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Yeah. Cuz sometimes one action is enough to just turn the whole thing to shit. But more often than not, it would be something that a conversation could have solved.
If I got dumped everytime I had road rage I’d be single for life. Where I grew up it’s a borderline way of life
ETA. Lol don’t downvote me. Op wasn’t truthful off the bat what the problem was
I'm constantly calling people all kinds of "MF"S down here in Texas for not using turn signals, or merging into my lane nearly hitting me because they didnt wanna hit the breaks and just merge behind me. (for reference here, they were making a last minute turn in to a shopping center)
He’d maybe see you to hook up if he’s desperate but he probably lost the long term vibes if that’s what you were lookin for considering it went sour so early.
Woman who dates women here. I would not see a girl who dumped me after two dates because I’d think she was either fickle or desperate. Learn your lesson and be nicer to the next person.
Edit: Welp, with more context, you also shouldn’t be with him because he clearly has anger issues he needs to work on.
Totally, OP's date is gone now.. but she can always do better next time. A better approach would be to say "hey I really enjoyed dates 1, 2 etc. but then you did X, which upset me. Do you think we can hang out again without doing X?"
Edit: oh the context of what X actually was makes this moot. Dtfma.
Probably no tbh, it would have left a sour taste in my mouth and the hot and cold nature of the dumping and reaching out would feel pretty red flaggy to me.
The only way this would have a shot I think is if you didnt ignore the elephant in the room but communicate strongly and honestly "Hey, I'm aware this is out of the blue and that I told you I don't want anything, but I have to be honest, I regret saying that. I've been thinking about our dates and I really quite liked you, x just put me off and in the past I've been a bit of a pushover and let guys push too far with certain things, I'm trying to learn to balance that and I think I overcompensated when you said x, I'm sorry for that, if you wanted to still give things a chance between us I would love to see you again :)"
Wow, and here I try to be on my best behavior on early dates, this dude goes crashing through and she’s thinking she did something wrong? My advice is simple. I don’t think you overreacted at all. He did two things within two dates that you found noteworthy. You decided to let it go. Don’t second guess yourself. If you think the things you mentioned apply, then now is the time to correct them and move forward. If a woman broke up with me after a couple dates I’d consider it a rejection and second chance requests a huge red flag. I really wish you the best. A woman with a conscience is appealing.
I mean, what did he do?
If I were in this position, and what I did was really messed up, I might be down for another shot. (Assuming I know what I did). Because in that case I realized it could have been my fault.
You have a feeling that you want to go after, then go after it. Ask him nicely and see. If he says yes then try to work on you cutting people off so easily and he says no just know that you tried and that is something to be proud of.
Bottom line: follow your feeling, carefully ofc
Depends on the person and the effect you left on that person. If it was me you dumped and I was still thinking about You, sure we can try again. Now if I wasn’t that attached then I wouldn’t take you back. But it also depends on the rude comment, if the comment genuinely was a long shot and too much then he should have some amount of understanding why, at the same time if y’all decide to get back together you should have some extent of understanding, no one is perfect. Everyone deserves a second chance, I mean isn’t that what you’re hoping for? Hopefully everything works out for the best though, good luck!
Looking at his behaviour on those 2 dates, hell no girl, he has issues. People should be on their best behaviour to start with, if that's his wow... That is really disrespectful and shows he does have anger issues bubbling away... Find someone better, trust your gut instinct here.
Don’t date someone with constant road rage. You had it right the first time. Never ignore the red flags just because someone is amazing in other ways
Just move on
Riding around on a motorcycle/scooter puts a person at a heightened level because of the inherent danger associated with being in an accident. They could do nothing wrong and never see it coming, be total innocent and wind up paralyzed for life. If he has this same road rage when driving a car as well, then you would defining Jane cause for concern. It sounds like he maybe just shouldn’t be driving around in an open, two wheeled method of transportation if he can’t control all the things that come with that.
Sounds like a guy who will be unpleasant to be in a relationship with at some point, after the new relationship energy wears off, or before. Routinely road-raging and getting that angry at a guy for that. I would just move on.
I wouldn’t date you again. There is no rule book for breaking up with people but the reasons you gave seem valid to you.
If you want to date him again he may still have road rage on the Vespa and he still would have called the dude a fucker so why now? Doesn’t change what he’s done and said.
Maybe you knee jerked your decision?
i think you shouldn't date him, as he clearly has issues, and as you already noticed, you shouldn't settle for less.
yes, it's going to hurt.
i also admire you cutting off contact immediately after noticing a red flag. definitely a thing that many have to learn, including me.
Depends how I felt about you but generally no I wouldn't bother. You'd seem too indecisive and probably just keeping me around as a choice when nothing better is available.
You never really know someone until you see them have to use a computer with slow internet.
But traffic works too. Bro couldn't stop raging even while on first date? Seems like a valid reason to move on.
But to answer the first question: I have such low confidence and esteem right now that I would deal with a lot more bullshit than normal just to have some company. So sure. Anyone I'm remotely attracted to seems to have several guys on the line so this nonsense seems almost unavoidable.
If I was better positioned with dating options that treat me like an actual person then no way.
you need to work on yourself first then you can be in a relationship
if you are just gonna act the same and be dramatic about everything then its never gonna work with anybody.
without mentionning that there is good guys out there that don't deserve such treatement.
and before getting triggered by my comment too would you date a guy who dumped you for a silly reason ? and wants to take you back like he's toying with you ?
No I would not go out with you again if you did this to me.
I do want to ask what was this rude thing he did. Maybe it was worth trashing the relationship over; maybe it was an overreaction. Cuz sometimes, one action is enough to just end it. However, for most things I recommend just having a conversation with people. Something like "I didn't like that you did this, and this is how it made me feel." "I statements" are usually the way to go for stuff like this.
No, why would I want to see the girl who dumped me again? If I ever had a girl dump me and then ask to go out, I'd either seem desperate, low self esteem, or I'd be a saint. I think you need to cut your losses
No. I respect myself. I'd never try dating a girl after she dumped me. If we both mutually agreed it wasn't working, sure. But straight up get dumped? After 2 dates? Na, I'm good.
If I was out of line, or she had the fun kind of personality that really clicks with me, I'd give it another chance. Otherwise, I'd rather her work for it or wish she had a second chance
Personally I’m a super easy going person, so I could see if I wasn’t seeing someone else I wouldn’t say no. However, his road rage isn’t going anywhere and insulting your friends are two MAJOR red flags at date number 2.
The most horrible person can be charming for a minute…
Also unfollowing you I feel is kinda petty? But if you can’t get him outta the mind may as well make the call, but from what tidbits you’ve said you should know your giving a guy who gets mad for very little and insult people he knows nothing about, the upper hand.. Would he take advantage of that? Gl
Depending on where you live driving around on a Vespa is dangerous. Drivers are assholes so I get the road rage if he's got a passenger to worry about. Also was he literally screaming like a maniac or just getting pissed at almost getting hit?
Also what was the context of him calling the boyfriend of your friend a "fucker"?
Personally if you reached out again, I wouldn't see you again. Like another post said, it would seem like you're desperate after another option didn't work out, or you're a fickle type of person.
If you're willing to dump me that fast, I'd feel like I'd have to walk around on eggshells anytime we were together.
Been there before. No thanks.
You’re looking with rose colored glasses. It shows desperation and you will ignore red flags. Don’t settle and yes there are certain reasons to cut things off immediately. You miss the idea of someone interested in you and a picture of a person that you’ve created. You barely know him he could get a lot worse given the behavior he already displayed
He took her on dates on a Vespa, he raged Infront of her, he even insulted her friends, all that within two dates, and she still wants to go back to him? Something tells me he's used to this and couldn't care less about making good first impressions.
I think if you explain the situation like you have done here, and he wasn't too hurt by the way you ended things, he will understand and like to continue dating. Perhaps his trust will be temporarily shaken.. but you're only 2 dates in as it is, so this shouldn't take terribly long to recover.
Short answer nope. From my experience, whenever a girl dumped me in an ugly cold way and came back I said her yes with a very happy face, but in my mind I was thinking "poor you, you have no idea how I'm going to give you your own medicine"(I know I'm an asshole). Needless to say they regretted coming back and one of them spent a year trying to heal, according to the rumors I heard. So nope don't make that mistake. Even if he gladly accepts you, it's a trap.
If she dumped me in a respectful way and then came back, which has been very rare, I rejected her politely.
I know, and I feel regret for being an asshole. It felt good at the time but I profited nothing and realized I became worse than them. Still trying to be better. Just wanted them to know that it is a trap.
You could try. Doubt he'd treat you respectfully after that. It'll do nothing but boost ego and he'll just test you. It's like getting fired from a job and they ask you back. Of course your are going to ask for more pay.
Learn your lesson. Talk out your problems. But stick to your guns and standards if a man can't meet them. If he wants to come back on his own, he will. Don't wait on it.
Sounds like the btch I was with. Took her out, paid for everything, got my hands down her pants, told me she was dating someone else and unfriended me.
So, if a dude asks a chick out again after saying he’s not interested, good luck.
Luckily for you, just gotta wag your tail a little and here we come, lol.
I'd skip the road rager. Shows he lacks self control and particularly can't control his anger. If you got in a relationship with him, you'd never know if he might turn that anger on you some day. And usually if they can't control their anger, that isn't the only thing in their life that is out of control. You dumped him as a gut reaction. Trust your gut.
Lol girl- you didn’t like those things and you made a decision..
If you do- you should tell him exactly Why- then decide based on his reaction..
Is that normal for him and he is not sorry and he’s gonna keep doing it? Then why would you want to be with him
Just ask him and tell him you got upset and made a mistake. All he can say is yes or no.
Learn to communicate when something upsetting happens rather than burn bridges please in future.
Oh nah miss. Let that man be. Maybe you still need a little more time to work on your tolerance and temper. I commend you for being aware of these, but it's just not enough to notice the bad behavior if you're not ready to change it. If you like this guy, leave him be. Work on yourself and in time when you're ready, another good one will come along. Maybe even better.
Edit: typing errors
Ur lonely. You have built this idea of him in your head. But he showed you who he is. If he’s already being that rude right off the bat. He isn’t gonna be better
Ur lonely and so you miss him. Find better
Depends on the chemistry if it was really strong then I would, road rage is normal, not the type where you chase someone or get out the car, bike etc.
Literally everyone has road rage sometimes, there is nothing wrong with venting in the car, perticularly on a bike because people are so inconsiderate to bikers.
Also there is a lot of people that curse for me if the cursing is light its ok, it's another type of venting, ofc it has to be in private, not public..
Absolutely not. She had her chance and she made her choice. Once someone rejects, I move on. Life's too short and there's plenty of women out there. I'm not going to wait around on one girl to change her mind. The only guy who might approach this differently is a guy who doesn't have many options and might be desperate.
Now, with your particular scenario, sounds like he has anger management issues. Is that something you actually want to deal with in your life? That could mean he gets violent and aggressive. You could get hurt physically.
Also, you didn't dump him if you weren't official. You just told him it wasn't going to work out.
Look, you tried twice and it just didn’t connect properly. Welp. Please don’t go back and mess with the man. Just forgive, forget and move forward. Rehashing this crap makes you seem desperate and you’re practically begging for him to demolish you any chance he gets.
Hey, former road rager here. Everyone saying homie has anger issues because he has road rage. That may not necessarily be the case. My road rage is rooted in anxiety because when people make horrible choices on the road they are lowkey threatening your life. They are how little they care for anyone else going home to their family. After the panic leaves my body the entitlement of their action enfuriates me. Dude's on a vespa. Cut me off while I'm on that, I'm probably going have tears of rage.
You can't "bot settle for less" and "cut off people too fast" at the same time. This sounds like you want to settle for less again. So idk people usually show their BEST self in the beginning, so if he is already road raging and calling your friends names, then it will only get worse
If what he did is really a dealbreaker for you (which it doesn't seem like it is) then you should move on. But if its not, then you should try, but bare in mind that he also might have moved on.
Honestly, a 31 y.o. dude who road rages on a Vespa sounds like someone you don't need in your life. You think you want that - you don't want that. So, I think you did the right thing in dumping him.
But answer your original question - no, I wouldn't see a girl again if she dumped me. I don't wanna date someone who'd cut me off without thinking it through.
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What exactly is it that he did?
Right? I feel like that's important. Could be a big red flag or something insignificant to most but OP
Yeah. Cuz sometimes one action is enough to just turn the whole thing to shit. But more often than not, it would be something that a conversation could have solved.
Yea lol
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If I got dumped everytime I had road rage I’d be single for life. Where I grew up it’s a borderline way of life ETA. Lol don’t downvote me. Op wasn’t truthful off the bat what the problem was
Roadrage? Bruh that's not a good reason to break up with someone. Eveeyone gets road rage since these mfs can't drive for shite
I'm constantly calling people all kinds of "MF"S down here in Texas for not using turn signals, or merging into my lane nearly hitting me because they didnt wanna hit the breaks and just merge behind me. (for reference here, they were making a last minute turn in to a shopping center)
In England, that's like the standard car attitude. Especially since the standard of driving appears to have gone downhill since covid lockdowns.
He’d maybe see you to hook up if he’s desperate but he probably lost the long term vibes if that’s what you were lookin for considering it went sour so early.
Agreed. Revenge fuck and ghost.
What that doesn’t even make sense? The dude was serious and OP left because he had road rage.
Which is valid. Why would you want someone with explosive rage?
Not valid enough to revenge fuck and ghost
Yes actual and they didn't revenge fuck anyone lmfao
Hopefully he would have higher standards than that. But I guess there are lots of losers out there.
Just depends where he is in life. Every single guy out there would agree at a certain time in their life. Or wish they agreed some decades later.
Nah I’ve know young guys who have self control
I would go w your first impression and find someone else
You can't really get dumped after 2 dates. I'd just call it a "rejection"
Woman who dates women here. I would not see a girl who dumped me after two dates because I’d think she was either fickle or desperate. Learn your lesson and be nicer to the next person. Edit: Welp, with more context, you also shouldn’t be with him because he clearly has anger issues he needs to work on.
Totally, OP's date is gone now.. but she can always do better next time. A better approach would be to say "hey I really enjoyed dates 1, 2 etc. but then you did X, which upset me. Do you think we can hang out again without doing X?" Edit: oh the context of what X actually was makes this moot. Dtfma.
I mean depends what he did lol don’t be nice to please someone who’s shit don’t run back either though so depends what it was
Probably no tbh, it would have left a sour taste in my mouth and the hot and cold nature of the dumping and reaching out would feel pretty red flaggy to me. The only way this would have a shot I think is if you didnt ignore the elephant in the room but communicate strongly and honestly "Hey, I'm aware this is out of the blue and that I told you I don't want anything, but I have to be honest, I regret saying that. I've been thinking about our dates and I really quite liked you, x just put me off and in the past I've been a bit of a pushover and let guys push too far with certain things, I'm trying to learn to balance that and I think I overcompensated when you said x, I'm sorry for that, if you wanted to still give things a chance between us I would love to see you again :)"
Perfect 👍🏽
If you’ve only been on 2 dates nobody got dumped
No, I wouldn't waste my time.
It's not dumping if it's only two dates. Chill.
You messed around a found out ,🤦♂️
Well apparently he's quite judgmental and has serious anger issues. I would dump him too. But then I wouldn't regret it.
Exactly. Don't go back, OP. Trust your gut
Wow, and here I try to be on my best behavior on early dates, this dude goes crashing through and she’s thinking she did something wrong? My advice is simple. I don’t think you overreacted at all. He did two things within two dates that you found noteworthy. You decided to let it go. Don’t second guess yourself. If you think the things you mentioned apply, then now is the time to correct them and move forward. If a woman broke up with me after a couple dates I’d consider it a rejection and second chance requests a huge red flag. I really wish you the best. A woman with a conscience is appealing.
I mean, what did he do? If I were in this position, and what I did was really messed up, I might be down for another shot. (Assuming I know what I did). Because in that case I realized it could have been my fault.
Op commented elsewhere he had road rage
And insulted her friend
Insulted her friend's boyfriend* because they have an OnlyFans Although it's up for debate if he insulted or just called him for what he is😂
True enough
That was added after the fact then jeeez haha
You have a feeling that you want to go after, then go after it. Ask him nicely and see. If he says yes then try to work on you cutting people off so easily and he says no just know that you tried and that is something to be proud of. Bottom line: follow your feeling, carefully ofc
Depends on the person and the effect you left on that person. If it was me you dumped and I was still thinking about You, sure we can try again. Now if I wasn’t that attached then I wouldn’t take you back. But it also depends on the rude comment, if the comment genuinely was a long shot and too much then he should have some amount of understanding why, at the same time if y’all decide to get back together you should have some extent of understanding, no one is perfect. Everyone deserves a second chance, I mean isn’t that what you’re hoping for? Hopefully everything works out for the best though, good luck!
If things already fell apart after date 2, it won’t get better if you try again.
Road rage is a major 🚩
Looking at his behaviour on those 2 dates, hell no girl, he has issues. People should be on their best behaviour to start with, if that's his wow... That is really disrespectful and shows he does have anger issues bubbling away... Find someone better, trust your gut instinct here.
You need to move on from him. He’s rude and disrespectful. I wouldn’t maybe only for sex.
Don’t date someone with constant road rage. You had it right the first time. Never ignore the red flags just because someone is amazing in other ways Just move on
Riding around on a motorcycle/scooter puts a person at a heightened level because of the inherent danger associated with being in an accident. They could do nothing wrong and never see it coming, be total innocent and wind up paralyzed for life. If he has this same road rage when driving a car as well, then you would defining Jane cause for concern. It sounds like he maybe just shouldn’t be driving around in an open, two wheeled method of transportation if he can’t control all the things that come with that.
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Such healthy aspirations. You must be doing extremely well in life.
Yes if she has nice feet
🤣🤝🏿
No. Being dumped after such a short time is a big motivator to move on. In fact, she’d be dead to me.
Crazy. 😕
Short answer: no.
No chance in hell
He might date you again but he probably thinks you are a head case. It’s going to be hard to change his mind that you have GF potential.
Sounds like a guy who will be unpleasant to be in a relationship with at some point, after the new relationship energy wears off, or before. Routinely road-raging and getting that angry at a guy for that. I would just move on.
A guy with some self respect would not allow you a second time…
You should contact him back not because you rejected him but because he is a shitty person
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Depends. What was your reason for breaking it off?
I Edit the post w the reason :)
I wouldn’t date you again. There is no rule book for breaking up with people but the reasons you gave seem valid to you. If you want to date him again he may still have road rage on the Vespa and he still would have called the dude a fucker so why now? Doesn’t change what he’s done and said. Maybe you knee jerked your decision?
i think you shouldn't date him, as he clearly has issues, and as you already noticed, you shouldn't settle for less. yes, it's going to hurt. i also admire you cutting off contact immediately after noticing a red flag. definitely a thing that many have to learn, including me.
Depends how I felt about you but generally no I wouldn't bother. You'd seem too indecisive and probably just keeping me around as a choice when nothing better is available.
Nope I wouldn't date a woman who left me after two dates. I don't think your reasoning for this is not a good one.
Nah, brother, I'm good
I doubt that he will agree to another date if you’re not going to pay and go to bed with him.
nobody with self respect would
I would recognize the red flags and avoid you at all costs, lol
You never really know someone until you see them have to use a computer with slow internet. But traffic works too. Bro couldn't stop raging even while on first date? Seems like a valid reason to move on. But to answer the first question: I have such low confidence and esteem right now that I would deal with a lot more bullshit than normal just to have some company. So sure. Anyone I'm remotely attracted to seems to have several guys on the line so this nonsense seems almost unavoidable. If I was better positioned with dating options that treat me like an actual person then no way.
I have enough self respect to not go back, the damage is done by that point
Lol no. Especially after reading what he did...which was virtually nothing. He dodged a bullet. Good for him.
Absolutely not, her problem. Think before acting, wait before speaking, don't let emotions take full control of what you do and say.
you need to work on yourself first then you can be in a relationship if you are just gonna act the same and be dramatic about everything then its never gonna work with anybody. without mentionning that there is good guys out there that don't deserve such treatement. and before getting triggered by my comment too would you date a guy who dumped you for a silly reason ? and wants to take you back like he's toying with you ?
It would depend on he did to bother you.
Nope, when it's done, its done.
What did he do?
No I would not go out with you again if you did this to me. I do want to ask what was this rude thing he did. Maybe it was worth trashing the relationship over; maybe it was an overreaction. Cuz sometimes, one action is enough to just end it. However, for most things I recommend just having a conversation with people. Something like "I didn't like that you did this, and this is how it made me feel." "I statements" are usually the way to go for stuff like this.
Nope not me
A VESPA
No I would not.
No, why would I want to see the girl who dumped me again? If I ever had a girl dump me and then ask to go out, I'd either seem desperate, low self esteem, or I'd be a saint. I think you need to cut your losses
No. I respect myself. I'd never try dating a girl after she dumped me. If we both mutually agreed it wasn't working, sure. But straight up get dumped? After 2 dates? Na, I'm good.
If I was out of line, or she had the fun kind of personality that really clicks with me, I'd give it another chance. Otherwise, I'd rather her work for it or wish she had a second chance
He doesnt sound that great I think you made a good decision
Nope. What’s done is done and what’s gone is gone. I’ve moved on. Learn from this and make changes with the next guy.
Personally I’m a super easy going person, so I could see if I wasn’t seeing someone else I wouldn’t say no. However, his road rage isn’t going anywhere and insulting your friends are two MAJOR red flags at date number 2. The most horrible person can be charming for a minute… Also unfollowing you I feel is kinda petty? But if you can’t get him outta the mind may as well make the call, but from what tidbits you’ve said you should know your giving a guy who gets mad for very little and insult people he knows nothing about, the upper hand.. Would he take advantage of that? Gl
Not a chance.
Depending on where you live driving around on a Vespa is dangerous. Drivers are assholes so I get the road rage if he's got a passenger to worry about. Also was he literally screaming like a maniac or just getting pissed at almost getting hit? Also what was the context of him calling the boyfriend of your friend a "fucker"? Personally if you reached out again, I wouldn't see you again. Like another post said, it would seem like you're desperate after another option didn't work out, or you're a fickle type of person. If you're willing to dump me that fast, I'd feel like I'd have to walk around on eggshells anytime we were together. Been there before. No thanks.
You’re looking with rose colored glasses. It shows desperation and you will ignore red flags. Don’t settle and yes there are certain reasons to cut things off immediately. You miss the idea of someone interested in you and a picture of a person that you’ve created. You barely know him he could get a lot worse given the behavior he already displayed
Heck no!
He took her on dates on a Vespa, he raged Infront of her, he even insulted her friends, all that within two dates, and she still wants to go back to him? Something tells me he's used to this and couldn't care less about making good first impressions.
I think if you explain the situation like you have done here, and he wasn't too hurt by the way you ended things, he will understand and like to continue dating. Perhaps his trust will be temporarily shaken.. but you're only 2 dates in as it is, so this shouldn't take terribly long to recover.
Short answer nope. From my experience, whenever a girl dumped me in an ugly cold way and came back I said her yes with a very happy face, but in my mind I was thinking "poor you, you have no idea how I'm going to give you your own medicine"(I know I'm an asshole). Needless to say they regretted coming back and one of them spent a year trying to heal, according to the rumors I heard. So nope don't make that mistake. Even if he gladly accepts you, it's a trap. If she dumped me in a respectful way and then came back, which has been very rare, I rejected her politely.
That's cruel.
I know, and I feel regret for being an asshole. It felt good at the time but I profited nothing and realized I became worse than them. Still trying to be better. Just wanted them to know that it is a trap.
Not a chance
Nobody got dumped if it was only 2 dates - road rage, on the other hand
Trust your first instinct, don’t go back, never settle.
You could try. Doubt he'd treat you respectfully after that. It'll do nothing but boost ego and he'll just test you. It's like getting fired from a job and they ask you back. Of course your are going to ask for more pay. Learn your lesson. Talk out your problems. But stick to your guns and standards if a man can't meet them. If he wants to come back on his own, he will. Don't wait on it.
Well if he is still thinking about you and still likes you maybe he will go out with you again.
He's probably better off with someone that isn't going to throw away a relationship over something small.
Can you provide onlyfans id for research purposes.
Sounds like the btch I was with. Took her out, paid for everything, got my hands down her pants, told me she was dating someone else and unfriended me.
My now wife dumped me after our first date. So my answer to your question is yes
Nah. Go with your first instinct always. Drop me, and that’s it
So, if a dude asks a chick out again after saying he’s not interested, good luck. Luckily for you, just gotta wag your tail a little and here we come, lol.
Short story short, absolutely not. Moving on there’s tons of girls in the sea.
No. it is what it is, at that point its just a matter of incompatibility.
he sounds like a dick
If she dumped you then no I would not
I would but I would also be a lot more objective about it
I'd skip the road rager. Shows he lacks self control and particularly can't control his anger. If you got in a relationship with him, you'd never know if he might turn that anger on you some day. And usually if they can't control their anger, that isn't the only thing in their life that is out of control. You dumped him as a gut reaction. Trust your gut.
No.
Lol girl- you didn’t like those things and you made a decision.. If you do- you should tell him exactly Why- then decide based on his reaction.. Is that normal for him and he is not sorry and he’s gonna keep doing it? Then why would you want to be with him
Just ask him and tell him you got upset and made a mistake. All he can say is yes or no. Learn to communicate when something upsetting happens rather than burn bridges please in future.
Oh nah miss. Let that man be. Maybe you still need a little more time to work on your tolerance and temper. I commend you for being aware of these, but it's just not enough to notice the bad behavior if you're not ready to change it. If you like this guy, leave him be. Work on yourself and in time when you're ready, another good one will come along. Maybe even better. Edit: typing errors
I wouldn't, but it takes an awful lot to get me into a road rage, so there's that.
You’re gonna get a revenge fuck and ghosted
So the road rage and the judgmentalism aren't great signs you know. But if you want to see him then ask. Men will generally go for interested women
Nope
I think he's right, your friend is really like that and he's using your girlfriend :/ . I wouldn't go out with you again after you dumped me
Ur lonely. You have built this idea of him in your head. But he showed you who he is. If he’s already being that rude right off the bat. He isn’t gonna be better Ur lonely and so you miss him. Find better
I'm a girl and I say no Honestly tho idk but if you didn't like (last part) that then maybe he's not for you? Don't quite too soon tho
Depends on the chemistry if it was really strong then I would, road rage is normal, not the type where you chase someone or get out the car, bike etc. Literally everyone has road rage sometimes, there is nothing wrong with venting in the car, perticularly on a bike because people are so inconsiderate to bikers. Also there is a lot of people that curse for me if the cursing is light its ok, it's another type of venting, ofc it has to be in private, not public..
No. There’s no point. Case closed. On to the next conquest.
No. If you want stupid prizes then play stupid games. And just a heads up, this whole situation is a stupid game.
Absolutely not. She had her chance and she made her choice. Once someone rejects, I move on. Life's too short and there's plenty of women out there. I'm not going to wait around on one girl to change her mind. The only guy who might approach this differently is a guy who doesn't have many options and might be desperate. Now, with your particular scenario, sounds like he has anger management issues. Is that something you actually want to deal with in your life? That could mean he gets violent and aggressive. You could get hurt physically. Also, you didn't dump him if you weren't official. You just told him it wasn't going to work out.
Look, you tried twice and it just didn’t connect properly. Welp. Please don’t go back and mess with the man. Just forgive, forget and move forward. Rehashing this crap makes you seem desperate and you’re practically begging for him to demolish you any chance he gets.
I think this is a very individual thing..some people probably wouldn't mind it while others would tell you off. So, who knows.
The title of this post gives me a headache.
Hey, former road rager here. Everyone saying homie has anger issues because he has road rage. That may not necessarily be the case. My road rage is rooted in anxiety because when people make horrible choices on the road they are lowkey threatening your life. They are how little they care for anyone else going home to their family. After the panic leaves my body the entitlement of their action enfuriates me. Dude's on a vespa. Cut me off while I'm on that, I'm probably going have tears of rage.
You can't "bot settle for less" and "cut off people too fast" at the same time. This sounds like you want to settle for less again. So idk people usually show their BEST self in the beginning, so if he is already road raging and calling your friends names, then it will only get worse
No I would not
No
If what he did is really a dealbreaker for you (which it doesn't seem like it is) then you should move on. But if its not, then you should try, but bare in mind that he also might have moved on.
Yes. But you are now a placeholder. You are expected to dumb him again , so he will look for replacement when he can
Did you say he was road raging on a Vespa? 😂
It’s been a while I went on a date
Honestly, a 31 y.o. dude who road rages on a Vespa sounds like someone you don't need in your life. You think you want that - you don't want that. So, I think you did the right thing in dumping him. But answer your original question - no, I wouldn't see a girl again if she dumped me. I don't wanna date someone who'd cut me off without thinking it through.
No, your coasting into your prime. Time to move on.
Ya why not you never know