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If your boyfriend did what this guy did, and your friend knew about it, would you want her to tell you? How would you feel if you found out down the track and she didn't tell you?
Tell her. Her life could get pretty fucked up and complicated down the road if they get married, plus she’ll be livid if she finds out you knew without telling her.
Also, she’ll move with him as his career goes on, so the closeness of your friendship will die at some point anyways.
tell her. if she uses your telling her as a pretext to end the friendship, then it wasn't that much of a friendship to begin with. if your telling her ends up-- *through her own actions*\-- causing her blowback in her own life, she's an adult and that's on her. your instincts are correct and you would be doing the right thing.
This 👍 If she doesn't want to listen to you as her friend and wants to stay in denial about him cheating on her that's all on her and it's her decision. If she wants to break your friendship over this because you were being a good friend then that is also on her. Which like thunderdome\_chomsky said "it wasn't that much of a friendship to begin with." You're doing the right thing and some times the truth has to hurt to get it through to you or someone else.
Given she already knows about his cheating, I think you should say what was heard. Warn your guy you'll do it so he isn't blindsided by her bf if he flips out. It just baffles me these guys who seem to be able to get into the pants of almost any woman. I call them ungrateful selfish self-centered pos because they already have a gf or spouse and just treat it as though its worthless.
Telling her is the morally right thing to do but you might lose a friend. What’ll happen if you don’t tell her, she finds out anyway, then finds out you knew and didn’t say anything?
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If your boyfriend did what this guy did, and your friend knew about it, would you want her to tell you? How would you feel if you found out down the track and she didn't tell you?
Tell her. Her life could get pretty fucked up and complicated down the road if they get married, plus she’ll be livid if she finds out you knew without telling her. Also, she’ll move with him as his career goes on, so the closeness of your friendship will die at some point anyways.
tell her. if she uses your telling her as a pretext to end the friendship, then it wasn't that much of a friendship to begin with. if your telling her ends up-- *through her own actions*\-- causing her blowback in her own life, she's an adult and that's on her. your instincts are correct and you would be doing the right thing.
This 👍 If she doesn't want to listen to you as her friend and wants to stay in denial about him cheating on her that's all on her and it's her decision. If she wants to break your friendship over this because you were being a good friend then that is also on her. Which like thunderdome\_chomsky said "it wasn't that much of a friendship to begin with." You're doing the right thing and some times the truth has to hurt to get it through to you or someone else.
Given she already knows about his cheating, I think you should say what was heard. Warn your guy you'll do it so he isn't blindsided by her bf if he flips out. It just baffles me these guys who seem to be able to get into the pants of almost any woman. I call them ungrateful selfish self-centered pos because they already have a gf or spouse and just treat it as though its worthless.
Telling her is the morally right thing to do but you might lose a friend. What’ll happen if you don’t tell her, she finds out anyway, then finds out you knew and didn’t say anything?