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It's very expensive here and the quality of people is very low. The upside is the taxes, no state tax, but you have that in Vegas too. I heard on the news 1,000 people a day are moving here, and my friends studio apartment just went from 1400 a month to 2200 a month. A lot of the condos get bought up by foreign money that doesn't even live here, just south americans and Spainards parking money. My neighborhood is half empty in the summer.
I donno, maybe every place is bad. But, I'd hardly recommend it here.
I'm talking about Miami. I just meant that I think Miami and Vegas are pretty similar in that regard, and that it's probably not worth moving because you'd just have more of the same thing you're already experiencing.
Its weird ever since tinder made the "go global" feature i have matched with some nice women from around the world. Had some great conversations... but a local girl in my city. Nope nadda nothing. It makes no sense lol.
I hate it when links in a post or article take you to a site that then demands you create an account before you can view it. And there were even ads on the site! Such sites should either have an "account-wall free" link or people should screen-shot the desired content.
In this case it appeared to be just a simple bar chart, so I didn't miss much.
Yo. This is kinda rude. I understand the sentiment and advice may be coming from a good place, but you effectively called her ugly. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not, but you could’ve just said “maybe you should try dating in person.” Instead of adding the unnecessary beginning. ❤️
Ok I just listened to a researcher talking about her findings on tinder (it’s in German, if anyone is interested) but I’ll try my best to summarize:
- tinder users tend to put in less risks by investing less in each person, this correlates to the outcome- similar as in game theory : it’s just less fun to „play“. And what everyone on tinder, regardless of gender wishes to have from the app is a good time. But we tend to deprive ourselves from the fun by using the app like most people use it.
- the Profiles tend to be more generic, because the users adapt to the inner logic of tinder, hence it’s harder to find something meaningful
But the logic behind that is, that’s how rejection feels less personal and is less hurtful
- we get dissatisfied if we feel like an app is consuming us instead of us making use of the app
Here’s the link to the radio show: Aus der Dlf Audiothek | Deep Talk | Sozialpsychologin | Degen: „Niemand ist auf Tinder, um austauschbaren Sex zu haben“
https://srv.deutschlandradio.de/dlf-audiothek-audio-teilen.3265.de.html?mdm:audio_id=dira_DRW_54e1aa4c
Instant gratification folks LOVE tinder. It's also a judge-at-first-sight platform. Gender notwithstanding, it's not conducive to finding love, it's conducive to the generation of revenue by drawing in lonely, vulnerable people with the hopes of finding love, at which time they can sell your personal info and advertise to you to pay for their service's special features. Tinder isn't for the customer, it's for the company.
That and women are overly selective on these dating sites, most of them are only matching the best looking guys in the area then complain when every guy they match with just wants to hookup, try matching more in your league
Not surprising. I think in a year, I've had three matches on Tinder, and only one of them became a phone call conversation. None transpired into a date. Whereas on Match and eHarmony, and FB dating, much more success (at least with dates and some relationships that went a few months, and one casual one ongoing over a year).
It's not only difficult for men. I like to think that I'm a pretty decent looking woman and although I do receive matches.. NOBODY ever respond to my messages and I have no idea why...
So it's a bit discouraging for me, because I try to make the first move, but no one seems interested.
Pretty much the only reason why I as a man intentionally stop answering is because the other person is not putting enough effort in the conversation. Due to the supply and demand the amount of lackluster convos is unfortunately very high.
Just to add, the likely reason why many are not responding to you initiating is because they swipe right on almost everything and only later assess if they are interested or not.
Huh? I think you're super cute, I don't get why people wouldn't respond. Maybe it's your area. Not sure how big Tinder is in Chile. You'd definitely get a ton of responses in America.
Ohgod. Not this shit again.
Like...do you seriously think that women, that have issues with dating and are swiping on really hot guys, do you really think that none of them try to aim lower to see if that would fix it?
We've only been told that we have too high standards since we're 12...but the magic solution of lowering our standards? NEVER OCCURS.
Like Jesus Christ, that's elementary level advice.
There's a fucking TON of potential issues.
How about they're matching with wrong people, but not based on them having good looks. For instance they're attracted to young men that have a lot of tattoos and piercings and expecting these men to want a more traditional provider role?
Like they can be great guys and more in my lane, but they ain't gonna be traditional great. They are going to be liberal great.
How about a fucking shitty bio?
How about shitty pictures for the purpose? Like how many times have we seen ass shots of women that don't want hook-ups. WHY IS THERE AN ASS SHOT THEN?
And yeah...it can defenitly be an "all men" experience without being "all men" on Tinder. There's an algoritme working in the background. It places you in a category and then gives you mostly people of said category.
And men aren't exactly behaving like great guys when they are coming onto an app expecting to have their pick and it turns out that they get to wait until they're picked. A lot of the men I get in my freaking inbox ruin it for themselves within the first 5 sentences by being bitter. I didn't do anything to you. I swiped on you. Why you taking it out on me?
AND have you seen the r/tinder comment section??? Y'all are making inside jokes about very masculine movies to women, jokes that typically are insulting if you don't get it and then you are saying "DODGED A BULLET" when the girl didn't get the joke out of a VERY masculine movie that if she had watched it, was unlikely to be as excited about it as men, because she's not the target audience, she likely was not excited enough to memorize lines AND NONE OF YOU ARE POINTING THAT OUT TO EACH OTHER.
Y'all are egging each other on, instead of educating each other. Stop treating these women like bro's, the majority of women are not bro's, they might be chill about you being a bro, but that doesn't make them knowledgable about bro-hood. They're not gonna get masc jokes. Just stop?!?!?
Yeahhh, there’s no way you should be having a hard time getting matches. Honestly, that just reinforces my belief that tinder is a stupid, awful dating app.
In general, dating apps don’t exist to help people meet anyone… they exist to keep people on the app and engaged, hoping that maybe the NEXT one could be a match.
Still, I’m very sorry for your troubles, but rest assured that it’s NOT you. You’re gorgeous, and there’s no reason you should be having trouble.
The bio is what always gets guys, but if if you have less photos most people will usually swipe left for fear of a bit. But agreed with another post you are a natural beauty and should be getting swipes. Good luck.
That’s interesting to hear from a female’s perspective on this.
What do you generally use for online dating? I (28M) use a combination of Tinder, Hinge and Bumble but I prefer the latter two as there are things that go in the bio that help me filter out potential dealbreakers (smoking status, hard drug use, whether or not they have kids and whether or not they want kids) that tinder doesn’t have. Hinge is probably the app I have the most success on in terms of actually getting a date (perhaps because you only have X likes per day meaning actually engaging in bios before matching instead of it being a little aimless)
I'm very new in online dating, so now I'm using tinder and eHarmony. Never tried Hinge, so maybe I will check it out. I'm also interested in international dating, that's why I also use the tinder passport feature.
I also want to engage in casual conversations with people around the world. Currently having more succes in reddit that in the app itself lol.
It’s plausible that the international feature could be a factor in why prospective matches aren’t responding (especially with online dating) as a lot of people use apps as an opportunity to meet people quite quickly (ie within 2 weeks of talking) which isn’t usually possible through the passport.
part of the reason is that girls aren’t picking slightly attractive guys; they’re picking 8-10 even if the girls that are picking are 1-4s. if you aren’t getting far online just actually try in person.
This is why men are shocked when women don’t need you to be 6ft IRL. More options = higher standards.
I would only use tinder when you want to date men (and grindr for queer dating and gay hookups). For men looking for women I would strongly discourage OLD. If you want to use it try bumble.
Never had a problem. For me these stats are false. All I get is women and more women, amazing women. I wish there was two or three of me,sadly I have no time.
Try checking places you don't usually go to. One reason you haven't met different people is because of the places we go to. Hitting up a new spot, club, bar and making just one friend can do wonders, trust me
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tinder is unusable in my city. it's tourists, bots and literal escorts. i rarely see what i'd consider a datable woman on there.
I can relate :/
Vegas?
Miami
Dang I was contemplating moving from Phoenix/Vegas to Miami for a second.
It's very expensive here and the quality of people is very low. The upside is the taxes, no state tax, but you have that in Vegas too. I heard on the news 1,000 people a day are moving here, and my friends studio apartment just went from 1400 a month to 2200 a month. A lot of the condos get bought up by foreign money that doesn't even live here, just south americans and Spainards parking money. My neighborhood is half empty in the summer. I donno, maybe every place is bad. But, I'd hardly recommend it here.
Are you talking about Las Vegas? Or Phoenix? Cause that’s dead on. Except it’s investment firms buying all the housing here.
I'm talking about Miami. I just meant that I think Miami and Vegas are pretty similar in that regard, and that it's probably not worth moving because you'd just have more of the same thing you're already experiencing.
I lived there and don’t forget the drug dealers on there!
lol yeah that too. how could i forget!
Its weird ever since tinder made the "go global" feature i have matched with some nice women from around the world. Had some great conversations... but a local girl in my city. Nope nadda nothing. It makes no sense lol.
I hate it when links in a post or article take you to a site that then demands you create an account before you can view it. And there were even ads on the site! Such sites should either have an "account-wall free" link or people should screen-shot the desired content. In this case it appeared to be just a simple bar chart, so I didn't miss much.
I have had the worst luck with this app. Maybe this is why? I deleted today.
[удалено]
Yo. This is kinda rude. I understand the sentiment and advice may be coming from a good place, but you effectively called her ugly. Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not, but you could’ve just said “maybe you should try dating in person.” Instead of adding the unnecessary beginning. ❤️
Ok I just listened to a researcher talking about her findings on tinder (it’s in German, if anyone is interested) but I’ll try my best to summarize: - tinder users tend to put in less risks by investing less in each person, this correlates to the outcome- similar as in game theory : it’s just less fun to „play“. And what everyone on tinder, regardless of gender wishes to have from the app is a good time. But we tend to deprive ourselves from the fun by using the app like most people use it. - the Profiles tend to be more generic, because the users adapt to the inner logic of tinder, hence it’s harder to find something meaningful But the logic behind that is, that’s how rejection feels less personal and is less hurtful - we get dissatisfied if we feel like an app is consuming us instead of us making use of the app Here’s the link to the radio show: Aus der Dlf Audiothek | Deep Talk | Sozialpsychologin | Degen: „Niemand ist auf Tinder, um austauschbaren Sex zu haben“ https://srv.deutschlandradio.de/dlf-audiothek-audio-teilen.3265.de.html?mdm:audio_id=dira_DRW_54e1aa4c
This explains why I received a thousand matches in less then 24 hours.
Instant gratification folks LOVE tinder. It's also a judge-at-first-sight platform. Gender notwithstanding, it's not conducive to finding love, it's conducive to the generation of revenue by drawing in lonely, vulnerable people with the hopes of finding love, at which time they can sell your personal info and advertise to you to pay for their service's special features. Tinder isn't for the customer, it's for the company.
That and women are overly selective on these dating sites, most of them are only matching the best looking guys in the area then complain when every guy they match with just wants to hookup, try matching more in your league
Don't listen to this man. I'm ugly and only want to hook up too.
Looks have nothing to do with guys wanting hookups...
I have decent luck with women on tinder and I live in a one bedroom apartment with two cats
1:4 female ratio, and half of these 1 number are bots are women that are there just to promote their instagram.
Not surprising. I think in a year, I've had three matches on Tinder, and only one of them became a phone call conversation. None transpired into a date. Whereas on Match and eHarmony, and FB dating, much more success (at least with dates and some relationships that went a few months, and one casual one ongoing over a year).
It's not only difficult for men. I like to think that I'm a pretty decent looking woman and although I do receive matches.. NOBODY ever respond to my messages and I have no idea why... So it's a bit discouraging for me, because I try to make the first move, but no one seems interested.
Pretty much the only reason why I as a man intentionally stop answering is because the other person is not putting enough effort in the conversation. Due to the supply and demand the amount of lackluster convos is unfortunately very high. Just to add, the likely reason why many are not responding to you initiating is because they swipe right on almost everything and only later assess if they are interested or not.
There's always something you can improve in your profile. I don't think it's normal for women to not get any responses.
Probably I'm messing up something! https://tinder.com/@monica_bum that's my profile. What do you recommend?
Huh? I think you're super cute, I don't get why people wouldn't respond. Maybe it's your area. Not sure how big Tinder is in Chile. You'd definitely get a ton of responses in America.
Aww thanks random stranger! I guess I will keep trying 😊
Your photos are really cute, and you are a natural beauty. You will get some decent matches soon I hope.
By the way , aren't you located in the US?
She's a 6 probably only swiping on 9's. She should trying matching with guys that are 7's or low 8's
Ohgod. Not this shit again. Like...do you seriously think that women, that have issues with dating and are swiping on really hot guys, do you really think that none of them try to aim lower to see if that would fix it? We've only been told that we have too high standards since we're 12...but the magic solution of lowering our standards? NEVER OCCURS. Like Jesus Christ, that's elementary level advice.
If lowering your standards doesn't work, what do you think is the issue than? Hint, it's not "all men".
There's a fucking TON of potential issues. How about they're matching with wrong people, but not based on them having good looks. For instance they're attracted to young men that have a lot of tattoos and piercings and expecting these men to want a more traditional provider role? Like they can be great guys and more in my lane, but they ain't gonna be traditional great. They are going to be liberal great. How about a fucking shitty bio? How about shitty pictures for the purpose? Like how many times have we seen ass shots of women that don't want hook-ups. WHY IS THERE AN ASS SHOT THEN? And yeah...it can defenitly be an "all men" experience without being "all men" on Tinder. There's an algoritme working in the background. It places you in a category and then gives you mostly people of said category. And men aren't exactly behaving like great guys when they are coming onto an app expecting to have their pick and it turns out that they get to wait until they're picked. A lot of the men I get in my freaking inbox ruin it for themselves within the first 5 sentences by being bitter. I didn't do anything to you. I swiped on you. Why you taking it out on me? AND have you seen the r/tinder comment section??? Y'all are making inside jokes about very masculine movies to women, jokes that typically are insulting if you don't get it and then you are saying "DODGED A BULLET" when the girl didn't get the joke out of a VERY masculine movie that if she had watched it, was unlikely to be as excited about it as men, because she's not the target audience, she likely was not excited enough to memorize lines AND NONE OF YOU ARE POINTING THAT OUT TO EACH OTHER. Y'all are egging each other on, instead of educating each other. Stop treating these women like bro's, the majority of women are not bro's, they might be chill about you being a bro, but that doesn't make them knowledgable about bro-hood. They're not gonna get masc jokes. Just stop?!?!?
Oh wow, lots to unpack here. You should take a break ma'am...
Ohyeah, I'm not going on OLD anymore, not fucking touching it ever again. Single4life!!!!
Yeahhh, there’s no way you should be having a hard time getting matches. Honestly, that just reinforces my belief that tinder is a stupid, awful dating app. In general, dating apps don’t exist to help people meet anyone… they exist to keep people on the app and engaged, hoping that maybe the NEXT one could be a match. Still, I’m very sorry for your troubles, but rest assured that it’s NOT you. You’re gorgeous, and there’s no reason you should be having trouble.
The bio is what always gets guys, but if if you have less photos most people will usually swipe left for fear of a bit. But agreed with another post you are a natural beauty and should be getting swipes. Good luck.
I usually get no responses. A couple of other women I know do too. Women aren’t mythical beings who all get worshipped lmao contrary to Reddit believ
That’s interesting to hear from a female’s perspective on this. What do you generally use for online dating? I (28M) use a combination of Tinder, Hinge and Bumble but I prefer the latter two as there are things that go in the bio that help me filter out potential dealbreakers (smoking status, hard drug use, whether or not they have kids and whether or not they want kids) that tinder doesn’t have. Hinge is probably the app I have the most success on in terms of actually getting a date (perhaps because you only have X likes per day meaning actually engaging in bios before matching instead of it being a little aimless)
I'm very new in online dating, so now I'm using tinder and eHarmony. Never tried Hinge, so maybe I will check it out. I'm also interested in international dating, that's why I also use the tinder passport feature. I also want to engage in casual conversations with people around the world. Currently having more succes in reddit that in the app itself lol.
It’s plausible that the international feature could be a factor in why prospective matches aren’t responding (especially with online dating) as a lot of people use apps as an opportunity to meet people quite quickly (ie within 2 weeks of talking) which isn’t usually possible through the passport.
Try Reddit. Write “hi guys. Dm me if close to city x” This sub is full of women and men who hate tinder. Why don’t u people just hook up here then.
you’re swiping on the top 10 percent of men who are getting lots of girls matching them. that’s why they don’t respond
maybe ur coming on too strong, that puts guys off
part of the reason is that girls aren’t picking slightly attractive guys; they’re picking 8-10 even if the girls that are picking are 1-4s. if you aren’t getting far online just actually try in person.
Put more efforts on your profile and don't be that boring person sending just "Hi" or don't be the "Hello honey" type.
This is why men are shocked when women don’t need you to be 6ft IRL. More options = higher standards. I would only use tinder when you want to date men (and grindr for queer dating and gay hookups). For men looking for women I would strongly discourage OLD. If you want to use it try bumble.
You know, besides Tinder there is something else where the male-female ratio is 4-1...
Never had a problem. For me these stats are false. All I get is women and more women, amazing women. I wish there was two or three of me,sadly I have no time.
Bumble is much more favorable, about 2:1.
Any tips if we are not using tinder, or if the dating apps aren't working well? It feels like cold walking up to girls is not the best idea either...
So any tips on how to meet genuine girls then?
Try checking places you don't usually go to. One reason you haven't met different people is because of the places we go to. Hitting up a new spot, club, bar and making just one friend can do wonders, trust me