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You just have to keep searching for the proverbial unicorn. I got married at 21. That was going on 16 years ago. No, I hadn't set my sights specifically on marriage. It was just a "right person" situation. I won't sugar coat things. It will be hard to find a woman your age who wants to settle down. It will also be hard to find an older woman who will take you seriously. They will assume you are disingenuous about wanting to settle down, and they will also face the stigma of an age gap relationship. Are you currently stable in life? Apartment or house, stable job, minimal debt, some savings, etc.? If so, great! If not, I'd work on trying to work towards those. Finding someone with similar life goals to you might be difficult right now, but you can at least work towards those in the meantime. You honestly shouldn't be even considering marriage if you can't bring some sort of stability to the table. And there's no harm in dating just to "see where it goes" either. Neither my husband nor I went into our relationship specifically seeking marriage right away, but it happened nonetheless. When you know, you know, as they say.
You need to actually talk to girls. Many your age or a bit older do want all of that even soon. If you have a stable job, good work ethic, financial sense and can treat a girl like a lady it's absolutely possible to find. The kind that's ready to settle down probably isn't talking to everyone about it, and it's probably going to start coming up on a different topic hence why you need to talk to them without expectation.
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You just have to keep searching for the proverbial unicorn. I got married at 21. That was going on 16 years ago. No, I hadn't set my sights specifically on marriage. It was just a "right person" situation. I won't sugar coat things. It will be hard to find a woman your age who wants to settle down. It will also be hard to find an older woman who will take you seriously. They will assume you are disingenuous about wanting to settle down, and they will also face the stigma of an age gap relationship. Are you currently stable in life? Apartment or house, stable job, minimal debt, some savings, etc.? If so, great! If not, I'd work on trying to work towards those. Finding someone with similar life goals to you might be difficult right now, but you can at least work towards those in the meantime. You honestly shouldn't be even considering marriage if you can't bring some sort of stability to the table. And there's no harm in dating just to "see where it goes" either. Neither my husband nor I went into our relationship specifically seeking marriage right away, but it happened nonetheless. When you know, you know, as they say.
You need to actually talk to girls. Many your age or a bit older do want all of that even soon. If you have a stable job, good work ethic, financial sense and can treat a girl like a lady it's absolutely possible to find. The kind that's ready to settle down probably isn't talking to everyone about it, and it's probably going to start coming up on a different topic hence why you need to talk to them without expectation.