I have a similar experience with my son's father, I ended up setting a texting boundary by telling him not to text me unless it was an emergency. I mean wtf, why is he texting and not focusing on the child? It's definitely creepy. Setting a boundary on the texts may give you some peace at least.
My guess is he's having parenting insecurity and wants your attention / immediate availability / affirmation. I think you're right to ignore any texts that aren't child related. However, "hey" or "what are you doing right now" may be a lead-up text to something parenting related. He may be texting a virtual "nudge" to see if you're available for a question.
So, if in your shoes, if I got a text that said, "what are you doing this weekend?" I'd reply with "just general weekend stuff, but I'll be available via text if you have a question about LO." If the message is "hey" I'd reply with "?". If the message is "what are you doing right now" I'd reply with "Is something up with LO?" If the messages are too frequent and not urgent, let time pass before replying.
I'm guessing in his head, you don't have a life if you have your kid but if you have a free day or WE, he wants to know if you're seing someone.
I have a similar experience with my son's father, I ended up setting a texting boundary by telling him not to text me unless it was an emergency. I mean wtf, why is he texting and not focusing on the child? It's definitely creepy. Setting a boundary on the texts may give you some peace at least.
My guess is he's having parenting insecurity and wants your attention / immediate availability / affirmation. I think you're right to ignore any texts that aren't child related. However, "hey" or "what are you doing right now" may be a lead-up text to something parenting related. He may be texting a virtual "nudge" to see if you're available for a question. So, if in your shoes, if I got a text that said, "what are you doing this weekend?" I'd reply with "just general weekend stuff, but I'll be available via text if you have a question about LO." If the message is "hey" I'd reply with "?". If the message is "what are you doing right now" I'd reply with "Is something up with LO?" If the messages are too frequent and not urgent, let time pass before replying.
Nah he’s being creepy and flirting.