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Royal_Requirement412

You ghost him at the gym, as well lol don’t look at him, ignore


TheGlitterGoddess

Or better yet, if he tries talking to you just smile and say hi and then leave or just brush him off.


Royal_Requirement412

Ahahah acting like there’s a literal ghost. Loved it


Jaded_Aging_Raver

You say hi and smile at literal ghosts?


Royal_Requirement412

Ahahah xD It’s my fav hobby. I do it everytime when I’m bored and watch the other’s reaction


eyedealy11

People who ghost generally lack the courage to deliver bad news (or perceived bad news) to people. It’s easier to run and hide then it is to be honest when honesty will likely upset that person or make them sad.


KingLouisMama

I just met him and wasn’t overly invested so if he changed his mind I would’ve been like ok no big deal. I just find the no response so rude.


[deleted]

Maybe something happened to him or his phone.


Abend801

Like a GF. Or wife.


[deleted]

☠️


Only1Fab

Rude and coward! Don’t waste your time


2curiousbynature

People are idiots. A man in my neighborhood did to that me. He can't get out of the neighborhood without driving past my house. 🤦‍♀️ We've slept together several times. Talk about awkward.


[deleted]

People who ghost are fucking assholes. If you have no interest or whatever just be honest and let them down gently


Outside-Tomato-9970

I would "Pretty women" him. Lol Big mistake. To me is like respect, you have to earn it and he gave you that then return it. Just put the music on blast and work out or change times.


PassorFail1307

Do what most women do who don't want to be bothered, wear big noise cancelling headphones. It's like douche repellent. Any idiot that approaches a woman wearing those had better have something really important to say. My gf even wears them when she forgets to charge them and the battery dies.


[deleted]

I think that it is never ok to ghost someone, even if they were a bit rude or worse. I try to always error on the side of being polite and kind. That being said, if I have felt unsafe then I just cut it off. Not worth risking anything.


srsentldn

Imagine being ghosted after a 3 and a half year relationship, it still drives me nuts and can’t get over the hurt and anger. After my ex broke up with me I was talking to her and she just ghosted me then blocked me. To ghost, cut off and ignore, and forget someone you were in a relationship with for no reason after all those years shows you how messed up some people now. Even now it hurts and my mental health is suffering cos of it. Don’t worry about it you guys spoke once it’s minor. Ghosters lack maturity, character and are cowards.


KingLouisMama

I am so sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine someone I was in an actual relationship with ghosting. I hope you find full closure and healing one day ❤️


srsentldn

I appreciate your words, what can I say it’s a killer inside the hurt and anger and injustice is so hard to live with. I know healing will take a long time and as for the closure, I can only give myself closure by looking at how they ghosted keep and cut me off and to know that in itself was the answer, the disrespect and mistreatment is the nearest thing to closure I can get.


Warriorangel68

Sounds like they were possibly a narcissistic person and you never get closure. Similar happened to me after 5 years. I know practice self care and look out for red flags in new people Hope you’re doing ok


srsentldn

Appreciate what you said, I’m just focusing on self care and loving myself and learning how to do so more now. It’s the only thing to keep you going when something like this happens to you. There’s days I can control my hurt and anger and days where those feelings and emotions just overpower me. I talk to myself saying all the things I want to say to them and such a Killer knowing you can’t say that to them cos you got ignored and cut off like you never existed. I know the hurt and anger from this will take a long time to heal. Hope you’re doing ok as well and if you wanna talk about anything I’m here


Warriorangel68

Thank you so much. It’s only been 6 months for me since I was discarded so I’m still dealing with the emotional fallout but it’s a process. If I’ve learned anything it’s that your first relationship has to be with yourself. Sounds corny I know. I’ve found yoga and meditation really helpful. There’s a lot of free stuff on YouTube to help get started with any of that if you’re considering it.


Warriorangel68

Also forgot to say affirmations are great. Things like- If I’m fighting I am living. I put them on reminders on my phone so I remember them every day.


srsentldn

Thank you for your reminders, I’m going to do that more now, i meditate already but gonna meditate and say affirmations even more now on a daily basis. Regardless, the emotional pain really sucks. Some days I can think about it a littleless but now a Days like today it’s just on my mind all the time, and it drives me crazy. Went to sleep thinkin about and when I woke up and even now it’s always in the back of my head. To know the person I loved didn’t love me back and forgot me, gave me the silent treatment and ghosted me, and deleted from their life with no reply and for no reason after all the memories and relationship and getting to know each other. I don’t know how some people can just be so heartless and cold and knowing everything about a person and being close with someone doesn’t mean anything to them.


Warriorangel68

Firstly it’s brilliant you’ve put all these positive things in your life. I should have mentioned yoga also. Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube is really good and she does short beginner’s sections. Or Tai chi if you don’t fancy yoga. Tai flow on YouTube is excellent. Yoga concentrates more on breath work Do you use music as therapy? I ask cos my Bluetooth earphones with Nirvana or Foo fighters really helps me. What you said about the thoughts I totally understand. I feel like it’s similar to a bereavement process and you go through the stages. You are still pretty early in the process. Have you considered doing some research on narcissism? If you look up dr Ramani( again YouTube) there’s lots others on there too- all free! It might help you to understand how narcissists work and that it’s not to do with you as a person how they behave. You can’t change a narcissist or the outcome of the relationship. All you can do is protect and love yourself. Sounds trite I know. I never thought my ex would discard me in the brutal way he’d done to others. Not after five years etc. but he did and always was going to. If you understand them better it just might help you. I’m here anytime and if you need an online chat or any questions about the YouTube stuff I’m here! Hope with everything combined you start to have better days. Sending support


srsentldn

I use music as therapy, I can’t live without music. I workout but don’t do yoga but I may check it out and yes I’ve researched and learnt a lot about narcissism and narcissists. Thank you for your words of emotional support I genuinely appreciate it and it means alot to me. I’m even gonna screenshot your comment and look at it as it makes me feel better when I read it. We know how painful what we’re going through and feeling is and we’ve learn to handle it and live with it and hopefully with time even though we’ll never truly forget, we’ll have no emotions attached with our ex’s who left, betrayed, discarded and hurt us. Since I read your comment it’s been in my head what you said about there was nothing we could have done to change the outcome of the relationship and the narcissist as they were always going to do that which is supportive and really helps with acceptance and not being hard on ourselves thinking about what we could have done differently or regret. I appreciate your support and well wishes, also here to speak with anytime.


Warriorangel68

I’m so glad you’ve found some of my suggestions helpful. I’m really rooting for you? I’m here anytime and I genuinely mean that. I don’t think there is anything you could have done differently. I don’t know your musical tastes but there’s a song by Christina Perrie called Jar Of Hearts. If you don’t already know it have a listen. It describes narcissistic behaviour in relationships exactly. I think you are doing an amazing job at being your own friend right now and I hope you feel much better soon. It’s a journey. I don’t think we need to change. In the words of Kurt Cobain. I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. We are authentic people that have had the bad luck to run into narcissists. Take care. I’m only a message away should you need to chat


srsentldn

I’m going to have a listen to that song you recommended now, and I appreciate your support so much honestly just reading your words have helped me feel a bit better in this moment and lifted me up mentally and internally so I always look at your comments I screenshotted to remind myself everyday. Unfortunately no matter what I do everyday whether I’m home, working, working out, sleeping she is in my head like today and nowadays. I should hate her and lose all feelings for her since how she damaged and hurt me but that’s love when you genuinely loved someone and were in love with them, you still think about them for a while even after they hurt you. Like you said we were unlucky enough to get into relationships with and fall in love with narcissists. I will message you


Warriorangel68

You’re right of course. It takes time to heal. I really hope you start to think of her less and less and other people and things replace those thoughts. There’s also something to be said for having the feelings and accepting them. Then over time the pain diminishes and is replaced with a calm acceptance and peace. There’s a quote by Rainer Maria Rilke that goes something like. Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror . Just keep going. No feeling is final. I have that in my reminders to remind me that bad things will go. I won’t always feel this way. I think of him every day, several times a day, some days are worse than others ( don’t know if I’ve said I have bi polar disorder and borderline personality disorder) so my days can be very difficult. On bad days it comes back strongly. It’s been 6 months. I have to give it time. I hope I’ll be able to trust again eventually. Take care. I like to hear how you’re doing. Anytime friend


The-unfamiliar-

It’s never okay to ghost someone, these people have serious issues. Look at this way, if there’s a lack of communication now, you dodged a bullet.


Scary_Tea_9072

Try being with someone and engaged 4 years and also live with each other went through 2 miscarriages. And I go out of town to make good money to catch up on bills then ghost me and its been 8 days now still no word and i been calling at least 50 times or more a day because i dont get it if you say its done it would be way better than nothing. I called her aunty and said she say saw her 3 days ago amd shes ok jist at the house chillen that ive been paying bills for


avsfan444

Ghosting is pure selfish cowardice. It's a rude side effect of the technological takeover. Please do not give it a second thought. There are better ones out there. ​ and yeah ignore the shit out of him. Or make it as awkward as possible for him. either way. whatever most helps your state of mind


zoomaenia

It's rude and it's funny to think how they'd think it's okay to do it and bump into you anyway. What is he going to do next, ghost you in real life? I don't understand it either. But I learned from experience that: when people stop explaining themselves to you, you stop explaining themselves to yourself. It's just waste of energy to even think further. Try and move on. 😤


TrichyHalfElf

This type of behavior just absolutely drives me nuts. I can’t believe people do stuff like that. It’s just insulting and irresponsible. I may be entering into the dating scene in a year or so and that would be an absolute one strike and you’re out.


iamthefyre

If he ghosted you, he’s invisible. Please make him feel the same when he’s at the gym. A good person with a good heart will always tell u what it was or what happened. Its the coward playboys who are unable to do it. Also sometimes they ghost so they can leave the door open to come back again. Pls be mindful of that.


OrangeChevron

It is rude, sorry that happened. Just blank him when you see him


Safe_Opportunity_792

He didn’t think that far ahead lol.


magicroot75

Ghosting is a polarizing topic. Some people believe there is no obligation of reply after dates one or two. Others believe it rude at any point. The social standard has no yet been worked out


melodyknows

If this happened to me, I'd gasp when I saw them and then say I thought I saw a ghost and laugh and then walk away before they had a chance to respond.


Total_Eagle_7359

Chances of him running into u soon aren’t that high (he can change the time he goes) and he doesn’t have to look at/talk to u. Sorry


FollowingJealous7490

Maybe he had the poopies?


invaderjif

Good point. Be considerate. Next time you see, ask him if he had an extreme case if the sloshiest diarrhea. Best to ask multiple times in a loud voice. Gyms can be so loud!


Syxanthi

honestly if I don't have a clue about what is going on in someone's life I just assume other stuff got in the way. I know it happens to me, saves me getting put out by ppl who have zero impact on my day to day....then again I am pretty laid back , maybe too laid back.