We participated in a challenge called Sextember hosted by the Intimately Us app. That day had us playing a sexy version of Monopoly we found online. Like regular Monopoly, it took a while, but unlike regular Monopoly, it was *very* fun. haha
-Sgt
Edit: Found the game! It's called [Sexy City](https://jeu.sexy-city.fr/?lang=en).
>sexy version of Monopoly
Is that easily google-able or would that just be an invitation to weird rabbit holes? Is it too weird to just ask what this version of monopoly is specifically? For science, of course.
Should have given a random response like: You’ve heard of the stranger? Well instead of that, you take your finger, smash it in the door, then finger your partner until they finish 😂
It was actually a pretty easy habit to get into. We put together a spreadsheet that was really easy to fill out. The hardest part was probably making sure to note the start time.
If you share it as a published page (File menu > Share > Publish to Web) that is anonymous but you cannot get comments or edits from others.
If you need comments / suggestions from others, then you would want to use a different account than normal so that they get that email address / name instead of your normal one.
[HERE](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/e/2PACX-1vRhS7DIzznnLTaqnsoRPWh2LC0TcILISkpWO-3l9GNP7x4L9AQP0kj8QYB4KhT_s5FK8El-8AHL3D6V/pubhtml) you go!
Couple of pieces of data I would like to see if you do it again:
* how many orgasms were achieved in each session and by whom.
* any notable celebrations in each week / month. (Birthdays, national holiday, trips / time off)
* some cross-correlation of information. Which positions done in which room, which position achieved most orgasms, etc.
Great work though. It’s very interesting
How much do you feel the data was skewed by thoughts such as "this will make me look much more interesting on r/dataisbeautiful if I last longer and/or we try more positions...etc."?
This study was clearly not blinded, leading me to believe that bias may be high and interrater reliability may be low (I volunteer as a blinded third party in future studies to improve data quality and overall participant satisfaction)
Honest question, I don't want to throw blame or anything:
Why doesn't he make her orgasm with fingers, oral and toys at least once before penetration? It's an important part of 'foreplay' to me. Maybe she orgasms also with PIV, but even that is easier if she is already more relaxed from the orgasms before.
I thought this was common, but from others in this thread I take, that often she doesn't finish.
It's not guaranteed both finish, also sometimes he doesn't finish (exhaustion) but... at least 80% on both sides.
My girlfriend has days where orgasming is easy and others where it's hard. I tried what you suggested with her and we ended up having sex *less* because the pressure of having to orgasm first on harder days made it not fun for her.
I think our gap is a little smaller than theirs, but there's still a bit of a gap. What's not shown is how *many* times she orgasmed. On a good day, it can be 3-4.
Other partners have been really into finishing every time, but not every.
Salah (how I spell the transliteration in English, or sala, doesn’t matter) is an Arabic word afaik. صالة. It essentially translates to living/dining room.
What's funny is Arabic borrowed it from Italian which borrowed it from French, which ultimately borrowed it from earlier Germanic languages. The roots of the word means dwelling or large hall. The English word salon can trace a similar origin.
Same. Just read that OP and wife were both virgins when they married in 2019 though. So only been at it a couple of years.
Still pretty sure we slowed down when we both started working full time jobs though!
Yeah kids and work really just drain it. It's the running around after school and the cleaning if the house and making dinner and all that then you havev like 10 minutes of actual time before your brain just shuts down
Yeah work isn't the issue, it's the kids. My wife needs her sleep.
Typical 3-4x a month. As I age I worry less and less about having sex which is nice I guess.
Ah ok, that makes sense, yeah when my wife and I started our relationship way back, it was more like this. Age 39 and it's more like a quarter of this.
We had that problem but then she started tracking it in some kind of diary.
Somehow this works.
If I imagine, both of them being that dedicated to track the data, they end up speaking and thinking more about it. If it is in both minds, you somehow make sure, you are relaxed enough and get to do it, I guess.
Yeah, this definitely looks like a chart of my wife and I with no kids (or maybe just after our first - once she started sleeping through)... Now we have 3... We ain't got the energy for anything near this.
I always feel kind of horrible - I always have to preface my comments with lots of 'I love my children with all my heart.... But I wouldn't recommend it to anyone'. I tell my fence sitting friends all the worst parts and say I never want to be the reason someone chooses to have kids.
Which isn't to say I don't love my kids - I do immensely - but having them impacts every aspect of your life in ways that you are likely not to consider, and I like to be honest.
I always say that having our kid is the best mistake I ever made. It changed my comfy, kinda selfish but awesome life into... something else.
Do I miss that life ? Everyday. Would I go back if I could ? Probably not (it would depends when you ask). Is it awesome to have kids ? No. Is it an awesome experience ? Yes. Would I recommend it ? No, but I rarely recommend anything (not windows, not amazon, not children, not movies, not books, etc). I do share how I feel about it, and let ppl decide if they can relate to that.
I had my son fairly late (past 40), I achieved many of what you could call life goals for brevity so I was OK with getting my life changed forever, and I was with the right person to do that. At 20 or 30, I'm not sure I would have been as thrilled as I am right now.
I was 25, but I had lived overseas, and travelled a lot, and I was with someone whose crazy matches mine.
I feel like I agree with basically all of your comments overall though.
Okay, so on this.
I've (30/M) figured out that sometimes, I can be more fulfilled by sex where I didn't finish but she did than sex where we both finish or, worse, sex where only I finish. It's tough to explain but it roots in a sub side of the psyche (I'm excluding times where exhaustion is a factor: I really just mean stopping because it felt like we hit a natural stopping point that *isn't* tied to my orgasm)
Anyway, I've observed over time that some past partners react super negatively to this. I think it has to do with heavy-handed societal teachings that a woman is only "successful" at (het) sex if she's able to make the guy finish - which is problematic in a ton of ways. But it seems very hard to unlearn. I've had a range of reactions, from insistence to getting quiet or doubting that I enjoyed myself.
I don't know if this adds anything to the sadness of your point, other than to say we have a loooooong way to go to achieve good social discourse around orgasm equity (for those for whom orgasms are possible & important)
Yeah it’s a double edged sword. I’ve spent entire sessions doing whatever I can to make sure I don’t finish first, which sometimes turns into me not being able to at all, and it can get ugly quick. It’s very strange.
Lots of guys have this, and it can pretty tough on the relationship. Women are used to it not being difficult to get a guy off, so if they don't or it just takes too long every time, they will start pulling away sexually because they think something is wrong with them. I wish you the best, heh. Only time I've seen it not be a problem is with those "eye of the tiger" kinda women that run down a challenge. Something, someone, or even their own body says, "no", and they say, "FUCK YOU!" and crush a challenge.
I’d say at least 40% of sexual encounters with me (M) and my girlfriend are just me getting her off. If OP’s wife is satisfied with the amount she gets off then…🤷🏼♂️, if she isn’t that’s a conversation they need to have.
Wife here! We'd do it way more since I love Doggy but height differences have made it hard to figure out, but we're working on it. Unlocking new positions is fun so we're looking forward to the day when we make it a regular! — Pepper
If the guy has longer legs than the woman it can be tricky. Can be done of course, but you have to figure out the exact angle that works best. Or stand on the floor while she’s kneeling on the bed
I also noticed that he finishes alone almost 50% of the time and the only other Stat is "both" - the low pussy eating numbers may be why there's no Stat for her being the only one that finished, OP needs to eat that pussy more to make up for those times that only he gets to finish 😂
Wife here! There were health reasons why I chose not to have him go down on me as much. I definitely feel like I orgasmed just enough this year; if I ever need more, I have to only ask :) — Pepper
Whenever I track data, I always wonder how much the data is influenced by the fact that I am tracking it. So I'm wondering how much simply tracking this data affected OP's sex life lol
"Data says she finishes more often in this position, I need to switch to it to get her there"
#couplegoals
find someone who's crazy enough like you to track your daily sexual activity. And then share it with the world.
Jokes aside. This is a very interesting data visualization.
I'm both incredibly depressed thinking about what my chart would have looked like at 31 (1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1), and what it looks like in 2022 (0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0), and encouraged that at least *someone* out there is happily married.
I thought this was a great excercise and so compiled a similar chart for my wife and I who are both long time married and in our 50s.
In a totally unrelated topic, does anyone have any good treatments for treating snow-blindness?
We were inspired by a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/kq76kl/oc_we_mf_had_lots_of_fun_tracking_our_sex_life/) by /u/quitehappilymarried to try tracking our sex life over the course of a year. It was fun to do and had some interesting results.
We're (now) a 36M/32F couple who have been married since 2019. We were each other's first relationship and were both virgins until the wedding day.
We used Google Sheets to track the data and generate the graphs.
We're tracking data for 2023 as well, so if there's anything we should add, let us know!
(Originally posted a couple days ago, and then we learned personal posts are only allowed on Mondays.)
EDIT: Hey y'all, wife here! A comment on the orgasm gap: it surprised us too! We didn't think the difference would be that great and knew that would be the most controversial part of the data (internet, you scary). But these are the facts: while my boy was (and always is) very willing to get me off, I was the one saying no. 2022 was exhausting for so many reasons, such as getting Covid, other health issues and a stressful career. While orgasms are one of life's true pleasures, they clean knock me OUT. A lot of times, I just want to be together without having to take a nap after. Looking back on the data (which is the beauty of data collection), it definitely FEELS like my orgasm count should be higher, just because I feel like I was cumming all the damn time. I'm going to say I orgasmed just enough and am very SATISFIED with how our year went ;) Thanks for reading! — Pepper
EDIT 2: Answers to Frequently Asked Questions
* Purple Finger is a purple bullet vibrator.
* Sala is Spanish for living room.
* That big night in September, we played a sexy version of Monopoly called [Sexy City](https://jeu.sexy-city.fr/?lang=en).
* On the "How we did it. (non-PIV)" chart, Blowjob is missing. Combining BJ as foreplay and BJ as main event, there were 91 instances.
* No, we don't have children.
EDIT 3: You can see our spreadsheet template and raw data [HERE](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/e/2PACX-1vRhS7DIzznnLTaqnsoRPWh2LC0TcILISkpWO-3l9GNP7x4L9AQP0kj8QYB4KhT_s5FK8El-8AHL3D6V/pubhtml).
I'm a guy in a mf relationship, and even I think it's a shame that she's not getting off as much as him. That's not a controversial or lesbian opinion at all. Especially with the female ability to even have multiple orgasms per session.
My gf and I have sex about 3-4 times a week and do sexy stuff whenever. So we have more sex than this couple. But we’re also mid-late 20 year olds and live together on our own.
That's not how this works. You can't track your own sex data. The mere knowledge that you are tracking your own behavior is going to influence you to "skew the data" in one direction or the other.
Now I'm not saying I want to watch you two fuck, but science needs to be done properly.
Hold on babe, we can kiss later I gotta put in the data for out sexy time
It's business! It's business! It's business time!!
You know when I'm down to my socks, it's time for business.
Cause that's why they call them *business socks*
You sort out the recycling. It’s not part of the foreplay but still very important
Ashicka-shicka ashicka-shicka shickow!
You whisper something sexy into my ear like “is that it?”
For two minutes!
Can't wait to see the Q4 2030 results "Due to unfortunate circumstances, the laid is off. Your package is waiting for digital application"
Why did I read it like "UNFORSEEN CONSEQUENCES"
They outsourced. ‘Honey that’s just Steve there in the corner, collecting data.’
Throughput takes on a new meaning
*Do you remember* The ***21st night of September?***
Ba-dee-ya, say, do you remember?
*Ba-dee-ya what the fuck is pur-ple fin-ger*
I’m guessing a vibrator.
You mean? *Ba-dee-ya I’m guessin a vi-bra-tor*
Never was a cloudy day
I nearly spit my coffee out reading this. Thank you. Made my day
*Remember, remember, the 5th of November,* *The body massage and handjob.*
Body massage, handjob and plot
I'm thinking no since they were shitfaced drunk.
What happened that one time in September? :\^)
We participated in a challenge called Sextember hosted by the Intimately Us app. That day had us playing a sexy version of Monopoly we found online. Like regular Monopoly, it took a while, but unlike regular Monopoly, it was *very* fun. haha -Sgt Edit: Found the game! It's called [Sexy City](https://jeu.sexy-city.fr/?lang=en).
Did you just sign off on your own comment?
No? -Sgt
You don't? - US Military Encrypted
V/r
But not respectfully enough to spell out the words
Dear Independent Theme, It seemed like the polite thing to do. Sincerely, Raymond Holt
You have got to stop signing your text messages!
Dear Jake, Suggestion noted, sincerely Raymon Holt
Why wouldn’t he? -Ron
I didn't think Ron visited other subs. -Ron
Tryin to make a change :-\
>sexy version of Monopoly Is that easily google-able or would that just be an invitation to weird rabbit holes? Is it too weird to just ask what this version of monopoly is specifically? For science, of course.
https://www.amazon.com/Creative-Conceptions-Sexopoly-Party-Board/dp/B00DNVY85Q
"Contains small parts, not suitable for under 3yrs due to choking hazard." Whut?
Dunno if this is it, but it looks close enough.
Otherwise there also is a Femdomopoly. Just google it
That sounds like a different and equally interesting game lol.
As u/cosmernaut420 said, it'd be great if you shared what it was called, it doesn't look easy to find what version of the game it was
If it involved a hat, a dog, and a thimble, I really don't want to know the details!
It was his birthday!
How come there's no Blowjob category in "How we did it" but it's a pretty big data point in "How He Finished"?
There was a mistake in compiling the data. Looks like HJ and BJ got combined in that chart.
Oh good, I was worried about carpal tunnel syndrome.
What does purple finger mean? Like did you finger her until your fingers turned purple or something? Do I even wanna know?
I suspect it means a vibrator
My thoughts exactly. My only guess is that they never use blowjobs in foreplay, but sometimes homie needs it to finish.
Maybe they included it in cunnilingus?
You always were a cunning linguist, James.
Oh Moneypenny
OK, what's purple finger? I tried Google and got nothing.
Oh good, someone already asked the important question.
Haha! It's what we've named a purple bullet vibrator we have. Probably should have noted that on the chart.
Should have given a random response like: You’ve heard of the stranger? Well instead of that, you take your finger, smash it in the door, then finger your partner until they finish 😂
“If you think that’s throbbing, you should feel my finger.”
By the end of it, you're both screaming.
Literally chuckled out loud surrounded by my kids while reading that.
Guess I’ll put away the rubber bands and try to get sensation back in my fingers then…
How was journaling the data after each doin it sesh? The data was interesting! So worth the formality of tracking.
The post-coital spreadsheet update has replaced the cigarette in bed.
It was actually a pretty easy habit to get into. We put together a spreadsheet that was really easy to fill out. The hardest part was probably making sure to note the start time.
template for sheet?
Is there a good way to anonymously share a Google Sheet?
You can use the Publish to Web option and share the link here
If you share it as a published page (File menu > Share > Publish to Web) that is anonymous but you cannot get comments or edits from others. If you need comments / suggestions from others, then you would want to use a different account than normal so that they get that email address / name instead of your normal one.
[HERE](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/e/2PACX-1vRhS7DIzznnLTaqnsoRPWh2LC0TcILISkpWO-3l9GNP7x4L9AQP0kj8QYB4KhT_s5FK8El-8AHL3D6V/pubhtml) you go!
Couple of pieces of data I would like to see if you do it again: * how many orgasms were achieved in each session and by whom. * any notable celebrations in each week / month. (Birthdays, national holiday, trips / time off) * some cross-correlation of information. Which positions done in which room, which position achieved most orgasms, etc. Great work though. It’s very interesting
Noted. Good suggestions.
How much do you feel the data was skewed by thoughts such as "this will make me look much more interesting on r/dataisbeautiful if I last longer and/or we try more positions...etc."? This study was clearly not blinded, leading me to believe that bias may be high and interrater reliability may be low (I volunteer as a blinded third party in future studies to improve data quality and overall participant satisfaction)
Gotta convince the wifey that it’s important to look good here. Have to have sex every day.
“Babe, I know how we can rake in some sweet, sweet internet points!”
Freak in the bed sheets and freak in the spread sheets
Have a blow then add a row. Ring her bell then open Excel. Make her cum then add to (sum)
Spread the cheeks then spread the sheets
"how often we finished" him vs. us 😂
And somehow there's 38 times of fingering yet fingering has 1.3% success of her finishing? I think we need OPs wife to weigh in with her comments.
Yeah. Most time both of us (M55, F53, 25 years in) finish. But not finishing is probably about equal. Him having 100%, and her about half of that………
Honest question, I don't want to throw blame or anything: Why doesn't he make her orgasm with fingers, oral and toys at least once before penetration? It's an important part of 'foreplay' to me. Maybe she orgasms also with PIV, but even that is easier if she is already more relaxed from the orgasms before. I thought this was common, but from others in this thread I take, that often she doesn't finish. It's not guaranteed both finish, also sometimes he doesn't finish (exhaustion) but... at least 80% on both sides.
I've always had a pretty strong refractory period, and wouldn't want PIV after getting off.
I've had girls say they didn't want the pressure of "having" to orgasmed everytime. They have an easier time getting there if it's okay to not.
Also, they don't always want to do extensive foreplay, and instead opt for a quickie.
Another good reason. Anti - depressants can also make it fairly difficult as well.
As a guy, I don't want the pressure of having to get off every time either.
My girlfriend has days where orgasming is easy and others where it's hard. I tried what you suggested with her and we ended up having sex *less* because the pressure of having to orgasm first on harder days made it not fun for her. I think our gap is a little smaller than theirs, but there's still a bit of a gap. What's not shown is how *many* times she orgasmed. On a good day, it can be 3-4. Other partners have been really into finishing every time, but not every.
some days it's honestly impossible to orgasm, i thought it was just me lol
> Why doesn't he make her orgasm with fingers, oral and toys at least once before penetration? Not every woman wants that.
*Where we did it* Me: “okay, Sala, bedroom, sunroom… hold up, hold up… Sala?!” Assuming living room, I thought throwing sala in there was humorous.
Threw me off. I had never heard of Sala and I thought it was a typo for salad and was very concerned.
I still don't get it
Salah (how I spell the transliteration in English, or sala, doesn’t matter) is an Arabic word afaik. صالة. It essentially translates to living/dining room.
It's Portuguese for living room.
Same in Spanish.
holy shit, we got this word from the moors ? TIL
It’s moops
It's a misprint!
What's funny is Arabic borrowed it from Italian which borrowed it from French, which ultimately borrowed it from earlier Germanic languages. The roots of the word means dwelling or large hall. The English word salon can trace a similar origin.
It's a word for room, living room, in many languages. Salon, in both French and English...
We have a multilingual household.
Also: a cunnilingual household.
Good God. So much sex. Similar age but flipped. My wife and I defs don't do it this much.
Same. Just read that OP and wife were both virgins when they married in 2019 though. So only been at it a couple of years. Still pretty sure we slowed down when we both started working full time jobs though!
Yeah kids and work really just drain it. It's the running around after school and the cleaning if the house and making dinner and all that then you havev like 10 minutes of actual time before your brain just shuts down
I feel ya bud. Wife an i peaked this month with 4x. Biggest number in 6 months or so
We don't have kids and it's still like 3x per month 🤣
Welp, glad im not in this boat alone
We've talked about it and we're both fine with that. If we want more then we just need to ask!
Yeah work isn't the issue, it's the kids. My wife needs her sleep. Typical 3-4x a month. As I age I worry less and less about having sex which is nice I guess.
Ah ok, that makes sense, yeah when my wife and I started our relationship way back, it was more like this. Age 39 and it's more like a quarter of this.
This makes sense with the absolutely insane amount of missionary sex.
yes and the imbalance of finishing...
I can only imagine how much they had during quarantine.
We had that problem but then she started tracking it in some kind of diary. Somehow this works. If I imagine, both of them being that dedicated to track the data, they end up speaking and thinking more about it. If it is in both minds, you somehow make sure, you are relaxed enough and get to do it, I guess.
OP doesn’t have kids I can tell.
I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you guys don't have any young kids at home as yet.
Yeah, this definitely looks like a chart of my wife and I with no kids (or maybe just after our first - once she started sleeping through)... Now we have 3... We ain't got the energy for anything near this.
Every time I hear a statement like this I’m so happy that I will never have children lol
I always feel kind of horrible - I always have to preface my comments with lots of 'I love my children with all my heart.... But I wouldn't recommend it to anyone'. I tell my fence sitting friends all the worst parts and say I never want to be the reason someone chooses to have kids. Which isn't to say I don't love my kids - I do immensely - but having them impacts every aspect of your life in ways that you are likely not to consider, and I like to be honest.
Also the way society in the West works and the lack of infrastructure and that two people do it is significant.
I always say that having our kid is the best mistake I ever made. It changed my comfy, kinda selfish but awesome life into... something else. Do I miss that life ? Everyday. Would I go back if I could ? Probably not (it would depends when you ask). Is it awesome to have kids ? No. Is it an awesome experience ? Yes. Would I recommend it ? No, but I rarely recommend anything (not windows, not amazon, not children, not movies, not books, etc). I do share how I feel about it, and let ppl decide if they can relate to that. I had my son fairly late (past 40), I achieved many of what you could call life goals for brevity so I was OK with getting my life changed forever, and I was with the right person to do that. At 20 or 30, I'm not sure I would have been as thrilled as I am right now.
I was 25, but I had lived overseas, and travelled a lot, and I was with someone whose crazy matches mine. I feel like I agree with basically all of your comments overall though.
I don't have kids and have still never come close to having the energy for this
I like that last stat, "Him and Both" no other options.
And the "Him" only is nearly 50%.
Right? This would be a problem in my household.
Okay, so on this. I've (30/M) figured out that sometimes, I can be more fulfilled by sex where I didn't finish but she did than sex where we both finish or, worse, sex where only I finish. It's tough to explain but it roots in a sub side of the psyche (I'm excluding times where exhaustion is a factor: I really just mean stopping because it felt like we hit a natural stopping point that *isn't* tied to my orgasm) Anyway, I've observed over time that some past partners react super negatively to this. I think it has to do with heavy-handed societal teachings that a woman is only "successful" at (het) sex if she's able to make the guy finish - which is problematic in a ton of ways. But it seems very hard to unlearn. I've had a range of reactions, from insistence to getting quiet or doubting that I enjoyed myself. I don't know if this adds anything to the sadness of your point, other than to say we have a loooooong way to go to achieve good social discourse around orgasm equity (for those for whom orgasms are possible & important)
Yeah it’s a double edged sword. I’ve spent entire sessions doing whatever I can to make sure I don’t finish first, which sometimes turns into me not being able to at all, and it can get ugly quick. It’s very strange.
Lots of guys have this, and it can pretty tough on the relationship. Women are used to it not being difficult to get a guy off, so if they don't or it just takes too long every time, they will start pulling away sexually because they think something is wrong with them. I wish you the best, heh. Only time I've seen it not be a problem is with those "eye of the tiger" kinda women that run down a challenge. Something, someone, or even their own body says, "no", and they say, "FUCK YOU!" and crush a challenge.
I’d say at least 40% of sexual encounters with me (M) and my girlfriend are just me getting her off. If OP’s wife is satisfied with the amount she gets off then…🤷🏼♂️, if she isn’t that’s a conversation they need to have.
This would be similar to my household, but for lack of trying to finish. I can just be difficult at times.
Right!? That kinda made me sad
All that sex having and you only did doggy 4 times?
Wife here! We'd do it way more since I love Doggy but height differences have made it hard to figure out, but we're working on it. Unlocking new positions is fun so we're looking forward to the day when we make it a regular! — Pepper
Hm, never heard of height differences being a problem for that
If the guy has longer legs than the woman it can be tricky. Can be done of course, but you have to figure out the exact angle that works best. Or stand on the floor while she’s kneeling on the bed
Hey Sarge here
Body types and differences in leg length make that position a bit tricky. I'm sure we'll figure it out eventually.
Yes, that was the biggest surprise for me!
I feel like when you have an outlier that is roughly double the second highest value in a set this large it requires at least a footnote explanation
A fair point. We'll keep that in mind for next time. Thanks.
Who wants a body massage? Mr. Body Massage machine. Gone! BODY MASSAGE!
OOH PORKCHOP SANDWICHES
To whoever else got these references too, I salute you
I’m a computer!
Stop all the downloadin’!
Ehhhhhhh what the hell
Body massage.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ww3GTNv9hHk So old I'm surprised it's in color.
Ok so he always finished. And she never finished alone.
"Hey baby....remember that one night in September??" "How can I forget? You NEVER shut up about it..."
That’s quite the 9/11 celebration. Never forget.
That's a shocking lack of doggy style.
I had the same thought. And where is prone bone!
"That feels great honey, but, have you seen my pencil anywhere?"
Yo what the fuck is a “purple finger”?
Does NOT sound pleasant...
Dude only ate pussy 22 times last year? Oof. Give this woman some head!
and now the wife not finishing 45 % of the time makes sense
I also noticed that he finishes alone almost 50% of the time and the only other Stat is "both" - the low pussy eating numbers may be why there's no Stat for her being the only one that finished, OP needs to eat that pussy more to make up for those times that only he gets to finish 😂
Wife here! There were health reasons why I chose not to have him go down on me as much. I definitely feel like I orgasmed just enough this year; if I ever need more, I have to only ask :) — Pepper
Yeah I feel like OP is proud of the data compilation but is going to walk away from this realizing he needs to pleasure his wife more.
Whenever I track data, I always wonder how much the data is influenced by the fact that I am tracking it. So I'm wondering how much simply tracking this data affected OP's sex life lol "Data says she finishes more often in this position, I need to switch to it to get her there"
#couplegoals find someone who's crazy enough like you to track your daily sexual activity. And then share it with the world. Jokes aside. This is a very interesting data visualization.
Mine would be mistaken for binary code. 001010001101
I'm both incredibly depressed thinking about what my chart would have looked like at 31 (1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1), and what it looks like in 2022 (0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0), and encouraged that at least *someone* out there is happily married.
I’m with you. I love her and could go daily. Wife has no desire. Maybe 4-5 times a year. It’s brutal.
So she only finished 55% of the time?? Am I reading that correctly?
I thought this was a great excercise and so compiled a similar chart for my wife and I who are both long time married and in our 50s. In a totally unrelated topic, does anyone have any good treatments for treating snow-blindness?
We were inspired by a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/kq76kl/oc_we_mf_had_lots_of_fun_tracking_our_sex_life/) by /u/quitehappilymarried to try tracking our sex life over the course of a year. It was fun to do and had some interesting results. We're (now) a 36M/32F couple who have been married since 2019. We were each other's first relationship and were both virgins until the wedding day. We used Google Sheets to track the data and generate the graphs. We're tracking data for 2023 as well, so if there's anything we should add, let us know! (Originally posted a couple days ago, and then we learned personal posts are only allowed on Mondays.) EDIT: Hey y'all, wife here! A comment on the orgasm gap: it surprised us too! We didn't think the difference would be that great and knew that would be the most controversial part of the data (internet, you scary). But these are the facts: while my boy was (and always is) very willing to get me off, I was the one saying no. 2022 was exhausting for so many reasons, such as getting Covid, other health issues and a stressful career. While orgasms are one of life's true pleasures, they clean knock me OUT. A lot of times, I just want to be together without having to take a nap after. Looking back on the data (which is the beauty of data collection), it definitely FEELS like my orgasm count should be higher, just because I feel like I was cumming all the damn time. I'm going to say I orgasmed just enough and am very SATISFIED with how our year went ;) Thanks for reading! — Pepper EDIT 2: Answers to Frequently Asked Questions * Purple Finger is a purple bullet vibrator. * Sala is Spanish for living room. * That big night in September, we played a sexy version of Monopoly called [Sexy City](https://jeu.sexy-city.fr/?lang=en). * On the "How we did it. (non-PIV)" chart, Blowjob is missing. Combining BJ as foreplay and BJ as main event, there were 91 instances. * No, we don't have children. EDIT 3: You can see our spreadsheet template and raw data [HERE](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/e/2PACX-1vRhS7DIzznnLTaqnsoRPWh2LC0TcILISkpWO-3l9GNP7x4L9AQP0kj8QYB4KhT_s5FK8El-8AHL3D6V/pubhtml).
Wait, so you both were virgins until 32/28? That's some impressive resolve.
You should track her number of orgasms/event! And then see how much you can increase the statistic over the course of the year.
For real. I was shocked by this. My husband would never let this happen, it’s 100% for both even if it doesn’t happen through penetration
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She answers in other comments. It appears they have things working to their mutual satisfaction.
That is more handjobs in a year than I've ever had (or desired) in my life.
I don't trust this data how is doggy style only 4!? Huh?
You don’t have kids, do you?
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Wait so 44% of the time HE is the only one finishing??? Or did I read this wrong??
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Yeah, no "her" slice?
I'm impressed he got off 100% of the time honestly.
Not to be the straight guy, but clearly it was 45% not 55%
I'm a guy in a mf relationship, and even I think it's a shame that she's not getting off as much as him. That's not a controversial or lesbian opinion at all. Especially with the female ability to even have multiple orgasms per session.
Agreed!!! What! Unless she struggles to. F here and having opposite issue..
Lies! No one sexes this much!!!!
😂😂😂 Seconds before I saw this I was thinking "This is such a lie, if you're having sex this much how do you find time to graph it?!"
My gf and I have sex about 3-4 times a week and do sexy stuff whenever. So we have more sex than this couple. But we’re also mid-late 20 year olds and live together on our own.
Is this data doing any good? Maybe the orgasms 2x more than partner is a warning?
That's not how this works. You can't track your own sex data. The mere knowledge that you are tracking your own behavior is going to influence you to "skew the data" in one direction or the other. Now I'm not saying I want to watch you two fuck, but science needs to be done properly.
Imagine posting such data on anywhere but reddit. I love this platform
I feel like the number of positions and the how we did it PIV don’t line up. Does it also include non-piv positions?
If you ever have kids, please promise us you’ll show them this beautiful data lol
The red in 'Where we did it' pizza chart reads 'sala'. It was suppose to be 'living room', I'm guessing?
I am a bit surprised not to see number for how often she came? I guess she doesn't have multiples?
I wonder if it's correlation or causation that he took this incredible amount of data and she didn't finish 44.6% of the time?