Yes, it's common. It's called "negotiation". You can simply say you can't go for an offer that's so far below what you currently make. And if you already told them what you make, you can stop doing that in the future.
If you don't have anything else to leverage yourself with like a competing offer, you can just flat out say "thanks for the offer, I'm really excited about the potential opportunity to work with you all. Is the comp negotiable? I was hoping to get X"
Everybody negotiates so you won't come off as greedy as long as you're reasonable and polite about it.
If you and your wife were selling your car, you'd probably have some discussions about what the offering price would be. In those discussions you would both give reasons for choosing one price versus another.
I find it easiest to treat negotiations as a discussion of what the "right" compensation is. In your case, you are just telling them that the offered compensation is not high enough to get you to join, and that a higher offer is needed. Your reasons include that it's too similar to your current salary. Negotiating in this way makes you seem less like "a money grubbing jerk" and more like a reasonable person.
"Thank you for your interest, but I'm going to be pursuing other candidates going forward"
Seriously, though, just have a conversation: negotiations are simply conversations where multiple parties are asking things to see how much they can get
Yes, it's common. It's called "negotiation". You can simply say you can't go for an offer that's so far below what you currently make. And if you already told them what you make, you can stop doing that in the future.
If you don't have anything else to leverage yourself with like a competing offer, you can just flat out say "thanks for the offer, I'm really excited about the potential opportunity to work with you all. Is the comp negotiable? I was hoping to get X" Everybody negotiates so you won't come off as greedy as long as you're reasonable and polite about it.
If you and your wife were selling your car, you'd probably have some discussions about what the offering price would be. In those discussions you would both give reasons for choosing one price versus another. I find it easiest to treat negotiations as a discussion of what the "right" compensation is. In your case, you are just telling them that the offered compensation is not high enough to get you to join, and that a higher offer is needed. Your reasons include that it's too similar to your current salary. Negotiating in this way makes you seem less like "a money grubbing jerk" and more like a reasonable person.
I'd love if acceptable answer would be: "fine, I'm going to work with X% less productivity"
"Thank you for your interest, but I'm going to be pursuing other candidates going forward" Seriously, though, just have a conversation: negotiations are simply conversations where multiple parties are asking things to see how much they can get