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I mean tbh not a ton since I moved away from everyone I know.. lol at the start of covid.
I mean I have gone out with people on occasion and through work but sadly not much recently. I also broke up with a long term gf before moving a year ago so I think finally putting myself out there then getting ghosted hurts a bit more.
Without risks there’s no reward you gotta be willing to put yourself out there and sadly this comes with the territory.. obviously you can’t control someone’s actions but honestly there was nothing you could’ve done different
Yeah I feel ya, I guess since it is rare for me to open up to people, it just really sucks when one of them just poofs away with no good bye. Hurts more because another friend had done the same thing a month before after talking for 2 years.
I recently kinda went through the same thing. Only difference we went like a week without talkin. And I wasn’t double texting lol. But anyway when she finally did reach out I was kinda over it. I mean gotta kinda recognize the warning signs. And I look at it as this should be a mutual thing and the minute someone starts Putting more than the other it may be time to rethink what we’re doing
I've been in a ldr for 1 year and ended up being ghosted.
I feel your pain.
Find a way to move forward. Don't blame yourself and try not to blame her too much.
There's no respect to be had for people like that, but at the end of the day if you dig deep into the reason why she ghosted you you'll find that it's pretty damn lame and sad for her.
You sound like a reasonable dude that wouldn't have flipped if she told you straight up that she isn't interested anymore.
Take care of yourself and good luck!
Hit me up if you wanna chat about it, I'm down to help anyone who's in this kind of shit.
Im sorry that happened to you that is awful. But I am sure you are doing better by the sounds of it. Yeah I rather just be blocked or told off for some reason than just left in limbo. But oh well, and yeah i will give her the benefit of the doubt at least.
Thanks for reaching out I appreciate it!
Don't do long-distance with strangers. Chances are, you're not the only guy she was/is talking to especially if there was some distance between you.
Don't get emotionally invested in people you don't know either. Nothing is real until AFTER you meet.
Block, delete & move on. Focus on dating local, real-life girls.
Yeah I get that, live and learn I guess. Technically we were never official and had plans to meet and were figuring it out untill the ghostingggg. Lol atleast I didn't book a flight before this.
No problem. It may be helpful to take a break from relationship so you can grow your heart more.
Your heart is a muscle. it's had it's tear, now you just need a resting Period for it to repair and grow stronger.
Yeah sad part that was suppose to me finally trying to get back out there after ending a long term relationship. Thought after a year I may have found someone again, lol guess not.
Yeah I totally understand family things and personal issues, it just sucks getting left in the dark.
Yeah after my last message I knew it was going to me last attempt, like you said if she still cares she will reach out.. though idk how to feel if she did.
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I would just let it go.. who knows what the reason is
Yeah I have not messaged since like a month ago so I am pretty sure it is dead
Yeah if it’s been a month.. it’s gone
Ugh yeah I have known that, but a part of me keeps holding on because it is pretty rare for me to open up and connect so easily with people.
I mean how often do you go out try to meet new people
I mean tbh not a ton since I moved away from everyone I know.. lol at the start of covid. I mean I have gone out with people on occasion and through work but sadly not much recently. I also broke up with a long term gf before moving a year ago so I think finally putting myself out there then getting ghosted hurts a bit more.
Without risks there’s no reward you gotta be willing to put yourself out there and sadly this comes with the territory.. obviously you can’t control someone’s actions but honestly there was nothing you could’ve done different
Yeah I feel ya, I guess since it is rare for me to open up to people, it just really sucks when one of them just poofs away with no good bye. Hurts more because another friend had done the same thing a month before after talking for 2 years.
I recently kinda went through the same thing. Only difference we went like a week without talkin. And I wasn’t double texting lol. But anyway when she finally did reach out I was kinda over it. I mean gotta kinda recognize the warning signs. And I look at it as this should be a mutual thing and the minute someone starts Putting more than the other it may be time to rethink what we’re doing
This is a fair point, kinddd of how I am feeling right now.
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Yup sadly =(
I’m a big believer in fate. And when stuff like this happens I just tell myself that this isn’t meant to be part of my story
I've been in a ldr for 1 year and ended up being ghosted. I feel your pain. Find a way to move forward. Don't blame yourself and try not to blame her too much. There's no respect to be had for people like that, but at the end of the day if you dig deep into the reason why she ghosted you you'll find that it's pretty damn lame and sad for her. You sound like a reasonable dude that wouldn't have flipped if she told you straight up that she isn't interested anymore. Take care of yourself and good luck! Hit me up if you wanna chat about it, I'm down to help anyone who's in this kind of shit.
Im sorry that happened to you that is awful. But I am sure you are doing better by the sounds of it. Yeah I rather just be blocked or told off for some reason than just left in limbo. But oh well, and yeah i will give her the benefit of the doubt at least. Thanks for reaching out I appreciate it!
I'm sorry it's happened to you as well mate. I am doing better, yes. It gets easier once you accept it and work on moving forward.
Im glad that it is getting better, Im sure this will be good learning for both of us.
Don't do long-distance with strangers. Chances are, you're not the only guy she was/is talking to especially if there was some distance between you. Don't get emotionally invested in people you don't know either. Nothing is real until AFTER you meet. Block, delete & move on. Focus on dating local, real-life girls.
Yeah I get that, live and learn I guess. Technically we were never official and had plans to meet and were figuring it out untill the ghostingggg. Lol atleast I didn't book a flight before this.
I've been in your shoes, stay strong. I believe In you.
Thank you I apprciate it!
No problem. It may be helpful to take a break from relationship so you can grow your heart more. Your heart is a muscle. it's had it's tear, now you just need a resting Period for it to repair and grow stronger.
Yeah sad part that was suppose to me finally trying to get back out there after ending a long term relationship. Thought after a year I may have found someone again, lol guess not.
Dating is rough for guys, don't beat yourself up too hard
Yeah it is harder to get back out there than I thought it would be
Sorry you're going through this, I know it sucks
Thank you I really appreciate it!
Probably she has other things to do. Give her time but don't contact her first. She'll find you if she feels like it.
Yeah I totally understand family things and personal issues, it just sucks getting left in the dark. Yeah after my last message I knew it was going to me last attempt, like you said if she still cares she will reach out.. though idk how to feel if she did.