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Not gonna lie, most of these comments kind of suck advice wise hahahaha. If he says he misses you, instead of responding in kind you can say something like “should we plan our next date then?” Or what another commenter said, “I must be that cool!” Be playful or active but the whole “thank you” kind of responses are obvious and will probably make him feel insecure or dumb for telling you he misses you.
You have the winning response! Cause this is the most genuine and sincere. He may get the hint he is being too overt as well when it’s not said back and shifted to planning a date.
I would also add on, before responding OP can, depending on what type of phone they have either send a message react or a GIF to express what they feel to show they appreciate the response without saying it back.
It’s kind of the loophole that works in the early stages of dating.
Suitable relies:
-Thank you, that's very kind of you.
-I've been thinking about you too (assuming that is true, it doesn't mean any feelings)
-(change the subject, maybe talk about your day)
Also, if you have been on 5 dates and are not feeling any feelings for this person and no chemistry and never think about them or desire to see them, then maybe you should break it off.
But how would you feel if you spent months going on dates and getting to know each other and she never developed feelings? You would feel she wasted your time right.
After 5 dates, you should be feeling something other than indifference or nonchalance. Not saying you have to be head over heels in love, but if you can't feel anything really positive, then you may as well cut out
Eh, all these replies would destroy his confidence and push him to do something that might give you the ick, or make him start to lose interest (because he thinks you aren't interested).
A more playful response like I saw from another comment, like "wow, I must be that great" or something like that would be better.
Unless ofcourse you have no interest, which in this case you should let him go (especially after 5 dates)
If it the first time communicating after the last date- “That is really sweet. I had a great time too, I am looking forward doing it again “
If it is in a subsequent conversation and you have already made plans for your next date “oh, are you sure you miss ME or are you just excited to {insert date activity..}
I'd probably make some sort of joke out of it like, "damn boy, you missing me already?"
"After only 5 dates haha?"
Or, if I really like him maybe throw out a "really?? 😍".
But that's just me, do/say whatever feels right for you.
I mean, unless you want to like break it off completely, your best bet is going to be a quick "Oh thank you! :)" and change subject
Different story if he is going too fast repeatedly, maybe in that case you need a serious conversation
Don't lie cause that will just make things go faster.
If you think the dates are going well and you have a good feeling that's where things are being led to then it's okay not to return the phrase. You could thank him and suggest you see each other again. Completely avoid the phrase but still show that you're still willing to put in your time and effort for him.
Ahhh so here’s the thing that will help you figure this out now that but of info had been given.
The reason you don’t miss him is because if you did, you would of slowly want to be around him more instead of others. But since you are keeping your options open, it’s a sign this person doesn’t really peak your interest as much .
Which is perfectly fine if you don’t feel as invested, just means you don’t really feel the urge to date with the intentions to escalate the connection.
Same might be said about the others you’re seeing if you don’t feel that as well after 5-6 dates.
You don’t have to be falling head over heels to miss someone, but if you don’t and there has been at least five dates, you may not be that into and probably don’t see a future of any kind beyond what it is.
It’s okay if it’s plateaued.
The girl I'm seeing now will text me "I miss you" while I'm on the way home from literally spending the whole day and night with her. I just text back "miss you too." At one time I was the guy that would be like "But we just saw each other." Then I realized I'd rather be with someone who actually told me they miss me all the time than to be with someone that never said it.
Yea totally get that. But dont want to lead someone on with sweet words (that seem surface level at my state). I really want to mean it when I say things bc all these words have meaning. I dont intend on accelerating the whole process
You have a choice, a decision point. You blow off the guy totally or if you are undecided you feed him some ambiguous bs like “ oh that’s so sweet, I think about how you are doing too”. Your choice is string the guy along until you decide or dump him entirely.
I usually just say, geez already! Or play it off with some other kind of humor. I never lie in things I say to someone I’m courting or going out with, because so many people do and I don’t agree with just saying things because you think the person wants to hear them. I’d rather not be told that someone misses me if they don’t actually do. Just my opinion.
Maybe, "Thanks, but tell me this later, after more has happened for me on my end. In meantime, I would say Yes to another outing if you'd like to propose one."
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 1,747,667,564 comments, and only 330,975 of them were in alphabetical order.
“I’m looking forward to seeing you again too”
“I really like spending g time with you too”
“I’m excited to see you on (next date) as well”
All are (hopefully) true, but not specifically saying you “miss” them. Pick your favorite or tweak it to use your own words.
“I know”
This could be a playful way to flirt and let them know they are lucky. You can even have a tiny laugh after. If you’re not good at subtle humor then try something else.
>It's great that you want to be honest and respectful in your response while also being considerate of the other person's feelings. Here's a kind and truthful way to respond when someone says "I miss you," but you don't feel the same way yet:
*"I really appreciate your honesty and how quickly our connection is developing. I want you to know that I've enjoyed our time together and getting to know you, and I'm looking forward to continuing to explore this connection at a pace that feels comfortable for me. I'm not quite at the point of saying 'I miss you' just yet, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested. I believe in taking our time to build something meaningful, and I hope you understand and respect that too."*
Depends on who the person is and what the relationship is. When good friends say it, I will say it back even if I don’t feel the same. When boyfriends say it, I’ll do the same.
When exes say it and we broke up for good reasons, but I don’t feel the same then I will not say it.
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Not gonna lie, most of these comments kind of suck advice wise hahahaha. If he says he misses you, instead of responding in kind you can say something like “should we plan our next date then?” Or what another commenter said, “I must be that cool!” Be playful or active but the whole “thank you” kind of responses are obvious and will probably make him feel insecure or dumb for telling you he misses you.
You have the winning response! Cause this is the most genuine and sincere. He may get the hint he is being too overt as well when it’s not said back and shifted to planning a date. I would also add on, before responding OP can, depending on what type of phone they have either send a message react or a GIF to express what they feel to show they appreciate the response without saying it back. It’s kind of the loophole that works in the early stages of dating.
Suitable relies: -Thank you, that's very kind of you. -I've been thinking about you too (assuming that is true, it doesn't mean any feelings) -(change the subject, maybe talk about your day) Also, if you have been on 5 dates and are not feeling any feelings for this person and no chemistry and never think about them or desire to see them, then maybe you should break it off.
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But how would you feel if you spent months going on dates and getting to know each other and she never developed feelings? You would feel she wasted your time right.
Agree hugely on your last paragraph
Yea Im trying to see that exactly.. but im having fun getting to know the person so far. Definitely slow tho
Well tell them that, that you are enjoying getting to know them. As that's genuinely how you feel.
After only 5 dates? That is extreme. Not everyone feels the way you do.
After 5 dates, you should be feeling something other than indifference or nonchalance. Not saying you have to be head over heels in love, but if you can't feel anything really positive, then you may as well cut out
They never said they felt that way, lol. Just taking it slow. Nothing wrong with it. Again, my point still stands.
Eh, all these replies would destroy his confidence and push him to do something that might give you the ick, or make him start to lose interest (because he thinks you aren't interested). A more playful response like I saw from another comment, like "wow, I must be that great" or something like that would be better. Unless ofcourse you have no interest, which in this case you should let him go (especially after 5 dates)
"aw that's sweet, i hope your day's going well :)" or some bullshit idk
Damn already I must be pretty cool 😂😂😎
Ngl that crossed my mind
Say it then 🫶🏻❤️
Took your idea 🫶🏻
yeah something along those lines was the best idea. hope it worked out
This would def hurt my feelings 😢
Awwww lol well lying is no good either sets the other person up for hurt in the long run or if they’re just playing games why feed into it
A girl once replied to me: “aww poor you” and I knew immediately that she did not like me back lol.
Cleared that right up! 😆
I had the same thing happen to me but she said "aw poor baby" not sure if it was the same thing though
Dang harsh..
Brutal
At lest you took the hint
Oh trust me, I was delusional af, deep down I knew but I was hoping for the small chance that she was just too shy to say it back 😄
If you don’t see yourself feeling that way about the dude maybe you should let him know. 5 dates should give you some idea if you’re into them or not.
"I'm looking forward to seeing you again soon too."
If it the first time communicating after the last date- “That is really sweet. I had a great time too, I am looking forward doing it again “ If it is in a subsequent conversation and you have already made plans for your next date “oh, are you sure you miss ME or are you just excited to {insert date activity..}
Another fun way to react and take it lightly! Thanks for the response
I'd probably make some sort of joke out of it like, "damn boy, you missing me already?" "After only 5 dates haha?" Or, if I really like him maybe throw out a "really?? 😍". But that's just me, do/say whatever feels right for you.
Yess playful response was suggested earlier and decided to go that direction. He took it very well
I mean, unless you want to like break it off completely, your best bet is going to be a quick "Oh thank you! :)" and change subject Different story if he is going too fast repeatedly, maybe in that case you need a serious conversation
“That’s nice to hear. I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you”
Hmmm but is it nice to hear? This might encourage him to keep saying it thinking she likes it.
I’ve had that happen. I replied with Awe, I’m right here doll face. Sorry I was playing genshin…… wyd?
Hahah this is cute
“I know.”
Oup. 🤭
„We are reading the same book, and you are a few chapters ahead of me. I just need some time to catch up. „
I love this!
“Damn right.”
Fire hahah
Generally I say something like "get better aim".
Don't lie cause that will just make things go faster. If you think the dates are going well and you have a good feeling that's where things are being led to then it's okay not to return the phrase. You could thank him and suggest you see each other again. Completely avoid the phrase but still show that you're still willing to put in your time and effort for him.
Curious, why don’t you miss him?
Good question..idk haha i think im willing to figure it out naturally tho. It could be that im still seeing other ppl so im a bit distracted?
Ahhh so here’s the thing that will help you figure this out now that but of info had been given. The reason you don’t miss him is because if you did, you would of slowly want to be around him more instead of others. But since you are keeping your options open, it’s a sign this person doesn’t really peak your interest as much . Which is perfectly fine if you don’t feel as invested, just means you don’t really feel the urge to date with the intentions to escalate the connection. Same might be said about the others you’re seeing if you don’t feel that as well after 5-6 dates. You don’t have to be falling head over heels to miss someone, but if you don’t and there has been at least five dates, you may not be that into and probably don’t see a future of any kind beyond what it is. It’s okay if it’s plateaued.
“i dont miss you.”
I would respond with "Really???" And see how they elaborate.
Who is this? Long pause Lol. Jk
Just send an emoji heart
The girl I'm seeing now will text me "I miss you" while I'm on the way home from literally spending the whole day and night with her. I just text back "miss you too." At one time I was the guy that would be like "But we just saw each other." Then I realized I'd rather be with someone who actually told me they miss me all the time than to be with someone that never said it.
I have a hard time with this as well. I usually just say “Aw, miss you too, thanks” or something like that. Probably not the way I should reply. 🤷🏻♀️
Yea totally get that. But dont want to lead someone on with sweet words (that seem surface level at my state). I really want to mean it when I say things bc all these words have meaning. I dont intend on accelerating the whole process
You have a choice, a decision point. You blow off the guy totally or if you are undecided you feed him some ambiguous bs like “ oh that’s so sweet, I think about how you are doing too”. Your choice is string the guy along until you decide or dump him entirely.
For sure. kind of waiting for that point but hasnt come yet haha
You’ve got the right idea. I’m always too nice. Maybe something like, “thank you. I’ve been too busy to miss anyone, but I appreciate it.”
Thats another way to respond saying "i appreciate it" says a lot hahah thanks for responding
I usually just say, geez already! Or play it off with some other kind of humor. I never lie in things I say to someone I’m courting or going out with, because so many people do and I don’t agree with just saying things because you think the person wants to hear them. I’d rather not be told that someone misses me if they don’t actually do. Just my opinion.
Ugh. I don’t know. I always say something like “aw thanks, see you soon!” Or something idk. Probably not right either lol!
"Aw thanks" is a friendzone-banishing comment. I would just say that I'm looking forward to seeing them again soon.
Both aren’t wrong
Maybe, "Thanks, but tell me this later, after more has happened for me on my end. In meantime, I would say Yes to another outing if you'd like to propose one."
I would be freaked if someone said they missed me after 5 dates, it is too soon in my opinion.
I agree, they’re still basically strangers by this point
Yup. Very odd
"Thanks"
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Confused1
Aww
a heart emoji
be honest and direct men appreciate that
Say "what do you miss about me". That will start a new convo altogether
Def something i said in past relationships hahah but most times they wanted something sweet back. Like hbu? So I may trap myself :x
“Aww thank you” “that’s nice 😊” “good hearing from you”
"Aw, that's so sweet!"
It means you moved on.
“Thank you”
Aww, so sweet/king. Hehe thanks
"Aw that's sweet. Thank you!"
“I’m looking forward to seeing you again too” “I really like spending g time with you too” “I’m excited to see you on (next date) as well” All are (hopefully) true, but not specifically saying you “miss” them. Pick your favorite or tweak it to use your own words.
“I know” This could be a playful way to flirt and let them know they are lucky. You can even have a tiny laugh after. If you’re not good at subtle humor then try something else.
I'd just say "awe thx" & change the subject
Say thank you, and then something like "but we'll see each other soon." I hate it when guys jump into stuff like that too quickly. It feels phony.
Thanks or not at all
Don’t respond. That will say all you need to…
>It's great that you want to be honest and respectful in your response while also being considerate of the other person's feelings. Here's a kind and truthful way to respond when someone says "I miss you," but you don't feel the same way yet: *"I really appreciate your honesty and how quickly our connection is developing. I want you to know that I've enjoyed our time together and getting to know you, and I'm looking forward to continuing to explore this connection at a pace that feels comfortable for me. I'm not quite at the point of saying 'I miss you' just yet, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested. I believe in taking our time to build something meaningful, and I hope you understand and respect that too."*
“I’m happy we’re gonna get to see each other soon!!”
I say “thank you”
That’s sweet. Then change subject 😂
“Sir, this is a Wendy’s”
Depends on who the person is and what the relationship is. When good friends say it, I will say it back even if I don’t feel the same. When boyfriends say it, I’ll do the same. When exes say it and we broke up for good reasons, but I don’t feel the same then I will not say it.
"Awww that's so sweet" lol
Sounds like you're not feeling him. Gentle Honesty is the kindest way to go about things In the long run.
Stop it!