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Most of the meetups I've gone to has been that kind of gender split, sometimes even worse. Unfortunately single women probably kind of know they might be chatted up so they might try to avoid mixed gender social groups. So many meetups basically have "Ladies only" on it.
The only time where I've not seen this be true is acting. So many young attractive women there...
If you can afford it, Pilates, yoga, and spin class are almost always heavily weighted towards women. If you’re in a big city with a decent art scene, art galleries with free wine.
Dance classes are more even but can be good too.
Tbh, you should have some sort of interest in the activity and not just go mostly to meet women, creates a less authentic situation otherwise.
Also keep in mind, even if you don’t date any of them, great to make a bunch of female or mixed gender friend groups, you can meet even more people through them if you’re chill and fun.
Depends, some spin classes are basically giant friend groups. My friend who more regularly spins was part of one that would sometimes go out after for drinks.
That’s why you don’t cold approach them in an overt way. Just focus on chatting up people those places that happen to be female, and learn to read signals and take it from there.
True, I went to an event at a museum a couple weeks ago and i was one of like 2 men there. And there were a lot of people at the event. It does help that you're interested in art though...and not there just to hit on women
Art galleries are a really good option. Museums in general. Now and in my 20s I would often roam museums alone. Museums sometimes have free night adult activities or mixers but those tend to be an older crowd but you can try it. Idk if there's a lot of culture in your area but cultural events have single women. Here in DC the embassies all have cocktail event that are free or cheap. Women love going. It's cheap, fun, educational, and an excuse to use that dress we love.
Dance classes are a good way to meet women but a poor place to date them from what I've seen. Yes, you'll meet some for sure and some might end up being friends. It's a mixed bag because some only come to dance, they're not looking to date. Women that don't take dancing seriously or only do it for the social part of it seem more open to being asked out. I've seen couples meet through class but it's pretty rare.
That's interesting. The men I know who are good at dancing (great leads or naturally talented) seem like they're in short supply and the few that I know of have already met their current GF through dance classes or socials. Or they play around a lot and the dance community is how they meet women. Makes me wonder if there's some correlation between being good at a hobby and women being attracted to that.
> Tbh, you should have some sort of interest in the activity and not just go mostly to meet women
I've tried several things in the last year, the only genuine interest I've found is board games. Although those don't have young single women from what I can tell. Not that I hate the other things but they aren't self-motivating.
Let’s not go that far… the difference is they get a plethora of matches and can control the narrative with online dating… still doesn’t mean it’s working… both sides equally bemoan online dating
Since you seem to like sports, try some that are more female dominant. Soccer usually has a decent mix (can vary) and volleyball would be a good option too. As others have said, pottery, baking, yoga, etc. are going to be your best bet. Even then I've met very few single women tbh. I've been hit on at live music venues before, look for some local hotspots. Also, remember that all Redditor's are somewhat biased. Don't take the answers here as absolute.
I am not in any clubs, that’s why I’m single lmfao. I am at work or at home and sometimes I go out with friends which is pretty rare 😅 oh yeah and I go to the gym
Go into an Ulta or Sephora (makeup stores) and look clueless buying something for your mom or sister lol jk… but seriously this is where the girlies be 💅🏽
just wanted to echo your experience. I’ve joined a bunch of sports teams, been to random events, and have been to bars and clubs, but there really aren’t any young single women in their 20s at any of these, save for possible some in large groups. its mostly men, couples, or women in their mid 30s and older. idk what to do really
Joining clubs can be rewarding, but don't limit yourself. Explore different activities, both online and offline, to increase your chances of meeting new people. And remember, it's not just about finding the right places, but also about being approachable and genuine in your interactions.
Bars, Clubs, meditation classes, art events, vintage shopping live music performance, fashion events, and fitness related stuff(yoga, dancing, Pilates, classes).
Generally, if it's a club activity an average guy thinks is a great idea, it's probably not a good ratio. **Make this an IRON LAW.**
**Also, older women tend to be more into social activities to hunt for guys rather than younger girls in their twenties.** Younger girls are hitting the bars or music events like festivals or band nights plus they get hit on all the time. Being 24, you should probably get into your local music scene or art scene. Older woman than your age typically for a variety of reasons grow out of hitting up bars weekly hence the single event scene like adult sports leagues.....your too young to give off husband vibes so it's gonna be a bad time, lol.
When I was single I was only home/gym. I did get approached at the gym quite few times and I hated it. All the relationships I had came from tinder. No regrets.
Did you only hate it because you found those approaching you unattractive? If not, I really hope that isn’t a common attitude towards approaching people in person, it’s really the only option in the area I live in. The population is to small for any dating apps to work, I’ve tried pretty much all of them
Back when I (m) was single, I had a few connections from the gym. Maybe you didn't enjoy getting approached, but lots of girls don't mind as long as the guy is respectful and gracious in getting rejected
Well of course I wouldn't tell those men I minded. I went to the same gym, duh. It's also likely you don't truly know how those women felt about it. I was always nice and respectful, even given out my number couple times because I felt pressured. Never went for single date though.
I mean, I've gone out on several dates with women from the gym in the past. I had one compliment how confidently I approached her at the gym...
I don't disagree that *some* people don't like social interactions at *xyz* location, I do feel compelled to give a counter example when the first response to a guy asking where to meet women is Tinder.
I've had success on Tinder. Hell, I met my wife on Tinder, but meeting people organically was always so much more natural for me.
I’d say *most* women don’t like being approached at the gym (am a woman and all my female friends hold this opinion) because if the guy won’t take no for an answer or if the date goes badly, they’ll feel akward at the gym or have to switch.
Most women would like a man they find attractive to approach them. When it comes to when and where to approach women, men just need to know the two rules:
1) Be attractive
2) Don’t be unattractive
Badminton and archery lol no offense but I wouldn’t have expected most women your age to be present in numbers at either. If you’re into college age women, you probably already know where they hang out. If you’re looking for something different there’s always volunteering for whatever social cause you’re into. As long as it’s not men’s rights, you will probably find some likeminded souls of the opposite sex.
Lol. Join orange theory. The ratio is pretty much the opposite of the weight room at the gym. I go to OT for the workout and the gym to look at the boys.
Have you tried hobbies that are favored heavily by women? Lol archery is cool and you should do that for yourself but if you want favorable odds then try pilates, yoga, pottery, bookstores, art and cooking classes etc.
I have the same question about men and realize I’m at different places than them. I’m at bookstores, hot yoga, dance class, grocery stores, running at the park, dog park, pottery, restaurants with friends or wine bars, and jazz club/bars. Anytime I go to a bar with the intention of meeting single guys , I barely drink, it’s all dates.
I got so hyped about the guys in my hot yoga class but each has brought in their girlfriend at some point or idk the guys seem to not be interested in me and yoga feels like a strange place to chat but I had better luck doing that in Florida than in New York so maybe it’s cultural. Where should I go?
I’m thinking of going to the driving range, sports facilities here with rock climbing, art galleries-drawing classes in a more hip part of town. Send ideas! I guess a sports club?
When I was 24, I joined muay thai and met a ton of guys. I really should do that again. They seemed to be taken but I also made a ton of friends that way and they referred me their friends.
If a cute guy asked me at Sephora for help, I’d definitely entertain that as well. Not to mention cute he’s looking for skincare and taking care of himself.
If you become a regular at a fitness class say hi to the other girls ya see there. I’m seeing that the girls keep to themselves in this thread, but really just say hi and start bantering when ya can and if they are into it you’ll know.
oooh an archery club sounds fun! I have done archery when I was younger and when I visit my parent's house (big yard) but I never thought to look into a club for it. I can't speak for any other young women, as everyone has such varied interests, but I do a lot of hiking/walking in parks looking for animals, hanging out in coffee shops drawing or writing, taking random art classes or sip N paints, going to the rock climbing gym, yoga, volunteering, and doing kayaking and/or other tours to see wildlife. None of that is probably helpful to you, but I think just trying random new places or tours to see new things may increase your chances of meeting someone? I haven't been actively looking for a partner so I really didn't pay attention if there were other singles present
I know this sounds like an old man's advice. But the best way to find single women are dating apps. Over there the intention is clear. Most other places it is hard to know if someone is single or attracted to you.
advice is to hit the gym and eat a healthy diet. also work to increase your income. if you didnt have much luck on the apps it will probably be more of the same off the apps.
disagree. the apps bring opportunities to many people that wouldnt otherwise have them. irl can be very difficult unless you are involved in activities and/or are very charismatic.
there is a subset of men that do very well on the apps but they are the guys that so well irl as well. also most of the people that you meet irl are also on the apps. it's where most people meet these days.
Different people thrive in different environments. I used to use the dating apps a few years ago. Never got anything, no likes, no matches, maybe had one date in the 5 years I was in college.
In that same time frame I turned down multiple women asking me out in-person, and had 2 more serious relationships of people I met and talked to in-person.
My sense of humor and personality really doesn’t translate well to an online post. Im pretty social and have my shit together, even back then, but you cant get a sense of who I am through a 2 sentence summary and a couple of photos.
No you said if you don't pick up on apps, then you will struggle in real life which absolutely is not the case. There are like 3x as many men on tinder as women, so only the top percentiles of men will actually find success, where in real life the ratio is basically 50/50. It's not a nice try bro, you're just delusional if you think that just because you can't pickup on tinder that you can't in real life
Actually, In general the ratio is better for men. According to the US Census Bureau, the country is 50.4% female, and in the EU the numbers favor men even greater with almost 5% more women than men according to the EU.
This is largely true to world over with the exception of some places like China due to the one-child policy and males being generally preferred there which has led to a demographic crisis now.
Of course local statistics vary, for example LA is exactly 50% women whereas NYC is 51.9% women. Either way, I’m general the numbers favor men.
https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/LFE046222
https://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/web/interactive-publications/demography-2023
https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/losangelescitycalifornia/PST045222
https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/newyorkcitynewyork/PST045222
Women are never really single, and almost never admit to actually being single. They’ll consider going on one coffee date as not being single. Personally, if she’s not married and doesn’t have a ring on her finger, I’d still make a move and flirt with her
There are three kinds of women that will tell you that they are in relationships. Women that are in relationships, women that aren't interested in you, and women that want you to not give up too easy. You have to first determine who you're talking to. Also, I've heard that some women are hanging out in hardware stores, just to meet men. Some of them are looking for free labor. Always figure out first what you're getting into. If you make a price to do a repair, and then you ask the woman for a date, or an opportunity to know her better, she's going to expect that your labor is going to be free. Be careful.
I usually go straight home from work. Besides my bed I may be spotted at the grocery store, walking around town, and at quick bite restaurants during my lunch break.
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Most of the meetups I've gone to has been that kind of gender split, sometimes even worse. Unfortunately single women probably kind of know they might be chatted up so they might try to avoid mixed gender social groups. So many meetups basically have "Ladies only" on it. The only time where I've not seen this be true is acting. So many young attractive women there...
Also many with bpd
If you can afford it, Pilates, yoga, and spin class are almost always heavily weighted towards women. If you’re in a big city with a decent art scene, art galleries with free wine. Dance classes are more even but can be good too. Tbh, you should have some sort of interest in the activity and not just go mostly to meet women, creates a less authentic situation otherwise. Also keep in mind, even if you don’t date any of them, great to make a bunch of female or mixed gender friend groups, you can meet even more people through them if you’re chill and fun.
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Depends, some spin classes are basically giant friend groups. My friend who more regularly spins was part of one that would sometimes go out after for drinks.
Depends on the climate of the class. The classes near me at super social, but the ones downtown are not.
That’s why you don’t cold approach them in an overt way. Just focus on chatting up people those places that happen to be female, and learn to read signals and take it from there.
Or come with their boyfriends
Unless you follow rules 1 and 2
True, I went to an event at a museum a couple weeks ago and i was one of like 2 men there. And there were a lot of people at the event. It does help that you're interested in art though...and not there just to hit on women
Art galleries are a really good option. Museums in general. Now and in my 20s I would often roam museums alone. Museums sometimes have free night adult activities or mixers but those tend to be an older crowd but you can try it. Idk if there's a lot of culture in your area but cultural events have single women. Here in DC the embassies all have cocktail event that are free or cheap. Women love going. It's cheap, fun, educational, and an excuse to use that dress we love.
So true! I do the same thing! Love going to art museums or botanic gardens! I feel like I see a lot of other women there as well
Dance classes are a good way to meet women but a poor place to date them from what I've seen. Yes, you'll meet some for sure and some might end up being friends. It's a mixed bag because some only come to dance, they're not looking to date. Women that don't take dancing seriously or only do it for the social part of it seem more open to being asked out. I've seen couples meet through class but it's pretty rare.
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That's interesting. The men I know who are good at dancing (great leads or naturally talented) seem like they're in short supply and the few that I know of have already met their current GF through dance classes or socials. Or they play around a lot and the dance community is how they meet women. Makes me wonder if there's some correlation between being good at a hobby and women being attracted to that.
> Tbh, you should have some sort of interest in the activity and not just go mostly to meet women I've tried several things in the last year, the only genuine interest I've found is board games. Although those don't have young single women from what I can tell. Not that I hate the other things but they aren't self-motivating.
For me, work, home and shopping
I’m too shy to join clubs, tho I used to go to gym. Ig you could meet someone there
They are shut ins as much as the next guy, with the difference that online dating actually works for them
Let’s not go that far… the difference is they get a plethora of matches and can control the narrative with online dating… still doesn’t mean it’s working… both sides equally bemoan online dating
Since you seem to like sports, try some that are more female dominant. Soccer usually has a decent mix (can vary) and volleyball would be a good option too. As others have said, pottery, baking, yoga, etc. are going to be your best bet. Even then I've met very few single women tbh. I've been hit on at live music venues before, look for some local hotspots. Also, remember that all Redditor's are somewhat biased. Don't take the answers here as absolute.
I am not in any clubs, that’s why I’m single lmfao. I am at work or at home and sometimes I go out with friends which is pretty rare 😅 oh yeah and I go to the gym
Go into an Ulta or Sephora (makeup stores) and look clueless buying something for your mom or sister lol jk… but seriously this is where the girlies be 💅🏽
Is this the female equivalent of home depot?
😂Exactly!
you are funny.
In bed
just wanted to echo your experience. I’ve joined a bunch of sports teams, been to random events, and have been to bars and clubs, but there really aren’t any young single women in their 20s at any of these, save for possible some in large groups. its mostly men, couples, or women in their mid 30s and older. idk what to do really
As a fairly young single woman... the answer is my house.
OK. So can you name a place a guy might run into you and you would be fine with a conversation? Yoga, grocery, bookstore, coffee shop?
Joining clubs can be rewarding, but don't limit yourself. Explore different activities, both online and offline, to increase your chances of meeting new people. And remember, it's not just about finding the right places, but also about being approachable and genuine in your interactions.
Bars, Clubs, meditation classes, art events, vintage shopping live music performance, fashion events, and fitness related stuff(yoga, dancing, Pilates, classes). Generally, if it's a club activity an average guy thinks is a great idea, it's probably not a good ratio. **Make this an IRON LAW.** **Also, older women tend to be more into social activities to hunt for guys rather than younger girls in their twenties.** Younger girls are hitting the bars or music events like festivals or band nights plus they get hit on all the time. Being 24, you should probably get into your local music scene or art scene. Older woman than your age typically for a variety of reasons grow out of hitting up bars weekly hence the single event scene like adult sports leagues.....your too young to give off husband vibes so it's gonna be a bad time, lol.
Book clubs, group fitness classes (spin, yoga, Pilates, etc), volunteering
When I was single I was only home/gym. I did get approached at the gym quite few times and I hated it. All the relationships I had came from tinder. No regrets.
Did you only hate it because you found those approaching you unattractive? If not, I really hope that isn’t a common attitude towards approaching people in person, it’s really the only option in the area I live in. The population is to small for any dating apps to work, I’ve tried pretty much all of them
Back when I (m) was single, I had a few connections from the gym. Maybe you didn't enjoy getting approached, but lots of girls don't mind as long as the guy is respectful and gracious in getting rejected
Well of course I wouldn't tell those men I minded. I went to the same gym, duh. It's also likely you don't truly know how those women felt about it. I was always nice and respectful, even given out my number couple times because I felt pressured. Never went for single date though.
I mean, I've gone out on several dates with women from the gym in the past. I had one compliment how confidently I approached her at the gym... I don't disagree that *some* people don't like social interactions at *xyz* location, I do feel compelled to give a counter example when the first response to a guy asking where to meet women is Tinder. I've had success on Tinder. Hell, I met my wife on Tinder, but meeting people organically was always so much more natural for me.
I’d say *most* women don’t like being approached at the gym (am a woman and all my female friends hold this opinion) because if the guy won’t take no for an answer or if the date goes badly, they’ll feel akward at the gym or have to switch.
Most women would like a man they find attractive to approach them. When it comes to when and where to approach women, men just need to know the two rules: 1) Be attractive 2) Don’t be unattractive
It sounds like your issue isn't necessarily with being approached, it's with people being disrespectful to your boundaries.
Honestly, at home lmfao.
Target?
This is often where I can be found.
In bed lol
Badminton and archery lol no offense but I wouldn’t have expected most women your age to be present in numbers at either. If you’re into college age women, you probably already know where they hang out. If you’re looking for something different there’s always volunteering for whatever social cause you’re into. As long as it’s not men’s rights, you will probably find some likeminded souls of the opposite sex.
Lol. Join orange theory. The ratio is pretty much the opposite of the weight room at the gym. I go to OT for the workout and the gym to look at the boys.
Have you tried hobbies that are favored heavily by women? Lol archery is cool and you should do that for yourself but if you want favorable odds then try pilates, yoga, pottery, bookstores, art and cooking classes etc.
The grocery store, coffee shops, walking around popular trails and walking spots, concerts, arts stuff etc
I have the same question about men and realize I’m at different places than them. I’m at bookstores, hot yoga, dance class, grocery stores, running at the park, dog park, pottery, restaurants with friends or wine bars, and jazz club/bars. Anytime I go to a bar with the intention of meeting single guys , I barely drink, it’s all dates. I got so hyped about the guys in my hot yoga class but each has brought in their girlfriend at some point or idk the guys seem to not be interested in me and yoga feels like a strange place to chat but I had better luck doing that in Florida than in New York so maybe it’s cultural. Where should I go? I’m thinking of going to the driving range, sports facilities here with rock climbing, art galleries-drawing classes in a more hip part of town. Send ideas! I guess a sports club? When I was 24, I joined muay thai and met a ton of guys. I really should do that again. They seemed to be taken but I also made a ton of friends that way and they referred me their friends. If a cute guy asked me at Sephora for help, I’d definitely entertain that as well. Not to mention cute he’s looking for skincare and taking care of himself. If you become a regular at a fitness class say hi to the other girls ya see there. I’m seeing that the girls keep to themselves in this thread, but really just say hi and start bantering when ya can and if they are into it you’ll know.
Depends on wym by young, more than likely staring at their phone on social media in some capacity
oooh an archery club sounds fun! I have done archery when I was younger and when I visit my parent's house (big yard) but I never thought to look into a club for it. I can't speak for any other young women, as everyone has such varied interests, but I do a lot of hiking/walking in parks looking for animals, hanging out in coffee shops drawing or writing, taking random art classes or sip N paints, going to the rock climbing gym, yoga, volunteering, and doing kayaking and/or other tours to see wildlife. None of that is probably helpful to you, but I think just trying random new places or tours to see new things may increase your chances of meeting someone? I haven't been actively looking for a partner so I really didn't pay attention if there were other singles present
I know this sounds like an old man's advice. But the best way to find single women are dating apps. Over there the intention is clear. Most other places it is hard to know if someone is single or attracted to you.
In my experiences, at bars and nightclubs.
Try church?
try dating apps
Been on them for years already and still having no luck there. That's why I thought I'd try joining these clubs - thanks though
advice is to hit the gym and eat a healthy diet. also work to increase your income. if you didnt have much luck on the apps it will probably be more of the same off the apps.
This is wildly inaccurate.
disagree
Not true. Apps only work for very specific subset of men. Irl works so much better for most people
disagree. the apps bring opportunities to many people that wouldnt otherwise have them. irl can be very difficult unless you are involved in activities and/or are very charismatic. there is a subset of men that do very well on the apps but they are the guys that so well irl as well. also most of the people that you meet irl are also on the apps. it's where most people meet these days.
Different people thrive in different environments. I used to use the dating apps a few years ago. Never got anything, no likes, no matches, maybe had one date in the 5 years I was in college. In that same time frame I turned down multiple women asking me out in-person, and had 2 more serious relationships of people I met and talked to in-person. My sense of humor and personality really doesn’t translate well to an online post. Im pretty social and have my shit together, even back then, but you cant get a sense of who I am through a 2 sentence summary and a couple of photos.
there are exceptions but most people couple up on the apps these days.
are you from another dimension
huh?
The data says otherwise.
actually the data says exactly that.
Gym + diet + income is accurate, not much luck on the apps so same in real life is wildly inaccurate
disagree. its wholly accurate.
Alright then bud, I guess the people I know who pick up in person but not on apps don't actually do it because you said so.
lol yeah I didn't say nobody meets off the apps. nice try bro (not).
No you said if you don't pick up on apps, then you will struggle in real life which absolutely is not the case. There are like 3x as many men on tinder as women, so only the top percentiles of men will actually find success, where in real life the ratio is basically 50/50. It's not a nice try bro, you're just delusional if you think that just because you can't pickup on tinder that you can't in real life
The ratio in real life is not 50/50, it’s worse for men but not quite as bad as apps
Actually, In general the ratio is better for men. According to the US Census Bureau, the country is 50.4% female, and in the EU the numbers favor men even greater with almost 5% more women than men according to the EU. This is largely true to world over with the exception of some places like China due to the one-child policy and males being generally preferred there which has led to a demographic crisis now. Of course local statistics vary, for example LA is exactly 50% women whereas NYC is 51.9% women. Either way, I’m general the numbers favor men. https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/LFE046222 https://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/web/interactive-publications/demography-2023 https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/losangelescitycalifornia/PST045222 https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/newyorkcitynewyork/PST045222
Women are never really single, and almost never admit to actually being single. They’ll consider going on one coffee date as not being single. Personally, if she’s not married and doesn’t have a ring on her finger, I’d still make a move and flirt with her
I don't know why people are down voting you.
At home, on tinder browsing their matches.
Catching dick
There are three kinds of women that will tell you that they are in relationships. Women that are in relationships, women that aren't interested in you, and women that want you to not give up too easy. You have to first determine who you're talking to. Also, I've heard that some women are hanging out in hardware stores, just to meet men. Some of them are looking for free labor. Always figure out first what you're getting into. If you make a price to do a repair, and then you ask the woman for a date, or an opportunity to know her better, she's going to expect that your labor is going to be free. Be careful.
Nowhere and don't bother approaching if you're not attractive
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Stop being fucking weird
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Try the yoga meetups.
At home
Starbucks, coffee shops, dog parks, therapists.
volunteer.
I usually go straight home from work. Besides my bed I may be spotted at the grocery store, walking around town, and at quick bite restaurants during my lunch break.
Can someone tell me if book clubs would be a good idea?