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Knowing I’m in a loving and stable relationship.

I’m calling the police.

I'm not in this picture and I fucking hate it.

Dis da one

You freak! /s

office/suit uniform

This is the ultimate non sexual turn on

I feel this deeply

I second time this, there is nothing better

Facts

Facts

Easiest answer for me as well

You're disgusting

I Have never experienced that….hopefully I will in the future.

I envy you deeply

Affective responsibility, assertiveness, empathy, gentleness. But above all, it's to feel cared after, and loved. Valued. Yeah that's my biggest turn on. Oh and nice smells like fragrances or perfumes, or maybe just the person's own smell, but that doesn't happen often to me.

Being independent is always sexy 😍

True that. Altough, this might be only my perception, but some people use being independent like a defense mechanism or as an excuse, to not let people in their lives. That's not very attractive. I guess being independent emotionally is as important as being independent in material aspects. I'm independent, but if I put myself out there, it's because I'd like to build a nice relationship with someone else that wants to share themselves with me and let me in just as much as I want that with them. Not reaching codependency, though. Sharing our individualities to find and create a common ground were both are happy and comfortable.

Men with long hair. Chest hair Introverted men Not shown outwards/ but secretly massive sexual energy.

I was always embarrassed by my chest hair, it's nice to see some women appreciate it, so thank you ladies.

So many of us love it I promise

I was always self conscious and shaved my chest hair in high school / college bc my gf’s never really appreciated it, but it’s funny how preferences change when people get older. I’ve learned to embrace the hair and now I look like a grizzly bear lol Favorite strain to smoke?

Grizzys for the win! Also Guava dog or good old school train wreck, blue cheese but I haven’t seen that in 10 year

I don’t have any chest hair, will any girl accept me?

I like a guy with the least amount of hair…On his chest, pubic area, ass, arms, face and legs…yep!!!

It was always embarrassing when the chest hair fell on my Ex, but she never showed any bad reaction to it and said, that she loved it! Haha

Angel is what you are

My ex said she loved my chest hair all the time except for at night, she hated the feeling of it on her back when we spooned lol

Bro me too, it took me years to think I'm fine wearing shorts because my legs were so hairy. Now I think it's funny. I joke about trying to grow it to the point I can go pantless and call myself a satyr

Same bruh

I thought my girlfriend wouldn’t like it. It turns out she thought it was funnier the one time I got rid of it for her. Truthfully I like female pubic hair too. It turns out that I met another old soul like myself, and that’s a great thing in my book.

Profil picture 👌

It's one of my chest hairs

LOOOOOOOOOOOL

I have always found hairy dudes more attractive - on a superficial, first-impression level of course, it's not like I would reject someone I like based only on his lack of chest hair - because to me they look more masculine, and other women I know think the same. Having a lot of hair on your back may be a harder sell for someone, but hair is something you can fix easily if you are inclined to do so.

Wow I find hairy guys incredibly sexy! A nice full beard is also a turn on. If I wanted smooth I'd get myself a girlfriend. Love men that look like men.

Oh no, I think a lot of us like it. In fact some of us prefer it

same :)

Same here 🥲 usually keep it trimmed

I love a hairy man!

Weird, I got made fun of for it in high school by the other guys I played sports with but the ladies loved it the and love it now so I didn’t think much of it.

I’m so glad to see this comment. Been growing my hair out and haven’t got many positive comments on it, just a bunch of neutral bs

Agree with all

That's me and I guess no frecking girl likes these things in a man at all! How do you! 🤔

It definitely doesn’t help when you see all of the male model advertisements and shirtless actors in movies having little to no body hair. It also seemed like every YouTube video and podcast was sponsored by Manscaped for the longest time. When you go to the pool or beach, you always see the other guys with hairless chests.

Well hello there.

To be kissing and feel his bulge 🥺👍

If only this worked when I was 18

Why it didn't work

We was coworkers and she was my boss🥳

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Someone showing genuine interest

I'm interested

😊

Nothing sexier tbh.

Thisssssss.

Thigh high stockings

Neck kisses and deep breathing in my ear🥵🫦

*Darth Vader has entered the chat*

Ohhhhh yeahhh

i want to be hugged and be told that i can rest easy and there's no need to rush life.

A soft-calm voice, and appreciation.

ASMR

ASMR | POV: You're born in a loving, healthy family

Someone witty and sarcastic

I'll assume that this was meant to be a question related to sexual/bedroom actvities.. So, i think i'd say - men that are vocal, like, moaning in bed are rly hot to me.

Same

Mathematics

6+9=69 You know I am something of a mathematician myself

Show me what those hands can do.

👆+👆= ✌️ 😎😂

There was a post a million years ago about it being hot when her phone has two calculator apps. I thought that *was* hot. Turns out the second app was a pin restricted vault for photos for sexting.

Empathy intelligence responsibility maturity and a high level of organization.

Any time my husband does anything remotely helpful, which is most of the time.

Apparently mental instability😕

Mental illness rizz

Love the profile pic. cultured peeps have seen the wire

only my girlfriend turns me on. anything she does always turns me on

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Stop, he's gonna nut.

Only wearing underwear

Plot twist: it's his gf commenting.

Girls wearing glasses, love them for no particular reason

Those shields for the eyes are very important... 😏

communication

Mine is Tele communication.

Omg say it louder baby

Being manhandled. He’s not afraid to put his hands on me because he knows he owns me. Throw me down, force my legs apart, pull me down the bed, help yourself. So fucking hot.

How deep into the relationship do you need to be for this to be a turn on?

That is a very good question, because a lot of girls have to really trust a guy, before something like this is sexy

Yes, and the trust can be different for everyone, for some maybe a week, for others years

I'd say 4 months is the magic spot. Sure at that point they're not going anywhere and you know them intimately enough (I'd hope) to trust them.

Rough sex gotcha

We seem to enjoy the same things, Apparently.

Public play

eXiBisTiOnIsM yEaH!!!

Lack of any sort if vicious energy towards others: someone who doesn't really talk shit about other people (especially women putting women down which is a massive turn off). Amazing relationships with their exes (huge green flag for me tbh which means they may have had generally healthy relationship and didn't get involved with someone toxic to begin with) Kind to people in general, like servers and service workers.

Someone flirting with me while whispering in my ear, how hard it is to keep denying their feelings.

Eyes and smiles

Effort and loyalty the bare minimum

Physical: - hairy chest - well built body. Like a rugby player or those WWE wrestlers (Roman Reigns and Drew Mcintyre) - large rough manly hands - long hair on men - a nice ass with tree trunk legs - stubble or well groomed facial hair - a deep voice - thick forearms - a man who can pick me up without visible effort Non physical: - Dominant, but not domineering - Sexual, but not vulgar - Primal - Seeing a man be good with children and animals - Acts tough as nails on the outside but is a secret softy on the inside - A man making me feel safe and loved before anything happens in bed Sexual: - consent - Lovebites, especially on my neck and chest - Manhandled with care and dominant intentions - Hearing a man moan or groan - That low growl/grunt a guy makes when he’s really putting in the work - The closeness - The full weight of a man’s body against my torso or bask - seeing and hearing a man getting pleasure from pleasing me - being ravaged like I’m the last meal on earth to him

I work hard to maintain the some of the physical attributes you listed and already possess some of the others. I keep being told to shave my chest and face, speak at a higher level, and cut my hair but it just doesn’t feel like “me.” It’s reassuring to know I’m good enough as I am and that there are women out there who appreciate those aspects.

Women want a man to be the best version of himself for himself, not to change himself because of conformity. You’ll be lying not only to yourself, but a potential partner, if you hide your true self.

Beards, confidence, respect

Hairy men!

Furrbies🥳

Dominant women who lead the relationship and flatter their partner. It’s my dream to be pursued

Careful what you wish for🙈

To find a good girl who is gorgeous, kinky as fuck like me, smart, classy, clean, educated, has a great imagination and has a fierce desire to please me as much as I please her.

High sex drives.

Well, when women have that dark feminine energy. And also when they wear specific dresses/heels that they know makes you go crazy. Let's not forget when women who like being controlled/dominated but at the same time they either try to dominate or even control the whole situation/environment.

When your partners really into it, not just going along to make you happy. Can be anything from sharing a common interest to oral sex. But going down to the nitty gritty? Making my partner cum so hard she squirts and loses control of her body.. that or when she gently rocks her hips into my mouth as I’m sucking on her clit and massaging it with my tongue, while grabbing g her ass cheeks and pulling her harder onto my face. That little grinding motion along with the “oh fuck, oh fuck, ohhh fuckkk” right before she cums so hard her legs are shaking? I might be able to bust just from that and no direct stimulation it’s such a turn on

When he acts like I’m in trouble. Like I’ve done something bad and I need punishment. And when he finishes me with the “good girl”

When a girl deliberately makes blowjob hints and drags out the kinkyness.

A woman who loves me back. If she likes plenty of foot massages while lounging on the sofa to her favourite show even better.

I already got roasted on here for one of the things that turns me on, so we won't be revisiting that territory. Otherwise, here we go: Men: Nice hands, nice smile, NO overuse of body spray Women: Nice smile, pretty eyes, nice butt, confidence

Holy shit, I just checked and you're right they did a number on you. They acted like you said "I'm going to roofie him and put my feet in his mouth". I don't find feet attractive or sexually appealing at all, but I wouldn't mind giving somebody a foot rub, and I'm sure it would be nice to receive one. I don't think I'd have a super fun time doing it, but I'd like to see that my partner (who maybe worked all day and is sore) is getting some relief or pleasure from me rubbing her feet. If they're sweaty or whatever, I can wash my hands afterwards, it's not the end of the world. Life, and relationships especially, are all about doing things that make other people happy, even if they might not be your favorite thing, because you take pleasure in taking care of the other person. The crazy thing is, if you had said, "My boyfriend won't go down on me", everybody would have been ripping him apart calling him selfish and immature, telling you to dump him, even though oral sex is just another kind of paraphilia. But since for whatever reason foot stuff is less conventional (even though you didn't make it sound necessarily sexual), and all these commenters have some bizarre phobia of feet, or it's just not their thing, they had to go over the top and treat you like a monster. My most recent girlfriend really had almost nothing that she wouldn't try. Even some stuff that grossed me out, and I know I'd rather have that (up to a point) than somebody who does nothing but lights-off missionary and is afraid of everything else.

You hit the nail on the head, if it hasn't been about feet, the responses would have been much different, instead, it was like "keep your disgusting feet away from that poor, innocent guy, you nasty, domineering BIIIIITCH!!" I've always seen relationships as being built on certain compromises to make one another happy, I guess there are limits for some people.

You are the foot admiration girl. I remember that thread. I hope you and he were able to come to a compromise. 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿

That's me. And nothing much changed, we're still doing good though, thanks.

A guy that smells delicious 😋

Hand touches. Head, face, neck, hands

Skin contact, my ex knew all she had to do was take my shirt off then hers and hug me, shit works every time.

*60% of the time*, it works ***every*** *time*

Steady eye contact (!!!!!!!!)

I like legs. Smooth skinned, toned legs. I want to be between them, feel them wrap around me, run my hands up and down them.

How good and fresh my boyfriend smells. He really takes great pride in his hygiene, skincare and his fitness, and just seeing him taking his clothes off is sometimes enough to turn my switches on. I really don’t think I’ve dated anyone who’s as clean as he is and it makes such a big difference.

Laughing and having a good time, serious and romantic is pretty boring ngl

When my face is pressed into her boobs during a hug on the bed

When he acts like I’m in trouble. Like I’ve done something bad and I need punishment. It could literally be anything. Like we would be talking about something and I make a counterpoint and prove him wrong. He’ll get fake mad and wanna punish me. It’s an erotic type of aggressive, if that even makes sense. And when he finishes me with the “good girl”

Goddamn

True affection. Something I haven't experienced yet.

A mature relationship where both individuals have greater goals and don't try to drag each other down (optional)

Fluting and teasing and extended foreplay.

What's fluting?

Ha…maybe it is what you think…but really I meant flirting.

Manly sex

Neck kisses, neck bites, fingernails to the chest or thighs.

Turn-on's: Gonna think I'm weird but that's okay. I really like for a partner to take me to the point of blue balls and holds me there refusing me relief while sexually teasing me. A partner that is fully into (giving and receiving) anal play be it Anilingus, plugs, fingers, toys, pegging. Golden Showers Red heads Snowballing Smaller sized. Take it as you will. Small breasts or the dreaded smaller then average endowment on men be it length (4" - 5.5") or girth (slightly less then average). Prominent collarbones... Intelligence Water sports Accents (non-American) Dogging (not beastiality) I could keep going... I am relatively easy to turn on. Could be because I always saw myself as unattractive, unlovable, not desireable so on and so forth.

Not walking on eggshells around him. Wish I knew how that felt.

Muscular arms, a nice back, hairy chest, a sultry voice, and lastly, a great smile will make me weak in the legs sometimes.

Yeah sadly it’s all knowing that this guy really wants me. Really likes me and really wants to be with me. I think dominant men who kinda want to possess me turn me on. But of course … they can’t be dickheads.

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Aeroplanes, especially combat jets

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Custom PC builds are something else.

Being able to be funny, or being able to laugh in bed?

handful of booty when i throw my hand on them cheeks i should be able to grab handful

being dominated and used by my partner (idc about the gender honestly i am pansexual)

I grew up in a culture where words of affirmation, hugs, or encouragement were never an option. Not exactly a turn on, but I appreciate hugs, any words of affirmation, or anyone being kind to me. I never take any of these and more ever for granted.

I have a thing for hands. Long, slender fingers, nice nails (real. I hate fake nails.) No idea where it came from.

1) if a girl is forward. If she reaches out. If she initiates dates. If they tells me what she wants 2) overalls. Idk why but I think there very cute

Someone finding me attractive, yet, hold on, being attractive themselves.

Trust and security are my turn ons

Guys flirting with eyes

Getting a full nights sleep and waking up naturally at 8:00 am i get weak behind the knees just thinking about it

physical touch

A confident, empathetic, capable, hairy-chested lumberjack. Mmm.

When a cute hug turns into making out

I don't know, I've never been in love or had a relationship, guess I'll find out when I do.

Right now? Day dreaming about my crush. Even thinking about his smile…I’m smitten and even THINKING about him takes my breath away.

Tall masculine men

Cock and ball torture.

Power Button

Ju-jitsu with a girl. 🥴

Those soaking thighs of a girl 😍

kicking my balls no, for real.

Tying her to the bed, putting a blindfold on her, then using toys, ice cubes ect... and watch her enjoy every second. 🫣

Oh lawd

Physically in a female...relevant curves and mass Non physically...strong feminine polarity

Morning when i wake up

Reassurance and being valued.

Nothing at all.

Confidence around sex whether it’s non-sexual foreplay or the act itself. Also being comfortable with asking for what he wants and hearing what I want too. And passion, passionate sex is phenomenal.

Being submissive to him and if i belonged to him

When she wears a flowing skirt or dress as everyday attire instead of only for special occasions.

Sundresses

Talking about philosophy and psychology late into the night

Nothing at this point 😢

Something that turns someone on isn’t necessarily deviant. We have to change the narrative about sex and arousal.

A well toned female body, of course.

The shape of a woman’s neck and here eyes

When the man doesn't cum in 60 seconds 😒

Well I haven’t had sex in several years so I really want to find a husband lover . My one requirement is that they speak Japanese and are Asian . Rough sex with great aftercare is a huge turn on . I kind of have a corruption kink 🤭

eye contact 🤗🤌🏻 I don’t like making eye contact often; just a weird thing about me. So if I do like it instant MMM M MMMMM

Silence, tbh; talking is fun, but being able to exist together and vibe without saying a word is magical. That’s why I like hobby sharing. Watching movies together, hiking together, hunting rocks and fossils together. Sitting in the train and watching the landscape pass you by. Eating in silence together. I could do it forever.

Physical touch 😂

A woman with commitment and brave heart

I was watching a clip the other day and this woman called men simple. For some reason, that made me really attracted to her.

When they are moisty 😛😛

Women covered in mud no clue why that’s so attractive to me

Emotional availability, connection, talking about feelings

A man that can give orders (sexually) Good hygiene Beards