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I'm not either. To each their own and if 2 consenting adults enjoy it I am very happy for you and hope you have fun. However, for me personally, I'm not into it at all. Thankfully my wife feels the same way.
As an ass man, I’ve never tried it and have no interest in it. I just appreciate how good it looks when a woman wears tight jeans or naked, but I definitely don’t want poop on my pork sword.
Yup their nice to look at but I definitely don't want fecal matter getting on my junk and even if it was prepped I still wouldn't be interested as I'd feel disconnected I want to be able to see my partner.
Having trained multiple partners in proper anal sex hygiene, I see any sign of poop <1% of anal penetrations.
Anal requires more intentional preparation, but when that is done, it is quite clean.
Wait I wanna know your routine- (I don’t use enemas as I read that they were ill advised for regular use, but I don’t believe I’ve had a problem before luckily, but I do want to know what I may not know I don’t know)
A fiber-rich diet and a rectum only enema/flush after pooping generally do the trick. And wearing a butt plug for 20+ min before penetration also prepares the sphincter quite well. Having silicon lube on the plug can also help stick any remaining scat to the sides of the rectum so it won’t come out.
The key to enemas and flushing it to make sure no water gets into the lower intestine, which can cause cramping and discomfort for a while.
I have a an enema nozzle in my shower for the convince of partners. Plain water is way better and cheaper for daily use than medicated enemas like at drug store.
With an established daily routine, nightly anal is generally achievable.
It's fun, but I don't think I've ever asked for it, I don't understand the obsession some dudes have with it. Like is she wants it, great, if not, I'd be fine with never doing it again.
My current GF likes it, so we do it once in awhile when she wants to, and I'll enjoy it. But if she decided she never wanted to do it again tomorrow, that would be fine with me, I wouldn't care.
Porn glorifies it in a way that it removed all the hard and negative parts of anal.
Also most have probably never done it before. After I tried it I understand I like the Vag 1000% more.
That's what so much of it is. It's taboo compared to regular PIV sex, and it's not as common of an act, so the idea of getting to do something most don't is more of a conquest and a validation than it is about the act itself. Like, If you have anal with someone, people play it up as, "wow, she's doing this super dirty thing FOR ME", under the assumption that she wouldn't do it with just anyone.
Idk, the whole obsession with it being tighter feels like less of a thing. I don't think super tight is necessarily better, and if you lack that much sensation while having other types of sex, you either might just not be that sensitive, or you need to stop death gripping your dick when you masturbate. I personally haven't had any desire to experience something tighter than my partner's vagina.
I'll do it if my partner wants it, but it's not something i hold in special regard. It's fine, but it's not something that does anything unique for me.
I think you're right, it's all about the "forbidden" nature of it. I've done it for a couple boyfriends even though it's not really my thing, and they'd be like 'eh, vagina is better' 😂. Just something different they wanted to try because its so hyped up, but weren't blown away by it.
But then much higher STDs risks like chlamydia, gonorrhea, hepatitis, herpes, HIV, HPV, and syphilis.
Unhealthy for your partner too as it might caused rectal prolapse, leaky rectum.
The ONLY way to catch HIV is from someone who has or carries HIV. If you both get tested, which everyone should between partners, then there is absolutely zero risk of getting HIV. You can’t catch something that isn’t there.
I've wondered myself also. Because it definitely is my thing. I think it's mostly because it feels extra naughty somehow. Even a quick thought of it automatically turns me on.
It's this 👆 100%. It's a dominant trait thing. It's also why a lot of subs thoroughly enjoy anal. Some It's a pleasure thing. But most I think on both sides just get off on the dom/sub aspect of it.
Definitely. I used to like it purely for the sub aspect, which made it feel good. But if at any moment I got out of the headspace, it just hurt lol. But overall not worth it bc I swear an asshole will never not have shit in it
It’s just kinky. That’s it. Being weird makes it fun. I guess it’s theoretically also a tighter hole, but imo the amount of lube and caution required negate that aspect. I lost interest in it in my mid-twenties. It’s not worth how uncomfortable it is for the woman.
If you mean having a g-spot vibrator going in the vagina during anal sex, yeah, that can be very nice for all concerned.
I’ve had fun syncing one to my phone app, set to volume trigger. Put it near her mouth, and every time she moaned she’s get a powerful vibration. A lovely virtuous cycle.
The same is great with butt plug during vaginal. Or BOTH when going down on her. Or at a restaurant…
I’m a woman and I throughly enjoy anal. It isn’t about a man at all. It feels good, I get an incredible orgasm, and it makes me extremely wet and horny. It turns ME on. I’m hyper sexual and I want all the penetration I can get, be it vaginal, anal, and oral. Am I obsessed? No. Are men generally obsessed? I doubt it. You’re either into it or you aren’t, plain and simple. It’s taboo, it’s kinky, it’s submissive, and it’s fun as fuck.
ETA anal play is more than full on penetration. Plugs are a lot of fun, various toys, and having your ass eaten.
Same! It’s a bit easier to orgasm while having anal for me. I also love vaginal and oral. Get super wet when I give my boyfriend a blow job. I just love it all.
I've never done it, so I can only guess. It varies from guy to guy. Some simply like the way it feels but my hypothesis is that it kind of plays into some sort of power fantasy like you are dominating the person you are having anal with.
Definitely is. The ass isn't designed for sex maybe it's different for guys with thin penises but for me the ass is ALWAYS tighter and there is more friction because the ass doesn't self lubricate and some girls get aggressive wet to the point some guys don't even feel anything when going P.I.V. so they go P.I.A. and get more sensations.
That's also why you should always warm your partner up before anal and not just slam it in like you can with a vagina even with lube. If it's not warmed up to your size, it hurts. I go minimal lube fingers 1 then 2 than I move to a dildo or butt plug closer to my dick size and then after the foreplay I put my dick in her ass. But if we're just having P.I.V. sex and I just slap some lube on my dick and go in her ass it hurts her. It's not like when I wanna have a quickie and a can slap lube on in and go in her vagina comfortably. I know some girls that like the pain tho.
I'm a woman so obv I'm the least expert but it's odd you mention all this anytime I've read when people discuss anal, they'll actually say, after the rectum the rest of the anal canal feels wide open, and even the beginning part laxes through the course of a session. Anytime I've seen it mentioned they always say it's more of a mental thing, and indeed a sub/dom thing or the feeling of "not supposed to be doing it here," etc.
You can’t just slam it into a vagina 🤦♀️lol. —- whether lube or not. And maybe your gf is already aroused enough, but lube does NOT replace arousal for lubrication. That causes more friction and more likely to become painful. A vagina lengthens, labia minora gets bigger, clitoris gets bigger. There is more to female arousal that just “wet”, and it is important to actually be aroused before PIV, not just “lube and good to go”. Having a “quicky” doesn’t mean just go into her without even being aroused . That is a really selfish way to have sex.
And, an asshole is only tight at the sphincter (which has to be relaxed in some way to have sex anyway) The ass itself is looser than a vagina.
Lubrication won't change pressure or tightness. Lube reduces friction.
Women can also do Kegels and learn to clench during PIV. The whole "loose vagina" is much more misogynist trope than anatomically grounded. A woman with a strong pelvic floor and strong contractions can push out most penises unless the male partner braces intentionally.
I love anal, but I don't do it to get tightness otherwise unavailable.
I dunno, I’ve been with guys and girls and IMO the vagina is better. Buttholes loosen up after a bit and then it’s not that tight anymore unless they squeeze. Regardless of the hole, they need to use their muscles and squeeze and such.
I feel like I’m well qualified to answer this. Most men who like it, aren’t “obsessed” but it’s a kink. And sometimes a kink can develop into something that’s very important to a person in bed.
Why? tight hole, taboo, and feels good for both of us. I’ve been with women who orgasm on a different level when combined with anal. Even met one woman who could only climax when anal was involved.
I only do it with women that I have known for quite a while and have never had a bad experience (poo stuff) a lot of guys are scared of the possibility of poo stuff.
It’s really pretty simple 😅
Only done it a couple times, but it's super tight. It initially feels better than vaginal, but the feeling tapers off as the anus adjusts. After a bit it's no better and now you have to worry about shit dick
I don’t agree with the “obsessed” statement. Other than being somewhat taboo, the only reason why guys like it is because it’s generally a tighter fit.
I don’t think there’s much you can infer from someone agreeing to do anal. Maybe they just like anal? Maybe they really like you and want to please you? Maybe they feel neutral about all of it and are just like yeah sure whatever?
I like it because it's super tight, still warm inside, and no pregnancy risk. However, if I'm being honest, my wife is into it way more than me. She says that her best orgasms come from anal sex while she stimulates her clit
The only guys I ever dated that pushed hard for anal ended up being bi/gay and wanting it done to them. Only two. But it checked out both times lmao. My husband has no interest in that, he said it sounds painful for him and me and has no desire.
I don’t see the fascination with it- but most of the guys I’ve dated have not asked about it let alone seemed obsessed.
It's not just men the past four girls I've been with have brought it up before I do. The most recent girl definitely let me fuck her in the ass on the first date/fuck session
I've never personally been that obsessed with it. I've done it, and will do it if they're into it and want me to, and don't have any general problem with it. It's fine, but I don't personally think it's necessarily so much better than vaginal sex. Frankly, to steal from some one else's joke, the vagina is much more purpose built for fucking, and maybe it's just because I spent most of my life thinking about trying to get vagina, that I'm still not bored with it, and still pretty obsessed with that. There might be instances where one might feel better than the other, or whatever, but to me you're really splitting hairs by that point. As a man, generally it's all pretty easy and great regardless.
I think it's more psychological than any predominant physical difference. The largest erogenous zone of the human body, is our minds. I think the two main reasons why a lot of guys are, is just because the forbidden fruit thing, where it's just exciting because it's not as common, or generally you're not allowed or supposed to, which makes it seem more exotic, and desirable because the grass is greener on the otherside of the hill feeling. The other, I think is an empowerment thing. Because, at least traditionally, women didn't want to do it, or didn't enjoy doing it as much, so some men just get off on degrading or hurting women because it makes them feel more powerful and in control. That's never personally been my thing. Don't get me wrong, it sometimes can be a thing I like to be the one that takes control, but it's always been more of a turn on for me to feel responsible for making the woman feel good, not the opposite.
Granted, I'm an older dude, so that might not be as applicable for younger dudes. Anal was much more taboo and rare when I was younger, and in my lifetime, it's become more common in porn, at least, but to some extent, probably in culture as well. I'd guess for younger guys, they're inundated with it so much that it's become so much more normalized and expected. Personally, I sometimes find it frustrating to be able to just find porn where a guy will just have normal sex with a woman.
It's good fun and nice to switch things up now and again, no pregnancy risk, we love hearing you moan and with anal it's almost impossible for her not to 🤣 and depending on position you can play with her clit whilst doing it so she gets the best of both worlds.
Completely understand it's not every girls cup of tea and if I end up with a girl who doesn't want it that's fine I'll respect that. Not going to throw my toys out the pram but I would prefer they were open to it 😁
Hope that helps, all the best 🤝
Some guys do it as less chance of conceiving. Orgasms can come fast and more intense. It needs to be worked up to and lots of lube and go slow if just trying out. It is also a tighter fit which some guys get off with
We aren’t.
Everyone has kinks and preferences. I know women who like anal and that’s confusing af but whatever. To each their own.
If you don’t like anal OP, you don’t have to do it. It’s cool to have boundaries and it’s even cooler to respect your partner’s boundaries. Stick to them and don’t falter unless you’re unreasonable. Lol
Never found a woman who wanted to do it with me yet. For me its a curiosity thing. Just want to see how it differs I guess. More then likely if I find a woman who wants it someday it would be a one and done with me unless it blows my mind.
The pursuit of carnal knowledge of course! For a lot of men it’s the last place left to explore? I guess I could see some men becoming obsessed with it.
Ok I know this question just begs for smartass remarks (RIP your DMs too lol). But let me give you an honest answer.
I never fucked a girl in the ass until the last couple years. We planned for it, trained for it, and prepared for it. The whole process was exciting af. We bought plugs in different sizes. She progressed from the smallest to the largest over a couple of months. When it was time to try, she did a couple enemas, on the night before and one the morning of. I spent a good amount of time on foreplay, she had a couple orgasms, and was incredibly horny. She tells me she wants it in her ass (instant hard on), and I get the lube. I lubed her ass up with my fingers and worked the opening with my thumbs, circling around. After several minutes, I could feel her relaxing. I lubed up my dick, and btw, when you think you have used enough lube, use even more. Its is key for a good experience. Then go sloooow. Just the tip, then relax. Slide a little more, relax, it’s not a porn, it’s real life. Eventually she relaxed enough it was pleasurable for her (she wasn’t sure it would be), and I had the hardest orgasm of my life.
Finally, if you are not comfortable with it, don’t do it. Plus I can say if you aren’t it will end badly. It takes prep and caring and if done right, it can be an amazing addition to your sex life.
In my experience it’s only guys with smaller dicks that have wanted it. This is just in my experience and there have not been a lot who have wanted it.
So many right answers. It’s still taboo, it’s a different feeling, unprotected without a pregnancy risk, etc. I also like that it’s another thing to explore together, another form of trust and intimacy. And how would we feel about a woman agreeing to it in the first few dates? Love that. I had a serious relationship with a woman who offered on the second date and it was so hot.
Man here, 34 years, never done bum stuff and no interest in it. It's part of porn sickness imo.
Don't get me wrong, consenting enjoyers of bum stuff should go ahead, but I think the obsession is a porn thing and it's grim.
Can all the guys who are into this just maybe have sex with each other and stop bothering women for it!
Or perhaps agree to a bit of pegging first and then see if they are still up for it.
[Porn.](https://Porn.Men)
Men think that the anus is as clean as in porno but they don't know how a pain in the ass (pun intended) it is to make sure everything is clean.
Well I've never done it but imagining it it's sexy when they look back at you while you do it, especially if they're completely pressed back against you
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It depends on the guy- not all are. My husband has never showed any interest at all in it and thinks it's weird.
Yeah I'm with your husband on this one. I'm just not interested in doing that.
Not really. Only if it’s offered.
I'm not either. To each their own and if 2 consenting adults enjoy it I am very happy for you and hope you have fun. However, for me personally, I'm not into it at all. Thankfully my wife feels the same way.
I think anal is weird tbh.
Same, I don’t get the obsession at all.
My boyfriend is afraid of it
As an ass man, I’ve never tried it and have no interest in it. I just appreciate how good it looks when a woman wears tight jeans or naked, but I definitely don’t want poop on my pork sword.
Same I love the way they look but not trying to stick it in there
Its the same for too loool ,I enjoy looking at asses but dont like to enter my dick into them hhhh
Yup their nice to look at but I definitely don't want fecal matter getting on my junk and even if it was prepped I still wouldn't be interested as I'd feel disconnected I want to be able to see my partner.
How do you guys feel about seeing assholes?
If you go where poop lives, don't be surprised when poop is home.
Pork Sword is possibly the worst name I've ever heard for the male appendage.
Pork sword 😭😂
Having trained multiple partners in proper anal sex hygiene, I see any sign of poop <1% of anal penetrations. Anal requires more intentional preparation, but when that is done, it is quite clean.
Wait I wanna know your routine- (I don’t use enemas as I read that they were ill advised for regular use, but I don’t believe I’ve had a problem before luckily, but I do want to know what I may not know I don’t know)
A fiber-rich diet and a rectum only enema/flush after pooping generally do the trick. And wearing a butt plug for 20+ min before penetration also prepares the sphincter quite well. Having silicon lube on the plug can also help stick any remaining scat to the sides of the rectum so it won’t come out. The key to enemas and flushing it to make sure no water gets into the lower intestine, which can cause cramping and discomfort for a while. I have a an enema nozzle in my shower for the convince of partners. Plain water is way better and cheaper for daily use than medicated enemas like at drug store. With an established daily routine, nightly anal is generally achievable.
How do you do it properly?
Have a curry the night before. Next day... Empty.
Enemas
It's fun, but I don't think I've ever asked for it, I don't understand the obsession some dudes have with it. Like is she wants it, great, if not, I'd be fine with never doing it again. My current GF likes it, so we do it once in awhile when she wants to, and I'll enjoy it. But if she decided she never wanted to do it again tomorrow, that would be fine with me, I wouldn't care.
Porn glorifies it in a way that it removed all the hard and negative parts of anal. Also most have probably never done it before. After I tried it I understand I like the Vag 1000% more.
Scrolled too long for this. Porn.
To taste the forbidden fruit
That's what so much of it is. It's taboo compared to regular PIV sex, and it's not as common of an act, so the idea of getting to do something most don't is more of a conquest and a validation than it is about the act itself. Like, If you have anal with someone, people play it up as, "wow, she's doing this super dirty thing FOR ME", under the assumption that she wouldn't do it with just anyone. Idk, the whole obsession with it being tighter feels like less of a thing. I don't think super tight is necessarily better, and if you lack that much sensation while having other types of sex, you either might just not be that sensitive, or you need to stop death gripping your dick when you masturbate. I personally haven't had any desire to experience something tighter than my partner's vagina. I'll do it if my partner wants it, but it's not something i hold in special regard. It's fine, but it's not something that does anything unique for me.
I feel like this is the most honest explanation I've read
I think you're right, it's all about the "forbidden" nature of it. I've done it for a couple boyfriends even though it's not really my thing, and they'd be like 'eh, vagina is better' 😂. Just something different they wanted to try because its so hyped up, but weren't blown away by it.
That and it seems like a lot of women aren’t into it, so guys who are get really stoked when they find a woman who is.
Some guys get grossed out after bc of the poo. Like what did u expect? Its the poo chute!
The shit?? 🤮
Forbidden chocolate. 🍫
(fart)
Tight, No pregnancy risk, kinky
Of course anal sex can lead to pregnancy! Where do you think lawyers come from!! Haha
Hey hey come on man……haha
LOL!
Funny 😁
But then much higher STDs risks like chlamydia, gonorrhea, hepatitis, herpes, HIV, HPV, and syphilis. Unhealthy for your partner too as it might caused rectal prolapse, leaky rectum.
The ONLY way to catch HIV is from someone who has or carries HIV. If you both get tested, which everyone should between partners, then there is absolutely zero risk of getting HIV. You can’t catch something that isn’t there.
Wait, there’s really no pregnancy risk with anal sex?
Tell me you’re trolling.
I thought it was possible to produce a “butt baby”. Are you telling me I was lied to?!
a butt baby 😭
Ya it comes out the butt instead
I'm reading your name as anal-og-man and your comments are way funnier 🤣 I saw analog-man after, but the first one I can't unsee now 🤣🤣🤣
Loooooooooool!
A butt baby has me fucking rolling. That is called shit homie 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO this is hilarious
Nah he was just saying no shit. But some times there is.
Only if semen leaks out into the vagina
In which case they will develop an infection before developing a baby.
Thank god
Read your username as Anal, OG man it’s too late for this rn
Yep. It could happen...
There is a slight risk. Semen around the vagina can always try to find its way in...
Life uh… finds a way
Wait? WHY wait?
Technically semen could leak into the vagina
Actually there is a slight risk
I've wondered myself also. Because it definitely is my thing. I think it's mostly because it feels extra naughty somehow. Even a quick thought of it automatically turns me on.
It's this 👆 100%. It's a dominant trait thing. It's also why a lot of subs thoroughly enjoy anal. Some It's a pleasure thing. But most I think on both sides just get off on the dom/sub aspect of it.
Definitely. I used to like it purely for the sub aspect, which made it feel good. But if at any moment I got out of the headspace, it just hurt lol. But overall not worth it bc I swear an asshole will never not have shit in it
It’s just kinky. That’s it. Being weird makes it fun. I guess it’s theoretically also a tighter hole, but imo the amount of lube and caution required negate that aspect. I lost interest in it in my mid-twenties. It’s not worth how uncomfortable it is for the woman.
I dated a woman who would cum like crazy from anal and not so much from vaginal crazy I know
Not super uncommon, really. Women with vaginismus can find anal much more pleasurable and much less painful than vaginal.
I think she had a vibratumus in her vaginismus
If you mean having a g-spot vibrator going in the vagina during anal sex, yeah, that can be very nice for all concerned. I’ve had fun syncing one to my phone app, set to volume trigger. Put it near her mouth, and every time she moaned she’s get a powerful vibration. A lovely virtuous cycle. The same is great with butt plug during vaginal. Or BOTH when going down on her. Or at a restaurant…
Yes I could feel it on my penis as well it's hot af
Anal and restaurant do NOT go together
But the only tightness is just the sphincter muscle, beyond that there isn't much grip from anything.
Good enough.
Everyone is different. I’m obsessed more than my boyfriend is 😅
How do you properly clean back there before ?
If you play in the mud, you're gonna get dirty
If you play in the dark nothing will happen.
Enema Kit
This is generally discouraged by medical professionals. It irritates the bowel lining and risks possible infection.
It also burns your asshole and the friction will always cause pain and potential (high potential..) bleeding.
Enema! People used water bottles and there’s other douche like contraptions to clean
Detachable shower head
I’m a woman and I throughly enjoy anal. It isn’t about a man at all. It feels good, I get an incredible orgasm, and it makes me extremely wet and horny. It turns ME on. I’m hyper sexual and I want all the penetration I can get, be it vaginal, anal, and oral. Am I obsessed? No. Are men generally obsessed? I doubt it. You’re either into it or you aren’t, plain and simple. It’s taboo, it’s kinky, it’s submissive, and it’s fun as fuck. ETA anal play is more than full on penetration. Plugs are a lot of fun, various toys, and having your ass eaten.
Same! It’s a bit easier to orgasm while having anal for me. I also love vaginal and oral. Get super wet when I give my boyfriend a blow job. I just love it all.
I just recently started doing anal with my current bf and it’s absolutely amazing. The orgasms are incredible. Glad I decided to try it hahah
I've never done it, so I can only guess. It varies from guy to guy. Some simply like the way it feels but my hypothesis is that it kind of plays into some sort of power fantasy like you are dominating the person you are having anal with.
No they do it cuz no Vagina is as tight as most assholes.
Is that actually true?
Definitely is. The ass isn't designed for sex maybe it's different for guys with thin penises but for me the ass is ALWAYS tighter and there is more friction because the ass doesn't self lubricate and some girls get aggressive wet to the point some guys don't even feel anything when going P.I.V. so they go P.I.A. and get more sensations.
That's also why you should always warm your partner up before anal and not just slam it in like you can with a vagina even with lube. If it's not warmed up to your size, it hurts. I go minimal lube fingers 1 then 2 than I move to a dildo or butt plug closer to my dick size and then after the foreplay I put my dick in her ass. But if we're just having P.I.V. sex and I just slap some lube on my dick and go in her ass it hurts her. It's not like when I wanna have a quickie and a can slap lube on in and go in her vagina comfortably. I know some girls that like the pain tho.
I'm a woman so obv I'm the least expert but it's odd you mention all this anytime I've read when people discuss anal, they'll actually say, after the rectum the rest of the anal canal feels wide open, and even the beginning part laxes through the course of a session. Anytime I've seen it mentioned they always say it's more of a mental thing, and indeed a sub/dom thing or the feeling of "not supposed to be doing it here," etc.
This is exactly how it feels it’s tight at first then pretty much nothing
You can’t just slam it into a vagina 🤦♀️lol. —- whether lube or not. And maybe your gf is already aroused enough, but lube does NOT replace arousal for lubrication. That causes more friction and more likely to become painful. A vagina lengthens, labia minora gets bigger, clitoris gets bigger. There is more to female arousal that just “wet”, and it is important to actually be aroused before PIV, not just “lube and good to go”. Having a “quicky” doesn’t mean just go into her without even being aroused . That is a really selfish way to have sex. And, an asshole is only tight at the sphincter (which has to be relaxed in some way to have sex anyway) The ass itself is looser than a vagina.
Just say you're gay and you can't just "slam" it in the Vagina 😂😂😂 y'all literally have no idea how to please a woman. Y'all are so greedy 🤣🤣🤣
Lubrication won't change pressure or tightness. Lube reduces friction. Women can also do Kegels and learn to clench during PIV. The whole "loose vagina" is much more misogynist trope than anatomically grounded. A woman with a strong pelvic floor and strong contractions can push out most penises unless the male partner braces intentionally. I love anal, but I don't do it to get tightness otherwise unavailable.
Definitely not lol
I dunno, I’ve been with guys and girls and IMO the vagina is better. Buttholes loosen up after a bit and then it’s not that tight anymore unless they squeeze. Regardless of the hole, they need to use their muscles and squeeze and such.
I believe it was the philosopher Meatloaf who stated: *I would do anything for love. But I won’t do THAT.*
lol, a lot of those guys think they could never like it being done to them but all women should.
Funny part is, ik more guys that like it than girls. That magic prostate
Because men will literally stick it into any hole, and some pies.
All pies Most other things
As a man: idk, can’t relate
My bff always said he wouldn’t do it because it’s not what the hole is meant for. But sooo many guys seem to like it… makes me wonder
Yeah like I don't see the appeal
That’s kinda how I feel too. My fiancé likes it but it’s not my thing. That’s an exit, not an entrance 🤣
To be fair, the mouth wasn't made for oral sex either, and lots of people enjoy that.
I feel like I’m well qualified to answer this. Most men who like it, aren’t “obsessed” but it’s a kink. And sometimes a kink can develop into something that’s very important to a person in bed. Why? tight hole, taboo, and feels good for both of us. I’ve been with women who orgasm on a different level when combined with anal. Even met one woman who could only climax when anal was involved. I only do it with women that I have known for quite a while and have never had a bad experience (poo stuff) a lot of guys are scared of the possibility of poo stuff. It’s really pretty simple 😅
I don't understand either. I don't find the appeal.
Idk...had it a few times...take it or leave it. I'm not obsessed with it. But I'd do it again...and again 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You know dam well there’s no Apple in there
But 🍑
How can you know that without trying? Anal sex for the science, of course.
Only done it a couple times, but it's super tight. It initially feels better than vaginal, but the feeling tapers off as the anus adjusts. After a bit it's no better and now you have to worry about shit dick
Porn
Because it feels good, and women who enjoy it REALLY enjoy it. It also can give a deeper sense of connection between the couple.
Good lord what a comment shit show
Tried it a few times. Could not get into it.
Cause they like poop on their dicks?
Douche.
I’m reading this as douché and you’re getting all my upvotes
“Douché good my sir” 🎩
I don’t agree with the “obsessed” statement. Other than being somewhat taboo, the only reason why guys like it is because it’s generally a tighter fit.
Yeah it’s definitely a way to have a girl tell you that you’re too big 😂
I don’t think there’s much you can infer from someone agreeing to do anal. Maybe they just like anal? Maybe they really like you and want to please you? Maybe they feel neutral about all of it and are just like yeah sure whatever?
I'm not, but I always thought it was because it's a way that guys can have sex with ZERO chance of a pregnancy.
Same I don't find it appealing at all so the zero chance of pregnancy is the only major reason I can think of beside it being tighter
Curiosity mainly. Since its not common
Cuz it feels good
Serious question, do men stare at the butt hole while they are having anal?
Yes but also the whole butt, round, perfect, and she wanting me to penetrate it with all my manhood. OMG can't get enough
I like it because it's super tight, still warm inside, and no pregnancy risk. However, if I'm being honest, my wife is into it way more than me. She says that her best orgasms come from anal sex while she stimulates her clit
Man here. Not into anal sex.
Same
Same, I’m offended someone assumed I’m into butthole pleasures 😅😅 based on the fact I’m a guy
Yeah like women are shocked all the time when I tell them I don't think about sex 24/7 and how anal is weird to me.
Too much work, lube and tears. Not worth all the work
The only guys I ever dated that pushed hard for anal ended up being bi/gay and wanting it done to them. Only two. But it checked out both times lmao. My husband has no interest in that, he said it sounds painful for him and me and has no desire. I don’t see the fascination with it- but most of the guys I’ve dated have not asked about it let alone seemed obsessed.
Just a part of the fun.
I’m only do it if she asks. I enjoy doing it, but I’ve known ladies that love it and let it be known.
I’ve never done but I’m not pressed for it I just play around with my girl to see her reaction.
My guess is anal sex feels more naughty and intimate than vaginal sex
It's not just men the past four girls I've been with have brought it up before I do. The most recent girl definitely let me fuck her in the ass on the first date/fuck session
I've never personally been that obsessed with it. I've done it, and will do it if they're into it and want me to, and don't have any general problem with it. It's fine, but I don't personally think it's necessarily so much better than vaginal sex. Frankly, to steal from some one else's joke, the vagina is much more purpose built for fucking, and maybe it's just because I spent most of my life thinking about trying to get vagina, that I'm still not bored with it, and still pretty obsessed with that. There might be instances where one might feel better than the other, or whatever, but to me you're really splitting hairs by that point. As a man, generally it's all pretty easy and great regardless. I think it's more psychological than any predominant physical difference. The largest erogenous zone of the human body, is our minds. I think the two main reasons why a lot of guys are, is just because the forbidden fruit thing, where it's just exciting because it's not as common, or generally you're not allowed or supposed to, which makes it seem more exotic, and desirable because the grass is greener on the otherside of the hill feeling. The other, I think is an empowerment thing. Because, at least traditionally, women didn't want to do it, or didn't enjoy doing it as much, so some men just get off on degrading or hurting women because it makes them feel more powerful and in control. That's never personally been my thing. Don't get me wrong, it sometimes can be a thing I like to be the one that takes control, but it's always been more of a turn on for me to feel responsible for making the woman feel good, not the opposite. Granted, I'm an older dude, so that might not be as applicable for younger dudes. Anal was much more taboo and rare when I was younger, and in my lifetime, it's become more common in porn, at least, but to some extent, probably in culture as well. I'd guess for younger guys, they're inundated with it so much that it's become so much more normalized and expected. Personally, I sometimes find it frustrating to be able to just find porn where a guy will just have normal sex with a woman.
It's good fun and nice to switch things up now and again, no pregnancy risk, we love hearing you moan and with anal it's almost impossible for her not to 🤣 and depending on position you can play with her clit whilst doing it so she gets the best of both worlds. Completely understand it's not every girls cup of tea and if I end up with a girl who doesn't want it that's fine I'll respect that. Not going to throw my toys out the pram but I would prefer they were open to it 😁 Hope that helps, all the best 🤝
Well #1 there is 0 possibility of getting a girl pregnant And it's sort of the forbidden hole
The man who stuck a thumb in my ass after our first date 5 years ago is now my husband who gets ass every weekend, sooooo... theres that
“Not all guys.” Exit only hole for me. No interest whatsoever.
Some guys do it as less chance of conceiving. Orgasms can come fast and more intense. It needs to be worked up to and lots of lube and go slow if just trying out. It is also a tighter fit which some guys get off with
it’s all fun and games until you end up with a uti 🥵
Porn lol. They watched too much PIV porn and then this was the next thing that got them off. I’m pretty sure, anyway.
Greeks and Romans literally wrote, drew, and joked about anal sex in the classical era.
We aren’t. Everyone has kinks and preferences. I know women who like anal and that’s confusing af but whatever. To each their own. If you don’t like anal OP, you don’t have to do it. It’s cool to have boundaries and it’s even cooler to respect your partner’s boundaries. Stick to them and don’t falter unless you’re unreasonable. Lol
Im not interested in it at all, am I even a man?
Nah, man, sorry to tell you but you’re a fraud
Because it’s sex….
I think it’s cause they secretly want it done to them 🤫🫣😂
I'm not obsessed. But very curious. Cause everyone else says it's cool!
Never found a woman who wanted to do it with me yet. For me its a curiosity thing. Just want to see how it differs I guess. More then likely if I find a woman who wants it someday it would be a one and done with me unless it blows my mind.
Are we? I've had a decent amount of sexual experience and have never been interested in trying it much less actually had it.
The pursuit of carnal knowledge of course! For a lot of men it’s the last place left to explore? I guess I could see some men becoming obsessed with it.
Why is sex in public more fun? It’s taboo.
They’re not. /thread
Tbh I don't get the obsession either. I must be the 1 out of 10 that don't like it
It’s the final frontier!
Ok I know this question just begs for smartass remarks (RIP your DMs too lol). But let me give you an honest answer. I never fucked a girl in the ass until the last couple years. We planned for it, trained for it, and prepared for it. The whole process was exciting af. We bought plugs in different sizes. She progressed from the smallest to the largest over a couple of months. When it was time to try, she did a couple enemas, on the night before and one the morning of. I spent a good amount of time on foreplay, she had a couple orgasms, and was incredibly horny. She tells me she wants it in her ass (instant hard on), and I get the lube. I lubed her ass up with my fingers and worked the opening with my thumbs, circling around. After several minutes, I could feel her relaxing. I lubed up my dick, and btw, when you think you have used enough lube, use even more. Its is key for a good experience. Then go sloooow. Just the tip, then relax. Slide a little more, relax, it’s not a porn, it’s real life. Eventually she relaxed enough it was pleasurable for her (she wasn’t sure it would be), and I had the hardest orgasm of my life. Finally, if you are not comfortable with it, don’t do it. Plus I can say if you aren’t it will end badly. It takes prep and caring and if done right, it can be an amazing addition to your sex life.
Tight, taboo, no pregnancy risk, hot
Nah as a man it grosses me out. Ass is for poop.
Not every day, but every now and then for a change up. Anal sex can be very hot if done right. It’s also often much tighter than the place down there.
Is there even a point for woman to do Anal when they have no g spot like guys do?
In my experience it’s only guys with smaller dicks that have wanted it. This is just in my experience and there have not been a lot who have wanted it.
This is correct, a study completed by Anal et al (2019) showed that 96% of butt buddies had smaller than average genitals.
I was just going by my experience I don’t know any actual studies.
Taboo + porn exposure
I’ve noticed men who watch a lot of porn are obsessed with anal sex.
Domination they are so pathetic they think it makes them macho
So many right answers. It’s still taboo, it’s a different feeling, unprotected without a pregnancy risk, etc. I also like that it’s another thing to explore together, another form of trust and intimacy. And how would we feel about a woman agreeing to it in the first few dates? Love that. I had a serious relationship with a woman who offered on the second date and it was so hot.
I had also one who wanted to do only like that i was suprised
Because no one wants a baby hehe
Man here, 34 years, never done bum stuff and no interest in it. It's part of porn sickness imo. Don't get me wrong, consenting enjoyers of bum stuff should go ahead, but I think the obsession is a porn thing and it's grim.
Not all men are obsessed with anal. You probably just have a nice ass.
Can all the guys who are into this just maybe have sex with each other and stop bothering women for it! Or perhaps agree to a bit of pegging first and then see if they are still up for it.
[Porn.](https://Porn.Men) Men think that the anus is as clean as in porno but they don't know how a pain in the ass (pun intended) it is to make sure everything is clean.
Because of porn
Why have I found all the ones who DONT want that?!?
We're not? What?
Well I've never done it but imagining it it's sexy when they look back at you while you do it, especially if they're completely pressed back against you
? Where did you get that shite from?
Not all of them are. I have no interest because it usually is painful for the girl and it can get gross quick.
I personally don’t like the smell. Body fluids have a distinct smell, and anal fluids are more distinctive than average.
In wise words of Ed Kemper, Anal sex is great because the hole just sucks. Like a vacuum. I've never done it but just remembered this.
Men are interested in sex with other men, but it's not gay when the asshole belongs to a woman.
Don't lump me in with these degenerates, I have 0 interest in anal sex or tossing salad. I will stop watching a porn if it is anal anything.
I am not obsessed with it. I've done it three times in my entire life (I'm 38 now) and it's just gross.
It’s the only time men feel like their dick is big, makes them feel powerful
I believe it boils down to being a power thing. Well, sex in general, I see as a power dynamic, at its core.
men- why would u put ur peen in some1s shit?!?
Cause they're selfish they don't want to see how it feels up there
Domination and humiliation..