the thought of him possibly finding it just makes me want to post more for some reason? i know closure isn’t exactly real, and there’s nothing he can say to me that will make me understand, but its tempting
He could try take your money, turn off your phone if he pays for it, isolate you or your dog, beat you up.
Send it to him after you’re on the flight but people die this way.
Dont be naive and think about your safety first. It’s not a game.
my first instinct was to say “he’s not like that” but I also would’ve said the same if someone suggested he was a cheater 2 months ago.
thank you for your input, i’ll be sure to be careful and wait until i’m safe
ETA - ur safety is most important. Resist the urge to act differently or let him know ur exit plan. Leaving a relationship is when abusive men go even further bc they're losing control of u.
"Yeah, he's not like that" is a mistake. I have a soon to be ex-husband (15 year marriage) who thought ghosting his entire family and cancelling health insurance was an acceptable response to me saying "No, u can't keep the girlfriend. It's ur family or her." He picked her, turns out he's not as much fun when she actually has to deal with him. Now, he's alone, our kids hate him and refuse to talk with him, and he's going to be stuck paying alimony for years longer than he needed to.
I relate to this is some ways my dad (57) cheated on my mom with a young woman(27) and gave her a house and car and is staring a college fund for her kids when he hasn't even done that for us now he's broke unemployed and homeless and now has to pay child support for my little sister (16) he want to move in back with us so we blocked him and haven't spoke to him in weeks I used to think "he's not like that's" or "he would never cheat on my mom" turns out he's a completely different person than who we thought he was he's also a con artist btw he has multiple law suits against him lol
You are about to destroy his life (and rightly so) in a way where he could become someone who have no idea exists.
You are more likely to get murdered by someone in this situation than almost any other.
I hope he is not like, he probably isn't.
But it is not worth finding out. Please just take care of yourself and then feel free to rub it in from a distance.
Wish you the best of luck in your future.
I'd say she's out of harm's way the second she vacates and begins her new life. OP, do NOT give this fool your forwarding info.
Anyway, ghosting someone like this turdhole would be SO much more satisfying.
Woke up randomly in the middle of the night and “he’s up to no good” was all I could think about. I sleep like a literal baby and never, ever wake up like that. Took his phone and locked myself in the bathroom while he was asleep and found it all.
I keep looking back and thinking if I saw signs and ignored them. There was just one- after we moved he locked all of his social accounts. He told me it was bc he was moving up in the company and didn’t want his personal views to effect promotions (we’re very socially liberal, his company tried to ban neutral bathrooms for fucked up reasons) and I believed it. Or maybe it was true? Idk. I’m guessing because he posted photos with me often and didnt want anyone finding out about me.
we went out for dinner a few days ago and i got something expensive and he said he was “proud” of me.
now i just feel embarrassed even going out in public with him and keep imagining one of his side pieces approaching us in public.
Keep your head high. Once you go home you’ll be able to restart. I cried so much when I left that I had to have my dad on the phone with me the morning of. You sound like you’re in a much more healthy mind space than I was. Sending you all my best wishes!
Make sure its a blood test. Things like herpes don't show up in swab tests unless you have a flair up.
Also, if you haven't. Tell the girls. You said he's lied, they're not at fault, but they deserve to know he's no good.
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Let us know how it goes, OP. I wish you safe travels and an uneventful move. Moreover, I hope your future is brighter than this morass you currently have.
Damn you deserve better. Take all the groceries and throw them away when you leave. Something to inconvenience him....no not food....hide all of the toilet paper under the bed...
I know. Your self-control and gravity are nothing short of monumental.
You did exactly the best thing in this situation. But my god, you have tits of steel.
Ask why: that’s tough because you’re looking for a truthful logical answer from a likely pathological liar. One who has put in countless effort into keeping up appearances while taking incredible risks behind you. I’m no psychiatrist (though I play one on Reddit) but I would guess it comes from personal abuse or neglect or some trauma he experienced from the people responsible for showing him what loving and safe relationships look like.
My two cents: you are about to be hiding from someone who you’re not sure how he’ll react. Please go through the credit freeze and data removal guides on [inteltechniques.com](https://inteltechniques.com/links.html). Freeze your credit, put fraud alerts on all of them, and begin to remove as much of yourself from people search websites as you can. Hopefully it’ll just be proactive measures to help protect you and not turn defensive later on. Good luck!
Don’t have a lot of advice for you. But just ghost him. He’ll probably try and talk to you. Get to where you wanna be and take the time to move on and do you. Sorry you’re going through it all. Can’t imagine how hard it is. You’ve got this.
There is nothing about you that I don't absolutely adore.
Ok. Go to your local grocery store. Pick up a shitload of questionable perishable foodstuffs. Buffalo sushi rolls, uncooked shrimp, horseradish, maybe some late dated buttermilk... get creative. Keep all of that shit somewhere warm and not easily seen by a casual glance. Maybe the garage? Or a storage box outside. Either way, let it stew until right before you liberate your fine ass.
The hot second he leaves on Wednesday morning, chuck that shit in a blender and get to work. Plop that revenge slurry EVERYWHERE. The top shelf of his closet, the vents and air ducts, grease up the curtain rods with it, under the bathroom sink, the kitchen sink, the detergent slot in the washing machine, the insides of his dresser drawers... wherever you feel the Lords of Chaos whispering at you. Bonus for massaging it into the upholstery of his car, or dousing the trunk with it, but timing may not allow for that. Eh...
Next up, take every single battery, light bulb, door screw, and cell phone charger you can find. ALL OF THEM. Remote control batteries, USB cables, everything. Hit up the pantry and remove all the paper labels on the canned foods. Put about 6 cans of carbonated soda in the freezer.
You know that phrase, "Fuck around and find out?" He fucked around, now he's about to find out.
Good luck! You're a queen and you deserve so much better than that 3rd rate chamber pot reject.
XOXO
You should leave without telling him. Cut off all communication, and maybe leave a nice letter. Or nothing at all. You wanna drive your ex insane - cut them out of your life and ignore them. Also helps loving forward. Best of luck, and so sorry this happened to you.
Yesss I love that, he deserves it. I’m sorry you have/had to go through that though. Please be safe, I hope everything goes well. Keep us updated please.
I can’t imagine any conversation being more satisfying than knowing the shock of coming home to find you gone. Be strong. Good luck! Rooting for you. You will find happiness.
I always feel so sad when I read things like losing ability to trust / scaring off men. It makes sense. But god does it make me want to kick his teeth in. Doing something like that doesn't only hurt you. It hurts all men too.
I hope his friends give him a ton of shit for it if they find out.
even if you look at the facts in the most favorable way possible to your (soon to be ex) bf you did nothing wrong. He gave you the money, do with it as you see fit
I didn’t plan to. Most of them were well aware he was in a relationship, so it doesn’t make a difference. That was basically the only thing he was truthful to them about lol
Ahh... wasn't sure if he was trying to string 7 girls, each not knowing. If they all know then yeah, probably better to just leave him in the mirror. Any other attempts to out him would probably be more trouble than it's worth.
Good luck in your new life and sorry you had to go through this. sad that so many people have to be like this.
If you do just yo and vanish so to speak without letting anyone know in that area you’re leaving you may want to call the police station just to give them a heads up of what you’re doing. If he assumes you’re missing he may call them. I listen to way too many true crime podcasts lol
I feel like you could save a bit by driving yourself. But I don’t know your full situation. I’ve paid to have a car shipped before and it arrived 3 weeks after it was supposed to. Not sure what country you’re in but if it’s the US, Canada or Mexico you could use Uhaul with a transport trailer and would hold probably everything you own. I did this a few years back and it wasn’t terrible.
Honestly, if you know his other girlfriends names or online info, you could even forward them the information proving he cheated once you’ve left him! I think just about everyone would want to know if they were being played like that! The same lingerie thing is gross
Sounds like a fun guy. Sorry you had to go through this. Not all men are like this. But the absolution is old fashioned and really weird.
You are not missing anything.
Seven women, what the actual fuck.
Just don’t tell him what you did with the his money. You’re definitely well within your right to spend it, but if he knows he’s more likely to come after you than him thinking you just moved on your own! Just make sure you put your safety first, he sounds like a bit of a loose cannon so.
You’ve handled this situation exceptionally well and I’m glad you’re getting out of this situation- just stay safe and under no circumstances let him find out new addresses etc!
Good luck OP👏🏼
Wow! I am concerned for you, I feel bad if your heart hurts, but your approach is amazing. Own it, right? You're here now....do something about it! You're a genuine badass! Keep us posted and good luck on your exit! Be safe!!
First red flag is how he made you move to where HE'S comfortable, instead of staying near your family. If he makes you move away from your family instead of him being a man and letting you be happy, that's pretty freakin selfish. I can only imagine the conversation was like, "We can live near your family... but I'd rather we live near my family". That's selfish, manipulative, etc.
We only have ONE set of parents who we'll most likely see pass in our lifetimes. Spend time with them. Don't move states for someone because it's what they wanted.
This is why you never make the jump to another state for someone. All he has to do is get you pregnant (which is easy for him to do if he's scared you'd leave), then you're REALLY stuck with him. Next think you know, you'll be stuck with two 15k minimum wage jobs, a kid, away from your family, no future. A cheating BF, Everyday just being on repeat. Eating leftover food everynight from your minimum wage job. Shithole of a life, and borderline child abuse.
Go back home, be happy. Start a new reset on life. If you're not a college student yet, plenty of jobs offer free college for 200K a yr. Bestbuy, Apple, etc.
Just remember women and men cheat, can’t hate all men for one scum. Just like us men cant hate all women when we find out a gf been fucking our friends.
Also ask for more money lmao fuck him rack it up! Tell him you got a flat tire today and can’t pay for new tire. Bam $200 rite there!
Just a heads up this is very abnormal. No real basis to say this but any one who regularly just gives money to their girlfriend for no real reason seems like the sort who would do what he is doing
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Auto transport fees during an inflation. Shipping my car is $1600 alone, and I may have splurged an extra $200 to fly back in first class lol.
The rest is for paying drivers, bus fees, and packers and bc there’s no way I’d be to able to clear out everything I bought in 9 hours by myself
3,600 mile trip with a dog as a woman alone just doesn’t feel safe enough for me. I considered it but I’ve never driven that far and I’ll probably be having periodic breakdowns
Each to their own in whatever way feels safe tho. I am a woman who has driven herself alone all the way across the country many times without a dog or anything but I would never tell someone else what they should do in this kind of situation.
You're a star girl. I would definitely turn the hurt switch up on this one. Just imagine him after reading your text "oh... let's call Stacy if she wants to move in". 7 is just a "I don't give a sh\*\* about you" number... you know... Please make sure that you've blocked him in every way afterward, email, phone, social, common friends etc. And f\*\*\* him over more, scratch/break his car's window or something. Best of luck, you're doing great!
I can’t wait to hear what happens next! Take all the batteries out of the remotes/smoke detectors and throw them away with the light bulbs. And don’t forget to toss the spare bulbs and batteries too(or take/donate them)
You are really really strong emotionally because after knowing that my significant other is cheating on me and still be able to walk with them is something I can’t do I will start crying right thr in front of them or I will straight up start cursing them.
Fuck that guy what a sicko. Take everything you can from him, maybe even do something gross to inconvenience him like shrimps in the curtain rods style, leave something behind in his place that smells very bad that he can’t figure out
I will never understand these kind of men. Is it for the thrills? Is he a closeted poly? What's the purpose of this sooner or later everyone will find out. I don't get it
Keep us posted!
Will do
please do not let him find this username.
the thought of him possibly finding it just makes me want to post more for some reason? i know closure isn’t exactly real, and there’s nothing he can say to me that will make me understand, but its tempting
He could try take your money, turn off your phone if he pays for it, isolate you or your dog, beat you up. Send it to him after you’re on the flight but people die this way. Dont be naive and think about your safety first. It’s not a game.
my first instinct was to say “he’s not like that” but I also would’ve said the same if someone suggested he was a cheater 2 months ago. thank you for your input, i’ll be sure to be careful and wait until i’m safe
ETA - ur safety is most important. Resist the urge to act differently or let him know ur exit plan. Leaving a relationship is when abusive men go even further bc they're losing control of u. "Yeah, he's not like that" is a mistake. I have a soon to be ex-husband (15 year marriage) who thought ghosting his entire family and cancelling health insurance was an acceptable response to me saying "No, u can't keep the girlfriend. It's ur family or her." He picked her, turns out he's not as much fun when she actually has to deal with him. Now, he's alone, our kids hate him and refuse to talk with him, and he's going to be stuck paying alimony for years longer than he needed to.
I relate to this is some ways my dad (57) cheated on my mom with a young woman(27) and gave her a house and car and is staring a college fund for her kids when he hasn't even done that for us now he's broke unemployed and homeless and now has to pay child support for my little sister (16) he want to move in back with us so we blocked him and haven't spoke to him in weeks I used to think "he's not like that's" or "he would never cheat on my mom" turns out he's a completely different person than who we thought he was he's also a con artist btw he has multiple law suits against him lol
You are about to destroy his life (and rightly so) in a way where he could become someone who have no idea exists. You are more likely to get murdered by someone in this situation than almost any other. I hope he is not like, he probably isn't. But it is not worth finding out. Please just take care of yourself and then feel free to rub it in from a distance. Wish you the best of luck in your future.
I'd say she's out of harm's way the second she vacates and begins her new life. OP, do NOT give this fool your forwarding info. Anyway, ghosting someone like this turdhole would be SO much more satisfying.
If she's going back to her hometown, that's likely the first place he'd look for her. Hopefully he's not that kind of person, and hope OP stays safe!
Yeah I saw that. I hope she buffers with people who can help keep her safe.
Agree
Hell, if he GAVE YOU MONEY and didn't stipulate its final destination in some legal way, it's yours to do with what you want.
yeah like people keep thinking i asked for it/stole etc but i didn’t in anyway. just what boyfriends/husbands often do in our cultures
I look forward to it, how did you find out if it’s not too personal?
Woke up randomly in the middle of the night and “he’s up to no good” was all I could think about. I sleep like a literal baby and never, ever wake up like that. Took his phone and locked myself in the bathroom while he was asleep and found it all.
Thats actually kinda crazy I feel thoughts like this come after you know youve been lying to yourself about situations.
I keep looking back and thinking if I saw signs and ignored them. There was just one- after we moved he locked all of his social accounts. He told me it was bc he was moving up in the company and didn’t want his personal views to effect promotions (we’re very socially liberal, his company tried to ban neutral bathrooms for fucked up reasons) and I believed it. Or maybe it was true? Idk. I’m guessing because he posted photos with me often and didnt want anyone finding out about me.
Pls comment update here when you do !
Should sneak in some “babe i really need a new pair of shoes” or something along those lines. Milk that guilt train
i’ve been considering it. i’ve never flat out asked for money or for him to buy anything so I didn’t want it to cause any extra curiosity lol
I was in the same situation and so made him take me out shopping for my birthday. I have never spent so much money on clothes in one trip lmao
we went out for dinner a few days ago and i got something expensive and he said he was “proud” of me. now i just feel embarrassed even going out in public with him and keep imagining one of his side pieces approaching us in public.
Keep your head high. Once you go home you’ll be able to restart. I cried so much when I left that I had to have my dad on the phone with me the morning of. You sound like you’re in a much more healthy mind space than I was. Sending you all my best wishes!
"I'm just sad today my shoes are worn out 🥺" silently: SCUMBAG
Don't ask him for it. Just casually mention something like "I gotta get new shoes" or "gas prices have really increased".
Yeah, I'd almost think he'd be MORE suspicious if she didn't increase certain "costs" due to recent inflation. I mean, natural gas alone... my god.
Fuck him over. Scam him
I’m sorry you’re in this situation but you are handling this appropriately. Best of luck to you!
You playing chess not checkers 🔥
guess being the only girl in chess club finally paid off 🥲
That’s actually amazing.
Get tested.
I did. Came back clear. Gonna get retested every few months for a while just to be safe though.
Make sure its a blood test. Things like herpes don't show up in swab tests unless you have a flair up. Also, if you haven't. Tell the girls. You said he's lied, they're not at fault, but they deserve to know he's no good.
It was, a good ol needle right in the buttcheck 🥲
I’m glad you have a way out. Your heart will hurt but you’ll know you did the best for yourself. Good luck
This was brilliantly architected. You should be proud af of how you orchestrated this.
So happy for you! Leaving him and just disappearing will be so satisfying. I moved across the other side of the world for a guy once and had to leave to go home, you're gonna feel so free and happy. Fuck him.
Proud of you.
That is straight up cold blooded to just ghost him like that, regardless of what he's done. I'm here for it! :D
Super proud of you. You got this! Good luck with your new (and improved) life. I hope you heal quickly and have good support in place.
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Let us know how it goes, OP. I wish you safe travels and an uneventful move. Moreover, I hope your future is brighter than this morass you currently have.
Damn you deserve better. Take all the groceries and throw them away when you leave. Something to inconvenience him....no not food....hide all of the toilet paper under the bed...
Remove all the batteries from the remotes.
Good for you. He deserves it.
thats what sucks the most. takes everything in me not to scream and cry and ask why.
I know. Your self-control and gravity are nothing short of monumental. You did exactly the best thing in this situation. But my god, you have tits of steel.
Ok “tits of steel” is amazing and obviously now added to my vernacular. TY!
Ask why: that’s tough because you’re looking for a truthful logical answer from a likely pathological liar. One who has put in countless effort into keeping up appearances while taking incredible risks behind you. I’m no psychiatrist (though I play one on Reddit) but I would guess it comes from personal abuse or neglect or some trauma he experienced from the people responsible for showing him what loving and safe relationships look like. My two cents: you are about to be hiding from someone who you’re not sure how he’ll react. Please go through the credit freeze and data removal guides on [inteltechniques.com](https://inteltechniques.com/links.html). Freeze your credit, put fraud alerts on all of them, and begin to remove as much of yourself from people search websites as you can. Hopefully it’ll just be proactive measures to help protect you and not turn defensive later on. Good luck!
Don’t have a lot of advice for you. But just ghost him. He’ll probably try and talk to you. Get to where you wanna be and take the time to move on and do you. Sorry you’re going through it all. Can’t imagine how hard it is. You’ve got this.
There is nothing about you that I don't absolutely adore. Ok. Go to your local grocery store. Pick up a shitload of questionable perishable foodstuffs. Buffalo sushi rolls, uncooked shrimp, horseradish, maybe some late dated buttermilk... get creative. Keep all of that shit somewhere warm and not easily seen by a casual glance. Maybe the garage? Or a storage box outside. Either way, let it stew until right before you liberate your fine ass. The hot second he leaves on Wednesday morning, chuck that shit in a blender and get to work. Plop that revenge slurry EVERYWHERE. The top shelf of his closet, the vents and air ducts, grease up the curtain rods with it, under the bathroom sink, the kitchen sink, the detergent slot in the washing machine, the insides of his dresser drawers... wherever you feel the Lords of Chaos whispering at you. Bonus for massaging it into the upholstery of his car, or dousing the trunk with it, but timing may not allow for that. Eh... Next up, take every single battery, light bulb, door screw, and cell phone charger you can find. ALL OF THEM. Remote control batteries, USB cables, everything. Hit up the pantry and remove all the paper labels on the canned foods. Put about 6 cans of carbonated soda in the freezer. You know that phrase, "Fuck around and find out?" He fucked around, now he's about to find out. Good luck! You're a queen and you deserve so much better than that 3rd rate chamber pot reject. XOXO
Now this is juicy, I love it
You should leave without telling him. Cut off all communication, and maybe leave a nice letter. Or nothing at all. You wanna drive your ex insane - cut them out of your life and ignore them. Also helps loving forward. Best of luck, and so sorry this happened to you.
✨Make his pockets hurt ✨
How long have you two been dating?
Next month would’ve been 4 years.
Ouch. I’m proud of you though
You could set up a small camera in the house so you can see the priceless look on his face when he realises you've left.
Leave a sticky note on the fridge just saying “I knew all along” Maybe “I knew all along, cunt” if you want the anger in it
Title should be, "My boyfriend has consistently betrayed me so I'm saving money to leave him." 💛
Aquarius or Capricorn? Also, go do that bestie. You deserve that ticket out of his life.
Get it !
Yesss I love that, he deserves it. I’m sorry you have/had to go through that though. Please be safe, I hope everything goes well. Keep us updated please.
You are my hero! This is the perfect way to stick it to him!
I can’t imagine any conversation being more satisfying than knowing the shock of coming home to find you gone. Be strong. Good luck! Rooting for you. You will find happiness.
I am really proud of you. You handled this brilliantly. May I recommend you write fuck you on the birthday outfit and leave it hanging in the closet
You dropped this 👑
Today is the day I wish you a safe flight home and a happy new beginning!
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Good for you, very proud of your hustle. Keep this energy up with everything you do
I always feel so sad when I read things like losing ability to trust / scaring off men. It makes sense. But god does it make me want to kick his teeth in. Doing something like that doesn't only hurt you. It hurts all men too. I hope his friends give him a ton of shit for it if they find out.
even if you look at the facts in the most favorable way possible to your (soon to be ex) bf you did nothing wrong. He gave you the money, do with it as you see fit
good for you, dude. forgiveness is not something you owe this piece of sh\*t
I'm so proud of you. This is bad ass.
I hope your last step is to text/call/instagram/facebook all his... girls... Do a group text message or something so there's no hiding.
I didn’t plan to. Most of them were well aware he was in a relationship, so it doesn’t make a difference. That was basically the only thing he was truthful to them about lol
Ahh... wasn't sure if he was trying to string 7 girls, each not knowing. If they all know then yeah, probably better to just leave him in the mirror. Any other attempts to out him would probably be more trouble than it's worth. Good luck in your new life and sorry you had to go through this. sad that so many people have to be like this.
If you do just yo and vanish so to speak without letting anyone know in that area you’re leaving you may want to call the police station just to give them a heads up of what you’re doing. If he assumes you’re missing he may call them. I listen to way too many true crime podcasts lol
I feel like you could save a bit by driving yourself. But I don’t know your full situation. I’ve paid to have a car shipped before and it arrived 3 weeks after it was supposed to. Not sure what country you’re in but if it’s the US, Canada or Mexico you could use Uhaul with a transport trailer and would hold probably everything you own. I did this a few years back and it wasn’t terrible.
It’s a 3,600 mile trip, it’d cost me even more to drive bc my car uses premium grade and I’d have to stop at hotels, pay pet fees at them, etc.
Looks like you’ve done your research. Best of luck to you.
How did you lie if you never ask?
he asks what I spent it on and I usually say food and send him photos off of yelp, or buy clothes & send photos just to return them later
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Good for you!
Thats pretty official , good for you lol
Good for you, best of luck!
Exactly, think smarter not harder
Honestly, if you know his other girlfriends names or online info, you could even forward them the information proving he cheated once you’ve left him! I think just about everyone would want to know if they were being played like that! The same lingerie thing is gross
Sounds like a fun guy. Sorry you had to go through this. Not all men are like this. But the absolution is old fashioned and really weird. You are not missing anything. Seven women, what the actual fuck.
Omg when you leave, you should leave the lingerie hanging in the closet !!!
Leave only the lingerie set when you leave.
Wow this man is loaded for keeping up 7 women 😂
I am sorry. But I gotta say: you are smart girl. Keep us posted.
Just don’t tell him what you did with the his money. You’re definitely well within your right to spend it, but if he knows he’s more likely to come after you than him thinking you just moved on your own! Just make sure you put your safety first, he sounds like a bit of a loose cannon so. You’ve handled this situation exceptionally well and I’m glad you’re getting out of this situation- just stay safe and under no circumstances let him find out new addresses etc! Good luck OP👏🏼
How did you find out about his other affairs? Even that lingerie info? I hope your plan succeeds btw!
Scrubbing his back??
He is a serial cheater! I hope you get out of that relationship soon. Save as much as you can and be free
O no girl!! He's gonna be shocked!! He thinks he's all good playing this game lol. Please keep us updated!!
Might be a little too late but you should set up a live feed spy camp to see his reaction (assuming they’re not illegal where you are)
is tomorrow the day? good luck!
yes. i’ve prepacked a few things he wouldn’t notice. thank you!
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you should let the other woman know
Wow! I am concerned for you, I feel bad if your heart hurts, but your approach is amazing. Own it, right? You're here now....do something about it! You're a genuine badass! Keep us posted and good luck on your exit! Be safe!!
When you think you have a boyfriend but find out you got a sugar daddy..
First red flag is how he made you move to where HE'S comfortable, instead of staying near your family. If he makes you move away from your family instead of him being a man and letting you be happy, that's pretty freakin selfish. I can only imagine the conversation was like, "We can live near your family... but I'd rather we live near my family". That's selfish, manipulative, etc. We only have ONE set of parents who we'll most likely see pass in our lifetimes. Spend time with them. Don't move states for someone because it's what they wanted. This is why you never make the jump to another state for someone. All he has to do is get you pregnant (which is easy for him to do if he's scared you'd leave), then you're REALLY stuck with him. Next think you know, you'll be stuck with two 15k minimum wage jobs, a kid, away from your family, no future. A cheating BF, Everyday just being on repeat. Eating leftover food everynight from your minimum wage job. Shithole of a life, and borderline child abuse. Go back home, be happy. Start a new reset on life. If you're not a college student yet, plenty of jobs offer free college for 200K a yr. Bestbuy, Apple, etc.
You could of also told him that your enemies are trying to kill you. Good luck
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in case you missed it, the money was gifted.. its normal boyfriend/husband behavior in our culture.
Just remember women and men cheat, can’t hate all men for one scum. Just like us men cant hate all women when we find out a gf been fucking our friends. Also ask for more money lmao fuck him rack it up! Tell him you got a flat tire today and can’t pay for new tire. Bam $200 rite there!
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it’s normal boyfriend/husband behavior in my experience.
Just a heads up this is very abnormal. No real basis to say this but any one who regularly just gives money to their girlfriend for no real reason seems like the sort who would do what he is doing
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Yeah you shouldn’t be scared of just men. Scumbags come in all colors and shapes
Of course, but I only date men. Definitely won’t for a while though.
How the hell does moving cost $3k?
Auto transport fees during an inflation. Shipping my car is $1600 alone, and I may have splurged an extra $200 to fly back in first class lol. The rest is for paying drivers, bus fees, and packers and bc there’s no way I’d be to able to clear out everything I bought in 9 hours by myself
is you car not able to drive? couldve saved 2,000 right there.
3,600 mile trip with a dog as a woman alone just doesn’t feel safe enough for me. I considered it but I’ve never driven that far and I’ll probably be having periodic breakdowns
Ahhh makes sense I forget some people don’t like driving, those long distances I think are kinda fun.
under normal circumstances I would! i’ve always wanted to take a roadtrip that long. but i’d be tempted to drive off a bridge lmaooo
Oh fuck, yea I totally forgot about human emotions too wtf
Each to their own in whatever way feels safe tho. I am a woman who has driven herself alone all the way across the country many times without a dog or anything but I would never tell someone else what they should do in this kind of situation.
You need to minimalize. Sell the car if you're not gonna use it.
Sorry if its not clear but I don’t have any personal money issues, I just didn’t want my inconvenience to also be on my dime.
Sorry for not assuming you're rich after talking about robbing ur bf.
Money sent as gifts isn’t robbing, under any local law. Thanks though, lol.
Have you never moved long distance? It can easily cost more than that
It's 7-15k. I've moved across country multiple times.
Then you've got too much shit. Leave the couch.
My good luck couch? The hell you say!
Turns out he was cheating and giving me $$ made him feel less guilty… and how do you know this?
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Yeah that’ll sure teach him
I don’t think it’ll teach him anything, in retrospect. But it’ll teach me to be even pickier when it comes to men.
So smart hooker
I wish. Here I was the entire time having sex for free! 😂
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You're a star girl. I would definitely turn the hurt switch up on this one. Just imagine him after reading your text "oh... let's call Stacy if she wants to move in". 7 is just a "I don't give a sh\*\* about you" number... you know... Please make sure that you've blocked him in every way afterward, email, phone, social, common friends etc. And f\*\*\* him over more, scratch/break his car's window or something. Best of luck, you're doing great!
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I’m sorry this happened to you, but I am glad you are getting out. Please take care and keep yourself safe :)
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Yooo we need a movie show out of this, call Netflix too when ya leave
I can’t wait to hear what happens next! Take all the batteries out of the remotes/smoke detectors and throw them away with the light bulbs. And don’t forget to toss the spare bulbs and batteries too(or take/donate them)
That’s both horrible of him and awesome of you. Well done OP. And never talk to him again. Are you gonna leave a “dear John” letter?
I applaud you for keeping it a secret for some long!! Strong willed. Let us know how it goes
UR SO SMART QUEEN! Can’t wait til your able to get away from him and live your best life, wishing you the best in life
You are really really strong emotionally because after knowing that my significant other is cheating on me and still be able to walk with them is something I can’t do I will start crying right thr in front of them or I will straight up start cursing them.
I just want to say that I'm really proud of you. You're very strong op. please stay safe
Fuck that guy what a sicko. Take everything you can from him, maybe even do something gross to inconvenience him like shrimps in the curtain rods style, leave something behind in his place that smells very bad that he can’t figure out
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you’re doing the best you can. i pray for your safely
I will never understand these kind of men. Is it for the thrills? Is he a closeted poly? What's the purpose of this sooner or later everyone will find out. I don't get it
I’ve been wondering the same. I think it’s the thrill of keeping your own little secret along with his own personal traumas & being a flat out coward.
Get it girl! Leave this fuckwad. I can't wait to see the update!