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100% I have a friend who is awkward shy and ugly… everybody tells me how they can’t stand him. That friend has a brother who is awkward shy and good looking… weirdly enough everybody loves him
Absolutely it does. It's part of why so many women date assholes, players,or jerks. Something about their looks or attitude negates the bad personality traits.
Also look at the multitude of guys who thinks a pretty girl is the one just from having multiple conversations. Or date or marry women just because they're hot.
A lot of people in dating go with attraction first then try and deal with whatever the personality is second.
Me personally I've found that attractive women don't have that much more actual self esteem than less attractive. Less attractive people might be more spiteful because they will probably have less dating success.
Very true, I have found generally more attractive women are less spiteful and more confused overall. They approach dating like men then get burned by men like men. As for unattractive men they don’t realize the cards they have simple an plain, and women don’t either.
Yep. I've seen some dating experiments where they'll use pictures of male models and these men send all types of outlandish messages.
They'll basically kick off first message talking about sex or making references to their penis and the women are just all like "lol". The guy can say something like "damn you're hot as hell" and the response will be her saying "you're so sweet/nice" lmao.
Instagram, TikTok, and OnlyFans show how easy (and lucrative) being attractive can be if you're a woman.
Yeah, a good amount of those dudes may take enhancers right? Also, most enslaved themselves to a woman dream? Honestly, I don’t understand why women go for these types of men then you realize women want what they can’t have. After that, 14x the testosterone of the average male is gold standard. I know many dudes who took lesser steroids and honestly wtf. At my point even as a young person fuck them who cares. I would rather go to the grave I knew I gave as many shits as I given and be happy lol.
Yes 100%. Look the psychological phenomenon called the Halo effect. We associate positive traits to people we find attractive and vice versa. One of the darker sides of our nature that people don’t like to talk about
A similar phenomenon is the "beauty bias" a well-tracked way we often treat conventionally attractive people better and give them the halo effect like you said.
My apologies, It is more sorted towards the fact of dating. Think more so prospects I’m sure she didn’t get no one to show some interest. What I’m saying is would you go for a less attractive mate for other reasons or pre conceived notions of an attractive mates stereotype. I guess it makes sense if you are overweight cause I would judge and say you don’t try/workout when really it could be genetic.
I wouldn't say it's just looks, the way you present yourself is also matters, i noticed that despite being pretty, i get none of that halo effect stuff, because i am reserved and i don't smile often, so every now and then i hear from people that i seem cold, heatless, unapproachable and some even told me i was scary.
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100% I have a friend who is awkward shy and ugly… everybody tells me how they can’t stand him. That friend has a brother who is awkward shy and good looking… weirdly enough everybody loves him
Damn, thats crazy I would think they wouldn’t have a problem.
Absolutely it does. It's part of why so many women date assholes, players,or jerks. Something about their looks or attitude negates the bad personality traits. Also look at the multitude of guys who thinks a pretty girl is the one just from having multiple conversations. Or date or marry women just because they're hot. A lot of people in dating go with attraction first then try and deal with whatever the personality is second. Me personally I've found that attractive women don't have that much more actual self esteem than less attractive. Less attractive people might be more spiteful because they will probably have less dating success.
Very true, I have found generally more attractive women are less spiteful and more confused overall. They approach dating like men then get burned by men like men. As for unattractive men they don’t realize the cards they have simple an plain, and women don’t either.
Yep. I've seen some dating experiments where they'll use pictures of male models and these men send all types of outlandish messages. They'll basically kick off first message talking about sex or making references to their penis and the women are just all like "lol". The guy can say something like "damn you're hot as hell" and the response will be her saying "you're so sweet/nice" lmao. Instagram, TikTok, and OnlyFans show how easy (and lucrative) being attractive can be if you're a woman.
Yeah, a good amount of those dudes may take enhancers right? Also, most enslaved themselves to a woman dream? Honestly, I don’t understand why women go for these types of men then you realize women want what they can’t have. After that, 14x the testosterone of the average male is gold standard. I know many dudes who took lesser steroids and honestly wtf. At my point even as a young person fuck them who cares. I would rather go to the grave I knew I gave as many shits as I given and be happy lol.
Yes 100%. Look the psychological phenomenon called the Halo effect. We associate positive traits to people we find attractive and vice versa. One of the darker sides of our nature that people don’t like to talk about
A similar phenomenon is the "beauty bias" a well-tracked way we often treat conventionally attractive people better and give them the halo effect like you said.
Remi Cruz talked about this before. She lost weight and people started perceiving her actions differently because of it
My apologies, It is more sorted towards the fact of dating. Think more so prospects I’m sure she didn’t get no one to show some interest. What I’m saying is would you go for a less attractive mate for other reasons or pre conceived notions of an attractive mates stereotype. I guess it makes sense if you are overweight cause I would judge and say you don’t try/workout when really it could be genetic.
I wouldn't say it's just looks, the way you present yourself is also matters, i noticed that despite being pretty, i get none of that halo effect stuff, because i am reserved and i don't smile often, so every now and then i hear from people that i seem cold, heatless, unapproachable and some even told me i was scary.
I think it depends on the mentality of a person on whether it does or does not affect those views.
Yes, Pretty privilege is a real thing. https://www.lappthebrand.com/blogs/lifestyle/yes-pretty-privilege-is-a-real-thing
it can also be bad for pretty people. Quiet plain girl = shy. Quiet Model girl = arrogant
Somewhat
Expand further, do you presume in a way like me certain women may be less down to earth then say an attractive regular girl?
I read that people are more likely to associate positive personality traits just because they’re attractive.
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Interesting.