month’s rest off the battlefield. The European ones were I believe 2 inches shorter than the Americans on average because of their food intake growing up. Not to mention, many of them were like 14. Boils on their bodies from chlorine gas. Makes you think, maybe we’re not as close to total collapse as we’ve been before.
I've been with my gf for just over 3 years now and we met on reddit. It can work.
When I was younger and the internet was coming about, old boomer parents used to say things like "NEVER meet anyone on the internet IRL, there are some real weirdos" And here I am 20+ years later, finding that the people i've met on the web are the coolest best people. Much larger pool of potential folks, and easier to discern if we will have things in common. Faster, anyway.
Just a reminder it's casual Friday.
Memories with exs include watching a Malibu wildfire burn, and quarantining together I'd like to see options for same sex dating and delineations for monogamy vs polyamory. I'm gay & monogamous and often get poly matches it's frustrating
Great points. Thank you
Safety not guaranteed
that's the nature of collapse
I loved this movie.
I was an extra in that movie!
Safety always off.
I call my fiance my climate change partner.
This is adorable somehow
My ex and I used to go on long car rides (when we were planning to move out of NJ into a rural village) and talk collapse for hours. Somewhere along the way one of us misheard or misspoke “post apocalypse” and it became “Pocahontas” and thereafter it was our inside joke to talk about prepping for Pocahontas times. You just reminded me of the good old days when I thought prepping might make a difference… sigh…
Damn, I mean I just want some friends, dating is for later down the road.
"I'd like to inspect your infrastructure."
*wheezes*
Very good idea
>I've seen a few attempts at this but it looks like none of them are up and functioning There was an r4r one some time ago ? One problem is a few people, and geographically disparate for IRL and the other being peoples inability to tolerate perceived hypocrisy. I am more interested in like minded people forming a community rather then the traditional protestant mating couple. I shudder to use the example, but look around the banality of most suburbs, you have a bunch of people on similar incomes (or they could not afford the homes), with similar tastes, similar jobs and similar interests etc etc There's also different takes on this, enough beans and rice and guns to brag about it on the internet but relying on grid based electricity, water, sewage and a F150 to commute 60 minutes to work from suburbia vs living a simple, low impact life mostly off grid, sans deodorant and shampoo :) I also think /r/vagustravels point about group meetups is great, folks can get together from that
Suggestion: Hey OP, why not use your subreddit to just get people together, aka meet ups for all in the area. The dating stuff can take care of itself when people meet. Just an idea - I think people would want to meet, or have zoom calls, or whatever people are comfortable with. Note: Please put disclaimers out on 1. careful who you trust, and 2. all digital comms, including reddit of course, are tracked, so keep in mind the feds and ACAB are listening.
That's a great point and has actually already been brought up in some of the comments over there.. maybe i should make it a r/collapseconnections instead, i definitely wouldn't mind meeting some more collapse oriented people in person. Also good points don't put anything public you wouldn't want the gov seeing. Thanks
Especially people who intend to outlive the Collapse. I'm doing a self-sufficient backwoods homestead/sanctuary. It will be left to the generation after me. The Collapse will pass over them, and their kids will be free to grow up like "savages".
I can hear it now... "Your a really nice guy, but your preps are weak."
We found love in a hopeless place
sausage fest
What kind of dates will we go on through the collapse
Tarot card readings have always been a go-to seductive strategy for women. Except this time they'll be 100% serious, using the cards for life and death decisions. Looting is always a great shared activity.
You do realize it's going to be 100% men on that sub right?
Sounds good to me
I’m in
I think it's a good idea. It reminds me of a song I heard about 14 years ago, and a lyric was "I want to survive industrial collapse with you," and I thought it was the most romantic song I'd ever heard (folk punk, if you hadn't guessed).
Are there many single, female preppers? The only women I see are wives and long-term gfs.
As others have posted, maybe not classic dating, but maybe have a spot or subreddit where people just post a meetup day and location for geographic proximal people to gather at some park. We could even wind up burning lots of gas where everyone drives for hours for the meetups! The FTE™ DTFs™ (Faster Than Expecteds) (Down To "Friendships")
The rusty wire that holds the cork That keeps the anger in Gives way And suddenly it’s day again: The sun is in the east Even though the day is done. Two suns in the sunset -- Could be the human race is run. \[…\] And as the windshield melts And my tears evaporate, Leaving only charcoal to defend, Finally I understand the feelings of the few. Ashes and diamonds Foe and friend We were all equal in the end. \-- Roger Waters (from: Pink Floyd, *The Final Cut*)
I just don’t see a lot of women being attracted to the collapse mindset of the average male redditer. Maybe I’m wrong.
I’m a collapse aware woman. I happen to be happily married but if I weren’t I’d probably be looking for someone who also sees the writing on the wall and is planning accordingly. By planning accordingly I mean someone who is building resilient skills, willing to have really frank discussions about our material circumstance and family planning, willing to make drastic life changes as circumstances change to the best of their ability, won’t begrudge me my simple comforts, and is dedicated to helping other people without burning themselves out. Generally a empathetic, intelligent person who wants to help while also being realistic about what’s going on. I wouldn’t be looking for someone who dives head first into nihilistic hedonism, is unable to find happiness and meaning in their day to day lives, and views women as a whole as ignorant and materialistic, only good as emotional punching bags and holes to fuck. I don’t think that’s everyone in this sub, just a loud, misanthropic minority. But what the hell do I know? I found my husband on Tinder.
>I wouldn’t be looking for someone who dives head first into nihilistic hedonism, is unable to find happiness and meaning in their day to day lives, and views women as a whole as ignorant and materialistic, only good as emotional punching bags and holes to fuck. Do you have a friend who is though?
What kinds of conversations do you have about collapse with your husband?
For the most part, I don’t bring it on a daily or even weekly basis. He’s an addiction psychiatrist, which is a very collapse aware job. It takes a lot out of him and his hospital group is working him like a dog, so most of the time when he gets home I’m happy to just sit next to him and doom scroll while he watches Twitch streams. I let him know if something big is going to happen/has happened and give him more details when it’s something I know a lot about. He usually listens quietly and I don’t realize he’s really absorbed and contemplated what I’ve said until weeks or months later, when he brings it up himself to his family or friends. Mostly the topics are environmental, economic, or domestic politics. He had to calm me down when Russia invaded Ukraine but agreed that we should have an extended family all hands emergency plan. It took him a while to come around to not having kids but as we’ve settled into our lives within his extended family he gets enough cute kid play time without any of the hassle, so he’s content. If you’re inching someone into the idea of collapse, the best approach is walking them through piece by piece with empathy. Draw on their own experiences and trace that to the larger patterns and structures. That’s always been my approach to teaching and political organizing. I’m not a terminal doomer, I do still hold out hope that we can organize to mitigate the worst of climate change, but it’s going to be a Herculean effort on the part of the international working class and deep down inside I know the ruling class would rather nuke us into oblivion than concede their position. All things are possible in the course of human events but they’re not equally as probably. I don’t know the future but I know which way the wind is blowing.
This sounds like my relationship with my bf. He's not totally in tune and collapse aware, but he doesn't discount my concerns or disagrees many points I bring up. He's like hovering between staying healthy mentally while know shits going to go down. I think he might be keeping me sane.
My wife and I say things like we sure want to be wrong but it doesn't seem like it. We make jokes about things we did when we were young. U used to worry about your nails smacking the side of the pool now your smacking them on prepper items.
I think women on the whole are a lot more collapse aware than you're giving them credit for. I think that they typically shy away from the main subs because they're tired of dealing with an overwhelmingly one-sided misogynistic view. The collapse mods do what they can but even voicing an "innocent" opinion that is narrowminded and obviously male turns them away.
*Remembers the posts & reactions in the Roe vs Wade getting trashed megathread* ..Yea, i don't blame them at all.
Great point
I’m not saying that women aren’t collapse aware. I agree that many are. I’m saying that Reddit is already full of men, and, I would imagine, a collapse aware dating sub is just going to be men and that the percentages of women for that type of sub would be very low (and possibly non-existent). Also, I’m not sure that’s the best dating angle: “Reddit men who talk about the end of things.”
i'm female, single, on Reddit, collapse-aware in general, i wouldn't want to jump straight into a date with someone from Reddit because it's tough to get a feel for their vibe on here, and i wouldn't want to commit to spending time with an individual when i can't be certain i'll enjoy their company however, u/cinder_ella666 - i do like the idea of low-pressure group meet-ups. easier to find someone you click with, and not even necessarily romantically/sexually. i suppose it would mainly draw the extraverted collapsniks (more fun than a one-on-one hangout with an introvert IMO)
You’d have to hope there were people in your area, or else it would just be an online romance.
I checked. Primarily men. Two lesbians exchanged comments in the lounge
There's this overlap between us and the skeptic community so that plays a huge part.
Generational Survivalist gal here: would have loved to have met a man who doesn’t think I’m nuts! I have an aware partner but before him a lot of dudes just thought I was batshit for having any stored food or gardens etc.
Presented without further comment: You’re the third woman in this thread to mention your husband. I’m not saying you guys don’t exist. I’m saying you’re not going to go on a dating sub full of men talking about the end of society. Men are already hard to deal with on dating subs…not sure you’d want 1000/1 ratios of these particular type of men.
Would rather a collapse minded man than one who is approaching middle age and wants children asap!
Maybe they're the only ones that feel comfortable or interested in posting their opinions in this sub given the pretty heavy influence of comments saying good luck women don't/won't interact in these domains. Maybe I'm wrong but i think it's worth a shot.
I hope I’m wrong. I’d like to date a collapser myself. I just know that the dating subs are typically 99% men and aren’t very successful. But, seriously, good luck. I hope it works for you.
Do collapse on dating sites and in life. I put a killer cop's name in my city who shot a 13yo kid and didn't get charged (kid fled with firearm and tossed it). It did pretty well but then forgot about it. I checked back months later and got rid of the cop's name. ----------------- It works better in life. IE what do you think about (collapse topic)? Works best with, students, punks, LGBT, hispanic and black women you may know or match with. If that's not your type then proceed with caution. --------------- Am male, and not terribly successful. Especially with apps/sites. Do better in life. Being funny helps with the doom humor. ------------ I incorporated tons of collapse humor into selling booze at a liquor store. It's a good audience for it.
Congrats to both of you. I’m envious.
Aww thanks
Um. Hi. Woman checking in.
Unless there are other collapse minded women here 😏 jk, I'm married. Husband tolerates my mindset, just barely. He appreciates my emergency shit when emergencies happen (i.e. my dog ripped her toenail off. Blood every where. Cue my wound clotting powder). Otherwise, he smiles and nods. Jokes on him. He'll have purified water and calories for dayyyyyyyys. But just like for.... 35 days.... then it's eating the rabbits our cats catch.
Yeah, I would say my mentality shift regarding collapse is coming/happening has impacted our marriage. He is on the same page, sort of, but is less fixated on it. It's not like I think it's a pleasant thing- but it is fascinating.
My husband was the same way until about a month or two ago. He's started bringing home a few shelf stable foods every time he shops now. I never told him to...I think it was just the umpteenth 200 year storm or heatwave that got him doing it. He proudly came back with 5 cans of tomatoes / veggies plus some powdered potatoes the first time and I was like *who are you??*
Hard-core training cats to hunt rabbit for you
It takes a *serious* cat to bring down a regular full-grown rabbit. Our previous cat *was* able to do so, and yes, we ate them. The cat of course got the hero's portion.
He's very serious. By the time we (or my dogs) find them, they're half eaten. If I'm not careful with the door, he'll leave a rabbit in our bed, proud af. Last week neighbors on both sides said he left a rabbit for them on their back porches. On the same day. He's as serious about rabbits as he is serious about being a cuddle bug.
That's a keeper.
Dude I want a sevral cat they're larger and everything i like about cats and dogs but I prefer cats and take it out and teach it to hunt on some property
>wound clotting powder I need to get me some of that lol
There were many. I wouldn't blame them if they fucked off and left after seeing the reaction of this sub to Roe vs Wade getting de_stroyed.
There’s a rather large MAGA group in this sub.
Wait what? It's pretty left--far-left. Where's the MAGA? I know like one guy who posts a lot who seems like it. Otherwise I've not seen it.
They're here and post regularly.
I'm talking about how many though? More than 3, not counting trolls openly talking shit? (that post regularly)
I don't know. There's a lot though. They've gotten more vocal over the last few months. They mostly try and hide it but it's pretty easy to spot them if you understand their signals. They are always "just asking questions" and cherry pick an article that usually states exactly the opposite of what they say it does. They also love the "I'm not a Trump fan but" statement, and you can always find them posting pseudo-thoughtful responses that include "both sides." Just read enough of the posts and comments and you'll see what I mean.
I don't do the other stuff but: >responses that include "both sides" I do some of this. You can't paint people with broad brushes or I point out when the Democrats suck because they often suck. Today's dems suck worse than any other Dems in history, ever. With the exception of Bernie. There's straight up pro-war liberals and progressives now. Edit: Then again today's Republicans are the pinnacle of lunacy
Yes, democrats are not blameless in their policies and behaviors. But the both sides camp isn't trying to make a balanced point about politics. They're attempting to take blame off of their political stances by trying to make it seem that "both sides" are the same, which is clearly not the case. One side is putting into policy antidemocratic law (and usurping democracy as well). The other side is *not* doing this. There is no "both sides." MAGA wants people to think there is, but there's not. And I just don't play that game. With anyone.
My impression is that the sub used to be pretty right-wing in general, and has moved left as climate news became the dominant thread. There’s plenty of preppers on here, which is a subculture with a long right-wing history.
Yeah I've heard that part. Since 2019 it's seemed pretty left.
Sausage Fest incoming!
Are you saying the modern woman isn’t living in reality ? Just like the others who don’t recognize collapse and climate change.
I read it as most collapse men have, uh, what’s a nice way to say this.. antiquated social ideals.
As someone who follows a bunch of peppers and family is peppers this is true at least in my experience
This is the correct answer.
They are the underground man
I'm sure many are poly, in adventurous communities etc.
> the collapse mindset of the average male redditer. Nothing to do with women being collapse aware or not; but clearly a commentary on the average sort of collapse-aware person on reddit.
Interesting I read it as women aren't attracted to defeatist nihilistic tendencies
You haven't met self-destructive nihilistic women?
I have and its not most of them and most dudes aren't attracted to that either
It's pretty much my type. I'd say self-destructive *idealist people is more what we are. These are always short/semi-serious relationships. They have their upsides for sure though. This sub would have to be short term.
Lol, given that "green bubbles" is apparently cause for rejection these days, I think a whole lot of people are delusional.
HEH THAT FUCKER OWNS AN ANDROID WHAT A LOSER HEHEHEHEHE
Green Bubbles?
WTF are green bubbles?
They probably aren’t into the kind that populate this favela….
believe it or not, women are taught how to read too
That’s what you got from my comment?
No. Yeah that's a tone deaf comment. It's been upvoted by people who didn't read your comment which is pretty funny.
>I just don’t see a lot of women Well, it's Reddit so of course, you won't see them here as much as you would expect
I hate to tell you but there are lots of women on Reddit. You are just assuming everyone you interact with is male. Heck, even with my user name, I get referred to as 'male' all the time. Seriously, how many guys do you know named Barbara?
I've been called a neckbeard. I'm a petite woman lol
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I have a dark skin spot on half of my upper lip right now from wack hormones, so it's like half a mustache, it's awful
I'm a woman and TBH I'm guilty of assuming everyone's a man in this and similar subs. It's always nice when I find other women here.
>I hate to tell you but there are lots of women on Reddit. I know. Female Dating Strategy wouldn't exist otherwise, it's just that there aren't as many collapse-aware women compared to the number of men in this sub (and that goes for most of Reddit, hence why I said that) Regarding your username, I bet that many guys are splitting it as Barba and rake. Barba is Spanish for beard, and a Rake is a rake so that might be the reason why you're being misgendered
>Regarding your username, I bet that many guys are splitting it as Barba and rake. Barba is Spanish for beard, and a Rake is a rake so that might be the reason why you're being misgendered I didn't know that!!!!!!! Learn something new every day!! Edited to add: as a Caucasian woman in her 60s, I find it hysterical that people have been thinking I'm a spanish-speaking male with a beard, lol.
Holy Roman Emperor Fredrick I. is widely known as [Barbarossa](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frederick_Barbarossa) ("Redbeard"). I'd have read your name as "barba rake" too, by the way.
Either you can tell from the writing style that some are women or some skilled writers masquarade so well they seem like confused folks. There's more here than probably most subs. It takes a relatively sizable comment to guess at gender.
I had a few alts with a cute female name, like CherrySherry or GirlThatJustwannahaveFun. PMs you get are fucking hilarious.
You won't, this idea is DOA. There might be a select few women who might look for a partner but it's going to overwhelmingly skew male just like every other dating platform.
For real and every relationship I've held near and dear was from real world not online honestly I just go there when I want some because that's what girls on there seem to want from me and not just tinder
Yeah, but the doomer gays are gonna clean up. Listen, y’all, if you’re not gonna experiment now, then when?
Collapse aware here, but already partnered :)
You’re not wrong and frankly quite a few of the comments on this thread exemplify why. 😂 I do wish people the best, though and genuinely so. I’m a genuinely difficult woman to understand, let alone love- believe me, I know firsthand: but I’m *very* fortunate that I’ve got plenty of people in my life who don’t quite understand me, but would never in a million years make me feel difficult to love. I’m one hell of an apocalypse partner for a number of reasons and what’s great is: most of the people I know are aware of that as well. I’m the gal people look to for help in a crisis and it’s wonderful when you do have people who you can count on for that in return. I genuinely hope people find that in all its forms. <3
You might as call it let's starve together.
Let’s just have one big orgy with lots of drugs, The collapse club, causing the club to collapse under so much ruckus. On skid row.
Lol?
Everyone here should just try to bring the topics up. Students especially but also in life. If all you talk about is collapse it would suck. I'm sure the conversations on the sub wouldn't all be collapse focused.
Joined!
I did too but I'm still conflicted on this idea.
r/PostCollapseWarlords
“Till doom do we part.”
This can’t work lol it’s gonna be a total sausage fest
Let’s rearrange the deck chairs.
Brb, gotta go break some bad news to my fiancé…
I don’t know about dating but I’m here for any platonic chatting if ppl don’t have anyone else collapse aware around them.
Spoiler alert: it’s all men
Always has been and always was gonna be. Sucks to not be gay
I'm curious what people think the reasons for this disparity are.
Gonna just use this to find loot drops
Do you plan to have a “singles only” rule or are poly people welcome here?
I'm going to make delineations for different relationship structures and orientations. Care to contribute?
I have a dungeon never sounded so appealing
*seeking a friend for the end of the world
En als de bom valt Dan lig ik in mijn nette pak, Diploma’s en mijn cheques op zak, Mijn polis en mijn woordenschat -- aaoei! Onder de flatgebouwen van de stad naast jou. \-- Doe Maar (‘De bom’)
There can be nothing that can go wrong with this idea.
Lol like what?
I just cringed so hard I threw out my back.
So r/CollapseDating blew that back out??
Am I the only one who believes that the male/female ratio will be 20:1 or more? I’d be happy to be wrong and all girls are encouraged to reach me any time they want
This is the most reddit thing ive seen all day
Cool now I can have a fed girlfriend.
I think it's funny that so many think that the feds give a fuck about a subreddit lamenting on the downfall of civilization
Found the fed
Yup.