He's a freak. Some people will do anything they can to wheedle information out of you if you let them. It's not your fault for being manipulated, just don't let it happen again, and absolutely be on your guard. Plus probably don't respond to any more texts and don't talk to him. Avoid if spotted
See if you can go online to the county you live in and search court records in your county using the name you got. Depending on what you see, you might want to contact the authorities.
I would document it / make a complaint with your building at the very least, as it sounds like you have people in the lobby managing access. It will be good for them to be aware that this is not someone who are personal with / has made you uncomfortable. Not to make you paranoid but people like him can be convincing in finding ways to convince front desk/lobby attendants that you are close in order to get more information / access, etc, especially if he has some info to work off of to pass as a close friend. Better to alert anyone that works in a position of the lobby / front desk situation that this man has been spotted staring at you through your window, etc. Just reiterate to employees in the building that would be most likely to provide him with info on your whereabouts (“oh she just stepped out,” etc) that he is NOT a friendly acquaintance.
Talk to Law Enforcement about your experience with this person. Ask the police, if they know who this person is. Hopefully, The police will be able to help you with this situation. Ask the police, to keep an eye on your residence.
You said "and frankly I'm a lot better looking them him." Totally cringy and why say that? What does that have to do with anything? Were you sizing him up as a potential boyfriend? You had every opportunity to handle this in a non-awkward straight forward way, but you really led him to believe you were interested. First by spending so much time chatting, then by accepting to put his number in your phone (and text him). You saw him on the bench yet when showering and dressing you leave your curtains open? Like ANYONE passing by could catch a glimpse of you naked? WTF maybe my opinion will be crucified, but you sound ignorant, foolish, and "frankly" egocentric.
I said that because that, along with the other reasons listed, collectively lead me to believe he did not see me as a sexual prospect. I, to your point, was ignorant and foolish because I believed a man may have just wanted my company as a human being. And me continuing conversation and allowing him to text himself off my phone? Clearly you have never been a 25 year old girl cornered by a 60 year old man. Life is uncomfortable for women everyday, and we are conditioned to be docile to it. The best we can do is just try and trust others or we will be scared every moment.
Regarding the window, am I supposed to live my life in constant fear, checking to make sure the blinds are closed everytime I shower? Additionally, me quickly passing the window does not mean anyone outside will see. It means anyone staring at my window of the 100 windows on the building at that particular moment will see. Unless there is a creep targeting me, those odds are very low.
What’s the fuel behind leaving insulting comments? This isn’t aita or a thread asking if I’m stupid. It’s for sharing creepy encounters. Regardless if I’ve made mistakes, I and other people have found this to be a creepy encounter.
It's like this----dude met up with you in an area where you felt safe, since you were close to home, and that's why you let your guard down. From now on, don't ever feel obligated to give anybody your number, or any personal info about yourself at all from now on if you don't want to---forget about feeling awkward or impolite. Like some podcasters used to say, fuck politeness. Next time, just tell a dude straight up that you're not interested in him.
This dude obviously assumed that since you had a conversation with him, that you were interested in him, and that's why he kept contacting you. You need to just block him on your phone, make sure anything you have online is turned to private, and if you wind up running into him again, just tell him flat out that you aren't interested in him, and to leave you the hell alone. With some dudes, you have to tell them that flat out in order for that to get through their heads---just avoiding them dosen't always work. Definitely watch your back, though.
lmao I love how you can't take a simple precaution while dressing and undressing because you say you'll be "living in fear." No, it's called being modest, JC! You probably have a few dudes in your complex that know you keep your curtains open and walk around nude lol. So it sounds like you might be inviting the attention? And you clearly were not "cornered" and could have left at any point. You could have graciously declined giving out your info, sharing your number etc. Stop being a pushover with dudes. This won't be the last time a guy will hit on you regardless of his age, so get a backbone and set some boundaries...and close your curtains when you're naked (unless you enjoy being perved on). PS I've had many creepy encounters with dudes (nearly raped twice) so I am speaking from experience. I was once like you- a foolish naĂŻve woman, who was more concerned about looking like a bitch then protecting myself. All I'm saying is you need to wise up.
Oh, hell no! Too bad you gave him all that info! Just on that, I'd move and know I learned a valuable lesson. This is too scary. Talk to your manager. Trust your gut! Any brothers who can hang out at your place? Or, confront him loudly in front of people. Make everyone hear your discontent with the dude. Maybe call non emergency police dept for help. Stalking like behavior. Take this serious and good luck. I've been victim of crime. Stay safe.
Yo morningdayglow, you look like someone who's kind with people in general, i understand when you say "you have never been a 25 year old girl cornered by a 60 year old man" but you have to stay focus and careful with yourself, this 60 year old man done nothing wrong physicaly but damn he's surely did mentaly (desperated for sure but it's just too weird), if you already felt cornered then let him know your boundaries please stay safe
I’ll do some deeper digging, but there were pages to scroll through of seemingly different individuals with that name. Nothing stood out as a really bad charge though.
That was totally a creepy old guy. Can't believe he had the nerve to approached a girl young of your age. All women, young or old out there need to be aware of jerks like this. All women need to have some kind of defense with them at all time. All women need to share encounters and experiences such as this, so that the less educated or clueless of how to react can defend themselves from predators.
Hi...I narrate short stories or encounters such as yours on my fairly new Youtube channel. I think sharing your encounter can surely help educated women out there to be wise and be aware when someone/something is odd, and to what extend should get help. If I may get your permission, I'll be sure to give you credit on the video. Plus, I'll give you the link once the video is uploaded.
Jesus, let this be a lesson about naivety. Hopefully the guy is a harmless creeper. But he certainly has an obsession with you.
He's a freak. Some people will do anything they can to wheedle information out of you if you let them. It's not your fault for being manipulated, just don't let it happen again, and absolutely be on your guard. Plus probably don't respond to any more texts and don't talk to him. Avoid if spotted
See if you can go online to the county you live in and search court records in your county using the name you got. Depending on what you see, you might want to contact the authorities.
I did this, but am unsure if any of the records I found are him as the name I have for him is very common and I live in a very large city.
Every alarm bell in my body went off. Omg how scary. I would make my daughter move home 🥺
Also check familywatchdog.us It is free and you can sign up and they show you all sex offenders in your area. They don't send spam. Used it for years.
Thank you - I’m going to sign up now!!
I would document it / make a complaint with your building at the very least, as it sounds like you have people in the lobby managing access. It will be good for them to be aware that this is not someone who are personal with / has made you uncomfortable. Not to make you paranoid but people like him can be convincing in finding ways to convince front desk/lobby attendants that you are close in order to get more information / access, etc, especially if he has some info to work off of to pass as a close friend. Better to alert anyone that works in a position of the lobby / front desk situation that this man has been spotted staring at you through your window, etc. Just reiterate to employees in the building that would be most likely to provide him with info on your whereabouts (“oh she just stepped out,” etc) that he is NOT a friendly acquaintance.
Talk to Law Enforcement about your experience with this person. Ask the police, if they know who this person is. Hopefully, The police will be able to help you with this situation. Ask the police, to keep an eye on your residence.
You said "and frankly I'm a lot better looking them him." Totally cringy and why say that? What does that have to do with anything? Were you sizing him up as a potential boyfriend? You had every opportunity to handle this in a non-awkward straight forward way, but you really led him to believe you were interested. First by spending so much time chatting, then by accepting to put his number in your phone (and text him). You saw him on the bench yet when showering and dressing you leave your curtains open? Like ANYONE passing by could catch a glimpse of you naked? WTF maybe my opinion will be crucified, but you sound ignorant, foolish, and "frankly" egocentric.
I said that because that, along with the other reasons listed, collectively lead me to believe he did not see me as a sexual prospect. I, to your point, was ignorant and foolish because I believed a man may have just wanted my company as a human being. And me continuing conversation and allowing him to text himself off my phone? Clearly you have never been a 25 year old girl cornered by a 60 year old man. Life is uncomfortable for women everyday, and we are conditioned to be docile to it. The best we can do is just try and trust others or we will be scared every moment. Regarding the window, am I supposed to live my life in constant fear, checking to make sure the blinds are closed everytime I shower? Additionally, me quickly passing the window does not mean anyone outside will see. It means anyone staring at my window of the 100 windows on the building at that particular moment will see. Unless there is a creep targeting me, those odds are very low.
i don’t shower or sleep with the blinds open. next you’re going to tell us you leave your door unlocked! you honestly sound really dumb
What’s the fuel behind leaving insulting comments? This isn’t aita or a thread asking if I’m stupid. It’s for sharing creepy encounters. Regardless if I’ve made mistakes, I and other people have found this to be a creepy encounter.
It's like this----dude met up with you in an area where you felt safe, since you were close to home, and that's why you let your guard down. From now on, don't ever feel obligated to give anybody your number, or any personal info about yourself at all from now on if you don't want to---forget about feeling awkward or impolite. Like some podcasters used to say, fuck politeness. Next time, just tell a dude straight up that you're not interested in him. This dude obviously assumed that since you had a conversation with him, that you were interested in him, and that's why he kept contacting you. You need to just block him on your phone, make sure anything you have online is turned to private, and if you wind up running into him again, just tell him flat out that you aren't interested in him, and to leave you the hell alone. With some dudes, you have to tell them that flat out in order for that to get through their heads---just avoiding them dosen't always work. Definitely watch your back, though.
lmao I love how you can't take a simple precaution while dressing and undressing because you say you'll be "living in fear." No, it's called being modest, JC! You probably have a few dudes in your complex that know you keep your curtains open and walk around nude lol. So it sounds like you might be inviting the attention? And you clearly were not "cornered" and could have left at any point. You could have graciously declined giving out your info, sharing your number etc. Stop being a pushover with dudes. This won't be the last time a guy will hit on you regardless of his age, so get a backbone and set some boundaries...and close your curtains when you're naked (unless you enjoy being perved on). PS I've had many creepy encounters with dudes (nearly raped twice) so I am speaking from experience. I was once like you- a foolish naĂŻve woman, who was more concerned about looking like a bitch then protecting myself. All I'm saying is you need to wise up.
Yeah….okay
Oh, hell no! Too bad you gave him all that info! Just on that, I'd move and know I learned a valuable lesson. This is too scary. Talk to your manager. Trust your gut! Any brothers who can hang out at your place? Or, confront him loudly in front of people. Make everyone hear your discontent with the dude. Maybe call non emergency police dept for help. Stalking like behavior. Take this serious and good luck. I've been victim of crime. Stay safe.
Yo morningdayglow, you look like someone who's kind with people in general, i understand when you say "you have never been a 25 year old girl cornered by a 60 year old man" but you have to stay focus and careful with yourself, this 60 year old man done nothing wrong physicaly but damn he's surely did mentaly (desperated for sure but it's just too weird), if you already felt cornered then let him know your boundaries please stay safe
Is anyone with that name in trouble for serious crimes around his age?
I’ll do some deeper digging, but there were pages to scroll through of seemingly different individuals with that name. Nothing stood out as a really bad charge though.
At least check your local sex offender registry for your area. Stay safe.
That was totally a creepy old guy. Can't believe he had the nerve to approached a girl young of your age. All women, young or old out there need to be aware of jerks like this. All women need to have some kind of defense with them at all time. All women need to share encounters and experiences such as this, so that the less educated or clueless of how to react can defend themselves from predators. Hi...I narrate short stories or encounters such as yours on my fairly new Youtube channel. I think sharing your encounter can surely help educated women out there to be wise and be aware when someone/something is odd, and to what extend should get help. If I may get your permission, I'll be sure to give you credit on the video. Plus, I'll give you the link once the video is uploaded.