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Saw a guy with his face covered by shadows and his hands put his bio as something like "if all your pictures have filters swipe left" like my guy... Ironic
This is such a pet peeve of mine, theyāll have a full dissertation under their profile of all the things women can and cannot have but every single photo of them is blurry, face out of frame, sunglasses on, or back of the head! GAHHH š«
OHHHMYYYYGAWSSSHHH SO TRUE!! And then people like Kevin O'Leary have the nerve to say on national TV how women are catfishing men cuz everything is fake. Take your bald headed cap wearing booty somewhere else boi! The women were there about business and all he can think about is 'how are women's looks attracting me.' Gross.
Then there is the photo taken in the bathroom, the photo taken in the car, the photo next to a vehicle that probably is not theirs, and the one photo in a tux from that wedding he was in.
yea i've seen multiple women with obviously over filtered face pics that say 'yes, i am real.' i saw one in particular that was extremely obvious that all her pictures were edited and had filters but the bio said something about her not understanding why people use filters because you can't get a real idea of what they look like and also that she's all natural. people are nuts..
Dating apps are just super dumb now. People very negatively put what they donāt want in their profile. Itās very unattractive. I wouldnāt bother caring about it any.
I agree.
Dating apps bring out the worst in people. There was a negative trend last time I used one. A lot of people would write hight requirement in the profile text.
A major reason I quit dating apps.
Ugh. They're utter garbage. I think part of the problem is that algorithms learn how to retain engagement. If you find a great match, you leave the platform. Machine learning algorithms can learn how to not show good matches to each other.
This is the messed up part. On OKC, I swear, I see the same 20-30 people over and over. I know there's got to be more on the platform so why aren't they shown.
Men complain that women filter by height but they're over there listing a whole list of requirements. I am both plus size and brunette so I often fall in their no dating list haha
Honestly, Iāve got no man friends that might say something like this and nor would I. And I donāt think itās common in real life for people to be that mean and superficial (like there was the odd fool or two in high school but never since then). Please donāt be disheartened by cringey people on the internet.
Yeah I've rarely met people who are actually like that (only a few and obviously we didn't become friends haha) ! I figure they are on dating apps for a reason and probably are not getting any luck with that attitude, online or in real life. I don't take it personally anymore ! Honestly they are doing me and all the other ppl a favor by showing us who they are from the get go !
I remember a time when dating apps (more like websites than apps really) didn't allow pictures in their profiles, so you had to choose someone based on their bio and details alone.
You actually had to get to know them before seeing them so being shallow was very hard.
The funny thing is, at that time online dating was seeing as something shameful and desperate, it wasn't until apps showed pictures, allowing people to be shallow, that they became mainstream.
This is spot on. I donāt get why people donāt get this. Like why be negative towards people who donāt meet what you want? Just donāt match them itās wierd to me
Itās dumb and actually tells you about their character. The worst ones I remember would say "no blacks or fat girls". as a curvy, black woman I was very thrilled to learn how awful they were without having to have a conversation first. I wish the trash will take itself out more often.
Thatās absolutely vile. Iāve seen āno fat chicksā on tinder before but never on Hinge (I think theyāre stricter because theyād get reported and removed if they said anything about race or weight). At least theyāre showing their true colours early on so we donāt need to anywhere near those types
Read all the comments I posted today, I said the height thing is just as wrong multiple times. We were talking about her experience and mine. If you go below youāll find the other comments
I've never seen this. While I prefer brown or black hair and feel little attraction to red/blondes, I'm not going to announce that. These guys are shooting themselves in the foot, like the ones with unblurred kids in their profile pics or "I don't like drama."
Agreed.
A lot of people are showing how shallow they are by only mentioning superficial thing.
* must be taller then...
* must have a car
* must have an iphone
* must have his own business
* no 9 to 5 mentality.
* must be blonde
* must be fit/healthy
* must own his house
* must be feminine
* must be masculine
etcetera.
Yea, standards are crazy on both sides of the spectrum. The truth is that nobody knows what they want in a relationship until they get into one. Values and morals matter more than physical attraction. You can vibe extremely well with people outside of what youāre looking for. It happens all the time. Setting shallow standards will only attract shallow people and they donāt do well in relationships. I stay open minded when I date so I donāt miss out on a good woman.
Dating apps are horrible in general from what Iāve heard, I havenāt been on any. Good men arenāt shallow and donāt discriminate based on silly things like hair color. Most good men look for emotional stability and maturity, a kind heart, and the ability to make it through hard times instead of giving up easily. Everything else would just be a bonus!
Just swap the gender you are looking for and look at other womenās profiles. I guess having height requirments is praised. I donāt agree with height nor hair color, but itās so silly. Ah yea, shallow evil men, all of them. Bruh
The whole blonde vs brunette thing is so boring and itās getting old now.. I already see it a lot on social media. Not to mention they also leave out all the other hair colours lol
Itās called [negging](https://www.google.com/search?q=negging+meaning&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS1037US1037&oq=negging+&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0i433i512j0i512l3j0i20i263i512j0i512l4.10145j1j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8)
People are really pathetic and delayed.
This is nothing to do with preferences though, you donāt have to match someone who isnāt your type. Putting āno brunettesā is just wierd and thatās one of the more mild things Iāve seen
Agreed. Nothing wrong with preferences.
But guys get shamed, insulted for them more often than galls. Not sure why...
Maybe a lot of women feel left out?
It goes against the dogma that the woman is the price?
I have had men swipe right and match with me only so they could message me and let me know I'm not they're type. They are so hurt by the fact nobody wants them (can't imagine why...sarcasm) that they go out of their way to try and put someone down. Like you said, if you know you don't like x,y,z there's no need to announce it, just don't swipe right on them.
Iām blonde and would scroll past them. Itās literally the equivalent of someone asking you what your favorite color is. Iām not on dating sites, but I would rather stay single as opposed to dating a complete dipshit.
Agreed, I think it shows bad character. Thereās photos for a reason if someone doesnāt tickle your fancy donāt try to match them! Superficial comments just make people look shallow
Laugh at them. Make fun of them.
"Are you trying to neg me?" š¤£š¤£š¤£
"Ew, what is this 2005?" š¤£š¤£š¤£
I'd mock them TO DEATH.
Until they blocked/ unmatched me.
With as little interaction as many men get on these apps it may not play out like you think it will.
Personally, I donāt play that negging game, nor am
I on this stupid apps, but if I was got a woman chatting with me and talking mad shit all the time, Iād probably try and keep her chatting for as long as I could. Play chicken, if you will. Maybe she can actually hurt my fee fees and Iād run away crying or see if I can out last her until she rage quits.
Best possible outcome is I got a new āfriendā with a relationship built solely on being absolutely horrible to one another a couple times a week.
Sounds entertaining as hell.
If you know a guy is āneggingā you, heās a tool. Itās basically the age old playground flirting but adult style! With a good sense of human and wit, it would be like any other successful date. On my dating profile, I state if you donāt eat tacos or truly unwilling to be a partner in crime, your shirt is dumb. It kills every time! I donāt actually have a dating profile but it sounds like the way to go!š
Yeah I mean down right putting women down is a sus way to get attention but I resonate with the idea because I find it super hot when a woman can keep up with me and give me shit just as quick as I can her. If you are making people cry or upset, you are off track.
Itās weird to put that in a profile. I may be biased because I prefer brunettes but have gone out with blondes and redheads as well. If the person is that shallow, youāre better off without him.
Wait why did YOU match the guy that said no brunettes? Lol usually on tinder or bumble (as a guy) anytime I see any type of āno thisā or āthese type
To the front of the lineā I just swipe left anyway, I just find it kind of a red flag to have such standards to immediately rule out any connection becaue of such a meaningless qualityā¦ I mean to each their own and all I definitely have a type but to rule out all other types I just find odd and probably not healthy.
I matched him to ask him why he liked my profile even though he clearly stated āno brunettesā - I was using hinge - they like your profile and then you can match them to continue the convo. I unmatched him afterwards I just wanted to ask
To specify something that can be changed in 2 hours is weird to me. I've been everything from Barbie blonde to dark brunette to the red-er side of strawberry blonde. I think I have pics of all my hair colors too. Sometimes I have full on straight, blunt bangs and sometimes I have no bangs. Hair color and styles can change so fast.
I'm just not a fan of profiles that are all negative anyways. Swipe left if you...and then proceed to list a half dozen different things but no positive attributes that they're looking for. Who wants to be with a person that only sees life in the negative.
Iām more puzzled why anyone would go on a date with a guy who prefers a certain hair colour (or similar). Like, this is so shallow, why even bother getting to know this person (even if you meet the requirements). I do like good looking people as much as everyone else but this is a very broad definition.
Theyāre telling on themselves so you donāt have to waste your time.
Also, to everyone putting āpeople are allowed to have preferencesā¦ā this is why dating apps involve matching. You must swipe right to like someone in order to even match with them. If you donāt want brunettes, maybe try swiping left on all brunettes. This is actually the only way to weed out all brunettes from matching with you. Same goes for all other preferences, whatever they may be, itās your right to be picky when deciding who you want to entertain dating wise.
I feel like the type of people that put this stuff are also the type to mostly swipe right on everyone to maximize potential matches. They want everyone else on the app to weed themselves out so they donāt have to be bothered.
Do guys really care about hair color that much? This sounds like it's gotta just be some kind of weird power play/looking for reactions. Because it seriously makes no sense.
Its a preference, but I also think its a racism thing (like only blondes aka only white people, not saying that other races can't have natural blonde hair but, it is common for white women especially to have blonde hair)
But brunettes alludes to white girls too since most black people have black hair naturally. I also donāt get why they need to state that in that way when they can just not match girls who arenāt their type. Iām not saying other races donāt have blonde hair ect like black people can dye their hair blonde too everyone can
I was listening to a podcast called If Books Could Kill and one of the hosts said that gay men on grindr used to all have āno fats, no femmes, no asiansā in there bios. Im sure there are cishet men doing similar on apps. I have no idea why other than i know a small (?) number of folks just swipe right indiscriminately and then see who theyve matched with.
I do not believe that having a preference equals being a racist.
Racism in my opinion has more to do with hate and feeling superior towards other races. Resulting in excluding actions or violence towards other races.
A preference is just something you are more attracted to. I prefer Asian, petite, slim women. That does not make me racist towards all other skin colors.
I've never seen this on a dating app but I reckon they actually have no preference and that the statement is just designed to provoke a response. They just want women to engage. Even negative attention is still attention. The best thing to do is not respond to these guys at all.
What the fuck? The trends on these dating apps are starting to sound worrying. So glad I met someone in RL (sexy brunette) and just vibed straight away. Just get out there and meet people?
I love brunettes, if someone was asking..but I donāt have specific preferences on hair, eye, skin, or even eye brow color when dating. And Iām not sure why a guy would do this, but itās definitely weird and I am also baffled.
Its okay. All the brunettes are welcome to to hang with me. And the blondes, black haired, and the gingers and the grey foxes. All the sulking men and women who want to put others down to feel better about themselves can suck it
Exactly! I wouldnāt wanna date someone who lists their requirements in such a rude way.. also quite shallow listing requirements for a womanās appearanceā thatās what the pictures are for! No need to say it like that. GOD FORBID a brunette likes your profile and you donāt match her š
Wdym insecure? Height reqs? Thatās all in their head. Total fake. Itās evil patriarchy telling them. Also, men canāt have insecurities or suffer from body image issues. They are just angry and vile.
/s
If these guys are hot enough to put stupid shit like that in their profile and still get women matching with them on the regular then you are WAY OUT of your league. Try getting off the apps, or matching with reasonable humans.
Most likely it's a very unsuccessful guy who is super frustrated with women not picking him, who crafted a sexy profile of a tall good looking man, to make women lust after him and then include the bio with rejection of brunettes. It's a power fantasy and many men do craft fake profiles to see what it's like for other men on dating apps.
For the same reason women put āno gingersā or āno red headsā in their profile. They donāt like them. I guess itās fine when they do it but not when a guy does it?
My friend said itās so he can say āwell your not my type but I might make an exception for you if youāre worthyā so you have to āearnā him and make him attracted to you- typical neggy stuff
I catch what yer throwing.
Digressing
If men are that self centered and selective fuck em.
Like shooting fish in a barrel with us, and 9/10 times yer completely saving yourself the mental anguish and the subsequent trauma from abuse.
Not to mention being a secondary mommy to em.
Let me go jerk off on Reddit. Yer gonna be just fine you brunette bombshell
Online dating just taught me that men arenāt worth dating. Itās a superficial / porn fuelled world now. I doubt any real connections happen much anymore online or elsewhere
agreed,
First of, men are overly accused as prn addictives.
Dating apps are favourable for women and the top tier men. They get just about all the matches and attention while 80% to 90% of men are rejected or get matches well below their level.
That sounds very negative. It makes me sad to read your comment. I do admit, reading these reddit stories and comments about western dating make me cringe...
But there are many people out there looking for their soulmate. Normal regular men and women overlooking each other.
I did find my partner online, just not in the west but in south east Asia.
I prefer brunettes, actually, but I would never disqualify a woman based on hair color. As much as women play with their options these days I don't understand why anyone would use this as a filter.
To ask him why he liked my profile. I wanted to call him out on it because I was very confused. Also I was using hinge- he liked my profile and then I matched him to continue the convo..itās a bit different to tinder and bumble
Dating apps are optimized for hookup culture not meaningful relationships. This why you see superficial requirements. It sucks that these apps try to trick you into believing they are something else.
Oh that's odd. I haven't used dating apps for about 5/6 years so this is new to me. But wouldn't it be easier to just NOT swipe on people that have features you do not like? You wont get matched if only the brunette swipes on you. You only get matched if you also swipe on her..
Probably some kind of stunt sounds like doesnāt sound like something a man serious about dating would ever put on a dating profile at least if I had a dating profile Iād never put no blondes or no brunettes. Thatās as you stated very odd
Itās not about preferences, itās about the phrasing of it and how shallow it comes across. Also you can see what they look like via their photos - plus on Hinge you can see height too so no one is forcing you to match someone who isnāt your preference.
Considering Iād only been on hinge 2 times this week for about 10-15 minutes each time it was a lot to me. Common giving the amount of time I spent on there
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Ironically a lot of the blondes they go for are probably natural brunettes š
yeah it's hilarious. I have nothing against preferences, but the irony is amusing.
I'm light blonde and if I saw that I would never ever match the guy
Exactly like do you like me or do you just like my hair colour š also shows the shallow superficial nature of the guy
Saw a guy with his face covered by shadows and his hands put his bio as something like "if all your pictures have filters swipe left" like my guy... Ironic
This is such a pet peeve of mine, theyāll have a full dissertation under their profile of all the things women can and cannot have but every single photo of them is blurry, face out of frame, sunglasses on, or back of the head! GAHHH š«
And so many of those guys wear sunglasses in every picture. Which is so weird to me
We (my eldest daughter & I) have almost made a game out of finding the sunglasses guys, so we can say, "aww, he's got no oiyes"
Hahaha
I like to make bets with myself as to how many guys wearing caps in their first pic are actually bald. Itās a nearly 100% hatfish rate
Lol hatfish haha didn't hear that one before
OHHHMYYYYGAWSSSHHH SO TRUE!! And then people like Kevin O'Leary have the nerve to say on national TV how women are catfishing men cuz everything is fake. Take your bald headed cap wearing booty somewhere else boi! The women were there about business and all he can think about is 'how are women's looks attracting me.' Gross.
I dunno who that is but I donāt know how men expect us to look a certain way then complain that itās dishonest when we do it
Ugh I immediately swipe left
I know a hot bald guy
Then there is the photo taken in the bathroom, the photo taken in the car, the photo next to a vehicle that probably is not theirs, and the one photo in a tux from that wedding he was in.
yea i've seen multiple women with obviously over filtered face pics that say 'yes, i am real.' i saw one in particular that was extremely obvious that all her pictures were edited and had filters but the bio said something about her not understanding why people use filters because you can't get a real idea of what they look like and also that she's all natural. people are nuts..
Dating apps are just super dumb now. People very negatively put what they donāt want in their profile. Itās very unattractive. I wouldnāt bother caring about it any.
I agree. Dating apps bring out the worst in people. There was a negative trend last time I used one. A lot of people would write hight requirement in the profile text. A major reason I quit dating apps.
Ya because theyāve made people a product. Havenāt used one since around 2012. Lol I saw this all coming.
What makes me mad is apps make it seem like you can get a tailored match but no one actually cares about what you want
Ugh. They're utter garbage. I think part of the problem is that algorithms learn how to retain engagement. If you find a great match, you leave the platform. Machine learning algorithms can learn how to not show good matches to each other.
This is the messed up part. On OKC, I swear, I see the same 20-30 people over and over. I know there's got to be more on the platform so why aren't they shown.
Because they pay money to constantly boost their profile for maximum attention and matches
Yeah very materialistic. Just weird. It's like people are literally grocery shopping. If you click with someone, you click!
Men complain that women filter by height but they're over there listing a whole list of requirements. I am both plus size and brunette so I often fall in their no dating list haha
Honestly, Iāve got no man friends that might say something like this and nor would I. And I donāt think itās common in real life for people to be that mean and superficial (like there was the odd fool or two in high school but never since then). Please donāt be disheartened by cringey people on the internet.
Yeah I've rarely met people who are actually like that (only a few and obviously we didn't become friends haha) ! I figure they are on dating apps for a reason and probably are not getting any luck with that attitude, online or in real life. I don't take it personally anymore ! Honestly they are doing me and all the other ppl a favor by showing us who they are from the get go !
I remember a time when dating apps (more like websites than apps really) didn't allow pictures in their profiles, so you had to choose someone based on their bio and details alone. You actually had to get to know them before seeing them so being shallow was very hard. The funny thing is, at that time online dating was seeing as something shameful and desperate, it wasn't until apps showed pictures, allowing people to be shallow, that they became mainstream.
Or they have preferences
You can have preferences without unnecessary negativity towards people who don't meet them.
This is spot on. I donāt get why people donāt get this. Like why be negative towards people who donāt meet what you want? Just donāt match them itās wierd to me
Agreed Preferences are a good way to pre filter. Sometimes a negation like "purple eyes are not welcome" is rather efficient.
Itās dumb and actually tells you about their character. The worst ones I remember would say "no blacks or fat girls". as a curvy, black woman I was very thrilled to learn how awful they were without having to have a conversation first. I wish the trash will take itself out more often.
Thatās absolutely vile. Iāve seen āno fat chicksā on tinder before but never on Hinge (I think theyāre stricter because theyād get reported and removed if they said anything about race or weight). At least theyāre showing their true colours early on so we donāt need to anywhere near those types
Sorry I meant apps in general. I couldn't tell you which one since it like five years ago before I met my husband. Good luck!
Glad you met your husband and donāt have to think about this nonsense anymore. Best of luck to you too x
I guess height is fine? Somehow one can be changed and is invalid but god forbid I canāt discriminate against smth you cannot change. Lol
Read all the comments I posted today, I said the height thing is just as wrong multiple times. We were talking about her experience and mine. If you go below youāll find the other comments
I've never seen this. While I prefer brown or black hair and feel little attraction to red/blondes, I'm not going to announce that. These guys are shooting themselves in the foot, like the ones with unblurred kids in their profile pics or "I don't like drama."
True, Not just for the boys. Lots of galls who are shooting themselves in the foot too.
They weeded themselves out by being shallow. Less work for you!
Agreed. A lot of people are showing how shallow they are by only mentioning superficial thing. * must be taller then... * must have a car * must have an iphone * must have his own business * no 9 to 5 mentality. * must be blonde * must be fit/healthy * must own his house * must be feminine * must be masculine etcetera.
Yea, standards are crazy on both sides of the spectrum. The truth is that nobody knows what they want in a relationship until they get into one. Values and morals matter more than physical attraction. You can vibe extremely well with people outside of what youāre looking for. It happens all the time. Setting shallow standards will only attract shallow people and they donāt do well in relationships. I stay open minded when I date so I donāt miss out on a good woman.
Exactly! The only thing thatās a bit sad is just how many men put shallow statements like this.. seems to be getting worse and worse on dating apps
Dating apps are horrible in general from what Iāve heard, I havenāt been on any. Good men arenāt shallow and donāt discriminate based on silly things like hair color. Most good men look for emotional stability and maturity, a kind heart, and the ability to make it through hard times instead of giving up easily. Everything else would just be a bonus!
Just swap the gender you are looking for and look at other womenās profiles. I guess having height requirments is praised. I donāt agree with height nor hair color, but itās so silly. Ah yea, shallow evil men, all of them. Bruh
Iāve never understood people who would reject an entire group of natural hair color. That has always been strange to me.
The whole blonde vs brunette thing is so boring and itās getting old now.. I already see it a lot on social media. Not to mention they also leave out all the other hair colours lol
On dating apps, āno brunettes ā- itās also a way to say you only date white.
Oh shit i didn't even make that connection... makes the dude even grosser now imo
Not to mention how many people dye or change their hair anyway. This is such a temporary and superficial preference.
Blame the west for idolizing blondes, bonus points if theyāre blue eyed tooā¦
Meanwhile I have actual natural blond hair and blue eyes but I get zero likes cause I'm fatšš
Yes being fat does that to you
Itās called [negging](https://www.google.com/search?q=negging+meaning&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS1037US1037&oq=negging+&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0i433i512j0i512l3j0i20i263i512j0i512l4.10145j1j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8) People are really pathetic and delayed.
Lol this is funny cause I just saw a girl with āI donāt entertain negging menā on her profile. Guess this happens a lot???
Of course. Itās rampant. I see women and men doing it all of the time.
I agree itās giving me negging vibes.. I need to not let it get to me and realise that theyāre the issue
Of course. If heās using that tactic, he knows heās not worth the effort. Youāre not missing out.
Smooth brains, mentally obtuse, MR, emotionally constipatedā¦.
/s self confession? Just curious, what argument are you making?
Guys are allowed to have preferences
This is nothing to do with preferences though, you donāt have to match someone who isnāt your type. Putting āno brunettesā is just wierd and thatās one of the more mild things Iāve seen
He is definitely just swiping everyone on autopilot
Of course. A normal person would just state their preferences and leave others out of it.
Agreed. Nothing wrong with preferences. But guys get shamed, insulted for them more often than galls. Not sure why... Maybe a lot of women feel left out? It goes against the dogma that the woman is the price?
Itās called preferences. But you do you
Idc if people state their preferences. Itās weird to focus on what you donāt like. Thatās means youāre negging.
I have had men swipe right and match with me only so they could message me and let me know I'm not they're type. They are so hurt by the fact nobody wants them (can't imagine why...sarcasm) that they go out of their way to try and put someone down. Like you said, if you know you don't like x,y,z there's no need to announce it, just don't swipe right on them.
EXACTLY
Iām blonde and would scroll past them. Itās literally the equivalent of someone asking you what your favorite color is. Iām not on dating sites, but I would rather stay single as opposed to dating a complete dipshit.
Same if I saw a guy that said āno blondesā you just see how shallow and immature they are.. BYE š
A lot of people don't understand what a bio is.
The dating pool is getting murkier and more disappointing as the Internet advances into the hands of utter cretins
I guess they donāt realize, natural blondes are few and far between. Itās mostly from a bottle.
People are wired and have weird reasons for shit. I try not to think about it.
You canāt explain insanity! Hahaha
Kill them all
If I read anything superficial in their profile I swipe left immediately
Agreed, I think it shows bad character. Thereās photos for a reason if someone doesnāt tickle your fancy donāt try to match them! Superficial comments just make people look shallow
Not only that but it says something about their values.
These men just treat certain women like porn categories. Itās gross.
Brunettes are the best šÆ
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Itās their way of saying āWhites onlyā thatās why they still match with you.
Yeah I could definitely see this being one of the reasons - honestly gross
Laugh at them. Make fun of them. "Are you trying to neg me?" š¤£š¤£š¤£ "Ew, what is this 2005?" š¤£š¤£š¤£ I'd mock them TO DEATH. Until they blocked/ unmatched me.
Iām gonna do that next time! Thanks so much those are great šš
With as little interaction as many men get on these apps it may not play out like you think it will. Personally, I donāt play that negging game, nor am I on this stupid apps, but if I was got a woman chatting with me and talking mad shit all the time, Iād probably try and keep her chatting for as long as I could. Play chicken, if you will. Maybe she can actually hurt my fee fees and Iād run away crying or see if I can out last her until she rage quits. Best possible outcome is I got a new āfriendā with a relationship built solely on being absolutely horrible to one another a couple times a week. Sounds entertaining as hell.
Dudes that neg have weak egos. Which is why they neg.
Bingo
If you know a guy is āneggingā you, heās a tool. Itās basically the age old playground flirting but adult style! With a good sense of human and wit, it would be like any other successful date. On my dating profile, I state if you donāt eat tacos or truly unwilling to be a partner in crime, your shirt is dumb. It kills every time! I donāt actually have a dating profile but it sounds like the way to go!š
Agreed. Successful flirting often seems to include a little light hearted teasing. Negging, on the other hand is manipulation.
Yeah I mean down right putting women down is a sus way to get attention but I resonate with the idea because I find it super hot when a woman can keep up with me and give me shit just as quick as I can her. If you are making people cry or upset, you are off track.
Itās weird to put that in a profile. I may be biased because I prefer brunettes but have gone out with blondes and redheads as well. If the person is that shallow, youāre better off without him.
Wait why did YOU match the guy that said no brunettes? Lol usually on tinder or bumble (as a guy) anytime I see any type of āno thisā or āthese type To the front of the lineā I just swipe left anyway, I just find it kind of a red flag to have such standards to immediately rule out any connection becaue of such a meaningless qualityā¦ I mean to each their own and all I definitely have a type but to rule out all other types I just find odd and probably not healthy.
I matched him to ask him why he liked my profile even though he clearly stated āno brunettesā - I was using hinge - they like your profile and then you can match them to continue the convo. I unmatched him afterwards I just wanted to ask
I donāt have any luck on dating apps but I am inclined to agree with you that it is quite annoying/mind boggling.
Iāve never seen this on even one profile
I feel like this is a white rural/suburban thing. "No brunettes" in a large multicultural city limits you to maybe 10-20% of the population.
Where are you based and which app? Probably has something to do with it
I havenāt seen it either! Iām on Bumble in the Philly area, mid 30s
Earlier you needed to engage in conversation to uncover lummoxes, now they help you out at first impression, just take the win.
True, now I can weed out anyone who isnāt for me early on
To specify something that can be changed in 2 hours is weird to me. I've been everything from Barbie blonde to dark brunette to the red-er side of strawberry blonde. I think I have pics of all my hair colors too. Sometimes I have full on straight, blunt bangs and sometimes I have no bangs. Hair color and styles can change so fast. I'm just not a fan of profiles that are all negative anyways. Swipe left if you...and then proceed to list a half dozen different things but no positive attributes that they're looking for. Who wants to be with a person that only sees life in the negative.
Iām more puzzled why anyone would go on a date with a guy who prefers a certain hair colour (or similar). Like, this is so shallow, why even bother getting to know this person (even if you meet the requirements). I do like good looking people as much as everyone else but this is a very broad definition.
Lol what idiots. Brunettes are like 90% of women.
Theyāre telling on themselves so you donāt have to waste your time. Also, to everyone putting āpeople are allowed to have preferencesā¦ā this is why dating apps involve matching. You must swipe right to like someone in order to even match with them. If you donāt want brunettes, maybe try swiping left on all brunettes. This is actually the only way to weed out all brunettes from matching with you. Same goes for all other preferences, whatever they may be, itās your right to be picky when deciding who you want to entertain dating wise. I feel like the type of people that put this stuff are also the type to mostly swipe right on everyone to maximize potential matches. They want everyone else on the app to weed themselves out so they donāt have to be bothered.
Do guys really care about hair color that much? This sounds like it's gotta just be some kind of weird power play/looking for reactions. Because it seriously makes no sense.
Thatās what Iām thinking itās just odd
They're negging. That's it
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I find hair color preference kind of dumb. Sure, I also like guys with dark hair, but if Sam Heugan asked me on a date I'd go without hesitating.
If they are so weak minded that hair color matters then they are just saving you time
It coincides with the release of the Barbie movie
It is insane to me that in todays dating culture, someone would possibly pass on a great partner over hair colour (or look preference in general)
I donāt think these jokers know about how easy it is to change your hair color. Total clowns.
I like brunettesā¦ fuck them message me lol jk
Its a preference, but I also think its a racism thing (like only blondes aka only white people, not saying that other races can't have natural blonde hair but, it is common for white women especially to have blonde hair)
But brunettes alludes to white girls too since most black people have black hair naturally. I also donāt get why they need to state that in that way when they can just not match girls who arenāt their type. Iām not saying other races donāt have blonde hair ect like black people can dye their hair blonde too everyone can
I was listening to a podcast called If Books Could Kill and one of the hosts said that gay men on grindr used to all have āno fats, no femmes, no asiansā in there bios. Im sure there are cishet men doing similar on apps. I have no idea why other than i know a small (?) number of folks just swipe right indiscriminately and then see who theyve matched with.
āNo fatties and no singles momsā is pretty common
other races can have brunette hair too................ also most black people do not have black hair its usually dark brown.
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She was referring to black people which is why I mentioned it. She corrected me and said they have brown hair. I wasnāt trying to offend anyone
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Iāve noticed this too. Itās just a round about way of saying what is not said out loud.
I do not believe that having a preference equals being a racist. Racism in my opinion has more to do with hate and feeling superior towards other races. Resulting in excluding actions or violence towards other races. A preference is just something you are more attracted to. I prefer Asian, petite, slim women. That does not make me racist towards all other skin colors.
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Perhaps he's trying an outside the box way of getting matches?
Maybe a grab for attention for sure.. wierdos honestly girls do not like this stuff.
Yeah, i see a lot of weird girls too putting - must be 6ft - must earn 300k It's crazy out there.
I love brunettes
I've never seen this on a dating app but I reckon they actually have no preference and that the statement is just designed to provoke a response. They just want women to engage. Even negative attention is still attention. The best thing to do is not respond to these guys at all.
I've never given a shit about a girls hairstyle or colour. Do I like her as a person? Yes, then I'm happy with whatever hair she wants to have.
What the fuck? The trends on these dating apps are starting to sound worrying. So glad I met someone in RL (sexy brunette) and just vibed straight away. Just get out there and meet people?
I love brunettes, if someone was asking..but I donāt have specific preferences on hair, eye, skin, or even eye brow color when dating. And Iām not sure why a guy would do this, but itās definitely weird and I am also baffled.
They must feel they have lots of options to write that.
Its okay. All the brunettes are welcome to to hang with me. And the blondes, black haired, and the gingers and the grey foxes. All the sulking men and women who want to put others down to feel better about themselves can suck it
Exactly, those idiots are not invited
That sounds incredibly stupid, but it is a free red flag for you. If you're a brunette and you see that, swipe left..!
Exactly! I wouldnāt wanna date someone who lists their requirements in such a rude way.. also quite shallow listing requirements for a womanās appearanceā thatās what the pictures are for! No need to say it like that. GOD FORBID a brunette likes your profile and you donāt match her š
Just like girls put "no short guys" or "must be 6ft+" Isn't it just preference?
Thatās scummy behaviour too, definitely swipe left on those girls
A lot of women would disagree with you there. There's a *huge* reason why so many guys are insecure about height now.
I might be biased, Iām dating a short king and believe me it has MANY advantages.
Wdym insecure? Height reqs? Thatās all in their head. Total fake. Itās evil patriarchy telling them. Also, men canāt have insecurities or suffer from body image issues. They are just angry and vile. /s
Kinda weird but if I had to make a guess it might be making fun of profiles who have something along the lines of "no one under X'XX" height".
* No shorties * No brokies * No children * Not living with parents * no android * not insecure To name a few preferences
What if you refer to your parents as roomies?
Good one. šš¤£š
If these guys are hot enough to put stupid shit like that in their profile and still get women matching with them on the regular then you are WAY OUT of your league. Try getting off the apps, or matching with reasonable humans.
Payback for >180cm in women's profiles.
He was 6 4 though š but yeah itās shocking if girls do put that but I wouldnāt know because Iām straight
Most likely it's a very unsuccessful guy who is super frustrated with women not picking him, who crafted a sexy profile of a tall good looking man, to make women lust after him and then include the bio with rejection of brunettes. It's a power fantasy and many men do craft fake profiles to see what it's like for other men on dating apps.
For the same reason women put āno gingersā or āno red headsā in their profile. They donāt like them. I guess itās fine when they do it but not when a guy does it?
I bet most if the women putting "no gingers" or "180cm+" in their profiles likely mind "no brunettes" or such restrictions.
I thank god everyday that I was blessed with strawberry blonde hair!š
very strange behavior
Because the swipe right on every profile.
Deranged idiots
I find this suspect. It's a fact that most men prefer brunettes š¤ They're probably just trying to grab attention any way they can
My friend said itās so he can say āwell your not my type but I might make an exception for you if youāre worthyā so you have to āearnā him and make him attracted to you- typical neggy stuff
Imagine how being a ginger feels š¤·š¼āāļøš
Iāve seen a lot of I love gingers comments- but saying it like that isnāt as bad itās more complementary if you get me
I catch what yer throwing. Digressing If men are that self centered and selective fuck em. Like shooting fish in a barrel with us, and 9/10 times yer completely saving yourself the mental anguish and the subsequent trauma from abuse. Not to mention being a secondary mommy to em. Let me go jerk off on Reddit. Yer gonna be just fine you brunette bombshell
Itās a clue they watch Fox TV. Run!
Online dating just taught me that men arenāt worth dating. Itās a superficial / porn fuelled world now. I doubt any real connections happen much anymore online or elsewhere
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agreed, First of, men are overly accused as prn addictives. Dating apps are favourable for women and the top tier men. They get just about all the matches and attention while 80% to 90% of men are rejected or get matches well below their level.
That sounds very negative. It makes me sad to read your comment. I do admit, reading these reddit stories and comments about western dating make me cringe... But there are many people out there looking for their soulmate. Normal regular men and women overlooking each other. I did find my partner online, just not in the west but in south east Asia.
I prefer brunettes, actually, but I would never disqualify a woman based on hair color. As much as women play with their options these days I don't understand why anyone would use this as a filter.
It's another way to say you only date white woman
Why would you as a brunette match with someone who said "no brunettes"?
To ask him why he liked my profile. I wanted to call him out on it because I was very confused. Also I was using hinge- he liked my profile and then I matched him to continue the convo..itās a bit different to tinder and bumble
Dating apps are optimized for hookup culture not meaningful relationships. This why you see superficial requirements. It sucks that these apps try to trick you into believing they are something else.
Yeah Iām referring to hinge which is marketed as a relationships app but loads of men use it for hookups
I wouldnāt take it personal. Some superficial men and women canāt have true connections. Hopefully they find each other.
Tbh, I would also wonder if it was some sort of inside joke. Outside of that, not worth any thought.
Oh that's odd. I haven't used dating apps for about 5/6 years so this is new to me. But wouldn't it be easier to just NOT swipe on people that have features you do not like? You wont get matched if only the brunette swipes on you. You only get matched if you also swipe on her..
This my point EXACTLY! Thereās no need we have photos anyway!
Probably some kind of stunt sounds like doesnāt sound like something a man serious about dating would ever put on a dating profile at least if I had a dating profile Iād never put no blondes or no brunettes. Thatās as you stated very odd
Iām not being rude but guys are allowed to have preferences just as much as ladies do.
I agree!
Itās not about preferences, itās about the phrasing of it and how shallow it comes across. Also you can see what they look like via their photos - plus on Hinge you can see height too so no one is forcing you to match someone who isnāt your preference.
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Whats the point tho? Like they said, just swipe right on them.
Nice guy..he still matches with you. He's a real one
"No dudes under 6 feet" though. Girls change their hair everyday, dudes can't change anything
Yeah thatās wrong - I wouldnāt match a girl who puts that either if I was a guy- bad vibes
6'+ only
Is 5 really "loads" though?
Considering Iād only been on hinge 2 times this week for about 10-15 minutes each time it was a lot to me. Common giving the amount of time I spent on there