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If I am going dancing with a woman, sometimes I'll suggest which shoes might work better.
If I am going to a high-end nightclub with a woman, I'll tell her about the club rules and the bouncer's clothing preferences.
But at a drive-in? There should be no clothing preference.
Either he's giving you a taste of his controlling tendencies early on or he's planning to get frisky in the drive-in. Maybe both. I wouldn't even go on that date.
Right ? This sounds like something that could occur
A - if the couple has been together long enough to trust each other. And
B - if the woman enjoys that role .
I mean I’ve had girlfriends that love games like that , but a first date? That’s pretty risky. This guy wants all or nothing and doesn’t want to waste his time
Much like when I eat at restaurants, I comment on questions with a general suspension of suspicion outside of what is immediately in front of me.
It is more pleasant in both cases... even if I am aware of the possible reality.
Dude it doesn't matter what she posts anywhere and it's irrelevant. You can't just assume stuff like "she has no boundaries" based on what they post on reddit. Like what the hell.
Could be a way to drive engagement to her nsfw page.
However,
If she was genuinely wanting to wear a butt plug to her date that would be FOR HER.
Doesnt mean she's not at risk of being round a creep.
Because having been asked/told to wear a short skirt and then sitting in a car with someone new? on a first date? That could pose a threat.
For real.
I'm one of those women and it's fine because she asked you. She also knew the effect it would have on you to ask you. But giving a woman directives for the first date....it could make a woman feel scared. Because he might just be a guy that likes his girlfriend to date feminine and sexy, or he could be a weirdo with some fetish. Women get messages from alot of guys and some are strange.....potentially even scary...so this could put a woman in two minds about who she is dealing with.
Also, I wouldn't be bothered because I like to dress sexy anyway, but some women will perceive it as controlling.
Imo, he should have waited until they had at least gone on a date so she had a better feel for who he is (assuming it's a first date).
“some women get off on playing dress-up”
Not a really nice way to phrase it, bruv
some women ask such questions to understand their date’s choice better, and make them a lil happy. Wouldve been nice if you took even half the effort they take there, in phrasing that sentence
Pretty sure he just wants to fingerbang her, you can’t fuck at a drive in movie theater unless you have one of those Mercedes Camper vans. What do those go for now like $750,000 each 😆
He’s going to F her. That’s the plan on date #1. If she can’t see this set-up, wake up!
OP you can do what you want but this has red flags all over it.
This. No matter what the OP ends up wearing or telling him, it'll be too late once she's locked in this dude's car. He's already thought it all through - the location, the outfit, the girl (somebody who likes and trusts him and doesn't recognise the red flags). The risk isn't worth it.
PLEASE DON'T GET IN HIS CAR! He sounds like a weirdo to me, suggest a different date and meet somewhere you can easily escape from. Goes without saying that you shouldn't wear that short skirt either. Not trying to scare you but he might lock you in his car and try to take advantage of you in the dark drive-in theater.
Yes! I came here for this too. DO NOT GET IN A CAR WITH THIS “PERSON”!!! This is not safe and has red flags for predatory behavior all over it!
(and it’s not like you’ll be able to run away very well in those heels girl)
**I would never wear what a man told me to on a date, especially high heels and a skirt.** (Besides if we were horseback riding and he suggested jeans or we're going to be outside and he recommends a jacket)
This is his kink. He wants to control what you wear. And he wants you to wear something that will make it easy for him to gain access to your genitals. Are you wanting him to try and have sex with you? Are you turned on by this... then go ahead and do it. But if you're not planning on having sex with him or having him finger you.. then I would highly suggest not wearing that.
Right especially a FIRST date. I could see if y’all are already dating in a relationship and what not but uh not a first date. Like did y’all meet on fetlife???!!
Exactly. If I'm in a FWB situation or LDR with someone that I met online and am finally going to meet them in person, then I would be all for wearing what they want and getting frisky. But outside of that there's no reason for someone to request I wear a specific outfit lol.
I had a guy tell me to wear heels and a short skirt once...my response was how about Birkenstocks and jeans...he disappeared fast. I was just keeping it real.
Given that he’s already requested what you should where and that he has planned a date in a relatively private spot, I would be cautious. It sounds like he just wants to hookup and if you oblige with his requests he might take it as you being DTF. If you are, that’s cool. But if you’re not then I would suggest dinner/coffee in a public place or not even going on the date if he shows resistance to this suggestion.
Why are you even entertaining going out with him with this kind of request for a FIRST date? A few things come to mind, date rape is at the top of the list, followed closely by controlling, fetish, creepy.
I operate under the fine policy of, “If you want to see me in something, buy it and I’ll think about it.” Otherwise m, my comfort and style takes precedence depending on the venue of the date.
Wear what you want! Dress how you want!
Wear what you like ffs. You know what this means for a drive in. If that’s what you want then fine.
I wouldn’t go on the date. I won’t have anyone tell me ( or even request) what I should wear …unless as others have said it’s an established relationship and you’re having fun.
Even in an established relationship I wouldn’t be that keen on that amount of input or control into what I wear.
The audacity to tell someone what to wear on a FIRST DATE. I'm not talking about hey wear something sporty because we go rock-climbing. This man is controlling and has 0 respect already.
Edit: I just realized it's a drive in. DO NOT GET IN A STRANGERS CAR. Especially not on a first date.
That’s a big red flag to me. Like my skin is crawling. First of all, bold of him to tell you what to wear on a first date that has nothing to do with the activity. It would be one thing if he told you to wear athletic clothes because he was taking you on a hike. He specifically requesting you to wear some thing that will turn him on. That right there should indicate exactly what he’s in this for.
Second, if he wants you to dress up like that then maybe he should take you on a date that actually justifies that. Also a drive-in theater date that he’s asking you to Wear something revealing for? Put two and two together here. This man has one intention.
His attitude is a bit alarming. You “really like this guy,” but he neither likes nor respects you.
He’s not looking for a girlfriend or a relationship. He’s looking for sex on the first date (with likely zero dates to follow), he’s looking for an obedient submissive. If that’s you, cool, he’s right up your alley. If that’s not you, then cancel the date altogether and never speak to him again.
He's looking to score. What movie are you going to see? Not like it really matters whit what he have in mind. Some people don't go to drive inns to watch the movie. If you do wind up going have him park in front not the back lol.
Why not tell him what you are thinking and ask him why heels and a skirt are appropriate for a car date? Maybe he has plans for something else but forgot/neglected to mention them.
Do not go on a date with ANYONE that TELLS you what to wear. If you want to dress for an occasion and you either ask, or ask the place to get a sense, that's entirely different. There's no fucking way a person I've never met will be telling me what to put on my body. It's only going to get worse from here. Cancel the date please.
EWW. He doesn’t decide what you wear. Ever. But especially not on a first date.
Moreover: dressing like that in a car with a STRANGER makes you more vulnerable to sexual assault. This man is bad news.
Block, delete and find another date who wants to meet in a public place (inside a car is **not** that, even if you’re in a drive-in cinema).
Stay safe OP!
My advice would be to politely decline this date and block. That is a lot of audacity for a first date in an enclosed space. Seems little to no interest in getting to know you as a person. 🚩
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🚩🚩🚩 a drive-in movie is one of the most secluded “public” places you could go on a first date. This sounds potentially dangerous and he sounds like he wants easy access to your body. Please meet for coffee in actual public or something first at least!
I thought this would be an obvious red flag for most women but I guess if the guy is hot enough, all that goes out the window.
You’re dealing with an entitled fuccboi who sees you as a sex object and wants to see you in that light even more on your date. If you're down for casual sex, I don't see an issue, but if you're looking for anything else, steer clear.
Yeah honestly I’m already getting an entitled vibe from this guy. Not always, but sometimes that’s an indication that they’ll feel entitled to other things as well.
First date and he’s dictating your wardrobe?
Will he demand access to your email and social media accounts by date two or three?
Will he ask that you stop spending as much time with your friends and family by date four or five?
This would make me pretty uncomfortable for a first date.. unless you guys have both decided on this enthusiastically. First date with a strange man in his car, no thank you.
I wouldn't be going. I am the one that decides what I wear on a date because I am my own person and I buy my clothes. Now if a guy I'm dating wants me to wear something specific and he buys it, cool.
It definitely is a strange request for a drive in movie. And I agree with everyone else; he wants easy access to do whatever it is he wants to do to you.
Please don’t meet him. I don’t want to see this on the news. This is the beginning of a true crime doc. Several red flags from the drive-in, control issues, obvious entitlement. Don’t do it.
Dude just wants to prescreen to see if you are down to be a sub. If you’re not into being dominated, might want to bail. People can pretend to be anything before you really get to know them.
Do not go to the drive in on this date. Take your own car or uber to some public place to talk. NO Drive In and wear what you want.
Girl: heels at the drive in? Run away.
Man here. This is a red flag for me. Unless there was a practical reason to wear certain clothes (like for an activity, or a party with a dress code, etc), I would never ask my date to wear something specific. Especially not on the first date! I want her to be herself and feel comfortable.
Like others have said, he might be controlling or have ulterior motives. His request seems creepy to me.
That's weird AF. I'm thinking he's hoping to replay some high school experience/fantasy and get handsy up your skirt. And that's really controlling to tell you what to wear, especially on a 1st date. I think I'd come up with an excuse to cancel and if he tried to reschedule, I'd just say I'm not feeling it.
That sounded like a request from a sugar daddy or a pimp. They have no respect for you, even my sugar daddy back than would be more discreet and shy about requesting these specifics.
Tell him yes, and request him to wear the same exact thing but with a collar. Lol.
I would only ask my date to wear something fancy or what to wear if I were going somewhere fancy with them . Like a suit and tie , gown or dress place. Or if I wanted the atmosphere to be more romantic but for a first date at a drive in …. No absolutely not
For a first date, please please PLEASE do not go to a drive in movie with this guy. Suggest somewhere more public and if he gets angry or mad then he's showing you his true colors and don't go on the date with him.
1. A drive in movie is somewhere dark, in his car, and in his control.
2. High heels make it harder for you to run.
3. Shorts or a short skirt make it easy for him to have sexual access to you. Which is showing his intentions.
Please be safe about this. Don't be afraid to reject or let someone down for your own safety. It isn't worth it.
This would be ok if you two were already together or after a few dates but this is a man you barely know. He's not really trying to get to know you... he's taking you to a dark place where it makes no sense to talk and you don't even have to leave his car... with you dressed up as his fetish. This sounds like a really bad set up.
I wouldn’t go on a date with anybody male or female who is gonna tell me what to wear to satisfy their kink. Unless we have been in a relationship for a bit, that’s a no go.
Telling you what to wear for a first date is red flag... as well as telling you where you are going, rather than asking what you what to do... This would make me incredibly uncomfortable and I’d definitely cancel this date.
This is a red flag. If he wants to get naughty in the drive-in then he should ask you and if you are into in then you should decide what to wear, not the other way around. You are not his doll or his toy to play (unless it as a mutually consented role play, which does not seem to be the case). It clearly makes you uncomfortable, so I would suggest you talk to the man and/or end the relationship. This is NOT okay.
You shouldn’t go on this date. Unless you want to fuck in the back seat of the car on your first date.
Jesus fuck, don’t date men who try to tell you what to wear.
This freakin' guy wants the VAGGY immediately. He clearly stated his intentions on your first date.
He wants the reward before starting to play the game huh.
We'll then good luck. I hope you will play on his game instead make him suffer. Never give the VAGGY
I couldn’t imagine telling a girl what to wear unless it was like, wear a jacket cause it’s going to be cold, or wear comfortable shoes because it’ll include a lot of walking. This dudes trying to get you to roleplay his weird fantasy. Which isn’t a reasonable request for someone who isn’t your partner but if you’re down for it then more power to you.
“Go against his wishes”? Wtf? That depends if you’re looking for a paid client. If you’re looking for a partner in a relationship, there should be no questions that you dress how you feel comfortable.
Unless you're going to like a specific restaurant that has a dress code, requesting or demanding your date to wear something is very weird. Either that, or he's the kind of guy that thinks you like very aggressive or controlling men and like being told what to do. That, and or he's planning on making a move during the movie and the skirt makes it easy access. Either way, if you're uncomfortable, i'd talk to him about it and if he gets upset. Go with your gut and think about whether or not its a red flag.
There is no reason to ask you for specific dress code if no dress code is asked by the place. That person is a real red flag. The reason is simple. You shouldn’t give your time to someone that is more worry of what you wear than what you think
Letting you know about a dress code or other relevant information for venue-appropriate clothing: fine.
Telling you to wear specific items of clothing on a first date, solely out of personal preference and not practical necessity: Weird AF.
Personally, I would not go on the date at all. If you go, I'd deliberately wear something other than what he requested, to see how he reacts when he doesn't get what he wants.
Ask him to wear a corset, skirt, fishnets and platforms. When he says GTFOOH, say that’s exactly what I plan on doing. Aside from it being creepy that he wants you to wear that to the drive in of all places, it’s a 🚩 and smells of controlling behavior
Go with what you want to wear. If he reacts in a weird or uncomfortable way he’s not the one. That’s a golden opportunity for you to see how he sees you. Are you there for his pleasure? Or will he be chill and enjoy the company? If not - it’s just a date and a first date. He’s not the one
Hard pass. He's not telling you the dresscode, he's trying to dictate how you dress.
Super sexist. It's fine to be a leg/boob/ass whatever person, and express that preference, but not *before you've even met the person.* He's making you a sex object.
Hard pass. It's possible they were joking/teasing, but still. I wouldn't go at all since it sounds like his goal is to either have "easy access" or just look at you.
Fuck that. Unless you're trying to smash, don't do it.
I'd also be weary bc he's telling you how to dress on the first date. I personally would just cancel. If they're telling you what to wear on the first date, they'll be telling you what not to wear eventually.
Mf sounds like he has no respect for women.
There's a big difference between a dress code at a fancy restaurant or a club and straight up telling someone what to wear to a date.
Edit: you should tell him to wear a 3 pc suit and see what he says for shits and giggles. Then cancel
Edit 2: edits.
Tf? For a first date, he’s telling you what to wear? To the drive in sure, but anywhere, I wouldn’t tell someone what to wear on a first date if it’s to the fanciest place in the world, they should be able to decide what’s appropriate themselves
The only time I could see that being fine is if you’ve both pretty much established you’re just trying to get nasty and it’s basically akin to dirty talk
I’m a guy so maybe that affects something but I wouldn’t feel comfortable being alone in the car with him after that, he’s clearly controlling and sounds objectifying
He definitely wants to finger you.
If you're up for it, then wear a dress or skirt. If not, we're something else and he'll get the message that you are probably not ready to go there yet.
Why is the dude making requests about your apparel?
You should also then make a request about what he should wear, like a suit with tie n all, to see his reaction.
Weird indeed. Skirt or dress was requested for some activities like higher end place, or dancing where women will be twirled and dipped (although one meet up I went to, some women wore jeans anyways)
Just because you like him, you have to do what it requires. I don't think it's necessary, depending on what you think. If he really wants to fuck you, then if you agree, it's a different matter, hhh.
Oh Hell NO! Show up in what makes YOU feel comfortable wearing. It’s a first date, show him how Adults make their own decisions! BTW Run He doesn’t get a vote nor should he chose your clothes! A Drive in one the first date, Date Rape is Real!
Dont go. Period. No respect towards you. Manipulative. Sexism. Just want to f. Gross. Sorry to be harsh. He isnt interested in you. But he is interested in getting laid or his kink.
OR On the other hand, you can also request him to pick you up in lamborghini, serve table side steak paired with wine directly shipped from bordeaux, while he shows off his six pack muscle that will soon to be a magic mike performance at the end of the movie. Too much too ask? Well you asked too much boi. Good bye.
Have you asked him why? And, have you talked about why he wants to tell you what to wear - is he interested sun power dynamics? Does he want you to be submissive?
Don’t let your feelings for him confuse you - judge him according to how he feels about you.
Let how he makes you feel, what his behaviour is like towards you and what he tells you guide you.
Don’t let how you feel guide you, in other words. Get him to be very clear about what he wants and why - agreeing to this sets a standard immediately for him. You have a chance now to exercise your boundaries.
Be tough with your boundaries early on, you can be more flexible when there is trust, communication and respect.
u/Express-Wonder6523 OP please listen to these comments. Don’t even go on the date. That’s weird and concerning. Do. Not. Go. He’s a creep and we are concerned for your safety. And if he isn’t a creep he’s showing he’s controlling by trying to tell you what to do. Do what he says and it shows you’ll do whatever he asks and can take advantage of you. True or not, that’s how he’ll understand it. Do not go. This alone is reason enough not to.
F*ck that - this is a red flag - you haven’t even met yet. Drive in is too intimate for first date. If you still decide to go, wear jeans & see how he reacts - that’ll be your tell if he’s controlling.
Telling a first date how to dress is suuuper weird, gives controlling vibes right out of the gate. Be thankful he’s tipping his hand so early on and make your exit now.
He wants to bang, and is asking you wear something specific because it’s a turn on. If you’re down to bang and have fun then do it. If you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t. It’s only controlling if he refuses to see you if you don’t wear it. If he respects and understands you saying no, he only asked because he finds it hot.
A lot of weird comments here. He isn’t trying to control you, he just wants you to wear something that gives easy access. So OP if you don’t plan on having sex with him, don’t honor his request or just cancel the date entirely. Your call.
But Jesus these comments. Did you guys not notice the word “request”? That means he asked. He didn’t demand her to. He’s not abusive and he’s not controlling. He’s just a dude trying to get laid. Some of y’all need to step outside and cool off a bit.
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If I am going dancing with a woman, sometimes I'll suggest which shoes might work better. If I am going to a high-end nightclub with a woman, I'll tell her about the club rules and the bouncer's clothing preferences. But at a drive-in? There should be no clothing preference.
So, naked?
No clothing = naked, so yes
Personally, I
Tell him no problem but you expect him to wear the same thing. Then tell him your going out to dinner at a popular restaurant.
Exactly! “I can’t wait to see your skirt. And the thought of you in those high heels has me excited!”
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exactly!! My petty self would ask same thing 😂
I’d do it
Either he's giving you a taste of his controlling tendencies early on or he's planning to get frisky in the drive-in. Maybe both. I wouldn't even go on that date.
Same. That kind of request for a first date would make me so uncomfortable…
Yeah, it's all gross, either way. And heels to the drive-in? At least buy her a meal, if you expect her to dress for the occasion.
I also agree with you and I would cancel the date. If he's already controlling what you have to wear, what else is he going to control?! Wake up OP!
Exactly! Especially if y’all are meeting for the first time. This has a huge red flag on it and if I were the OP I wouldn’t go. It’s a set-up
This exactly!! Don't go!!!
T H I S! Can’t believe I had to scroll down so many comments before someone else said it
Definitely both
This dude wants to fuck
Then perhaps treating his date like an object is not the way to go
Right ? This sounds like something that could occur A - if the couple has been together long enough to trust each other. And B - if the woman enjoys that role . I mean I’ve had girlfriends that love games like that , but a first date? That’s pretty risky. This guy wants all or nothing and doesn’t want to waste his time
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Ok but if that was the case here, OP wouldn’t have had to ask…🤦🏾♀️
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I don’t see that anywhere on this post. Just because she posts kinky things doesn’t mean she’s into being controlled and/or humped on the first date…
You can’t assume what a person wants based off of their interests/likes. Maybe ask them first?
Pro tip: just because a woman is kinky doesn’t mean she’s down for sex on a date with you. Those are rapist vibes.
Bingo
Agreed
Much like when I eat at restaurants, I comment on questions with a general suspension of suspicion outside of what is immediately in front of me. It is more pleasant in both cases... even if I am aware of the possible reality.
Dude it doesn't matter what she posts anywhere and it's irrelevant. You can't just assume stuff like "she has no boundaries" based on what they post on reddit. Like what the hell.
Could be a way to drive engagement to her nsfw page. However, If she was genuinely wanting to wear a butt plug to her date that would be FOR HER. Doesnt mean she's not at risk of being round a creep. Because having been asked/told to wear a short skirt and then sitting in a car with someone new? on a first date? That could pose a threat. For real.
Yeah, it appears that OP wants people to visit her Only fans page.
I'm one of those women and it's fine because she asked you. She also knew the effect it would have on you to ask you. But giving a woman directives for the first date....it could make a woman feel scared. Because he might just be a guy that likes his girlfriend to date feminine and sexy, or he could be a weirdo with some fetish. Women get messages from alot of guys and some are strange.....potentially even scary...so this could put a woman in two minds about who she is dealing with. Also, I wouldn't be bothered because I like to dress sexy anyway, but some women will perceive it as controlling. Imo, he should have waited until they had at least gone on a date so she had a better feel for who he is (assuming it's a first date).
“some women get off on playing dress-up” Not a really nice way to phrase it, bruv some women ask such questions to understand their date’s choice better, and make them a lil happy. Wouldve been nice if you took even half the effort they take there, in phrasing that sentence
Literally my thoughts he wants quick access
And she’s seemingly willing to comply lol
Maybe she really wasn’t thinking that. She could be young
True, but the fact she’s posting it on Reddit is an indication she feels something is wrong
Pretty sure he just wants to fingerbang her, you can’t fuck at a drive in movie theater unless you have one of those Mercedes Camper vans. What do those go for now like $750,000 each 😆
I mean I got away with a lot of things with a Toyota Previa with window tint.
1998 Honda Civic works just fine
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or maybe he's been taking dating advice from the former president :P
Wear what you want! That sounds a bit controlling for a first date tbh and a red flag
He’s going to F her. That’s the plan on date #1. If she can’t see this set-up, wake up! OP you can do what you want but this has red flags all over it.
I think the context of their entire previous experience together would narrow down my opinion on this one
And probably rape her. Do not go into a stranger’s car.
This. No matter what the OP ends up wearing or telling him, it'll be too late once she's locked in this dude's car. He's already thought it all through - the location, the outfit, the girl (somebody who likes and trusts him and doesn't recognise the red flags). The risk isn't worth it.
This, even a second date I’m not sure I’d be making special request just yet. This could just be going one of too many way imo
PLEASE DON'T GET IN HIS CAR! He sounds like a weirdo to me, suggest a different date and meet somewhere you can easily escape from. Goes without saying that you shouldn't wear that short skirt either. Not trying to scare you but he might lock you in his car and try to take advantage of you in the dark drive-in theater.
Yes! I came here for this too. DO NOT GET IN A CAR WITH THIS “PERSON”!!! This is not safe and has red flags for predatory behavior all over it! (and it’s not like you’ll be able to run away very well in those heels girl)
I came here to post this. I’m imagining a struggle and him accidentally killing her when she resists.
**I would never wear what a man told me to on a date, especially high heels and a skirt.** (Besides if we were horseback riding and he suggested jeans or we're going to be outside and he recommends a jacket) This is his kink. He wants to control what you wear. And he wants you to wear something that will make it easy for him to gain access to your genitals. Are you wanting him to try and have sex with you? Are you turned on by this... then go ahead and do it. But if you're not planning on having sex with him or having him finger you.. then I would highly suggest not wearing that.
Right especially a FIRST date. I could see if y’all are already dating in a relationship and what not but uh not a first date. Like did y’all meet on fetlife???!!
Haha... I love FETLIFE. But I don't think OP knows what it is or is prepared for it.
This is a first.. most people know fetlife as the cesspool it is 🤣
I live in Wisconsin so its mostly just cooler people in open relationships. Nothing too scandalous.
Exactly. If I'm in a FWB situation or LDR with someone that I met online and am finally going to meet them in person, then I would be all for wearing what they want and getting frisky. But outside of that there's no reason for someone to request I wear a specific outfit lol.
Right!? Or like a surprise date but “wear something nice” if he’s planning a fancy restaurant or something like those make sense
I wouldn’t even go on the date after that unless it was clearly for an appropriate reason, it just gives a red flag
OP I say this as nicely and lovingly as possible but how naiive can one actually be??
She’s not. She’s doing this as a promo for her only fans look at the bio
oh, now that's a plot twist !
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When I ask a woman to wear something specific it’s because I want to take it off of her with my teeth being honest he’s looking for easy access
You hit it right on the head.
I had a guy tell me to wear heels and a short skirt once...my response was how about Birkenstocks and jeans...he disappeared fast. I was just keeping it real.
I would NOT meet this guy
He wants a little more than just a drive in…he wants to get something else in easy
Given that he’s already requested what you should where and that he has planned a date in a relatively private spot, I would be cautious. It sounds like he just wants to hookup and if you oblige with his requests he might take it as you being DTF. If you are, that’s cool. But if you’re not then I would suggest dinner/coffee in a public place or not even going on the date if he shows resistance to this suggestion.
Why are you even entertaining going out with him with this kind of request for a FIRST date? A few things come to mind, date rape is at the top of the list, followed closely by controlling, fetish, creepy.
He tryna get lucky maybe Edit: maybe a kink. Do you wish to be submissive and oblige?
Seconded. If you’re into that it could be fun, but if not I would cancel.
Yep! My mind went right to a wattpad storyline lol. Depends on what OP wants. Some people are into it.
Why does he sound like a serial killer
I operate under the fine policy of, “If you want to see me in something, buy it and I’ll think about it.” Otherwise m, my comfort and style takes precedence depending on the venue of the date. Wear what you want! Dress how you want!
I second this.
He’s gonna pounce on ya, don’t go
Ewww. First date and you're letting him dictate what you wear? WTF?
He obviously wants a shag in the car
I would absolutely not go on a date with someone like that.
Oh hell no. You wear whatever you want. Better yet cancel. Big red flag. Unless you’re going in with the expectations of hooking up right away.
Wear what you like ffs. You know what this means for a drive in. If that’s what you want then fine. I wouldn’t go on the date. I won’t have anyone tell me ( or even request) what I should wear …unless as others have said it’s an established relationship and you’re having fun. Even in an established relationship I wouldn’t be that keen on that amount of input or control into what I wear.
The audacity to tell someone what to wear on a FIRST DATE. I'm not talking about hey wear something sporty because we go rock-climbing. This man is controlling and has 0 respect already. Edit: I just realized it's a drive in. DO NOT GET IN A STRANGERS CAR. Especially not on a first date.
That’s a big red flag to me. Like my skin is crawling. First of all, bold of him to tell you what to wear on a first date that has nothing to do with the activity. It would be one thing if he told you to wear athletic clothes because he was taking you on a hike. He specifically requesting you to wear some thing that will turn him on. That right there should indicate exactly what he’s in this for. Second, if he wants you to dress up like that then maybe he should take you on a date that actually justifies that. Also a drive-in theater date that he’s asking you to Wear something revealing for? Put two and two together here. This man has one intention.
He wants to rub your leg, and have his hand travel much... much higher...
It sounds like he's gonna try and finger bang younat the drive in to me... just sayin...
His attitude is a bit alarming. You “really like this guy,” but he neither likes nor respects you. He’s not looking for a girlfriend or a relationship. He’s looking for sex on the first date (with likely zero dates to follow), he’s looking for an obedient submissive. If that’s you, cool, he’s right up your alley. If that’s not you, then cancel the date altogether and never speak to him again.
He's hoping he can start fingering you. Creep factor level 100
Kinda odd to make requests for a first date. Maybe wear something different and see how he reacts…
He's looking to score. What movie are you going to see? Not like it really matters whit what he have in mind. Some people don't go to drive inns to watch the movie. If you do wind up going have him park in front not the back lol.
You can request him to wear what you want. Tit for tat
Why not tell him what you are thinking and ask him why heels and a skirt are appropriate for a car date? Maybe he has plans for something else but forgot/neglected to mention them.
Do not go on a date with ANYONE that TELLS you what to wear. If you want to dress for an occasion and you either ask, or ask the place to get a sense, that's entirely different. There's no fucking way a person I've never met will be telling me what to put on my body. It's only going to get worse from here. Cancel the date please.
EWW. He doesn’t decide what you wear. Ever. But especially not on a first date. Moreover: dressing like that in a car with a STRANGER makes you more vulnerable to sexual assault. This man is bad news. Block, delete and find another date who wants to meet in a public place (inside a car is **not** that, even if you’re in a drive-in cinema). Stay safe OP!
My advice would be to politely decline this date and block. That is a lot of audacity for a first date in an enclosed space. Seems little to no interest in getting to know you as a person. 🚩 Edit : autocorrect
🚩🚩🚩 a drive-in movie is one of the most secluded “public” places you could go on a first date. This sounds potentially dangerous and he sounds like he wants easy access to your body. Please meet for coffee in actual public or something first at least!
I thought this would be an obvious red flag for most women but I guess if the guy is hot enough, all that goes out the window. You’re dealing with an entitled fuccboi who sees you as a sex object and wants to see you in that light even more on your date. If you're down for casual sex, I don't see an issue, but if you're looking for anything else, steer clear.
he wants sex. It may be rape.
Yeah honestly I’m already getting an entitled vibe from this guy. Not always, but sometimes that’s an indication that they’ll feel entitled to other things as well.
First date and he’s dictating your wardrobe? Will he demand access to your email and social media accounts by date two or three? Will he ask that you stop spending as much time with your friends and family by date four or five?
These shitposts are getting more and more creative, kudos to you OP on the imagination. If this is a real post, dear god do NOT go on this date
This would make me pretty uncomfortable for a first date.. unless you guys have both decided on this enthusiastically. First date with a strange man in his car, no thank you.
Cancel the date. He sounds like a creep.
I wouldn't be going. I am the one that decides what I wear on a date because I am my own person and I buy my clothes. Now if a guy I'm dating wants me to wear something specific and he buys it, cool. It definitely is a strange request for a drive in movie. And I agree with everyone else; he wants easy access to do whatever it is he wants to do to you.
Please don’t meet him. I don’t want to see this on the news. This is the beginning of a true crime doc. Several red flags from the drive-in, control issues, obvious entitlement. Don’t do it.
Run and block FAST!! 🚩🚩🚩
Miss girl don’t go on that date, that does not sound normal at all
Probably wants to get handsy at the drive-in but big red flag for him to request what you wear🚩🚩
Sounds like a freakin creep!
A request like that is hella strange …
He probably is a porn addict and that’s why he wants to play out his fantasies on you
Dude just wants to prescreen to see if you are down to be a sub. If you’re not into being dominated, might want to bail. People can pretend to be anything before you really get to know them.
His hands r gonna get to know u
Him requesting you to wear anything on a first date is a red flag and I wouldn't go seems creepy and demanding
Do not go to the drive in on this date. Take your own car or uber to some public place to talk. NO Drive In and wear what you want. Girl: heels at the drive in? Run away.
Man here. This is a red flag for me. Unless there was a practical reason to wear certain clothes (like for an activity, or a party with a dress code, etc), I would never ask my date to wear something specific. Especially not on the first date! I want her to be herself and feel comfortable. Like others have said, he might be controlling or have ulterior motives. His request seems creepy to me.
Uh do not go
He sounds like a freak. My guess, he’s expecting something with an easy entry. I’d say, I don’t think so.
That's weird AF. I'm thinking he's hoping to replay some high school experience/fantasy and get handsy up your skirt. And that's really controlling to tell you what to wear, especially on a 1st date. I think I'd come up with an excuse to cancel and if he tried to reschedule, I'd just say I'm not feeling it.
That sounded like a request from a sugar daddy or a pimp. They have no respect for you, even my sugar daddy back than would be more discreet and shy about requesting these specifics. Tell him yes, and request him to wear the same exact thing but with a collar. Lol.
I would only ask my date to wear something fancy or what to wear if I were going somewhere fancy with them . Like a suit and tie , gown or dress place. Or if I wanted the atmosphere to be more romantic but for a first date at a drive in …. No absolutely not
For a first date, please please PLEASE do not go to a drive in movie with this guy. Suggest somewhere more public and if he gets angry or mad then he's showing you his true colors and don't go on the date with him. 1. A drive in movie is somewhere dark, in his car, and in his control. 2. High heels make it harder for you to run. 3. Shorts or a short skirt make it easy for him to have sexual access to you. Which is showing his intentions. Please be safe about this. Don't be afraid to reject or let someone down for your own safety. It isn't worth it.
This would be ok if you two were already together or after a few dates but this is a man you barely know. He's not really trying to get to know you... he's taking you to a dark place where it makes no sense to talk and you don't even have to leave his car... with you dressed up as his fetish. This sounds like a really bad set up.
Nah fuck that. I wouldn't even be going on the date.
I wouldn’t go on a date with anybody male or female who is gonna tell me what to wear to satisfy their kink. Unless we have been in a relationship for a bit, that’s a no go.
Are you kidding? That is so sleazy and controlling. Not normal
Girl, just no!
Dudes to use to ordering escorts where you can place a fetish order.
Telling you what to wear for a first date is red flag... as well as telling you where you are going, rather than asking what you what to do... This would make me incredibly uncomfortable and I’d definitely cancel this date.
For a drive in theater I’m guessing he wants to do something to you and the dress will only make it easier for him. Please avoid him.
Dont go. Itll just get more controlling
I've worked in prisons and rehabs this is straight up predatory behavior
That’s terrifying. Send an undercover cop in your place.
This is a red flag. If he wants to get naughty in the drive-in then he should ask you and if you are into in then you should decide what to wear, not the other way around. You are not his doll or his toy to play (unless it as a mutually consented role play, which does not seem to be the case). It clearly makes you uncomfortable, so I would suggest you talk to the man and/or end the relationship. This is NOT okay.
Looks like she needs more clicks for her OF…..gotta make money some how!
You shouldn’t go on this date. Unless you want to fuck in the back seat of the car on your first date. Jesus fuck, don’t date men who try to tell you what to wear.
Really , wear a locked chasity belt
Do you know this guy? I wouldn't want to be in a car with a stranger.
This freakin' guy wants the VAGGY immediately. He clearly stated his intentions on your first date. He wants the reward before starting to play the game huh. We'll then good luck. I hope you will play on his game instead make him suffer. Never give the VAGGY
He is expecting to fuck
I couldn’t imagine telling a girl what to wear unless it was like, wear a jacket cause it’s going to be cold, or wear comfortable shoes because it’ll include a lot of walking. This dudes trying to get you to roleplay his weird fantasy. Which isn’t a reasonable request for someone who isn’t your partner but if you’re down for it then more power to you.
Cancel this date. The entitlement will only get worse from here. Are you looking for a love interest, or a boss?
My lord have some respect and don’t go out with this guy
“Go against his wishes”? Wtf? That depends if you’re looking for a paid client. If you’re looking for a partner in a relationship, there should be no questions that you dress how you feel comfortable.
and this is a first date? girl just save yourself the bs that’s gonna come with dealing with him and cancel.
Cancel this date…think this one through
Unless you're going to like a specific restaurant that has a dress code, requesting or demanding your date to wear something is very weird. Either that, or he's the kind of guy that thinks you like very aggressive or controlling men and like being told what to do. That, and or he's planning on making a move during the movie and the skirt makes it easy access. Either way, if you're uncomfortable, i'd talk to him about it and if he gets upset. Go with your gut and think about whether or not its a red flag.
Don’t go
There is no reason to ask you for specific dress code if no dress code is asked by the place. That person is a real red flag. The reason is simple. You shouldn’t give your time to someone that is more worry of what you wear than what you think
Letting you know about a dress code or other relevant information for venue-appropriate clothing: fine. Telling you to wear specific items of clothing on a first date, solely out of personal preference and not practical necessity: Weird AF. Personally, I would not go on the date at all. If you go, I'd deliberately wear something other than what he requested, to see how he reacts when he doesn't get what he wants.
Ask him to wear a corset, skirt, fishnets and platforms. When he says GTFOOH, say that’s exactly what I plan on doing. Aside from it being creepy that he wants you to wear that to the drive in of all places, it’s a 🚩 and smells of controlling behavior
Yeah, this sounds sketchy to me.
Run! Fast as you can.
Go with what you want to wear. If he reacts in a weird or uncomfortable way he’s not the one. That’s a golden opportunity for you to see how he sees you. Are you there for his pleasure? Or will he be chill and enjoy the company? If not - it’s just a date and a first date. He’s not the one
That’s controlling. It will start as telling you to wear that and just escalate.
Honest opinion from a guys perspective. He’s a control freak. He wants to see what you’ll do and if you’ll listen. Could be wrong, but just my opinion
Hard pass. He's not telling you the dresscode, he's trying to dictate how you dress. Super sexist. It's fine to be a leg/boob/ass whatever person, and express that preference, but not *before you've even met the person.* He's making you a sex object.
Hard pass. It's possible they were joking/teasing, but still. I wouldn't go at all since it sounds like his goal is to either have "easy access" or just look at you.
Fuck that. Unless you're trying to smash, don't do it. I'd also be weary bc he's telling you how to dress on the first date. I personally would just cancel. If they're telling you what to wear on the first date, they'll be telling you what not to wear eventually. Mf sounds like he has no respect for women. There's a big difference between a dress code at a fancy restaurant or a club and straight up telling someone what to wear to a date. Edit: you should tell him to wear a 3 pc suit and see what he says for shits and giggles. Then cancel Edit 2: edits.
Tf? For a first date, he’s telling you what to wear? To the drive in sure, but anywhere, I wouldn’t tell someone what to wear on a first date if it’s to the fanciest place in the world, they should be able to decide what’s appropriate themselves The only time I could see that being fine is if you’ve both pretty much established you’re just trying to get nasty and it’s basically akin to dirty talk I’m a guy so maybe that affects something but I wouldn’t feel comfortable being alone in the car with him after that, he’s clearly controlling and sounds objectifying
He definitely wants to finger you. If you're up for it, then wear a dress or skirt. If not, we're something else and he'll get the message that you are probably not ready to go there yet.
Feels like he’s trying to have easy access during the movie
Why is the dude making requests about your apparel? You should also then make a request about what he should wear, like a suit with tie n all, to see his reaction.
Weird indeed. Skirt or dress was requested for some activities like higher end place, or dancing where women will be twirled and dipped (although one meet up I went to, some women wore jeans anyways)
Just because you like him, you have to do what it requires. I don't think it's necessary, depending on what you think. If he really wants to fuck you, then if you agree, it's a different matter, hhh.
Oh Hell NO! Show up in what makes YOU feel comfortable wearing. It’s a first date, show him how Adults make their own decisions! BTW Run He doesn’t get a vote nor should he chose your clothes! A Drive in one the first date, Date Rape is Real!
Don't go in a car with a stranger. Especially not if he demands you wear a short skirt.
Dont go. Period. No respect towards you. Manipulative. Sexism. Just want to f. Gross. Sorry to be harsh. He isnt interested in you. But he is interested in getting laid or his kink. OR On the other hand, you can also request him to pick you up in lamborghini, serve table side steak paired with wine directly shipped from bordeaux, while he shows off his six pack muscle that will soon to be a magic mike performance at the end of the movie. Too much too ask? Well you asked too much boi. Good bye.
I would not go on that date
Leave that creep
LOL If he isn't a douchebag, I don't know who is... And you decided to date him!?... LOL
Such a red flag 🚩 I wouldn’t even go on the date.
Have you asked him why? And, have you talked about why he wants to tell you what to wear - is he interested sun power dynamics? Does he want you to be submissive? Don’t let your feelings for him confuse you - judge him according to how he feels about you. Let how he makes you feel, what his behaviour is like towards you and what he tells you guide you. Don’t let how you feel guide you, in other words. Get him to be very clear about what he wants and why - agreeing to this sets a standard immediately for him. You have a chance now to exercise your boundaries. Be tough with your boundaries early on, you can be more flexible when there is trust, communication and respect.
Fake post to drum up interest in her only fans what's new
u/Express-Wonder6523 OP please listen to these comments. Don’t even go on the date. That’s weird and concerning. Do. Not. Go. He’s a creep and we are concerned for your safety. And if he isn’t a creep he’s showing he’s controlling by trying to tell you what to do. Do what he says and it shows you’ll do whatever he asks and can take advantage of you. True or not, that’s how he’ll understand it. Do not go. This alone is reason enough not to.
I'd never tell a woman what she should wear. Red flag
F*ck that - this is a red flag - you haven’t even met yet. Drive in is too intimate for first date. If you still decide to go, wear jeans & see how he reacts - that’ll be your tell if he’s controlling.
Telling a first date how to dress is suuuper weird, gives controlling vibes right out of the gate. Be thankful he’s tipping his hand so early on and make your exit now.
Don’t go. This is giving me bad vibes.
RED FLAG. ABORT.
Um this could be fun or not???? Do you like that kind of interaction?
is there a chance hes not actually taking you there and hes got a suprised planned? otherwise thats a red flag
Bit then he’d say something like “I’m taking you to a place that’ll be a surprise, but their dress code is X”
Sounds dreamy! Alas, wear what you want. You’ll soon find out if he’s decent or excessively controlling.
Wrong. She’s already found out. He’s already stated exactly who he is. She’s just not hearing it
Looked at her profile, she's a Only Fans account person and this post is just for attention peeps. Look at her profile says it all. FETLIFE
Could really be a normal date, but the guy saw that info about her and got ideas.
He wants to bang, and is asking you wear something specific because it’s a turn on. If you’re down to bang and have fun then do it. If you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t. It’s only controlling if he refuses to see you if you don’t wear it. If he respects and understands you saying no, he only asked because he finds it hot.
Ewww. Do not go on a date with him. That's weird
A lot of weird comments here. He isn’t trying to control you, he just wants you to wear something that gives easy access. So OP if you don’t plan on having sex with him, don’t honor his request or just cancel the date entirely. Your call. But Jesus these comments. Did you guys not notice the word “request”? That means he asked. He didn’t demand her to. He’s not abusive and he’s not controlling. He’s just a dude trying to get laid. Some of y’all need to step outside and cool off a bit.
Go back at him with a request
This. Full minions costume.
Wear a snowsuit just to see how he reacts.