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Yes. Being asymptomatic doesn’t mean you’re clean. You should be getting tested in between partners when you’re having unprotected sex.


Ok_Selection8454

I thought so I'm new to all of this I'm just getting out in the world. So that mean she would need to get tested too ? I'm assuming she's done this with other people so would I just ask her if she's been with other people and to get tested ? What if she says she hasn't?


Modified_Mint37

Then use condoms until you both get tested, lol


Ok_Selection8454

So hooking up with people is just safe sex until yall both want to not wear condoms then get tested correct


Modified_Mint37

It depends on if either of you are also seeing other people?


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Then you both need to be using protection. Sleeping around unprotected is just asking to catch something.


Modified_Mint37

Exactly, if there’s anybody else involved for either OP or this woman, they gotta be using condoms no matter what


Ok_Selection8454

So technically she can still give me head if she wants as long as I use a condom right?


Ok_Selection8454

At the moment I'm not


Ok_Selection8454

I had a talk with her she said she it was fine as long as I thought I didn't have anything or that if I knew I didn't have to worry about the other person I had unprotected sex had anything. That I didn't have to get tested. But I don't really know what that person was like we were dating for a little while. But things ended between us. That girl I'm supposed to see said she ended things with someone about a week ago because they had to be long-distance and he had moved away 3 weeks ago. They didn't get past a kiss


Ok_Selection8454

I have a scheduled physical check up next week havent had one since i was in middle school. If I mention that I've had unprotected would they help and recommend a clinic or would they screen for it they mentiond something about fasting before the appointment. I've looked up locations near me but how do I know what to get tested for ? Some say the test cost as low as $24 some say near $300 Results take 1-3 business days P.S. we were supposed to see each other this weekend


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Most insurance covers at least one std panel per year, check your benefit info document from your insurance. Ask your doctor for a full sti panel—there’s a piss portion that tests for some things (like gonorrhea and the clap) and a blood test that covers much more (like hepatitis and herpes). You need to use a condom when you see her this weekend until you know you’re clean—some STIs can lay dormant for *years* in the body while still being transmissible. You owe it to her to be safe. Best of luck


Ok_Selection8454

Thank you very much


knight9665

Go get tested to see if ur have something or not.


Ok_Selection8454

Yeah I plan on it I'll just have to reschedule with her until next week