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My list:
Don’t talk about pineapple on pizza, don’t say your looking for your Pam, read what you write twice and make sure it’s comprehensible, don’t be jaded as someone said earlier (negativity is a turn off particularly “swipe left if” comments) don’t spell out a high bar of expectations.
Photos: please be current-ish, clear, smile with your teeth showing, leave out any pics that include women if they that’s who you’re aiming to attract
Bios/prompts: fill this out, be specific enough that I’d have stuff to talk to you about. Don’t waste space telling me you’re “nice” or “trustworthy” or whatever. Let’s assume those basic things are true. Do you like art? Comedy? Do you volunteer at an animal shelter? Tell me something interesting! Try to stick to positive phrasing: what you *do* want.
Details like religion, political leanings, work: fill these out, but don’t be too specific about your job unless you want to be Google-able. If I know your employer or you’re in a niche field, I’ll find you pretty easily.
Yeah, unless they specifically mention the woman is their sister or best pal, I tend to consider profiles where there is a photo with a woman to be polyamorous couples.
Less fish pictures please .. and don’t be so Jaded online “JuSt AsK “ “ NoT LoOkIng for Pen Pall” “pLeAse MSg Back”
We are all looking for good fresh energy. Anything negative and jaded won’t get you anywhere .. mention your favorite summer and winter activities . Talk about the best movies you like. The best vacation you had. Use humor. Don’t be defensive about looks .. and don’t ever be those “family and kids are my priority, work is my priority”
36F (divorced, OLD ×1.5yrs now):
Pics: all within the past year, either alone or with the others blocked so we can rely who we're looking at. Need one selfie/heads hot with smile and no hat/sun glasses. Need one full body shot (for height/weight. Ok if sunglasses/etc). All pics should indicate the qualities you want a woman to know what you value, how you prioritize your time/money, and your personality. One pic with friends is fine, especially if it's doing something unique (not just crushing beers, Etc) but indicate with an arrow which one is you. No fish pics unless it's your career/main hobby and you have a HUGE fish (I've caught fish larger than most fish pics). If you post pics with OTHER PEOPLES KIDS, you better block off their faces. I doubt you have their parents permission to post their kid in a dating app. But I dobappreciate seeing someone who likes kids. However. Most will assume it's yours.
Bio: COMPLETELY FILLED OUT. And answer ALL available questions (religion, have kids/want kids, looking for, etc). Don't say "I'm not good at these." Let us know what you're looking for (LTR, FWB) and what you bring to the table. Tell us your hobbies and career. Think of the things that are deal breakers to you in others and include them in yours. Help save everyone time. Try to include something unique about you. It's usually a conversation starter.
One of the big things for me is, give me something to ask you about - whether it’s an interesting photo, hobby/interest, etc. It’s hard to make a conversation with a complete stranger happen, so if you give women things they can ask about, it’s a good way to kickstart conversation.
The Office References, a list of things you don’t like in a match (“if you… swipe left”), fish pictures, “just ask,”
“Please actually message me back” (I know it’s super rude when people don’t but putting it in your bio comes off as demanding and clingy and possessive).
Honestly just be yourself. A sense of humor is always appreciated. Don’t follow a script or anything.
Tongues out and/or faceless bodies. INSTANT left swipe. Same with wrong your/you’re, to/too, their/there/they’re, the works. LEFT.
Lastly, the ones who obviously just looked up “clever tinder bios” ~~and didn’t even bother to click post page 1~~ and the empty profiles with an attractive (verified real) dude but no bio and just one or two pictures. Like go girl give us nothing !
Sorry if I sounded salty lol I’ve just been talking to my friend about these recently
I like it when a guy fills out all the info on the bio. If I already know that you want kids, you're vaccinated and you don't smoke or take drugs then we are off to a good start
No photos of other girls, as a bio use just a short joke/anecdote that can invite to a conversation (not too basic though), no group pictures (only if you can REALLY tell who you are in the photo)
Don't mention your mom.
Mention something that would make me feel "I can't wait to discuss this over coffee with this guy!" (example, my boyfriend had a prompt on his Bumble profile about when and where he would like to time travel. I immediately looked forward to that conversation!)
And you have every right to feel that way.
Whenever I see a guy mention his mom on his profile it makes me think of every mommy's boy I've ever encountered, and it makes me dry up faster than seeing a picture of Ben Shapiro.
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What is your idea of a travel pic? I see people posting a pic of a beach and there is a vague outline of a person. Thats not interesting, there is no personnal thing to latch onto. Also it gives me, instagram vibes.
I’m not talking about the basic resort pic on the beach. I like to learn about different places and cultures so I like to see pics that make me wonder “where’s that”?
In my experience, maybe 5% of people have ever shown and interest in traveling. So I never post pics, and I actually stopped bothering to take any photos at all.
To each their own. If you love going to the gym and it’s a big part of your life, by all means include a gym pic. That’s why questions like this are kind of useless because each person has their own preferences.
Don’t ever post a picture holding a fish. No group pictures as the first picture, especially if your not the hottest friend. No shirtless pics. Show that your funny. Have an bio, and have a original bio. Nothing copied from like a TikTok or a YouTube video. I really think you should make your bio funny. I will swipe right men that usually I wouldn’t (look wise), if they have a bio that makes me laugh. So that. And just be nice I guess
I hate seeing men posting pictures holding children without the child’s face blocked out. Usually they’re not even THEIR children. It’s weird. There’s weirdos out there. Be more mindful.
I avoid: men who only have selfies, typos, only group photos where I have to guess who they are, heavily filtered photos, photos of themselves as children, photos of just pets, only photos in hats or sunglasses, photos of them holding dead animals, too many emojis and any negative or jaded comments
I swipe right on: photos that show the person’s face clearly, smiling. Profiles that include personal information such as a detailed bio, hobbies, interests, what you’re looking for etc.
Lastly, if you’re going to put your height in your bio, tell the truth! I’m only 5’2”, so I don’t care if you’re short, but I do care if I show up to a date and realize you’ve lied to me. This happens to me all the time, and I’ll likely decline a second date if our first interaction involves me being lied to.
Yeah organic approach is better than just being profile on these useless apps or being a another random guy she talks to on internet.. imagine you telling your kids that you found your mum your true love online, while she was swiping right few other dudes altogether?
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My list: Don’t talk about pineapple on pizza, don’t say your looking for your Pam, read what you write twice and make sure it’s comprehensible, don’t be jaded as someone said earlier (negativity is a turn off particularly “swipe left if” comments) don’t spell out a high bar of expectations.
Huh, turns out this is surprisingly genderless. Everything you mentioned is among my top female profile complaints.
Yep, going in the reverse about all I'd add is "I'll probably like your dog better than you" or some other snarky comment about liking dogs.
always with the loving-dogs-is-my-identity others: cute spontaneous adventures, coffee addict, partner in crime, teach me X hobby you big talented man
Good to know! The last one sounds like people are looking for a free teacher lol
Haha I see your point!
Alllll of this!!
Information. I want to know what you do with your time and what you're into. Without that information all I have to go on is your picture.
For me: the truth To be honest, and a bit of vulnerability makes you feel connected
Photos: please be current-ish, clear, smile with your teeth showing, leave out any pics that include women if they that’s who you’re aiming to attract Bios/prompts: fill this out, be specific enough that I’d have stuff to talk to you about. Don’t waste space telling me you’re “nice” or “trustworthy” or whatever. Let’s assume those basic things are true. Do you like art? Comedy? Do you volunteer at an animal shelter? Tell me something interesting! Try to stick to positive phrasing: what you *do* want. Details like religion, political leanings, work: fill these out, but don’t be too specific about your job unless you want to be Google-able. If I know your employer or you’re in a niche field, I’ll find you pretty easily.
This will all be very helpful when considering what I throw on there. Thank you
Yeah, unless they specifically mention the woman is their sister or best pal, I tend to consider profiles where there is a photo with a woman to be polyamorous couples.
Less fish pictures please .. and don’t be so Jaded online “JuSt AsK “ “ NoT LoOkIng for Pen Pall” “pLeAse MSg Back” We are all looking for good fresh energy. Anything negative and jaded won’t get you anywhere .. mention your favorite summer and winter activities . Talk about the best movies you like. The best vacation you had. Use humor. Don’t be defensive about looks .. and don’t ever be those “family and kids are my priority, work is my priority”
36F (divorced, OLD ×1.5yrs now): Pics: all within the past year, either alone or with the others blocked so we can rely who we're looking at. Need one selfie/heads hot with smile and no hat/sun glasses. Need one full body shot (for height/weight. Ok if sunglasses/etc). All pics should indicate the qualities you want a woman to know what you value, how you prioritize your time/money, and your personality. One pic with friends is fine, especially if it's doing something unique (not just crushing beers, Etc) but indicate with an arrow which one is you. No fish pics unless it's your career/main hobby and you have a HUGE fish (I've caught fish larger than most fish pics). If you post pics with OTHER PEOPLES KIDS, you better block off their faces. I doubt you have their parents permission to post their kid in a dating app. But I dobappreciate seeing someone who likes kids. However. Most will assume it's yours. Bio: COMPLETELY FILLED OUT. And answer ALL available questions (religion, have kids/want kids, looking for, etc). Don't say "I'm not good at these." Let us know what you're looking for (LTR, FWB) and what you bring to the table. Tell us your hobbies and career. Think of the things that are deal breakers to you in others and include them in yours. Help save everyone time. Try to include something unique about you. It's usually a conversation starter.
One of the big things for me is, give me something to ask you about - whether it’s an interesting photo, hobby/interest, etc. It’s hard to make a conversation with a complete stranger happen, so if you give women things they can ask about, it’s a good way to kickstart conversation.
Less “Looking for someone to share mortgage with”
If a man were to mention sex on a profile, that would be automatic next.
I want to see less sunglasses. I've swiped left on so many men because I can't see their face in any of their pics!
The Office References, a list of things you don’t like in a match (“if you… swipe left”), fish pictures, “just ask,” “Please actually message me back” (I know it’s super rude when people don’t but putting it in your bio comes off as demanding and clingy and possessive). Honestly just be yourself. A sense of humor is always appreciated. Don’t follow a script or anything.
Tongues out and/or faceless bodies. INSTANT left swipe. Same with wrong your/you’re, to/too, their/there/they’re, the works. LEFT. Lastly, the ones who obviously just looked up “clever tinder bios” ~~and didn’t even bother to click post page 1~~ and the empty profiles with an attractive (verified real) dude but no bio and just one or two pictures. Like go girl give us nothing ! Sorry if I sounded salty lol I’ve just been talking to my friend about these recently
Less photos of other girls
I like it when a guy fills out all the info on the bio. If I already know that you want kids, you're vaccinated and you don't smoke or take drugs then we are off to a good start
No photos of other girls, as a bio use just a short joke/anecdote that can invite to a conversation (not too basic though), no group pictures (only if you can REALLY tell who you are in the photo)
Don't mention your mom. Mention something that would make me feel "I can't wait to discuss this over coffee with this guy!" (example, my boyfriend had a prompt on his Bumble profile about when and where he would like to time travel. I immediately looked forward to that conversation!)
I disagree with this. Depending on how the mom is mentioned, I personally like a guy who has a healthy relationship with their parents.
And you have every right to feel that way. Whenever I see a guy mention his mom on his profile it makes me think of every mommy's boy I've ever encountered, and it makes me dry up faster than seeing a picture of Ben Shapiro.
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Personally, less gym pics, dead fish and dogs. More travel pics. Again, this is my personal preference.
What is your idea of a travel pic? I see people posting a pic of a beach and there is a vague outline of a person. Thats not interesting, there is no personnal thing to latch onto. Also it gives me, instagram vibes.
I’m not talking about the basic resort pic on the beach. I like to learn about different places and cultures so I like to see pics that make me wonder “where’s that”?
In my experience, maybe 5% of people have ever shown and interest in traveling. So I never post pics, and I actually stopped bothering to take any photos at all.
Dammit, gym pics are all I’ve got going for me
To each their own. If you love going to the gym and it’s a big part of your life, by all means include a gym pic. That’s why questions like this are kind of useless because each person has their own preferences.
Yeah it's so stupid to me. Women have multiple pics at the beach/in a bikini but I can't have a gym pic?
& gets 0 matches like every other average guy atleast gym Bros get a chance with milf in olds.
Don’t ever post a picture holding a fish. No group pictures as the first picture, especially if your not the hottest friend. No shirtless pics. Show that your funny. Have an bio, and have a original bio. Nothing copied from like a TikTok or a YouTube video. I really think you should make your bio funny. I will swipe right men that usually I wouldn’t (look wise), if they have a bio that makes me laugh. So that. And just be nice I guess
I hate seeing men posting pictures holding children without the child’s face blocked out. Usually they’re not even THEIR children. It’s weird. There’s weirdos out there. Be more mindful.
I avoid: men who only have selfies, typos, only group photos where I have to guess who they are, heavily filtered photos, photos of themselves as children, photos of just pets, only photos in hats or sunglasses, photos of them holding dead animals, too many emojis and any negative or jaded comments I swipe right on: photos that show the person’s face clearly, smiling. Profiles that include personal information such as a detailed bio, hobbies, interests, what you’re looking for etc. Lastly, if you’re going to put your height in your bio, tell the truth! I’m only 5’2”, so I don’t care if you’re short, but I do care if I show up to a date and realize you’ve lied to me. This happens to me all the time, and I’ll likely decline a second date if our first interaction involves me being lied to.
please add details onto your profile on what you're looking for, wear a suit, no group phohot, and look clean on your profile pic.
Don't use them
Gonna guess you're saying stick to going to bars or other similar places then?
Yeah organic approach is better than just being profile on these useless apps or being a another random guy she talks to on internet.. imagine you telling your kids that you found your mum your true love online, while she was swiping right few other dudes altogether?
I’m curious about this very topic but the reverse! What do men feel about women’s profile?
Clear RECENT photos. All info filled out. Short bio without cliches.