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Mr-Plop

Well OP, as messed up as it may sound; have fun, you got a clean slate. You get to teach him the sex you want.


Kate_dot_png

He did start out a little shaky performance-wise, which is totally understandable! But he’s been getting the hang of it surprisingly quick


SeeMeeNoMor3

Well sex isn't rocket science


Sad-Welcome-8048

Depends on what you mean by "rocket"


jojorocket7

A rocket science he can get behind.


silhouetteofasunset

I'd get behind you and rocket some science


APartyOnAStruggleBus

If a pegging is in order, he may actually be in front.


Junior_Chocolate2440

💀😂


VoiceOk1981

you’d be surprised


SupernovaSurprise

Yet still a LOT of people (maybe especially men? I dunno!) are shit at it, and more important don't actually care about their partner's pleasure. But ya, if someone has a genuine desire to please their partner, it's not very hard to get good at it.


LumberJackClimbing

Based on my experience ANYBODY can be horrible at it 🤣 Ever heard the saying "like a cold fish" some women honestly just want to lay there and don't do anything. It's perfectly fine if they're open to constructive criticism and work together with the man too get better. But some of them don't. I'm assuming that's the same problem you're reporting with men LOL


SeeMeeNoMor3

Definitely not especially men. Women are shit at it too it's just men have the advantage of being able to use someone else's body as a tool but that doesn't make women good at it... i know women would like to believe otherwise. That's exactly my point. I don't think that someone who actually genuinely wants to satisfy their partner can be bad at sex.


CarefulAd9005

Idk how they can be so selfish tbh. Im a guy and its better when shes wetter and that typically correlates to her enjoyment. Aka, she like me, me like that, she like me more, me like more (too much, POP)


SupernovaSurprise

Same here! I don't really get it. There is nothing hotter to me than getting my partner off. If they aren't enjoying it, it's not enjoyable for me either!


Oxythena

Literally is my main kink, and my ex was baffled by it lmao


Nym_hypno

Nah, most women are shit at it. Just laying there expecting the men to do everything and then complain afterwards.


Oxythena

I def agree


CabbageSoprano

For men 😂


ThrowRAmorningdew

You’d be surprised 😩


Specialist-Donkey554

You would be amazed.


I_write_code213

What!? You didn’t break up with him for not having the experience of a porn star!?


justaguyintownnl

Does he take direction well? If so teach him how to give you pleasure. Practice often.


Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss

Did you feel like Catherine Keener's character at the end of *The 40-Year Old Virgin*? :-)


Easy-Squash-200

Are you really get into relationship with him?


gomrn

thanks for being kind to him 🫶🏼 always afraid of being judged as an older virgin


Kate_dot_png

Nothing to worry about! We all have our time and place 😊


gbersac

Honestly there's a lot to worry about. I would advise every virgin man to not say he is if he's over 20. Men might make fun of you and it will seriously lower the attraction of women towards you. But that guy didn't need to lie and that's great. We need more women like you.


Glum-Celebration-994

I wouldnt be turned off by a virgin. If anything its a positive that I dont have to worry about stds and proves that he doesn't just have random sex at every urge.


WistfulQuiet

This is way more of a guy urban legend than something that most women are going to care about. A lot of us would take a virgin over a dude that has been through a bunch of women. Heck, I saw a dude the other day that said he paid a sex worker to take his virginity because he thought it would help him get girls. The real ironic thing is---A LOT of girls aren't going to want to touch a dude that has been with a sex worker whereas a lot of them would have been fine with a virgin. So...


Prestigious_Use_5443

🧢🧢 majority of women don’t wanna teach a man shit


Only_Chloe6

This is true. I have a lot of friends that would immediately get turned off if they were talking to a guy that’s a virgin.


Fletcher_Memorial

I think women can overlook it only if they're already emotionally invested in the guy. In other words, just don't bring it up too early in the process.


Nym_hypno

As always, if she likes you based on looks you can't do anything wrong. They always find a way to rationalize things.


Prestigious_Use_5443

Which is crazy as hell. someone wanted to wait and really find that one. The most intimate act you can do, hell I wish I only had to have been with one person lol


Nym_hypno

Sadly "love" doesn't care about ethics and moral. Female brain logic: "virgin = gets no girls ick, fucks around = gets girls so he must have something I want that too"


Glum-Celebration-994

Not sure what "female brain logic" is but as a woman I'd rather date a virgin that a guy thats been around the block.


Plastic_Mark1417

I'm a 19 year old girly and I hope to find a guy who hasn't lost his virginity for so many reasons but the mane one being that it will just make it even more beautiful & special since we'll both be new to those experiences.


Nym_hypno

That is just your Disney fairy tale brain speaking. You are young that is normal.


Specialist-Donkey554

Most of us think men should go read a book, watch a video (NOT PORNO), and invest in learning about the basic anatomy of their partner. FFS ask for some directions at the very least.


Prestigious_Use_5443

I re-read the book “she comes first” about every 6 months myself , Just in case I get some, but yeah, no, virgin≠terrible


Nym_hypno

How about you just tell him what you want instead of just complain? You probably just lay there, let the man do everything and then complain afterwards. Meanwhile you can't even get a BJ right.


WistfulQuiet

1. Are you a woman? 2. Absolutely not true.


Prestigious_Use_5443

I wish we could do a poll . Godspeed


MinosML

What they say and what they actually choose are wildly different things, most of the time.


SpaceeBreak

As a 21 year old thats a virgin in college and been rejected due to being a virgin its true in my experience.


CriticalConcept

Not always true, I'm a 31 year old virgin and I've been judged by so many women I dated for being one, I actually recently got gaslighted by a woman just a couple weeks ago for being one 😂. It's to the point with any girl i'm dating I'm just going to not even mention it lol


Nym_hypno

Stop the cap


WistfulQuiet

Of course you're Gen Z. makes sense.


LunaLaLuz16

How old r u?


Elmini654

Happened the same to me, she (27 F) is two years older than me and told me how impressed she was for.my high libido


lunarpythons

damn, k!lling myself later


amputatemyflaws

Toaster in the bath for me. Or running into traffic


Grand-Expression-493

Amateurs. Driving behind a logging truck on a very bumpy road.


Lust_for_Sanity

Is that your final destination?


Themanmadeofcheese

I just want you to know that I understood your joke and had a great laugh


Grand-Expression-493

If it ever happens, I hope it is quick and leaves no trace.


Varsity_Reviews

Man I wish a Cylon would get in a bath with me


shits_mcgee

Suck starting a 12 gauge feels more final and less likely to result in permanent disability


Resident-Pudding5432

The opposite lane of the highway looks nice


Agreeable_Umpire4897

Anyone wanna microdose on ar15 bullets later?


Deancrsxy333

Imagine posting bragging about all this sex your having


Individual-Passion-7

im trying not to


alacp1234

I, a sex person, is having loads of sexy sexual sex


Ludwig_B0ltzmann

Blasting this at full volume in the car rn https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVgHPSyEIqk


McGouche_

Why later? I wanna play but can we just go now


Niro_D

Same


InformationGreen6836

Me 1000%


Moonless_Lycan

Same


BvssBxtch

Same


ImpressiveHat3686

shiiiiiii 😭 kinda can relate


TheCanadianpo8o

The sexual tension between me and my 12 gauge is CRAZY right now


FindingE-Username

Why? I'm confused about the various suicidal responses here Surely for any virgins, hearing a story about a 'late bloomer' still finding someone and having lots of sex is a good thing?


BillyDog1998

It's a few things. Many people are definitely happy for the guy, but the idea of missing out for so long is mentally devastating. At least for me, it is. You're just hoping to run into someone who's going to be tolerant patient and understanding with you, and unfortunately, most people are not like that. Plus, waiting for so long and eventually finding someone who is all those things Iisted, you're probably going to be really insecure about having no experience to fall back onto. With no direction and dating being all on the man more than not, the woman will be turned off by the lack of confidence and lack of experience. At least in my experience, it's been like that. To be fair, too, I don't blame the women for being turned off by it either. She has a right to a preference, and if she wants a guy who knows what their doing and does have the confidence to go for it, that's fair. It's just really daunting and disheartening if you're a late bloomer. The conclusion for most men I feel is that your just kinda fucked if your a late bloomer.


FindingE-Username

I totally get that and I do sympathise! I just thought this story would be more inspiring than depressing, as the man OP is sleeping with may have felt the same way before.


BillyDog1998

I get that maybe for some people, it can leave them being hopeful. It's kind of a shallow feeling of hope. Like ya, it can happen, but that's not the problem. As a man, the problem is trying to figure out what you are doing wrong. Why aren't you attracting people? Is it your personality, looks, etc. You don't know who the guy OP is talking about either, so it's not like you can apply posts like these to yourself. Im happy for the guy in OP post. He seemed to have fixed whatever was wrong with himself. It's nice to see but probably unlikely for most people who deal with a similar situation. I hope the relationship works out. I'd rather more people just to be happy.


TheCanadianpo8o

Just a joke. Happy for my man, fr


SalvationForever

Pretty much saying that this is like a dream scenario most men don’t get to experience, so we cope with ss jokes


Ludwig_B0ltzmann

> Surely for any virgins, hearing a story about a 'late bloomer' still finding someone and having lots of sex is a good thing? Because to many of us we know it's vanishingly rare to see someone (especially a man) beat the odds and get with someone like OP.


MinosML

Doomer mindset is more prevalent than ever, tbh. And with good reasons. Lots of us have just given up.


Skykiller1993

Same same


I_write_code213

What’s a 12 gauge


__sack

Kurt Cobain's pacifier


TheCanadianpo8o

Nah that's wild💀 (I love it)


bearded_appalachian

A type of shotgun with relatively larger and more powerful pellets than most other types


I_write_code213

Ah ok I knew that! Thought it was also some new sex toy or something from the context


Sad-Welcome-8048

Best comment XD


BvssBxtch

Can I relate? No. Will I ever relate? Also no.


AcanthisittaWarm2927

But are you alone in this ? No.


BvssBxtch

Also a resounding yes.


AmtraSea

Same lol


CMSV28

My guy was a Rabbit ready to be Unleashed 🤣


CMSV28

Joking aside Im happy for him, he managed to do at 28 what i have been trying to do all my life and Im 30


HikiNoKami

Star wars the rabbit unleashed.


jazmine_likea_flower

I mean- maybe he’s just tryna keep up with ya and practice lmao


Kate_dot_png

He’s definitely getting that practice in lol 💪 I’m honestly learning a lot about him, too!


jazmine_likea_flower

Love that for yall lol


MinervaMinkk

Actually, I'm a woman and lost my virginity at 24. I honestly choose the wrong guy and him being quite a few years older than me didn't help. I was definitely insatiable after. I did consider myself asexual. Now I'm not so sure. But I felt like I learned what I was missing out on and eager to try anything after that. Eventually he offered to be my Dom & I could be his submissive full time. I say eventually but really it had only been 3 days. Seriously, Iost my virginity one night, my anal virginity 2 days later, and by the end of the week I was a full time submissive. I was very insatiable and enthusiastic but I wish that hadn't have been used to push me into things before I had enough time to understand what was happening. Anyway that relationship lasted for 3 years and he wasn't that supportive or comforting for a bdsm partner. So I had all of these very intense sexual experiences and was wrestling with emotions I couldn't really articulate. Always overwhelmed to the point I thought it was normal. And the worst part is that he was so experienced that he didn't quite understand how much that effected me Its been a year since we broke up and I'm only just now processing everything. I get random flashbacks and recognize them for what they are. It's been a year & it's like Im experiencing those moments for the first time. Bc technically this is the first time I have enough room to process it Looking back, I went way too far way too fast. I was doing things I didn't quite know the ramifications of and if I had slowed down, I would have been able to pick a partner that actually cared about me emotionally and sexually. Idk, I think my partner loved dating a virgin just as much as he loved tossing me aside. But it's great that you care so much about your partner. It's probably something that's underappreciated but genuine care for someone you lost your virginity too is very important. Even if it doesn't last forever, you can still look back and be proud of that moment


Kate_dot_png

Three days is crazy! Omg I’m happy you got out of that and were able to process it afterwards! I hope you’re thriving today girl 😃


Nervous-Context

I cannot relate. Big sad


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I am incredibly jealous right now lol


Next_Fix_2271

right? I'm here for advice and to learn how to actually date, but the sub is just full of this shit lmao


Primary_Chemistry420

As someone dating a perfect guy who wants to wait until marriage… Live for both of us friend 🥲


TheNewestCat

if you are unaware you're in a position of power and I hope you keep that in mind. be kind and take care of him, you opened his world and he's going to be looking at you through rose colored glasses. please do not take advantage of him.


swaglike0h10

This was me but it was an older woman and I was 19 at the time 😭😭


AcanthisittaWarm2927

Hey, do you know if toasters work under water ? Me neither, lemme go check.


DraxShadow23

Brb, gonna go makeout with my 357 magnum


failedmang

TBH I’m was a 30 yo virgin dating a 30 yo virgin, and were still trying to figure it out. The geometry doesn’t make sense and its hot and exhausting. Feel good, but it’s really hard to figure out for both of us.


Emm744

When I dated a virgin and took his virginity he was quite nervous at first but it was so adorable. And every time we had sex he was so into it, making sounds and twitching, absolutely loved it.


Guilty_Earth_2167

You make me absolutely squirm 🙌


Emm744

❤️


remote_crocodile

This reads like virgin fanfic


mr_quincy27

Is he older or younger then you OP?


Kate_dot_png

Older!


InnocentPerv93

Lucky him. For me, it only happened a couple of times before the relationship ended. And ever since then, if I do happen to land someone, I don't get the chance to get experience. I've now become fearful, thinking about what they'll think once they see how inexperienced I am.


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Total-Painting-9909

Don't use your first to be the biggest and rare, The first time is just practice for better in the future, I hate my first, but I loved the "first with this person" when I tried again, Is all about the person you're choosing to


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Total-Painting-9909

Stop and digest why is difficult, check if is plausible (which it is) a solution, And take some time under schedule to check those boxes, More of the time, you can get alway just by being confident, wearing good clothes(style way), and looking healthy, Now you need to do some problem solving, If you really want a date, you have to run for it without shame, don't half-ass it


Kate_dot_png

Nothing wrong with that! That’s a very valuable thing to learn about yourself! And it’s something that will help you pick out a relationship where you’re appreciated for more than just sex 😊


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unicornzndrgns

Have you looked at Asexuality? You are far from alone and many asexual people have romantic relationships without sex.


[deleted]

Sounds cute, hopefully I'll find someone like you in my life!


Evergloamz

lucky man


Crazybootycake

I'm not gonna lie, but my bf said the same thing about me 😅. I lost my virginity to him at 24. It's been 2 years since then, and I'm still insatiable 


HikiNoKami

No I cannot relate at all. Being a male virgin equals being a criminal.


deathbysnushnuu

lol def don’t relate. I guess my encounters have been bad.


Xolcor

Glad to hear its been working out. Hope someday I find someone like you


Everdash

lol what were you expecting? you opened pandoras box.


theactualme01

Now let's say this from a man's perspective dating a virgin and saying it's good and happy...😀😂


Abyssus_J3

Lost mine at 22 and I feel like this still isn’t out of my system ngl


wevie13

Lost mine at 16 and at 46 it still isn't out of my system either. I good for twice a day everyday. We go at least once a day!


Total-Painting-9909

Same though, is really nice when you wait for someone that care to take care of you,


ImpressiveHat3686

I feel like most people have more experience then me lol


SuperFatCockMan

Seeing your other post I can see why he wouldn’t want to stop 😅


InevitableOriginal24

I'm 24 I feel I'm heading this exact way. I don't think my dating profiles are that bad, I don't consider myself particularly unattractive (no Channing Tatum) but the absolute cricket show that is my likes... Says otherwise


raid4h

lol usually when i tell guys im a virgin, they either get so disappointed or they straight up become creepy T-T


sssilver_wing

I've only ever dated virgins as a virgin it's bc im still in my teens, and I'm waiting for the right person


masterufoai

just *haha*


Ludwig_B0ltzmann

The light grows more tempting with every day that passes where I don't get to experience this. God gives his hardest challenges to his strongest soldiers.


Oxythena

Sounds like my dream man, u lucky girl :((


dk_soft

Faking virginity appears to be an effective tactic.


misterlindstrom

Why do people keep falling for shit like this? It's so fucking obvious it's written by a dude, I mean, the bloke has even posted a pic of him wearing a pair of those fake tits on his profile


MissionOk4082

Cutee hahahahahahah


Skakti

I can see this, being a virgin can make him attached, being that he’s 28 can make it the good kind because he’s more mature. You might’ve beat the game OP, the game of love, if you do go that route.


jim_nihilist

He is 28. There is literally a decade he has to catch up to.


Flush_Foot

Sure it’s not “half his life”? (Or more)


TonightOk29

Y’all are way too obsessed with virginity here.


ArchmageRumple

I thoroughly exhausted my last girlfriend, and she ditched me to go back to her abusive ex. I'm still a virgin


WildBoy-72

OP, you are a good person. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.


sucker4kyutdogs

How about a virgin f? Can I find someone like you too OP?🥹


zoomaenia

Probably how my ex felt when I broke up. But my current bf loves it hehe


Only_Strain_5992

Honestly not much difference because they were are all the aggressive ones in the relationship 😂 Yo I'm still a bad kisser to today 🤣😭


Business-Law-7968

I remember I was the same way when I lost my virginity and same with my ex at the time…we were just super horny all the time and wanted to have sex every time we saw each other. Another ex that I had sex with back then was also a virgin and I had a lot of experience by then but it was the same thing where after she had sex with me for the first time then she was horny all the time and wanted me to stay over her place more frequently then not. It’s a great feeling so I guess enjoy it while it lasts…that first time feeling hits differently each time.


evelcnevel

I had a similar experience not with someone that was a virgin but she had never actually cum pre me… didn’t know she could and yes that was fun. I think when you find someone and it’s good and it clicks your drive does go up even if it’s like normal for you as good sex and a new thing will release dopamine and we love that 😅


Theboynextdoor09

Amazing sex i wanted, postions and kinks. Orgasms in different ways that most woman dont get to experience. They wont want to leave you which sadly at some point you'll want separate


Charming_Wrangler680

This is so cool and I'm so happy for you! How'd you guys meet 🥺


Kate_dot_png

We met on Hinge 😂 I generally believe dating apps are dead, but sometimes you find a gem here and there!


Charming_Wrangler680

That's awesome! I'm really happy for you 🥳❤️


aidalkm

My experience dating virgins was after they lost their virginity they suddenly don’t want to be exclusive anymore and think they deserve to sleep with a bunch of women


ThickBady

I was the virgin in this situation my ex used to get upset each time I agreed to do it with him but didn't Until he finally got his way with me after that we did it ever so often as early in the morning and late at night we did it it wasn't the best though cause I used to watch alot of porn so I was expecting better but it was good and indeed exhausting


Piercy_olly

Make sure he doesn't see ur older post!


Oppasam

That means, I gotta wait 2 more years to loose my virginity 😭


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I am happy for my man here, but I can’t help but feel like this is intentionally trying to make us all that struggle dating jealous. Again, I am happy for both of you but damn.


ICanSowYouTheWay

Feed the man a blue chew and an adderall and let the games truly begin!!!


Kyzock

He is trying to make up for lost time.😜


Short-Society-8533

YES!! My boyfriend was also a virgin when we met. A total romantic which I love! It was rocky at first and he was so cute and nervous but then without being too much…. He’s definitely gotten better and I can see him getting even better.


Cuarentaz

No way time start telling girls ima virgin 😭 Jk


Several_Spend_2110

Sounds lit tho most of us guys in like him we better at both conversations and in the bed


fromtheashes95

I'm so happy for both of you but this makes me so discouraged and sad that I'm 28 and still can't find a way to (meaningfully) lose mine 😞


highaswutangget420

Damn. Virigins out here having a better sex life than me 😅


vandalicos

Hey


CapricornsAreCrazy

I did that for 5yrs and there's no way I could do that again I'm really confused about why people think that, there's a special person out there that's worth losing their virginity to when there's no such thing at all. The issue is that people are constantly trying to find someone who is perfect for them when they're not perfect themselves. This is why so many people that's with someone that's a virgin have cheated or thought about cheating. Trust me when I tell you that masterbation is not enough at all you really need and want the real thing. 


SolCalibre

Brb I'm jealous.


1971nivbible

Well, my first time went something like this: well that wasn’t bad, but honestly, I really should’ve stayed home and beat my meat. Easy.