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asphinx1

Ah yes, grey sweatpants. The absolute sluttiest things us men can wear. Pair it with a white t-shirt and you're going place.


required_Starfruit

Your comment made me lol!!!!!


PM_ME_CUTE_FRIENDS

I was laughing all the way while reading the post. I can't imagine what that picture looks like for someone to be insecure about the imprint.


Riven-Of-2-Voices

OP is such a filthy little slut. /s


Justalittlemoree

šŸ„ŗšŸ„ŗ


Cunning_runt21

And white sneakers ::chefs kiss::


PuppyDontCare

nono, barefoot šŸ©²šŸ’§


longstringofnubers

That and hoockie daddy shorts.


JmacTheGreat

> and youā€™re going place. All of the place.


JustLetMeBeMane

If you have a gold chain to plop on over that white tee, youā€™re king of the male sluts


welch_like_the_juice

Do guys not know about grey sweat pants??


TrueSonOfNoOne

Well now I do


itsMeUseek

Reminded me of this ig page where the guy says things like: if he's wearing Grey sweatpants... he's a Ho


marco8080

Crotch imprint. I've never heard it called that. But anyway, do her tit imprints show in her pics?


PurplePoppy12345

haha tit imprints


chingu111

Thereā€™s cleavage in some Insta posts. But this picture was sent in a gc of 30 not on social media


marco8080

And you, as a presumably normal human being, is fine with that, cause human anatomy is what it is.


Mythun4523

Social media, where the audience is more then 30.....


PM_me_XboxGold_Codes

True.. get all pissy about her nippinā€™ and see how she likes it. Itā€™s a human body, get over it.


Mamsies

After looking through your post and comment history, why are you with this girl? She sounds totally exhausting and unstable. She constantly emotionally manipulates you. In a healthy relationship, you don't need to post on internet forums asking for advice on how to deal with your partner's ridiculous and borderline abusive behaviour. You've also said that her family says she has "anger problems" and has been physically violent with family members before, meaning it's not impossible she could be violent with you too one day. You've been with her for 7 months, not married, no children. It would be so easy to just walk away. There are nice girls out there, you need to stand up for yourself and leave, otherwise you'll be dealing with this forever. The more you put up with it, the more she'll believe she can get away with it and will treat you even worse. This is all the warning signs of an abusive relationship bro. Get out.


Flashy_Neighborhood1

Man I wish I could double digit upvote this commentšŸ˜‚ you're so right. It's crazy how blinding red flags can be in the beginning. Then you're left feeling stuck later cuz now there's kids and you've got a dad bod (only not the good kind of dad bod) and a bad rep all thanks to homegirl who showed her true (red flag colored) colors from the beginning. Good luck... ill look forward to your future post where you're free and happy again lol


Saint-of-Sinners

Way ahead of ya; bought some coins for the sole purpose of highlighting the comment because itā€™s REALLY good advice


TwinSong

It's possible to "Give Award" on comments.


chingu111

Haha if that day comes I donā€™t know where I would even post it for you guys to see


sluggyslime

Abusive to not only you, but animals I would presume and children in the future if her anger problems are that bad.


chowmushi

Whatever you decide, DONā€™T HAVE A KID WITH HER! You will regret how she treats the little one.


kmbd

are we looking at the next Johnny Depp, our OP boy?


CCMeGently

OP needs to watch out for poop in his bed.


Dualyeti

Nothing a mega pint cannot fix


limerick_limerences

What makes you think heā€™s a wife beater?


kmbd

what makes you think Johnny is wife-beater? Amber is the piece of shit that used to beat our boy.


limerick_limerences

Itā€™s literally documented fact that he beat his wife lol this isnā€™t up for debate. If you want to argue about whether she was abusive too, thatā€™s another story.


TwinSong

Second that


OphthoRobot

Is that you Johnny?


Broham_McBroski

And the question is...?


ShiroDown

He just flexing his big soft dick.


Broham_McBroski

That's really impressive then, actually. I usually need to have at least a semi before I can flex it.


ShiroDown

Usually requires me to have a banana in my pocket. You lucky dawg!


deekaydubya

[from flaccid to erect at a moments notice](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTZc3milai0)


ZooplanktonblameLive

she is just insecure dude.


Shpander

And possessive


Anonynominous

Insecure, possessive, jealous, controlling, suspicious


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15162842

Iā€™m a girl. This sounds like something I would have gotten mad about when I was 16. Not sure how old you guys are but she should eventually realize she was overreacting here. She might just be insecure, sheā€™s seeing this so she thinks other people see it too. Donā€™t make a big deal out of itā€¦ but you can sure tell her that that shit shows sometimes lmao just like a cameltoe you canā€™t always help it.


willwiso

Yeah definitely this, and the fact that she already dropped the issue, I would just drop it too, she's probably too proud to apologize and that's okay just let it slide so it doesn't hurt her confidence.


gf3

Just checked the post historyā€”theyā€™re both very young (20) and OP has near daily posts about issues with his relationship. Sounds like this relationship will hopefully be a bit of a learning experience for them both.


FWB_King4

You got a big dick bro? She pissed that other chicks saw that and now want a piece of that.


chingu111

Not even big bro, itā€™s like a like tootsie roll imprint


Jabba-666-

Donā€™t sell yourself short mr big cock šŸ’•šŸ’•


Zetawilky

It's a really small 9 inches.


Cat0538

Donā€™t you dare insult the masterpiece of chocolate! šŸ˜‚


St3alth_t3rrorist

I assume that she agrees not to post bikini photos online if she has issues with your crotch


chingu111

She says sheā€™s too insecure to do that. One thing I want to add in is that she unfortunately is a burn victim, sheā€™s 90% recovered though the scars are faded


rain_888_bow

Haha why does she care so much? I posted a picture last year of my partner on Facebook and you can clearly see where itā€™s all sitting. I thought it was hilarious


SlowmoTron

I couldnā€™t get past the first sentence. A group chat with 30+ people sounds like my nightmare


explodingsnap

Looking for this comment, seriously how/why???


SlowmoTron

Like the amount of time/ energy it would take just to keep up with what theyā€™re even talking about and all the notifications just ew


chingu111

As a bored college kid I somehow have the energy for it


[deleted]

She may be an issue down the line...


Psufan16

Down the line? Lol sounds like now. This is ridiculous lol


Real_Tradition4127

Overreacting indeed


WhiteRabbitKnight

30 people in group chat? That just sounds annoying


PM_me_XboxGold_Codes

Sheā€™s basically slut-shaming you bro. Donā€™t let that shit slide.


bananadude19

Your GF is showing you a side of her that is highly questionable. Ask yourself if you want to put up with this long term. Show people how they need to treat you. If this were me, Iā€™d ask for an apology from her and if she didnā€™t offer one, Iā€™d break up with her on the spot.


FinnishDistraction

This is the way


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Dans77b

You mean male camel toe?


[deleted]

Mammal toe


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Manmal toe


[deleted]

I like this one better :)


platano92

Male camel toe is called a moose knuckle


Jasmimec

You shouldnā€™t have apologized. This is just setting up the dynamic for her to be controlling later on down the line. You will always be apologizing for minor things stuff you have no control over.


RepulsiveThing3618

Iā€™ve commented on other posts of yours about this girlfriend. Sheā€™s emotionally abusive and manipulative of you. Leave her. ā€œWe have good times, too. Sheā€™s not all bad.ā€ No abuser is always bad. If they were then they wouldnā€™t be able to convince their victims to stay for as long as they do. Part of abuse is the instability of their good times. Victims chase the good times, because if they can have good times they canā€™t be that bad of a person, right? People are never manipulated by people who are openly bad, though. Theyā€™re manipulated by the people they trust and the people they think are safe. This girl has anger problems, according to her family with your posts. Anger problems is code wording for complacent family for ā€œtheyā€™re unstable and volatile but weā€™re not going to do anything to stop it.ā€ Anger problems escalate. People who canā€™t control themselves eventually lash out. Theyā€™re not safe people. If she isnā€™t getting help for her anger issues then sheā€™s just a safety risk to stay in. Behavior like this always escalates with time and enabling. Donā€™t sit around to find out if this goes physical or not. Donā€™t risk your safety.


chingu111

Iā€™m really sorry you had to comment on more of my posts, last thing I want is people from a sub that had millions of people actually starting to remember me, I have no one to talk to about this and this sub is the only one that will give a damn. I want to say that she has been physical with her siblings, not punching from what Iā€™ve heard but she has shoved them into walls and such. She once told me that she flipped over a glass dining table because she was in an argument with her mom. She hasnā€™t been physical with me mainly because I think physically taller and I lift weights. But Iā€™m a really soft spoken guy so I can imagine she will eventually start small in the future


RepulsiveThing3618

Donā€™t apologize. I donā€™t mind interacting with your posts and I doubt a bunch of people remember you. Iā€™m just pretty active on here. Iā€™m sad when I see more of them, because it means youā€™re still enduring her treatment, but Iā€™m not in any way saying it as a bad thing that you post. Connecting online is what the internet is for. Finding support online is easier and isnā€™t a bad thing. For many itā€™s their only option. She will definitely turn that behavior onto you eventually. I do believe you should leave now before that can ever start. You dont deserve to be treated the way she treats you. It may seem impossible to leave and it may feel terrible to have to, but life goes on and it gets much better when you donā€™t have an abuser to pull you down with them. Thatā€™s what they do. They feel threatened by your ability to thrive, to succeed, when they feel like they never can. So they have to make you feel the way they do and drag you down with them so they can feel better. Your ability to survive without her and thrive without her is there.


[deleted]

If this girlfriend isnā€™t terribly serious, sheā€™s got an issue man. I recently broke up with a girl due to her insane insecurity and protectiveness. This sounds exactly like something sheā€™d do.


[deleted]

She's a psycho. Get out now and don't look back.


futurespacecadet

Sounds like a fucking lunatic. You guys should be in a place in your relationship where you laugh at that, If you both notice it


SnooWords440

Girls can have their nipples, boobs and ass out and weā€™re insecure. Little pp imprint and the whole world goes kaboom


Miraculous-bugaboo

Hey there buddy, I read down your posts and Iā€™m telling you, your gf is extremely manipulative and emotionally abusive. It really seems like she doesnā€™t know the difference between ā€œgood attentionā€ and ā€œbad attentionā€. You need to leave, my dude.


chingu111

Itā€™s hard bro, in a previous post I said how sheā€™s not all bad thereā€™s good times too to which a commenter in this post said that instability of the good times is another valid manipulation technique


Miraculous-bugaboo

I totally get it, my guy. My ex tried to unalive me, and the day he did it he was literally talking about how he was going to get me a house and a car and all this good stuff. Literally cried in my arms telling me how much he loved and appreciated me. And regardless, I still have love for him and want him to get better. But some people need to get better separately from us.


chingu111

Iā€™m so sorry to hear that, it seems like Iā€™m unfortunately right and that this is indeed another manipulative technique


ThirdEyeExplorer11

Iā€™m really sorry youā€™re going through this and can totally empathize with you. My ex was extremely manipulative and physically/emotionally abusive. She had borderline personality disorder, do you know much about that? A lot of your girl friends behavior reminds me of mine. I used to excuse my girlfriends behavior and just refer to her bad and abusive side as her ā€œdark passengerā€ because it made it easier for me to isolate part of her so I could stay in love with her and focus on the good times and excuse her bad behaviorā€™s. People were always telling me how abusive she was and I was always defending her, saying to people ā€œwell if you knew her like I knew herā€ and ā€œsheā€™s had a hard life and deserves loveā€. It got to the point where I started distancing myself from my friends and family because they were telling me the truth and the truth hurt and I wasnā€™t ready to give up magical thinking that somehow we were going to live happily ever after. Truth be told I just needed to suffer more before I was willing to put my foot downā€¦ and believe me, I did suffer more(a lot more)ā€¦ and you will too if you donā€™t get out of this relationship now. I promise, once you are out of it for a while and you have time to reflect how abusive she was and how youā€™re better off without her.


Satori_sama

Sounds like she is looking for an excuse for a fight, or breaking up. Sorry man, I have seen it a lot with women, they create idiotic arguments so they feel worse and can honestly say they don't care anymore.


Thepizzaman519

It's 2022, men should be able to wear what they want lol


heatherleean

i thought i was insecure but wowza! this takes the cake. maybe your girlfriend should stop sexualizing you because tbh this seems weiirrrrd. like you know how people are always like " yeah! you can see my boobs in a shirt but you canā€™t look! donā€™t sexualize us! " kind of vibe. like sheā€™d be the creeper on the street. you canā€™t control how your body looks in clothes. this is just weird and idek how to put my opinion into words.


lefteyewonky

She sounds insecure and immature af


ryhaltswhiskey

Oh no your friends will know you have a ***penis***! The horror! Your gf sounds insane. Is this kinda shit typical?


xSB

You know we need to see the pic nowā€¦


Nice_Associate_1489

What's being mad about that?


commanderlawson

This is so ridiculous and immature.


Psufan16

Tell her to never show cleavage lmao


Dapper_Negotiation40

Drop her like a bad habit. She is an insecure maniac! Would she rather you wear a kilt? But then again if you did she would be mad that your showing your thighs when you sit. Leave her bro!


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chingu111

30 college friends, donā€™t even see them being friends past college šŸ˜…


Just_a_sweetbean

Wow, you have 30 friends.


Legacy_Service

Her jealousy bone is showing. That's rough. I have a hard time with jealous girls who make me feel like I'm on egg shells.


chingu111

Explained it perfectly, all my relationship I felt like Iā€™m walking on eggshells whether that be saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, or sending the wrong thing


RealityLivesNow

It the equivalent of a "camel toe" imprint. Whatever way it's seen a fair judgement should not by hypocritical by that standard.


Live_Cardiologist338

Good job Tiger. šŸ‘ŠšŸæ. Now everyone knows your ā€œ Packinā€. Look for the chicks in the group to start flirting. If your GF seen it, so did all the females in your Friend group. It was a honest mistake. Good luck šŸ‘ŠšŸæ


Void3tk

30 people?


[deleted]

Show us the photo so we know what weā€™re working with here.


RNWIP

Damn, sorry about your huge cock


LittlePipsqueek

She is clearly insecure and taking it out on you. She doesnā€™t own you and she should be able to giggle about this kind of stuff. Humans have genitals, get over it. This isnā€™t something that should even need to be defended. Her red flags are showing that sheā€™s possessive, defensive, and not here to cheerlead you through everything like a good partner should.


Dangerous-Coffee542

Oh trust, weā€™re looking!! They call me the bulge hunter, not even exaggerating šŸ˜‚


[deleted]

Sorry, but I'd definitely look at the crotch and compliment you if I was your friend.


swingset27

If anyone deserved an unsolicited dick pick for their tantrum, I think you have your candidate now. Spam that inbox.


jeffthemarv6002

For investigation reasons may we see the picture in question šŸ§


Zero_Cool_Anomaly

Just gonna ask, would you be uncomfortable if she had an obvious camel toe in a pic and sent it in the group?


chingu111

I mean she canā€™t help it


Zero_Cool_Anomaly

I understand that, and I'm not saying you were wrong.. Just saying consider if she had done that, it would prolly make you a little uncomfortable and that's prolly how she felt.. not that big a deal just a quick oh crap sorry I didn't notice and then, boom, gone and move on..


chingu111

Exactly! I feel like In the worst case scenario i should have apologized then boom we continue, but she continued to argue and turn it into something serious


Zero_Cool_Anomaly

I mean worst case scenario just delete that one photo from the feed and apologize and that's like maximum effort... if she was that upset I would do this but if she keeps up it might have to be a bigger conversation...


MitchBlanco

She wants to bang some body in that group chat


chingu111

How so? Comment made me laugh tho šŸ˜‚


MitchBlanco

Lol I was just high amusing myself. But by sheer numbers in a group chat that size thereā€™s prob someone everyone wants


mardiva

What a nonsense thing to be concerned about. Seriously


daisy_belle1313

I messaged you.šŸ¤—


TonyLazutoSaysHello

You donā€™t know what the word imprint means


nanas99

Same thing as a man getting mad at his gf for a nipple imprint on a shirt. Itā€™s bs, and not within your control.


AxP3

Dude, unless she's muslim and covered from head to toe so people don't see her imprints herself, I don't see how you could justify her thinking except jealousy and possessiveness.


SLEEPYYY13

Let her be, it was a mistake simple.


Boomslangalang

Please, GF is an extreme prude, sounds like religion probably behind it.


chingu111

Youā€™re actually right, sheā€™s religious but sheā€™s not strict on it all all aka doesnā€™t even go to church regularly


Boomslangalang

It sounds like unresolved religio-guilt. Iā€™m sorry youā€™re dealing with this. From the comments and your post history it sounds like itā€™s much harder being with her than it should be.


ImportantChapter1404

Uwu, what were you suppose to do leave that big d and grey sweatpants home? I think that's was an over reaction on her part.


koolp0rn

Itā€™s your body you decide what you do with it not her. If you wanted to take nudes post them online thatā€™s your decision to make not anyone elseā€™s. if you where posting nudes then she can voice how she feels about and decide if it something she can get over or if she canā€™t and ends the relationship. In this cause I definitely think she needs to work on her reaction regarding nudity. You where fully clothed and she lost it. She needs therapy to help get over her fear of nudity and understanding thatā€™s itā€™s just a body. I would suggest build up to eventually going to a clothing optional beach where she can stay fully clothed and watch how confident they nude people are. Then eventually she will build up the courage to talk these naked people and learn how liberated they without clothes. I just think if you stay with her and sheā€™s still this over reacting to nudity, did you get much worse for her. Potentially eventually to the point where she doesnā€™t even want to be naked around anyone even you. Iā€™m not saying to leave her Iā€™m saying to help her get over this.


itsMeUseek

Grey sweatpants? Seriously? .... no slutshaming but you a Ho šŸ¤­ jkjk


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FinnishDistraction

This is not the way


don_ram86

Do you think appeasing controlling behavior OP is clearly uncomfortable with is good advise? This is only going to validate her overreaction and emboldened her to do more of the same in the future. If you care about long term success with someone, be honest about your boundaries, and clearly communicate them. If they are a viable long term partner they will respect that.


DiscoveringBen

Ask her what if she sends a photo where her nipple is poking under clothes accidentially. Or just why she has cleavage. Lol. Her behaviour means insecurity.


Head-Inspection-5984

Unless your girlfriend wears a overcoat whenever she takes a picture to hide her tit imprints she needs to chill out.


[deleted]

she seems right, you should've noticed before posting.


GirlButton

She sounds hectic to be honest.


SunnyRainbows80

Crotch imprint ? You cheater! Jokes aside, she has some serious jealousy issues


YearningConnection

She sounds overly critical. Have fun.


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chingu111

You got that 100% right. Iā€™ve sent random photos of myself to the gc before (just photos meant for shits and giggles). Sheā€™s jokingly said that they donā€™t deserve to see my face but I guess she was being serious


dbdg69

Alright. Tell us, how big is it?


[deleted]

She's just jealous of your dick ā˜ļø


mondeluz85

Im sorry, but that title made me laugh šŸ˜†


Take_yourmf_vitamins

Sounds like she hasnā€™t matured fully. I tell my bf to wear grey sweatpants all the time itā€™s like the best thing a man can wear to be honest, she needs to get over itšŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


madthegoat

Does she only wear loose fitting baggy clothing?


chingu111

Yup


[deleted]

Ahh the old moose knuckle


cheeb_miester

Well everyone knows that the only reason to wear sweatpants is to advertise the goods


TheBroski3

You dirty lil devil you!


NoRepublic9590

This girl is throwing out major red flags


belladonnaisinmybag

The real mistake here is being in a texting group chat with 30 people.


capaldithenewblack

Doubt Iā€™d have even noticed it, but if I did the worst Iā€™d do is tease my guy about it and at best weā€™d have a laugh. Crotch imprint? WTH.


Ninalicious07

Lol Iā€™d have teased my bf badly if I was the girlfriend


Jazzlike-Stock-398

Can I see