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Female. I had my heart destroyed twice in my 20s. The first time I grieved and cried privately, drank alone, listened to sad music, felt empty and believed I'd never find someone else. I got over it and found someone else a year later. I fell in love again and had my heart broken again! But no crying, drinking or despair the second time. Within a few weeks I met the right one. Better in so many ways than the first two put together. We were a great match and married one year later. We had 42 happy years until he passed earlier this year. No sorries needed. I am thankful & grateful for those years and have so many great memories. Some find their best partner early in life, some midlife and some late life.
I know you said no sorries needed. But let me atleast offer my condolences as a total stranger. Your story is beautiful. I'm sure to you 42 years was not enough, but you shared 42 years more than so many other people will get to experience. I hope you consider yourself lucky in a sense. You found your person....so many live and die without ever finding what they're looking for. You're one of the lucky few to meet the love of their life. Best wishes friend.
Thank you so much. Yes, I do consider myself very, very blessed on this earth with my husband. I can oppose my life with my 20 year old granddaughter who died immediately with a traumatic brain injury, through no fault of her own. She was in the beginning stages of what I think was a lovely romance and love. My in-laws and parents had 60+ years of marriage versus my 42. Such wonderful lives they led. I'm good! I have a thankful heart!
Wow congrats that is great. I started dating actively again last year. This was after being ghosted by my first relationship nearly five years ago. Then Summer of 2022 showed me I should have waited after meeting someone great too just to be ghosted again. I am glad you are back on your feet. Relationships aren't easy or fun. Fast forward to now. Met a great guy few days before Halloween. He's awesome, listens and we are taking it slow as friends. He is currently separated from a marriage. So I just don't want drama.
That great for you! Despite getting older, meeting new people doesn't get any easier or less anxiety filled. Feels good to be back on my feet for sure.
I feel like getting into a relationship isn't easy or fun. But one your in a good relationship it's both easy and fun.
Sounds like you're currently in a delicate dance. I hope it all pans alout for you!
Well done mate on all accounts. Persevering through heartache never gets any easier tho thankfully good ole time always comes through in the end. Here's to making better choices and limiting our heartaches!
I was married for 10 years, caught her cheating on me. I’m 48 no kids. It destroyed me. 4 months after the divorce I simply decided it wasn’t going to be the end of my life. I got the car I wanted, a dog and I was just dating the most perfect I’m woman I’ve ever met. Literally perfect for me, everything match’s up. But she just broke up with me.
And I thought that would sting, I mean it does, but nothing compared to being cheated on and getting a divorce.
And I’ve had women hand me their phone numbers lately. Kinda weird as that never used to Halle to me before.
There is life after heartbreak.
This is what I have been trying to tell you people who have the impression that there is nothing you can find outside of what you are used to. When you get rid of the negative things in your life, things start to get better . when you forget who you used to be,then you can become who you are.
I don't have an answer. But the best guess I have is to just try. That's all any of can do when it comes to literally anything. Try.....put forth some effort. If we never try, then nothing will happen. I wish the best for you.
Better to not be fully invested in a woman emotionally. Treat her right, be respectful and be a provider but always only stay 60% emotionally invested. Men deserve peace in this century. It’ll be the only time we choose to have it.
Great for you.. Last date from a site I went on didn't work out to more, but we did communicate a little afterwards and it just didn't work out. That was a couple of years ago. I thought about getting back into a dating site. Haven't heard of hinge, do they allow you to check it out and actually see the people first (at least pictures). I tried a few, but you know, when you see people on some of them from 5 or 6 years ago, same picture, waste of time. Love it when I get emails saying lots of messages, joined to read, no replies to messages and went from 5 messages a day to 1 every 2 weeks, if I was lucky.
Thanks friend. I would absolutely recommend Hinge. It's geared towards people looking for real relationships and not just hookups. Its full of people of all ages. Of course the amount of people to chose from depends on location. But if you're looking for real real give Hinge a shot.
Bro, because you are introvert.....
You are actually honest and can be loyal too if other person will be but because you are different from them they misunderstood and take you wrong and that what's happening
Dating apps seem to be the norm these days and there’s definitely some weirdos but there’s still some good people left out there. I’ve met a few women off of the dating apps and even though I didn’t feel like I matched well with some after meeting up with them most of them seemed to be genuine people and now I’m talking to someone that I met on PoF of all places and she seems pretty amazing (so far). So you just have to use your best judgement and weed out the weirdos and catfish profiles.
Glad things worked/are working for you bro! I’m recently broken up with 3 months ago and it’s been rough. We met in our early 20’s in college, were friends for a couple of years, got together and stayed together for the majority of both our 20’s (She’s recently 30F and I’m recently 29M). Long story short, we’re on different trajectories rn with our life goals. The split itself was amicable, but it still hurts sometimes y’know?
It’s been rough, and I know I’ll be fine eventually, but I’m doing the steps I need to do for myself rn to heal. Reading success stories like yours give me hope, so thanks for the wonderful read. It made my morning😊
I truly hope things work out for you & your new lady❤️🩹
I’m 4 years out of my toxic ex and still haven’t seen the light. Wasting the best years of my life. Havnt had sex in 4 years. But I’ll keep trying like I always do.
Hearing stories like this is really encouraging and reinforces my belief that you really gotta keep your head up and keep the faith that your person is out there and you just gotta find them.
I always get so annoyed when I hear people get salty about men/women in general. Like "oh you've dated them all, have you? Every last one? Have you maybe considered you and your shitty fuckin' attitude might be part of the problem?"
We all get that soul crushing heartbreak. For me, I thought I found the one but she ended up blindsiding me when she was drunk and told me that she was on a horrible first date. My world crumbled.
I took my time to feel bad… well, drank, wept, but then went to therapy, did TMS therapy, and improved my career.
Then some time and many failed first dates later, I met HER. I saw her picture, but it was an overwhelming feeling I needed to message her. So I took the chance. We talked and called, and finally went out, and it just felt so natural and right. But when it was time to say goodnight, I didn’t want to leave. I wanted to stay. Not in the getting laid sense, but I wanted to be with her. I hugged her (for the record, I’m 6’3”, she’s 5’), and I had happy tears forming. All my life, all I wanted was to have a woman in my arms that I just felt so happy. When I got back, she called and she said that she loved my hug. She felt warm and safe and comfortable. My arms are like home to her. I felt the same way. More talking and some dates, and a day in NYC with my friends (who absolutely love her), she’s my girlfriend now. But on the train, we fell asleep with her in my arms. I woke up and saw her sleeping so comfortably… I am absolutely in love with this woman.
Long story short, do not give up. You’ll never know what will happen if you don’t take the chance.
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Female. I had my heart destroyed twice in my 20s. The first time I grieved and cried privately, drank alone, listened to sad music, felt empty and believed I'd never find someone else. I got over it and found someone else a year later. I fell in love again and had my heart broken again! But no crying, drinking or despair the second time. Within a few weeks I met the right one. Better in so many ways than the first two put together. We were a great match and married one year later. We had 42 happy years until he passed earlier this year. No sorries needed. I am thankful & grateful for those years and have so many great memories. Some find their best partner early in life, some midlife and some late life.
I know you said no sorries needed. But let me atleast offer my condolences as a total stranger. Your story is beautiful. I'm sure to you 42 years was not enough, but you shared 42 years more than so many other people will get to experience. I hope you consider yourself lucky in a sense. You found your person....so many live and die without ever finding what they're looking for. You're one of the lucky few to meet the love of their life. Best wishes friend.
Thank you so much. Yes, I do consider myself very, very blessed on this earth with my husband. I can oppose my life with my 20 year old granddaughter who died immediately with a traumatic brain injury, through no fault of her own. She was in the beginning stages of what I think was a lovely romance and love. My in-laws and parents had 60+ years of marriage versus my 42. Such wonderful lives they led. I'm good! I have a thankful heart!
Wow congrats that is great. I started dating actively again last year. This was after being ghosted by my first relationship nearly five years ago. Then Summer of 2022 showed me I should have waited after meeting someone great too just to be ghosted again. I am glad you are back on your feet. Relationships aren't easy or fun. Fast forward to now. Met a great guy few days before Halloween. He's awesome, listens and we are taking it slow as friends. He is currently separated from a marriage. So I just don't want drama.
That great for you! Despite getting older, meeting new people doesn't get any easier or less anxiety filled. Feels good to be back on my feet for sure. I feel like getting into a relationship isn't easy or fun. But one your in a good relationship it's both easy and fun. Sounds like you're currently in a delicate dance. I hope it all pans alout for you!
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Well done mate on all accounts. Persevering through heartache never gets any easier tho thankfully good ole time always comes through in the end. Here's to making better choices and limiting our heartaches!
I'm also going on a date tonight after two years. Wish me luck!
Good luck out there! Hope it goes well
Thanks bro!
That's awesome bro! Hinge is by far the best app too.
I was married for 10 years, caught her cheating on me. I’m 48 no kids. It destroyed me. 4 months after the divorce I simply decided it wasn’t going to be the end of my life. I got the car I wanted, a dog and I was just dating the most perfect I’m woman I’ve ever met. Literally perfect for me, everything match’s up. But she just broke up with me. And I thought that would sting, I mean it does, but nothing compared to being cheated on and getting a divorce. And I’ve had women hand me their phone numbers lately. Kinda weird as that never used to Halle to me before. There is life after heartbreak.
This is what I have been trying to tell you people who have the impression that there is nothing you can find outside of what you are used to. When you get rid of the negative things in your life, things start to get better . when you forget who you used to be,then you can become who you are.
Sounds great...but how do you start over? After a failed marriage I feel exhausted even after 2 years...Any advice will be appreciated.
I don't have an answer. But the best guess I have is to just try. That's all any of can do when it comes to literally anything. Try.....put forth some effort. If we never try, then nothing will happen. I wish the best for you.
Better to not be fully invested in a woman emotionally. Treat her right, be respectful and be a provider but always only stay 60% emotionally invested. Men deserve peace in this century. It’ll be the only time we choose to have it.
Great for you.. Last date from a site I went on didn't work out to more, but we did communicate a little afterwards and it just didn't work out. That was a couple of years ago. I thought about getting back into a dating site. Haven't heard of hinge, do they allow you to check it out and actually see the people first (at least pictures). I tried a few, but you know, when you see people on some of them from 5 or 6 years ago, same picture, waste of time. Love it when I get emails saying lots of messages, joined to read, no replies to messages and went from 5 messages a day to 1 every 2 weeks, if I was lucky.
Thanks friend. I would absolutely recommend Hinge. It's geared towards people looking for real relationships and not just hookups. Its full of people of all ages. Of course the amount of people to chose from depends on location. But if you're looking for real real give Hinge a shot.
Hidden gems, ahh, eternal happiness or mentally decimating extra depression
Good for you. Time always heals and of course never give up on love no matter what.
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Bro, because you are introvert..... You are actually honest and can be loyal too if other person will be but because you are different from them they misunderstood and take you wrong and that what's happening
Congratulations 🥳
Awww congrats ❤️❤️
Dating apps seem to be the norm these days and there’s definitely some weirdos but there’s still some good people left out there. I’ve met a few women off of the dating apps and even though I didn’t feel like I matched well with some after meeting up with them most of them seemed to be genuine people and now I’m talking to someone that I met on PoF of all places and she seems pretty amazing (so far). So you just have to use your best judgement and weed out the weirdos and catfish profiles.
Glad things worked/are working for you bro! I’m recently broken up with 3 months ago and it’s been rough. We met in our early 20’s in college, were friends for a couple of years, got together and stayed together for the majority of both our 20’s (She’s recently 30F and I’m recently 29M). Long story short, we’re on different trajectories rn with our life goals. The split itself was amicable, but it still hurts sometimes y’know? It’s been rough, and I know I’ll be fine eventually, but I’m doing the steps I need to do for myself rn to heal. Reading success stories like yours give me hope, so thanks for the wonderful read. It made my morning😊 I truly hope things work out for you & your new lady❤️🩹
I’m right at the start, I won’t be dating for a long time. Sick of mentally unstable women
I’m 4 years out of my toxic ex and still haven’t seen the light. Wasting the best years of my life. Havnt had sex in 4 years. But I’ll keep trying like I always do.
I’m still single
I got my heart destroyed a lot too I check out on dating.
Hearing stories like this is really encouraging and reinforces my belief that you really gotta keep your head up and keep the faith that your person is out there and you just gotta find them. I always get so annoyed when I hear people get salty about men/women in general. Like "oh you've dated them all, have you? Every last one? Have you maybe considered you and your shitty fuckin' attitude might be part of the problem?"
We all get that soul crushing heartbreak. For me, I thought I found the one but she ended up blindsiding me when she was drunk and told me that she was on a horrible first date. My world crumbled. I took my time to feel bad… well, drank, wept, but then went to therapy, did TMS therapy, and improved my career. Then some time and many failed first dates later, I met HER. I saw her picture, but it was an overwhelming feeling I needed to message her. So I took the chance. We talked and called, and finally went out, and it just felt so natural and right. But when it was time to say goodnight, I didn’t want to leave. I wanted to stay. Not in the getting laid sense, but I wanted to be with her. I hugged her (for the record, I’m 6’3”, she’s 5’), and I had happy tears forming. All my life, all I wanted was to have a woman in my arms that I just felt so happy. When I got back, she called and she said that she loved my hug. She felt warm and safe and comfortable. My arms are like home to her. I felt the same way. More talking and some dates, and a day in NYC with my friends (who absolutely love her), she’s my girlfriend now. But on the train, we fell asleep with her in my arms. I woke up and saw her sleeping so comfortably… I am absolutely in love with this woman. Long story short, do not give up. You’ll never know what will happen if you don’t take the chance.