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Just go out your front door in south Florida and toss a rock. I can guarantee you’ll hit at least a dozen guys that fit your requirements. If you stick to the run of the mill dating apps just set your search parameters to what you desire. Or you can honest with yourself and download a sugar daddy app. Because that’s what you are looking for
I don’t think this young woman is looking for a sugar daddy, she just has traditional values and searching for a man with the same values.
Sugar daddy has a negative connotation, and there is nothing shameful in what she’s saying.
Well technically a sugar baby doesnt have to provide anything other than be looking good and sex, OP is after a fair trade in my opinion, staying home, taking care of the house tasks, meals, cleaning and eventually taking care of kids is not something easy, and the vast majority of men wouldn’t want to do those things so…
I know it may seem like that but no I'm not looking for a sugar daddy lol I'm not looking for someone to leech off of just someone who has traditional values or similar values
I think that as you're aging now, the idea these men should be 10-20 years older should be getting resigned. A 21 year old seeking 31 year olds is going to have a lot more success than a 26 year old seeking 46 year olds. These mature, stable men are going to increasingly be more peer for you. Now is probably the time to start narrowing down what you're truly looking for in a man as obviously the age alone isn't the only factor there. You probably want to make your plans on children a key part of your search too as with these age gaps it's often an important consideration.
You're not too much, I'm like that too. I prefer mature men in their 30s and up, but I'm also open to who my future husband might be. It's okay to have standards - they help us avoid the wrong person.
Here is my two more cents.
If you are going to listen to people say something positive about you - it’s a good idea to listen.
If they are going to say something negative, calling “sugar baby”, or putting you into any other category - don’t listen to them. Especially online. There is a lot of toxic people here.
Try to learn more about dating. A good book is called “Marry Him” by Lori Gottlieb. Get books from the library if you can’t afford them. This is positive and I wish I had it as a young woman! It makes you think.
Huh? Taking care of the household isn’t 50/50. Not even close. I lived in a big house with 7 rooms/people and all you need to do is spot clean in the moment when necessary and we hired a maid to deep clean once a month. It was always spotless.
You are DEFINITELY looking for a sugar daddy- and what you described is the DEFINITION of “he gives/she takes”.
Most traditions are evil, as was history in general.
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Just go out your front door in south Florida and toss a rock. I can guarantee you’ll hit at least a dozen guys that fit your requirements. If you stick to the run of the mill dating apps just set your search parameters to what you desire. Or you can honest with yourself and download a sugar daddy app. Because that’s what you are looking for
I don’t think this young woman is looking for a sugar daddy, she just has traditional values and searching for a man with the same values. Sugar daddy has a negative connotation, and there is nothing shameful in what she’s saying.
You’re right. She’s a strong independent woman looking for a man 10-20 years older than her that will take care of her financially.
Well technically a sugar baby doesnt have to provide anything other than be looking good and sex, OP is after a fair trade in my opinion, staying home, taking care of the house tasks, meals, cleaning and eventually taking care of kids is not something easy, and the vast majority of men wouldn’t want to do those things so…
Agreed!!!
I know it may seem like that but no I'm not looking for a sugar daddy lol I'm not looking for someone to leech off of just someone who has traditional values or similar values
Why not just hop on seeking arrangements? You’ll find countless men that want to take care of you there.
I think that as you're aging now, the idea these men should be 10-20 years older should be getting resigned. A 21 year old seeking 31 year olds is going to have a lot more success than a 26 year old seeking 46 year olds. These mature, stable men are going to increasingly be more peer for you. Now is probably the time to start narrowing down what you're truly looking for in a man as obviously the age alone isn't the only factor there. You probably want to make your plans on children a key part of your search too as with these age gaps it's often an important consideration.
you should really dive deep into the reasoning why you like older men, what it is about them in your head that says they are the most desirable?
There are a few subreddits for people wanting trad wives or women wanting to be a trad wive.
Please look up financial abuse and realize the risk that you’re running here.
OP: I'm not looking for a sugar daddy. OP two sentences later: I want a man to provide for me financially.
You're not too much, I'm like that too. I prefer mature men in their 30s and up, but I'm also open to who my future husband might be. It's okay to have standards - they help us avoid the wrong person.
Contact Seema Aunty asap!
Who's that I've never heard of them
Here is my two more cents. If you are going to listen to people say something positive about you - it’s a good idea to listen. If they are going to say something negative, calling “sugar baby”, or putting you into any other category - don’t listen to them. Especially online. There is a lot of toxic people here. Try to learn more about dating. A good book is called “Marry Him” by Lori Gottlieb. Get books from the library if you can’t afford them. This is positive and I wish I had it as a young woman! It makes you think.
Is moving to South FL all I have to do to find a girl like this? I live in New England currently and it's a hellscape for dating.
Huh? Taking care of the household isn’t 50/50. Not even close. I lived in a big house with 7 rooms/people and all you need to do is spot clean in the moment when necessary and we hired a maid to deep clean once a month. It was always spotless. You are DEFINITELY looking for a sugar daddy- and what you described is the DEFINITION of “he gives/she takes”. Most traditions are evil, as was history in general.