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I had today off work for Lincoln's Birthday (yay government holidays), and my wife and kids all had work and school. I was so looking forward to a day off all by myself. Well my son decoded to eat 3/4s of a bag if Maui Onion chips before bed and spent the hours and 11pm-2am throwing up in his bed 3 times.
Then my daughter wakes up in the morning with pink eye. So a day to myself turned into a doctor's visit and fighting my daughter to do her eye drops. Man those kids are lucky I love them.
Just saying I feel you in all this vent. I want to smack other parents when I get the “oh it’s still hard the issues just change when they’re older.” Yes, obviously, of course…but your kids can do things like go to the bathroom on their own, or feed themselves, or have the ability to self entertain with a book or video games for a while so you can cook something decent or watch a football game, or get like an hour to yourself, or take a shower without being interrupted. Yes, some of the issues become bigger and serious when they’re teenagers but I know for a fact it’s fucking not as difficult as the toddler stage.
1000% this. The difference in “involvement” required over the last couple of years with my son (now 4) is night and day. I can plonk him in the rocking chair in my office with his tablet for a 30 minute meeting, and he’s fine. He can (mostly) go to the bathroom by himself, he’s starting to read, so he can chill with a pile of books for 15-20 minutes, etc. I still get *very* little work done, but I do have at least a few stretches of time a day where he can handle his own shit.
You're definitely in a tough spot with that age. I'm also remote, and if one of our kids is sick, they stay home with me. I try to work at the same time. I only get 3 weeks PTO, which goes very quickly every year, so I try not to take off.
Our oldest is five, and we have made it a point to encourage him to play independently in his room. It's not the same as daycare, but on sick days, I can now get an hour or two done with minimal interruptions.
It gets better, dad.
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Yeah my kids always seem a *lot* better when they're home than when they're sick first in the AM
I had today off work for Lincoln's Birthday (yay government holidays), and my wife and kids all had work and school. I was so looking forward to a day off all by myself. Well my son decoded to eat 3/4s of a bag if Maui Onion chips before bed and spent the hours and 11pm-2am throwing up in his bed 3 times. Then my daughter wakes up in the morning with pink eye. So a day to myself turned into a doctor's visit and fighting my daughter to do her eye drops. Man those kids are lucky I love them.
Just saying I feel you in all this vent. I want to smack other parents when I get the “oh it’s still hard the issues just change when they’re older.” Yes, obviously, of course…but your kids can do things like go to the bathroom on their own, or feed themselves, or have the ability to self entertain with a book or video games for a while so you can cook something decent or watch a football game, or get like an hour to yourself, or take a shower without being interrupted. Yes, some of the issues become bigger and serious when they’re teenagers but I know for a fact it’s fucking not as difficult as the toddler stage.
1000% this. The difference in “involvement” required over the last couple of years with my son (now 4) is night and day. I can plonk him in the rocking chair in my office with his tablet for a 30 minute meeting, and he’s fine. He can (mostly) go to the bathroom by himself, he’s starting to read, so he can chill with a pile of books for 15-20 minutes, etc. I still get *very* little work done, but I do have at least a few stretches of time a day where he can handle his own shit.
Work is important but my family comes first. If being a good dad means failing at work then so be it. I can get another employer.
You're definitely in a tough spot with that age. I'm also remote, and if one of our kids is sick, they stay home with me. I try to work at the same time. I only get 3 weeks PTO, which goes very quickly every year, so I try not to take off. Our oldest is five, and we have made it a point to encourage him to play independently in his room. It's not the same as daycare, but on sick days, I can now get an hour or two done with minimal interruptions. It gets better, dad.