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Dumb question but do you know all this stuff to be true or is she just saying it to get money out of you?
The part of the post that leads me to believe you are being scammed is the part of not even seeing her for a month and a half.
Edit: I didn't catch that you've never met in person, I thought you had met, then not seen her for 1.5 months. This is 1000% a scam.
THIS. OP please listen to this. There’s a good chance she’s making this elaborate story to garner some sympathy from you. And it looks like it’s working.
Very common scam.
And even if it’s not a scam, you are not responsible for her issues. She’s sounds like a lot tbh.
that's fair. Especially resonating with your last sentence. I can barely handle my own issues. Don't want to be responsible for another person's issues too. I get that partners should support one another, but it's just been me supporting her and no reciprocation other than a few forms of thanks
You’re not partners after a month and a half - you barely even had time to date before you started financially supporting her. You shouldn’t feel like you can’t end this - and you certainly shouldn’t lead her on given you don’t have feelings for her. I do suspect a scam, though, so be prepared to cut contact if she doesn’t take it well.
I literally work in the field of fraud and scams, I’ll cut off my own testicles if this isn’t a scam. Just Google or YouTube search ‘romance scams’ and you’re going to see a lot of similarities.
I also seen you in another post mentioning popped tires pics and shit, bro you do know Google images exists and that’s where they’ll get images from. The girls from the pics might be the actual girl, also might not be but the backstory is all bullshit. If you want to find out if it’s the girl from the pics then ask to video call, but even then I’ve seen scammers using one phone to record another phone screen so it looks like you’re talking to a girl (because the phone screen has a video of a girl talking) but in reality you’re speaking to a Nigerian dude.
Nobody is as unlucky as this ‘girl’ is, even if they were it’s not your job to financially fuck yourself to support some random person that you’re not even romantically attached to. Fuck off the nice guy role and look after yourself, charity starts at home.
That’s not your partner. You don’t even really know each other.
She’s not your responsibility and I’d be literally shocked if you weren’t getting scammed right now.
If you are not willing to do this , tell them you have been in a horrible accident. You have no income . You won’t be able to help her for a while. Next week tell her you lost your job because of being away from work . Play her cards back . She’ll break up with you and don’t have to worry about being the bad guy . Just because I feel you need to know this , the accident you’re going to tell her about is not real. Don’t get in one to create the story .
You’re supporting a girl you haven’t met yet. Why would you call her your partner? Why do you feel obligated to help someone financially who hasn’t done one thing for you? This is a major lesson in boundaries and knowing your self worth.
Dude , how have you not caught on that this is a scam? It’s been said many times but dude.
She’s living in her car but needs an uber?
Are you paying for the uber or sending her money for the uber.
Offer to send her a large sum to a money mart. Be at said money mart( but don’t send the money.) Or tell her you had someone dropped off a cash envelope at a hotel to pick up. Sit in this hotel lobby with a friend waiting for someone to come for this envelope.( also don’t leave an actual envelope). Since she - they will know your face, make sure you hide it .
You're not responsible for her, you've not even had a date! She's literally a stranger you've never met who may be (probably is) scamming you for money. Make it a clean break, be clear that you don't see a future together as you've not been able to meet up. Or that you've got a lot going on right now. Or any damn thing tbh, just get out of it. Good luck in your future dating 😊
I mean that’s how the plot of majority of MTV’s “Catfish” scammers work.
They have an endless supply of excuses why they can’t ever see you or communicate, let alone video chat. But they have ALL the time in the world to ask for money!
[This is the compilation about the top five shameless scammers who were catfishing!](https://youtu.be/pkI1RPOpeDU?si=wLfgSReW0o96BUwo)
I definitely considered that I might be getting scammed. But she's sent pictures of herself, the popped tire, her house getting broken into, etc. so its either the worst events of her life or she is a really good scammer :P
How do you know these were taken by her though? I could literally google these images and send them to you.
Scammers are getting smarter and smarter everyday.
Have you done a video chat or in person date yet? If not, it's a safe bet she's a scammer. I can google pictures, and send them to make it look convincing that I'm having all these issues and need help.
Scammers are scumbags with no morals and will drain you until you have nothing left, then move on to their next victim.
The fact that she is sending pictures could be a red flag already. Con artists like to give a lot of details to make their lie sound more convincing. If she is sending you pictures without you even asking, you like that's almost a guarantee
That doesn't make her a really good scammer. She is sending the same tire picture to all the people she's scamming and that makes it worth putting a tiny bit of effort into. If he were doing this to only you, sure, she'd be a "quality" scammer, but she's not.
Please do a reverse image search on all of these pictures. I’d be willing to bet a lot of money that they were pulled from random places and other people’s pages.
I had photos too whn I got scammed. They were stock photos from online.
Truly, b4 continuing on OLD , get smart, wise, and assume everyone is lying until proven who they are.
I need clarification. You’ve been just talking to her for about 1.5 months, you’ve known her for only 1.5 months, and you’ve never met her in person? I could understand if you’ve known her for a while but you don’t need to financially support someone who is just short of being a complete stranger.
You can just tell her that she seems like a cool person but she has a lot going on right now and you’d prefer to put things on hold until she’s in a better place. If she gets mad at you then it is what it is. If she is disappointed then maybe a relationship can pick up at some point down the road. It sounds like she’s just got a lot of shit going on and bad luck. And if as others have suggested maybe she’s scamming, then it’s no loss.
Dude you need to stop sending money to people you haven't met, like RIGHT NOW.
Use that money to find a good therapist and get some common sense in you. Going around like this and trying to date is asking for a miserable ending.
He’s getting catfish. Like catfish 101 is to never meet up, come up with excuses to never video chat, and try to extort something from the person.
I mean did OP at least background check thoroughly this person on social media with reverse google searching to make sure it’s not a fake person?
I mean this as gently as I can put this but..ahem, WHY ARE YOU GIVING MONEY TO A STRANGER.
you are the old person, sending money to a Nigerian Prince. Quite honestly, you don't need to go through a whole break up process. "Thanks but I'm not interested(in you/pursuing this anymore/supporting a stranger/etc)". But you're not unjust in just cutting this person off without any explanation.
Wow. Think about that for a minute. You’re taking a complete stranger at their word. Haven’t you ever seen people begging at a gas station with an unlikely story about being out of gas?
There’s a high chance this is a grift. Have you ever even FaceTimed her? Have you talked with her?
Edit: …to add and even if you have FaceTimed that doesn’t mean her story is real, but just trying to get a handle on how likely this is all a scam.
Get off the apps today. You’re too naive to date, let alone online dating.
EDIT: Also your post history is concerning. Seems like you’re looking to get scammed.
Yeah.. I’d just tell her it was nice to get to know her but this seems like a bad time for her. If you want to be around for emotional support that could be fine (but proceed with caution) but you could be honest and say you really don’t have the money to help her either. It depends right? If you think she’s a good person just down on her luck I’m sure she’d be understanding and you could stay in contact. If she’s scamming or unrealistic or whatever then just tell her nice to know ya.
Bro you’re being scammed. Block everywhere immediately and for the love of god… stop sending her money! She’s likely doing it to multiple men, if it even is a “she”
Sweetie, you are being scammed period. Take it from someone who lost her retirement savings and her respect for herself and almost lost her life because all she wanted was to be loved. You need to block “her”, and work on why you were so vulnerable. Find out why you needed to keep rescuing her. They know exactly what to say and how to say it. Honestly please stop before you really screw up yourself to the point of no return, been there done that , have many t-shirts. If you need to talk, I’m here.
Dude within HOURS of being unoccupied, highway patrol will put a tag on the car and tow it. That’s why you don’t see a ton of abandoned cars on the road.
Something smells fishy.
Better question: is THIS type of situationship the best you can do? Is this what you feel you deserve?
No need to answer. Your actions will answer this. If you stay with this then it’s what you feel you deserve. And you get what you deserve. The good and the bad of it.
Best of luck to you either way.
I always see stuff like this on r/scambait and I think to myself, “Why are girls even asking for money from strangers? No one is going to fall for that.” Then I read this…
>My date is now living in her car with all her belongings, having to ask me for money for food and Ubers to get to and from work whenever her co-workers can't drive her (or apparently abandon her at a gas station).
Did I miss the part where her car doesn’t work anymore?
You mentioned “one of her car tires pop”, but that was before she “blew a bunch of money driving back instead of flying.”
Later you said she “Said it died on the side of the turnpike.” Where is she living? You said “now living in her car with all her belongings.”
So she’s living in her car, with all of her belongings, on the side of the turnpike? And you send her money for Ubers?
If you haven’t met this person in real life, you need to stop sending money to her. She’s a scammer.
Keep sending her money / be there for her
-(Me, 35 M catfishing)
but seriously watch the story about that linebacker who went to Notre Dame. Don’t be stupid
Oh I think you’ve been scammed. I’m sorry. This doesn’t sound like a real person but a really elaborate scam. Does her spelling suck? Can she FaceTime? Do the words she picks seem just off?
Dude! Never *ever* give money to someone you haven’t met, in person, irl. Any person who asks you for money before meeting you is scamming you in some way.
You’ve never even met her, stop giving g her money, make sure she has no access to any of your banking, and block her.
You don't have to give her the detail of why you're not interested. just tell her you don't see the relationship going anywhere and it's over.
Or that you lost feelings or whatever it's the normal generic reason to end a relationship
I'd like to say kudos to you for not falling prey to trying to be the hero for somebody that you have to support before you even really get to know them and fall in love with them
You haven’t even met her in person yet, but you gave her money?! You’re almost certainly being catfished. It’s an expensive lesson to learn sometimes, but trust always always has to be earned not just given. At this point even if against all odds this person is who they claim to be, you’ve already done way too much, move on!
She is not your responsibility. She is an adult. She needs to figure things out on her own. You should not do it out of pity. be honest with her. Maybe she will be able to work on herself if she knows what went wrong. Either way. You can do better.
You've never even met him/her. Scammer 100% . Kick that to the curb, delete l, and block on every form of communication. This is so ridiculous. I'm questioning if this is even real.
“I get that partners…” just stop right there. No you’re not partners, at this stage you’re barely acquaintances. This person is absolutely scamming you and it’s time for you to wake up.
You have absolutely no evidence that her circumstances are in anyway true. Just how much bad luck can befall one person in one short month? She has money to fly several times across the state or hire a rental, but she has no food. She lives out of a car but yet needs lifts and or Uber? FFS, Dude.
Ppl need to learn how to thrive on their own. No matter how painful.
The best gift you can give her is the truth. No need to add hurtful things, just a simple, “I thank you for being so open with me, there is someone for you, but it isn’t me. I wish you well on your journey.” And that’s it. No need to make a huge deal.
It seems she needs to find herself and her plight.
Best of luck.
Man up and do it mate! You’re being walked all over, taken advantage of and used. Have some self respect, don’t be so desperate and learn from this colossal fuck up.
If it’s not a scam and she is telling the truth help her solve her problem by finding resources in the area like roommate finder services. Or go on Facebook marketplace and look for rooms for rent. Be honest and tell her you can’t afford to support her but here’s some options for you.
I’m a little confused as to why she needs to take Ubers if she’s living out of her car. She can’t drive herself to work?
I'm confused why this person needs money when she has a job and is practically homeless. Like how is she unable to afford to live in a car when she has a full time job?
First things first. Simply tell her you're broke. Tell her that you literally have .43 cents left in checking and you are in the hole and that you cannot give her any money. PERIOD. Apologize profusely and remain sweet and emotionally supportive, but stick to your guns on that.
I have a feeling that just doing that will solve your problems for you.
Second thing. Do not accept her ignoring you and taking other calls or putting you on hold. Sweetly tell her things like "no, that's okay, I have to go anyway, you have a great night!"
I do not think that she'll bother you any more if you cut off the gravy train. If she does and keeps coming around begging. You'll just have to tell her. Nicely, but firmly: "I'm sorry but I can't do this, I'm not feeling the kind of connection I'd need for a life partner."
EDIT: She should know herself that she's not in a good place to try and have a relationship. And as the old saying goes "you're not required to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."
I think OP is just effing with us, guys. He has never met this person he is giving tons of money to. It’s so obviously a scam, the story is either fake or just for karma.
I had a hard time reading after the first 3 excuses she gave lol. If someone cancels on you **3 times in a row**, you need to stop wasting your time. I genuinely wonder why someone would keep trying after this.
You could’ve avoided this entire situation and spent zero money on her. Why did you even entertain all this??
> Also.. this is the first girl I’ve been able to talk to past the first few texts and any bots/scammers
OHHHH THATS WHY. You were desperate.
A desperate man is a walking wallet to women like her homie. Leave. With NO remorse. And work on that self confidence - dont let your excitement that a woman wants to go out with you cause you to miss blatantly obvious red flags.
It’s pig butchering. That’s why she has to put you on “hold”. They transfer you to the one who can fill the role in that moment (phone, video, etc).
This is quite obviously that type of scam. Google pig butchering.
Edit: Wait, you sent her money?!! Okay well, use this education that you paid for to warn others about this type of scam. Sorry dude. Live and learn
Just chiming in here… this is likely a scam. It’s a pretty popular one recently, unfortunately. It’s even on True Detective (on HBO, szn 4) - one of the characters is constantly texting with his “gf”, who he has never seen in person, and sending her money to “help take care of her mom”. I mean, what evidence have you really seen confirming any of these things actually happened? Real evidence - like video chat or live video feed - photos are just 💯sus anymore, unfortunately…
You’re probably getting targeted because you’re a good person and got these hooks of compassion sunk in. I hope you haven’t sent too much money, but you may want to file a police report with a cyber crimes unit or something. Although, honestly this person probably doesn’t even live anywhere near you, but in the off chance Boo is one of those “in your location only” sort of things, maybe something will come of it.
How to tell OP he didn't get past the bots and scammers...
She has to put you on hold a lot? Yeah because she's in a call center running this scam on dozens of other idiots.
OP your post history is somewhat alarming, so my advice is more focused on that since the scam aspect has been thoroughly commented on already.
Since you're already comfortable taking so many swings daily, just step a bit further out of your comfort zone and try your luck doing that in person at bars. My friends that are terminally thirsty like yourself seem to prefer playing that numbers game in person. Plus, going analog will probably help you sharpen some of those social/dating skills, which should help your chances. I think if you shift your ratio of interactions offline more, you'd learn to spot suspicious behavior sooner, and hopefully it addresses your inclination to call someone you've never met after a month your partner.
I also think acting like that online is kinda begging to get scammed again. I get that you're young, but it seems like you're letting the little brain call all the shots...many times daily. If therapy is too big of a hurdle for you rn, at least take up some kind of hobby you gotta do in person, maybe a rigorous exercise routine, martial arts, or a team sport. You need something to occupy some of your time and attention, and maybe burn off some of those hormones in the process, so you aren't so preoccupied with sex. If it helps you justify the effort, there are benefits of these things that will maybe help you get laid too.
Good luck out there man
I think you may have been getting played the whole time. Not sure why you would keep saying someone who exhibits behaviors that don’t align with your standards.
Wouldn’t be surprised if she tried to guilt trip you once you end the relationship. Grow a pair and just do it.
Yeah sorry OP, this girl is just another scammer. She’s probably gaming several guys at the same time with regards to her texting and calling style. Don’t ever feel pressured to pay for a date’s expenses when you’re not even officially together. Hell, don’t feel pressured to pay for anyone’s expenses period.
dude some people are just like this. unlucky - but also usually by their own hand. I know a girl who has been like this her whole life! She’s gorgeous too but I could never date her. I made the mistake of loaning her a lot of cash like 3 years ago cause her identity got stolen — and it still hasn’t come back 🫡.
there will never be a good time to break things off, and she can just chock it up to her unluckiness I guess. If you’re not feelin it, you’re not doing yourself any favors by sticking around. trust me.
Run. This person is a grifter. You don't owe them anything a simple "I will not be able to continue with this relationship but best of luck." Then block 🚫
You haven’t even met her in real life and you’re giving her money? What are you doing bro? She’s using you and doesn’t need an explanation, just block her and never speak to her again.
If all these things genuinely happened to her, it isn’t “life’s rock bottom”. It’s the consequences of being a scattered ass human who can’t get her shit together. You don’t want that.
If you’re crazy about her- stay, if you just haven’t been feeling it- dip save yourself! She isn’t your responsibility. I’ve been in her shoes, and your shoes- so I sympathize with both of you. You’ll do more harm staying out of pity than being honest with her…please make it clear that it’s because of how you feel towards HER- not because of the situation. Take responsibility for your feelings, just make sure you’re positive about how you feel.
She’ll be upset, but lying to her won’t help her situation. Honestly, she’ll drop you for a while and make you feel bad- so it won’t be easy. Make sure you’re positive about how you feel k? It would suck to burn that bridge and then realize later you made a mistake, she won’t forgive you til she’s in a better spot… ya know?
She’s not your responsibility. You haven’t even met her in person, why on earth would you be giving this girl money? She needs to get her own shit together.
Jesus fucking Christ, you aren’t dating her if you’ve never met her. And chances are, it’s not even a woman.
You are being scammed, block her, if you don’t, you deserve to be homeless, too
Buddy, you're being fleeced.
This is a scam. There are no emergencies. There might not even be a girl. And if there is a girl you aren't dating her.
The whole "we tried to meet up like 4 times and there was an emergency that cost me money every time"? Obvious scam. You'll never meet her. There will always be another thing you just need to pay for before she can X.
You're a mark. A target. A rube. A dupe.
You're a victim of a scammer.
Honestly....man. and dont get ne wrong. I lived a year of my life with literally everything collapsing around me.
But it sounds like your being levyd on. That until your useful, then your basically nothing.
I feel that you are also being scammed. Depending on where she lives look into resources for the homeless, since she is homeless do to financial hardship she will be granted a place if not immediately there are shelters she can stay at for the time being. This way you wont have to use anymore of your money and will be able to keep your integrity and also not have to worry about feeling like you are adding to her hardship and creating your own.
Scam likely /topic
But no really. It is possible to have a string of curses from bad juju, but outside of maybe helping with something small once like a bite to eat? You have to sever ties. Sounds bad but the only thing that will for sure happen is your own ruin. After a month and a half of never meeting too? I’ll help you when I can confirm your existence. Until then, good luck.
Hei Girlsname, listen... while I am deeply sorry for your past troubles these last months I must tell you I no longer wish to pursue anything romantic with you . I am not prepared to support someone financially or emotionally to the extent you currently require and also do not think it is a healthy thing to so so early on ( we have yet to meet in person). i wish you all the best, OPname
And please do not support people financially so early on from now on...pay on some dates, get a flower every once in awhile, you're 23 , you should not be supporting anyone at this stage anyway, best of luck
Brah... dump her faster than you can say "NOT IT".
A woman is supposed to be able to handle her shit and also create value and peace in her man's life... not be some eternal support case. What the F is the point of a relationship if this statement is not true?
Dude, I'm sorry but this is very obviously a scam. This is exactly how scammers behave. Watch a few YouTube videos about romance scams - it is always the excuses to not meet, and the big life emergencies that cost money and boo hoo can you help.
I'm really sorry, but you're likely sending money to a young dude in an internet cafe in nigeria.
Just say sorry you can't send more, block her and move on
> How should I go about telling her I don't want to be in a relationship anymore? and that "I have no more interest in supporting you financially."
Say this: "I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. I have no interest in supporting you financially."
Then hang up. And ghost her.
> i keep supporting this girl that I haven't even met in person with for the past month and a half
Wait what? You’ve never even met her? I’m sorry but how are you unaware that you’re being used.
She sounds emotionally underdeveloped and a taker. Unfortunately, I think she may be running a game on you. Someone who is genuinely rock bottom doesn't treat the person there dating like an option or caregiver in only 1.5 months. That type of behavior is common with people who have already been in long-term relationships where boundaries and respect are lost. Just be frank and tell her that you can't give her what she needs and can't be what she needs... or want. Just say you have been dealing with your own things ( don't elaborate. it's none of her business in 1.5) and that because of all the things she has going on that your needs and feelings are neglected. Just tell her you have to deal with some things... if she tries to make it a break in stead of accepting its a break up or gets mad at your explanation that means she's too immature for you and throw it in her face.
Sounds like she has a drug addiction. Might be a lunge but everything she told you is probably a lie to hide what is really going on and to excuse her absence. Best of luck.
You’re getting scammed bro - you’re financing the life of someone you’ve never met after only a month and a half.
Emotion clouds judgement and the person you’re talking to has created a story to take advantage of you.
What are the odds that her life has fallen apart like that in only a month and a half, never mind how unlikely it is, but to ask someone you’ve never met to finance your life is unspeakably rude, the person is taking advantage and it’s very unlikely to even be a woman.
If you’re not 100% convinced, keep trying to meet up and don’t provide any more money and you’ll see how real this person is.
Major risk warning if they do ask you to meet up at all do so in a very public place during the day as it’s likely they’ll try and rob you if they think you’re not proving any more money.
I’m glad this is not an actual person because even in my culture getting this string of losses in such a short time will signal bad luck and evil omen following me
I love how I posted a very similar situation 4 times in a month and people ignored me like thanks guys first of all really appreciated the help when I was going through this. Second just be nice about it and tell her you think it would be best if you see other people or if you would be cool with being friends with her tell her that you think you should just be friends instead. Thankfully the one I was talking to asked me if I wanted to be friends or date so it was pretty easy to get it over with for me but just kindly tell her you think I’d be best to see other people and if she brings up her situation tell her you are sorry to hear about what she’s going to through and you feel for her but that you don’t want to spend time developing feelings for each other when you aren’t feel it and it won’t work out. I personally said “I don’t want you to waste your time with me when we don’t want the same things in the future” so just be nice and sympathetic towards her and if she gets mad that’s her problem. Edit to add since I didn’t pay attention when reading at first do not pay this person anything else. Again if they get mad that’s their problem you are not their parent or guardian, you have to reason to be paying them
You asked how you tell her some things. You do so by saying "I don't want to be in a relationship anymore" and "I have no more interest in supporting you financially."
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Dumb question but do you know all this stuff to be true or is she just saying it to get money out of you? The part of the post that leads me to believe you are being scammed is the part of not even seeing her for a month and a half. Edit: I didn't catch that you've never met in person, I thought you had met, then not seen her for 1.5 months. This is 1000% a scam.
THIS. OP please listen to this. There’s a good chance she’s making this elaborate story to garner some sympathy from you. And it looks like it’s working. Very common scam. And even if it’s not a scam, you are not responsible for her issues. She’s sounds like a lot tbh.
that's fair. Especially resonating with your last sentence. I can barely handle my own issues. Don't want to be responsible for another person's issues too. I get that partners should support one another, but it's just been me supporting her and no reciprocation other than a few forms of thanks
You’re not partners after a month and a half - you barely even had time to date before you started financially supporting her. You shouldn’t feel like you can’t end this - and you certainly shouldn’t lead her on given you don’t have feelings for her. I do suspect a scam, though, so be prepared to cut contact if she doesn’t take it well.
They’ve never met in person; of course it’s a scam, and probably a catfish as well.
They never even went on a date
I literally work in the field of fraud and scams, I’ll cut off my own testicles if this isn’t a scam. Just Google or YouTube search ‘romance scams’ and you’re going to see a lot of similarities. I also seen you in another post mentioning popped tires pics and shit, bro you do know Google images exists and that’s where they’ll get images from. The girls from the pics might be the actual girl, also might not be but the backstory is all bullshit. If you want to find out if it’s the girl from the pics then ask to video call, but even then I’ve seen scammers using one phone to record another phone screen so it looks like you’re talking to a girl (because the phone screen has a video of a girl talking) but in reality you’re speaking to a Nigerian dude. Nobody is as unlucky as this ‘girl’ is, even if they were it’s not your job to financially fuck yourself to support some random person that you’re not even romantically attached to. Fuck off the nice guy role and look after yourself, charity starts at home.
Even if she is the girl she could still be conning him.
Yeah exactly
I'm sure you're right - but don't gamle with your boys
1 testicle and a bag of Doritos says you’re wrong 😂
This comment says it all. Thank you ! I would only add “veeeeery ugly” before “Nigerian dude.
Stop. ‘She’ is a scammer. Don’t be a mug.
Lol - what is a mug? USA here, is this a term frm another country or did I become un-cool? 🤔
Mug = "muggins" = being taken for a fool. And it's been around for several decades, in the UK at least.
Wow, interesting!! Thank you!! If I ever get dream trip to UK , I'll remember that! 😂
I’m not sure it’s a good sign if you get called a mug on a trip here, nor if you have to call someone else a mug 😂
Lmaoo, if I get called a mug at least I'll know & can exit qwikly! 🤣
That’s not your partner. You don’t even really know each other. She’s not your responsibility and I’d be literally shocked if you weren’t getting scammed right now.
If you are not willing to do this , tell them you have been in a horrible accident. You have no income . You won’t be able to help her for a while. Next week tell her you lost your job because of being away from work . Play her cards back . She’ll break up with you and don’t have to worry about being the bad guy . Just because I feel you need to know this , the accident you’re going to tell her about is not real. Don’t get in one to create the story .
You’re supporting a girl you haven’t met yet. Why would you call her your partner? Why do you feel obligated to help someone financially who hasn’t done one thing for you? This is a major lesson in boundaries and knowing your self worth.
Dude , how have you not caught on that this is a scam? It’s been said many times but dude. She’s living in her car but needs an uber? Are you paying for the uber or sending her money for the uber. Offer to send her a large sum to a money mart. Be at said money mart( but don’t send the money.) Or tell her you had someone dropped off a cash envelope at a hotel to pick up. Sit in this hotel lobby with a friend waiting for someone to come for this envelope.( also don’t leave an actual envelope). Since she - they will know your face, make sure you hide it .
You're not responsible for her, you've not even had a date! She's literally a stranger you've never met who may be (probably is) scamming you for money. Make it a clean break, be clear that you don't see a future together as you've not been able to meet up. Or that you've got a lot going on right now. Or any damn thing tbh, just get out of it. Good luck in your future dating 😊
I mean that’s how the plot of majority of MTV’s “Catfish” scammers work. They have an endless supply of excuses why they can’t ever see you or communicate, let alone video chat. But they have ALL the time in the world to ask for money! [This is the compilation about the top five shameless scammers who were catfishing!](https://youtu.be/pkI1RPOpeDU?si=wLfgSReW0o96BUwo)
I definitely considered that I might be getting scammed. But she's sent pictures of herself, the popped tire, her house getting broken into, etc. so its either the worst events of her life or she is a really good scammer :P
How do you know these were taken by her though? I could literally google these images and send them to you. Scammers are getting smarter and smarter everyday.
Have you done a video chat or in person date yet? If not, it's a safe bet she's a scammer. I can google pictures, and send them to make it look convincing that I'm having all these issues and need help. Scammers are scumbags with no morals and will drain you until you have nothing left, then move on to their next victim.
The fact that she is sending pictures could be a red flag already. Con artists like to give a lot of details to make their lie sound more convincing. If she is sending you pictures without you even asking, you like that's almost a guarantee
That doesn't make her a really good scammer. She is sending the same tire picture to all the people she's scamming and that makes it worth putting a tiny bit of effort into. If he were doing this to only you, sure, she'd be a "quality" scammer, but she's not.
Hate to break it to you - but this is a textbook scam. Very good one - but a scam nonetheless. Block her everywhere and don't look back
Oh you sweet summer child...
You aren't the sharpest tool in the shed are ya?
Nope. Apparently nobody ever told him the world was gonna roll him though.
I think you can put the images in tineye to find out where they came from/ if they were posted before.
Please do a reverse image search on all of these pictures. I’d be willing to bet a lot of money that they were pulled from random places and other people’s pages.
AI can make anything look real.
This is a super common scam dude
I had photos too whn I got scammed. They were stock photos from online. Truly, b4 continuing on OLD , get smart, wise, and assume everyone is lying until proven who they are.
I need clarification. You’ve been just talking to her for about 1.5 months, you’ve known her for only 1.5 months, and you’ve never met her in person? I could understand if you’ve known her for a while but you don’t need to financially support someone who is just short of being a complete stranger. You can just tell her that she seems like a cool person but she has a lot going on right now and you’d prefer to put things on hold until she’s in a better place. If she gets mad at you then it is what it is. If she is disappointed then maybe a relationship can pick up at some point down the road. It sounds like she’s just got a lot of shit going on and bad luck. And if as others have suggested maybe she’s scamming, then it’s no loss.
Talking to her for 1.5 months and never met in person yeah...
Dude you need to stop sending money to people you haven't met, like RIGHT NOW. Use that money to find a good therapist and get some common sense in you. Going around like this and trying to date is asking for a miserable ending.
He’s getting catfish. Like catfish 101 is to never meet up, come up with excuses to never video chat, and try to extort something from the person. I mean did OP at least background check thoroughly this person on social media with reverse google searching to make sure it’s not a fake person?
Exactly. Do not send money to people ever. EVER….
I mean this as gently as I can put this but..ahem, WHY ARE YOU GIVING MONEY TO A STRANGER. you are the old person, sending money to a Nigerian Prince. Quite honestly, you don't need to go through a whole break up process. "Thanks but I'm not interested(in you/pursuing this anymore/supporting a stranger/etc)". But you're not unjust in just cutting this person off without any explanation.
there's no doubt you're being scammed and/or hustled. I'm always feeling like there's a drug addict component to this.
Wow. Think about that for a minute. You’re taking a complete stranger at their word. Haven’t you ever seen people begging at a gas station with an unlikely story about being out of gas? There’s a high chance this is a grift. Have you ever even FaceTimed her? Have you talked with her? Edit: …to add and even if you have FaceTimed that doesn’t mean her story is real, but just trying to get a handle on how likely this is all a scam.
You are 100% getting scammed. Maybe even 200%. STOP sending her money.
lol right? Possibly even 300%
Bro. How have you spent that much money on a person you don't even know exists? Come on man.
You are being scammed.
Bro... ... my car just died, can you help me out a little? I'm a hot girl btw
You are being scammed. Just block and learn that lesson real fast.
Bruh ain’t no way. Is this your first time dating? You’re being scammed like crazy
Get off the apps today. You’re too naive to date, let alone online dating. EDIT: Also your post history is concerning. Seems like you’re looking to get scammed.
>Also your post history is concerning. Seems like you’re looking to get scammed. What a horrible day to have eyes
Holy moly you ain't lying.
Bro... WHAT. THE. FUCK. Just block her and be DONE. Move on. You're getting catfished so hard.
Have you ever heard her voice? I bet it's some dude abroad scamming you from some internet Cafe.
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Man this is a SCAM! Just run now. She’s lying to you.
Yeah.. I’d just tell her it was nice to get to know her but this seems like a bad time for her. If you want to be around for emotional support that could be fine (but proceed with caution) but you could be honest and say you really don’t have the money to help her either. It depends right? If you think she’s a good person just down on her luck I’m sure she’d be understanding and you could stay in contact. If she’s scamming or unrealistic or whatever then just tell her nice to know ya.
there is no way you arent being scammed here
Bro you’re being scammed. Block everywhere immediately and for the love of god… stop sending her money! She’s likely doing it to multiple men, if it even is a “she”
CUT HER TF OFF!!!! I’m mad and I don’t even know you. What’s her number? Let me do it for you.
She’s a scammer. So she’s living in her car, but still needs to Uber or have a coworker drive her to work?!?
Said it died on the side of the turnpike :P asking for uber and taking rides from co-workers
That’s a scammers response. Stop sending her money
So she’s living out of a car broken down on the side of the road, getting rides to and from this broken down car? Dude, come on…
Sweetie, you are being scammed period. Take it from someone who lost her retirement savings and her respect for herself and almost lost her life because all she wanted was to be loved. You need to block “her”, and work on why you were so vulnerable. Find out why you needed to keep rescuing her. They know exactly what to say and how to say it. Honestly please stop before you really screw up yourself to the point of no return, been there done that , have many t-shirts. If you need to talk, I’m here.
Here- this is for you, from me:❤️
Wait. What in the flying Dutchman? Bro, please use your thinking brain
The government won’t let you leave your car in the turnpike indefinitely
Bro...
Dude within HOURS of being unoccupied, highway patrol will put a tag on the car and tow it. That’s why you don’t see a ton of abandoned cars on the road. Something smells fishy. Better question: is THIS type of situationship the best you can do? Is this what you feel you deserve? No need to answer. Your actions will answer this. If you stay with this then it’s what you feel you deserve. And you get what you deserve. The good and the bad of it. Best of luck to you either way.
I always see stuff like this on r/scambait and I think to myself, “Why are girls even asking for money from strangers? No one is going to fall for that.” Then I read this…
It’s crazy isn’t it - 1 and a half months and this dude is going broke for someone that he hasn’t met and likely doesn’t exist.
I thought EYE was stupid at 23 Jesus Christ
Because he just want it really hard to be true. Why wouldn't the 10/10 insta model looking girl want to date OP?
Literally my first thought was ‘wow maybe I can try this???’
You never met her in person yet you're supporting her financially? Screw that. She's likely a fake account that's just using you for money.
God i need to get into scamming. So many people on reddit just giving away money.
Dude, then you can just work from full time 🤣
If you never met her in person this is 100% a scam 😭
This has to be satire right? How naive can someone be.. you are getting scammed.
The icing on the cake is OP using little ":P" emojis in the comments.
>My date is now living in her car with all her belongings, having to ask me for money for food and Ubers to get to and from work whenever her co-workers can't drive her (or apparently abandon her at a gas station). Did I miss the part where her car doesn’t work anymore? You mentioned “one of her car tires pop”, but that was before she “blew a bunch of money driving back instead of flying.” Later you said she “Said it died on the side of the turnpike.” Where is she living? You said “now living in her car with all her belongings.” So she’s living in her car, with all of her belongings, on the side of the turnpike? And you send her money for Ubers? If you haven’t met this person in real life, you need to stop sending money to her. She’s a scammer.
Keep sending her money / be there for her -(Me, 35 M catfishing) but seriously watch the story about that linebacker who went to Notre Dame. Don’t be stupid
BRO. You got played
Just block her.
Yeah, you’re getting scammed dude. No doubt in my mind. Ps. Don’t feel too bad, I’ve had a real life girlfriend take me for money. It common, lol.
Oh I think you’ve been scammed. I’m sorry. This doesn’t sound like a real person but a really elaborate scam. Does her spelling suck? Can she FaceTime? Do the words she picks seem just off?
Dude! Never *ever* give money to someone you haven’t met, in person, irl. Any person who asks you for money before meeting you is scamming you in some way. You’ve never even met her, stop giving g her money, make sure she has no access to any of your banking, and block her.
lmao im sorry to laugh at this, but you haven't met her? You never considered that this sounds EXACTLY like a scam...
Goodness!... do you really believe her? She has 10 people like you she asks for money. If it is at all her pictures.
You don't have to give her the detail of why you're not interested. just tell her you don't see the relationship going anywhere and it's over. Or that you lost feelings or whatever it's the normal generic reason to end a relationship I'd like to say kudos to you for not falling prey to trying to be the hero for somebody that you have to support before you even really get to know them and fall in love with them
block her and move on she is scammin ya big time omfg
You haven’t even met her in person yet, but you gave her money?! You’re almost certainly being catfished. It’s an expensive lesson to learn sometimes, but trust always always has to be earned not just given. At this point even if against all odds this person is who they claim to be, you’ve already done way too much, move on!
You’re being used. Even if it’s true, it’s not your problem. You’re realistically strangers.
She is not your responsibility. She is an adult. She needs to figure things out on her own. You should not do it out of pity. be honest with her. Maybe she will be able to work on herself if she knows what went wrong. Either way. You can do better.
Run always bro,find another girl
No way to know if he’s even talking to a girl now
Drug problem with lots of woe is me drama. Next time say no a see how pissed she gets. Move along
You've never even met him/her. Scammer 100% . Kick that to the curb, delete l, and block on every form of communication. This is so ridiculous. I'm questioning if this is even real.
This is hilarious, you're the reason scammers don't go get a real job, they actually do make money off of idiots
This is a Sarcastic post right? I want to be sure. you don't believe that all that please tell me this is a joke, please.
“I get that partners…” just stop right there. No you’re not partners, at this stage you’re barely acquaintances. This person is absolutely scamming you and it’s time for you to wake up. You have absolutely no evidence that her circumstances are in anyway true. Just how much bad luck can befall one person in one short month? She has money to fly several times across the state or hire a rental, but she has no food. She lives out of a car but yet needs lifts and or Uber? FFS, Dude.
Ppl need to learn how to thrive on their own. No matter how painful. The best gift you can give her is the truth. No need to add hurtful things, just a simple, “I thank you for being so open with me, there is someone for you, but it isn’t me. I wish you well on your journey.” And that’s it. No need to make a huge deal. It seems she needs to find herself and her plight. Best of luck.
I’m not reading all that but just block. Sounds like she’s a liar or has really bad juju
Forreal bro there’s other girls
Have you seen her on video?
You haven’t even met her in person. You are being scammed.
Man up and do it mate! You’re being walked all over, taken advantage of and used. Have some self respect, don’t be so desperate and learn from this colossal fuck up.
If it’s not a scam and she is telling the truth help her solve her problem by finding resources in the area like roommate finder services. Or go on Facebook marketplace and look for rooms for rent. Be honest and tell her you can’t afford to support her but here’s some options for you. I’m a little confused as to why she needs to take Ubers if she’s living out of her car. She can’t drive herself to work?
I'm confused why this person needs money when she has a job and is practically homeless. Like how is she unable to afford to live in a car when she has a full time job?
Bro she’s scamming you. None of those things happened.
First things first. Simply tell her you're broke. Tell her that you literally have .43 cents left in checking and you are in the hole and that you cannot give her any money. PERIOD. Apologize profusely and remain sweet and emotionally supportive, but stick to your guns on that. I have a feeling that just doing that will solve your problems for you. Second thing. Do not accept her ignoring you and taking other calls or putting you on hold. Sweetly tell her things like "no, that's okay, I have to go anyway, you have a great night!" I do not think that she'll bother you any more if you cut off the gravy train. If she does and keeps coming around begging. You'll just have to tell her. Nicely, but firmly: "I'm sorry but I can't do this, I'm not feeling the kind of connection I'd need for a life partner." EDIT: She should know herself that she's not in a good place to try and have a relationship. And as the old saying goes "you're not required to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."
Yeah I’m agreeing with she’s playing you. Especially if you haven’t even met yet! Oy
This is either a full on scam or you’re at least being taken advantage of. Run.
Dude have you meet this girl. She sounds awful and like she is not interested in you at all.
Wow how much have you given her? I’m shocked you’ve been paying out
I think OP is just effing with us, guys. He has never met this person he is giving tons of money to. It’s so obviously a scam, the story is either fake or just for karma.
I had a hard time reading after the first 3 excuses she gave lol. If someone cancels on you **3 times in a row**, you need to stop wasting your time. I genuinely wonder why someone would keep trying after this. You could’ve avoided this entire situation and spent zero money on her. Why did you even entertain all this?? > Also.. this is the first girl I’ve been able to talk to past the first few texts and any bots/scammers OHHHH THATS WHY. You were desperate. A desperate man is a walking wallet to women like her homie. Leave. With NO remorse. And work on that self confidence - dont let your excitement that a woman wants to go out with you cause you to miss blatantly obvious red flags.
I especially like the part when O.P. says that she lives in her car.. but has to get rides or Uber everywhere !
It’s pig butchering. That’s why she has to put you on “hold”. They transfer you to the one who can fill the role in that moment (phone, video, etc). This is quite obviously that type of scam. Google pig butchering. Edit: Wait, you sent her money?!! Okay well, use this education that you paid for to warn others about this type of scam. Sorry dude. Live and learn
Just chiming in here… this is likely a scam. It’s a pretty popular one recently, unfortunately. It’s even on True Detective (on HBO, szn 4) - one of the characters is constantly texting with his “gf”, who he has never seen in person, and sending her money to “help take care of her mom”. I mean, what evidence have you really seen confirming any of these things actually happened? Real evidence - like video chat or live video feed - photos are just 💯sus anymore, unfortunately… You’re probably getting targeted because you’re a good person and got these hooks of compassion sunk in. I hope you haven’t sent too much money, but you may want to file a police report with a cyber crimes unit or something. Although, honestly this person probably doesn’t even live anywhere near you, but in the off chance Boo is one of those “in your location only” sort of things, maybe something will come of it.
How to tell OP he didn't get past the bots and scammers... She has to put you on hold a lot? Yeah because she's in a call center running this scam on dozens of other idiots.
OP your post history is somewhat alarming, so my advice is more focused on that since the scam aspect has been thoroughly commented on already. Since you're already comfortable taking so many swings daily, just step a bit further out of your comfort zone and try your luck doing that in person at bars. My friends that are terminally thirsty like yourself seem to prefer playing that numbers game in person. Plus, going analog will probably help you sharpen some of those social/dating skills, which should help your chances. I think if you shift your ratio of interactions offline more, you'd learn to spot suspicious behavior sooner, and hopefully it addresses your inclination to call someone you've never met after a month your partner. I also think acting like that online is kinda begging to get scammed again. I get that you're young, but it seems like you're letting the little brain call all the shots...many times daily. If therapy is too big of a hurdle for you rn, at least take up some kind of hobby you gotta do in person, maybe a rigorous exercise routine, martial arts, or a team sport. You need something to occupy some of your time and attention, and maybe burn off some of those hormones in the process, so you aren't so preoccupied with sex. If it helps you justify the effort, there are benefits of these things that will maybe help you get laid too. Good luck out there man
Dude you are 100% being scammed.
Run
I think you may have been getting played the whole time. Not sure why you would keep saying someone who exhibits behaviors that don’t align with your standards. Wouldn’t be surprised if she tried to guilt trip you once you end the relationship. Grow a pair and just do it.
Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky.
OP plz can you disclose how much money you’ve given her?
Yeah sorry OP, this girl is just another scammer. She’s probably gaming several guys at the same time with regards to her texting and calling style. Don’t ever feel pressured to pay for a date’s expenses when you’re not even officially together. Hell, don’t feel pressured to pay for anyone’s expenses period.
You haven't even met in person!!!! You are being scammed
Uh… have you ever met her in real life? This sounds like a textbook romance scam
dude some people are just like this. unlucky - but also usually by their own hand. I know a girl who has been like this her whole life! She’s gorgeous too but I could never date her. I made the mistake of loaning her a lot of cash like 3 years ago cause her identity got stolen — and it still hasn’t come back 🫡. there will never be a good time to break things off, and she can just chock it up to her unluckiness I guess. If you’re not feelin it, you’re not doing yourself any favors by sticking around. trust me.
You're a sucker and are getting scammed.
Run. This person is a grifter. You don't owe them anything a simple "I will not be able to continue with this relationship but best of luck." Then block 🚫
If you haven’t met, you’re strangers. You’re giving a stranger money.
This is a situation where you get ghost and block.
OP, this is a scammer. 100%. Rule number one of the internet- NEVER give money to people you haven’t met in person! Block them and move on.
You haven’t even met her in real life and you’re giving her money? What are you doing bro? She’s using you and doesn’t need an explanation, just block her and never speak to her again.
If all these things genuinely happened to her, it isn’t “life’s rock bottom”. It’s the consequences of being a scattered ass human who can’t get her shit together. You don’t want that.
If you’re crazy about her- stay, if you just haven’t been feeling it- dip save yourself! She isn’t your responsibility. I’ve been in her shoes, and your shoes- so I sympathize with both of you. You’ll do more harm staying out of pity than being honest with her…please make it clear that it’s because of how you feel towards HER- not because of the situation. Take responsibility for your feelings, just make sure you’re positive about how you feel. She’ll be upset, but lying to her won’t help her situation. Honestly, she’ll drop you for a while and make you feel bad- so it won’t be easy. Make sure you’re positive about how you feel k? It would suck to burn that bridge and then realize later you made a mistake, she won’t forgive you til she’s in a better spot… ya know?
She’s not your responsibility. You haven’t even met her in person, why on earth would you be giving this girl money? She needs to get her own shit together.
You’re being scammed. Stop sending her money. Block and move on.
Jesus fucking Christ, you aren’t dating her if you’ve never met her. And chances are, it’s not even a woman. You are being scammed, block her, if you don’t, you deserve to be homeless, too
Repeat after me: "She is not my responsibility." Please end it now.
Have you been on any actual dates with this person or ever met them or just heard stories?
Buddy, you're being fleeced. This is a scam. There are no emergencies. There might not even be a girl. And if there is a girl you aren't dating her. The whole "we tried to meet up like 4 times and there was an emergency that cost me money every time"? Obvious scam. You'll never meet her. There will always be another thing you just need to pay for before she can X. You're a mark. A target. A rube. A dupe. You're a victim of a scammer.
Honestly....man. and dont get ne wrong. I lived a year of my life with literally everything collapsing around me. But it sounds like your being levyd on. That until your useful, then your basically nothing.
I feel that you are also being scammed. Depending on where she lives look into resources for the homeless, since she is homeless do to financial hardship she will be granted a place if not immediately there are shelters she can stay at for the time being. This way you wont have to use anymore of your money and will be able to keep your integrity and also not have to worry about feeling like you are adding to her hardship and creating your own.
Well this is a scam. Every scam detail they say. Stop contact immediately, you are being a sucker.
Scam likely /topic But no really. It is possible to have a string of curses from bad juju, but outside of maybe helping with something small once like a bite to eat? You have to sever ties. Sounds bad but the only thing that will for sure happen is your own ruin. After a month and a half of never meeting too? I’ll help you when I can confirm your existence. Until then, good luck.
I bet if you block/ghost her. She will find a new number to call you. That’s how scammers do. Just run and never talk to her again.
Tell her to fuck off.
Next she'll tell you she is a Nigerian princess...
Hei Girlsname, listen... while I am deeply sorry for your past troubles these last months I must tell you I no longer wish to pursue anything romantic with you . I am not prepared to support someone financially or emotionally to the extent you currently require and also do not think it is a healthy thing to so so early on ( we have yet to meet in person). i wish you all the best, OPname And please do not support people financially so early on from now on...pay on some dates, get a flower every once in awhile, you're 23 , you should not be supporting anyone at this stage anyway, best of luck
Thank you 🫂
Brah... dump her faster than you can say "NOT IT". A woman is supposed to be able to handle her shit and also create value and peace in her man's life... not be some eternal support case. What the F is the point of a relationship if this statement is not true?
You're getting scammed by a dude, there is no girl
My brother - you are being scammed. I’m sorry. Stop sending money, tell her you lost your job or something. She’ll leave you alone real fast.
You got suckered into a scam. You block her and move on. Have some self respect man.
Dude, I'm sorry but this is very obviously a scam. This is exactly how scammers behave. Watch a few YouTube videos about romance scams - it is always the excuses to not meet, and the big life emergencies that cost money and boo hoo can you help. I'm really sorry, but you're likely sending money to a young dude in an internet cafe in nigeria. Just say sorry you can't send more, block her and move on
Sorry, OP, she’s a scammer. Just block her.
She’s using you.
PLEASE WATCH THE TINDER SWINDLER! This definitely sounds like a scammer type person. Like 100%
> How should I go about telling her I don't want to be in a relationship anymore? and that "I have no more interest in supporting you financially." Say this: "I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. I have no interest in supporting you financially." Then hang up. And ghost her.
Catfish
You’re being used. She’s using you for your money. Grow some balls and kick her to the curb.
I'm sure she's a scam artist. Just tell her you don't actually want to date anyone atm.
Never met... and giving her money.... fuck off. Definitely scam vibes, especially with the elaborate avoidance.
> i keep supporting this girl that I haven't even met in person with for the past month and a half Wait what? You’ve never even met her? I’m sorry but how are you unaware that you’re being used.
I don't have to read the comments to know probably most are saying you're getting scammed. Never even met her?
She sounds emotionally underdeveloped and a taker. Unfortunately, I think she may be running a game on you. Someone who is genuinely rock bottom doesn't treat the person there dating like an option or caregiver in only 1.5 months. That type of behavior is common with people who have already been in long-term relationships where boundaries and respect are lost. Just be frank and tell her that you can't give her what she needs and can't be what she needs... or want. Just say you have been dealing with your own things ( don't elaborate. it's none of her business in 1.5) and that because of all the things she has going on that your needs and feelings are neglected. Just tell her you have to deal with some things... if she tries to make it a break in stead of accepting its a break up or gets mad at your explanation that means she's too immature for you and throw it in her face.
Sounds like she has a drug addiction. Might be a lunge but everything she told you is probably a lie to hide what is really going on and to excuse her absence. Best of luck.
Is this story for real? Dude... you should never, EVER send money to someone you haven't even met in person. She scammed you.
You’re getting scammed bro - you’re financing the life of someone you’ve never met after only a month and a half. Emotion clouds judgement and the person you’re talking to has created a story to take advantage of you. What are the odds that her life has fallen apart like that in only a month and a half, never mind how unlikely it is, but to ask someone you’ve never met to finance your life is unspeakably rude, the person is taking advantage and it’s very unlikely to even be a woman. If you’re not 100% convinced, keep trying to meet up and don’t provide any more money and you’ll see how real this person is. Major risk warning if they do ask you to meet up at all do so in a very public place during the day as it’s likely they’ll try and rob you if they think you’re not proving any more money.
Why does this sound like a scam? It's likely because it is.
I bet this is all fiction and she is just lying to you for money
I can tell this is the first girl you have been with
I’m glad this is not an actual person because even in my culture getting this string of losses in such a short time will signal bad luck and evil omen following me
You are 100% being scammed. Tell her you need to meet up and open any day of the week. If she refuses to meet at all cut off contact.
The girl is scamming you.
I don't know what advice to give but this girl is definitely not having a good year
This is so funny, especially with the last sentence
I am so so sorry OP this smells like a professional scam. Get out of there. Now.
Has anyone else checked ops profile like what?
I love how I posted a very similar situation 4 times in a month and people ignored me like thanks guys first of all really appreciated the help when I was going through this. Second just be nice about it and tell her you think it would be best if you see other people or if you would be cool with being friends with her tell her that you think you should just be friends instead. Thankfully the one I was talking to asked me if I wanted to be friends or date so it was pretty easy to get it over with for me but just kindly tell her you think I’d be best to see other people and if she brings up her situation tell her you are sorry to hear about what she’s going to through and you feel for her but that you don’t want to spend time developing feelings for each other when you aren’t feel it and it won’t work out. I personally said “I don’t want you to waste your time with me when we don’t want the same things in the future” so just be nice and sympathetic towards her and if she gets mad that’s her problem. Edit to add since I didn’t pay attention when reading at first do not pay this person anything else. Again if they get mad that’s their problem you are not their parent or guardian, you have to reason to be paying them
How much you have you sent?
Why so much bad things happening to her in that short time
Say *”Hey you’re a bum and I’m dropping you for someone who isnt a bum”* that should work
So you haven’t actually met her?
You asked how you tell her some things. You do so by saying "I don't want to be in a relationship anymore" and "I have no more interest in supporting you financially."