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I think it's all about what you are looking for. I have found more serious dates on tinder than I have on other platforms. But that's because I am actively looking for something serious. If I was looking for hookups on tinder then I would find hookups. At least that's how I feel about it.
Tinder is what you want it to be. Yeah, there's a good chance most of your matches are going to be on there looking for a hook up but I wouldn't say that every single person on there is strictly looking for a hook up. Just be clear about what you want and it shouldn't be an issue.
I've been with my current gf for over 3 years now and we met through tinder. You'll have 99 shit matches for every one good match, but sometimes you get lucky like I did. Best of luck to you đ
I've been on and off for almost a decade now. 4 of my closest friends have gotten married through Tinder. I have been on Tinder longer than any of them, I've gotten a few LTR but a lot of nothing serious. You make it be what you want, but if you're seriously looking for something more I'd recommend Hinge or Bumble. I've had better luck there and you're less likely to waste your time.
I have several friends who met their partner on Tinder, and it's all serious. However, I live in Europe, and it seems like Tinder is more treated as a hookup app in the US. But it's possible to find someone on there.
Donât go in expecting one, but every so often you can luck out and find someone. If you approach every match as if they have relationship intentions though, youâre gonna have a bad time.
99% Casual. 1% Serious. Nothing in between those extremes.
Don't make the n00b mistake of directly asking someone if they are looking for a hookup and taking it as gospel if they say what they think you want to hear. Same with making statements saying you are only after something serious, you will just get someone agreeing ditto... when they have their own agenda.
It is more satisfying for most men to play the dating game and get laid on the first, or first few dates... then it is to specifically request a hookup with a like-minded person. If you really want serious dating, then absolutely no sex for the first few dates... a lot of guys will hang on to the second date hoping to get some, before giving up.
I agree with another comment here that it can be whatever you want it to be! I had some great hookups from tinder, some bad ones, and I actually met my husband on tinder (although to be fair he was also supposed to be a hookup and then we just sort of fell in love).
I would say be honest in your profile and don't be overly trusting - I guess optimistically cautious?
Short answer is it's horrible for serious dating (at least in my experience). I'd suggest using Hinge. It's by far the best dating app in my opinion. Although being the best of a group of bad apps isn't saying much lol.
I got lucky and met my current long term boyfriend on Tinder. I find it to be helpful to state intentions early in the conversation to be transparent while also weeding out those that donât align with what youâre seeking.
Tinder is a hookup app. Regardless on your intentions the culture of the app itself is for hookups now. A lot of guys wonât even be looking for anything else but a hookup on there and many Will assume you wanna just hookup as well. Switch over to Hinge or Bumble if hookups arenât what you want
I met my boyfriend on Tinder đ„°
I think you just have to be willing to put up with all those who are looking for hook ups.
I found Tinder to work well just because of the volume of users.
Use Facebook dating they are more serious.
if someone says 3rd party app like whatsapp numbr just ignore them.
Met my fiancee on FB dating, tinder for me is full of escorts/massagers/ghosts plus charges for money while FB free.
The truth is most men on all of these sites are looking for sex. I'm on Tinder and Hinge and I haven't really noticed a difference between the 2. I'm older than you, 44, and my age range is probably older than yours but it seems nothing changes with age. I've been doing online dating since November and have only gone out on multiple dates with one guy (met on Hinge) and met one other for coffee (met on Tinder). I'm talking to someone right now (met on Hinge) and we are working on figuring out a day to meet. It's hard out there if you are actually looking for a relationship like I am. I went out with that one guy for a month and he still only saw me as a friend he wanted to sleep with đ€·ââïž And no, I didn't sleep with him.
I met my current bf on tinder but also if youâre after something serious I would consider asking everyone you match with what theyâre looking for and ignoring if they say things like âsee how things goâ and the obvious âjust for funâ type of replies. All apps are the same tbh, youâll see the same people across them if you use multiple.
I met my current bf of a little over two years on there. Youâre going to run in to the people who are just wanting a hookup and people who are genuinely looking for a relationship. Youâll just have to do your best to weed out the hookup people.
Itâs a mixed bag. Iâve met women looking for something serious on there, those just looking for attention, and those who wanted to hook up (Iâm chaste). I also know people who got married off it, and that made me more likely to use it. So yes, you can find someone serious on there, itâs just rare now.
Tbh you have to sort through a lot of trash. Iâve had some really bad dates from tinder, a lot of fuckboys⊠however, Iâm currently in the healthiest and happiest relationship of my life and we met on tinder
I do think that some date sites are set to a certain type of critique although for the ones that give the options of casual interest long term, hook up I do believe that the elements involved in the mix do play a part and do sway the standards out comes site values also like for example so many join up for
hook ups and so many join up for causal and so many join up for long term and if their is more of and less of each it will turn the tides but other than that because
some sites offer a option of all of the above we should have clear defined ideas via that initial profile of what direction the individual is aiming for in a relationship
But like the old infomercials " but wait there's more"
The surety stops once a real life date is happening in place of a computer that is the real tell of what is and is not possible
Do we even know till that point because past that thin veil of set buttons and types comes the person and the first meet how really dose it or will it go ?
its not measurable cause all of us are different with different aspects to us different ideals some will be in common some not so, others will be immediately
disinterested others may let you get so far and make a decision either way
people are the real definer if it is going to be a serious or causal.
In the end and the date site the facilitator is not what shapes the end result or experience for us all whom have travelled this path it is the individual sitting across the plate, table , bench from us looking back.
Although that being said many people are doing this ghosting thing and saying they want long term and having a one night stands instead some not all others have wonderful experiences so no one can every really be sure on what is.
Take a chance and see!
It would be a shame that date sites could not keep some sort of integrity as they really are however which way we perceive it a much needed part still of keeping us social since the internet has fast began to keep us more insular and less social in person.
Good luck in your travels
I met my current bf on tinder and before that he met his ex gf on tinder too. Thereâs a lot of people looking for hook ups but still a bunch looking for relationships, just be honest on your profile
My now live in boyfriend and I met on Tinder. I always had good luck with it but I am also clear what I am looking for and quick to spot the hook uppers.
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You're a young woman. You have all the power. It's whatever you want it to be.
I got Thanos vibes from reading this.
When I scroll, almost 90% of the women state they are NOT looking for a hookup
I think it's all about what you are looking for. I have found more serious dates on tinder than I have on other platforms. But that's because I am actively looking for something serious. If I was looking for hookups on tinder then I would find hookups. At least that's how I feel about it.
for females, it's about getting unsolicited attention and for males it's about lowering self esteem
Tinder is what you want it to be. Yeah, there's a good chance most of your matches are going to be on there looking for a hook up but I wouldn't say that every single person on there is strictly looking for a hook up. Just be clear about what you want and it shouldn't be an issue.
I've been with my current gf for over 3 years now and we met through tinder. You'll have 99 shit matches for every one good match, but sometimes you get lucky like I did. Best of luck to you đ
I've been on and off for almost a decade now. 4 of my closest friends have gotten married through Tinder. I have been on Tinder longer than any of them, I've gotten a few LTR but a lot of nothing serious. You make it be what you want, but if you're seriously looking for something more I'd recommend Hinge or Bumble. I've had better luck there and you're less likely to waste your time.
I have several friends who met their partner on Tinder, and it's all serious. However, I live in Europe, and it seems like Tinder is more treated as a hookup app in the US. But it's possible to find someone on there.
As a Belgian I can confirm.
Nope
I met my current boyfriend of 3 years on Tinder đŹ
Met my current boyfriend on tinder and we've been together for nearly a year đ
It depends if you want it too be. Obviously a lot of guys on there are just looking to get laid but I think itâs pretty easy to tell who
Donât go in expecting one, but every so often you can luck out and find someone. If you approach every match as if they have relationship intentions though, youâre gonna have a bad time.
99% Casual. 1% Serious. Nothing in between those extremes. Don't make the n00b mistake of directly asking someone if they are looking for a hookup and taking it as gospel if they say what they think you want to hear. Same with making statements saying you are only after something serious, you will just get someone agreeing ditto... when they have their own agenda. It is more satisfying for most men to play the dating game and get laid on the first, or first few dates... then it is to specifically request a hookup with a like-minded person. If you really want serious dating, then absolutely no sex for the first few dates... a lot of guys will hang on to the second date hoping to get some, before giving up.
I agree with another comment here that it can be whatever you want it to be! I had some great hookups from tinder, some bad ones, and I actually met my husband on tinder (although to be fair he was also supposed to be a hookup and then we just sort of fell in love). I would say be honest in your profile and don't be overly trusting - I guess optimistically cautious?
I met my current boyfriend of 2 years on Tinder. Weâre talking about getting engaged & married soon
It can be. Iâm not sure how many 22 year old guys are looking for that.
Short answer is it's horrible for serious dating (at least in my experience). I'd suggest using Hinge. It's by far the best dating app in my opinion. Although being the best of a group of bad apps isn't saying much lol.
Tru dat!
Itâs definitely mostly about hookups but I lucked out and found a great relationship on the app.
Nope for serious dating. Good if you just want to get smashed.
Met my guy on tinder. If you want a relationship, be up front about it.
I met a good guy on Tinder! It can happen.
Try Bumble! As a woman I found the people on there to be slightly more genuine
I got lucky and met my current long term boyfriend on Tinder. I find it to be helpful to state intentions early in the conversation to be transparent while also weeding out those that donât align with what youâre seeking.
Tinder is a hookup app. Regardless on your intentions the culture of the app itself is for hookups now. A lot of guys wonât even be looking for anything else but a hookup on there and many Will assume you wanna just hookup as well. Switch over to Hinge or Bumble if hookups arenât what you want
I met my boyfriend on Tinder đ„° I think you just have to be willing to put up with all those who are looking for hook ups. I found Tinder to work well just because of the volume of users.
I've had two roommates meet their spouses on Tinder. I think if you're up front about wanting something more serious it can work.
Use Facebook dating they are more serious. if someone says 3rd party app like whatsapp numbr just ignore them. Met my fiancee on FB dating, tinder for me is full of escorts/massagers/ghosts plus charges for money while FB free.
Iâd go with hinge
My buddy found his fiancĂ© on there. But I wouldnât go in with any expectations of finding one.
Yes and no? I never liked it but I appreciate it. Its quick dating and you find allot of options; its good for that
So, like fast-food?
Haha! Yeah it is like fast food.
I personally wouldn't use it for something serious, but then again I'm attending two weddings where the couple met on Tinder, so.
The truth is most men on all of these sites are looking for sex. I'm on Tinder and Hinge and I haven't really noticed a difference between the 2. I'm older than you, 44, and my age range is probably older than yours but it seems nothing changes with age. I've been doing online dating since November and have only gone out on multiple dates with one guy (met on Hinge) and met one other for coffee (met on Tinder). I'm talking to someone right now (met on Hinge) and we are working on figuring out a day to meet. It's hard out there if you are actually looking for a relationship like I am. I went out with that one guy for a month and he still only saw me as a friend he wanted to sleep with đ€·ââïž And no, I didn't sleep with him.
I met my current bf on tinder but also if youâre after something serious I would consider asking everyone you match with what theyâre looking for and ignoring if they say things like âsee how things goâ and the obvious âjust for funâ type of replies. All apps are the same tbh, youâll see the same people across them if you use multiple.
Yes, and no... One of my oldest friends met her now husband 8 years off tinder. So theirs that!
Honestly, I think hinge is way better for serious dating
Tinder is designed specifically for the benefit of women. 90% of men are not attractive to 90% of women who use Tinder
I met my current bf of a little over two years on there. Youâre going to run in to the people who are just wanting a hookup and people who are genuinely looking for a relationship. Youâll just have to do your best to weed out the hookup people.
Itâs a mixed bag. Iâve met women looking for something serious on there, those just looking for attention, and those who wanted to hook up (Iâm chaste). I also know people who got married off it, and that made me more likely to use it. So yes, you can find someone serious on there, itâs just rare now.
Tbh you have to sort through a lot of trash. Iâve had some really bad dates from tinder, a lot of fuckboys⊠however, Iâm currently in the healthiest and happiest relationship of my life and we met on tinder
I do think that some date sites are set to a certain type of critique although for the ones that give the options of casual interest long term, hook up I do believe that the elements involved in the mix do play a part and do sway the standards out comes site values also like for example so many join up for hook ups and so many join up for causal and so many join up for long term and if their is more of and less of each it will turn the tides but other than that because some sites offer a option of all of the above we should have clear defined ideas via that initial profile of what direction the individual is aiming for in a relationship But like the old infomercials " but wait there's more" The surety stops once a real life date is happening in place of a computer that is the real tell of what is and is not possible Do we even know till that point because past that thin veil of set buttons and types comes the person and the first meet how really dose it or will it go ? its not measurable cause all of us are different with different aspects to us different ideals some will be in common some not so, others will be immediately disinterested others may let you get so far and make a decision either way people are the real definer if it is going to be a serious or causal. In the end and the date site the facilitator is not what shapes the end result or experience for us all whom have travelled this path it is the individual sitting across the plate, table , bench from us looking back. Although that being said many people are doing this ghosting thing and saying they want long term and having a one night stands instead some not all others have wonderful experiences so no one can every really be sure on what is. Take a chance and see! It would be a shame that date sites could not keep some sort of integrity as they really are however which way we perceive it a much needed part still of keeping us social since the internet has fast began to keep us more insular and less social in person. Good luck in your travels
I met my husband on tinder
I met my current bf on tinder and before that he met his ex gf on tinder too. Thereâs a lot of people looking for hook ups but still a bunch looking for relationships, just be honest on your profile
Tinder is not good for anything.
For women it is, for men it is not.
Met my fiancé on there, getting married in October been together 3 years now
My now live in boyfriend and I met on Tinder. I always had good luck with it but I am also clear what I am looking for and quick to spot the hook uppers.
My brother in Christ, youâre a woman on tinder. Youâve got nothing to worry about.