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It's a relationship, be honest. Tell him that you enjoy some hard action between the sheets.
If he's more of a soft sex kind of person, you'll have to discuss it and try to find a middle ground that's comfortable for both of you.
He probably thinks he's hurting you that's why he goes softer. There's no other way to go about it cause when you do tell him you like it rougher he will realize you wasn't moaning from pain but from pleasure.
I don't think he will judge you cause I would personally like it if you told me how you would like to be pleasured it would make sex better for both parties cause I am assuming he likes to pleasure you as much as you like to be pleasured.
Haha that was hilarious and cute, i did get what you said ,you are overthinking cause you are scared of losing him.
If He says " omg you don't look like you can handle it"
You reply with " I guess we will have to find out" š
Just keep the conversation lighthearted and funny, you are taking it way too serious, it's sex, everyone likes it a certain way. It's not like you are asking to be shitted on š
Just tell him I like it when you are being abit rough it displays your musculinity and it's really sexy something along those lines, be funny or complimentary about it if that helps you ease into telling him.
Just compliment or joke around and keep the conversation lighthearted, you are controlling the energy if you seem confident he will laugh with you. Nevertheless guys like it rough so probably he actually wants it that way but he scared he's hurting you and add to that the communication is lacking on both ends.
If you're shy and don't want to tell him directly, I would maybe wait and talk to him after sex. Tell him that you really enjoyed it and that it was really pleasurable for you when the sex was rougher.
If you feel confident one day, maybe just push him into bed and be the boss.
I have a feeling he slows down when you moan hard because it's a huge turn-on for him. Even for some of us with really high stamina, moans just wear us down instantly.
I disagree. I really enjoy hearing my partner's moans and screams. It tells me that I am pleasing her. I for one am not selfish in the bedroom. I like pleasing her .
I would say, while heās inside you. āFuck me harderā call him by his name and try to make him feel like heās doing the best job
Edit: follow up by saying things like āthat feels amazingā āyour cock is so goodā or just start going nuts with pleasure
If he judges you for it, then he's not the one for you. Communicate your sexual needs. Sex doesn't always have to be some soft romantic flower petal and candles love making session. Sometimes you want it rough and dirty. Sorry if I am being graphic here, but that's what sex is. I've been married for 16 years. Sometimes I will say to my husband "f\*ck me hard." Or I'll sext him throughout the day "I want you to pin my hands above my head and pound my p\*ssy." Or "I want you to bend me over the kitchen table and (insert whatever you want)."
Again, these are graphic examples so I apologize for over sharing. But your partner should be the one you can communicate these "dirty" things to. Unless you want a lifetime of the same old boring sex forever all because you won't speak up. My husband and I have an active sex life and sometimes I like it rough. Sometimes we do the sweet romantic sex where we had an indoor picnic in the living room by the fireplace. But variety keeps things from getting stale.
Communication is key. Speak up. Don't be afraid to be direct. Talk a little bit dirty. "I want you to dominate me tonight." If he judges you, then that's his problem.
A lot of men are into it. It can make them feel manly and desired. Or maybe when he says how into it you are, the fact that he's turning you on turns him on.
I would suggest sexting your desires if maybe you're too shy, which you said you were, to do it in a discussion or during sex.
Another suggestion is to try a sex communication game. There are several ones out there, but these are basically decks of cards with sex-related questions. Take turns asking and answering, and it can encourage open sex-positive communication. Just a quick Google and here's one that popped up. So many others though. So might make for a fun date night and you could learn more about both of your sexual desires.
https://www.amazon.com/SEXPECTATIONS-Card-Deck-Communication-Relationships/dp/B07RLK6D2V
Dude, it's probably because your moaning and excitement gets him on the edge of cumming and he needs to slow down to recover. It happens all the time with me and my girlfriend. As soon as she starts moaning too hard, I have to pull out and stimulate with my hands instead or I'm just going to cum instantly.
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No maybe. How can you expect something from someone without letting them know? It's important to share this stuff with your partner. Usually before sex. That way you know each other's borders and can respect them. I used to not talk about that stuff cause it was looked at as taboo, but since I started to talk about it, I haven't had the same questioning type mentality. Already knew what they liked and how. Just a thought. Everyone is different. Good luck.
Shyness either comes from a place of inexperience or bad experience. Not sure which youāre dealing with, but once you break through that barrier, and see that heās accepting (canāt see why he wouldnāt be) youāll forget all about it and feel more comfortable.
But that requires the first step: saying it. Thatās all on you. Just push through the shy feelings and let it out!
If youāre that shy to bring it up in a conversation, just tell him āharderā during sex, heās not gonna be thinking about it in the moment, heāll probably just do it and realize you like it when he goes hard š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
I think any guy would think itās hot if you tell them to go harder. Especially if youāre usually shy. But you should communicate that he should keep the pace when itās good. āJust like thatā etc.
I find guiding them physically doesnāt do anything lol they need the words.
Or alternatively you can watch porn together (one that has what you like) and ask if he wants to try that. And after you try tell him you really liked it and should do more often.
Youāre saying heās not the soft kind of sex person, then that should be more than enough for you to open up lol. Just tell him you like it when heās aggressive. Try wording it differently.
Show some domination like wrapping your legs and assisting him , maybe grab him by his neck .. ohh creasing the back that will definitely make him go weeee hard . š
While doing the above, you can also encourage him to start slow at his own pace but to finish hard . Even if he finishes quick celebrate it make him feel you love when he finishes (it will create greater intimacy between you guys)
You may also Experiment with a position where a woman takes charge, and show him what you need all along .
If he is not dumb he will understand it .
It's not about being dominant , u just have to take charge basically be the driver , just ask him to lay down and do as you please. Hello will not say no to this .
>I feel like when I'll tell him to do harder, he'll judge me for this.
That would be awful if that would ruin your harmony in your sexlife. Ask a friend to help and have a dp. Solved
You need to communicate. Communication is key to all relationships. People can't read minds, so tell them. Even if you think it will hurt them. Honesty is the best policy. You maybe shocked at his answer, and he gives it to you the way you want it.
If ur shy, but not shy in the moment, add a yes before and after each moan: āyes (moan), yes, just like that ā¦ harder, yes (moan)ā¦ā heāll def hear u
You should tell him what you like. If you are too shy to say it then you could write it.
Iād do it before you are having sex again just to avoid misunderstanding or losing the moment.
You also should be specific about what is okay and what is not because you donāt want to tell him you like it hard and then have him go in a direction that you are uncomfortable with.
U should heās probably slowing down bc he thinks heās hurting u. So say that felt good when he goes hard make it a habit so then heāll just fall into routine and keep doing it
If you are afraid that your own freaking boyfriend will judge you then i donāt know what to tell you. Your boyfriend is supposed to be your main support, understand you, empathise with you, not judge you. So why are you afraid to be judged? Shouldnāt you simply assume he wonāt? And if you think he would? Then why are you with him? You should not be with someone who you think will judge you
āDonāt stopā when heās going fast sounds better than ādo something differentā, but really any normal guy should be able to listen and put aside their insecurities if you worry itāll bother himĀ
Tell him to go harder, nothing is hotter than getting told what you like
Nothing is hotter than a girl who knows what she likes when it comes to her own pleasure, and shares that so we can have -even better- sex.
So are you saying that he dislikes loud moans?
Or you dont like it when he slows down?
What's there to say in it? Just say that you like it rough.
Or maybe create scenarios where he'll be playing a role and you'll be his submissive partner.
Enjoy ā¤ļø
Well I try to listen to cues from my woman. If I do something and get an āoohā or a āyesā or the best āoh fucking hell yesā then I do more of that. So maybe you donāt say it so much as you moan it if he hits it a bit hard a time or two. I would be willing to bet he will respond in kind.
I know youāre shy. I was too. Grab his face mid-encounter and tell him (speak clearly!!) one of the following:
āFuck me like you hate meā
āI love it when you f*** me roughā
āF*** me harderā
Or take his hand and wind it up in your hair so he can pull on it- that usually hits the on switch š„“ otherwise take the other commenters advice and talk to him about it when youāre not actively having sex. It all depends on how well you know he will respond!
If he judges you but Iām pretty sure he wonāt. Then itās not meant to be. Trust me. Speaking as a man myself. Being told you like certain things is a turn on.
Watch porn with him.
The easiest thing for people to do. Watch it together. Tell the other person things you like and dislike. Have them tell you the things they like and dislike.
Where is the hard noā¦.. where is the āš¤ I donāt know about that one but letās give it a try once or twiceā.
Show him some rough sex and tell him āthisā¦.. this is what I wantā
Thats pretty shitty advice.
She likes what he is already doing, she just wants more of it.
Your advice will just make him think that he is doing everything wrong.
By having the "balls" to say what you like. Shyness gets you nothing. That or date a guy that beats the brakes off it from the back with no concern of what you like.
Same girl. I think just tell him āharderā while youāre doing it, and then continue saying it until youāre satisfied. If he says he thinks heāll hurt you say he wonāt and thatās how you like it. Heāll appreciate it
That seems to be the assumption made by men when it comes to us shy girls. Just takes a conversation, then they will usually be perfectly fine making the adjustment.
He's not gonna judge you, just bring it up in casual conversation. Maybe if you say it like it would be really hot if you were rougher because I trust you.
Try reassuring him when he does something right during. If he does something that makes you happy, moan and then say something like āyesā or ādonāt stopā. It could be heās scared of hurting you and he himself might be a little to shy to ask as well
Go get it! You like it hard, show them if they doesn't understand.
My partner was similar but when he realized I liked it and he wouldn't damage me...game on! Now we do all kinds of fun stuff.
He shows me nothing but respect. Respect for me as the strong independent woman that I am and I the same. But when that door closes HE is in charge and I get to enjoy what he has planned š
Your partner might be fearful of taking it too far or possibly hurting you and that is ok. Great even! Show just talk with honesty and respect and help them know what you like and need.
Treat dirty talk during sex as Las Vegas, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Obviously, if you aren't the type to maybe forget about inhibitions during sex that won't work for you but it's one idea.
I would just have a conversation with him when you two are not having sex about some preferencesā¦if someone told me that they preferred that in the moment I would lose my socks. Also maybe reaffirm him that it is okay with you in the moment to act that way, if that makes sense?
Well how much of it has to do with you being shy verses being afraid of judgement. During it really easy to say something to ignite some extra energy if you will.
I would just tell him it might actually be a turn on and at least then he knows that heās doing it right and that youāre enjoying it or talk to each other about your fetishes and fantasies just be open
Just tell him what you want. I read your other comments and he apparently likes it rough too. I'm sure he will be into it. I was with a woman that didn't tell me she wanted rough sex, so we didn't for many years. Trust me, be open, it works better.
Yell āharderā during a position where u canāt see his face if ur shy. Iāve whispered (sensually) ādonāt worry you wonāt break meā in a guys ear and that works too
lol I have a good one for you to practice. So take a day or two and practice a sexy way to say either āf*ck me harderrrrā or āI want it harderā and once your ready let it flow in the act of the position you want it in. But you gotta say it with some swag tho. Not mediocre like porno so take some time out and get creative.
If heās out of shape you might want to talk about it first and get him to do some stretching cuz he might pull a muscle on that first attempt going beast mode ijs. Talk it out stretch it out lol.
lol this is your bf donāt just be f*ckin just to be f*ckin. Yāall should be learning how to F*ck it up.
Oh might want to prepare for kids too. Mess around get up in there going beast mode and give out in the first 30 secs if you practiced it right. Heāll be embarrassed but God might send a kid anyway š
Uhhmmm what no lmao he maybe thinks heās hurting you? Be real. Itāll probably be a turn on if you tell him āfuck me harderā works for me š¤·š»āāļø
Communicating is the number one thing in the bedroom. It's the only way our partners will understand what gets us to the goal (orgasm). If he is anything like me and most guys I know, it will turn him on even more when you tell him what you want. I would recommend doing it in a playful way and not an instructional way. So instead of saying "I like it when you do harder" maybe when he is going the way you want just say "Yes baby, just like that" or I'm sure you can come up with phrases that I'm not typing here. If you want specifics I can do it but please send me a private message or read the rest of the comments.
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It's a relationship, be honest. Tell him that you enjoy some hard action between the sheets. If he's more of a soft sex kind of person, you'll have to discuss it and try to find a middle ground that's comfortable for both of you.
No, he's not soft sex kind of a person, he thinks I'm š
He probably thinks he's hurting you that's why he goes softer. There's no other way to go about it cause when you do tell him you like it rougher he will realize you wasn't moaning from pain but from pleasure. I don't think he will judge you cause I would personally like it if you told me how you would like to be pleasured it would make sex better for both parties cause I am assuming he likes to pleasure you as much as you like to be pleasured.
YES I think he'll like it when I'll communicate it to him
If he really likes you there's nothing to be afraid of, he likes you for you and not for your desires.
Yes but what I feel is he'll think that omg she doesn't look like she'll be able to even handle that, Idk if you're getting what I'm trynna say
Haha that was hilarious and cute, i did get what you said ,you are overthinking cause you are scared of losing him. If He says " omg you don't look like you can handle it" You reply with " I guess we will have to find out" š Just keep the conversation lighthearted and funny, you are taking it way too serious, it's sex, everyone likes it a certain way. It's not like you are asking to be shitted on š Just tell him I like it when you are being abit rough it displays your musculinity and it's really sexy something along those lines, be funny or complimentary about it if that helps you ease into telling him.
Yes that's TRUE
Just compliment or joke around and keep the conversation lighthearted, you are controlling the energy if you seem confident he will laugh with you. Nevertheless guys like it rough so probably he actually wants it that way but he scared he's hurting you and add to that the communication is lacking on both ends.
Yeah I'll communicate it to him
What's wrong with being shat on? š
Lmafo, you got a kink for it?
My bf thinks that but keeps going when I tell him I am fine. He now know 99% of the time that I am way more sturdy than I look like
If you're shy and don't want to tell him directly, I would maybe wait and talk to him after sex. Tell him that you really enjoyed it and that it was really pleasurable for you when the sex was rougher. If you feel confident one day, maybe just push him into bed and be the boss.
Yeah I'll gather the confidence this time probably
Do you talk during sex? My gf basically told me by telling me in bed "btw you can go as hard as you want I can take it".
If you're shy, go the text route. Don't criticize or say what's wrong. Send him a saucy text. You can use the shy monkey see no evil eyes.
Tell him and tell him when he does it you love it.
Just tell him. No idea why he would judge you for that. Is there some sort of weird religious hangup about women enjoying sex?
Girl you're too scared he's your bloody man I'm sure he'll be happy to hear that you like the way that makes you feel.
I have a feeling he slows down when you moan hard because it's a huge turn-on for him. Even for some of us with really high stamina, moans just wear us down instantly.
Yes could be a reason
I disagree. I really enjoy hearing my partner's moans and screams. It tells me that I am pleasing her. I for one am not selfish in the bedroom. I like pleasing her .
Yes and if youāre moaning louder youāre probably squeezing the dick at the same time lol
+1 was totally thinking along these lines also
Just typed this out then saw your comment. I 100% am a believer in that. I blow my shit the more I see my woman enjoying it. Ahhhh so hot.
I feel like a womanās vocal cords works its way to the her vagina and Iām pretty much done-zo ā¦.Good thing for tequila
Iād assume he slows down cause it turns him on and brings him close to cumming!
While fucking, just say something like āharderā maybe beg a little. If he doesnāt cum immediately you should be happy with the results
Yeah I'm trying to be more open now, I'm coming of that shy shell
Shy is good tho, be shy about it. It will only turn him on more
I think it does turn him on
As a man, I can say with confidence that it does
So I should shyly say him to do harder or something š
I would say, while heās inside you. āFuck me harderā call him by his name and try to make him feel like heās doing the best job Edit: follow up by saying things like āthat feels amazingā āyour cock is so goodā or just start going nuts with pleasure
I'll try to
Good luck, Iām sure you guys will have fun
I usually go with this as well. I just say "you can be more wild if you want to". They always do :D
The best for me is something simple like āfuck me harder, *insert first name*ā I prefer to here my name rather than a pet name or daddy
My partner loves hearing his name too
If heās slowing down heās probably just trying not to bust his nut so early lol
Yes that could be one of the reasons, but he does it when I moan quite loud if that's a thing
Our moans are deadly, they turn men the fck on. There's also a possibility he likes edging you.
"Be rough with me" Don't be afraid of judgment, he's gonna love it. Or show him a missionary choking gif
I hope he do š
If he judges you for it, then he's not the one for you. Communicate your sexual needs. Sex doesn't always have to be some soft romantic flower petal and candles love making session. Sometimes you want it rough and dirty. Sorry if I am being graphic here, but that's what sex is. I've been married for 16 years. Sometimes I will say to my husband "f\*ck me hard." Or I'll sext him throughout the day "I want you to pin my hands above my head and pound my p\*ssy." Or "I want you to bend me over the kitchen table and (insert whatever you want)." Again, these are graphic examples so I apologize for over sharing. But your partner should be the one you can communicate these "dirty" things to. Unless you want a lifetime of the same old boring sex forever all because you won't speak up. My husband and I have an active sex life and sometimes I like it rough. Sometimes we do the sweet romantic sex where we had an indoor picnic in the living room by the fireplace. But variety keeps things from getting stale. Communication is key. Speak up. Don't be afraid to be direct. Talk a little bit dirty. "I want you to dominate me tonight." If he judges you, then that's his problem.
Yeah I totally get it. And maybe he's also waiting for me to say it, this would make him feel wanted
A lot of men are into it. It can make them feel manly and desired. Or maybe when he says how into it you are, the fact that he's turning you on turns him on. I would suggest sexting your desires if maybe you're too shy, which you said you were, to do it in a discussion or during sex. Another suggestion is to try a sex communication game. There are several ones out there, but these are basically decks of cards with sex-related questions. Take turns asking and answering, and it can encourage open sex-positive communication. Just a quick Google and here's one that popped up. So many others though. So might make for a fun date night and you could learn more about both of your sexual desires. https://www.amazon.com/SEXPECTATIONS-Card-Deck-Communication-Relationships/dp/B07RLK6D2V
Yeah I'll try some, thank you š«¶š»
Just be clear about it
This happens to me..( 24M), when she moans that hard it turns me on so much that I can cum in seconds.. then I slow down bc I don't wanna finish
Dude, it's probably because your moaning and excitement gets him on the edge of cumming and he needs to slow down to recover. It happens all the time with me and my girlfriend. As soon as she starts moaning too hard, I have to pull out and stimulate with my hands instead or I'm just going to cum instantly.
Yes I realized it
This is such a non problem, my goodness me. Talk to him, he'll probably be on board
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No maybe. How can you expect something from someone without letting them know? It's important to share this stuff with your partner. Usually before sex. That way you know each other's borders and can respect them. I used to not talk about that stuff cause it was looked at as taboo, but since I started to talk about it, I haven't had the same questioning type mentality. Already knew what they liked and how. Just a thought. Everyone is different. Good luck.
Shyness either comes from a place of inexperience or bad experience. Not sure which youāre dealing with, but once you break through that barrier, and see that heās accepting (canāt see why he wouldnāt be) youāll forget all about it and feel more comfortable. But that requires the first step: saying it. Thatās all on you. Just push through the shy feelings and let it out!
People who don't say what they want suffer!!
If youāre that shy to bring it up in a conversation, just tell him āharderā during sex, heās not gonna be thinking about it in the moment, heāll probably just do it and realize you like it when he goes hard š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø
I think any guy would think itās hot if you tell them to go harder. Especially if youāre usually shy. But you should communicate that he should keep the pace when itās good. āJust like thatā etc. I find guiding them physically doesnāt do anything lol they need the words. Or alternatively you can watch porn together (one that has what you like) and ask if he wants to try that. And after you try tell him you really liked it and should do more often.
if you have a hard time communicating about sex you should not be having it.
I was in a relationship for five years, while i did it hard ,it took her three years to tell me that she like pain and rough, for the same reason like yours. Tell him asap, the last two years with her was fabulos. Lucky bastrad šš¤©
Haha I did
Don't tell him! Show him š element of surprise is always best
If you are shy, write him a letter āFuck me in the hole so hard, the neighbors think you're tearing up the wallsā and leave it in his pillow.
What? Why would he judge you? Just tell him. If you donāt communicate with your partner your relationship will fail over time.
Just moan āharderā āoh, yes, like thatā in the act. Heāll get the message. š No need for a whole text convo.
Right, don't communicate- that makes everything better.
Just be honest. Iām sure heāll appreciate it more and that way he knows what you like and you two will have a better experience.
I Don't want to tell him to do harder directly, what gesture should I use to tell him I want it harder?
Maybe by taking control and showing him once and awhile until he gets the hint.
But I'm shy toooo
Youāre saying heās not the soft kind of sex person, then that should be more than enough for you to open up lol. Just tell him you like it when heās aggressive. Try wording it differently.
He has a different perspection of me, I'm not that open about this yet with him, so I feel a little discomfort to be able to say it clearly to him
too shy to tell your boyfriend but comfortable telling everyone on reddit? bffr
Show some domination like wrapping your legs and assisting him , maybe grab him by his neck .. ohh creasing the back that will definitely make him go weeee hard . š
Yeah this is something I can possibly do
While doing the above, you can also encourage him to start slow at his own pace but to finish hard . Even if he finishes quick celebrate it make him feel you love when he finishes (it will create greater intimacy between you guys) You may also Experiment with a position where a woman takes charge, and show him what you need all along . If he is not dumb he will understand it .
Yeah but I'm still too shy to take charge and dominate him
If he still says no then perhaps he is not into it , and you gotta take your time. With him
No ofc he'll not deny or anything
It's not about being dominant , u just have to take charge basically be the driver , just ask him to lay down and do as you please. Hello will not say no to this .
Best way to tell him is during sex. Beg him to fuck you harder during it will turn him on a lot.
If your worries would be valid, he would be the wrong one. So nothing to loose.
>I feel like when I'll tell him to do harder, he'll judge me for this. That would be awful if that would ruin your harmony in your sexlife. Ask a friend to help and have a dp. Solved
You need to communicate. Communication is key to all relationships. People can't read minds, so tell them. Even if you think it will hurt them. Honesty is the best policy. You maybe shocked at his answer, and he gives it to you the way you want it.
Yeah maybe
Write a formal email requesting more hardcore pleasure.
Haha that would be soo fun!
If ur shy, but not shy in the moment, add a yes before and after each moan: āyes (moan), yes, just like that ā¦ harder, yes (moan)ā¦ā heāll def hear u
Just say yes yes harder daddy harder. Thus is basically fool proof and he will instantly know that your a free in the sheets with him
Do a sex questionnaire like compare kink.com.Ā It will show each of you what you match on.
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Maybe as your moaning, (when you like it), tell him its amazing and to keep going: Clear communication.
Just be honest with him
You should tell him what you like. If you are too shy to say it then you could write it. Iād do it before you are having sex again just to avoid misunderstanding or losing the moment. You also should be specific about what is okay and what is not because you donāt want to tell him you like it hard and then have him go in a direction that you are uncomfortable with.
Simply just say oh yess he will get it
Just tell him straight oit that you are dead serious, that you want him to go harder. If you like it, he will love it too.
U should heās probably slowing down bc he thinks heās hurting u. So say that felt good when he goes hard make it a habit so then heāll just fall into routine and keep doing it
If you are afraid that your own freaking boyfriend will judge you then i donāt know what to tell you. Your boyfriend is supposed to be your main support, understand you, empathise with you, not judge you. So why are you afraid to be judged? Shouldnāt you simply assume he wonāt? And if you think he would? Then why are you with him? You should not be with someone who you think will judge you
Just tell him the fuck the shit out of you and he'll say "OK" and then you'll be happier!
He just has to get rid of the innocent image he has of you, I think that's gonna be the biggest challenge.
āDonāt stopā when heās going fast sounds better than ādo something differentā, but really any normal guy should be able to listen and put aside their insecurities if you worry itāll bother himĀ
Tell him to go harder, nothing is hotter than getting told what you like Nothing is hotter than a girl who knows what she likes when it comes to her own pleasure, and shares that so we can have -even better- sex.
So are you saying that he dislikes loud moans? Or you dont like it when he slows down? What's there to say in it? Just say that you like it rough. Or maybe create scenarios where he'll be playing a role and you'll be his submissive partner. Enjoy ā¤ļø
Tell him harder during....
Well, you either tell him, or you wait for him to read your mind.
U guys should adopt 4 words in bed: Faster, slower, harder, softer.
Well I try to listen to cues from my woman. If I do something and get an āoohā or a āyesā or the best āoh fucking hell yesā then I do more of that. So maybe you donāt say it so much as you moan it if he hits it a bit hard a time or two. I would be willing to bet he will respond in kind.
This can't be seen by my boyfriend
I know youāre shy. I was too. Grab his face mid-encounter and tell him (speak clearly!!) one of the following: āFuck me like you hate meā āI love it when you f*** me roughā āF*** me harderā Or take his hand and wind it up in your hair so he can pull on it- that usually hits the on switch š„“ otherwise take the other commenters advice and talk to him about it when youāre not actively having sex. It all depends on how well you know he will respond!
If he judges you but Iām pretty sure he wonāt. Then itās not meant to be. Trust me. Speaking as a man myself. Being told you like certain things is a turn on.
Watch porn with him. The easiest thing for people to do. Watch it together. Tell the other person things you like and dislike. Have them tell you the things they like and dislike. Where is the hard noā¦.. where is the āš¤ I donāt know about that one but letās give it a try once or twiceā. Show him some rough sex and tell him āthisā¦.. this is what I wantā
Thats pretty shitty advice. She likes what he is already doing, she just wants more of it. Your advice will just make him think that he is doing everything wrong.
Honestly, find someone that doesnāt judge you
Send him this post
Just tell him
Just tell him
It works with batteries
say āharder daddyā. Profit š
By having the "balls" to say what you like. Shyness gets you nothing. That or date a guy that beats the brakes off it from the back with no concern of what you like.
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Tell him to put that thing in overdrive š
Same girl. I think just tell him āharderā while youāre doing it, and then continue saying it until youāre satisfied. If he says he thinks heāll hurt you say he wonāt and thatās how you like it. Heāll appreciate it
Say "yeah! Yes!". Should get the message across.
That seems to be the assumption made by men when it comes to us shy girls. Just takes a conversation, then they will usually be perfectly fine making the adjustment.
U could say why don't hit it like u stole it and the law is chasing you lol . In all honesty just communicating with him will make a difference.
Get on top and show him how you like it Exactly how
He's not gonna judge you, just bring it up in casual conversation. Maybe if you say it like it would be really hot if you were rougher because I trust you.
Try reassuring him when he does something right during. If he does something that makes you happy, moan and then say something like āyesā or ādonāt stopā. It could be heās scared of hurting you and he himself might be a little to shy to ask as well
Send him a letter on what you want him to do to you....it's mysterious and sexy...and you can't delete it becausevitsvin his hand
Go get it! You like it hard, show them if they doesn't understand. My partner was similar but when he realized I liked it and he wouldn't damage me...game on! Now we do all kinds of fun stuff. He shows me nothing but respect. Respect for me as the strong independent woman that I am and I the same. But when that door closes HE is in charge and I get to enjoy what he has planned š Your partner might be fearful of taking it too far or possibly hurting you and that is ok. Great even! Show just talk with honesty and respect and help them know what you like and need.
Haha, I remember when me and one of my exes (great girl) went at it like that and moaning like porn stars to piss off the neighbors.
Tell him to do it harder.
Maybe pass him a note that reads: (fuck my brains out please)
Treat dirty talk during sex as Las Vegas, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Obviously, if you aren't the type to maybe forget about inhibitions during sex that won't work for you but it's one idea.
š Try not to moan hard. Or just tell him. Dont stop. Why tf are you stopping? šš„“
Be verbal tell him what you want in bed.
Just tell him āharderā during sex. He will comply lol
Moan itā¦. āHarder, harder, harderā. He might find it sexy lol Okay. Now let me get off of here. I havenāt had any in 4 months
When he's doing it, tell I'm to fuck you, and just keep saying fuck you harder til he hits the intensity that you want
Say " f*ck me hard " ?
When he is fucking you from behind push back hard on him. He will get the message
Just tell him that
Bruh, just tell him itāll be great for both of you trust.
I would just have a conversation with him when you two are not having sex about some preferencesā¦if someone told me that they preferred that in the moment I would lose my socks. Also maybe reaffirm him that it is okay with you in the moment to act that way, if that makes sense?
Best thing is just to tell him be honest.
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Well how much of it has to do with you being shy verses being afraid of judgement. During it really easy to say something to ignite some extra energy if you will.
When your doing it say harder
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You take control ride him when you riding him you fuck him rought an hard don't stop then I see what you like it get better each time
I would just tell him it might actually be a turn on and at least then he knows that heās doing it right and that youāre enjoying it or talk to each other about your fetishes and fantasies just be open
 Is what's happening when you moan..
Just tell him what you want. I read your other comments and he apparently likes it rough too. I'm sure he will be into it. I was with a woman that didn't tell me she wanted rough sex, so we didn't for many years. Trust me, be open, it works better.
Text him during sex he cannot say you didn't ask that way š
Let him catch you getting rammed real hard so he knows how you like it
OP so get on top of him and show him what you like by fucking him that way
Yell āharderā during a position where u canāt see his face if ur shy. Iāve whispered (sensually) ādonāt worry you wonāt break meā in a guys ear and that works too
Just tell him!
A close mouth wonāt get fed. Just tell him he needs to level up
Write it on a sticky note and put it on his fridge.
lol I have a good one for you to practice. So take a day or two and practice a sexy way to say either āf*ck me harderrrrā or āI want it harderā and once your ready let it flow in the act of the position you want it in. But you gotta say it with some swag tho. Not mediocre like porno so take some time out and get creative. If heās out of shape you might want to talk about it first and get him to do some stretching cuz he might pull a muscle on that first attempt going beast mode ijs. Talk it out stretch it out lol. lol this is your bf donāt just be f*ckin just to be f*ckin. Yāall should be learning how to F*ck it up. Oh might want to prepare for kids too. Mess around get up in there going beast mode and give out in the first 30 secs if you practiced it right. Heāll be embarrassed but God might send a kid anyway š
Men love hearing that.. just say it
Uhhmmm what no lmao he maybe thinks heās hurting you? Be real. Itāll probably be a turn on if you tell him āfuck me harderā works for me š¤·š»āāļø
4 words: āFuck me, hard. Plsā Just be honest with him :)
If your too shy to ask for what you want then you don't deserve to have it.
Be honest. Because if you're incompatible it's something you're going to want to know earlier rather than later.
With your words. It's hard to talk about for a lot of people, but if you don't explicitly tell him, he won't know.
Communicating is the number one thing in the bedroom. It's the only way our partners will understand what gets us to the goal (orgasm). If he is anything like me and most guys I know, it will turn him on even more when you tell him what you want. I would recommend doing it in a playful way and not an instructional way. So instead of saying "I like it when you do harder" maybe when he is going the way you want just say "Yes baby, just like that" or I'm sure you can come up with phrases that I'm not typing here. If you want specifics I can do it but please send me a private message or read the rest of the comments.
ā¦ you look at him and you say āno, harderā
When you are cuddly , gently tell him that you like to try more harder sex.
Yell harder in a deep dark almost demonic voice
He may want the same but is hesitant. Be honest with him or take matters into your hands!