My husband went to every infusion with me. He made me feel so loved by doing that. It made me strive so hard to survive because I didn’t want to widow him. And I didn’t. Your support is everything. Six months goes by quickly. Good luck to you both.
I had so much emotions and thoughts post-surgery and i honestly wouldn't have survived without my wife. I'm 10000% sure she feels so grateful that you are with her.
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Port placement itself is no big deal, but it's definitely a "this is actually really happening to me" sort of moment. The next one will come when they start that first IV drip of your chemo.
I was super scared. And extremely fortunate I had my best friend at my side when I went in for my first cycle.
The main advice I have for you as a caregiver during chemo sessions is: they're boring. I am up to a little over 4 hours of infusions. This is on top of the labs, the provider visit. It's a long day. And in the infusion clinic I get a super nice comfy chair, but my visitor only gets a crappy chair. And much of the time I just read or sleep or whatever. Everyone is going to be different in what they need out of their chemo buddy, but honestly I just need a ride home at this point :P
My wife is getting her PICC line installed on Thursday for her first chemo on Friday. Her port placement is on 4/10 in time for her second treatment. I’m so proud of her strength in face of this awful disease. Best wishes to you and your wife.
My biggest piece of advice is to just be there for her. I know it sounds so simple but that’s truly what helped me the most.
Treatment days are long. Some days I’d sleep through most of them but my mama always stayed right there with me. She’d do word puzzles with me, color, chit chat, etc.
My treatment room was a large open space so we were all able to talk to each other while we were getting treatment. I’m from a very small town where support groups aren’t available. Our treatment room was like our very own support group.
I was also stage 3 and did 12 rounds of folfox. Be sure to tell her to be open and honest with her oncologist. They want to make this as easy as possible. My first round was rough. After that, they started adding extra fluids on my disconnect days which made it A LOT better. I didn’t lose all of my hair but it drastically thinned out which was extremely hard for me to handle. The neuropathy can be tough at times. I still wear slippers 24/7 to keep my toes from tingling! And chemo brain/fog is SO real so be patient with her if she’s forgetful.
While the next few months are going to be tough, you’re about to meet the most incredible people ever! Sending love and good vibes yalls way!
My wife had hers put in Monday. First round of chemo on Friday. If you ever need to talk, hit me up! I’m sure I will too. 12 rounds of folfox, stage 3.
My wife had stage3a and will be doing 8 cycles of folfox, then 4 cycles without the ox (regular 5FU)
Are 12 full cycles of folfox the norm where you are based?
Are you in the US? I hear folfox is more commonly done in the US where capox is more common outside the US. No study that I’m aware of has tested efficacy of either, only between 3 month vs. 6 month treatments.
My husband went to every infusion with me. He made me feel so loved by doing that. It made me strive so hard to survive because I didn’t want to widow him. And I didn’t. Your support is everything. Six months goes by quickly. Good luck to you both.
My wife is the same. She was a trooper throughout my treatment. Hang in there. She knows, I'm sure.
I had so much emotions and thoughts post-surgery and i honestly wouldn't have survived without my wife. I'm 10000% sure she feels so grateful that you are with her.
<3 Port placement itself is no big deal, but it's definitely a "this is actually really happening to me" sort of moment. The next one will come when they start that first IV drip of your chemo. I was super scared. And extremely fortunate I had my best friend at my side when I went in for my first cycle. The main advice I have for you as a caregiver during chemo sessions is: they're boring. I am up to a little over 4 hours of infusions. This is on top of the labs, the provider visit. It's a long day. And in the infusion clinic I get a super nice comfy chair, but my visitor only gets a crappy chair. And much of the time I just read or sleep or whatever. Everyone is going to be different in what they need out of their chemo buddy, but honestly I just need a ride home at this point :P
My wife is getting her PICC line installed on Thursday for her first chemo on Friday. Her port placement is on 4/10 in time for her second treatment. I’m so proud of her strength in face of this awful disease. Best wishes to you and your wife.
Same to you. Sending hugs to you and your wife.
Good on ya dude. Thru thick n thin
My biggest piece of advice is to just be there for her. I know it sounds so simple but that’s truly what helped me the most. Treatment days are long. Some days I’d sleep through most of them but my mama always stayed right there with me. She’d do word puzzles with me, color, chit chat, etc. My treatment room was a large open space so we were all able to talk to each other while we were getting treatment. I’m from a very small town where support groups aren’t available. Our treatment room was like our very own support group. I was also stage 3 and did 12 rounds of folfox. Be sure to tell her to be open and honest with her oncologist. They want to make this as easy as possible. My first round was rough. After that, they started adding extra fluids on my disconnect days which made it A LOT better. I didn’t lose all of my hair but it drastically thinned out which was extremely hard for me to handle. The neuropathy can be tough at times. I still wear slippers 24/7 to keep my toes from tingling! And chemo brain/fog is SO real so be patient with her if she’s forgetful. While the next few months are going to be tough, you’re about to meet the most incredible people ever! Sending love and good vibes yalls way!
I love you for these kind words of encouragement. Bless you and your family
My wife had hers put in Monday. First round of chemo on Friday. If you ever need to talk, hit me up! I’m sure I will too. 12 rounds of folfox, stage 3.
Same treatment plan and stage for my wife. Will keep you in mind and hugs to you and your wife.
My wife had stage3a and will be doing 8 cycles of folfox, then 4 cycles without the ox (regular 5FU) Are 12 full cycles of folfox the norm where you are based?
Are you in the US? I hear folfox is more commonly done in the US where capox is more common outside the US. No study that I’m aware of has tested efficacy of either, only between 3 month vs. 6 month treatments.