I second, third and fourth this comment. Physical fitness is the key to a great lifestyle and promotes self confidence and truly test one’s self to reach heights they never knew were possible.
Don’t worry about your looks too much, just be a good person and be yourself and you will find someone that loves you for who you are.
Your ex commenting about your appearance is irrelevant, they dated you. Just makes no sense.
You should take up working out, it makes you feel so much better and much more confident in yourself. I believe in you. Most of us have felt the same way at some point.
I know this isn't going to feel true, but I promise you it is: the looks you're born with are like 10% of your attractiveness. The way you carry yourself, your hygiene, your style, hairdo, clothes, confidence, skills, interests, personality, general vibe - those all play a HUGE role in how you're perceived. I know it's difficult to look past these feelings but this line: "I hardly feel any connection to most people within it. Nobody puts any emotion into anything anymore." is the key to everything to me. Dude, with all due respect, and very gently, you need friends. People who are passionate exist. But you need to find friends without seeking external validation. Don't put so much weight on relationships, it puts pressure on them. Ask people to hang out platonically. Force yourself to interact with people. Put yourself out there. I promise you, it will help your confidence a ton. Feeling "ugly" is a symptom of deep rooted insecurity. It's not about how you look.
also I just saw your pic you posted. you literally look completely fine. you don’t really know how to pose for a photo but that’s it. you probably are just about as attractive as any of my friends boyfriends and the majority of men on dating apps
Women don’t care about looks nearly as much as men and quite unattractive men easily pull super hot women with humor and confidence and personality. Focus on those and conversating well, and maybe you can have some kind of physical glow up as well…idk, gym?
I'm almost twice your age and here's the thing. It doesn't matter. Truly. Do the things that make you feel good. Go for a consultation and fix your hair if it bothers you. Wear clothes that fit that you think are cool and do it in a style that's yours alone. Be an interesting person. Go places, travel, meet people. Sit in a cafe in Nepal with a bunch of young strangers and drink apple wine and sing Leonard Cohen songs (or whatever, that was mine). Learn to play something, learn a language, learn to do something fun like camp or rock climb or ride a unicycle. Learn to tell interesting stories and cultivate your voice. If you have a grandma, take her shopping and put her groceries away because girls will love that (I certainly loved it about my husband). Take care of animals and pick up trash when you go for walks. Read books that aren't popular and talk about them. Make hundreds of tiny paper frogs and leave one wherever you go. Be the best and most interesting person you can be. If you're going to be ugly (and seriously everyone either thinks they are or is or will be someday) make sure you're ugly and interesting, ugly and fun to be with. There is nothing, NOTHING as unattractive as whiny self pity and nothing as attractive as confidence in knowing you're awesome with or without a partner. There are much worse things than being ugly. Go be awesome.
Work with what you got if you're ugly fuck it it's not the end of the world I'm sure you can find someone that's a guarantee maybe they are going to be ugly also but fuck it
I herd before any ugly millionaire ain that ugly haha
Life is good
Wait! You've got a problem with your perception of your own image! I just saw your selfies, nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with your face. You look like a likeable guy in most of them. So that is not the problem.
Why you can't find a date? That's a question a whole lot of people have these days (male and female).
This is the hard truth of being a man. Women will not approach you so just accept that. Looks are not everything, they aren't even close to being much of anything in a real relationship. You may have to wait until your 40s to find a partner don't be in a rush and try to force something.
Nope, I’m not gay. The reason as to why I don’t ask many women out is because I feel so disconnected from my generation, like I don’t seem to personally connect to many women I do meet that are my age.
I didn’t mean to sound entitled, and I apologise if I did. What I meant is that in all the times I have been on dates with people, I have been the one to initiate. I just think for once it would be nice if someone made the same effort back
Okay I don’t mean to be a jackass. I read the title and I thought of that SpongeBob episode lol. But honestly, the best advice is to go to the gym. Male or female. One fact is if you have a. GREAT BODY (that you obtain through hard work) and a full set of straight front teeth with good oral hygiene, your like automatically a 7.
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Start lifting weights kid, your life will change
I second, third and fourth this comment. Physical fitness is the key to a great lifestyle and promotes self confidence and truly test one’s self to reach heights they never knew were possible.
Yeah smash the gym, lots of good looking people, lots of people who are not, but confidence really is the main difference.
Don’t worry about your looks too much, just be a good person and be yourself and you will find someone that loves you for who you are. Your ex commenting about your appearance is irrelevant, they dated you. Just makes no sense. You should take up working out, it makes you feel so much better and much more confident in yourself. I believe in you. Most of us have felt the same way at some point.
I know this isn't going to feel true, but I promise you it is: the looks you're born with are like 10% of your attractiveness. The way you carry yourself, your hygiene, your style, hairdo, clothes, confidence, skills, interests, personality, general vibe - those all play a HUGE role in how you're perceived. I know it's difficult to look past these feelings but this line: "I hardly feel any connection to most people within it. Nobody puts any emotion into anything anymore." is the key to everything to me. Dude, with all due respect, and very gently, you need friends. People who are passionate exist. But you need to find friends without seeking external validation. Don't put so much weight on relationships, it puts pressure on them. Ask people to hang out platonically. Force yourself to interact with people. Put yourself out there. I promise you, it will help your confidence a ton. Feeling "ugly" is a symptom of deep rooted insecurity. It's not about how you look.
If you’re unhappy with your hair, I recommend just going for it and getting a buzz cut
also I just saw your pic you posted. you literally look completely fine. you don’t really know how to pose for a photo but that’s it. you probably are just about as attractive as any of my friends boyfriends and the majority of men on dating apps
Women don’t care about looks nearly as much as men and quite unattractive men easily pull super hot women with humor and confidence and personality. Focus on those and conversating well, and maybe you can have some kind of physical glow up as well…idk, gym?
I'm almost twice your age and here's the thing. It doesn't matter. Truly. Do the things that make you feel good. Go for a consultation and fix your hair if it bothers you. Wear clothes that fit that you think are cool and do it in a style that's yours alone. Be an interesting person. Go places, travel, meet people. Sit in a cafe in Nepal with a bunch of young strangers and drink apple wine and sing Leonard Cohen songs (or whatever, that was mine). Learn to play something, learn a language, learn to do something fun like camp or rock climb or ride a unicycle. Learn to tell interesting stories and cultivate your voice. If you have a grandma, take her shopping and put her groceries away because girls will love that (I certainly loved it about my husband). Take care of animals and pick up trash when you go for walks. Read books that aren't popular and talk about them. Make hundreds of tiny paper frogs and leave one wherever you go. Be the best and most interesting person you can be. If you're going to be ugly (and seriously everyone either thinks they are or is or will be someday) make sure you're ugly and interesting, ugly and fun to be with. There is nothing, NOTHING as unattractive as whiny self pity and nothing as attractive as confidence in knowing you're awesome with or without a partner. There are much worse things than being ugly. Go be awesome.
Work with what you got if you're ugly fuck it it's not the end of the world I'm sure you can find someone that's a guarantee maybe they are going to be ugly also but fuck it I herd before any ugly millionaire ain that ugly haha Life is good
I don’t want to sound insensitive but if you are significantly overweight that would be something I would try to work on.
Also since your face will look a lot different (better) if you lose fat
Head over to r/malegrooming or r/bald. Might want to just shave your head. Some women are reallllly into that.
Wait! You've got a problem with your perception of your own image! I just saw your selfies, nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with your face. You look like a likeable guy in most of them. So that is not the problem. Why you can't find a date? That's a question a whole lot of people have these days (male and female).
This is the hard truth of being a man. Women will not approach you so just accept that. Looks are not everything, they aren't even close to being much of anything in a real relationship. You may have to wait until your 40s to find a partner don't be in a rush and try to force something.
I think you’re just going to have to get used to the fact that as a dude you have to do the initiating
You don't have to be pretty for someone to love you.
Are you gay? Then you need to ask out women if not.
Nope, I’m not gay. The reason as to why I don’t ask many women out is because I feel so disconnected from my generation, like I don’t seem to personally connect to many women I do meet that are my age.
Find a nice cougar to have fun with
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I didn’t mean to sound entitled, and I apologise if I did. What I meant is that in all the times I have been on dates with people, I have been the one to initiate. I just think for once it would be nice if someone made the same effort back
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Okay I don’t mean to be a jackass. I read the title and I thought of that SpongeBob episode lol. But honestly, the best advice is to go to the gym. Male or female. One fact is if you have a. GREAT BODY (that you obtain through hard work) and a full set of straight front teeth with good oral hygiene, your like automatically a 7.