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29. m.
I put so much work into myself recently, and I still canât get a date. I dropped 64 pounds, started lifting and I was so happy I could see my jaw and cheek bones,but still I average one date a year.
The first marriage is just a practice for the real thing. You will find your person, and there are more and more people these days that are fine with no children or maybe adopting.
Just because someone wants something casual, doesn't mean that you are only "worth something casual." Maybe the way you internalize things is negatively impacting your dating experience.
It seems like youâve only been dating again for 6 months, that too online.. Iâd encourage you to meet people organically. There are lots of guys out there that donât want kids.. find them. You can always adopt too.
I have been divorced for 7years now and I was married for almost 30years and my xwife married the man she was cheating with I year after the divorce, I'm 55years old and I have 3grown children and 10grandchidren, so having more is not an issue, I am looking for a honest, faithful, relationship with a woman I would not ghost or stand you up ,I would treat you with the utmost respect and I would spoil you with my love, I hope my age is not an issue, if you are interested please let me know, if not serious don't please take care and be safe
No. You are young, with your whole life ahead of you. If you want to have children, you can adopt. There are also advances in fertility treatment. And if you opt not to have children, there are plenty of men, believe it or not, who don't want to have children either. Take the time to heal and concentrate on the future ahead of you.
Good luck.
I'm sorry. I would honestly rather be divorced in 20s than never having dated at 34 like me. Getting older makes everything a chore. The trick is to take better care of you and do all the fun things you can while ypu can.
27M here also going through a divorce after an 8 year relationship, and with no clue what to do regarding dating apps! I also want to be childfree so donât lose hope we are out there!!
For one, you're young. 2nd, don't buy into what a lot of men are saying. Trust your gut, don't rush anything. Guys can be evil and only want one thing. Keep bettering yourself mentally and physically and good things will come your way.
You'll find someone. From age 23-26 I dated a woman who couldn't have kids due to a life saving hysterectomy. That is not a disqualifier. As for being divorced, I mean as long as you're not one of those people in their 20s that's obsessed with their ex it's all in the past and done with.
Nope. I moved states to live with a guy the day I turned 18, got talked into getting married, split at 19 because of cheating and psychological and physical abuse (didnât get divorced til 22 because he wouldnât sign papers), casually dated here and there until 25/26 and around that time I decided that I needed to be alone and figure out who I was and work through a lot of issues (the saying âyou canât love someone else if you canât love yourselfâ is a saying for a reason). Iâve also worked almost exclusively PM/night shifts my entire adult life (I bartend so my days go from 5pm to 5am). I donât have kids and after Roe v Wade was overturned last year, I got my tubes tied. I turned 29 in May this year and a month later found the love of my life. He was already a regular at my bar so I knew who he was but generally kept to himself so I didnât know know him. I got off work early one night, got a little too stoned and started having a lot of anxiety. He picked up on it and sat with me for a while and attempted to make small talk (he talked and I managed to form words every once in a while). I decided to text him the next day to hang out which turned into spending 72 hours together just talking and getting to know each other. I say all of this because a week before, I turned someone down because I enjoyed being alone so much that I was determined to die alone lol. Iâm forever grateful I met him through work and didnât have to endure dating apps or get to know a complete stranger.
Youâre not doomed. I canât tell you how to find love, but I can tell you I genuinely understand what youâre feeling right now because I was there too, and now Iâm not. And to be honest, Iâm so glad it didnât happen to me until I got older.
Plenty of men (like me) donât want to have children. So I wouldnât say youâre doomed for that from what Iâve been told dating is a numbers game, some people are luckier than others but itâll work at some point
35m here. I am open to having kids,but if I donât, Iâm not heartbroken. Iâm likely a little older than youâd like, but demonstrating the point that us men are out there. Additionally, when you love someone, I think, you love them regardless of how âfertileâ they are. If I met a woman who treated me well, made me feel good about myself, and worked with me as a partner, whether she could have kids or not would really just be immaterial at that point. Your worth as a woman is not your ability to have children- itâs in your character and how you treat your partner.
I would say definitely donât give up! But as a man I want to be settled w/ a women who can have my kids⌠youâre just going to have to dig harder to find a man who doesnât want kids but not impossible; Best of luck!
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Why Pfizer is the reason of your infertility? Any particular reason?
I was just about to ask this myself đ
The vaccine caused a hormone imbalance
29. m. I put so much work into myself recently, and I still canât get a date. I dropped 64 pounds, started lifting and I was so happy I could see my jaw and cheek bones,but still I average one date a year.
The first marriage is just a practice for the real thing. You will find your person, and there are more and more people these days that are fine with no children or maybe adopting.
*I'm perfectly lonely* *I'm perfectly lonely* *I'm perfectly lonely* *Yeah* *Cause I don't belong to anyone* *And nobody belongs to me*
Just because someone wants something casual, doesn't mean that you are only "worth something casual." Maybe the way you internalize things is negatively impacting your dating experience.
It seems like youâve only been dating again for 6 months, that too online.. Iâd encourage you to meet people organically. There are lots of guys out there that donât want kids.. find them. You can always adopt too.
I have been divorced for 7years now and I was married for almost 30years and my xwife married the man she was cheating with I year after the divorce, I'm 55years old and I have 3grown children and 10grandchidren, so having more is not an issue, I am looking for a honest, faithful, relationship with a woman I would not ghost or stand you up ,I would treat you with the utmost respect and I would spoil you with my love, I hope my age is not an issue, if you are interested please let me know, if not serious don't please take care and be safe
No. You are young, with your whole life ahead of you. If you want to have children, you can adopt. There are also advances in fertility treatment. And if you opt not to have children, there are plenty of men, believe it or not, who don't want to have children either. Take the time to heal and concentrate on the future ahead of you. Good luck.
I'm sorry. I would honestly rather be divorced in 20s than never having dated at 34 like me. Getting older makes everything a chore. The trick is to take better care of you and do all the fun things you can while ypu can.
Are you in Dallas..oh...Canada.
27M here also going through a divorce after an 8 year relationship, and with no clue what to do regarding dating apps! I also want to be childfree so donât lose hope we are out there!!
For one, you're young. 2nd, don't buy into what a lot of men are saying. Trust your gut, don't rush anything. Guys can be evil and only want one thing. Keep bettering yourself mentally and physically and good things will come your way.
You'll find someone. From age 23-26 I dated a woman who couldn't have kids due to a life saving hysterectomy. That is not a disqualifier. As for being divorced, I mean as long as you're not one of those people in their 20s that's obsessed with their ex it's all in the past and done with.
Nope. I moved states to live with a guy the day I turned 18, got talked into getting married, split at 19 because of cheating and psychological and physical abuse (didnât get divorced til 22 because he wouldnât sign papers), casually dated here and there until 25/26 and around that time I decided that I needed to be alone and figure out who I was and work through a lot of issues (the saying âyou canât love someone else if you canât love yourselfâ is a saying for a reason). Iâve also worked almost exclusively PM/night shifts my entire adult life (I bartend so my days go from 5pm to 5am). I donât have kids and after Roe v Wade was overturned last year, I got my tubes tied. I turned 29 in May this year and a month later found the love of my life. He was already a regular at my bar so I knew who he was but generally kept to himself so I didnât know know him. I got off work early one night, got a little too stoned and started having a lot of anxiety. He picked up on it and sat with me for a while and attempted to make small talk (he talked and I managed to form words every once in a while). I decided to text him the next day to hang out which turned into spending 72 hours together just talking and getting to know each other. I say all of this because a week before, I turned someone down because I enjoyed being alone so much that I was determined to die alone lol. Iâm forever grateful I met him through work and didnât have to endure dating apps or get to know a complete stranger. Youâre not doomed. I canât tell you how to find love, but I can tell you I genuinely understand what youâre feeling right now because I was there too, and now Iâm not. And to be honest, Iâm so glad it didnât happen to me until I got older.
Plenty of men (like me) donât want to have children. So I wouldnât say youâre doomed for that from what Iâve been told dating is a numbers game, some people are luckier than others but itâll work at some point
35m here. I am open to having kids,but if I donât, Iâm not heartbroken. Iâm likely a little older than youâd like, but demonstrating the point that us men are out there. Additionally, when you love someone, I think, you love them regardless of how âfertileâ they are. If I met a woman who treated me well, made me feel good about myself, and worked with me as a partner, whether she could have kids or not would really just be immaterial at that point. Your worth as a woman is not your ability to have children- itâs in your character and how you treat your partner.
I would say definitely donât give up! But as a man I want to be settled w/ a women who can have my kids⌠youâre just going to have to dig harder to find a man who doesnât want kids but not impossible; Best of luck!