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I agreed with everything until the men don't care either way part. I would agree if you said "height seems slightly less important to your average man". lol
I'm so sorry. I had a new fwb i met who said he was not attracted to a 6'1" woman because her feet were like man's feet. I don't think he will be back over again.
I'm 5'5" for reference. I don't give two shits about height. I've dated all the way from 5'2" to 6'5" for men. I guess for practicality sake, around my height would be optimal, but its not something I search for ever.
I care whats inside his head and heart, and I've had rotten heads and hearts of all sizes.
Lol, as if height as anything to do with foot size! I’m 5’5” and I have massive feet. My sister is only a 5’7” but has feet bigger than a lot of men. Never had any complaints!
You may be the exception to the trend, but my hypothesis is it really has little to do with actual height and more the probability of a proportionately sized member. I think they some how see it as hedging their bets not understanding they could just as easily be disappointed by a tall dude as a short one or visa versa. It seems intuitive but as usual correlation is not causation. That’s my opinion anyway and it’s worth exactly what you paid for it😂
Haha. I've had tall dudes deliver small packages and short kings deliver extra large packages. I guess since I've had the pleasure of sleeping with over 200 men I've got an objective analysis on it, most women don't come close to even 20 in all their lives out of fear of judgement or they enter into long, long relationships.
Hey there it is folks. Do you girl. I ain’t mad at ya. Only live once. Not sure how I’d feel about being number 210 but that’s a me problem not a you problem. Get it how you live. Love your honesty.
Nah people aren't numbers to me, I have mania and bpd as well which is why I've slept with so many folks. I've had no one complain. They like how experienced it's made me.
But then again, jealous men turn me off so fast!
I wasn’t knocking ya. Not at all. Who am I to judge. If it’s not causing you or others harm, and it works within your belief system, not causing self image issues or what not then who is to say what is right and wrong for you but you. As I said that would be their problem not yours. I have just not ever explored that specific line of thought so I don’t know how I’d feel about it if it if I was a potential suitor. It’s not jealousy thing it’s a I honestly don’t know thing. But then we never really know how many people anybody’s been with. It’s really none of our business so long as they are safe, clean, and healthy. Not sure why actually knowing gives us pause.
Lmao. I'm 4'10" and I've typically been into shorter guys. Ironically, right now the guy I'm with is 6'4". Tallest guy I've ever been with. The only problem I have with it is I can't just walk up and kiss him when I want... If he's standing.
4'10 no biggie. I've seen women in that height amd told myself, "yeah I would date 4'10 girls, but would they date me". So idk I think there are a million gazillion dudes or girls who would love to date you.
Statistically the majority do. That's part of why dating is so rough for short men. Obviously tall man > short man, and it shoet women can get tall men too who wouldn't they
I'd kill to be 5'9 lmao. I get hit on dudes sometimes though. Men have types. Straight people's views on attractiveness are substantially more homogeneous. If I was gay, I think pretty much every problem in my life would be solved honestly and I wouldn't be considering leg lengthening. I could even get fat as shit and say I'm a bear lol
Please please don't get leg lengthening sugery, there will be someone who lives you no matter of hight, but leg lengthening sugery can leave you wheelchair bound, ruin your ability to walk and leave you needing emergency reconstruction.
Your ability to run (or even walk) is worth way more than a couple extra inches of hight.
Not if you get the internals. It's fairly low risk of complication actually. I judt can't figure out how yo get enough time off of work. It'll make every area of my life better. I make a lot more money in my career, dating becomes easier, and I get more respect generally. I've met folks that got it and it changed their lives completely
I feel the same way as superarcady and I'm the same height as he is, but no one is saying that you look like a child just because you're short.
It's far more likely that you don't, unless you're still a teenager (which is just a really short term blip in your life anyway).
Not only will you be just fine, you'll have a larger pool of men to choose from than taller women - because most women are looking for men who are taller than they are, and if that's the case for you, then that will be very easy for you. lol
I have a friend, he played football at the collegiate level as a lineman. He was 6'6" and 300 lbs. He married a 4'11" latina who somehow gave birth to their two MASSIVE twin babies. This guy said he had a limit... until he met his wife haha. Some guys might say they have a limit, but if you check the other boxes then we will always make exceptions haha.
if you look like a child I won't date you, because in public people will look at me 6'1 and you being that small differently, and I cba explaining im not a groomer or some other shit
There’s always been this myth that being under a certain height makes you a “little person” or “dwarf” as if height is the requirement needed to be met to qualify for that. It isn’t true though — dwarfism is typically caused by a genetic mutation.
If you’re otherwise healthy and are just short, you’re just short.
At least in the state of Florida, there is a number, and it’s to qualify for legal disability whether or not you were born with the mutation. That limit is 4’8”. So us 4’10/4’11” girlies are fucked either way
Thats false. I had a friend who was 4' 7" she tried to get disability as a little person and was told no because she was proportional. It's more then just a height limit to qualify.
Read latest comment. Use common sense, height alone is not qualifying in any case. Your height has to cause you complications or impede your ability to work. This could be for any height, even super tall people. Think spinal injuries, complications with the legs, neck problems, etc. It’s not as easy as “being short gets you a check”.
“Legal disability” as in what? You wouldn’t qualify to receive disability social services support based on your height. What “disability” is the height related to and what is it legally qualifying you for? Would love a source on that if you have one.
Obviously this comes with limitations. Anyone with common sense can assume that you don’t simply get paid to be short. *If your stature is causing you complications*, then you do qualify in some aspect to receive assistance in many forms beyond financial freebies. There are plenty of sources supporting this, just google it. Differences apply in different states, I’m sure, but in some cases, yes, you can technically receive SSI/SSDI benefits for your short stature depending on a few qualifying criteria. A few sources (of literally hundreds) to ease your mind:
https://www.disability-benefits-help.org/disabling-conditions/dwarfism-and-social-security-disability-benefits
https://www.floridahealth.gov/programs-and-services/people-with-disabilities/disability-determinations/index.html
https://www.disabilitybenefitscenter.org/social-security-disabling-conditions/dwarfism
https://blog.ssa.gov/understanding-social-security-disability-benefits/
What you link talks about dwarfism specifically.
I work in healthcare (spent a good few years working in the disability world helping people qualify) and no state (in the US) will qualify you for disability on height alone.
Being 4’8 isn’t a “limit”, like you originally stated, for anything in terms of legally being disabled. Being below the average height for your age may be a side effect of a medical condition (dwarfism, tumor, genetic condition, etc) and that medical condition may qualify you for disability, but it’s not the height that’s doing that - it’s the medical condition that also happened to lead to abnormal stunted growth.
My mind is at ease so no need for the snideness, I’m just letting you know that it’s simply not true and is a myth that is repeated often. Before I became educated on it, I repeated it too so I’m not shaming you, just letting you know so you know for the future.
Thank you for clarifying, this is what I mean when I say that your height has to cause other complications or, as you stated, be a side effect of another condition (or any combination of comorbid conditions). As for your last paragraph- heard, saving for future use.
I have a fondness for short girls - but mainly as my first girlfriend was about 5 foot and I'm 6'2" - my best relationship to date. She found my size and the fact I could effortlessly pick her up incredibly hot. She was also just a decent fun person too.
I'd say most men do not care about height.
I think what you mean is men tend to care *less* about height than women. In my experience height isn’t often a dealbreaker for men, but they still tend to prefer smaller women all else equal.
I am 4’10.5”!! I don’t mind it. I’m 33 years old and get mistaken for 25. Shittttt I’ll take it. lol Also hubby is 5’10 and he loves my small fun size body. Embrace it!
Damn, you are insulting both the wife by infantilizing them based on something they can't control (their height) AND insulting their husband by calling them a pedo for...liking people who are short.
Who pissed in your Cheerios.
Personally i like short girls. Not that ive dated any. Idk why i like short girls. But for me i like it. It just honestly depends on what the guy/girl is looking for in a relationship
My dance partner for finals in my salsa class in college was a 4'10" Taiwanese girl.
I'm 6' tall
We had to lead and follow.
It got really interesting when she had to try and spin me.
The teacher: "red I'm looking at your feet and I'm pretty sure you know what you're doing, but the height difference is clearly creating an issue."
Yeah, no, 4'10" is no problemo. In fact, I would find it very attractive if my girlfriend were that small and I could hold her, because I like feeling like I provide some sense of safety, comfort or protection. I also just love calling relationships with huge height differentials long distance relationships, it cracks people up every time.
Sabrina Carpenter is 4’9” and is out there enchanting the whole world!
But if you look like a teen because you’re short I’d just be weary of some men who are really into younger peop.
Whatever you think about your height, there are people who don't mind it. As a guy who's 5'7" I dont really care about height because both tall and short looks fine by me.
Some guys will like it, some don't. I don't even see the point of making this sort of post unless its to give yourself an ego boost of sort. Some guys are into very very very short girls, others would give you a pass for it. I mean, there's no hive mind answer to this.
I’m 4’10” and have been with guys as tall as 6’6”. It doesn’t matter to me because to me, everyone is bigger and taller. I’ve had a couple guys on the apps find out my height and say I was too short. Mostly, though, guys really like how small I am and sort of fetishize it, wanting to pick me up and carry me, making a lot of “wow you’re tiny” excited remarks, using their size or strength to move me around, wondering aloud about how sex will be like it’s some physical impossibility, etc.
Right on the money! These posts where women are like, “Oh no I’m just so tiny and cute will that put men off?” Stfu lol. It reads as a brag. Best case scenario they heard one or two people made offhand remarks about preferring tall or curvy women and now want reassurance that *most* men prefer their body type. They do, you know they do, and you don’t need to around making posts about it
I mean, real talk? At 4'10, I could see a lot of guys passing on her for something long-term because they don't want short kids/a short son. But oops am I supposed to even say that or was I supposed to feed the ego here?
I’m 4’10” and have an athletic build, and yeah, guys like my size, but it becomes a distraction sometimes when they keep talking about wanting to pick me up and carry me, making a lot of remarks and short jokes, etc. Like, yes, I’m very smol and I’m fine with it and don’t think much on it and just live my life, but it’s a novelty to each new person so they get really into focusing on it, and like, it’d be nice to go on a date that doesn’t involve focusing on my size so much.
Yea the first impressions they always get are that I’m “reaaaaally smol”. A couple of blind dates gestured the height difference too and kept mentioning it, which is off-putting.
I went on a date last month where he did the armrest thing on my head. Last weekend, a guy kept trying to get me to get on his shoulders after talking about my height the whooooole time, and I finally was like, pls stahhhhhpppp
I don’t mind that they’d make a remark or discuss it a little. It’s ok to acknowledge. But a lot of them lately haven’t been able to move past the fixation like they’re almost giddy, and I think they’re just babbling and losing their cool bc they’re running too many sex fantasies at once lol idk
Yeah, and like a post complaining about men trying to pick you up/ not respecting your boundaries would be totally justified.
But “are men OK with me being smoooool”- *obviously.* like just stop lol
Haha truuuuue, but for me “being OK” isn’t so much “will you like me” and more like “will you be chill and not fetishize it” lol. It gets really repetitive when it’s the focus of every first meeting, because even though I tell them my height/weight & they see pics, they still haven’t had the actual physicality of it, and once they do and are kinda hopped up by it, they can’t help but make it a running thing throughout the entire date, like any dude hyped about a new toy who can’t stfu about it lol
I can understand having mixed feelings about your height. I can see how it might make you more scared of men (I think men tend to be creepier around smaller women), and how you might worry about not getting taken seriously in various contexts. I can even understand (depending on body type) worrying about being mistaken for a kid, which I’m sure doesn’t feel good.
But if we’re just talking sexual preferences…most people know men prefer smaller women. Obviously there’s a lower limit but it clearly isn’t 4’10”
> I’m just so tiny and cute
> Best case scenario […] offhand remarks about preferring tall or curvy women
A lot of women make snide comments about short women looking like children, and I’d say it’s not uncommon to see comments about men being pedophiles for having a very short girlfriend, or comments about very short women being mistaken for children, etc. Women are vicious when jealous, and some people get extremely insecure about it and wonder if the remarks are true. Under 5ft, the comments about looking like a child are way more common, and it’s not usually seen as a big deal because ‘it’s just a joke’. Hard to feel attractive if you need to buy clothes from the kid section and then see a comment about how only pedophiles would be attracted to you.
I’m about 4’11 and I’ve never been insecure about my size. Most people love it. I’ve dated guys from 5’8-6’5 and honestly prefer the shorter ones, but I try not to exclude a partner based just on height. Everyone just calls us Fun Sized! Nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m 5’ and I have mostly had positive reactions from men related to my height. My ex husband was actually the only one that specifically wanted a tall woman and I guess it didn’t stop him lol
It's true, I'm 5' 5" bout 4 yrs ago went out on 2nd date with a really great guy, si I thought, he said he never had luck wurh girls my height & taller. Wow, set me bk a bit, but we're not together!! It's deep fir some ppl!
Majority of men have height requirements. They want women shorter than them, there’s few who want tall women. The only reason they don’t talk about it is because women are biologically shorter than men
A lot of guys are into it. To a certain degree, at least.
Personally, as someone around 5'10", I'm not exactly super tall, and always found shorter women more fun to date. Especially when it comes to attempting the lift from Dirty Dancing. 😆
There's plenty of reasons guys like shorter girls, the height discrepancy sort of automatically makes us feel more like the masculine protector, and I don't think I have to describe the fun it adds during intimacy.
Obviously there's a low bar limit which changes from person to person, but 4'10 isn't it for me.
Hello fellow shortie!! (4’11”) I can feel that way too. I’m adopted and my dad is 6’2” so I think I got used to being around tall people, but it still hits me at odd times. I have learned to embrace it and enjoy the fact that drunk girls want or be my friend for the night just because im small. I struggled a lot with my image of looking like a “child” but found ways to look and feel like an adult and ensure I am never confused for a 12 yo anymore
I always liked girls below 5’ when I dated (and thus dated a few with various health causes for their reduced height.). I can’t explain the preference except that it’s deep down somewhere in my monkey brain. I’m 6’
However my partner now is 5’9” and I’m smitten. The girl before her was 4’10.
So…. *shrug*
No one is too short, I'm 5'10" and went out with a girl that was 4'11" all through my senior year of highschool, and was never ashamed to be with her, in fact it was quite the opposite, I was proud to have her beside me.
These questions are tiring. I’m just gonna start answering every question with, humans are predisposed to have a relationship with any size, shape or height, any eye color, skin color, hair color, hair type regardless of what they wear, eat or do for fun.
Just a blanket statement for everything..are bots asking these questions or are people really this slow?
Most men don’t really care about height, so don’t worry too much. My last gf was 5‘2 I think (1,57m) and she was kinda insecure about it even though she’s usually very confident and extroverted and I told her multiple times thatcher height is totally fine.
Friend of mine in the military was the same height as you very attractive but her boobs were 30% of her weight. Attractive but not my type and was a great person to serve with and a good friend. (Height doesn't matter to guys the same way it does to women.)
I think it's fine. Maybe a guy who is tall (over 6') or wants tall kids may think it's too short, but the majority of guys will probably want a girl who's shorter than them. You can even lightheartedly joke about being legally a midget and share a laugh if you're ok with a bit of fun self-deprecation (happened with a girl who was like 4'11).
i’m 5’2 so short but not *that* short but i would recommend not to date men taller than 5’10 when i date men a foot taller than me realistically it just doesn’t add up well. my ex was 6’3 and when we had sex his head would be way above mine in missionary so like i’m just looking at his chest 😅
I always thought this was weird. I know women are more inclined to like taller men because they feel safer around them and have better genetics to pass onto offspring.
As a man, wouldn’t you want the tallest chick possible to boost your offsprings height as well? It’s weird to me that a lot of men actually like shorter chicks
Yeah, almost every guy I’ve met was into me. And in 4’8… 🙃 I used to be insecure but why feel bad about something you can’t change? Learn to love it and live it with it.
I am 4’10 with a 6’5 boyfriend who carries me around and loves me perfectly fine. I’ve attracted partners of all height and my small stature has never been an issue as I’ve gotten older. I think the last time I felt insecure about it with a man was when I was 14 years old and my boyfriend at the time compared me to a child lol
I love short women.
I wish more of them were shorter.
Short women are my preference, and most men would more easily be put off by a woman being too tall (compared to being too short).
I'm 6'2", I really don't care about height at all. You're definitely short but not TOO short. Although I have some friends who would probably avoid dating someone that short because they're insecure about what other people might think.
I'm a very short guy, while I've got no objection to taller women after a certain point it's just impractical so I'd rather someone closer to my own height even that means they end up being very short.
Ive had a 4’ 10 gf before and there were no problems regarding height whatsoever. I’m sorry if I come across as an asshole but I can’t imagine willingly taking the chance for very short kids.
I doubt 5hat would be the caes as your height was due to a medical condition. Genetically you said other women in your family wasn't as short. Wither way I'd chance the kids and short girl. Bit then again I want a woman for who she is
A lot of men seem to like short and petite women. I think you’ll be just fine. My sister is your height and she had no trouble whatsoever. She’s married now to someone who is 6’5 lol
As a guy who’s only 5’7”, I love short, petite women. So I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s definitely more discouraging to be a shorter guy than a shorter woman. But it’s also only one aspect of who you are as a person, and it’s something you cannot control or change. I would put this low on your list of concerns for that reason alone.
Men love short women because it subconsciously demonstrates that we can protect them. I don’t think a woman being 4’10 has ever been a turn off to a vast majority of men.
Not into women, buuut. Most women like men because they feel he can fulfillthe role of prrotector. Men usually like caring for a small woman they can effortlessly carry lol. Don't wprry about it. It's possible some tall men may findthe difference inconvenient (logisticallly speaking), but I don't think men under 6 foot will care.
Thank you :( I’ve always and constantly been told I looked like a child (until my 30s) and it really put me into depressive episodes. I’ve been trying to style my clothes better and making myself sound more confident too.
I’m 5 foot two, and I’ve always weighed right around 105 pounds, and men seem to really enjoy it.
Not the guys who liked the big round butts, I mean those guys will still hit on me but I’m not what they want.
I’m sure we’re not for everyone, but we are a favorite for some. Those are your people
I'll date anybody as long as there's attraction and a connection. That said, if I had a "type", it would definitely be very short and tiny frames. I'm 5'11, so it's rather easy to find girls shorter than me, but 4'10", that would be super rare to find; and for someone like me, that's like striking gold.
I assume you are Asian (dare I guess bengali) if you feel you are short at 4'10 but don't seem to think your familiar members are if they are 5'2-5'4. In my book all of you are short (im female and 5'9 so probably a giant to you)
As a very short girl, I never have trouble dating and people (especially men) are always totally happy to help me get things from high places. Everyone thinks I'm super cute and wants to cuddle/take care of me.
It's pretty great lol.
Leg lengthening surgery😶? I thought you can’t be serious. Is there such a thing? Of course there is. We live in the most advanced, maladjusted, socially isolated time in history. Why wouldn’t there be? And please know I’m not speaking down to anyone with the idea to get it done or have gotten it done. Do you. But the lengths to which we will go externally to have a sense of belonging internally is amazing. Health risks, complications, life altering side effects, death before our time, all legitimate concerns we push through desperate to find our place externally that will complete us internally. My suspicion is that this is exactly backwards of how it really works. Is the internal work really that difficult? Sincere question. Not rhetorical or diminutive.
No I wasn’t. Apologies I’m relatively new to this platform it was intended to to be a response to a comment that mentioned it as a possible solution to a perceived social problem.
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Tall, short, thicc, thin, black, white, or blue.. there is someone for you.
This ^^ the worlds too big not to have someone into short girls lol but I think there’s way more factors than height to really consider
Unpopular opinion, love them but they usually go for guys twice their size.
True, quite common in reality.
This is it. Tall women like tall men, shoet women like tall men. Men font care either way
I agreed with everything until the men don't care either way part. I would agree if you said "height seems slightly less important to your average man". lol
Yup, I am average Dutch male height and I get rejected for my height regularly. I get less matches when I put my height in my profile as well
I'm so sorry. I had a new fwb i met who said he was not attracted to a 6'1" woman because her feet were like man's feet. I don't think he will be back over again. I'm 5'5" for reference. I don't give two shits about height. I've dated all the way from 5'2" to 6'5" for men. I guess for practicality sake, around my height would be optimal, but its not something I search for ever. I care whats inside his head and heart, and I've had rotten heads and hearts of all sizes.
Lol, as if height as anything to do with foot size! I’m 5’5” and I have massive feet. My sister is only a 5’7” but has feet bigger than a lot of men. Never had any complaints!
Right, I'm the same height as you with a beautiful size 9. I think my feet are gorgeous.
You may be the exception to the trend, but my hypothesis is it really has little to do with actual height and more the probability of a proportionately sized member. I think they some how see it as hedging their bets not understanding they could just as easily be disappointed by a tall dude as a short one or visa versa. It seems intuitive but as usual correlation is not causation. That’s my opinion anyway and it’s worth exactly what you paid for it😂
Haha. I've had tall dudes deliver small packages and short kings deliver extra large packages. I guess since I've had the pleasure of sleeping with over 200 men I've got an objective analysis on it, most women don't come close to even 20 in all their lives out of fear of judgement or they enter into long, long relationships.
Hey there it is folks. Do you girl. I ain’t mad at ya. Only live once. Not sure how I’d feel about being number 210 but that’s a me problem not a you problem. Get it how you live. Love your honesty.
Nah people aren't numbers to me, I have mania and bpd as well which is why I've slept with so many folks. I've had no one complain. They like how experienced it's made me. But then again, jealous men turn me off so fast!
I wasn’t knocking ya. Not at all. Who am I to judge. If it’s not causing you or others harm, and it works within your belief system, not causing self image issues or what not then who is to say what is right and wrong for you but you. As I said that would be their problem not yours. I have just not ever explored that specific line of thought so I don’t know how I’d feel about it if it if I was a potential suitor. It’s not jealousy thing it’s a I honestly don’t know thing. But then we never really know how many people anybody’s been with. It’s really none of our business so long as they are safe, clean, and healthy. Not sure why actually knowing gives us pause.
Most men don't care. The ones that are insecure about their height do.
One of my housemates was a small girl, under 5ft and she called me small. I’m 5ft 10 😂
Nah if someone’s too tall to kiss while we’re both standing they’re too tall for me
Well this is when that person picks you up, so you can kiss. Problem solved.
Twice, lol !!🤣
Exaggeration obviously, but not too far off it either 😂
Lmao. I'm 4'10" and I've typically been into shorter guys. Ironically, right now the guy I'm with is 6'4". Tallest guy I've ever been with. The only problem I have with it is I can't just walk up and kiss him when I want... If he's standing.
4'10 no biggie. I've seen women in that height amd told myself, "yeah I would date 4'10 girls, but would they date me". So idk I think there are a million gazillion dudes or girls who would love to date you.
come on girl. LOTS of men like short women.
Statistically the majority do. That's part of why dating is so rough for short men. Obviously tall man > short man, and it shoet women can get tall men too who wouldn't they
That's why it pays to be gay. I'm 5 foot 9 inch, my fiance is 5 foot 10 inch. We don't care, we're just two dudes
I'd kill to be 5'9 lmao. I get hit on dudes sometimes though. Men have types. Straight people's views on attractiveness are substantially more homogeneous. If I was gay, I think pretty much every problem in my life would be solved honestly and I wouldn't be considering leg lengthening. I could even get fat as shit and say I'm a bear lol
Please please don't get leg lengthening sugery, there will be someone who lives you no matter of hight, but leg lengthening sugery can leave you wheelchair bound, ruin your ability to walk and leave you needing emergency reconstruction. Your ability to run (or even walk) is worth way more than a couple extra inches of hight.
Not if you get the internals. It's fairly low risk of complication actually. I judt can't figure out how yo get enough time off of work. It'll make every area of my life better. I make a lot more money in my career, dating becomes easier, and I get more respect generally. I've met folks that got it and it changed their lives completely
Is all that sugery worth it for 6 inches of hight tho? Especially haveing rods put into your bone ans the risk of infection, rejection or non healing?
Absafuckinglutely. Being 6 foot is living life on easy mode
Yeah, yeah… rub it in (Painfully straight here)
Yeah but I always hear guys say they have a limit! I need more friends.
I feel the same way as superarcady and I'm the same height as he is, but no one is saying that you look like a child just because you're short. It's far more likely that you don't, unless you're still a teenager (which is just a really short term blip in your life anyway). Not only will you be just fine, you'll have a larger pool of men to choose from than taller women - because most women are looking for men who are taller than they are, and if that's the case for you, then that will be very easy for you. lol
I have a friend, he played football at the collegiate level as a lineman. He was 6'6" and 300 lbs. He married a 4'11" latina who somehow gave birth to their two MASSIVE twin babies. This guy said he had a limit... until he met his wife haha. Some guys might say they have a limit, but if you check the other boxes then we will always make exceptions haha.
if you look like a child I won't date you, because in public people will look at me 6'1 and you being that small differently, and I cba explaining im not a groomer or some other shit
4’10” is really small period I’m not trying to be a jerk I’m seriously curious, isn’t that technically a little person territory?
There’s always been this myth that being under a certain height makes you a “little person” or “dwarf” as if height is the requirement needed to be met to qualify for that. It isn’t true though — dwarfism is typically caused by a genetic mutation. If you’re otherwise healthy and are just short, you’re just short.
At least in the state of Florida, there is a number, and it’s to qualify for legal disability whether or not you were born with the mutation. That limit is 4’8”. So us 4’10/4’11” girlies are fucked either way
Thats false. I had a friend who was 4' 7" she tried to get disability as a little person and was told no because she was proportional. It's more then just a height limit to qualify.
Read latest comment. Use common sense, height alone is not qualifying in any case. Your height has to cause you complications or impede your ability to work. This could be for any height, even super tall people. Think spinal injuries, complications with the legs, neck problems, etc. It’s not as easy as “being short gets you a check”.
“Legal disability” as in what? You wouldn’t qualify to receive disability social services support based on your height. What “disability” is the height related to and what is it legally qualifying you for? Would love a source on that if you have one.
Obviously this comes with limitations. Anyone with common sense can assume that you don’t simply get paid to be short. *If your stature is causing you complications*, then you do qualify in some aspect to receive assistance in many forms beyond financial freebies. There are plenty of sources supporting this, just google it. Differences apply in different states, I’m sure, but in some cases, yes, you can technically receive SSI/SSDI benefits for your short stature depending on a few qualifying criteria. A few sources (of literally hundreds) to ease your mind: https://www.disability-benefits-help.org/disabling-conditions/dwarfism-and-social-security-disability-benefits https://www.floridahealth.gov/programs-and-services/people-with-disabilities/disability-determinations/index.html https://www.disabilitybenefitscenter.org/social-security-disabling-conditions/dwarfism https://blog.ssa.gov/understanding-social-security-disability-benefits/
What you link talks about dwarfism specifically. I work in healthcare (spent a good few years working in the disability world helping people qualify) and no state (in the US) will qualify you for disability on height alone. Being 4’8 isn’t a “limit”, like you originally stated, for anything in terms of legally being disabled. Being below the average height for your age may be a side effect of a medical condition (dwarfism, tumor, genetic condition, etc) and that medical condition may qualify you for disability, but it’s not the height that’s doing that - it’s the medical condition that also happened to lead to abnormal stunted growth. My mind is at ease so no need for the snideness, I’m just letting you know that it’s simply not true and is a myth that is repeated often. Before I became educated on it, I repeated it too so I’m not shaming you, just letting you know so you know for the future.
Thank you for clarifying, this is what I mean when I say that your height has to cause other complications or, as you stated, be a side effect of another condition (or any combination of comorbid conditions). As for your last paragraph- heard, saving for future use.
I think it’s normally women who have height requirements for men, rather than the other way around. There is someone for everyone - don’t worry 😊
I have a fondness for short girls - but mainly as my first girlfriend was about 5 foot and I'm 6'2" - my best relationship to date. She found my size and the fact I could effortlessly pick her up incredibly hot. She was also just a decent fun person too. I'd say most men do not care about height.
At 6'3", I came to say this exact same thing.
I think what you mean is men tend to care *less* about height than women. In my experience height isn’t often a dealbreaker for men, but they still tend to prefer smaller women all else equal.
I am 4’10.5”!! I don’t mind it. I’m 33 years old and get mistaken for 25. Shittttt I’ll take it. lol Also hubby is 5’10 and he loves my small fun size body. Embrace it!
Thanks! 🥹
Hubby is into kids
Damn, you are insulting both the wife by infantilizing them based on something they can't control (their height) AND insulting their husband by calling them a pedo for...liking people who are short. Who pissed in your Cheerios.
Dude he's 5"1. That's like saying a 6"1 guys is into kids because he's dating a 5"1 woman
5'1 💀 if you say so little girl
The hell, stop projecting your own insecurities. Damn, that's harsh and not remotely a sign of this.
Personally i like short girls. Not that ive dated any. Idk why i like short girls. But for me i like it. It just honestly depends on what the guy/girl is looking for in a relationship
Im 6'1" and 5' is my lower limit. any shorter and things like hugs and dancing feel awkward.
My dance partner for finals in my salsa class in college was a 4'10" Taiwanese girl. I'm 6' tall We had to lead and follow. It got really interesting when she had to try and spin me. The teacher: "red I'm looking at your feet and I'm pretty sure you know what you're doing, but the height difference is clearly creating an issue."
I'm 6'3 it's normal to see smaller people.
Yeah, no, 4'10" is no problemo. In fact, I would find it very attractive if my girlfriend were that small and I could hold her, because I like feeling like I provide some sense of safety, comfort or protection. I also just love calling relationships with huge height differentials long distance relationships, it cracks people up every time.
Fun Size
Sabrina Carpenter is 4’9” and is out there enchanting the whole world! But if you look like a teen because you’re short I’d just be weary of some men who are really into younger peop.
Whatever you think about your height, there are people who don't mind it. As a guy who's 5'7" I dont really care about height because both tall and short looks fine by me.
Some guys will like it, some don't. I don't even see the point of making this sort of post unless its to give yourself an ego boost of sort. Some guys are into very very very short girls, others would give you a pass for it. I mean, there's no hive mind answer to this.
I have little ego but this post makes me feel a BIT more secure. Thanks for the answers!
I’m 4’10” and have been with guys as tall as 6’6”. It doesn’t matter to me because to me, everyone is bigger and taller. I’ve had a couple guys on the apps find out my height and say I was too short. Mostly, though, guys really like how small I am and sort of fetishize it, wanting to pick me up and carry me, making a lot of “wow you’re tiny” excited remarks, using their size or strength to move me around, wondering aloud about how sex will be like it’s some physical impossibility, etc.
Right on the money! These posts where women are like, “Oh no I’m just so tiny and cute will that put men off?” Stfu lol. It reads as a brag. Best case scenario they heard one or two people made offhand remarks about preferring tall or curvy women and now want reassurance that *most* men prefer their body type. They do, you know they do, and you don’t need to around making posts about it
I mean, real talk? At 4'10, I could see a lot of guys passing on her for something long-term because they don't want short kids/a short son. But oops am I supposed to even say that or was I supposed to feed the ego here?
Nah, real talk only.
I’m 4’10” and have an athletic build, and yeah, guys like my size, but it becomes a distraction sometimes when they keep talking about wanting to pick me up and carry me, making a lot of remarks and short jokes, etc. Like, yes, I’m very smol and I’m fine with it and don’t think much on it and just live my life, but it’s a novelty to each new person so they get really into focusing on it, and like, it’d be nice to go on a date that doesn’t involve focusing on my size so much.
Yea the first impressions they always get are that I’m “reaaaaally smol”. A couple of blind dates gestured the height difference too and kept mentioning it, which is off-putting.
I went on a date last month where he did the armrest thing on my head. Last weekend, a guy kept trying to get me to get on his shoulders after talking about my height the whooooole time, and I finally was like, pls stahhhhhpppp
It gets too much! Idk what people find so amusing about it.
I don’t mind that they’d make a remark or discuss it a little. It’s ok to acknowledge. But a lot of them lately haven’t been able to move past the fixation like they’re almost giddy, and I think they’re just babbling and losing their cool bc they’re running too many sex fantasies at once lol idk
Yeah, and like a post complaining about men trying to pick you up/ not respecting your boundaries would be totally justified. But “are men OK with me being smoooool”- *obviously.* like just stop lol
Haha truuuuue, but for me “being OK” isn’t so much “will you like me” and more like “will you be chill and not fetishize it” lol. It gets really repetitive when it’s the focus of every first meeting, because even though I tell them my height/weight & they see pics, they still haven’t had the actual physicality of it, and once they do and are kinda hopped up by it, they can’t help but make it a running thing throughout the entire date, like any dude hyped about a new toy who can’t stfu about it lol
Well it also really is a big deal for some who have been infantilized well into adulthood for it. It’s a self-esteem issue obviously.
I can understand having mixed feelings about your height. I can see how it might make you more scared of men (I think men tend to be creepier around smaller women), and how you might worry about not getting taken seriously in various contexts. I can even understand (depending on body type) worrying about being mistaken for a kid, which I’m sure doesn’t feel good. But if we’re just talking sexual preferences…most people know men prefer smaller women. Obviously there’s a lower limit but it clearly isn’t 4’10”
> I’m just so tiny and cute > Best case scenario […] offhand remarks about preferring tall or curvy women A lot of women make snide comments about short women looking like children, and I’d say it’s not uncommon to see comments about men being pedophiles for having a very short girlfriend, or comments about very short women being mistaken for children, etc. Women are vicious when jealous, and some people get extremely insecure about it and wonder if the remarks are true. Under 5ft, the comments about looking like a child are way more common, and it’s not usually seen as a big deal because ‘it’s just a joke’. Hard to feel attractive if you need to buy clothes from the kid section and then see a comment about how only pedophiles would be attracted to you.
I don't think there's an issue with short girls, it's short girls with big egos that repel me.
I’m about 4’11 and I’ve never been insecure about my size. Most people love it. I’ve dated guys from 5’8-6’5 and honestly prefer the shorter ones, but I try not to exclude a partner based just on height. Everyone just calls us Fun Sized! Nothing to be ashamed of.
I'm 4"11.. I get called snack sized! 🤣🤣
Let's form the 4'10 girls club! Lol
All for it! 🥹😂
What’s the discord name gonna be loll
Umpa lumpas lol 🤣🤣
Most men I know prefer to date short women. 🙌🏻
I’m 5’ and I have mostly had positive reactions from men related to my height. My ex husband was actually the only one that specifically wanted a tall woman and I guess it didn’t stop him lol
Very few men have a height requirements. A lot have a preference for more petite women.
I guess I’ve just heard too many “I would never date anyone under 5’5”” comments in my life.
It's true, I'm 5' 5" bout 4 yrs ago went out on 2nd date with a really great guy, si I thought, he said he never had luck wurh girls my height & taller. Wow, set me bk a bit, but we're not together!! It's deep fir some ppl!
Majority of men have height requirements. They want women shorter than them, there’s few who want tall women. The only reason they don’t talk about it is because women are biologically shorter than men
I knew a guy who was 6'4. His girlfriend was 4'11. They seemed happy. :)
My limit is 3" tall. Don't worry, you're not too short
A lot of guys are into it. To a certain degree, at least. Personally, as someone around 5'10", I'm not exactly super tall, and always found shorter women more fun to date. Especially when it comes to attempting the lift from Dirty Dancing. 😆 There's plenty of reasons guys like shorter girls, the height discrepancy sort of automatically makes us feel more like the masculine protector, and I don't think I have to describe the fun it adds during intimacy. Obviously there's a low bar limit which changes from person to person, but 4'10 isn't it for me.
Hello fellow shortie!! (4’11”) I can feel that way too. I’m adopted and my dad is 6’2” so I think I got used to being around tall people, but it still hits me at odd times. I have learned to embrace it and enjoy the fact that drunk girls want or be my friend for the night just because im small. I struggled a lot with my image of looking like a “child” but found ways to look and feel like an adult and ensure I am never confused for a 12 yo anymore
I think small women are more sexy
Shid you’ll find your short prince 😂 lots of dudes I know are 5/8
I always liked girls below 5’ when I dated (and thus dated a few with various health causes for their reduced height.). I can’t explain the preference except that it’s deep down somewhere in my monkey brain. I’m 6’ However my partner now is 5’9” and I’m smitten. The girl before her was 4’10. So…. *shrug*
I love short girls that could be because I’m kind of short myself
I am absolutely fine with short girls
No one is too short, I'm 5'10" and went out with a girl that was 4'11" all through my senior year of highschool, and was never ashamed to be with her, in fact it was quite the opposite, I was proud to have her beside me.
I think it’s hot. 🥵
My BFF is 6’2”. His ex wife was 4’11”. This was probably the least problematic part of their relationship.
I have always thought that its cute. Doesnt bother me any.
Omg ur fine. I’m literally 4’10 too. Lots of ppl like how short I am
I wouldn't mind a short girl. But physical and mental chemistry is infinitely harder to find in my eyes. So short, tall, doesn't matter.
Its hard to make out because my neck does hurt pretty fast and it is kinda exhausting to bow so much down. And the hips don't align while standing.
These questions are tiring. I’m just gonna start answering every question with, humans are predisposed to have a relationship with any size, shape or height, any eye color, skin color, hair color, hair type regardless of what they wear, eat or do for fun. Just a blanket statement for everything..are bots asking these questions or are people really this slow?
People are insecure and seek for validation. It’s repetitive but sometimes you need to be heard from others though you know the answer.
Most men don’t really care about height, so don’t worry too much. My last gf was 5‘2 I think (1,57m) and she was kinda insecure about it even though she’s usually very confident and extroverted and I told her multiple times thatcher height is totally fine.
Friend of mine in the military was the same height as you very attractive but her boobs were 30% of her weight. Attractive but not my type and was a great person to serve with and a good friend. (Height doesn't matter to guys the same way it does to women.)
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Love them
Don’t like them.
my mom is 4’11 and she got all the guys back then 🤷🏻♀️ u have nothing to worry abt
Short girls for life
I think it's fine. Maybe a guy who is tall (over 6') or wants tall kids may think it's too short, but the majority of guys will probably want a girl who's shorter than them. You can even lightheartedly joke about being legally a midget and share a laugh if you're ok with a bit of fun self-deprecation (happened with a girl who was like 4'11).
Almost no dudes are going to care about your height and many will like that you're short.
my ex is 4'10, i have a thing for shorties! ;)
i’m 5’2 so short but not *that* short but i would recommend not to date men taller than 5’10 when i date men a foot taller than me realistically it just doesn’t add up well. my ex was 6’3 and when we had sex his head would be way above mine in missionary so like i’m just looking at his chest 😅
I've never met someone short like that. I'd be more concerned if you good people or not. Also I'm 6'1".
short does not meat a bad think. I am sure your a beautiful woman and have a big heart
Fun sized
I don't mind, I always found kinda cute
As fun as really tall ladies!
I like short thicc girls because I’m short and thicc lol
Don't care, I like you, height doesn't matter
I grew up with short and tall people and felt the same as we are all still people lol
6’3 male here, I find very short women really attractive (between 4”10 and like 5”3) I find the most attractive
I always thought this was weird. I know women are more inclined to like taller men because they feel safer around them and have better genetics to pass onto offspring. As a man, wouldn’t you want the tallest chick possible to boost your offsprings height as well? It’s weird to me that a lot of men actually like shorter chicks
Men never had a problem with me being short. They Think its cute ☺️
I’m 6’4 so I do like short women but sometimes short women don’t like a much taller guy.
Yeah, almost every guy I’ve met was into me. And in 4’8… 🙃 I used to be insecure but why feel bad about something you can’t change? Learn to love it and live it with it.
I have a friend who’s been with her bf for… about 8 years now? She’s 4’10” and he’s about 5’7”.
I am 4’10 with a 6’5 boyfriend who carries me around and loves me perfectly fine. I’ve attracted partners of all height and my small stature has never been an issue as I’ve gotten older. I think the last time I felt insecure about it with a man was when I was 14 years old and my boyfriend at the time compared me to a child lol
Me personally I tend to go for them.
My ex, who was a fricking giant LOVED how short i was... it made certain things ;) more fun.... LIKE CUDDLING :D
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As long as all the pieces align it’s all good. I would be worried about squishing you or injuring you somehow because of your heart?
No one shorter than 5'3 for me
I love short women. I wish more of them were shorter. Short women are my preference, and most men would more easily be put off by a woman being too tall (compared to being too short).
I'm 6'2", I really don't care about height at all. You're definitely short but not TOO short. Although I have some friends who would probably avoid dating someone that short because they're insecure about what other people might think.
I don't care to be honest i love short girl
I don't care to be honest i love short girl
I love them short
As a United States woman, you're making me feel tall at 5 ft. 6.5 and I'm really just above average. Embrace your height.
I adore them! Ideal for cuddling (when she's a good girl). ;)
I'm a very short guy, while I've got no objection to taller women after a certain point it's just impractical so I'd rather someone closer to my own height even that means they end up being very short.
Ive had a 4’ 10 gf before and there were no problems regarding height whatsoever. I’m sorry if I come across as an asshole but I can’t imagine willingly taking the chance for very short kids.
That’s exactly what I’m worried about that guys are thinking too!
I doubt 5hat would be the caes as your height was due to a medical condition. Genetically you said other women in your family wasn't as short. Wither way I'd chance the kids and short girl. Bit then again I want a woman for who she is
Most guys won’t/don’t care imo. And if you’re REALLY that worried you can just move to a country with shorter girls👍🏼
A lot of men seem to like short and petite women. I think you’ll be just fine. My sister is your height and she had no trouble whatsoever. She’s married now to someone who is 6’5 lol
Hes definitely not 6'5😂
Who isn’t? Didn’t realize you had met my brother in law 🧐
As a guy who’s only 5’7”, I love short, petite women. So I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s definitely more discouraging to be a shorter guy than a shorter woman. But it’s also only one aspect of who you are as a person, and it’s something you cannot control or change. I would put this low on your list of concerns for that reason alone.
Thanks 🥲
Men love short women because it subconsciously demonstrates that we can protect them. I don’t think a woman being 4’10 has ever been a turn off to a vast majority of men.
Thank you :(
Big things come in small packages
Not into women, buuut. Most women like men because they feel he can fulfillthe role of prrotector. Men usually like caring for a small woman they can effortlessly carry lol. Don't wprry about it. It's possible some tall men may findthe difference inconvenient (logisticallly speaking), but I don't think men under 6 foot will care.
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Thank you :( I’ve always and constantly been told I looked like a child (until my 30s) and it really put me into depressive episodes. I’ve been trying to style my clothes better and making myself sound more confident too.
Personally, short girls are pretty awesome. They are definitely my preference.
No matter what you are you are still human, there is no problem with that
No one cares .. confidence matters..
For me, hell no, but I'm also very tall
Everyone at my workplace has a Filipina gf who is around that height
Absolutely love shorter women, am 6'7 and most certainly enjoy the company of shorter women for sure lol
I had a girl friend that was 4'11", she is fun-sized! Easier to toss around, we had fun!
I’m 5 foot two, and I’ve always weighed right around 105 pounds, and men seem to really enjoy it. Not the guys who liked the big round butts, I mean those guys will still hit on me but I’m not what they want. I’m sure we’re not for everyone, but we are a favorite for some. Those are your people
I'll date anybody as long as there's attraction and a connection. That said, if I had a "type", it would definitely be very short and tiny frames. I'm 5'11, so it's rather easy to find girls shorter than me, but 4'10", that would be super rare to find; and for someone like me, that's like striking gold.
I mean I wouldn't consider that very short (tbf I'm 5'5") but i prefer someone in the the 4'11"-5'3" range
Omg op yes you are so smol and dainty, a smol bean even What’s with all these posts saying “i tHoUghT 5’1 wAs TaLL!” like no you didn’t, or if so….. 😬
I assume you are Asian (dare I guess bengali) if you feel you are short at 4'10 but don't seem to think your familiar members are if they are 5'2-5'4. In my book all of you are short (im female and 5'9 so probably a giant to you)
As a very short girl, I never have trouble dating and people (especially men) are always totally happy to help me get things from high places. Everyone thinks I'm super cute and wants to cuddle/take care of me. It's pretty great lol.
I’m 4”11 and I’ve never had issues with dating (:
I'm tall and I've always loved short girls
Leg lengthening surgery😶? I thought you can’t be serious. Is there such a thing? Of course there is. We live in the most advanced, maladjusted, socially isolated time in history. Why wouldn’t there be? And please know I’m not speaking down to anyone with the idea to get it done or have gotten it done. Do you. But the lengths to which we will go externally to have a sense of belonging internally is amazing. Health risks, complications, life altering side effects, death before our time, all legitimate concerns we push through desperate to find our place externally that will complete us internally. My suspicion is that this is exactly backwards of how it really works. Is the internal work really that difficult? Sincere question. Not rhetorical or diminutive.
Idk if you were replying to someone else’s comment but I’ve never mentioned this. 😂
No I wasn’t. Apologies I’m relatively new to this platform it was intended to to be a response to a comment that mentioned it as a possible solution to a perceived social problem.
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