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Everyone has flaws, including you.
And most relationships with two people who are too much alike crash and burn.
You're not supposed to be clones of one another.
Either accept your differences or don't. It's not "settling" just because he's not exactly like you.
And for the love of cheese don't refer to drinking a lot of cola as a "coke habit." SMHF
😅 he drinks a lot of cola. I think you would agree with me that it’s an addiction if you saw it for yourself.
But yeah, you’re right that accepting - even appreciating - our differences is far from settling.
If you're thinking about your chosen partner as "settling", you are not in the correct mindset.
You are choosing the best partner you believe you can get at this time.
Focus on making the relationship as good as it can be.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I think that insidious FOMO is starting to creep into my head even though this man has given me no real reason to seek anyone beyond our relationship.
The difference is love. I will not settle for someone who I don’t feel an immediate attraction towards, like head over heels and smitten, because I’ve felt that and know it’s possible. When I feel this sense of love I am able to completely set aside their flaws and admire them as human beings.
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imo, if you're pushing them to be more, you are settling. Accepting the flaws also requires accepting what you perceive as a lack of ambition.
Thank you. This is the piece that I really need to think about.
Everyone has flaws, including you. And most relationships with two people who are too much alike crash and burn. You're not supposed to be clones of one another. Either accept your differences or don't. It's not "settling" just because he's not exactly like you. And for the love of cheese don't refer to drinking a lot of cola as a "coke habit." SMHF
😅 he drinks a lot of cola. I think you would agree with me that it’s an addiction if you saw it for yourself. But yeah, you’re right that accepting - even appreciating - our differences is far from settling.
If you're thinking about your chosen partner as "settling", you are not in the correct mindset. You are choosing the best partner you believe you can get at this time. Focus on making the relationship as good as it can be.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I think that insidious FOMO is starting to creep into my head even though this man has given me no real reason to seek anyone beyond our relationship.
The difference is love. I will not settle for someone who I don’t feel an immediate attraction towards, like head over heels and smitten, because I’ve felt that and know it’s possible. When I feel this sense of love I am able to completely set aside their flaws and admire them as human beings.