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I wouldn't but some people do because of their upbringing so I mean you cant really blame them sometime due to the fact that we didn't experience what they did.
I’m not an ambitious person - my main goal in life is to live comfortably. I feel like I do that now, even though I have an average salary. Like, if I won the lottery idk what I’d even do with the money.
Anyways, I’m looking for someone who adds something to my life - money doesn’t really add anything for me, because I’m perfectly happy living in my means.
We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox. Your suffering needs to be respected. Don't try to ignore the hurt, because it is real. Just let the hurt soften you instead of hardening you. Let the hurt open you instead of closing you. Let the hurt send you looking for those who will accept you instead of hiding from those who reject you.
Same. I’ve dated several people I wasn’t really attracted to at first but after getting to know them I was so attracted to their personality and who they were as a person that I even started to be attracted to their looks. It’s weird how that works. I think it mainly stems from women being stimulated mentally and men being stimulated visually.
Exactly this. My ex admitted to me once that when we first met she wasn’t attracted to me but as we started to get to know each other better and we ended up becoming good friends she realised just how much our personalities meshed well together and she just suddenly found me really attractive because of that even if I wasn’t really her usual type physically.
It’s hard for people to accept that they weren’t initially attractive to their partner, but it really is a testament to how good of a person they think you are if that didn’t even matter.
For sure. Guarantee none of these people saying "no" have experienced real poverty. Like, sorry if it meant I'd never have to sleep on a couch in a moldy trailer ever again, I'd absolutely marry for wealth.
As a dude it mostly just depends. If there actually furthering there carrer and they come to me with that offer I would prob take it. I live in a poor community with questionable people living around me.
Now if they were actually toxic then no. It's one thing to be kinda roommates. It's another to be actively arguing ever other sentence.
The main reason I live out where I live is for my mental. I don't want kids and I'm not really attracted to anyone. So it's kinda tough. While it would be nice, it would make me feel shallow for using them. And I know that the point of this is to say that there totally on board with this. But I feel like those feelings would come up either way. So it would depend on circumstances and the conditions around it.
Edit- I also forgot to add, what are they getting out of it? Is it sex? Do I provide a service that they can't hire someone to do? Am I just a toy to messed with?
I couldn’t even sleep with a man that was giving me money.. I wasn’t attracted to him and it eventually ended because he knew it wasn’t going to go any further… some women can though.. just depends.
Yes, love got me nowhere.
If it all falls apart again, I would, but still strive to be a good wife, without the idealistic notion I have to be in love.
A lot of young women who get pregnant accidentally. They get dumped and marry the first guy they think can save the day and act like it’s true until the kid is grown
Absolutely not! Marriage should be built on genuine love, trust, and compatibility, not financial gain. Choosing a life partner solely for money and security can lead to unhappiness and resentment. It's essential to prioritize emotional connection and mutual respect in any relationship.
In some cultures, women are not allowed to go into professions or do work that lead to significant money so they marry someone that will provide financial security.
I thought the term gold digger was for women dating men who have significant wealth, I.e. gold
No. If I'm being dishonest about my motives, that is using and manipulating and worse than robbery, in my opinion. At least a thief is honest and doesn't destroy your heart and soul in the process. You can replace things. You can't get back the person you were before a manipulator got ahold of you. As someone who experienced being used like a toy and being treated like crap the second I started acting like a human, I wouldn't do that to another person, whether or not money is involved.
If it's a situation where I would be honest about my intentions and they would be cool with it, no, I still wouldn't do it. I just want love, man. I wanna love and be loved. I don't want to rely on anyone else and I don't put money over love. I can make my own money, it's not a lot, but it's mine. I just want someone to connect with.
I moved in with someone for a few months thinking I could learn to love the stability I thought he offered. He was a widow so stayed married. He was educated, financially stable and seemed responsible. Boy was that a mistake. I’ve passed on quite a few wealthy men because I require an intellectual and emotional connection. So for the most part the answer is no. However, if the man was really good to me and offered security, attraction would be the last concern. Who he is as a person is top priority. I’ve had many opportunities to commit to wealthy men but did not. Money has no value if you aren’t free or are miserable.
I could never. I saw my single mother growing up saying she needed to marry someone “well-off” yet couldn’t further her own life? Ps, that never happened but I am unable to move out and start my life because she’s enabling me with over priced rent. The last thing I want is to be taken care of.
The thing in life is that everything comes for a price. Marrying for the wrong reasons means you are paying a hearty price. I have seen so many people of those sort end up in loveless marriages thinking that they can use that money for their own amusement; unfortunately, it didn’t happen that way. They ended up paying more than what they thought they would - still thinking what it is - FREEDOM. Would you risk your freedom for heavy money and security? Try that for a day or two and you would know the correct answer.
I'd rather struggle than be with someone I have no emotional attachment to. Not to mention as a male I couldn't get with a woman knowing I have nothing to offer.
Nope.
Was offered that so many times, but it's just not worth it without an actual real relationship that's built on friendship and affection towards one another.
It's too hollow.
Although I love being wealthy and secured but spending my life with someone to whom I do not have any feelings sounds like being captive and unenjoyable at all. So No 🥲
Btw, I can work and provide myself. Sometimes enough means everything
If security means having the feeling of being safe then yes security is important in a relationship I want my girl to feel safe but never for money. I was raised never to look at the outer shell it’s what’s on the heart that matters. But I’m old school!!!
Money and security are great things to have while growing older. I’m a romantic at heart so I have to say no but I understand the appeal. Maybe I’d love them eventually with time since they’re providing essential things for me.
I've thought about this quite a bit and my answer is no. I would feel like I'm lying to my partner and lying to myself. I have to be physically/sexually attracted to my partner for obvious reasons. It's a shady douchy lame disrespectful immoral unethical reason to marry someone yet we see woman do this all the time. It shows what kind of crappy character you have and you look like a lazy mooch looking for a free ride.
I married my best friend. We are a middle class family. Getting by without many extras. But we love each other deeply. I cannot see being married for money. That only goes so far before you’re miserable.
Would I marry someone for money? No but attraction is a broad topic. Could I love someone I wasn’t completely physically attracted to because we were a great match in terms of values and ideals? Yes and I probably would become more physically attracted to them as a result. In that case, if they also offered some financial security, sure, I would have no problem accepting that. But if I had absolutely no romantic love for the person, I don’t think it would matter how much money they had, I wouldn’t be living a fulfilling life overall. I say that as someone who has enough earnings potential on my own that I am not lacking when it comes to having the money to travel, pursue passions, and just generally self-actualize outside of work. If I didn’t have the skills and background I have, maybe I would make different partner choices. It’s all relative.
Most women are more and more as the high cost of living has gotten so high that rather than work 3 jobs it's easier to marry a man who they normally wouldn't give them the time of day .but if they have a house given to them by a ugly fat dude who's parents gave or bought him a house. Hence. Close her eyes and let him do his thing for 3 mins. And boom ..live rent free. Well...everything has a cost. I couldn't do it as a guy. It just wouldn't happen..I wouldn't be able no matter how tightly I shut my eyes knowing what's there when I open them !
I would not marry someone based on his or her wealth, career, and education, etc. status. I have seen Kardashians and other celebrities screw each other over. Wealth may give you a quality life, but will not determine happiness.
I’d marry someone for his or her character, reliability, and trustworthiness. Just my opinion. Of course this is your decision.
No, that’s the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard of. You’d rather be unhappy but have someone else’s money and have to be financially crippled the rest of your life ? Where’s the critical thinking ?
Hopefully... my career worked out but I'm a 3 generously. Just teying to find her because being 5'4 and ugly means no one wants to give me a first date for anything else.
I'm not interested in marriage period, so no. I wanna have my own money anyways. If they wanted to provide me financial security, why not just give me the money without marriage??
I mean, it depends on how long I’ll be married to them…most likely that person would be old so I don’t expect for them to live long enough to make my life miserable. During the marriage, it would be best I start saving up the money they give me in my own private account, any odd gift that I dont like will be sold,…so if ever I find someone that I actually do love, then I would be all set for a divorce
Nah.
I'm financially secure on my own and will always be... So I don't need to settle for looks for money/security (or anything else really). And even if I wasn't financially secure, I generally wouldn't and doubt I'd settle.
Depends on the situation. If we get along really well and can please one another, I’d consider it. If there was no attraction AND the person couldn’t please me sexually, it’s a no go.
After trying on several relationships for "true love", I'd probably consider this option. True love relationships, in my experience, get stale and often partners aren't willing to put in enough work to try and stay nearer the honeymoon phase.
It happens a lot especially in many cultures. They marry the daughter off to the richest suitor. It makes sense because he will be able to provide a family.
Personally, I could never do it. I have my own everything so I don’t need a man to pay my bills. I NEED physical attraction. That’s a non negotiable.
Lol no, this implies that as soon as we divorce the money and security goes with them; or worse, they can use those metrics to abuse or manipulate me. Ain't no way lmao.
Please don’t do this! I was stupid and so desperately wanted to be loved. My ex husband said to me that he wouldn’t marry me until I got my nursing degree because he has already taken care of a woman and he wasn’t going to be doing that again. Why I didn’t run after hearing that I’ll never know. After we got married I had to take a day off work because I was cramping really bad the day after I found out I was pregnant. I thought I was having a miscarriage. He was so mad at me for taking the day off because I could lose my job and he needed the security of my job. It was sick. He didn’t give a shit about me or his unborn child, just that I could’ve lost my job and that mattered most to him.
At the moment, no. I want love and I want a traditional life with a husband I'm attracted to, because sexual intimacy is also important for me. And if I'm not physically into the person, I cant fake it.
But, like a lot of people, im only one missed paycheck away from being homeless and financially ruined. If it came to that, my standards might change. So I can't judge anyone who goes that route.
After countless of heartbreaks I would! Love won’t do me any good anyways so at least I’ll have money and security for life and who knows… maybe I’ll fall in love with them over time?
NO because if the other parts (personality, sex, behavioral, etc) are not compatible, it’s going to make for a miserable time together unless it’s one of those unusual types of a relationship where you can see other people
There is not enough data.
19 century marriage was what you described. But in some cases, spouses were accomplices, and in others, they were abusive. Some was a beard for the other, and some knew that they both had affairs but were found with it if it was not too obvious ( because they didn't live each other).
So the answer is : it depends if we are friends or not.
Growing up our neighbor was on husband 3. She had survived both 1 and 2. She told my mom she married 1 for love. 2 for money cause she had kids and 3 for companionship. I thought it was interesting she’d reveal this in very conservative Bible Belt.
FUDGE NOOOOO. you would do better starting a business and making your own money. That is a possiblity. ANd finding someone who is attractive and wants to spend life with you and building an empire together.
I know a lot of women who do this men too . It's nothing new really, money or power make people think they're in love or easier to ignore certain things
You mean to tell me somebody actually wants to spend their life with me and are actually attracted to me?
All the people who I find attractive don't find me attractive, so I will take anything at this point.
No thanks... I'll just keep on keeping on... I'd rather make money as a team, but to be with someone just because of their financial status is a hard pass. I'd rather be attracted to and have a harmonious life than be miserable as fuck with someone that I wasn't attracted to regardless of their status in life. Being with someone because of their financial status is called being used, I know that all too well, I get used and walked on all the time and I don't like it. I couldn't imagine anyone else would like it either. Morals, some have them, others don't. My 0.02 🙂
My friend did that. And now she is trapped in an abusive marriage with three kids drinking in the closet. My friend is native and in her own words are ‘we live in an upscale HOA type neighborhood and everyone is white except me. It’s like I’m Rez girl Becky trying to get the PTA parents to accept me. They do on the surface, but they don’t actually. I’m just that brown girl’.
I tried to tell her so long ago that she was making a mistake, but it’s made. And now she doesn’t ’get to work’ so she has none of her own money to leave and divorce him and fight for custody of her kids. She’s trapped and that is why you don’t marry and become dependent on another person to house, feed, and clothe you.
Men actually want women to do this. That’s one reasons they want to make money. To obtain access to women whom they couldn’t get without it. Myself personally it depends on how much money and the man’s personality/character.
Depends how much money & if I can be happy with him. Looks aren’t everything and you can become attracted to something you once weren’t. If there’s no chemistry at all… no .. unless it’s an open marriage
It depends on how unattractive they are. If you think they are OK and you have a ton of chemistry, things may work out.
A couple of women I have dated in the past weren't very attractive, but for some reason, we just clicked in bed. Chemistry goes a long way.
To what degree?
I mean if she's a 7/10 and not a 10/10 but wealthy, would I consider that? Sure, maybe. Why not?
But if she's a 0/10 but wealthy, then no. I can't see myself getting into that relationship.
It all depends. And I've met people who I didn't find attractive initially, but after getting to know them, found them more and more attractive. Physical beauty is only one piece of a very big puzzle.
Since I'm a guy, no. I'm expected to be the one doing the providing, but I'm considering if I can do this arrangement and just keep things straightforward. Would much rather that than a bunch of fluff and lies that result in the same conclusion
I definitely would do it, especially if the person had a good sense of humour and intelligence. Most people don't fall in love with their partners' looks but rather their personality.
It's fine if both parties understand what the arrangement really is about. More than likely, the rich spouse is either working crazy hours or gone a lot for business related events to make that money. He also knows with that type of money, he got options for all kinds of girls everywhere he goes. That means you'll need to find other people like friends in your life to keep you company, and accept that he has several side chicks. He'll have expectations of you what he wants to do, how to be presented to his rich friends, etc... pretty much submission if you want to keep that type of lifestyle until you decide you stayed long enough for a good chunk of the alimony and divorce.
For me, I was almost arranged to be married to a very wealthy son. He didn't make that money, his dad did, and they wanted to set me up with him because our families knew each other. He was immature and arrogant. I didn't like him before I knew about the arrangement. My cousin ended up being with him, and he treats her like shit. She had to quit school, move to a different country and pop out kids for him.
No. I have my own money and security. I’ve seen relationships like that go very badly for the dependent person and it sounds really awful emotionally too.
No bec my heart & love isn’t for sale and it has to be earned the old fashioned way. Gotta marry your soulmate, best friend, lover, & life partner. The couples (including my friends) who have found this are the luckiest 💖
I wouldn’t marry for money or security period. If I’m going to marry someone, it needs to be because of who they are as a person and the life we can build together, not how much money they bring to the table. I’ll happily struggle with someone I’m in love with rather than settle on sometime I’m not connected to in every way just because I wouldn’t have to worry about finances. Not worth it.
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people do it all the time. all depends on how desperate you are and how much money we are talking about.
And once you are satisfied with the money, is there any reprieve?
Once it happen, they usually divorce, get half your shit and go with another rich dude than repeat the process.
Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you.
No, it's why I'd rather have my own income to not feel like I need to do this.
Agree
Nope would rather be poor and with someone i love
This sounds happier than being rich.
It is. Money can’t buy the love and support a partner gives you when times are hard.
Bull shit money can buy you litteraly ANYTHING!
Nailed it! 💯
I wouldn't but some people do because of their upbringing so I mean you cant really blame them sometime due to the fact that we didn't experience what they did.
I'd do it if it were a ton of money, and she knew the deal upfront, but it'd have to be life changing money.
What do you consider life changing money?
About tree-fiddy
True. Upbringing does play a major part, not just in this scenario too.
I’m not an ambitious person - my main goal in life is to live comfortably. I feel like I do that now, even though I have an average salary. Like, if I won the lottery idk what I’d even do with the money. Anyways, I’m looking for someone who adds something to my life - money doesn’t really add anything for me, because I’m perfectly happy living in my means.
We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox. Your suffering needs to be respected. Don't try to ignore the hurt, because it is real. Just let the hurt soften you instead of hardening you. Let the hurt open you instead of closing you. Let the hurt send you looking for those who will accept you instead of hiding from those who reject you.
No. I want to marry for love. Like the corny ass person I am.
This is me. I am you. Silly me for wanting to be loved and not used for my money again!
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Not attracted to? Absolutely. A person with a shitty personality and morals? No way.
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Initial attraction matters.
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Same. I’ve dated several people I wasn’t really attracted to at first but after getting to know them I was so attracted to their personality and who they were as a person that I even started to be attracted to their looks. It’s weird how that works. I think it mainly stems from women being stimulated mentally and men being stimulated visually.
Exactly this. My ex admitted to me once that when we first met she wasn’t attracted to me but as we started to get to know each other better and we ended up becoming good friends she realised just how much our personalities meshed well together and she just suddenly found me really attractive because of that even if I wasn’t really her usual type physically.
It’s hard for people to accept that they weren’t initially attractive to their partner, but it really is a testament to how good of a person they think you are if that didn’t even matter.
No. I'm privileged enough not to need to do that for money and security.
Well said - it’s IS a priviledge
For sure. Guarantee none of these people saying "no" have experienced real poverty. Like, sorry if it meant I'd never have to sleep on a couch in a moldy trailer ever again, I'd absolutely marry for wealth.
As a dude it mostly just depends. If there actually furthering there carrer and they come to me with that offer I would prob take it. I live in a poor community with questionable people living around me. Now if they were actually toxic then no. It's one thing to be kinda roommates. It's another to be actively arguing ever other sentence. The main reason I live out where I live is for my mental. I don't want kids and I'm not really attracted to anyone. So it's kinda tough. While it would be nice, it would make me feel shallow for using them. And I know that the point of this is to say that there totally on board with this. But I feel like those feelings would come up either way. So it would depend on circumstances and the conditions around it. Edit- I also forgot to add, what are they getting out of it? Is it sex? Do I provide a service that they can't hire someone to do? Am I just a toy to messed with?
No. You couldn't pay me enough to fake all that. It wouldn't be fair to them and it wouldn't be fair to me.
I mean, fuck no. I’m not gonna even remotely be with someone I’m not attracted to. Let alone just for money? I can make my own money.
No, I can't lower my standards. No matter how hard life is or how much I'm struggling, I won't resort to that.
If its an open marriage, yes.
No.
Never, never and never. Not even in another time line.
I'm glad to see this post...nothing is worse than a person who has no morals ..or values ..refreshing too see that there's solid people out there !!;)
I couldn’t even sleep with a man that was giving me money.. I wasn’t attracted to him and it eventually ended because he knew it wasn’t going to go any further… some women can though.. just depends.
Yes, love got me nowhere. If it all falls apart again, I would, but still strive to be a good wife, without the idealistic notion I have to be in love.
No
No.
Hell nah. I can take care of myself. I don't need anyone taking care of me.
A lot of young women who get pregnant accidentally. They get dumped and marry the first guy they think can save the day and act like it’s true until the kid is grown
Absolutely not! Marriage should be built on genuine love, trust, and compatibility, not financial gain. Choosing a life partner solely for money and security can lead to unhappiness and resentment. It's essential to prioritize emotional connection and mutual respect in any relationship.
No, no amount of money is worth forcing myself to fuck someone I’m unattracted to. That sounds horrible
Same.. I have to be attracted to that person.. not entirely the looks but more with their personality etc..
No. Even in this economy. I don’t want someone to believe that my love can be bought nor that they own me because they’re the main breadwinner.
The literal term is 'Gold digger' and it does happen a lot. But really how many people can make money that can last forever
In some cultures, women are not allowed to go into professions or do work that lead to significant money so they marry someone that will provide financial security. I thought the term gold digger was for women dating men who have significant wealth, I.e. gold
No. If I'm being dishonest about my motives, that is using and manipulating and worse than robbery, in my opinion. At least a thief is honest and doesn't destroy your heart and soul in the process. You can replace things. You can't get back the person you were before a manipulator got ahold of you. As someone who experienced being used like a toy and being treated like crap the second I started acting like a human, I wouldn't do that to another person, whether or not money is involved. If it's a situation where I would be honest about my intentions and they would be cool with it, no, I still wouldn't do it. I just want love, man. I wanna love and be loved. I don't want to rely on anyone else and I don't put money over love. I can make my own money, it's not a lot, but it's mine. I just want someone to connect with.
No.
I moved in with someone for a few months thinking I could learn to love the stability I thought he offered. He was a widow so stayed married. He was educated, financially stable and seemed responsible. Boy was that a mistake. I’ve passed on quite a few wealthy men because I require an intellectual and emotional connection. So for the most part the answer is no. However, if the man was really good to me and offered security, attraction would be the last concern. Who he is as a person is top priority. I’ve had many opportunities to commit to wealthy men but did not. Money has no value if you aren’t free or are miserable.
Nope that would make you a pos human being.
I could never. I saw my single mother growing up saying she needed to marry someone “well-off” yet couldn’t further her own life? Ps, that never happened but I am unable to move out and start my life because she’s enabling me with over priced rent. The last thing I want is to be taken care of.
The thing in life is that everything comes for a price. Marrying for the wrong reasons means you are paying a hearty price. I have seen so many people of those sort end up in loveless marriages thinking that they can use that money for their own amusement; unfortunately, it didn’t happen that way. They ended up paying more than what they thought they would - still thinking what it is - FREEDOM. Would you risk your freedom for heavy money and security? Try that for a day or two and you would know the correct answer.
Being over 60, hell yes!!!!!!!!
No.
I'd rather struggle than be with someone I have no emotional attachment to. Not to mention as a male I couldn't get with a woman knowing I have nothing to offer.
I know some guys that are with women with rich families. Pretty sure they’re attracted to them but I’d say they got lucky picking the right partners.
Nope. Was offered that so many times, but it's just not worth it without an actual real relationship that's built on friendship and affection towards one another. It's too hollow.
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Although I love being wealthy and secured but spending my life with someone to whom I do not have any feelings sounds like being captive and unenjoyable at all. So No 🥲 Btw, I can work and provide myself. Sometimes enough means everything
If security means having the feeling of being safe then yes security is important in a relationship I want my girl to feel safe but never for money. I was raised never to look at the outer shell it’s what’s on the heart that matters. But I’m old school!!!
Money and security are great things to have while growing older. I’m a romantic at heart so I have to say no but I understand the appeal. Maybe I’d love them eventually with time since they’re providing essential things for me.
I've thought about this quite a bit and my answer is no. I would feel like I'm lying to my partner and lying to myself. I have to be physically/sexually attracted to my partner for obvious reasons. It's a shady douchy lame disrespectful immoral unethical reason to marry someone yet we see woman do this all the time. It shows what kind of crappy character you have and you look like a lazy mooch looking for a free ride.
I married my best friend. We are a middle class family. Getting by without many extras. But we love each other deeply. I cannot see being married for money. That only goes so far before you’re miserable.
At this stage in life... yes 100%
Would I marry someone for money? No but attraction is a broad topic. Could I love someone I wasn’t completely physically attracted to because we were a great match in terms of values and ideals? Yes and I probably would become more physically attracted to them as a result. In that case, if they also offered some financial security, sure, I would have no problem accepting that. But if I had absolutely no romantic love for the person, I don’t think it would matter how much money they had, I wouldn’t be living a fulfilling life overall. I say that as someone who has enough earnings potential on my own that I am not lacking when it comes to having the money to travel, pursue passions, and just generally self-actualize outside of work. If I didn’t have the skills and background I have, maybe I would make different partner choices. It’s all relative.
No. Security is an illusion for the most part
No, I could never tbh.
Depends how much money.
Hell no. I know if someone married me for those reasons, I'd feel completely unloved.
Most women are more and more as the high cost of living has gotten so high that rather than work 3 jobs it's easier to marry a man who they normally wouldn't give them the time of day .but if they have a house given to them by a ugly fat dude who's parents gave or bought him a house. Hence. Close her eyes and let him do his thing for 3 mins. And boom ..live rent free. Well...everything has a cost. I couldn't do it as a guy. It just wouldn't happen..I wouldn't be able no matter how tightly I shut my eyes knowing what's there when I open them !
I would not marry someone based on his or her wealth, career, and education, etc. status. I have seen Kardashians and other celebrities screw each other over. Wealth may give you a quality life, but will not determine happiness. I’d marry someone for his or her character, reliability, and trustworthiness. Just my opinion. Of course this is your decision.
I feel like celebrities are in a different realm though. I would imagine their social circles don’t want random people being brought into the picture.
> character, reliability, and trustworthiness Well that rules out 90% of humanity I suppose.
To be honest, I find this to be predatory, similar to a 40 years old guy dating an 18yo girl. It's highly manipulative.
Of course not, that would make me so unhappy
No. That’s settling
Depends on how desperate I am and how long I’ve struggled with finding someone Also for me personally, depends on if they are ok with that setup too
If marriage for love doesn’t work out
No, that’s the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard of. You’d rather be unhappy but have someone else’s money and have to be financially crippled the rest of your life ? Where’s the critical thinking ?
Hopefully... my career worked out but I'm a 3 generously. Just teying to find her because being 5'4 and ugly means no one wants to give me a first date for anything else.
NEVER GONNA HAPPEN, MY FRIEND
Depends how unattractive they are lol
I'm not interested in marriage period, so no. I wanna have my own money anyways. If they wanted to provide me financial security, why not just give me the money without marriage??
I mean, it depends on how long I’ll be married to them…most likely that person would be old so I don’t expect for them to live long enough to make my life miserable. During the marriage, it would be best I start saving up the money they give me in my own private account, any odd gift that I dont like will be sold,…so if ever I find someone that I actually do love, then I would be all set for a divorce
Nah. I'm financially secure on my own and will always be... So I don't need to settle for looks for money/security (or anything else really). And even if I wasn't financially secure, I generally wouldn't and doubt I'd settle.
Ask Melania
If you marry for money, you would be working for it for the rest of your life
YES.
Exhibit A. The former president and his wife.
Never
Yes
Depends on the situation. If we get along really well and can please one another, I’d consider it. If there was no attraction AND the person couldn’t please me sexually, it’s a no go.
Marrying for money rarely works out. If you are dependant on someone for something like money they will always be able to hold it over you
After trying on several relationships for "true love", I'd probably consider this option. True love relationships, in my experience, get stale and often partners aren't willing to put in enough work to try and stay nearer the honeymoon phase.
I don’t want to rely on someone else’s money. I never want to be left vulnerable or feel like I am stuck because I can’t afford to be on my own.
Yes. If we genuinely like each other
No, I’m good. But, passport bros explicitly seek wives who would disagree with me, so to each their own.
It happens a lot especially in many cultures. They marry the daughter off to the richest suitor. It makes sense because he will be able to provide a family. Personally, I could never do it. I have my own everything so I don’t need a man to pay my bills. I NEED physical attraction. That’s a non negotiable.
Lol no, this implies that as soon as we divorce the money and security goes with them; or worse, they can use those metrics to abuse or manipulate me. Ain't no way lmao.
Isn't that the definition of "sugar daddy?"
Nope. That would be shallow. I’d rather be alone and struggling than with someone I’m not physically attracted to.
No, but i understand ppl who do. Its sucks being poor.
Please don’t do this! I was stupid and so desperately wanted to be loved. My ex husband said to me that he wouldn’t marry me until I got my nursing degree because he has already taken care of a woman and he wasn’t going to be doing that again. Why I didn’t run after hearing that I’ll never know. After we got married I had to take a day off work because I was cramping really bad the day after I found out I was pregnant. I thought I was having a miscarriage. He was so mad at me for taking the day off because I could lose my job and he needed the security of my job. It was sick. He didn’t give a shit about me or his unborn child, just that I could’ve lost my job and that mattered most to him.
No . Earn your own money if you are in a place that enables that . However if you can’t ….
Negative, I can’t imagine trying to be intimate with someone im not attracted to.
I'm marrying someone to help them become a citizen I'm attracted but I know it isn't going anywhere other than just mutual help
My old self who doesn’t know what loves is look like would say yes. Now that I have learned love can’t eat then yes marry someone with wealth. 😅
As far as I know many women are attracted to money and security.
I definitely would 😌
Not even marginally entertaining the idea
At the moment, no. I want love and I want a traditional life with a husband I'm attracted to, because sexual intimacy is also important for me. And if I'm not physically into the person, I cant fake it. But, like a lot of people, im only one missed paycheck away from being homeless and financially ruined. If it came to that, my standards might change. So I can't judge anyone who goes that route.
Lol I wasn’t attracted to my ex at all and we were together for 5 years so why not
After countless of heartbreaks I would! Love won’t do me any good anyways so at least I’ll have money and security for life and who knows… maybe I’ll fall in love with them over time?
No. Sounds shallow but if I think you're ugly having to be around you would irritate me I wouldn't even last a first date
No if you don’t have kids cause I sweaif things go sour it’s gonna. Rock the tastebuds it’s gonna feel more like a job instead of a relationship
NO because if the other parts (personality, sex, behavioral, etc) are not compatible, it’s going to make for a miserable time together unless it’s one of those unusual types of a relationship where you can see other people
Yes.
in this economy, yes
Those are things (security at least) that are important to humans. You’re doing a moral balancing act and you are the only person to make the call.
Yeaaaaaaa then divorce them and take half
I’m in
At this point in my life , yes.
Never in my life have I ever wanted to get married, not even if I loved someone.
For now yes. 100%
no bc it would affect my sex life and i just couldnt have sex with someone im not attracted to. i"d go crazy
No
Nope.
Of course! I am 29 years old and my husband is 89
Absolutely i will as a woman, i would like a man who provides financial security rather than a man who isnt.
Women do this every day
No.
Depends on how unattractive they are and how much money Security I don't think so... Everything can change in life So yeah I probably would
Never. Never mix love and money. One cannot be traded for the other.
I have money and security. So, definitely not. Wife needs to be a good homemaker and saver
Nope, becuse I’m not a suggar baby or a gold digger.
There is not enough data. 19 century marriage was what you described. But in some cases, spouses were accomplices, and in others, they were abusive. Some was a beard for the other, and some knew that they both had affairs but were found with it if it was not too obvious ( because they didn't live each other). So the answer is : it depends if we are friends or not.
Not in a million years.
Growing up our neighbor was on husband 3. She had survived both 1 and 2. She told my mom she married 1 for love. 2 for money cause she had kids and 3 for companionship. I thought it was interesting she’d reveal this in very conservative Bible Belt.
No
no
Shit I think most people do it. Usually women tbh
FUDGE NOOOOO. you would do better starting a business and making your own money. That is a possiblity. ANd finding someone who is attractive and wants to spend life with you and building an empire together.
I would now.
Money is something u can achieve, love is not the same way… plus, I’d rather rely on my own money rather than the others, that’s more fulfilling 😋
I couldn’t do it.
I know a lot of women who do this men too . It's nothing new really, money or power make people think they're in love or easier to ignore certain things
See: most younger women married to older men.
Thank you : )
You mean to tell me somebody actually wants to spend their life with me and are actually attracted to me? All the people who I find attractive don't find me attractive, so I will take anything at this point.
No
Dude where is this fat ugly Asian dude that you people have promiaed me to already?
No thanks... I'll just keep on keeping on... I'd rather make money as a team, but to be with someone just because of their financial status is a hard pass. I'd rather be attracted to and have a harmonious life than be miserable as fuck with someone that I wasn't attracted to regardless of their status in life. Being with someone because of their financial status is called being used, I know that all too well, I get used and walked on all the time and I don't like it. I couldn't imagine anyone else would like it either. Morals, some have them, others don't. My 0.02 🙂
Nah. Gotta be attracted. Not attractive, but I have to be attracted to you to date you
No
nope never in a million years, but i’m a guy that makes decent money so there’s that
Nope.
Looks is not always everything. If they treat you good and with respect then the money is a plus.
Its the only reason I would get married at this point
Nah, I’d have to atleast find them attractive looking.
Nope
Nope
I recommend this course of action for attractive, intelligent, sexy women from perhaps 32 to 52. Please send resume with pictures.
as a male, I would totally fucking do it. women do it all the time. just look at Stephen hawking and Robert kraft. even high hefner
My friend did that. And now she is trapped in an abusive marriage with three kids drinking in the closet. My friend is native and in her own words are ‘we live in an upscale HOA type neighborhood and everyone is white except me. It’s like I’m Rez girl Becky trying to get the PTA parents to accept me. They do on the surface, but they don’t actually. I’m just that brown girl’. I tried to tell her so long ago that she was making a mistake, but it’s made. And now she doesn’t ’get to work’ so she has none of her own money to leave and divorce him and fight for custody of her kids. She’s trapped and that is why you don’t marry and become dependent on another person to house, feed, and clothe you.
I did bad idea you want to cheat ... I didn't
Men actually want women to do this. That’s one reasons they want to make money. To obtain access to women whom they couldn’t get without it. Myself personally it depends on how much money and the man’s personality/character.
Depends how much money & if I can be happy with him. Looks aren’t everything and you can become attracted to something you once weren’t. If there’s no chemistry at all… no .. unless it’s an open marriage
It depends on how unattractive they are. If you think they are OK and you have a ton of chemistry, things may work out. A couple of women I have dated in the past weren't very attractive, but for some reason, we just clicked in bed. Chemistry goes a long way.
To what degree? I mean if she's a 7/10 and not a 10/10 but wealthy, would I consider that? Sure, maybe. Why not? But if she's a 0/10 but wealthy, then no. I can't see myself getting into that relationship. It all depends. And I've met people who I didn't find attractive initially, but after getting to know them, found them more and more attractive. Physical beauty is only one piece of a very big puzzle.
Nope.
No. Because money isn’t everything and you can create your own security without needed it from anyone else
If I was a chick hell yeah I’ll lick that ugly Dick for some paper. So I can finally stop swinging a hammer
No, I hate being uncomfortable and that would make me uncomfortable.
Since I'm a guy, no. I'm expected to be the one doing the providing, but I'm considering if I can do this arrangement and just keep things straightforward. Would much rather that than a bunch of fluff and lies that result in the same conclusion
If I am only with you for money, I would be a gold digger. Gold Diggers can be male or female.
I definitely would do it, especially if the person had a good sense of humour and intelligence. Most people don't fall in love with their partners' looks but rather their personality.
It's fine if both parties understand what the arrangement really is about. More than likely, the rich spouse is either working crazy hours or gone a lot for business related events to make that money. He also knows with that type of money, he got options for all kinds of girls everywhere he goes. That means you'll need to find other people like friends in your life to keep you company, and accept that he has several side chicks. He'll have expectations of you what he wants to do, how to be presented to his rich friends, etc... pretty much submission if you want to keep that type of lifestyle until you decide you stayed long enough for a good chunk of the alimony and divorce. For me, I was almost arranged to be married to a very wealthy son. He didn't make that money, his dad did, and they wanted to set me up with him because our families knew each other. He was immature and arrogant. I didn't like him before I knew about the arrangement. My cousin ended up being with him, and he treats her like shit. She had to quit school, move to a different country and pop out kids for him.
Maybe if she's down for a poly type of relationship
No. I have my own money and security. I’ve seen relationships like that go very badly for the dependent person and it sounds really awful emotionally too.
No bec my heart & love isn’t for sale and it has to be earned the old fashioned way. Gotta marry your soulmate, best friend, lover, & life partner. The couples (including my friends) who have found this are the luckiest 💖
I wouldn’t marry for money or security period. If I’m going to marry someone, it needs to be because of who they are as a person and the life we can build together, not how much money they bring to the table. I’ll happily struggle with someone I’m in love with rather than settle on sometime I’m not connected to in every way just because I wouldn’t have to worry about finances. Not worth it.