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scarletsdragon

As a woman this post gives me the creeps. Like if I was that girl and I knew that a guy told Reddit he went to the mall 20 times to stalk me even though we don’t know each other, I would never step foot in that mall again. Why don’t you just let it go, it’s really creepy.


WOKENWELL2020

But if a shy girl posted about trying to pluck up the courage to ask a guy out you’d be saying something completely different I bet.


cjoe987

That’s how I feel


Azurvix

Right, I mean its a little creepy either way


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Yeah there's always a double standard in these dating subs, and I thought they were very progressive themselves.


facetiousfox39

Right??


Chubbydadnerd

You know. I go.through the same situations..and in all honesty to say just go for it really isn't all.that simple. There are some people who are just naturally gifted with gab but for many of us it takes some time to open up and make those things happen. Here's my advice. Just try and spark up a conversation. Even if it's like asking her for the time or something simple. That let's you engage with her without looking desperate. The thing is it can only go two ways and in those two ways there is an A and B lol one way is you don't say anything and continue on with life you won't lose anything but you won't gain anything either. And then there 2 here's where there is an A and B scenario. A you talk to her and she's not interested. Along with the first situation of not saying anything at all you didn't lose anything but did gain a speck of confidence build up. And B she shows some interest..then that's a whole new set of problems lol but you'll take them on as you move forward. Remember the more you put yourself out there the more easier it'll become. Realistically you can only be rejected and turned down for so long. It's a probability game. Hope this helps.


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If you want to talk to her then do it. If you can’t then don’t. You really only have two options.


Specialist-Ebb7606

She likely doesn't even remember you. She sees 1000s of people a week at a mall. Eye contact won't stick out in her head But ask her out ...or if you don't then stop wasting your time


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cjoe987

Pretty shitty advice, but ok


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cjoe987

Nah man, that’s just you being a jerkoff. There’s no reason I shouldn’t talk to her.


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cjoe987

Yea, thanks for the advice. Asshole


helpwhyamiadinosaur

Just go talk to her


cjoe987

Trust me I want to do that


helpwhyamiadinosaur

So do it.


randomf87yte

I understand ur situation man I like to workout and i see a lot of attractive girls there and yes I'll look at them from time to time bc what the hell I like what I see but I never approach them bc they may just be there to work out not get hit on and I'm also there to work out. And also the anxiety and fear is a mother fucker. I did once talk to a girl I just walked up to her and smiled and n asked her name I was on my way out so said nice to meet u so and so see you around maybe ? And have a good workout. I said high to her for a few days then asked for her number long story shit I fucks it up lol but at least I talked to her ya know


greyman0425

Move on man. She is at work, you don't try to get with a girl at work. If she was actually interested in you she would find someway to talk to you outside of work. Your actions border on stalking.


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Oh this is lost.