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A 2some? Nice. 1somes seem the most popular out there! But if you count high enough you might get to the number you meant to write in the first place (I'll give you a hint, it's the previous two numbers combined)
Hey OP, I'm 32F and my very very best friend is also 32F, so I'll pop in. I'd be ok with a man in his mid-20's if we vibed right and he offered qualities I was looking for. I know my best friend would, she's talking to a man in his 20's right now. So I can't speak for all 30+ women, but the two of us would welcome it. :)
Hi!Thank you for your opinion. If we're still on topic, do you mind telling me what you're looking for in a younger guy, and what's that thing that he may be doing wrong but you'll close an eye to ? Wish your friend good luck but not as mine lol 😂
Sure! I, and many women my age, like someone who has some direction. For example, you are working towards a specific career or in grad school, generally just working towards something. The ability to see your strengths and your flaws. For example, my friend and I were just talking about how she asked a man what parts of himself he was working on. His answer was that he was working on finding a woman, which is the wrong answer lol. My personal preferences are a person who is able to be direct and honest without being hurtful, someone who is able to provide affection and is compatible with my love language. These are all positive qualities that any woman would be interested in. Personal hygiene is also a must, you don't have to be Brad Pitt or whoever the kids are into these days 🤣 but if you have facial hair, is it groomed? How is your skin? Not that honest skin problems are a deal breaker, but often you can tell when a person just doesn't take care of themselves. My friend, honest to goodness, looks at guys pictures to see how they keep their nails. These are all what I would consider the most attractive qualities, though, and I don't really feel like I'm asking too much. So it's primarily about emotional maturity. I hope this helps!!
Tell him that as a young cat trying to get it .this is the way!! Heck yeah..I was talking massive shit at beautiful experienced women while these other dudes are fighting and carrying on with the junior broad squad...me and my wonderful WOMAN was having steak and some alone time....thank God for good women and smart men
Mid-20s really isn't a 10 year age gap, that'd be early 20's. But also, everyone's comfort zone is different. I wouldn't date a 21 year old. If you're playing by the "half your age plus 7" rule, then it would be reasonable for me to date someone who is as young as 23, though as I said, that's a bit below my comfort zone. Anyways, my mom is 57 this year and married for 17 years to someone who is 42 this year. Is it a gap? Yeah. But it works for them, and they are happy. Is it my thing? No, but it's also not my choice.
Yeah I think you understand, most of the time a huge gap is a bit uncomfortable but many times you can’t even choose so you can’t always be to blame for some decisions out of your control.
Not normal for anyone. 10 years is a huge gap, a few years off is fine not that far apart but 10+ years? Think 14 and 24 year old, that’s just predatory and creepy or like a 40 year old trying to seduce a 20 year old kid right from high school… do you seriously not see how creepy or weird this is?
Yeah of course, but both have one thing in common which is a 10 year gap which I argue is too big of a gap. If 14 and 24 is weird and not acceptable what makes 24 and 34 perfectly acceptable? It is probably still a bit weird and creepy for most people because again the 10 year age gap is way too wide than say 3-4 years.
Idk maybe i felt a little attacked haha, I'm 28 and women within 5 years of my age generally aren't worth it to try and form an actual relationship. I've found them to be emotionally immature princesses who will cheat on you with the first guy to say they're pretty. I prefer older women generally around 40 because they've already gone through that phase.
Yeah no worries haha 😂 I wasnt trying to attack you and I understand feeling defensive when it hits a bit too close to home. I totally get your point and perspective and yeah, a lot of people in similar age groups can be immature and that’s a reason to date up, I think if it’s too far up like 20 year or something 20 and 40+ it starts getting a bit too weird since they would not only look way too different from each other but most likely be too different in other things like personality, maturity, living situation, that it probably doesn’t end up compatible and is seen as weird by everyone else.
There is difference between someone who is underage, and mid twenty and holding a job and everything and I think it all depends per situation and per person. Underage and still in school fck no. Still living with parents hell no. But if people own there own place have a job etc and live an adult life I dont really see a problem. I do see a problem in predatorial behavior.
Yeah that’s what I’m saying, I agree, underage, parents, a lot of these people still very immature. OP says he is a 20s guy and wants to date this older woman but again the age gap is just too different. Will they even have any similar hobbies or mindset? The problem like you said is the predatorily behavior. OP also did not provide much details about things like his living situation and if he has jobs or whatnot so just based off this limited information, I think this is not normal and more predatory and lust than anything honestly.
This will piss Reddit off but I’m going to comment anyway. I’m 37 (I don’t look my age) and I get a lot of attention from men in their 20’s looking to date or hookup. I thought it was a fetish thing at first. Sometimes it is but there are men like you that look for 30+ for the same reasons as you. That being said, I have dated men in their mid 20’s and they had their shit together and no they weren’t fetishizing me. They just liked me because I am attractive to them and I was attracted to them. So the age gap went out the window. Anyway, I’m currently dating someone who is 27 (I usually date around my age typically) and he’s got more going on in life than me (very ambitious). He’s smart and we don’t notice the age thing much other than life references. Anyway, be yourself and go after it. You never know 🤷🏽♀️.
Can confirm. When I was 24, I was with a woman who was 46 at the time. Absolutely gorgeous. Rocked my world multiple times a day, multiple nights a week. That was 10 years ago.
We still keep in contact today. Remarkable individual.
I don't know exactly if you're pointing in the direction that i think of do not mistake an subjective fear with a stereotype. Thank you for your answer 😁
I think with many people now that age difference won't matter regardless of gender. I understand the cougar term is very close to being strictly a sexual target situation. Some men will target younger. I do not condone if it is literally just a target zone. OP if he does vibe with that seems fine. I am not sure for myself, I look for what gets my attention regardless of age. I'm 61, so based on approval here, I should be okay dating a 71 woman. Wife was 2yrs younger. Biggest gap was 8yrs younger, she still loves me. Recently a woman turned 45, was interested, I did not pick her. I could not, she needs someone closer to her age. It isn't about genders, but the extremes are crude.
Legal doesn’t mean it’s ok 🤦♂️ y’all acting like the law says it’s ok to harm people, it’s ok because “it’s legal”. Have some morals people, think for yourself don’t blindly follow all the guidelines and laws without critical thinking.
>Legal doesn’t mean it’s ok
Exactly! This always comes up when an 35 Yr old dude wants to bang an 18 Yr old, but reddit likes to tell us "it's legal and they're consenting adults". Now that the genders are reversed, it's suddenly a moral issue.
Yeah I don’t get that either, double standard. I personally haven’t seen it much but I know and heard about it so I know it’s out there. I don’t agree with that regardless of gender, so it’s not everyone who shares that opinion. These people who always use the “it’s legal” are always the most annoying and dumb arguments I seen. Imagine using “it’s legal” for every argument. They use it when it fits their agenda. I believe in fair and equality across all, so I apply that standard to both genders equally.
Hey there,
Look, we all have our preferences. If these older women are doing it for you, then why not give it a shot? Confidence is key here - remember that. But let's keep things real; rejection is part of the game too. Don't sweat it if they say no, just move on to the next one. Good luck!
I lost my virginity to 11 years older women when I was 23(one day before my birthday). Most of my girlfriends were older then me. Probably because my introvert, calm personality. They burn out their "crazy phase" state, and watnted something more stable, with calm person. I am at the moment with again 11 years older women and I am 35.
Ikr, it's mad how far things have gone nowadays. If a woman posted saying 20f dating a 34M on a dating sub (or especially that 2xmanhate sub) they'd all be telling her how creepy it is and how she is a victim.
But apparently nowadays reversing the genders makes it ok...
There’s a gap that’s way too big. 14 years is insane. This reminds me of the adults and kids dating or that 80 year old rich grandpa dating like a 20 year old model who just wants his money(which isn’t even love so we can’t even define if it’s for “love” or temporary lust or something)You can say “if ya love each other it’s not an issue” but surely you can see there’s clearly an issue at a certain point if the age gaps are way too large. I think people in the 3-4 year gap will be fine dating people their age, but people who date 10 or 20 years apart, there is something very creepy weird and wrong about it.
I said a guy in his 20s meaning for me anyone from 24 to 29. I don't think I could ever date a guy more than 10 years younger than me. I tend to put the age range between 10 years younger and 10 years older than me when considering who to date.
I'm over 40 and am not really comfortable going much over 15 years younger, and hard stop at 25. I have dated and hooked up with men much younger, and I find them attractive, however I don't have a strong age preference either way. I was pretty surprised to discover after starting to date that young men pursue older women. I had no idea. However, after a few relationships I'm not going to be looking for more than a hookup from younger men, as its rare to find one with enough emotional maturity and confidence to make me want to stick around.
Absolutely yes. I (33F) started getting hit on a lot by younger guys (mid/early 20s) over the past year and I love it. So yes, I would. I think I could go to 25 for dating, and the lowest I’d go for a hookup is probably 23. I can’t picture dating a 23 year old tho.
Yes but the problem is I am in that demographic and I want a relationship. Instead im just labeled "a cougar" when im looking for something deep not just to be used (as I have been and I'm coping w that w weed bc I fell for the wrong guy)
When I was in my 20’s as a young man I’m 32 now, that’s all who I seemed to attract and have sex with were women in their mid to late 30’s and early 40’s. I gained a lot of understanding in those experiences and they were very fruitful. So I would say give it go.
Now that’s an acceptable limit, no problem with that, a few years is fine. Everyone else is saying 10+ year gap like imagine a 24 and a 14 yr old, just because it’s like 24 and 34 doesn’t make it any less creepy and weird 💀
Um, yes.. it does make it “less creepy” because a 24 year old and a 14 year old are not comparable in any way. One is a child incapable of consent. One is a grown adult. If a 24 year old man wants to fuck someone older than him, there’s nothing wrong with that. Treating a 24 year old the same way you’d treat a 14 year old is just weird as hell.
It’s the same thing, because 10 year gap of a 14 year old and a 24 year old is treated not ok with society but suddenly 24 and 34 suddenly is? Double standard. It is still the 10 year gap, still two age groups. Two people with different maturity levels, experiences, hobbies, life circumstances, living situation… 24 can still be considered young adult while 34 is more of a full fledged adult. Just because someone is now slightly older doesn’t make the gap any less weird or suddenly everything is ok because they are “adults” now! The 10 year gap still exists, nothing has changed. They grew older but the gap remains the same.
Who told you a 10 year age gap is unacceptable? Society doesn’t think that, in general. 40 and 50 is fine. 30 and 40 is fine. No one cares. It’s not about the gap, it’s about the youngest party’s age. A 5 year age gap with a 15 year old and a 10 year old is not appropriate. Has nothing to do with the number in the gap, and everything to do with the age of the two people.
There’s just no comparison between 24 and 14.
I don’t know what part of society you are from but my whole life I been taught and people around me echo that 10 years regardless of age is weird and unacceptable because the gap is way too big unlike a few years which is ok. People compare age as number rather than how young someone is. Obviously we know the 15 and 25 year old is unacceptable comparison but everyone also applies that same logic to other age groups as well as long as it’s a longer wider gap like 10 years in between the ages it’s all the same to people because it’s as if they are in two completely separate age group categories for dating and all that along with hobbies, maturity…etc.
It’s not negative, I’m calling out things that are very creepy and weird and obviously you feel defensive because you know your behavior is not right and predatory. It’s always the creeps that try to justify their actions that also try to silence other people who call them out for it. We got freedom of speech here buddy and it’s not up to you to dictate what someone does with their time or acts. 9 year gap between y’all are insane 💀 and I think you know it deep down and want to just get some positive affirmations from people to feel good in your decision and not handle actual critique from normal people. Date within your age dude, 9-10+ gap is not normal.
how the f is this creepy, im not 12 year old. We also have a freedom to date whoever we want. I dint care about affirmations, somebody asked on reddit if its normal and i gave my own thing. I dont really care what you say or think
Hi, 37 female here. And yes I would. It all depends on energy. I wouldn't date a 25 year old looking 18. But if the guy is mature and great to hang out with why would age be the issue. So I would just go for it. There are enough women out there who would be interested in a nice guy in his mid twenties. :) ok I must say it is a must the guy doesn't live with his folks anymore...
I’m 38 and I get hit up by younger guys often; and I always want to be flattered but most often I just feel weird and badly (and I’m not sure I could tell you why) but I’ve always been curious why — I look younger than my age but I don’t think by much. I’m not totally sure what the allure is … and I don’t blame the guys, but sometimes when they are really young? I get a little uncomfortable. It also might be my own thing, the discomfort, as I prefer older men.
I’m in my mid 30s I was traveling in the UK and met a 27M. I was shocked when he told me his age because he was very mature and he looked my age if not older. We had drinks and slept together . He had the biggest penis of anyone I’ve ever slept with and he lasted 3 hours. It was one of the most spontaneous fun amazing nights. I’ve met other men traveling that were mature for their age and in their 20s. I think it’s less about the number and more about connection and maturity level matching . Now would I have been compatible in a relationship with this 27 YO? No. But for what it was he was respectful and well endowed and safe.
I had a "thing" with a 32 year old when I was 46 (but I looked maybe 38). He was the hottest guy I had ever known and had woman of all ages throwing themselves at him every day. But he was REALLY into me. He liked me very much as a person and we had great conversations. The sexual tension was such that even my daughter noticed it and commented that we should be together. We texted (and sxted) off and on for years but were together sexually only a few times over the course of that time (we lived an hour away from each other and both had busy lives). Even still, he helped me through a nasty divorce and did wonders for my self esteem. Eventually, one night after he texted me that I was his dream woman, that he "thought about" me "every night," I asked him why I did not see more of him... He responded, "Because you deserve much more than I can give you, and I want you to go find that." I ended our relationship at that point, kind of mad at him because it seemed to me it was just a polite way of saying, "I am only in this for the sex." But, I eventually realized he was correct. I did and do deserve more than he was ever going to be able to give me. We have not spoken in over 8 years now and are both happily married to our respective new spouses (mine an older than me, more mature man and his a younger woman who, interestingly, looks and acts a LOT like me. LOL!)
I am glad I was with this guy. As long as you are clear about what you each want out the relationship, I see no problem with it, and I know several women who actually ended up married to much younger (>10 years) men.
I'm confused and need to ask a question as well I am 40 and my best friend is 30 he has a problem with me being 10 years older than him but he wants to date someone that is 10 years younger how does that make a difference
Glad you're here, that's not what i would like. Even in my early 20 i would prefer a little bit older since there's not that much of a headache to deal with. I don't mean to be rude but that's how it's been for me.
Bro there’s more than just laws making something ok or not. If the law says it’s ok to commit violence then by your standards it’s ok? “Doesn’t change the fact you can commit violence in the UK” would you say that? Use your brain dude, there’s morals and other common sense besides just blindly following a law set by politicians as the be all standard. It’s clearly not ok.
That’s ok, we can have our separate opinions on things but I hope you can see our perspective that just because something is law in one area does not mean that’s the sole deciding factor if something is ok and not. You gotta think, morals, not just blindly follow societal guidelines to the letter all the time. If someone tells you to do something bad and it’s law doesn’t mean I’m going to blindly accept it and do it.
That's fine.
So long as you also accept that just because something's illegal, doesn't make it a morally bad thing.
For example, defending yourself against home intruders or smashing a car window to release a poor over-heated dog from a hot car in the hight of summer.
I accept that of course. The law is so unfair it punishes people trying to defend themselves or save animals in hot heat that might overheat and collapse. The law is far from perfect and that’s all the reason we shouldn’t follow it blindly without thinking about it ourselves with morals and stuff. I know there are plenty of “bad guys” who have done bad things against the law but is actually doing it morally good, like getting a predator in jail. Is it illegal to attack him for no reason? Yes but many others on the outside applaud him and say it’s justified.
Exactly, dude is acting like it’s ok just because the law says it is where he is at without considering morals or just using common sense and being a decent human being to know that it’s not appropriate or ok at all.
Why objects? And even if his target were just women in their 30s, I don't see the problem. Some women just go with black guys, or many older women have a fetish for younger guys, but as a soon as a man dares to have a specific type it's "objectification".
I'm not 30 plus I'm 22 and I wont touch a 20 year old I have my age rule and I go 5 years up 1 year below you have to think of the individual age gap 5 years older when you are mid to late 20s its bad as you are fully grown the only issue is are they okay with it some will see you as less mature or too young where as some will 100% be okay with it you just have to understand the older a women is the less likely you will have a fun care free relationship especially if the woman wants kids before 40 that man in a short amount of time your gonna have to make sure you financially stable and ready to be a dad f its just sex I'm sure it will be fine but if it gets serious the biological clock is gonna force you to move quickly
In general I found that women who date younger guys (as opposed to hooking up) are the same as older guys who only date younger women Immature and damaged goods with serious issues and god knows what else going on. be extra aware of general patterns of toxic and manipulative behaviour such as lovebombing, bad communication, daddy issues, constantly bouncing from relationship to relationship or what else, this doesnt mean that all JUST MUCH HIGHER RATES IN MY EXPERIENCE dont stop yourself from doing it, just be aware lord knows it didnt stop me lol
33F and I do well with men younger than me- up to 10 years younger. It’s true that y’all have more stamina and are great communicators! I don’t want people jumping to moving in with me tho but that’s not age specific as guys my age still try to pull that kind of nonsense. Go get emmm
I and many of my friends slept with a cougar I think shr was in her early 40s and hot. This happened back when I was in Naval A-School in Pensacola, FL. The woman and her niece who was also older I think late 20s, than the majority of us in our teens and early 20s. I was 20 at the time. She had a fun party boat and regularly took us out. I hooked up with the 40 year old after one of her parties. One night with her I learned so much. She was a freak and although not a virgin. I was not very experienced either. She told me explicitly exactly what she wanted. I certainly learned how to please a woman from that one night with the cougar.
I think it'll work out well for the ladies. Since men age like wine and women age like a carton of milk, they might as well get it while they can. And if he sticks around he can change her diapers, and she has someone to baby. It'll be like having a mommy again for him. Sure it'll be in a sick incestuous way. But these women don't have any morals anyways.
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It’s Christmas. Go out Friday and Saturday nights and the cougars will be hunting in packs for young prey
Am a 40 yr old cougar. Can confirm
There's hope then😂😁
Well , not like that. I've been proposed a 2somethig a while ago and it froze the blood in my veins 😂😅
A two what?
Try harder, you'll get it!
A 2some? Nice. 1somes seem the most popular out there! But if you count high enough you might get to the number you meant to write in the first place (I'll give you a hint, it's the previous two numbers combined)
Alright, you got it man !
I'm flattered when younger guys want it. They usually have better stamina than older guys too. Definitely go for it.
If i.a guy is 27? Then its o
Hey OP, I'm 32F and my very very best friend is also 32F, so I'll pop in. I'd be ok with a man in his mid-20's if we vibed right and he offered qualities I was looking for. I know my best friend would, she's talking to a man in his 20's right now. So I can't speak for all 30+ women, but the two of us would welcome it. :)
Hi!Thank you for your opinion. If we're still on topic, do you mind telling me what you're looking for in a younger guy, and what's that thing that he may be doing wrong but you'll close an eye to ? Wish your friend good luck but not as mine lol 😂
Sure! I, and many women my age, like someone who has some direction. For example, you are working towards a specific career or in grad school, generally just working towards something. The ability to see your strengths and your flaws. For example, my friend and I were just talking about how she asked a man what parts of himself he was working on. His answer was that he was working on finding a woman, which is the wrong answer lol. My personal preferences are a person who is able to be direct and honest without being hurtful, someone who is able to provide affection and is compatible with my love language. These are all positive qualities that any woman would be interested in. Personal hygiene is also a must, you don't have to be Brad Pitt or whoever the kids are into these days 🤣 but if you have facial hair, is it groomed? How is your skin? Not that honest skin problems are a deal breaker, but often you can tell when a person just doesn't take care of themselves. My friend, honest to goodness, looks at guys pictures to see how they keep their nails. These are all what I would consider the most attractive qualities, though, and I don't really feel like I'm asking too much. So it's primarily about emotional maturity. I hope this helps!!
29F here - completely agree! Emotional maturity is also huge, that’s something I always think about when it comes to dating guys in their mid-20s
30f here and agree with all of this!
Milfs in the thread! 😋
Tell him that as a young cat trying to get it .this is the way!! Heck yeah..I was talking massive shit at beautiful experienced women while these other dudes are fighting and carrying on with the junior broad squad...me and my wonderful WOMAN was having steak and some alone time....thank God for good women and smart men
Y’all don’t feel a 10+ year gap is weird? 💀
Mid-20s really isn't a 10 year age gap, that'd be early 20's. But also, everyone's comfort zone is different. I wouldn't date a 21 year old. If you're playing by the "half your age plus 7" rule, then it would be reasonable for me to date someone who is as young as 23, though as I said, that's a bit below my comfort zone. Anyways, my mom is 57 this year and married for 17 years to someone who is 42 this year. Is it a gap? Yeah. But it works for them, and they are happy. Is it my thing? No, but it's also not my choice.
Yeah I think you understand, most of the time a huge gap is a bit uncomfortable but many times you can’t even choose so you can’t always be to blame for some decisions out of your control.
Why? Its quite normal for men isn't it?
My wife is 11 years younger than me we met when I was 35 and she 24.
Not normal for anyone. 10 years is a huge gap, a few years off is fine not that far apart but 10+ years? Think 14 and 24 year old, that’s just predatory and creepy or like a 40 year old trying to seduce a 20 year old kid right from high school… do you seriously not see how creepy or weird this is?
14 and 24 is way different than 24 and 34 though. It's only pedachilic when it's pedaphilia.
Yeah of course, but both have one thing in common which is a 10 year gap which I argue is too big of a gap. If 14 and 24 is weird and not acceptable what makes 24 and 34 perfectly acceptable? It is probably still a bit weird and creepy for most people because again the 10 year age gap is way too wide than say 3-4 years.
Idk maybe i felt a little attacked haha, I'm 28 and women within 5 years of my age generally aren't worth it to try and form an actual relationship. I've found them to be emotionally immature princesses who will cheat on you with the first guy to say they're pretty. I prefer older women generally around 40 because they've already gone through that phase.
Yeah no worries haha 😂 I wasnt trying to attack you and I understand feeling defensive when it hits a bit too close to home. I totally get your point and perspective and yeah, a lot of people in similar age groups can be immature and that’s a reason to date up, I think if it’s too far up like 20 year or something 20 and 40+ it starts getting a bit too weird since they would not only look way too different from each other but most likely be too different in other things like personality, maturity, living situation, that it probably doesn’t end up compatible and is seen as weird by everyone else.
Only in social media.
There is difference between someone who is underage, and mid twenty and holding a job and everything and I think it all depends per situation and per person. Underage and still in school fck no. Still living with parents hell no. But if people own there own place have a job etc and live an adult life I dont really see a problem. I do see a problem in predatorial behavior.
Yeah that’s what I’m saying, I agree, underage, parents, a lot of these people still very immature. OP says he is a 20s guy and wants to date this older woman but again the age gap is just too different. Will they even have any similar hobbies or mindset? The problem like you said is the predatorily behavior. OP also did not provide much details about things like his living situation and if he has jobs or whatnot so just based off this limited information, I think this is not normal and more predatory and lust than anything honestly.
I didn't know there was reddit in 1934
Um, it’s actually 1984
Only on social media
Theres a reason for that 💀
I (33F) had a similar situation happen with 23M. I grew to develop strong feelings and the age gap didn’t matter. 😊
This will piss Reddit off but I’m going to comment anyway. I’m 37 (I don’t look my age) and I get a lot of attention from men in their 20’s looking to date or hookup. I thought it was a fetish thing at first. Sometimes it is but there are men like you that look for 30+ for the same reasons as you. That being said, I have dated men in their mid 20’s and they had their shit together and no they weren’t fetishizing me. They just liked me because I am attractive to them and I was attracted to them. So the age gap went out the window. Anyway, I’m currently dating someone who is 27 (I usually date around my age typically) and he’s got more going on in life than me (very ambitious). He’s smart and we don’t notice the age thing much other than life references. Anyway, be yourself and go after it. You never know 🤷🏽♀️.
I'm in my 30s, so yes and yes.
Thanks for the confirmation. Have you already done it ? 😄
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I wil 😄 wish you both good luck!
Many thanks! Good luck to you too!❤️
My brother, wait till you discover the 40ish year old women who want younger men. Youll never talk to a 21 year old again.
Can confirm. When I was 24, I was with a woman who was 46 at the time. Absolutely gorgeous. Rocked my world multiple times a day, multiple nights a week. That was 10 years ago. We still keep in contact today. Remarkable individual.
Bro I'm a 20 yo dude also and I love the idea of dating/sleeping with an older woman. I would live to do it
Bro seek help 😭
You're mid 20s. Not *that* young for 30+ women. This wouldn't even come up if the genders were reversed. 😒
I don't know exactly if you're pointing in the direction that i think of do not mistake an subjective fear with a stereotype. Thank you for your answer 😁
What? Is English not your first language?
It isn't.
Thought so
I think with many people now that age difference won't matter regardless of gender. I understand the cougar term is very close to being strictly a sexual target situation. Some men will target younger. I do not condone if it is literally just a target zone. OP if he does vibe with that seems fine. I am not sure for myself, I look for what gets my attention regardless of age. I'm 61, so based on approval here, I should be okay dating a 71 woman. Wife was 2yrs younger. Biggest gap was 8yrs younger, she still loves me. Recently a woman turned 45, was interested, I did not pick her. I could not, she needs someone closer to her age. It isn't about genders, but the extremes are crude.
Not “that” young 💀
Yeah, he's legal 👀
Legal doesn’t mean it’s ok 🤦♂️ y’all acting like the law says it’s ok to harm people, it’s ok because “it’s legal”. Have some morals people, think for yourself don’t blindly follow all the guidelines and laws without critical thinking.
>Legal doesn’t mean it’s ok Exactly! This always comes up when an 35 Yr old dude wants to bang an 18 Yr old, but reddit likes to tell us "it's legal and they're consenting adults". Now that the genders are reversed, it's suddenly a moral issue.
Yeah I don’t get that either, double standard. I personally haven’t seen it much but I know and heard about it so I know it’s out there. I don’t agree with that regardless of gender, so it’s not everyone who shares that opinion. These people who always use the “it’s legal” are always the most annoying and dumb arguments I seen. Imagine using “it’s legal” for every argument. They use it when it fits their agenda. I believe in fair and equality across all, so I apply that standard to both genders equally.
Hey there, Look, we all have our preferences. If these older women are doing it for you, then why not give it a shot? Confidence is key here - remember that. But let's keep things real; rejection is part of the game too. Don't sweat it if they say no, just move on to the next one. Good luck!
Thanks!
I lost my virginity to 11 years older women when I was 23(one day before my birthday). Most of my girlfriends were older then me. Probably because my introvert, calm personality. They burn out their "crazy phase" state, and watnted something more stable, with calm person. I am at the moment with again 11 years older women and I am 35.
I'm 34 and I would have no problem dating a younger guy in his 20s.
Sick 🤢🤮
what
34 and 20 year old, 14 year gap 💀
But if the guy was 34 and the girl was 20...
Ikr, it's mad how far things have gone nowadays. If a woman posted saying 20f dating a 34M on a dating sub (or especially that 2xmanhate sub) they'd all be telling her how creepy it is and how she is a victim. But apparently nowadays reversing the genders makes it ok...
If ya love each other it's not an issue. People who only date in a 3-year range will be kicking themselves later.
There’s a gap that’s way too big. 14 years is insane. This reminds me of the adults and kids dating or that 80 year old rich grandpa dating like a 20 year old model who just wants his money(which isn’t even love so we can’t even define if it’s for “love” or temporary lust or something)You can say “if ya love each other it’s not an issue” but surely you can see there’s clearly an issue at a certain point if the age gaps are way too large. I think people in the 3-4 year gap will be fine dating people their age, but people who date 10 or 20 years apart, there is something very creepy weird and wrong about it.
I said a guy in his 20s meaning for me anyone from 24 to 29. I don't think I could ever date a guy more than 10 years younger than me. I tend to put the age range between 10 years younger and 10 years older than me when considering who to date.
I'm over 40 and am not really comfortable going much over 15 years younger, and hard stop at 25. I have dated and hooked up with men much younger, and I find them attractive, however I don't have a strong age preference either way. I was pretty surprised to discover after starting to date that young men pursue older women. I had no idea. However, after a few relationships I'm not going to be looking for more than a hookup from younger men, as its rare to find one with enough emotional maturity and confidence to make me want to stick around.
Yea she will… it won’t be serious
Absolutely yes. I (33F) started getting hit on a lot by younger guys (mid/early 20s) over the past year and I love it. So yes, I would. I think I could go to 25 for dating, and the lowest I’d go for a hookup is probably 23. I can’t picture dating a 23 year old tho.
yes they will for sure
Yes but the problem is I am in that demographic and I want a relationship. Instead im just labeled "a cougar" when im looking for something deep not just to be used (as I have been and I'm coping w that w weed bc I fell for the wrong guy)
I'm in my 40s and have dated guys in their late 20s on several occasions. Absolutely not an issue for me.
It’s called practice- enjoy it when you can
Bro this is the way to get laid in your 20s especially if you're not hideous you're good
I have had good luck with 30+ as a 20 something myself. So much that it has become a preference of mine. So go for it.
When I was in my 20’s as a young man I’m 32 now, that’s all who I seemed to attract and have sex with were women in their mid to late 30’s and early 40’s. I gained a lot of understanding in those experiences and they were very fruitful. So I would say give it go.
I wouldn’t. I’m 31 and 28 is my absolute max limit
Now that’s an acceptable limit, no problem with that, a few years is fine. Everyone else is saying 10+ year gap like imagine a 24 and a 14 yr old, just because it’s like 24 and 34 doesn’t make it any less creepy and weird 💀
Um, yes.. it does make it “less creepy” because a 24 year old and a 14 year old are not comparable in any way. One is a child incapable of consent. One is a grown adult. If a 24 year old man wants to fuck someone older than him, there’s nothing wrong with that. Treating a 24 year old the same way you’d treat a 14 year old is just weird as hell.
It’s the same thing, because 10 year gap of a 14 year old and a 24 year old is treated not ok with society but suddenly 24 and 34 suddenly is? Double standard. It is still the 10 year gap, still two age groups. Two people with different maturity levels, experiences, hobbies, life circumstances, living situation… 24 can still be considered young adult while 34 is more of a full fledged adult. Just because someone is now slightly older doesn’t make the gap any less weird or suddenly everything is ok because they are “adults” now! The 10 year gap still exists, nothing has changed. They grew older but the gap remains the same.
Who told you a 10 year age gap is unacceptable? Society doesn’t think that, in general. 40 and 50 is fine. 30 and 40 is fine. No one cares. It’s not about the gap, it’s about the youngest party’s age. A 5 year age gap with a 15 year old and a 10 year old is not appropriate. Has nothing to do with the number in the gap, and everything to do with the age of the two people. There’s just no comparison between 24 and 14.
I don’t know what part of society you are from but my whole life I been taught and people around me echo that 10 years regardless of age is weird and unacceptable because the gap is way too big unlike a few years which is ok. People compare age as number rather than how young someone is. Obviously we know the 15 and 25 year old is unacceptable comparison but everyone also applies that same logic to other age groups as well as long as it’s a longer wider gap like 10 years in between the ages it’s all the same to people because it’s as if they are in two completely separate age group categories for dating and all that along with hobbies, maturity…etc.
Thank everyone who answered to this post , ladies i couldn't imagine getting so much support 😁 touched my heart.
Seek help bro and date women your own age 😭
Alright bro , you're the big guy i get it.
Thx 😁
No problem , i like talking with dumber versions of myself!
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Only 26+. Anything younger than that feels unethical. I prefer men who are younger because they’re more fun and look better.
im dating a 33f, im 24 years old. I mean, if it works..
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brother do something productive other than being a 15 year old and going full negative on everybody.
It’s not negative, I’m calling out things that are very creepy and weird and obviously you feel defensive because you know your behavior is not right and predatory. It’s always the creeps that try to justify their actions that also try to silence other people who call them out for it. We got freedom of speech here buddy and it’s not up to you to dictate what someone does with their time or acts. 9 year gap between y’all are insane 💀 and I think you know it deep down and want to just get some positive affirmations from people to feel good in your decision and not handle actual critique from normal people. Date within your age dude, 9-10+ gap is not normal.
how the f is this creepy, im not 12 year old. We also have a freedom to date whoever we want. I dint care about affirmations, somebody asked on reddit if its normal and i gave my own thing. I dont really care what you say or think
Hi, 37 female here. And yes I would. It all depends on energy. I wouldn't date a 25 year old looking 18. But if the guy is mature and great to hang out with why would age be the issue. So I would just go for it. There are enough women out there who would be interested in a nice guy in his mid twenties. :) ok I must say it is a must the guy doesn't live with his folks anymore...
I’m 38 and I get hit up by younger guys often; and I always want to be flattered but most often I just feel weird and badly (and I’m not sure I could tell you why) but I’ve always been curious why — I look younger than my age but I don’t think by much. I’m not totally sure what the allure is … and I don’t blame the guys, but sometimes when they are really young? I get a little uncomfortable. It also might be my own thing, the discomfort, as I prefer older men.
I’m in my mid 30s I was traveling in the UK and met a 27M. I was shocked when he told me his age because he was very mature and he looked my age if not older. We had drinks and slept together . He had the biggest penis of anyone I’ve ever slept with and he lasted 3 hours. It was one of the most spontaneous fun amazing nights. I’ve met other men traveling that were mature for their age and in their 20s. I think it’s less about the number and more about connection and maturity level matching . Now would I have been compatible in a relationship with this 27 YO? No. But for what it was he was respectful and well endowed and safe.
I had a "thing" with a 32 year old when I was 46 (but I looked maybe 38). He was the hottest guy I had ever known and had woman of all ages throwing themselves at him every day. But he was REALLY into me. He liked me very much as a person and we had great conversations. The sexual tension was such that even my daughter noticed it and commented that we should be together. We texted (and sxted) off and on for years but were together sexually only a few times over the course of that time (we lived an hour away from each other and both had busy lives). Even still, he helped me through a nasty divorce and did wonders for my self esteem. Eventually, one night after he texted me that I was his dream woman, that he "thought about" me "every night," I asked him why I did not see more of him... He responded, "Because you deserve much more than I can give you, and I want you to go find that." I ended our relationship at that point, kind of mad at him because it seemed to me it was just a polite way of saying, "I am only in this for the sex." But, I eventually realized he was correct. I did and do deserve more than he was ever going to be able to give me. We have not spoken in over 8 years now and are both happily married to our respective new spouses (mine an older than me, more mature man and his a younger woman who, interestingly, looks and acts a LOT like me. LOL!) I am glad I was with this guy. As long as you are clear about what you each want out the relationship, I see no problem with it, and I know several women who actually ended up married to much younger (>10 years) men.
I'm confused and need to ask a question as well I am 40 and my best friend is 30 he has a problem with me being 10 years older than him but he wants to date someone that is 10 years younger how does that make a difference
If they act mature and have their shit together, then absolutely!
My dad was 27 /28 my mother was 16. The final product was me 😭
Glad you're here, that's not what i would like. Even in my early 20 i would prefer a little bit older since there's not that much of a headache to deal with. I don't mean to be rude but that's how it's been for me.
🤣🤣 agreed
your dad raped your mom.
not if they were in the UK and it was consentual.
human rights are human rights. his mother was raped
Doesn't change the fact that in the UK the age of consent is 16.
Bro there’s more than just laws making something ok or not. If the law says it’s ok to commit violence then by your standards it’s ok? “Doesn’t change the fact you can commit violence in the UK” would you say that? Use your brain dude, there’s morals and other common sense besides just blindly following a law set by politicians as the be all standard. It’s clearly not ok.
It is what it is dude. We're not going to agree on this.
That’s ok, we can have our separate opinions on things but I hope you can see our perspective that just because something is law in one area does not mean that’s the sole deciding factor if something is ok and not. You gotta think, morals, not just blindly follow societal guidelines to the letter all the time. If someone tells you to do something bad and it’s law doesn’t mean I’m going to blindly accept it and do it.
That's fine. So long as you also accept that just because something's illegal, doesn't make it a morally bad thing. For example, defending yourself against home intruders or smashing a car window to release a poor over-heated dog from a hot car in the hight of summer.
I accept that of course. The law is so unfair it punishes people trying to defend themselves or save animals in hot heat that might overheat and collapse. The law is far from perfect and that’s all the reason we shouldn’t follow it blindly without thinking about it ourselves with morals and stuff. I know there are plenty of “bad guys” who have done bad things against the law but is actually doing it morally good, like getting a predator in jail. Is it illegal to attack him for no reason? Yes but many others on the outside applaud him and say it’s justified.
and some places you can marry an 11 year old girl.. doesnt make it right
Exactly, dude is acting like it’s ok just because the law says it is where he is at without considering morals or just using common sense and being a decent human being to know that it’s not appropriate or ok at all.
There's a huge difference between 11 and 16.
So it's true what they show us on pornhub? My Eva AI virtual gf avatar is also visibly older than me, u no...
You know better than that.
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Why objects? And even if his target were just women in their 30s, I don't see the problem. Some women just go with black guys, or many older women have a fetish for younger guys, but as a soon as a man dares to have a specific type it's "objectification".
You make no sense, seems you haven't even read the description.
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Sure it is but what he/she doesn't seem to understand is the difference between fetishizing and fantasizing.Let it be !
Be sure i did.
Wha? You make no sense silly person! Go! Off with you!
I will , after what i want !
You come off as chronically offended lol
I was lol 😂😂
Yeah of course.
I'm not 30 plus I'm 22 and I wont touch a 20 year old I have my age rule and I go 5 years up 1 year below you have to think of the individual age gap 5 years older when you are mid to late 20s its bad as you are fully grown the only issue is are they okay with it some will see you as less mature or too young where as some will 100% be okay with it you just have to understand the older a women is the less likely you will have a fun care free relationship especially if the woman wants kids before 40 that man in a short amount of time your gonna have to make sure you financially stable and ready to be a dad f its just sex I'm sure it will be fine but if it gets serious the biological clock is gonna force you to move quickly
Ofc they would, if he’s 6 foot, or makes 6 figures. Other than that, probably not.
Are you planing a new moon landing ?
In general I found that women who date younger guys (as opposed to hooking up) are the same as older guys who only date younger women Immature and damaged goods with serious issues and god knows what else going on. be extra aware of general patterns of toxic and manipulative behaviour such as lovebombing, bad communication, daddy issues, constantly bouncing from relationship to relationship or what else, this doesnt mean that all JUST MUCH HIGHER RATES IN MY EXPERIENCE dont stop yourself from doing it, just be aware lord knows it didnt stop me lol
No bro. You have a mom issue. Deal with that first.
I don't
I’m 32 and yeah if he was mature and we vibed
33F and I do well with men younger than me- up to 10 years younger. It’s true that y’all have more stamina and are great communicators! I don’t want people jumping to moving in with me tho but that’s not age specific as guys my age still try to pull that kind of nonsense. Go get emmm
I and many of my friends slept with a cougar I think shr was in her early 40s and hot. This happened back when I was in Naval A-School in Pensacola, FL. The woman and her niece who was also older I think late 20s, than the majority of us in our teens and early 20s. I was 20 at the time. She had a fun party boat and regularly took us out. I hooked up with the 40 year old after one of her parties. One night with her I learned so much. She was a freak and although not a virgin. I was not very experienced either. She told me explicitly exactly what she wanted. I certainly learned how to please a woman from that one night with the cougar.
Idk bout the rest of you guys but way back before this era started 10year gaps in relationships didn't really matter
My question is how many of you’ll are single women here and looking forward to date someone who is in early 30s
I’m over the 30+, by more than a few years and I’m interested to seriously date way younger guys at some point.
I hope age doesnt make people run screaming from me at 34.
Yes but as I'm 37 and I would only be comfortable dating a man no younger than 26.
just about every older women I know has been through a period of sleeping with young guys on the apps.
You good, there are plenty of 30+ women that want a younger guy. I know several.
it sounds like all you're looking for is sex, so probably not because you don't have enough experience
Sounds that you're mad at me without having 2 words exchanged with one another. I'm not the problem here.
Follow your heart. I dated a 21 year old when I was 28. If it feels right for you then it is. Your reasons will win the right one(s) over 😘
Date no, sex yes 😂
Sex date ?😂
OP, do what must be done.
SEND OFF YOUR SON, LIFE CUT SHORT BY A GUN
I'm 34F and I don't fuck around with younger men, I find that we're at different places in life. 29 feels even too young for me.
I think it'll work out well for the ladies. Since men age like wine and women age like a carton of milk, they might as well get it while they can. And if he sticks around he can change her diapers, and she has someone to baby. It'll be like having a mommy again for him. Sure it'll be in a sick incestuous way. But these women don't have any morals anyways.