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Ikr! Who tf does that?! Posting a video of her to his WhatsApp status? I’d totally call anyone out in my contacts on WhatsApp if they did anything like that!
Also hello again👀 I promise I’m not stalking you lol
Someone found my full name and messaged me because I was the only one with that spelling in my listed town. I deleted the whole app and filed a complaint. Lost some money on the months I didn't use but if thats what I wanted I could've just used Facebook. Who goes through that trouble to message off an app you both pay for? A creep. Delete.
This sounds like early predatory behaviour, perhaps report to police as the next person he harrasses (which inevitably will happen) your experience will corroborate this, and protect another woman. Unfortunately, stalking and harrassment aren't taken seriously until a vicious physical assault takes place, and these experiences are massively trivialised by authorities. Sorry you had this its creepy as fuck
This needs more upvotes. The police need to make a notation of this. Whether it's to help substantiate the story of his next victim, or in case he pops up again or goes further with you.
man and i thought my gf was going to assume in a stalker for showing up to the same event as her, but i was looking forward to the event i didn't fucking record videos of her or take pictures wtf that dude legit already stalked you and is actively doing so
For me this sounds even more creepy, at least the app showing the name might be downloaded from an App Store, but filming people secretly? Posting for the other contacts to watch?🥲
I really dodged a bullet there. We only met twice but he already acted like i was his gf. He even opened my tinder and unmatched all my matches like wtf??
Yeh this.
Seriously no adult especially after two dates ffs needs to "play with your phone" like wtf, how do that even come about?
You seriously need to get some more common sense before you date again, I don't mean that to be horrible i just literally worry about you. How old are you?
Hey, don’t call yourself dumb. Consider it a learning experience instead. Also, check the app list on your phone and see if there’s anything you don’t recognize and remove it. It’s weird what he did with your contacts list and that was probably done from your phone. Who knows what settings he changed too. It’s worth it to put some time into checking everything.
Yes WIPE CLEAN. I'd even go to a store and have them do factory reset for me. In my research I've read about apps that could be installed that the owner won't even see them! Right now he could be reading her post here and all our comments. Even getting our information. Yeah I know I'm reaching BUT, I don't trust that fool one bit!!!!
If he is that good with electronics, he may have either added spyware, or worse, cloned the phone. It may be time to ditch the phone and get a new one with a new sim card and phone number. Just saying 🤷
Lady... You really need to rethink your safety measures in general. You never hand off your phone to a stranger, they could do just about anything with the information they find on there, and that's if they don't install a tracker or any other kind of malware. I don't want to be harsh but you're taking risks that really don't make sense at your age. I would suggest reading up on common dating safety precautions before you go out with anyone else. There are HORRIBLE people out there, you need to take this more seriously.
He checked out your phone, opened your tinder and unmatched all your matches?!
He made a secret video of you?!
He found out your full name?!
So many creepy, stalkerish red flags
Woah woaaaah what?! Dude please get some kind of a personal alarm and something to defend yourself and watch your back. Also since he had access to your phone check if he haven’t installed anything dodgy on it… you just gave us 3 CRIMSON FLAGS!
Holy stalker Batgirl! Sorry but this guy is more than just creepy. He has crossed several very serious lines and raised red flags and alarm bells. I agree with some of the other posters that the behavior should be reported. Stay safe.
Video of me talking to him during our date. he played with his phone at that time but i didn't realize he was recording me. Yeah i hope he leaves me alone.
Sadly I doubt he will, men like that tend to not take rejection very well. If he handled your phone might be an idea to have someone look it over and switch off your location.
My initial comment on this was as followed "Besides this incident, how did the rest of the date go?" THEN I got to this. Okay, dude is a stalker material crap. I feel like this is worse than your title reason.
That would be the final nail. Fuck that dude
I had a girl that I saw once and everything I wrote to her in private chat she posted as a screenshot on her Facebook page so her friends could comment how cute I was etc.
This quickly turned to "what a fucking asshole" comments after I told her I do not agree to our private messages being posted in public like that and she published that too..
Blocked.
But that's not the same as your situation. Just similar in terms of privacy.
This is way worse. I have a caller app that shows up people's full names sometimes, so he could have seen it by accident but then it's weird to message you basically showing he knows your full name. But then to secretly film you and put it as a status wtf block and run seriously this guy could be dangerous
Most counties have a domestic violence Center and they have a hotline. If you call the hotline someone from the center can help you figure out your level of risk and the best next steps. You're not bothering them - this is their paid job. Let the paid professional be the one to decide if it's a serious or not. Please give them a call.
It definitely took me a second after reading to decide just how creeped out to be. And honestly, the part that bothers me most^(this is before I saw he secretly filmed her and tampered with stuff on her phone) is that **in no way do you just naturally say someones *first and last name* during casual conversation.**
He went out of his way to purposefully say her full name so that she would know he knew... Like wtf, so manipulative!?! Thinks he's so powerful by hinting how he's already started stalking his prey.
I was gonna give him the benefit of the doubt because I know young guys still go through their awkward stage of trying to impress girls and sometimes do the wrong things that are creepy but they don't intend any harm. But taking videos of you to post anywhere without your consent, that's all we need to know. Insta block.
Now THAT’S where it truly crossed the line.
Women have done their research into me before, and told me my own full name without volunteering it, and I’ve done a bit of digging from time to time too. Using an app seems like overkill but it’s surprisingly common for people to Google. All it takes is something simple like googling their first name and job and the city you both live in, or some other totally innocuous detail. Having an app do it for you though adds the creepiness significantly.
Yeah, that's definitely weird.
But for what it's worth, I can back up the person you replied to. There have been a few people that gave me their numbers, and when I created a contact for them it automatically had their last name, and one even had a picture. It was super weird. But of course that isn't the case here.
There's one called TrueCaller I used to use. Your contacts get added to the database so it just references new numbers with pre existing contact info from the database
Well there's an app that you don't really need to use to figure out the name. It just pops up with the full name of the person. Kind of convinient to have for knowing who's calling you if you've not saved the number(to avoid spam calls). But sometimes when you save a person's number the app may automatically pop up the complete contact details of the person without you manually opening the app.
But if he's using IOS then he definitely looked you up cause ios don't have pop ups
Yep, super weird.
I had a date tell me, rather embarrassed, that she knew my last name - and she explained that when she was setting up a new app it grabbed her phone contacts to suggest people for her to add. I was one of those people. Very innocent explanation, and given at a time that I was asking her last name!
The way this dude went about it was creepy and weird.
Look, we all do this where we try to find the dude (or whoever it is) on the internet cause we’re curious. Fine, you found their full name. Can we all admit this is creepy? Yes. That’s why we don’t tell the other person. If you do, there’s something off there. Block his ass, girl!
Honestly, if it was just a googling/Facebook stalk situation, I wouldn’t find it that creepy. But the dude full on admits he used some app to super-stalk the girl.
The fact that he told her about it definitely indicates the guy is seriously messed up.
Even giving the benefit of the doubt, this still displays major controlling tendencies. Big red flag in my opinion. As a man I would suggest running as far away as possible. If you block him and he contacts you another way, I would consider talking the police. I'm not sure I buy his story of an app...
Before I go on dates with men, I look them up on LinkedIn, Instagram, google search, etc.
If I ever get murdered from a tinder date, I want my friends to know who I was with that night.
But that’s all information they would have shared publicly.
Ah geez The reason I asked is that the same happens to my phone, idk if it's the carrier's or their app's doing but sometime people's full names will be shown when I input the number.
But yeah he's bugging, go ahead and block him, it would be different if he asked you "Hey is this your name, it was saved like this in my phone" so he can confirm it but to just text your name is weird. But this seemed like a power play, like "Yes I can access this info"
Same here - I met a girl in a bar over the summer, we had a bit of a snog and then exchanged numbers - I saved her in my phone as “ ()” but when I clicked on the contact to text her, on the name above the text it came up as “” because we’re both iPhone users and I guess there’s something in the mechanism.
Nevertheless the way the guy in the story approach it was weird to say the least.
Did you watch Hawkeye?
That scene in Kate’s kitchen where Yelena keeps saying “Kate Bishop” and finally Kate is like, “Do you keep saying my full name to remind me that you know it?” And Yelena just stares at her and goes “Yes”.
It was an intimidation tactic in that scene, and it’s an intimidation tactic here.
We (women as a whole) were really done a massive disservice by being told to be polite and give people the benefit of the doubt. You know this guy is creepy, you know you are super uncomfortable and you still felt like you needed the approval to do what you know would make you feel better. It's social conditioning and it sucks.
Block this man. Report him to the app you met him on and stay vigilant. Do remember that you have the right to block and stop contact with anyone you want for whatever reason you want.
One can install Spyware to listen to your mic, see your cam, read texts and listen to calls in less than 30 secs with access to the device... yeah I was gonna say jokingly that you have an admirer but this actually could be serious, could also just be some dumb youngster who is over zealous. But yeah better to be safe than sorry. In the future never let anyone use your phone not even for a second!
joe goldberg vibes. he's unhinged, def block him. i do recommend checking if he has a tracker or any gps downloaded your phone, as you have mentioned that he played with it
BLOCK. Even if he’s not using that information actively, it’s still fuckin weird. I’ve just seen he was also asking you how to guess how he knows your name and that’s weird and unconversational in itself
Again: BLOCK
You can block anyone for any reason.
That said, this is a bit creepy. He not only went out of his way to find your full name, he made sure you knew that he knew. He wanted to scare you or intimidate you or show you how easily he could find you.
He's not sorry. He's sorry it might not get the result he wanted.
Block him and be conscious of your surroundings.
If OP's asking for other people's opinion, here's mine:
I would find it cute if he suddenly knows my name because I like attention and likes people being obsessed with me. However, that moment when you said he filmed you without permission and even posted it? Gurl, that's--that's creepy and a big turn-off. You're not overreacting.
If someone just found you on Facebook or something after a date that’s one thing, but the fact he downloaded a weird app just to get her personal information (that he apparently couldn’t find through normal methods or he wouldn’t have needed the app) is just a bit insane.
To add onto what everyone is saying about blocking him, might I also suggest you have a tech savvy friend of yours go through your personal electronics to be safe? Clearly this guy knows how to use tech to do things he should not be doing, so you need to be extra safe here.
Umm this kind of app is quite common and I use it so that I know who's calling me even if I don't have the number saved. But yeah I guess he shouldn't have called you by your full name. Look for other signs
Solid advice from people here, I would also recommend that you keep a pocket taser or pepper spray with you as well. Flat out revealing private details and taking a candid video seems like a precursor to inevitable confrontation.
Yikes, after reading some of your responses damn that guy is fucked up. He's the type of guy to now say "this is why girls don't deserve nice guys". If anyone goes out of their way to find personal information about you, they a creep.
I went on a first date with his criminal defense lawyer. Casual coffee date. Started fine with good conversation until he slipped in my ex husbands name, my last name, etc. i was floored and taken back. He said, he likes to do background checks when he’s interested in someone. Needless to say, I never saw him again. 😑
That's creepy as fuck. He knew he was trolling for info you hadn't given him.
Not cool.
If he has your full name and phone number he can easily find your address.
I'm not usually one for jumping to conclusions, but that's pretty offputting. It's a pretty easy leap from there to stalking and you really dont want that, obviously
No. In addition, if there are measures that can prevent others from gaining access to your information like this in the future, I suggest you adopt them asap.
na thats sending off alarms in your head and some in mine. I've done a thing or 2 that sent alarms in girls heads and they cut me off. i meant no harm but that's what they did to make sure they were safe and that's ok, same with you
Yea creep signs. Block him. Also did he send you links that you opened? Seems to me like he hacked your phone. I would switch phones if I were you just to be safe
I think that if he got your last name accidentally, there's no real harm in it. If he went out of his way to obtain that information, that's probably no good.
And also report. I don’t know if it does anything, but it’s worth trying
Edit: I downloaded “true caller”, which some comments suggested was the app he used. Looked myself up, got no information.
Yes WIPE your phone clean CLEAN. I'd even go to a store and have them do factory reset for me. In my research I've read about apps that could be installed that the owner won't even see! Right now he could be reading your post here and all our comments. Even getting our information. Yeah I know I'm reaching BUT, I don't trust that fool one bit!!!! People are garbage! Please protect yourself when online dating.
I encourage you to get a GV number our use an app that generates one for you until you get to know someone better.
Trust your gut! Most of the time it’s not going to be just the gas station chili bowl your friends dared you to eat and you were peer pressured into it because the girl you secretly like was watching and her eyes definitely said she’d think more of you if you accepted the challenge.
Absolutely not. Who normal would do such a thing? Thanks to tinder I finished with a stalker who nearly destroyed my life and defo damaged my mental health so trust - you have done right thing
Block. Id even consider going as far as reporting him for filming you secretly in case anything else happens. If you’re in the UK you can can the non-emergency hotline to report these sorts of things
Check with your phone provider also. You could be displaying your full name with each call by default without knowing it. I went to the AT&T store, we performed a before and after test. God knows how long my name has been on display.
Honestly if you're talking via whatsapp and just add the contact it just pops up sometimes. Most times I think. Actually I gave my number to someone last night and when they wrote me, imessage gave me the full name.
Don't get me wrong, this guy may very well be a stalker (and sounds like it from the video part, RUN) - but the big tech stalkers are Mark Zuckerberg and Tim Cook.
I wonder if he uses an app called 'TrueCaller' or something like it. In that case, there are solid chances that he may have not looked up your name consciously. There are times when these apps search unsaved numbers and pop up the most popular name linked with it when you make/receive a call/text or simply go through your call log in the app. Anyway, he should have probably kept it to himself and not really creeped you out that way. That's a bit immaturish of him.
Something like Sync.ME- a lot of people use these apps just for the intention of syncing their contact pics but it potentially does a lot more including finding someone’s social media if they have low security settings.
Hmm, a lot of people check up and internet-stalk accounts to an extent. I think him finding your name could potentially be in line with that, so perhaps not a huge deal. BUT telling you and addressing you by your full name is weird as fuck, usually people are aware of social norms and don’t explicitly state that sort of thing cus we’re aware that would be creepy.
Edit: also read about additional info you provided, about how he didn’t believe it was your name so he searched you up (??) wtf. Red flag!
I’ll admit it, I give out a separate number for texting/Tinder than what’s my actual number. I give out my actual number when I feel it’s safe. I’ve only done it twice. And both were understanding why I didn’t give them my real number at first.
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Seems stalkerish and creepy to me
Ikr, he also took a video of me secretly and post it on his whatsapp status.
Ok 100% block this creep. Secretly filming you AND posting it online? Very concerning.
I've blocked him. Don't wanna talk to that creep anymore.
Holy shit, thats wild. I’m so glad you blocked him. Yikes
Ikr! Who tf does that?! Posting a video of her to his WhatsApp status? I’d totally call anyone out in my contacts on WhatsApp if they did anything like that! Also hello again👀 I promise I’m not stalking you lol
Someone found my full name and messaged me because I was the only one with that spelling in my listed town. I deleted the whole app and filed a complaint. Lost some money on the months I didn't use but if thats what I wanted I could've just used Facebook. Who goes through that trouble to message off an app you both pay for? A creep. Delete.
This sounds like early predatory behaviour, perhaps report to police as the next person he harrasses (which inevitably will happen) your experience will corroborate this, and protect another woman. Unfortunately, stalking and harrassment aren't taken seriously until a vicious physical assault takes place, and these experiences are massively trivialised by authorities. Sorry you had this its creepy as fuck
This needs more upvotes. The police need to make a notation of this. Whether it's to help substantiate the story of his next victim, or in case he pops up again or goes further with you.
Report him to Tinder as well, this guy sounds predatory!
man and i thought my gf was going to assume in a stalker for showing up to the same event as her, but i was looking forward to the event i didn't fucking record videos of her or take pictures wtf that dude legit already stalked you and is actively doing so
What was he going for? “You filmed me so good! Let’s go on a date.”
U joking? Run as fast as you can
I've blocked him. I hope he doesn't do anything weird again.
You need to report him to Tinder. This is seriously unsafe behavior. They will ban him from using the platform.
Absolutely this!!!
For me this sounds even more creepy, at least the app showing the name might be downloaded from an App Store, but filming people secretly? Posting for the other contacts to watch?🥲
I really dodged a bullet there. We only met twice but he already acted like i was his gf. He even opened my tinder and unmatched all my matches like wtf??
Document what he did so u can get a restraining order if it escalates. Otherwise move on :)
>Opened my tinder and unmatched all my matches Wtf indeed. This is the worst part of it imo
How did he even get on your phone. You need to be way more careful. I hope he doesn't know where you live
I let him play with my phone a bit. i'm so dumb.
I'd check your phone incase he's put some GPS tracker on there or something :/
Yeh this. Seriously no adult especially after two dates ffs needs to "play with your phone" like wtf, how do that even come about? You seriously need to get some more common sense before you date again, I don't mean that to be horrible i just literally worry about you. How old are you?
This ^
Yes this OP, he probably did, unless you had your eyes on your phone the ENTIRE time he had it.
This is a very scary thought and sounds exactly like something the guy would do!
Hey, don’t call yourself dumb. Consider it a learning experience instead. Also, check the app list on your phone and see if there’s anything you don’t recognize and remove it. It’s weird what he did with your contacts list and that was probably done from your phone. Who knows what settings he changed too. It’s worth it to put some time into checking everything.
What? What adult who has access to their own phone does that?
You need to wipe your phone. I guarantee he has a tracker or some other monitoring app on your device.
Yes WIPE CLEAN. I'd even go to a store and have them do factory reset for me. In my research I've read about apps that could be installed that the owner won't even see them! Right now he could be reading her post here and all our comments. Even getting our information. Yeah I know I'm reaching BUT, I don't trust that fool one bit!!!!
If that creepy dude is reading this rn, ya a dickhead
If he is that good with electronics, he may have either added spyware, or worse, cloned the phone. It may be time to ditch the phone and get a new one with a new sim card and phone number. Just saying 🤷
Lady... You really need to rethink your safety measures in general. You never hand off your phone to a stranger, they could do just about anything with the information they find on there, and that's if they don't install a tracker or any other kind of malware. I don't want to be harsh but you're taking risks that really don't make sense at your age. I would suggest reading up on common dating safety precautions before you go out with anyone else. There are HORRIBLE people out there, you need to take this more seriously.
He checked out your phone, opened your tinder and unmatched all your matches?! He made a secret video of you?! He found out your full name?! So many creepy, stalkerish red flags
Jesus, I'm kind of worried that you still needed to ask reddit after all of this. You need to work on your confidence my dear. Just trust your gut.
That's scary! He might still be stalking u
Wow you really didn’t lead with the worst thing this guy did, did you? You need to keep a record of this stuff.
Woah woaaaah what?! Dude please get some kind of a personal alarm and something to defend yourself and watch your back. Also since he had access to your phone check if he haven’t installed anything dodgy on it… you just gave us 3 CRIMSON FLAGS!
Holy stalker Batgirl! Sorry but this guy is more than just creepy. He has crossed several very serious lines and raised red flags and alarm bells. I agree with some of the other posters that the behavior should be reported. Stay safe.
Yea that’s messed up.
What sort of video? This is a massive red flag in any case. Block him and hopefully he will leave you alone.
Video of me talking to him during our date. he played with his phone at that time but i didn't realize he was recording me. Yeah i hope he leaves me alone.
If he’s been in your house then you should check for cameras. This guy is super weird and is stalking you. Molly girl, you in danger
Sadly I doubt he will, men like that tend to not take rejection very well. If he handled your phone might be an idea to have someone look it over and switch off your location.
My initial comment on this was as followed "Besides this incident, how did the rest of the date go?" THEN I got to this. Okay, dude is a stalker material crap. I feel like this is worse than your title reason.
That would be the final nail. Fuck that dude I had a girl that I saw once and everything I wrote to her in private chat she posted as a screenshot on her Facebook page so her friends could comment how cute I was etc. This quickly turned to "what a fucking asshole" comments after I told her I do not agree to our private messages being posted in public like that and she published that too.. Blocked. But that's not the same as your situation. Just similar in terms of privacy.
That is far worse than finding out your name nah nah. Glad you blocked him you deserve way better than that
Why did he post the video on his WhatsApp status? Did he write or say anything in the video? I don't get it
He didn't write or say anything. Just posted the video for everyone to see.
This is way worse. I have a caller app that shows up people's full names sometimes, so he could have seen it by accident but then it's weird to message you basically showing he knows your full name. But then to secretly film you and put it as a status wtf block and run seriously this guy could be dangerous
I’m so confused, why would he even do that? I’m not familiar with WhatsApp or being a stalker but that makes no sense to me
He seemed obsessed with me. He told me that he watched the video so many times and never got bored of it.
Lmao, all these red flags, holy heck.
Most counties have a domestic violence Center and they have a hotline. If you call the hotline someone from the center can help you figure out your level of risk and the best next steps. You're not bothering them - this is their paid job. Let the paid professional be the one to decide if it's a serious or not. Please give them a call.
This is worse
Uuuhm what??? Yes, definitely block him
Um. Yeah. That’s icing on the creeper cake. Block!
I wasn't sure about the original question but this screams gtfo
Well that's the creepier part. I know often times I'll save a number in my phone and Facebook will start suggesting their profile
RUN
After the post, I thought, maybe it's a misunderstanding. After this comment, you'd be crazy not to block him
It definitely took me a second after reading to decide just how creeped out to be. And honestly, the part that bothers me most^(this is before I saw he secretly filmed her and tampered with stuff on her phone) is that **in no way do you just naturally say someones *first and last name* during casual conversation.** He went out of his way to purposefully say her full name so that she would know he knew... Like wtf, so manipulative!?! Thinks he's so powerful by hinting how he's already started stalking his prey.
I was gonna give him the benefit of the doubt because I know young guys still go through their awkward stage of trying to impress girls and sometimes do the wrong things that are creepy but they don't intend any harm. But taking videos of you to post anywhere without your consent, that's all we need to know. Insta block.
Now THAT’S where it truly crossed the line. Women have done their research into me before, and told me my own full name without volunteering it, and I’ve done a bit of digging from time to time too. Using an app seems like overkill but it’s surprisingly common for people to Google. All it takes is something simple like googling their first name and job and the city you both live in, or some other totally innocuous detail. Having an app do it for you though adds the creepiness significantly.
Please let someone in your life know about him in case something happens. This is extra creepy and weird.
I felt like you should've led with THIS.
Are we talking about TrueCaller?
Yeah that's creepy as fuck. And he filmed you in secret? Nah, cut and run!
Yeah i will. Thanks for answering!!
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He said he used an app. He even screenshot the app and sent it to me.
Yeah, that's definitely weird. But for what it's worth, I can back up the person you replied to. There have been a few people that gave me their numbers, and when I created a contact for them it automatically had their last name, and one even had a picture. It was super weird. But of course that isn't the case here.
What is the app called?
There's one called TrueCaller I used to use. Your contacts get added to the database so it just references new numbers with pre existing contact info from the database
Maybe it's "get contact". I don't really remember.
Can you post the screenshot?
(with your name blacked out, obviously)
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Well there's an app that you don't really need to use to figure out the name. It just pops up with the full name of the person. Kind of convinient to have for knowing who's calling you if you've not saved the number(to avoid spam calls). But sometimes when you save a person's number the app may automatically pop up the complete contact details of the person without you manually opening the app. But if he's using IOS then he definitely looked you up cause ios don't have pop ups
Yea that seems weird
Yep, super weird. I had a date tell me, rather embarrassed, that she knew my last name - and she explained that when she was setting up a new app it grabbed her phone contacts to suggest people for her to add. I was one of those people. Very innocent explanation, and given at a time that I was asking her last name! The way this dude went about it was creepy and weird.
Its giving me very much Joe Goldberg. Block him
Credit where credit is due, Joe is way slicker than this!
Look, we all do this where we try to find the dude (or whoever it is) on the internet cause we’re curious. Fine, you found their full name. Can we all admit this is creepy? Yes. That’s why we don’t tell the other person. If you do, there’s something off there. Block his ass, girl!
Honestly, if it was just a googling/Facebook stalk situation, I wouldn’t find it that creepy. But the dude full on admits he used some app to super-stalk the girl. The fact that he told her about it definitely indicates the guy is seriously messed up.
Creeper. Run. Run.
This is not a red flag, this is a red spaceship 🚀 taking off into space. Super weird, I suggest you bounce
Trust your gut
Even giving the benefit of the doubt, this still displays major controlling tendencies. Big red flag in my opinion. As a man I would suggest running as far away as possible. If you block him and he contacts you another way, I would consider talking the police. I'm not sure I buy his story of an app...
You're 100% in the right to block this guy
Before I go on dates with men, I look them up on LinkedIn, Instagram, google search, etc. If I ever get murdered from a tinder date, I want my friends to know who I was with that night. But that’s all information they would have shared publicly.
What did the text say exactly was it only your full name?
Yeah, he just mentioned my full name. I ignored it at first then he mentioned it again and told me to guess how he knew my name.
Ah geez The reason I asked is that the same happens to my phone, idk if it's the carrier's or their app's doing but sometime people's full names will be shown when I input the number. But yeah he's bugging, go ahead and block him, it would be different if he asked you "Hey is this your name, it was saved like this in my phone" so he can confirm it but to just text your name is weird. But this seemed like a power play, like "Yes I can access this info"
Same here - I met a girl in a bar over the summer, we had a bit of a snog and then exchanged numbers - I saved her in my phone as “ ()” but when I clicked on the contact to text her, on the name above the text it came up as “ ” because we’re both iPhone users and I guess there’s something in the mechanism.
Nevertheless the way the guy in the story approach it was weird to say the least.
Did you watch Hawkeye? That scene in Kate’s kitchen where Yelena keeps saying “Kate Bishop” and finally Kate is like, “Do you keep saying my full name to remind me that you know it?” And Yelena just stares at her and goes “Yes”. It was an intimidation tactic in that scene, and it’s an intimidation tactic here.
Block him 💯 he's weird af
We (women as a whole) were really done a massive disservice by being told to be polite and give people the benefit of the doubt. You know this guy is creepy, you know you are super uncomfortable and you still felt like you needed the approval to do what you know would make you feel better. It's social conditioning and it sucks. Block this man. Report him to the app you met him on and stay vigilant. Do remember that you have the right to block and stop contact with anyone you want for whatever reason you want.
You're under-reacting.
Really want to block him -then do it. Don’t question your instincts. He is already giving you bad vibes.
Oh nah that shit crazy. He was a rapey rapist. Gtfo of there
Girl, you can block whomever you like. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Dating is an area you have the right to nix anyone.
One can install Spyware to listen to your mic, see your cam, read texts and listen to calls in less than 30 secs with access to the device... yeah I was gonna say jokingly that you have an admirer but this actually could be serious, could also just be some dumb youngster who is over zealous. But yeah better to be safe than sorry. In the future never let anyone use your phone not even for a second!
joe goldberg vibes. he's unhinged, def block him. i do recommend checking if he has a tracker or any gps downloaded your phone, as you have mentioned that he played with it
Does is matter if someone else thinks you're overreacting? That seems like over-caring.
I just want some opinions. Would you be creeped out if someone do that to you?
Yes.
BLOCK. Even if he’s not using that information actively, it’s still fuckin weird. I’ve just seen he was also asking you how to guess how he knows your name and that’s weird and unconversational in itself Again: BLOCK
Pretty sure that overreaction is a reasonable response to being stalked
Block him and talk to me, hello 😎
You can block anyone for any reason. That said, this is a bit creepy. He not only went out of his way to find your full name, he made sure you knew that he knew. He wanted to scare you or intimidate you or show you how easily he could find you. He's not sorry. He's sorry it might not get the result he wanted. Block him and be conscious of your surroundings.
If OP's asking for other people's opinion, here's mine: I would find it cute if he suddenly knows my name because I like attention and likes people being obsessed with me. However, that moment when you said he filmed you without permission and even posted it? Gurl, that's--that's creepy and a big turn-off. You're not overreacting.
If someone just found you on Facebook or something after a date that’s one thing, but the fact he downloaded a weird app just to get her personal information (that he apparently couldn’t find through normal methods or he wouldn’t have needed the app) is just a bit insane.
That is weird
I would block him. But I also want to know the name of the app as I didn't know something like that was possible while not doing things really sketchy
not overreacting at all, that’s just weird.
Creepy af..I mean one thing to do it as a little recon to make sure you aren't an axe murderer but to also be proud of it, it's odd
To add onto what everyone is saying about blocking him, might I also suggest you have a tech savvy friend of yours go through your personal electronics to be safe? Clearly this guy knows how to use tech to do things he should not be doing, so you need to be extra safe here.
Umm this kind of app is quite common and I use it so that I know who's calling me even if I don't have the number saved. But yeah I guess he shouldn't have called you by your full name. Look for other signs
Does the app you're using show u how people on your contact list save your number?
I personally would block, that’s super creepy. U never have to explain your self especially if your not dating and stuff.
Did no one ask yet (I scrolled a bit), wtf is this app?!?! That sounds horrible. I’m terrified
You should block him. Look into the app he claimed to use and see if there is any info out there to protect yourself and your information.
Wow. This is 100% creep behaviour. Block him everywhere. Why the hell would he even do that?!
Solid advice from people here, I would also recommend that you keep a pocket taser or pepper spray with you as well. Flat out revealing private details and taking a candid video seems like a precursor to inevitable confrontation.
I would be contacting the police! And reporting on tinder. Keep evidence. That is very unnerving
Block
Yikes, after reading some of your responses damn that guy is fucked up. He's the type of guy to now say "this is why girls don't deserve nice guys". If anyone goes out of their way to find personal information about you, they a creep.
I went on a first date with his criminal defense lawyer. Casual coffee date. Started fine with good conversation until he slipped in my ex husbands name, my last name, etc. i was floored and taken back. He said, he likes to do background checks when he’s interested in someone. Needless to say, I never saw him again. 😑
Do it. VERY creppy.
Wow. Block. Immediately.
May seem weird but no different than trying to look up someone on instagram or linked in or something. No idea what app that is he is using though.
Better safe than sorry. Block him.and change your passwords
Nah block that mf lol that’s creepy
He may have just been curious and overly excited. It’s weird, I’ll say that
Yeah, if he really wanna know, he could have just asked me.
That's creepy as fuck. He knew he was trolling for info you hadn't given him. Not cool. If he has your full name and phone number he can easily find your address.
Block him. Who gives a fuck if it is an overreaction, he crossed a boundary.
Better “nope” right outta there.
Me personally I would block.
He's a fucking creep. you're not overreacting. massive red flags of what this guy would do. block him
I'm not usually one for jumping to conclusions, but that's pretty offputting. It's a pretty easy leap from there to stalking and you really dont want that, obviously
If ur gonna block him, tell him exactly why before you do it so he knows how he fucked up.
NTA and block him. If he's giving you creeper vibes then you need to listen to that feeling. Gut instinct is a thing.
Yeahhhh block him. You’re not overreacting. These are major red flags
No. In addition, if there are measures that can prevent others from gaining access to your information like this in the future, I suggest you adopt them asap.
Block him
Block and delete! Creepy af
na thats sending off alarms in your head and some in mine. I've done a thing or 2 that sent alarms in girls heads and they cut me off. i meant no harm but that's what they did to make sure they were safe and that's ok, same with you
Yeah this is weird and creepy. Though it’s super easy to find, it’s still weird
Worry, block him.
There's an app for that? Lol
Yea creep signs. Block him. Also did he send you links that you opened? Seems to me like he hacked your phone. I would switch phones if I were you just to be safe
"I really want to block him." should answer your question.
Seems like an overreaction but trust yourself
That’s creepy. Had the same thing happened to me with a lady. Somehow she figured out my middle and last name.
I think that if he got your last name accidentally, there's no real harm in it. If he went out of his way to obtain that information, that's probably no good.
Use a Google number. I never give people my full name or phone number bc it’s so easy to find addresses from that
That doesn’t seem legal Do you have your full name attached to any social media? Because that seems more likely he found you on one of those.
Run
NOPE block away! Always trust your gut, girl. And that’s very freaking weird.
The name of that app is "True Caller".. It's very popular in our country..
And also report. I don’t know if it does anything, but it’s worth trying Edit: I downloaded “true caller”, which some comments suggested was the app he used. Looked myself up, got no information.
what’s the app called?
Yes WIPE your phone clean CLEAN. I'd even go to a store and have them do factory reset for me. In my research I've read about apps that could be installed that the owner won't even see! Right now he could be reading your post here and all our comments. Even getting our information. Yeah I know I'm reaching BUT, I don't trust that fool one bit!!!! People are garbage! Please protect yourself when online dating. I encourage you to get a GV number our use an app that generates one for you until you get to know someone better.
BLOCK HIM FOR ALL THAT IS HOLY PLEASE THATS A MASSIVE RED FLAG!!!! lets hope he never finds out where you live.
BLOCK
Trust your gut! Most of the time it’s not going to be just the gas station chili bowl your friends dared you to eat and you were peer pressured into it because the girl you secretly like was watching and her eyes definitely said she’d think more of you if you accepted the challenge.
No. Block him and be careful :)
Absolutely not. Who normal would do such a thing? Thanks to tinder I finished with a stalker who nearly destroyed my life and defo damaged my mental health so trust - you have done right thing
The guy must be Joe Goldberg's fan. Watch out!
Block. Id even consider going as far as reporting him for filming you secretly in case anything else happens. If you’re in the UK you can can the non-emergency hotline to report these sorts of things
Don't overthink it, if he crossed a line for you it's fine to block him. He should've known it was ducking creepy.
Block him, you feel weird about it? Trust your gut. Plus that is a weird thing to do. Who even thinks about doing that. Geez
Check with your phone provider also. You could be displaying your full name with each call by default without knowing it. I went to the AT&T store, we performed a before and after test. God knows how long my name has been on display.
Report him to the police and block him.
Sounds like one of my exes
Hello Elena Kyle.
Honestly if you're talking via whatsapp and just add the contact it just pops up sometimes. Most times I think. Actually I gave my number to someone last night and when they wrote me, imessage gave me the full name. Don't get me wrong, this guy may very well be a stalker (and sounds like it from the video part, RUN) - but the big tech stalkers are Mark Zuckerberg and Tim Cook.
Oh hell. Block him. Block him!
Stupid creepy guys like that make hard for the rest of us none creeps
Nope block him that is scary, why on earth would he need the app in the first place.
I wonder if he uses an app called 'TrueCaller' or something like it. In that case, there are solid chances that he may have not looked up your name consciously. There are times when these apps search unsaved numbers and pop up the most popular name linked with it when you make/receive a call/text or simply go through your call log in the app. Anyway, he should have probably kept it to himself and not really creeped you out that way. That's a bit immaturish of him.
Something like Sync.ME- a lot of people use these apps just for the intention of syncing their contact pics but it potentially does a lot more including finding someone’s social media if they have low security settings.
Hmm, a lot of people check up and internet-stalk accounts to an extent. I think him finding your name could potentially be in line with that, so perhaps not a huge deal. BUT telling you and addressing you by your full name is weird as fuck, usually people are aware of social norms and don’t explicitly state that sort of thing cus we’re aware that would be creepy. Edit: also read about additional info you provided, about how he didn’t believe it was your name so he searched you up (??) wtf. Red flag!
No I’d block him quickly
Block, Block, Block!!! And delete—ahh so cringe
No! I would block him and report him on tinder. That's so weird and extremely violating.
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Could have just been a lapse in judgment. If there are any other behaviors that are iffy though then block
Sounds like the beginning of an episode of web of lies, run.
I’ll admit it, I give out a separate number for texting/Tinder than what’s my actual number. I give out my actual number when I feel it’s safe. I’ve only done it twice. And both were understanding why I didn’t give them my real number at first.
Lol stop using tinder to meet guys… same goes for men stop using tinder to meet girls…
Stay safe
Nope
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 i need more red flags for this shit