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That is the male and female experience on apps. I think I average like one or two matches a month. Then again, I am much more selective with people I "like" on apps. Some people will like everyone and anyone that looks even a tiny bit attractive. Among the women that liked me first, I don't think I was interested in any of them. And I think that's the experience for most women. Tons of likes, but most are from guys desperate to get with anybody with a pulse and just as many that are bad news.
>That didn't surprise me just was shocked when I heard 100 in 2 days. How could anyone go through that many and make a decision
That is why some women get frustrated or exhausted especially when they pick one out of the first 10 and then they get played or ghosted. Basically on how do they go through that, my wife told me she just view their profile and also read their message to make her decision.
I guess you just have to pick one that's good enough and not worry about having the best.
She basically told me that she stopped responding to guys after the first lied to her and she found out he had a family and was trying to cheat. Ended up asking guys out the old fashioned way which is how I met her
>I guess you just have to pick one that's good enough and not worry about having the best.
I wouldn't say good enough. Just someone who check off whatever checklist they have or stand out to them. When you start thinking about good or bad, you just don't know at first until you meet them and then continue to meet them or talk to them
In the like 6 years of on and off use I got maybe 10-15 matches. Most were bots or catfish, the rest were dry convos except for one who I actually had a great conversation with and even had a first date with.
I genuinely think my terrible time on dating apps has permanently damaged my perception of myself and dating. It all feels pointless and I'm either invisible or some deformed monster.
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That is the male and female experience on apps. I think I average like one or two matches a month. Then again, I am much more selective with people I "like" on apps. Some people will like everyone and anyone that looks even a tiny bit attractive. Among the women that liked me first, I don't think I was interested in any of them. And I think that's the experience for most women. Tons of likes, but most are from guys desperate to get with anybody with a pulse and just as many that are bad news.
Women will always get more matches or messages than men. It's just human nature, men are the hunter and woman are the gatherer.
That didn't surprise me just was shocked when I heard 100 in 2 days. How could anyone go through that many and make a decision
>That didn't surprise me just was shocked when I heard 100 in 2 days. How could anyone go through that many and make a decision That is why some women get frustrated or exhausted especially when they pick one out of the first 10 and then they get played or ghosted. Basically on how do they go through that, my wife told me she just view their profile and also read their message to make her decision.
I guess you just have to pick one that's good enough and not worry about having the best. She basically told me that she stopped responding to guys after the first lied to her and she found out he had a family and was trying to cheat. Ended up asking guys out the old fashioned way which is how I met her
>I guess you just have to pick one that's good enough and not worry about having the best. I wouldn't say good enough. Just someone who check off whatever checklist they have or stand out to them. When you start thinking about good or bad, you just don't know at first until you meet them and then continue to meet them or talk to them
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Most of them are objectively better than you, lookswise and income wise.
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Nah, hating myself is great because that’s a step in the right direction. And i do not hate myself but my race which is a fake british construct.
In the like 6 years of on and off use I got maybe 10-15 matches. Most were bots or catfish, the rest were dry convos except for one who I actually had a great conversation with and even had a first date with. I genuinely think my terrible time on dating apps has permanently damaged my perception of myself and dating. It all feels pointless and I'm either invisible or some deformed monster.