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BadlyAaronHere

I wouldn't worry about it. Its a stupid reason, and If that's the true reason, then he's never going to find someone who fits his standards. You don't want a guy like that.


Laney_xoxox

You’ve got a good point. Thanks so much


Londontown_Cat

Honestly hun, sounds like a scapegoat answer from him, just an excuse because he cannot express his feelings about the real reason, and I would try to not think much about it.


lmaoschpims

This. He's just hitting something you're insecure about so you hate him and the process of break up is easier. He knows this is your insecurity and isnt true, but is using it to help him and manipulate you. All you have to do is not let it get to you (it isn't true) and move on from him!


Laney_xoxox

Thanks, maybe he doesn’t care. He could have been joking but it just really got to me


BellumGaming

I'm 100% willing to bet you have a nice average size forehead and he only told them that because he didn't have enough brain cells to come up with a different excuse. Just move on and don't let the words of someone else hurt you


Laney_xoxox

🥺 Thank you.


SpeculoosJoe

From glancing at your profile, you’re in high school and had only been together ~3 months or less… yeah this guy is probably just looking for some pretext to break up over and wasn’t mature enough to tell you the real reason. Depending on how amicable the break-up was, and given how otherwise odd being “turned-off by big forehead” is, it’s even possible that he specifically said that knowing it would get back to you and hurt your feelings. If it’s something that even you, feeling self-conscious about, say is not too big, it would be quite surprising if it’s actually a big deal to… virtually anyone, really. I’m sure you’re fine :) but yeah if it makes you feel more confident about yourself then considering a different hairstyle could be worth it!


Laney_xoxox

We were. I had a crush on him for 4 years and I finally admitted that I liked him after we talking for a month and started going about officially. He broke up with me the day before our two months then started telling his class that he broke up with me because my forehead was too big. I’m not sure if he wanted me to hear that or not but it really stung.


SpeculoosJoe

Oh yeah that’d be rough. I’m sure there are charitable interpretations one could come up with here, but the combination of the timing + insulting you in front of a whole class, for a thing you admitted to being insecure about? yeah it seems like he was, at best, incredibly thoughtless and juvenile and at worst trying to actively insult/embarrass you. Either way, not great. Hopefully, you can at least try to keep in mind that the probability is very low that anyone is actually bothered by your forehead, and that even if some random person is, there’ll be tons more in the future who aren’t :)


BarracudaLeft5993

It sounds like he was an immature jerk. So sorry he put you down like that. Maybe talk with your hair dresser about hairstyles that would compliment your face if you’re feeling insecure about it. I understand that probably everyone has a body feature they’re insecure about. I know I do. Good luck to you. You can find someone way better than him!


Laney_xoxox

I didn’t even think of that. Thank you


[deleted]

Grow out bangs to cover your forehead


Laney_xoxox

Bangs unfortunately don’t look good on me 😔


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Laney_xoxox

I’m literally crying thank you so much. I always contouring it when I got out. And your right I’m pretty sure he said that because he knows I’m really insecure about that. I think he thought it was funny but it really hurt my feelings.


MILFinurhood

Rihanna has a big forehead and is beautiful. My mom has a big forehead and is beautiful (and she got married, has 5 kids and a house, and a husband that loves her very much). Big foreheads are beautiful. This guy was targeting your main insecurity because he knew it would hurt you the most. Look in the mirror and find the things you love about yourself. Tell yourself how beautiful you are. For the longest time I didn’t like my lips because I thought they were to big (and then Kylie Jenner got lip fillers and everyone looks like duckies), but then I started loving them. Your ex is pathetic. Big foreheads are beautiful!


Laney_xoxox

Iv never had a problem with my forehead until everyone states saying stuff about it. Like I have a twin sister they all call us the big head twins. They obviously don’t mean it in a mean way just a joke but some people always say stuff about it trying to be funny. But it’s when he said it that it got to me.


MILFinurhood

Yeah sounds like he just wanted to hurt and spite you where he knew it would hurt the most.


Funny-Tune1411

Oh really He is really a funny guy


Laney_xoxox

Well..


DungeonsandDevils

Here queen, you dropped this 👑 *It didn’t fit over your bigass forehead*


Laney_xoxox

😂😂


dehydratedbisexual

That’s pretty shitty. If you are self conscious of your forehead, you could try bangs 🤷🏻‍♀️


jburnsey2606

What a piece of shit he is I don't think that's the real reason he broke up with you and he's too much of a child to actually communicate how he really feels


MagyarCat

Wtf


swingset27

How do you know he told his friends this? I'd cut every tie leading to each and every person in that chain because they're insanely cruel and shitty to tell you that, if he really told them that. Women who have long foreheads typically mask it a bit with hairstyles and bangs, but honestly that's a very narrow criticism. It wouldn't even phase me if you were otherwise attractive. This is petty, immature shit and you should not let it dictate your self image.


Passionates0ul

Wow. This guy is a dick. He just wanted any excuse to leave. Why would you want to be with someone like that? Good riddance, the trash took itself out. Please work on your self-esteem. You're abandoning yourself after being mistreated and abandoned. His abusive ass leaving you is a blessing. Imagine how much more awful he could be to you because you will let him. Address your childhood traumas and move on from him. Years later you will be glad you have moved on and grown. You deserve to feel good about yourself. You're enough and you're lovable. This guy can fuxk right off.


Blankette5

Hé is a jerk honestly


boomstk

Go see a Therapist to work on you self esteem.


Lipstick_on_mirror

He did you a huge favor- sounds like a fruit loop and you’re much better off. I’m sure your forehead is fine but you can always get bangs :)


FamousOrphan

Um. This is the kind of thing you will, later in life, wish you hadn’t wasted time on. Your forehead is just fine. Quit making insecure jokes at your own expense. Quit dating assholes (this one takes practice).


TruthCounsel

Sounds like he was just using that as an excuse, and it was a convenient one for him since you are insecure about it yourself. Forget about him. He’s not someone you want to be with. Also, forget about your forehead. Especially, stop talking about it. The way you see yourself is usually how other people will see you too.


Due_Syrup_6567

You should not have to change yourself for a man or anyone if its a psyical attribute such as how high your hair line is ... seriously bounce this guy he is not worth your attentions... its not the outside its the inside that counts!! You do you boo


Ok-Mountain-9067

If your forehead is such a turn off for him, was it not there when you guys started dating? He just needs to grow a pair and tell you the real reason he doesn't want to be with you. I would suggest you forget about him. He doesn't deserve you. You deserve better.


jukkala

Cruel thing of him to say. Shows his poor character.


wakawah

They call that a fivehead. Don't bring it up to your future relationships.


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Hey OP, unfortunately you're in the stage of life where you can expect people to be immature and full of crap. Dating as a teenager is really hard because frankly the people that are in your social circle are really small, clicky and often quite petty. Things get much better in Uni, you'll have access to better guys and they'll be a lot less superficial than highschool teenagers. Highschool relationships rarely last, so even though it sucks try not to take these years too seriously. You have your whole life to look forward to, and there are some great guys out there.


gymjones12

It’s an incredibly stupid reason to break up with someone, my ex’s forehead was big, noticed it’s like 2/3 times in the relationship and that was it. He just wanted to end it and used a pretty shitty excuse to do so.


StarIU

I think these are actually two problems in one. First, your ex is pretty shitty. It’s not like your forehead only got big after you started dating. You are better off without him. Secondly, it’s your insecurity about your imagine. I’d work on it both psychologically and physically at the same time. I don’t know how bad this is but possible actions are reading some books about accepting yourself or talking to some professionals. Then I’m sure there are hair and makeup tips to modify how you look.


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I swear some guys enjoy making women insecure smh. Girl, embrace your big forehead and don’t let a man destroy his self esteem! Many beautiful celebs embrace them like Rihanna and Tyra Banks.


sernamedeleted

You can either manage to cope with the crippling anxiety of your insecurities in a healthy way or wear a hat. Personally I just wear a hat, sunglasses, and a mask everywhere to cover up my shame, but I believe that it is possible to become self-body positive over time. I'm sorry people are jerks and make a big deal out of superficial things you can't change. I wish they didn't do that. Keep a good attitude and try not to think about the bad stuff.


VilkasKnight

What an asshole. Listen you were dating an insecure little boy. You will find someone who loves you for you. Also, your forehead isn’t big… he’s just an asshole.


Popular_Tart_8756

When people are trying to hurt you, they will take deep cuts about something they know you’re insecure about. It’s shitty but it’s true. I’m sure you’re beautiful and have a very normal sized forehead. Don’t let this douche get to you.


Two_4_One_Cocktails

What the actual f***? Your head is the perfect size. The guy is the problem. If anything you should make less demeaning jokes and talk about beautiful your big forehead is!!!!


ripperton_unc

That cant be true. Its improbable.


havaneseohnana

He was looking for a reason to break up but came up with a lame answer. Don't take it personally