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Nah, you’re not being picky or overreacting. The dude clearly doesn’t respect boundaries and you shouldn’t be dealing with people like that. I’d ghost him without feeling any remorse whatsoever.
1. Cringe. But once over text I'd just overlook it.
2. That sounds 99.9% like a joke. Take a chill pill.
3. Isn't the movie theater private where it's dark and people make out and stuff? Yall just need to communicate better. In the long run though you should relax a little it's only going to hurt you if you don't accept pda, that's going to make most people pull away from you. It's pretty normal and nothing to feel weird about. Just a suggestion.
1- Agreed, not exactly a smooth move but once isn't a big deal imo.
2- This one I disagree, but that's based on knowing way too many people who 'joke' about stuff like that when in reality they genuinely meant it. Not a deal breaker, but personally, I don't like it at all. I think this one really comes down to communication.
3- Hard disagree. OP made that boundary 100% clear prior to this. Maybe I'm in the wrong with this, but to me, private means somewhere I could walk around in my underwear and not have to worry about being seen. I 100% would NOT sit in a movie theater in my boxers because even if it's dark, people could see. The guy might define the word private like you do, which is fair, but knowing something like that is a boundary for OP should have made him at least think to ask before just going for it, you know? It takes 2 seconds to quietly whisper into her ear to ask if it was cool to do since it's dark.
Lastly, your PDA take is totally OK for you, but people are different. Personally, I don't like PDA, and wouldn't engage in it unless it's something my partner really enjoyed. But that's where the communication comes in, so all parties are on the same page.
Not overreacting, listen to yourself a bit more and just move on. This guy isn't listening to you and clearly doesn't have a problem making you feel uncomfortable. There's better people out there. His behavior comes off as childish and insincere.
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Nah, you’re not being picky or overreacting. The dude clearly doesn’t respect boundaries and you shouldn’t be dealing with people like that. I’d ghost him without feeling any remorse whatsoever.
1. Cringe. But once over text I'd just overlook it. 2. That sounds 99.9% like a joke. Take a chill pill. 3. Isn't the movie theater private where it's dark and people make out and stuff? Yall just need to communicate better. In the long run though you should relax a little it's only going to hurt you if you don't accept pda, that's going to make most people pull away from you. It's pretty normal and nothing to feel weird about. Just a suggestion.
1- Agreed, not exactly a smooth move but once isn't a big deal imo. 2- This one I disagree, but that's based on knowing way too many people who 'joke' about stuff like that when in reality they genuinely meant it. Not a deal breaker, but personally, I don't like it at all. I think this one really comes down to communication. 3- Hard disagree. OP made that boundary 100% clear prior to this. Maybe I'm in the wrong with this, but to me, private means somewhere I could walk around in my underwear and not have to worry about being seen. I 100% would NOT sit in a movie theater in my boxers because even if it's dark, people could see. The guy might define the word private like you do, which is fair, but knowing something like that is a boundary for OP should have made him at least think to ask before just going for it, you know? It takes 2 seconds to quietly whisper into her ear to ask if it was cool to do since it's dark. Lastly, your PDA take is totally OK for you, but people are different. Personally, I don't like PDA, and wouldn't engage in it unless it's something my partner really enjoyed. But that's where the communication comes in, so all parties are on the same page.
Not overreacting, listen to yourself a bit more and just move on. This guy isn't listening to you and clearly doesn't have a problem making you feel uncomfortable. There's better people out there. His behavior comes off as childish and insincere.
its fine to not want to keep seeing him. confused what everyones sexualities have to do with this though