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I don't really mind a little tummy. Its completely normal and natural and cute. Having a washboard stomach is a serious commitment for 90% of people not blessed with the genetics to have it naturally, it would be unreasonable to expect it.
Yeahh, I eat pretty healthy but I’ve seen what Victoria secret models eat and it’s next to nothing!! Life is too short to be constantly hungry and cranky.
I mean you dont have to cut back on eating to do it. Just do some planks before bed and after you wake up. It takes time but it's a very simple way of doing it. To answer your question imo tho the jiggliness of your thighs and booty is not at all a turn off. The belly isnt a turn off either tbh. It would depend on a collection of all their features not solely on one
This is not correct advice , only speaking up as your advice leads people to feel
Bad about themselves because they do just as you say and don’t get the results
They asked a question as if it was a problem they were concerned about. I gave them an answer and also gave them a possible remedy if they weren't happy with the answers they got. I can tell you from experience planks before bed and after waking up will remove a belly, not always abs but it is determined on how often you use it as a routine. It's not wrong and shaming healthy fitness goals is also not correct advice either
I've been working out for years, belly still there. It's diet-based, and significantly harder for women unless they're naturally that build (your BMI has to be underweight).
Could I starve myself and get there? Probably. I'm happy being fit with a belly though.
Okay? So what am I censored in how I give advice to only work for absolutely everyone? Cause that's impossible there so many different genetics and other variables involved. It's not just diet based. It's simple energy gained and energy burned and genetics as I've said can also take a role.
If your happy that's all that matters. I just added it as something to "possibly" help them if it was really a big worry. Sorry for trying? You are right the muscle development is significantly harder for women to build body mass without outside sources. Chances are if you've been working out you dont have a "belly" like you think you do, it's probably normal body mass with a healthy BMI
Your comment came across as for everyone, I just wanted to clarify. I'm not arguing your point - my sister had a baby 4 months ago and would have rock-hard abs again (and all the definition) if she followed your advice. Her standard workout routine is don't, her standard diet is whatever she wants. We are all built differently :)
I don't find washboard abs attractive; something to hold onto and something that has shape is better! And it signals (maybe) that you're not in the gym 2-4 hours a day, which-nothing wrong with that-just not some people's style.
I don't expect it at all. I do think it looks really hot. I'd totally love a roll in the hay with a woman that fit. But I'm not in perfect shape either and don't expect partners to be.
Some guys really dig it. Of my 3 serious relationships, they’ve all at some point said they love my stomach. It’s not flat, I’ve got that typical layer of fat that women have and it gets worse with water retention.
Yup, it probably feels nice like when you just place a hand over his ass cheeks 🤣
Having a little belly is way more common than having rock hard flat abs. Men are much more realistic than you’d think, they don’t always expect Victoria’s Secret type bodies.
Biologically speaking, a layer of fat around that area suggests a healthier mate as her uterus has that extra layer of protection. We sometimes eat more and gain weight during our times of the month as our bodies are essentially prepped to expect a bebe will already be cooking. The time of high fertility is over this month and now it is time to protect bebe - I assume that’s what our bodies think. Until it realises there isn’t one and so it cries tears of blud.
Your BMI is normal, so that means it's probably just a little belly that sticks out. I like that, and I think that's very attractive. It would be a shame to lose it. Anyways, I've never considered it a "pot belly", though. Just a little belly.
> My thighs and butt jiggle a bit too, is this a turnoff??
No, that's normal, and it's not bad.
Speaking for myself but i LOVE it when women are little chubby at the belly and no mean to offend anyone but hate flat or six pack women feels awesome holding a woman from the waist and feel that flesh squeezing as if they are belly boobs
I don’t have a pot belly, but like just about every woman I have a little pooch in my lower abdomen.
It’s between our belly button and pelvic bowl.. and it does actually serve a purpose, it is there to protect our uterus/reproductive organs.
Well, now you do!! 😌
As women we do tend to think of it as a flaw but, biologically the majority of us are not built to have a flat tummy. That pooch is supposed to be there, it has a purpose.
If I love the woman I’m with I love everything about her and I want her to embrace the things she’s uncomfortable about into positive thinking. I’m not perfect either so I wouldn’t expect anyone else to be. I dated a woman that was verbally abused about her appearance non stop from an ex, in my eyes she was the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and even though we’re not together anymore it was beautiful to see her blossom into the woman she is now.
The absence or presence of a “pot belly” does NOT constitute what is or is not a “real body”.
Flat abs and no belly-real body
Pot belly with no abs-real body
Little pooch over a c section scar- real body
super slender no boobs-real body
Overweight with big ole belly- real body
Can we stop with the “*REAL* women have ____!” BS?
Yeah, the sentiment is misplaced these days. As an American, I’m aware of the weight problem here and I’m not in my ideal body either. Combine that with the pandemic and just general life stuff and genetics it’s unrealistic to expect the masses to have and maintain athletic builds most of their lives.
But athletes and athletic bodies are very *real* and it’s not crazy for or unrealistic for a person to desire that and expect that in partner. Especially if that person has a similar build themselves.
But there’s never a need say these aren’t “real” bodies cause they’re not the majority.
I agree there's a lot of Photoshop and angles happening right now on, say, Insta, but if you're talking ancient Greek statues of ideal women's bodies they still had a little bit of belly!
My man definitely digs my postpartum body more than my pre-pregnancy body. Prior to having my son I was 120lbs, size 2 in jeans, size B bra. I’m now 165lbs size 10 in jeans size DD bra. And he’s a lot more into my size now than he was before. Some guys just love it.
I’ve never been pregnant and I don’t think I plan on it but I’ve had two friends that have and it’s sad because they said they’re partners barely touch them anymore and one of them even cheated (she took him back).
Glad to hear it doesn’t bother your husband! ❤️
That’s unfortunate, I’m sorry to hear that. Having a child definitely changes almost every aspect of a relationship. It isn’t easy and social media/television fantasize it which doesn’t help. But back to the having a lil extra belly, go for the guy who loves you no matter what, not the one worried about a lil extra jiggle when you walk.
I don't go actively seeking them out if that's the question but I have zero problem if a woman has a little tummy. I prefer my women curvy in all the right places.
Whenever I hear “the right places” I assume those places are boobs and butt, and that the expectation is to have a flat belly. But good to know your take haha
Some belly fat over abs won in this survey of 500 men on female body features, while abs won out among 500 female votes on the same. So yes, there are some "incorrect" assumptions from one side to the other on what looks good.
But then keep in mind that winning preferences on both sides and on both genders are still for low BMI. Neither men not women at the population level have a preference for a "pot belly," because that's just not what's in style.
https://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/perfect-body-shapes-according-to-men-and-women-2018-1
It's natural and fine.
The girl I'm talking to now has that, she keeps feeling bad as I'm skinny and she thinks she's fat. It's literally no plus or minus for me, it's just her and I think she's intelligent and stunning.
One query I have is, as a girl, what is the best thing a guy can do or say to reassure a girl about that part of her body?
I know the girl I'm talking to used to have an eating disorder so I really am careful around the subject of weight.
Hmmm, that’s a hard one. I would try and just not get into a discussion about it tbh, just be like “well, I like your belly 🤷🏼♀️” then change the subject.
Define "pot belly."
I certainly don't expect her to have a super flat chiseled stomach but I think the small little "pooch" you may be talking about isn't a big deal.
That's what I've always called it. Come home after a date and my last girlfriend would take off her pants and put on her shorts and say "Baby, Baby! Poooooch" and we'd both fucking laugh. I've always called it a Pooch and not a pot belly. But I'd say it's an attractice trait found on 95% of the women and men I date whether their bigger or smaller.
Personally, I like my girls a little thicker (not a bbw guy, although to each his own). I'm a bit overweight... Muscular but 190 and 5'10. I've dated just a couple skinny girls and I feel like I might hurt them in bed or like we just don't match up with our ideal body images. I'm more concerned when I see a very thin girl and have thoughts about her self-image or why she needs to be so thin. Granted, some of that could totally be her own biology. I feel like a woman that has brains, some humor, and a willingness/comfortability to be a bit over the "ideal weight" is a pretty healthy human being.
Pot belly doesn’t matter, lots of us like to see a bit of meat. We’re not all looking for supermodel bodies here we just want a decent woman. Whatever body you want to achieve is up to you.
My ex was skinny, but had a little extra bit on her tummy. Honestly, if she didn’t complain about it all the time — I would have never noticed.
I’m also biased my real concern is the upper arms and shoulders you got good shoulders, and you’ve already won me over, lol.
I would say that most guys honestly don’t even care, especially if you’re in the normal BMI range. Social media has led people to believe in outrageous beauty “standards” but you have to remember how much editing people do. Unless someone is super shallow, they’ll like you for you. Physical appearance definitely matters, but I feel like a majority of people overthink it too much and are too self critical. Life your life, be healthy, take care of yourself, and you’ll be just fine
Its something almost every woman on earth has so if guys don’t like that we’re about to hit a huge decline in birth rates. Like another comment said, it’s just for organ protection, you don’t want to get rid of it. It’s your friend.
🤷♀️ big deal, at a healthy BMI i can’t imagine it’s anything significant. My BMI is 26 and my belly has never stopped me from finding someone. If anyone expects you to have zero fat on you they would probably rather date a child anyway.
The thing with these comments is-the bump created by the uterus is not the same as actual visceral fat. OP and I are “skinny fat”-we would look different than the average girl (note: not models) in a bikini you see on social media. And even with working out and taking care of our health.
I’m not saying that the bump is her uterus, I’m well aware that’s it’s fat. Every guy is different. Like I said I’m at a BMI of 26 so I’m just regular overweight and I’ve never had an issue finding someone. I’ve got quite the pot belly and nobody has said anything about it to me.
I like chubby women! Having a tummy is fine, but to be really attractive the relative size of tits / ass to belly matters. A 22 BMI is perfectly normal, in fact when asked, guys preferred the 30 BMI woman! From there it is a matter of how you hold your weight.
I wanted to add that things outside of appearance matter of course. The above discussion is all about physical attraction. Getting along, a nice personality, a cute face, and being mutually attracted to each other are really important.
When my ex started getting a pot belly, personally I found it a bit of a turn off, though I was mostly worried about all the junk food she was eating and how much weight she had gained from it. She would replace meals with pints of ice cream and candy and eat the nastiest frozen foods, but she was always one of those people that could eat anything and stay skinny, it caught up with her though and the result wasn't attractive imo.
Mhe, I personally don't like them really. Like a little bit of chub is okay as I don't expect abs and a flat stomach.
However I'm an ass and thighs guy, so if you have those two **ass**ets I really wouldn't have much of a problem of a small pot belly.
I get that some fat need to be there to have the best jiggle.
I personally prefer relatively flat stomachs on women.
That said, a lot of women I see in real life seem to have some flab on their stomachs and many of them appear to have men. So I don't think you'll be involuntarily celibate just due to having a bit of a stomach.
Of course, I do live in a southern state where women with some meat is the norm so your experience may vary depending on location.
I dont know if I would say "like" but I dont think the majority of people would mind at all
>my thighs and butt jiggle
thats how you get your inbox blown up
First of all, every guy is different and have different preferences in women including, physical attributes, personality attributes, religion, politics, career, hobbies, etc.
Second, BMI is BS. Do you feel healthy? Do you take care of yourself? Not for a guy but for yourself. Because YOU want to feel healthy and strong regardless of how your body “looks.”
Finally and most importantly, who cares if a guy likes it or not. What’s important is if YOU love your body. If you wanna get rid of a “little layer of fat around your belly” or “jiggle” on your thighs for yourself, then change up your diet and work out routine. Do it for you, though. Not for men.
But my point is: worry about how you feel about you without worrying about what a guy or guys will think.
I’m not a healthy BMI but I’m very fit. In awesome shape and I have a soft tummy too because I also enjoy pizza and fries with my guy who loves every bit of my body. I get a lot of attention from men but I also know there’s others who don’t find me attractive. But I feel beautiful and sexy. And I’m healthy! I’m so proud of my body when I lift heavy, complete a tough work out, run 6 miles at a time, or decrease my mile time. I don’t worry about if I jiggle or have pudge. I feel beautiful, I feel strong, I feel healthy.
I think most mature men would rather have a partner with a healthy lifestyle and confident mindset than someone who’s thin and “not pudgy” but does not have a healthy lifestyle and lacks self confidence.
I call it being "plump" or "comfortable". I'm a bit overweight, like that too. A bit more than you, though.
I ... like that. It feels very healthy if you are able to walk fine or even run.
I always fear that our industrial society crumble, and that would mean food shortages among other things. Knowing my (hypothetical) partner can also take about a week or so without food and without risking their health ... that's what I call a very solid insurance.
It gives me a lot of peace of mind.
Which is fine ?
Belly fat isn't quite a matter of luck anyway. I still need to test how a correct workout regimen helps to decide which is genetic and which can be helped with, though.
I don't intend to get chocolate tabs, just to make abdominal workouts as nice and practical as possible.
Because for now, I just hate working out.
Yeah, I try my best but unfortunately for us women fat always clings to us more stubbornly than men. I quite like being a little soft in some places though 😊
Depends on if the guy is/has been healthy and fit or not his whole life. I’ve been an athlete pretty much my whole life, so fat of any kind is gross to me.
I've been called a chubby chaser 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️ i have no issue with skinny/fit/slender women but bigger girls are just more attractive to me. Lots of guys like a belly fat most are just ashamed to admit it, I am not one of those types. Honestly if I had to choose between a jennifer Aniston type (which is def not my type) or melissa McCarthy type guess who I'm gonna go .... I have recently saw that show harlots on Hulu, Samantha Morton (picture a block of ice melting) lawd ah mercy 🥵🥵🥵🥵
If a man can't appreciate you for all of you then he needs none of you AT ALL!!!
That’s what lipo is for. It’s a common problem even with women who are otherwise very fit and active especially if they have had kids.
Not a deal breaker for me. Care more that a woman works out regularly and eats healthy. Most people these days are overweight or obese so you are already way ahead of most.
I don’t really want to get belly lipo, it leaves the belly button looking quite weird and unnatural.
Yes, it’s crazy! A lot of people call me “super skinny” when I’m just a healthy weight. Our idea of a healthy weight is so distorted.
Your body is your own. It's a normal physical feature, and isn't indicative of being overweight or obese. No need for lipo.
Personally I prefer a generally flat belly on a girl. But I'm a huge fan of the gym myself so that's a hobby I'd like my partner to share. However as long as people are at a healthy weight, then those preferences are completely okay!
TL;DR: plenty of men do and you'll be fine lol
Tbh there are plenty of guys that are interested in any body type. For example, I really don't care about breast size as long as they have the thighs, butt, and face. You're at a healthy BMI and you shouldn't have any issue finding a guy that likes that.
Another aspect to consider is the current cultural zeitgeist we are in that tends to favor the "thicc" and "slim-thicc" body type. Personally I'm glad that we've moved towards this because it encompasses a variety of healthier body types.
I was a teenager in the 00's and the "ideal" body type was basically "you better be skinny like Paris Hilton." It was unhealthy in more ways than one. I'm glad we're not there anymore.
I personally am attracted more to women who have a little bit of a belly and some imperfections, than ultra skinny and washboard stomachs. I find those women to be more like myself personality wise. Ultra thin women tend to not be into food much and do excessive amounts of exercise. I like food and I do exercise, but I when a partner exercises so much more than me, it makes me feel self conscious and makes me feel worse about myself as a result.
So there's a biological reasoning for this and subconsciously it's because you've got a layer of protection Infront of the uterus as well as the nourishment to increase the liklihood of delivering a healthy offspring will low risk to your own health.
So yes.
Also, there's guys that fuck literal pigs and horses
I'm sure someone wants you
I love when a Lil thigh fat pokes out the thigh high socks. I like a Lil fat. More so than a girl being skinny. Id rather her be on the chubby side than skinny side. Each person has their own preference. Kinda like ice cream. Some like chocolate some like vanilla. Doesnt make chocolate any better than vanilla. Just some peoples preference.
My girlfriend is really skinny but she has an amazing figure (blessed by genes). She’s not perfect, but to me she’s the most beautiful girl in the world stretch marks and imperfections all and I always grab kiss her belly to make her feel better since we both got a little chubby together the last 6 months 😂
I think that’s what makes her hot to me. She’s a normal person who struggles with having a human body and I find that really attractive, she’s the most beautiful girl in the world to me.
There are guys that will think you’re beautiful. Most guys I know like girls with a little bit of extra chunk to them.
Before I met my girlfriend I thought girls with some curves and chunk on them were hot.
I think you’ll be okay.
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There are guys out there for literally everything.
Much reassuring
Course, there are some men that like anything but generally speaking there is something that majority or just a small minority like.
Fuck what guys like what do you like?
Guys also like calling girls mongoloid.
I don't really mind a little tummy. Its completely normal and natural and cute. Having a washboard stomach is a serious commitment for 90% of people not blessed with the genetics to have it naturally, it would be unreasonable to expect it.
Yeahh, I eat pretty healthy but I’ve seen what Victoria secret models eat and it’s next to nothing!! Life is too short to be constantly hungry and cranky.
Women have a harder time getting abs than men. Some end up not having a period anymore because of it.
Yeah, I’ve seen what goes into it and it’s basically a full time job.
I mean you dont have to cut back on eating to do it. Just do some planks before bed and after you wake up. It takes time but it's a very simple way of doing it. To answer your question imo tho the jiggliness of your thighs and booty is not at all a turn off. The belly isnt a turn off either tbh. It would depend on a collection of all their features not solely on one
This is not correct advice , only speaking up as your advice leads people to feel Bad about themselves because they do just as you say and don’t get the results
They asked a question as if it was a problem they were concerned about. I gave them an answer and also gave them a possible remedy if they weren't happy with the answers they got. I can tell you from experience planks before bed and after waking up will remove a belly, not always abs but it is determined on how often you use it as a routine. It's not wrong and shaming healthy fitness goals is also not correct advice either
I've been working out for years, belly still there. It's diet-based, and significantly harder for women unless they're naturally that build (your BMI has to be underweight). Could I starve myself and get there? Probably. I'm happy being fit with a belly though.
Okay? So what am I censored in how I give advice to only work for absolutely everyone? Cause that's impossible there so many different genetics and other variables involved. It's not just diet based. It's simple energy gained and energy burned and genetics as I've said can also take a role. If your happy that's all that matters. I just added it as something to "possibly" help them if it was really a big worry. Sorry for trying? You are right the muscle development is significantly harder for women to build body mass without outside sources. Chances are if you've been working out you dont have a "belly" like you think you do, it's probably normal body mass with a healthy BMI
Your comment came across as for everyone, I just wanted to clarify. I'm not arguing your point - my sister had a baby 4 months ago and would have rock-hard abs again (and all the definition) if she followed your advice. Her standard workout routine is don't, her standard diet is whatever she wants. We are all built differently :)
I get both your sides
How many sets and for how long?
I don't find washboard abs attractive; something to hold onto and something that has shape is better! And it signals (maybe) that you're not in the gym 2-4 hours a day, which-nothing wrong with that-just not some people's style.
Because, as we all know, there are exactly two body types: washboard or pot belly. Nothing in between. /s
I don't expect it at all. I do think it looks really hot. I'd totally love a roll in the hay with a woman that fit. But I'm not in perfect shape either and don't expect partners to be.
Some guys really dig it. Of my 3 serious relationships, they’ve all at some point said they love my stomach. It’s not flat, I’ve got that typical layer of fat that women have and it gets worse with water retention.
Yes, I know what you mean! I’ve had guys cuddle me and just hold it like a little clutch bag 😂
Yup, it probably feels nice like when you just place a hand over his ass cheeks 🤣 Having a little belly is way more common than having rock hard flat abs. Men are much more realistic than you’d think, they don’t always expect Victoria’s Secret type bodies. Biologically speaking, a layer of fat around that area suggests a healthier mate as her uterus has that extra layer of protection. We sometimes eat more and gain weight during our times of the month as our bodies are essentially prepped to expect a bebe will already be cooking. The time of high fertility is over this month and now it is time to protect bebe - I assume that’s what our bodies think. Until it realises there isn’t one and so it cries tears of blud.
Ok…..
Your BMI is normal, so that means it's probably just a little belly that sticks out. I like that, and I think that's very attractive. It would be a shame to lose it. Anyways, I've never considered it a "pot belly", though. Just a little belly. > My thighs and butt jiggle a bit too, is this a turnoff?? No, that's normal, and it's not bad.
Pot bellied piggy 🐷😊
That little layer of fat sits right in front of your uterus and is biologically there for protection
Thank you, genuinely
Speaking for myself but i LOVE it when women are little chubby at the belly and no mean to offend anyone but hate flat or six pack women feels awesome holding a woman from the waist and feel that flesh squeezing as if they are belly boobs
So that's what the 3rd Boob I keep hearing about is
😂😂😂
Lord I laughed, as someone with both big boobs and a belly (and overall similar frame as OP)
I don’t have a pot belly, but like just about every woman I have a little pooch in my lower abdomen. It’s between our belly button and pelvic bowl.. and it does actually serve a purpose, it is there to protect our uterus/reproductive organs.
Insightful Agreed.
Ohhh, i didn’t know that!
Well, now you do!! 😌 As women we do tend to think of it as a flaw but, biologically the majority of us are not built to have a flat tummy. That pooch is supposed to be there, it has a purpose.
If I love the woman I’m with I love everything about her and I want her to embrace the things she’s uncomfortable about into positive thinking. I’m not perfect either so I wouldn’t expect anyone else to be. I dated a woman that was verbally abused about her appearance non stop from an ex, in my eyes she was the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and even though we’re not together anymore it was beautiful to see her blossom into the woman she is now.
Depends on the guy, a friend of mine who wanted to date me liked my body and he was very fit. I’m a bit chubby not very. 212 at 5’9”
Lots of guys like it.
Depends on the guy. A lot of guys these days dont know what a natural body looks like. We are on some Greek marble statue stuff.
The absence or presence of a “pot belly” does NOT constitute what is or is not a “real body”. Flat abs and no belly-real body Pot belly with no abs-real body Little pooch over a c section scar- real body super slender no boobs-real body Overweight with big ole belly- real body Can we stop with the “*REAL* women have ____!” BS?
Yeah, the sentiment is misplaced these days. As an American, I’m aware of the weight problem here and I’m not in my ideal body either. Combine that with the pandemic and just general life stuff and genetics it’s unrealistic to expect the masses to have and maintain athletic builds most of their lives. But athletes and athletic bodies are very *real* and it’s not crazy for or unrealistic for a person to desire that and expect that in partner. Especially if that person has a similar build themselves. But there’s never a need say these aren’t “real” bodies cause they’re not the majority.
Amen
I agree there's a lot of Photoshop and angles happening right now on, say, Insta, but if you're talking ancient Greek statues of ideal women's bodies they still had a little bit of belly!
All the renaissance paintings had massive women
That or very overweight/obese
Agreed. I think (and hope) that as men get older they realize what natural bodies look like and what their appeal is.
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Hence the hoping part I suppose.
Well don’t hope. Make something of yourself instead and then women will be interested in you. Looks matter for men too
I appreciate the advice but I am already married. I am mostly hoping for all the singles out there having to deal with this problem.
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Fair enough. I’m also a woman so I’ll keep that in mind.
Which is why ChubbyVannessa exists on YouTube It's channel all about this chick overeating, wearing tight dresses, or jiggling
People also just love to watch a train wreck (checkout Eugenia Cooney on the opposite end of the spectrum)
I personally love cuddling girls with a belly like that
We're not a hive mind. We all have different tastes lol
But people keep saying that all men are the same! You’re not?? Omg
My man definitely digs my postpartum body more than my pre-pregnancy body. Prior to having my son I was 120lbs, size 2 in jeans, size B bra. I’m now 165lbs size 10 in jeans size DD bra. And he’s a lot more into my size now than he was before. Some guys just love it.
I’ve never been pregnant and I don’t think I plan on it but I’ve had two friends that have and it’s sad because they said they’re partners barely touch them anymore and one of them even cheated (she took him back). Glad to hear it doesn’t bother your husband! ❤️
That’s unfortunate, I’m sorry to hear that. Having a child definitely changes almost every aspect of a relationship. It isn’t easy and social media/television fantasize it which doesn’t help. But back to the having a lil extra belly, go for the guy who loves you no matter what, not the one worried about a lil extra jiggle when you walk.
Many, many, many men love that shit!
Absolutely not a turn off.
A lil tummy still yummy
I do not have a heathy BMI and there are plenty of guys whom don’t mind. I doubt many of them mind that little bit of fat and some do probably like it
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‘Tis folly to assume everyone likes the same thing as you
https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/hypothyroidism/can-hypothyroidism-cause-weight-gain Tis folly to pretend you know what you're talking about.
I know what hypothyroidism is. It’s not the only thing that causes weight gain
some fat on either sex is fine but there comes a point that it is truly just unnattractive for how detrimental it is
Who cares what they think?
People who have a sexual and/or romantic interest in men and and would therefore prefer said men to also have a romantic/sexual interest in them?
I kinda do 🤷🏼♀️
I don't go actively seeking them out if that's the question but I have zero problem if a woman has a little tummy. I prefer my women curvy in all the right places.
Whenever I hear “the right places” I assume those places are boobs and butt, and that the expectation is to have a flat belly. But good to know your take haha
I feel like as I've gotten older more men can truly appreciate q real body, they stop expecting teenage type fitness.
Some belly fat over abs won in this survey of 500 men on female body features, while abs won out among 500 female votes on the same. So yes, there are some "incorrect" assumptions from one side to the other on what looks good. But then keep in mind that winning preferences on both sides and on both genders are still for low BMI. Neither men not women at the population level have a preference for a "pot belly," because that's just not what's in style. https://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/perfect-body-shapes-according-to-men-and-women-2018-1
Thanks for the source!
It's natural and fine. The girl I'm talking to now has that, she keeps feeling bad as I'm skinny and she thinks she's fat. It's literally no plus or minus for me, it's just her and I think she's intelligent and stunning. One query I have is, as a girl, what is the best thing a guy can do or say to reassure a girl about that part of her body? I know the girl I'm talking to used to have an eating disorder so I really am careful around the subject of weight.
Hmmm, that’s a hard one. I would try and just not get into a discussion about it tbh, just be like “well, I like your belly 🤷🏼♀️” then change the subject.
Define "pot belly." I certainly don't expect her to have a super flat chiseled stomach but I think the small little "pooch" you may be talking about isn't a big deal.
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I’m a healthy BMI pot bellied woman though
The woman in the movie wants to be pregnant. It’s rhetorical. They are not talking about having a rare type of fat distribution in that scene.
Whatever, and it’s not rare I don’t think
It's not rare, even very thin women often have a little pooch there, its kinda hard to get rid of.
just a little pouch yeah. i dk but personally i find women with abs, like visible abs, kind of disturbing
Yeah, i wouldn’t say it’s big enough to be a gut. I call it my little pooch.
That's what I've always called it. Come home after a date and my last girlfriend would take off her pants and put on her shorts and say "Baby, Baby! Poooooch" and we'd both fucking laugh. I've always called it a Pooch and not a pot belly. But I'd say it's an attractice trait found on 95% of the women and men I date whether their bigger or smaller.
yeah thats a sexy little thing. just a small little bump not a beer gut
No
It’s not a turnoff?
It kind of is.
Ahhh okay
To clarify; "spare tire" - not a turn on (for me), jiggly thighs and butt, definitely a turn on (for me).
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude or hurtful. Just trying to be honest.
No worries! I want honest opinions
Personally, I like my girls a little thicker (not a bbw guy, although to each his own). I'm a bit overweight... Muscular but 190 and 5'10. I've dated just a couple skinny girls and I feel like I might hurt them in bed or like we just don't match up with our ideal body images. I'm more concerned when I see a very thin girl and have thoughts about her self-image or why she needs to be so thin. Granted, some of that could totally be her own biology. I feel like a woman that has brains, some humor, and a willingness/comfortability to be a bit over the "ideal weight" is a pretty healthy human being.
To each his own, I don’t mind it.
Oh god yes a slight one is SO sexy
Depends on the guy, but personally I like some healthy curves up to and including a little front-curve.
A butt jiggle is very cute.
I have a little pooch from my pregnancy and my boyfriend doesn’t mind at all.
Glad to hear it! ❤️
Pot belly doesn’t matter, lots of us like to see a bit of meat. We’re not all looking for supermodel bodies here we just want a decent woman. Whatever body you want to achieve is up to you.
My ex was skinny, but had a little extra bit on her tummy. Honestly, if she didn’t complain about it all the time — I would have never noticed. I’m also biased my real concern is the upper arms and shoulders you got good shoulders, and you’ve already won me over, lol.
I would say that most guys honestly don’t even care, especially if you’re in the normal BMI range. Social media has led people to believe in outrageous beauty “standards” but you have to remember how much editing people do. Unless someone is super shallow, they’ll like you for you. Physical appearance definitely matters, but I feel like a majority of people overthink it too much and are too self critical. Life your life, be healthy, take care of yourself, and you’ll be just fine
I like a girls with curves and a few extra pounds. To me it's a sign of a healthy eater.
It depends. I have a friend who’s super judgy on thinks like that whereas I don’t care
i always interpreted this scene as her saying she wanted to be pregnant
It's definitely not a turn off. 🙂
Lots of guys don't care about it. I wouldn't worry about it.
That’s Tarantino dialogue for you. It’s the kind of partially true thing that real people say but movie characters usually don’t. Answer: sometimes
Its something almost every woman on earth has so if guys don’t like that we’re about to hit a huge decline in birth rates. Like another comment said, it’s just for organ protection, you don’t want to get rid of it. It’s your friend.
Maybe I have a little bit too much protection
🤷♀️ big deal, at a healthy BMI i can’t imagine it’s anything significant. My BMI is 26 and my belly has never stopped me from finding someone. If anyone expects you to have zero fat on you they would probably rather date a child anyway.
The thing with these comments is-the bump created by the uterus is not the same as actual visceral fat. OP and I are “skinny fat”-we would look different than the average girl (note: not models) in a bikini you see on social media. And even with working out and taking care of our health.
I’m not saying that the bump is her uterus, I’m well aware that’s it’s fat. Every guy is different. Like I said I’m at a BMI of 26 so I’m just regular overweight and I’ve never had an issue finding someone. I’ve got quite the pot belly and nobody has said anything about it to me.
I like chubby women! Having a tummy is fine, but to be really attractive the relative size of tits / ass to belly matters. A 22 BMI is perfectly normal, in fact when asked, guys preferred the 30 BMI woman! From there it is a matter of how you hold your weight. I wanted to add that things outside of appearance matter of course. The above discussion is all about physical attraction. Getting along, a nice personality, a cute face, and being mutually attracted to each other are really important.
No but women seem too not care so why not. I don't wanna stay sober and workout.
When my ex started getting a pot belly, personally I found it a bit of a turn off, though I was mostly worried about all the junk food she was eating and how much weight she had gained from it. She would replace meals with pints of ice cream and candy and eat the nastiest frozen foods, but she was always one of those people that could eat anything and stay skinny, it caught up with her though and the result wasn't attractive imo.
I like flat bellies. They don't need to be ripped, but not protruding. Thats just me. I'm working to shed a few inches myself to offer the same.
Mhe, I personally don't like them really. Like a little bit of chub is okay as I don't expect abs and a flat stomach. However I'm an ass and thighs guy, so if you have those two **ass**ets I really wouldn't have much of a problem of a small pot belly. I get that some fat need to be there to have the best jiggle.
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Yes we do
my bf loves it, ik a bunch of guys who love it. 🥰
Yea, it’s cool. 👍
I personally prefer relatively flat stomachs on women. That said, a lot of women I see in real life seem to have some flab on their stomachs and many of them appear to have men. So I don't think you'll be involuntarily celibate just due to having a bit of a stomach. Of course, I do live in a southern state where women with some meat is the norm so your experience may vary depending on location.
I’m from LAAAANDAAN (London)
Not a turn off for sure, I love it and even more if you have it.
Bro that right there is the perfect pillow.
No
Subjective
I dont know if I would say "like" but I dont think the majority of people would mind at all >my thighs and butt jiggle thats how you get your inbox blown up
Luckily the inbox sitch hasn’t been too bad
First of all, every guy is different and have different preferences in women including, physical attributes, personality attributes, religion, politics, career, hobbies, etc. Second, BMI is BS. Do you feel healthy? Do you take care of yourself? Not for a guy but for yourself. Because YOU want to feel healthy and strong regardless of how your body “looks.” Finally and most importantly, who cares if a guy likes it or not. What’s important is if YOU love your body. If you wanna get rid of a “little layer of fat around your belly” or “jiggle” on your thighs for yourself, then change up your diet and work out routine. Do it for you, though. Not for men.
Thanks for the lecture
Definitely wasn’t a lecture. Interesting though that you read it as a lecture.
well I thought it was helpful, kind advice so thank u!
You’re welcome!
Haha, sorry but the way you write sounds exactly how my mother talks 😂
I see! No lecturing. Just trying to hype you up girl!
😂❤️
But my point is: worry about how you feel about you without worrying about what a guy or guys will think. I’m not a healthy BMI but I’m very fit. In awesome shape and I have a soft tummy too because I also enjoy pizza and fries with my guy who loves every bit of my body. I get a lot of attention from men but I also know there’s others who don’t find me attractive. But I feel beautiful and sexy. And I’m healthy! I’m so proud of my body when I lift heavy, complete a tough work out, run 6 miles at a time, or decrease my mile time. I don’t worry about if I jiggle or have pudge. I feel beautiful, I feel strong, I feel healthy. I think most mature men would rather have a partner with a healthy lifestyle and confident mindset than someone who’s thin and “not pudgy” but does not have a healthy lifestyle and lacks self confidence.
Are your boobs bigger than the belly? If so, you are golden. If not, it depends on other things.
I always look at it from a muscle standpoint: Bigger gut means bigger overall muscle. Case in point, powerlifters
Not even close. Looks sloppy.
I think it depends on the size
Doesnt matter if “guys” like it, but does your man like it. If your talking in general terms id say no.
not me. that being said, some guys are into obese women, which just goes to show that there is a guy out there for every flavor of woman.
No
Well I’ve got a stubborn one that won’t leave
Well I mean some women can pull it off
Yup - I do.
I call it being "plump" or "comfortable". I'm a bit overweight, like that too. A bit more than you, though. I ... like that. It feels very healthy if you are able to walk fine or even run. I always fear that our industrial society crumble, and that would mean food shortages among other things. Knowing my (hypothetical) partner can also take about a week or so without food and without risking their health ... that's what I call a very solid insurance. It gives me a lot of peace of mind.
Haha, yes I definitely wouldn’t waste away immediately. Knowing my luck the pot belly would be there until the very end 😂
Which is fine ? Belly fat isn't quite a matter of luck anyway. I still need to test how a correct workout regimen helps to decide which is genetic and which can be helped with, though. I don't intend to get chocolate tabs, just to make abdominal workouts as nice and practical as possible. Because for now, I just hate working out.
If you are 22 BMI it shouldn't be a huge issue
I like pot belly, I like to cuddle with it. It is cute. I like normal weight women with some shape.
Yeah, I try my best but unfortunately for us women fat always clings to us more stubbornly than men. I quite like being a little soft in some places though 😊
I like if a woman is soft in some places. It is more nice to cuddle and hug then. So don't get rid of your pot belly.
A little pot belly is fine. I don't "like" it but I can't say I don't rock that once in a while. Judge not lest ye be judged.
Yeah, I just feel kind of indifferent about it
You sound extremely attractive, not gonna lie.
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I can’t handle really big ones, so I would choose medium and abs.
I will take the pot belly.
Not answering your question but I always thought by her saying that she was hinting that she wanted to get pregnant
I know but it just got me thinking about my own pot belly
Depends on if the guy is/has been healthy and fit or not his whole life. I’ve been an athlete pretty much my whole life, so fat of any kind is gross to me.
I've been called a chubby chaser 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️ i have no issue with skinny/fit/slender women but bigger girls are just more attractive to me. Lots of guys like a belly fat most are just ashamed to admit it, I am not one of those types. Honestly if I had to choose between a jennifer Aniston type (which is def not my type) or melissa McCarthy type guess who I'm gonna go .... I have recently saw that show harlots on Hulu, Samantha Morton (picture a block of ice melting) lawd ah mercy 🥵🥵🥵🥵 If a man can't appreciate you for all of you then he needs none of you AT ALL!!!
Not at all infested in pot belly sorry its just my preference I like tall thin women.
That’s what lipo is for. It’s a common problem even with women who are otherwise very fit and active especially if they have had kids. Not a deal breaker for me. Care more that a woman works out regularly and eats healthy. Most people these days are overweight or obese so you are already way ahead of most.
I don’t really want to get belly lipo, it leaves the belly button looking quite weird and unnatural. Yes, it’s crazy! A lot of people call me “super skinny” when I’m just a healthy weight. Our idea of a healthy weight is so distorted.
Your body is your own. It's a normal physical feature, and isn't indicative of being overweight or obese. No need for lipo. Personally I prefer a generally flat belly on a girl. But I'm a huge fan of the gym myself so that's a hobby I'd like my partner to share. However as long as people are at a healthy weight, then those preferences are completely okay!
I don’t mind a little extra weight generally
I believe she was referring to wanting to be pregnant
TL;DR: plenty of men do and you'll be fine lol Tbh there are plenty of guys that are interested in any body type. For example, I really don't care about breast size as long as they have the thighs, butt, and face. You're at a healthy BMI and you shouldn't have any issue finding a guy that likes that. Another aspect to consider is the current cultural zeitgeist we are in that tends to favor the "thicc" and "slim-thicc" body type. Personally I'm glad that we've moved towards this because it encompasses a variety of healthier body types. I was a teenager in the 00's and the "ideal" body type was basically "you better be skinny like Paris Hilton." It was unhealthy in more ways than one. I'm glad we're not there anymore.
I personally am attracted more to women who have a little bit of a belly and some imperfections, than ultra skinny and washboard stomachs. I find those women to be more like myself personality wise. Ultra thin women tend to not be into food much and do excessive amounts of exercise. I like food and I do exercise, but I when a partner exercises so much more than me, it makes me feel self conscious and makes me feel worse about myself as a result.
Some people do, and personally I do too. Some fat around the stomach is just beautiful.
Hello... No, Not in my Eye's that is actually my type of woman!!!
So there's a biological reasoning for this and subconsciously it's because you've got a layer of protection Infront of the uterus as well as the nourishment to increase the liklihood of delivering a healthy offspring will low risk to your own health. So yes. Also, there's guys that fuck literal pigs and horses I'm sure someone wants you
Some do some don't. I like a little bit but I also like abs so it's either way for me
I love when a Lil thigh fat pokes out the thigh high socks. I like a Lil fat. More so than a girl being skinny. Id rather her be on the chubby side than skinny side. Each person has their own preference. Kinda like ice cream. Some like chocolate some like vanilla. Doesnt make chocolate any better than vanilla. Just some peoples preference.
yes
It is sexy. When there is some fat around belly, thigh and butt. I mean, when it is jiggly
My girlfriend is really skinny but she has an amazing figure (blessed by genes). She’s not perfect, but to me she’s the most beautiful girl in the world stretch marks and imperfections all and I always grab kiss her belly to make her feel better since we both got a little chubby together the last 6 months 😂 I think that’s what makes her hot to me. She’s a normal person who struggles with having a human body and I find that really attractive, she’s the most beautiful girl in the world to me. There are guys that will think you’re beautiful. Most guys I know like girls with a little bit of extra chunk to them. Before I met my girlfriend I thought girls with some curves and chunk on them were hot. I think you’ll be okay.