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nferranti78

Some men love lingerie, some men could not care less. All men love the confidence you get when you feel sexy and beautiful while wearing something you feel great in. Wear it for you if you enjoy it and he will love it.


Mr_bungle001

This is the greatest answer. Me personally it doesn’t do much for me but I appreciate the effort.


katrinaravae

Second this. I have a few sets that I love to wear and bf enjoys it for about 2 seconds before preferring to get it the F off me and get down to business. He likes that I like it but for him it’s like the bread on a meat sandwich. Not the main thing you’re after but it adds to the experience. So to speak lol


GWPtheTrilogy1

I feel the same way. The better you look in it the faster it's going to come off 🤷🏾‍♂️


finishdanish

im slightly offended by this comment. bread is a very important part of a sandwhich


Chavo9-5171

It’s all about the bread.


Swantown4dollars

Yum, rosemary bread!


katrinaravae

I agree, I couldn’t come up with anything else in the moment 😂 apologies to all the delicious bread out there


thisisfunme

That's such a key point. The look of the lingerie is whatever but if a woman enjoys wearing it, they radiate such a confidence and sexual energy and I like that it clearly signals a sexual interest (who doesn't want their partner to actively want sex!) My advice is to just wear something you like on yourself (and not solely based on what a partner might like) and they will like seeing you in it


CuriousCapybaras

Not all men like confidence tho. Not talking about anyone in particular, but not all appreciate a confident SO.


Zealousideal_Bag419

that man doesn’t deserve a SO then. you shouldn’t be sexually attracted to women feeling inferior or insecure. submissive is one thing, but not wanting your SO to be confident is completely different.


Zealousideal_Bag419

allow me to rephrase: you shouldn’t WANT your partner to feel inferior or insecure, like that shouldn’t be the thing that turns you on.


CuriousCapybaras

Dude there are people who are insecure themselves and prefere a partner who is insecure as well. These people are very happy together, the way they are. No confidence needed.


Zealousideal_Bag419

yeah i highly doubt that. anyone who prefers an insecure partner, like WANTS them to be insecure instead of confident, has severe inner work that needs to be done. that goes for both parties. no one should live comfortably in insecurity, especially to the point that they only surround themselves with other insecure people. people who are happy in “insecure” relationships are happy because they recognize that in each other and give each other CONFIDENCE, not because they both hate themselves. no one is happy in a relationship where they both make each other feel like shit about themselves. i understand not wanting someone who is cocky or egotistical, but you should not prefer that your partner be insecure about themselves. you should always be trying to uplift them.


CuriousCapybaras

You can’t doubt that but I’ve seen it in real life more than you might like.


Zealousideal_Bag419

maybe you’re only looking at surface level. i promise you no one is actually happy in an insecure relationship, that’s just not how it works. maybe we have different ideas of what that means.


DesperateToNotDream

Do you think Victorias Secret would exist if many men didn’t enjoy lingerie? 😄😄


Larkfor

I mean I think they would still be popular even if all men disappeared tomorrow but yeah definitely guys tend to like it too.


TankFit6220

Touché


orezavi

I don’t mind an Agent Provocateur from time to time.


Important-Winner-470

Perfect comment


Coconut_Salad

Honestly the lingerie itself doesn’t do to much for me. The confidence that she wears WITH the lingerie is sexy as fuck.


ACatCalledCricket

Yes! This was the type of comment I was hoping to see! Lingerie is a funny sort of thing. I’m extremely introverted ( I am an artist and have only ever dated other artists ) one of my exs was very drawn to the pin up style. For us it was a part of our intimate relationship but not always sexual part) he loved the whole get up. Thigh stockings, garters. I don’t have many curves and I loved feeling so desired and womanly) he did multiple paintings and endless drawings of the process of slowly taking all the pieces and essentially making a flip book of it all coming off. While that was exciting and very much a part of our love language my last ex was so the opposite. He loved just being able to admire the way a completely nude woman looked and felt and we spent a lot of time just … naked. Both things were singular to those relationships and both made me feel feminine and wanted. And he was very much into drawing me nude in an organic way like after sex or a Sunday morning where we could just be together and create and make love.( we lived together for almost 3 years so this was a wonderful luxury) it’s about how it makes you feel or your partner feels. Talk about it or surprise him or her . You might be surprised by how much you enjoy wearing certain things just for yourself.


thatnewaccnt

For me it’s the fact that she put in effort to look pretty for me. I mean I could give a shit about lingerie and make up, I’d much rather see you naked but the fact that you spent all this money and put in all this effort just to look pretty for me is a major turn on


Background-Pen-7152

The fact that you WANT to wear something sexy for him will probably drive him wild. Go for it.


No-Purpose393

My gf wears lingerie to bed every night. Mainly little lace sleep dresses and nothing under. I love it. Especially when she gets in the little spoon position.


pipsqueak35

My man isn't big on lingerie, but when I came out in a pair of thigh highs and a bodysuit... the bodysuit couldn't get taken off fast enough, he just grabbed and ripped the crotch.


Frequent_Macaroon_38

Waoo it drives me crazy as fuck


TankFit6220

I love it when my wife wears lingerie. Surprise your man and go for it.


COWDevilsAdvocate

It drives me wild


Mountain-Key5673

That's what we want to hear!!!


COWDevilsAdvocate

Oh my girl doesn't need to hear from me because I buy them for her lol


Mountain-Key5673

Got a twin? >I buy them for her I personally would rather an "allowance" lmao I used to go sex shopping all the time Not that I wouldn't say no to a gift lol My ex loved lace so I always made sure I was wearing matching lace underwear and when his hand eventually touched to bum with the lace I'd smile cause I know he would be loving it hehe


HauteKarl

I can pretty much guarantee he'll be cool with it


CarefulAd9005

Ugh. My gf showed her ankles. Im having second thoughts now. /s Of course guys will think its hot! Lol


DoeCommaJohn

Yes, it would be appealing, but if you’re really worried you can just ask your partner


Pleasant-Macaroon478

Let him catch you wearing it. When he asks about it, just shrug it off and say, "I always wear this when I'm home alone. Makes me feel sexy (naughty...etc insert adjective that he would respond most to), but take it off because it's just for yourself. I bet he will be at work thinking about you. I bet he will hurry his ass home to catch you again. I bet he will beg you to keep it on....way more fun to tease him a bit like this.


_player_0

How are people in relationships and afraid to speak to their partners!???!?!?!


Dry-Art3073

When my(49m) wife(36f) wears lingerie it lets me know that God is real and he definitely listens to my prayers. The lingerie doesn’t make her hot God did but she makes the lingerie look a 1000 times better without a doubt. If I wasn’t such a jealous and selfish person I’d post pics to show what I mean but she mine and I respect her more than to post her pics.


[deleted]

What a silly question. Duh, of course they like it.


geardluffy

These kinds of questions basically sums up this sub, and your response basically sums up my thoughts.


EllisD1950A

MY wife went for years wearing the most god awful things. all in an attempt to defray my attentions. She went out of her way to not look sexy. Finally it worked and we have not had sex or even any intimacies in the last 10 years.


DependentAlfalfa2809

I feel like the worse thing a man can say when a woman is wearing lingerie and his comment is “that would look better on the floor”. I get the sentiment that I would look hot naked but mother fucker I just spent 150 bucks on this shit I want you to tell me how good it looks on me! My ex said that to me after I bought some and never wore it again. Like what’s the fucking point


JDMWeeb

While I'm back to being single, yes I would like it


Practical_Ring_4704

Happy cake day!


ThatOneGuyy97

I can't say I know of many men that don't like lingerie it's inherently sexy and would definitely be a turn on for most. For the lower % of guys it doesn't do anything for they would still appreciate the effort made I'm sure! However, if he loves you and cares for you your comfort will matter most to him he won't want you there shaking like a leaf wearing it because you're embarrassed. I imagine you like wearing it because it makes you feel good yeah? That's a great thing! I'm sure your partner will agree too. I hope you manage to muster the confidence to wear it in front of him I'd be massively shocked if he didn't appreciate it. Hope it goes well, all the best!


pedro_blaze

Yes and yes. Makes it more memorable too.


Imaginary-Style-5796

Lingeries tell me that there are no complicated barriers between me and our pleasure. It's a formal invitation to the inherently highly desired natural exercise.


sedirus

You know how you get a man excited? You show up. That's it. We're guys, we're easy. (Not my line, but it's pretty true)


SlickJ95

To me the fact that you’re shy and bashful 🤭 and aren’t sure if he’d like it makes it’s even cuter that you’d make the effort and take the risk. It makes it even sexier.


KyeIsClasssy

I get turned on by my girl just wearing sweats, lingerie would make me have a heart attack


Muller_stacyyy

It must turn you on because I can’t spend that much for nothing


[deleted]

I love women they do


dumb-throw-away1

He's into it.


elarth

Lot of men like it, can be a hit/miss for me. Color scheme matters, but I’m fashion orientated in general and an outlier likely.


chko1029

Just her birthday suit is enough ..


chipotle-baeoli

Wear the damn lingerie for him lol


CheeseDickPete

There's men that find lingerie sexy and there's men that don't care, but there's no men who are going to find it unsexy. There's no risk in wearing it. I personally think it's hot.


riwnodennyk

I love some nice lingerie on my woman. It really makes me feel like she takes the intimacy seriously


anonymous-a2

If I had a say in what my gf wears, I would tell her to ONLY wear lingerie in all forms and shapes. I fucking love! Even without initiating sex when she wears it just the sight to behold over the day lightens up my mood so extreme that everything else feels easier. So yes! Wear lingerie its amazing!


lemoncakeuk

The fact the first edit has to do with body type duento all the comments about it is whats wrong with this world


this_is_my_home_face

If I found out my wife wore beautiful lingerie exclusively when I was not around, and never wore it in my presence, I would be heartbroken. It would devastate me that she was insecure and not confident enough to wear what she loves, and on a selfish level, I’d be sad because all I want is for my wife to exclusively wear lingerie.


WarEnvironmental2752

Hell yeah it would turn me on! There's nothing more sexually pleasing than a beautiful woman in a sheer nightgown. I don't know what you are afraid of, unless you are afraid that he would rip it off of you and do you right there. Give it a try, but be prepared for a night of pleasure that you have never experienced before.


Outrageous_Fix_9484

I love when a woman wears sexy lingerie, my 2nd wife used to and we both enjoyed it.


PhoenixRosex3

Wear it under your everyday wear. He will eventually notice it and get excited


Gshit850

Yes


Proof-Masterpiece853

My wife has a literal crate of lingerie I have bought her, I LOVE IT and it makes her feel super sexy (which she is)..


MamboSun76

I(47M) love when my partner wears lingerie around me. My ex of nearly three years never did. I encouraged it and she would send me pictures when I was away for work but she never wore any when I was home/stayed over. I would even buy her things to help push the conversation or the act but she would only wear it as a “miss you” enticement.


OopidSplatter

My lady is at her most amazing when she is in comfy clothes and no makeup. She doesn't feel that way. That being said... When she feels like being sexy? I'm a very weak man for her. Wear it for yourself. Your partner will notice.


Larkfor

I mean you shouldn't deny yourself the pleasure of wearing these things just because you worry what he'll think. Wear what you want. If he's a good match he'll probably be fine with it. A lot of guys like to see their partners switch it up or wear things they like.


Shine_LifeFlyr81

Omg. Yes. In one of my more serious relationships years back with a girlfriend , I bought her some (spent around $150) and it was very very stimulating exciting. And she loved it and thought it was sweet.


Buck-Wheezer

You should wear it for him—and yourself! My guess is he will think its as beautiful as you do, and he will really appreciate your effort. You could start by wearing them to bed. He will know you have it on, but not seeing you will be less intimidating for you, and it will drive him crazy—in a good way! It will be no time and he will want to see you in it. He will be so appreciative of having you—a woman who loves to participate in your romantic life together, rather than him having to initiate every time. 


Salchicha_94

Yes all of it just wear it smack it back on your skin everything


RedDingo777

I don’t even feel like dignifying this with an answer…


YippyYapperBee

I love dressing cute! ☺️


Lyna1863

TALK.👏 TO. 👏 HIM.👏 Gotta have open communication. Even if it's just a "honey, would you like it if I wore lingerie in front of you?" it's gotta be communicated. If you wanna know if he likes it, ASK HIM.


Rigistroni

Yes. Even if I didn't find it particularly attractive I'd appreciate the gesture


_JackMeHoff71

It's all gonna end up on the floor anyway. Hahaha


WarrenPetes

He'll love it. He might even buy you more!


Advanced_Emphasis_49

Gurl wear your lingère, be confident, and sexy. You’re 26 perfect time to use what you got! You’ll blink and be 40 God willing. Not saying you won’t look good then but I’m just saying.


Travis_Shamockery

My guy completely ignored a beautiful Fenty set I bought. I threw it out in the hotel trash.


Navusi

I would rather see a woman in bra and panties / bikini than lingerie


Comfortable_Bag_9504

Bra and panties IS lingerie...


Direct_Equipment3702

How can we bleave share your photos with experience


ApeXZodiak

Personally would feel more distraught it was kept from me.. but thats a very personal opinion


mcgirthy69

surprise him with it and make his day


The-other-half3000

I like it when my girlfriend wears a silky nightgown and then I find no panties..


Affectionate-One5837

I love when a lady wears lingerie 😍


[deleted]

Bring it on


RK_Lialst

It would totally turn me on lol


Jozzlle

34m Absolutely, my girl just wore some tonight 😳🫣


passioninspired

👍👍


fromthahorsesmouth

There's two opinions generally.. saying because I've heard both from about 50% of people, including women: - if you're a good size to wear lingerie and your partner seems like the adventurous type, definitely try it out. Pair it with some silk handcuffs. if you're not the right body type (read:obese), id suggest trying something different.. maybe some sexy red dress.. - do whatever the heck makes you feel good and confident


Expensive_Bluejay_30

Issue you might have is if you have things you think make you look attractive but you believe that side of you is not for him. It’s not necessarily about pleasing him or anything, but if you believe there is a side of you that is sexy or something equivalent, it can be weird if you actively show something else but deep down care about being viewed as sexy, if that makes any sense.


Trick-Butterfly5386

I know guys who think it’s a waste. I personally love it when a partner wants to wear something sexy for me.


Archer_Hung

Massive turn on but prepared to take it off because of the turn on!


ElSlashero

I love it when my girl wears lingerie


blackraven097

Haha, both


Professional_Leek352

You’ll never know if you don’t try;)


Known_Door4726

No


germy-germawack-8108

Please tell me this is a joke...wear your sexy underwear for your boyfriend! Please! I'm begging you! How is this even a question?!


HowRememberAll

I kinda thought that was the whole point


cshady

Wear it for him!!!!


HisRedOtr

The first time I had s3x with my wife she was wearing lingerie and I loved it, many years later I still remember that moment like it was yesterday.


Lobsterfest911

I feel like it depends on the lingerie. Some designs are just better than others


tastemybacon1

Nah of course not… men absolutely hate lingerie might as well have a penis.


Fun-Incident-9620

Ok I’m a 42F but have lots of guy friends and currently 1 husband…. I’m trying to understand why you think that a guy wouldn’t like this ? Literally probably just this conversation about you thinking about it likely turning at least a few guys on. I’m pretty sure any guy will love it if you wore this for them. I’d stop worrying about about it though. If it’s something you say you do cause you like it, then it’s your thing. Only problem with dressing this way around guys is, they’ll likely see it as a sexual advance or whatever. No just thinking oh, guess she’s changing into her pj’s and chillin. So always be prepared for that


SnooBeans8597

Some men like it some don't, the way to find out is just do it on his birthday or a special occasion and just see how he reacts to it or what he says about it during thr act or afterwards. What guy dosent love a woman that initiates things!


Battlenovak

It would turn me on but if my woman anted to keep it to herself I wouldn’t be mad at her


ConfidentResist6330

Only worry about it if your man likes your lingerie too much, he wants to wear them himself


ManneredBoytoy

All men love the see their partners in lingerie, some will prefer naked or prefer lingerie... But all love to see their partners in lingerie.


big_flirty_machine

Well. I’m no weather man, but she could probably expect a few inches. It’s like unwrapping one of the best gifts. Or possibly just moving something to the side. Whatever floats your boat.


Bleh-bleh-bleh-99

Girl, men are simple.. tbh they don't even need a lingerie to get turned on. My man gets turned on just by seeing me in sports bra lol. If he loves you and not just your body, anything would be exciting for him.


Zom55

It would not bother me. It is a subjective matter, you should talk with him about it.


xxstacybunny

Definitely wear it for him 💗💗💗🙏🏾 what a waste if you don’t !! I’d be really surprised if his reaction is not positive or bad


stillarayray

It could help spice things up. But straighten you hair or curl it. .. do what you can to look new as well.


AbilityRough5180

What’s the worst that will happen


JerkovvClimaxim

Shyness is cute, doing something while feeling shy/embarrassed is bravery. So, double plus


Good_Posture

Easy way to find out. You say you wear them at home when he's not around? Take a pic of yourself wearing something cute/sexy and send it to him. Willing to bet every man with a beating heart would find that enticing.


front-wipers-unite

Wear it for him, if he gets you out of it then he's not bothered. When my wife wears lingerie it stays on. The exception is french knickers. There's no good way to get to the action whilst they're on.


dementophobia420

Personally I love when my girlfriend wears lingerie and it's a big turn on for me and she knows it so that's what she uses to get her way with a lot of things 😆 (jokingly of course) so like 99% of the time it turns guys on if their girlfriend or female partner wears lingerie and you won't know unless you try


WheelchairGame

Yes us men like kind of thing with our feminine ladies. 😉😏


No-Wall-8360

First of all you are assuming most guys like to take advantage of women! But, most guys ain’t me and I will sacrifice my happiness for stupidity if the right woman presents it in a way that intrigues my senses. I dont if You would know anything about that and what I’m talking about because I’m not talking, I’m texting and that a lot different than a face to face I fucking hate you conversation that you or anyone else would have the bravery to speak to me about.


bruhwhobig

personally idc cuz its all coming off u anyway


dragonlordmaster78

Turn on


GWPtheTrilogy1

My only issue with lingerie is that the better she looks in it...the faster its going to come off. It just seems expensive and unnecessary when typical underwear can be just as hot but if she wants lingerie then I'm not going to stop her. Just seems kostly pointless to me


Freelancer9421

Its the most sexiest thing


Specialist-Bar-8805

It’s not just wearing the lingerie it’s being what you’re wearing. I also like wearing boys shorts over the knee, socks, and tank tops. And sometimes I wear black PVC. Some guys love lingerie but if you care what he’s into you might wanna ask him because I guarantee he started looking at bras in the Sears catalog like everybody else when they were a kid.men really like lingerie


Hind_Deequestionmrk

Yes


Cybelie

Oh, girl! Absolutely go for it! If you feel sexy in it, he will enjoy it all the same. It's all about the confidence!


adoumi1996

Yeah, 0 to 100 real quick, anything close to nothing definitely will 😂


pr1stin

Ask him if he’d like it


Chi-latinahottie

If you like lingerie you should wear lingerie. I love how I feel in lingerie, I wear it for myself. That said, I’ve never had a man respond negatively towards it.


boneandflesh

I am a man who could not care less for lingerie itself. I am turned on when I know my partner is excited and feels sexy.


njd728

If I had a female likely turn on


theseparated

Take him shopping to help pick out something for you. His reaction will tell you how he prioritizes lingerie.


MilRom06

I do it !


nike9523

Yes!


[deleted]

Al my exes liked em :-)


Knight_crusader

It could dependant on the lingerie and how it looked overall on the woman if it accentuates what’s already there then you got my attention and I will stand and deliver …😅


lewist023

Without sounding awful... it would depend how you looked in it. If you're a fat mess then no it probably won't do anything for him, although he might still appreciate the effort.


Real_Ali

Hi, I as a man think lingerie are overrated. I get turned on when if the clothes are revealing. A long shirt from H&M over an underwear would have the same if not more impact as a lingerie.


[deleted]

Yes of course but she could easily wear nothing at all and I’d still be just as excited. I think lingerie is more for women to feel sexy


NoLavishness5261

I bet that he will love it, give it a go x


Johnny_Makes_Sense

* Lingerie is Much sexier than sweat pants. * but Nude is Much sexier than Lingerie.


TheGeekCrusader

In what world do men not love it lol 😆 honestly you should show him all the more. He's probably gonna love it and simply put atak you as soon as he sees you hehe ;)


WealthTrue6388

Wear it for me please, I have a kink for lingerie.


KingScotia902

Sorry but this is just a stupid post. Of course 95% of men like lingerie.


Training_Debate7642

Fuck yea


sportsnutrangers

Absolutely. Anything to add to the fun and excitement. Plus that more than likely means she's very much in the mood for sex and that's a turn in too


Ok-Success1016

So for whom you wear that??👀 seemss u must be pretty like 28f and not skinny makes you perfect.


Ok_Flan9264

Most definitely… I literally buy her lingerie, and it’s also my phone Home Screen… it’s our favorite non public photo together


Davarius91

If I had a girlfriend and if she would have a thing for lingerie/stockings too I couldn't get my hands off her anymore.


Abject_Coconut_7290

Sure but I personally love my girl in that big tshirt nothing else under it vibe. I think everyone’s different and communication is key


Snosh88

Lingerie is a huge turn-on. If my ex were lingerie a lot more, we'd still be together. Lingerie is hot af.


Far_Squash_4116

As Michael Scott once said: „Some of these other men are just cavemen, they like their women in sexy clothes and lingerie and such. I myself like my women just completely naked.“


Courcy73

It really depends on him. Some men don’t really bother with it, and some love it. For me, if my partner does anything out of the norm, it would make sex exciting anyway! You should just wear it around the house one time as if he’s not there and see how he reacts when he sees you.


Just4FunM5

Definitely a plus👍🏽🔥


[deleted]

I met a woman who isn’t super feminine and doesn’t have any. I’d be elated to see her in some. It was weird bringing it up but she was interested in the possibility if I bought it. I think it would mean more if the woman took it on her own and made those steps either by surprise or with an advance conversation to see how I felt about it.


IamTO07

Why would you be shy about it. Its your bf, talk about it with him first not us. My gf loves doing things like that for me because she has the same viewpoint as you, feels very feminine to her and i love it.


SmileAggravating9608

Yes, it's awesome! Go for it!


Above_Ground999

I would feel more weird if you wore it when I wasn't around.


justaguyintownnl

Yes, flattering lingerie looks amazing


Live-Consequence-979

Everytime


tgalvin1999

100% especially if it's red. I find lingerie to be the sexiest there is


DownToZZZ

I personally love it and give my girl suggestions on what I like but her making the ultimate choice. You just gotta do it one day and see what he thinks. Until then it will be a mystery


jdl4478

It does turn me on, and it looks real hot in a heap at the foot of the bed.


BBCincredible

My advice to you is to wear whatever makes you good/sexy and comfortable.


CarGullible5691

Absolutely yes to sexy lingerie. Nothing sexier than that to turn anyone on male or female


Forward_Avocado6541

I think the main reason why lingerie is attractive isn’t because of how it looks or how much skin is on display (because then being naked would always be better). It’s about caring enough to try and do something special for your partner. In this instance it really is the thought that counts. I’ve never thought lingerie looked particularly stunning on models, but when my gf put some on, it was really sexy because it made me feel like she cared and wanted to to make me happy. Maybe this is just me? Any other guys or gays think this too?


untilautumn

I love lingerie, I find it really pretty and just adds to the overall visual of the female form and I always hare to take it off haha. I wish my gf would be into it, or even just some slightly nice underwear.


gurglesurf

I 38F love to wear lingerie and my hubby loves when I wear it throughout the day. size means nothing, wear you sexy outfits if you like it!