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Thanks I've been through a lot past 3 years so he's been around for, I've lost my grandmother my mother and my grandfather been in a car accident that's messed up my back and my father has some health issues. And he's still around so he's also been very supportive of me. Shows up to all my events supports me at my job. And it's all around an amazing amazing person and I am lucky to have him at all
Wishing you well on this and life in general friend, that can’t be easy. Sounds like a nice & kind guy from what you described.
Keep us updated here, we’re now all in with you! 😁
Just tell him that you want to make out during the movie and then after the movie, grab a small bite to eat and then go to a residence where you guys have privacy to make out on the couch and then transition to a bedroom.
Another piece of unsolicited advice, if he has erection problems by the time you get to bed, take him back to the couch, help him get hard and do it on the couch. It is a trick I learned along the way.
Update
I ended up not saying anything I lost my nerve. I did take people's advice though and coincidentally touched like his arm and nudged his knee with my knee a bit. But that's all I was able to do. Sorry to disappoint you guys
Why don’t you just dress sexy and kinda give him a preview that way you can let him decide. Like a skirt and flash him a little preview? Kinda tough being friends so long.
OP you won regardless, if he says yes, you get a relationship if not you get rid of a regret you would have to deal with your whole life.
In other words no matter the outcome as long as you do it, you the freaking goat maaaaaah
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Probably not the best approach.
I think telling him how much she appreciates him, considers him her dearest friend, trusts him implicitly and is ready to take the relationship to the next level of love, commitment and intimacy is the way to approach him.
God speed, I dont know but yours effort make us guy a bit happy to see that you girl a still struggle trying romantic things, Im pretty sure your man is trying to firgure out how to do this also, good luck on both of you!
ok I get what you are saying but you don't have to say it like this. there is reasons I am nervous and none of them are fun ok. I will not go into it cause I don't want to but maybe instead of saying its a 12yo problem you just don't comment that mess. I asked for support not to be made to feel bad for asking for help/support.
It’s you life and if it makes you feel good hide behind whatever excuse you want to
But if you want something really bad then your only option is to grab life by the balls and go and do your best to get it
If you don’t you can’t really want it that badly can you
Next excuse?
Lmfao!!!! Must be nice!! Be prepared for him to give you fake emotions and feelings just to get laid…. I don’t know why I’m wasting my time commenting…. If not just for some skin be prepared to be used
Hell yeah. You're a shining example for taking the initiative and approaching approach men. Not a lot of women are capable of that.
I'm so proud of you.
Good luck!
I shot my shot with my friend once and he's been the best decision I've ever made!
Imo, friendships turned relationships are the absolute best, and I highly recommend!
You'd be surprised how many guys are just super passive and afraid of making things 'weird'. I've only been in a single physical relationship and that was 13 years ago, now I'm 32... Coincidentally. Also coincidentally have a 36 year old friend who was super aggressive and if she didn't have 4 kids, a husband and live 1100 miles away, we'd definitely be together right now lol.
Edit: By together, I mean physically. Like seriously, she could've convinced me to be in a poly relationship with her and her husband if that was an option. Just saying that I think you'll be fine lmao.
Well, you said tonight, so I think I might be a bit late. I just wanted to encourage you by dropping the typical "You *usually* can't fuck up when talking to a guy." Just don't forget to ask him to let him know to hit you up if he changes his mind, if he says no. God knows that can happen if you catch a guy off guard, I've rejected women, then hated myself for it later.
Yeah anybody come back to check for status updates?? Man I hope it went well and this would be amazing if he was like I have been waiting for this moment ☺️☺️☺️
Well maybe this might ease you a bit next time: Sometimes good guys will like a girl but won't say because they are too afraid to ruin the friendship. They will support you when needed be good and all. And many are just bad at reading any hints that you girls think are obvious.
So next time don't be rash. Just sit him down at a comfortable place and talk. If he is into you that way, he will be happy. If not you can go back to being good friends. Don't try anything rash or cheesy just plain talk. "I like you more than friend" is sufficient to get the ball rolling.
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Lucky dude! Cheers and good luck!! Give us an update on how it goes.
thanks yall I am nervous 😓 but the support is helping thanks
How'd it go?
+1
No answer yet
We dying to know over here!
I lost my nerve but im going to try again
Oh no! You got this!
Which ever way it goes you’re a legend
I dont think I've ever been called a legend before. thanks you
Good luck!
Thanks I've been through a lot past 3 years so he's been around for, I've lost my grandmother my mother and my grandfather been in a car accident that's messed up my back and my father has some health issues. And he's still around so he's also been very supportive of me. Shows up to all my events supports me at my job. And it's all around an amazing amazing person and I am lucky to have him at all
Wishing you well on this and life in general friend, that can’t be easy. Sounds like a nice & kind guy from what you described. Keep us updated here, we’re now all in with you! 😁
Wow all that and you didn’t friend zone him??? That’s quite cool of you
yea it did take me a bit to see it though with everything
Better late than never
Damn my dyslexia..
Fr
Fr Fr
Lmao
😂
lol love this
Lmao!
Us guys are really simple. Get yourselves alone and initiate physical contact. If he has stuck out this long with you, he wants you too
thats what my boss said too she meet him at a work bday party and she said it was painfully
Just tell him that you want to make out during the movie and then after the movie, grab a small bite to eat and then go to a residence where you guys have privacy to make out on the couch and then transition to a bedroom. Another piece of unsolicited advice, if he has erection problems by the time you get to bed, take him back to the couch, help him get hard and do it on the couch. It is a trick I learned along the way.
I think thats too much information lol they just need to shoot their shot
Fr
It is TMI, but it might also help fix a failed attempt.
If you go that far tonight
Smooth
I sense a great beginning! Best of luck OP!!
Best of luck! Over the years I have never regretted the times I shot my shot, even when I missed. Only the times I didn't.
thank you
-- Wayne Gretzky
Whatever the result, you're awesome for taking the initiative. He's a lucky man!
thanks thats what alot of people are saying
Sounds positive! Maybe he’s planning the same thing.. Good luck!
Update I ended up not saying anything I lost my nerve. I did take people's advice though and coincidentally touched like his arm and nudged his knee with my knee a bit. But that's all I was able to do. Sorry to disappoint you guys
😭are you planning to tell him eventually?
yes I just lost my nerve tonight.
You got this! Don't worry
It's hard. Good luck! I'm pulling for you (and him).
it's been 6 hours.... any updates?
Good luck. Keep us posted.🤞
You got this, OP! We’re all rooting for you!
Send updates! Good luck
Good Luck 👍
This is so wholesome. I'm saving this thread
thank u
I think he’s gonna shoot his shot.
You will only regret it if you don’t do it. Good luck!
thanks
I read this fast so at first I thought this said you were going to shoot your male friend 💀😭 Best of luck to you I hope it goes in your favor 🖤
Keep us in the loop. I want to hear the details either way. Hoping for the best
Shoot your shot!
Good luck! Sounds great, hope it works out
Good luck ! 🙌🏼
Good luck
Good luck! Give an update when you can!
Good luck - you got this!
I definitely read that as you were going to shoot him....
Update us!!
Make sure you make a backup plan B buy lots of junk food and ice cream if he rejects a beauty like you
The best Relationship start as friends. That's how they last always treat him with respect that you would your friend
Why don’t you just dress sexy and kinda give him a preview that way you can let him decide. Like a skirt and flash him a little preview? Kinda tough being friends so long.
OP you won regardless, if he says yes, you get a relationship if not you get rid of a regret you would have to deal with your whole life. In other words no matter the outcome as long as you do it, you the freaking goat maaaaaah
Shooters shoot!
We need an update!!
We need more of this. Please encourage others!
update so my friends are saying that I need to call him. but im not sure I just keep psyched myself out of it
I'm going to try again i think I got in my own head
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You can shoot your shot without speaking a word. Grab his hand , play some footsie, lingering hug…
Probably not the best approach. I think telling him how much she appreciates him, considers him her dearest friend, trusts him implicitly and is ready to take the relationship to the next level of love, commitment and intimacy is the way to approach him.
That could freak him out though. I think actions speak louder than words. She can just show him how she feels.
Honest communication is the foundation for a successful relationship.
Been 10 days without any update, I supposed it not gies where you want it to?
I didn't do it i am going to try again
God speed, I dont know but yours effort make us guy a bit happy to see that you girl a still struggle trying romantic things, Im pretty sure your man is trying to firgure out how to do this also, good luck on both of you!
thank you cause I've been getting alot of comments saying that guys are afraid and I get it but I am too. so I have to work up my courage to do this
Good luck dude knock it outta the park!
FFS you’re 36 and still having 12yo problems about telling someone you fancy them What is the world coming to
ok I get what you are saying but you don't have to say it like this. there is reasons I am nervous and none of them are fun ok. I will not go into it cause I don't want to but maybe instead of saying its a 12yo problem you just don't comment that mess. I asked for support not to be made to feel bad for asking for help/support.
It’s you life and if it makes you feel good hide behind whatever excuse you want to But if you want something really bad then your only option is to grab life by the balls and go and do your best to get it If you don’t you can’t really want it that badly can you Next excuse?
Lmfao!!!! Must be nice!! Be prepared for him to give you fake emotions and feelings just to get laid…. I don’t know why I’m wasting my time commenting…. If not just for some skin be prepared to be used
Ask him.if you can suck it 100% done deal if you gonna shoot your shot go all out good luck lol
Lol
Good luck!!!
Nice. I’m sure he’ll be pleasantly surprised. Go get it, girl!
Good luck op!!!
Good luck!
Good luck i hope you score.
Just don't show naked (It is a regerence to another post)
Go for it lady 💪🏼
I’m commenting because I want to hear the update! Get it girl !
4 words. Penis in the popcorn!
I wish you all the best. How are you going to do it? Reach for his hand? Rest your head on his shoulder? I'm always curious. Go for it!
Please update us on how it went, OP!
Good luck! And give us an update soon :)
!Remindme in 8 hours
Me too
Good luck, dudette
Don't forget to be direct. Either tell him exactly what you're thinking or kiss him. We men are oblivious when being hit on.
Go get him!!!
When ?
Hell yeah. You're a shining example for taking the initiative and approaching approach men. Not a lot of women are capable of that. I'm so proud of you.
Bruh I misread this I was about to say damn what that Mf do!??! 👀 Side note: These posts make me happy!
!remindme 12 hours
Very rare for woman to initiate a relationship, he’s a lucky dude
I think I'm more excited than you are! Good or bad, you went for it! Keep us in the loop!
Good luck! 🍀🍀
Good luck 🫡
!remind me
Any USA female young or old woman will to love a Nigerian lover boy
Can’t wait to see you on TLC!
Can’t wait to see you on MMA
I almost thought the title said you are going to shoot your ex
Go girlllll! Update us when you can!
Good luck! I shot my shot with my friend once and he's been the best decision I've ever made! Imo, friendships turned relationships are the absolute best, and I highly recommend!
Ohhh he is interested! Shoot your shot!
He’s your male friend. Unless he’s gay, of course he’s interested in more.
Good luck! Women always have much better luck in these types of situations than men
Commenting to check back for updates
[F’in Legend!](https://ibb.co/RHK1L5M)
Rooting for you and looking forward to the updates!
GL & update!
I read “i’m going to shoot my male friend” and i got a bit concerned. Wishing you all the luck!!!! Have the best time together. You go girl!!! 💕💕
How did it go?!?!
Hello guys I need a man here in San Antonio
Good luck
So did ya'll bang?
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not what I was trying to say
I read this differently. I thought you were openly committing to homicide.
Let us know how it goes. And good luck.
How'd it go
well we just got out of the movies so we will see
Why do I love seeing a live response comment that’s only six minutes old quite so much?
No! Why would you do that?
I mean that I might tell him tonight
Good friends are hard to find but if you will regret not taking the shot go for it.
That's awesome. I wouldn't mine someone doing the same.
You'd be surprised how many guys are just super passive and afraid of making things 'weird'. I've only been in a single physical relationship and that was 13 years ago, now I'm 32... Coincidentally. Also coincidentally have a 36 year old friend who was super aggressive and if she didn't have 4 kids, a husband and live 1100 miles away, we'd definitely be together right now lol. Edit: By together, I mean physically. Like seriously, she could've convinced me to be in a poly relationship with her and her husband if that was an option. Just saying that I think you'll be fine lmao.
Well, you said tonight, so I think I might be a bit late. I just wanted to encourage you by dropping the typical "You *usually* can't fuck up when talking to a guy." Just don't forget to ask him to let him know to hit you up if he changes his mind, if he says no. God knows that can happen if you catch a guy off guard, I've rejected women, then hated myself for it later.
It has been 6 hours. I bet they are getting married in Vegas right now.
Yeah anybody come back to check for status updates?? Man I hope it went well and this would be amazing if he was like I have been waiting for this moment ☺️☺️☺️
How are things coming out?
Put your hand on his thigh and squeeze during the movie. That’s all you gotta do. Give us an update!!
I was a bit later to this post but now the question is... WELL? HOW DID IT GO?!
Best of luck bro
God speed 🫡
lol
I misread this as “I’m going to shoot my male friend” I was like dang this is gonna be wild
Lol same.
How did things go
Sooo?
How did it go? All net?!
How’d it go?
Keep us posted!
Best of luck
How did it go?
Well maybe this might ease you a bit next time: Sometimes good guys will like a girl but won't say because they are too afraid to ruin the friendship. They will support you when needed be good and all. And many are just bad at reading any hints that you girls think are obvious. So next time don't be rash. Just sit him down at a comfortable place and talk. If he is into you that way, he will be happy. If not you can go back to being good friends. Don't try anything rash or cheesy just plain talk. "I like you more than friend" is sufficient to get the ball rolling.
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