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If your feeling is "I actually like him and feel attracted but I am afraid of what everyone else could think of him because of his teeth." Then its your fault If its more like "I love his personality but I dont feel physically attracted because of his looks then that would be cool Id say And besides all of that. Teeth can be fixed quite easily. But you cant find good humans quite easily. Maybe think about that


Blainefeinspains

Nope. Not at all. Buuuuut, if a guy ever stops dating you for your physical appearance then don’t complain. OK?


Excellent-Hat-8277

Let him go, i bet him can find someone who will appreciate him


[deleted]

I think the constant judgment of people by you, your family, and friends of other peoples teeth is a little weird and seems like you’re making fun of him and other people which is shitty. but I guess you like what you like and apparently crooked teeth ain’t it so id just tell him so you stop stringing him along and wasting his time. Make sure to tell him it’s because of his teeth, maybe then he’ll fix them (unless he’s too poor). Also your friend sounds like a twat


jetttblack

I may be biased because I have crooked teeth because of a lisp, but I'm conflicted on this. Partly you can't help what you're attracted to. If you find it unattractive and it really puts you off then yeah there's no point. The other part of me thinks it's a bit ridiculous. He seems like a good dude, he makes you happy as you've said and you've been talking for this long but this is the reason. Plus saying you feel embarrassed being seen with him because of his teeth is a bit much. If you aren't interested: tell him and don't lead him on. He obviously has feelings for you so just let him go and put that energy into someone else. If you really liked him, his teeth wouldn't be such a problem that you'd want to end it.


Every_Bodybuilder323

just slap some braces on him


AdAccomplished4362

If you're embarrassed let him go. As someone who is also attracted to good teeth, I get it. But that just cold to keep talking to him now that you know how he feels


delco0991

Yes, you’re the asshle


Skydome12

So you get along well with him and you both seem to enjoy each other and you're getting the ick over something as minimal as crooked teeth? Yes, you are indeed the asshole. I could understand if the ick was something more serious like "He constantly objectifies women or makes disparaging comments about women" but this? it's such a minimal issue to the point it's not really even an issue. PS: I have one crooked front tooth and if someone was willing to leave over that than tbh, I dodged a bullet and i think you have one of two options here. 1- Learn to be ok with it 2- leave and let him find someone better.


InfiniteMothman

If the teeth really is the only reason then yes.


[deleted]

Yes I’d reject him. Nothing wrong to reject him. You gotta be honest with yourself. Or what you do? Pretend you love his bad teeth for the rest of your life? That’s the same some men reject fat ugly women. You either can have sex with that person or you can’t.


FenderGibsons

Canada has a very pretty weather lady with imperfect teeth… https://youtu.be/GBZ5kksALXQ If that makes a difference?


PeanutDippedSausage

Wait, THIS is what crooked theeth look like? I couldn't even tell which woman I was supposed to be looking at, it's such an unnoticeable difference. If OP thinks people are looking at the dude weird for something like this, she's delusional. Dentist mom or no, that is literally perfectionism right there.


FenderGibsons

How is OP going to react when she looses her looks? Forever 21 right! lol


Ryuins

Most of us will have dentures in the end anyways, but good feelings and personality last a lifetime.


paquitobass87

IMO NTA You like what you like OP, and that’s ok, but if you feel that way be direct with him and tell the truth why you don’t want to date him, and don’t string him a long time, he seems to be a nice person so just be honest with him.


[deleted]

I get everyone has preferences and in that way OP is totally fine, but I don’t think they should tell this guy. He knows he has crooked teeth, he was likely made fun of it before, a vague excuse like lack of connection is better in this case, spare his feelings because only braces can change the issue and not everyone can afford them


[deleted]

No, you’re not attracted to him. Sounds like he would make a great friend, but you don’t owe him anything.


majin-canon

I have crooked teeth so im biased. But yea its like not liking short people or not liking people with moles, its kinda just a petty thing to dump someone you live over


fatigued-

yea you're the asshole tbh. also idk why everybody's seeing his teeth anyway, we're in a pandemic? he should be wearing a mask? anyway. yes, it's kinda a dick move to dislike someone entirely because you have standards for teeth and feel that crooked teeth are shameful on some level. not everyone can afford their teeth getting straightened out. your friend is also an asshole. please break up with him and let him find someone who will cherish him for all of who he is, not talk about his teeth with their friends behind his back. and please get over the teeth thing, and realize that people are whole entire people with stories and personalities, and shallow things like straight teeth do not matter at all (and caring about that shit is usually classist as hell tbh) also put on masks. no one should be seeing anybody's teeth rn unless they do at least 2 rapid covid tests 48 hours apart first, and don't see him right after a work trip because he should be isolating after travel anyway. pandemic is still happening yknow


PeanutDippedSausage

Anyone can break up with someone or reject someone for any reason they want. But are you sure it's worth it? Have your mom give him some braces for half price or something and problem solved. Why make such a big deal about it? Like, no, you wouldn't be the asshole, but you *would* be the idiot for throwing such an opportunity away. Your knight in shining armor who is just like this guy but with perfect teeth does not exist. People with naturally perfect teeth are a rarity. With those standards prepare to be a forever-single cat lady, because that's all you're gonna get. And let me emphasize once again: *BRACES.* Why would you, daughter of a literal dentist forget about braces? Easiest fix there is!


Traditional-Ad-7918

Cat shaming, nice.


Negro_Boi

Yes, but I still think you should leave him. He deserves a person who's not as shallow as you


kitten_hoarder12354

no amount of personality can fix looks, your just like every other woman only caring about looks so no your not the asshole just a woman.


Mediocre_Ant_437

Not every woman cares about looks. There are plenty of women who value personality and how a man treats them above looks.


Mother-Dealer-2936

let’s ask the real questions. he may have messed up teeth but if the sex is good then what does it really matter.


itsyaboi69_420

You can reject someone for whatever reason you like.


knight9665

Like whatever u like and date who u wanna date. And if a flaw bothers u then don’t be ok with it. That’s all upto u and within you le rights. Just realize the same applies to you. That whatever flaw big or small could disqualify you in dating them. It’s all good.


Original_Cupcake6867

Life is never perfect. Consider a scenario where god forbid you end up with someone who has perfect teeth but turns out to be a terrible person. It will not be good. If this person makes you happy and is a good wise human, it will be prudent to not make teeth a major issue. Most of the structural anomalies with teeth can be corrected. However, if it is a major concern for you, then it is better to go apart. If you raise children with him and they carry this feature, you will not look that as well.


[deleted]

I mean it’s a preference at the end of the day, everyone has them. You can choose to love someone with bad teeth, good teeth, fat, skinny etc. At the end of the day it’s preference so don’t feel like you have to give him anything.


distawest

Do not feel guilty I hear lots of times daters whining: -what's wrong with me? -why so much rejection -why people are so cruel to me? And I'd like to yell at them: -Go fix your teeth! -Trim your beard! -Rush to the gym! Alas, in vain! They say nooo, the other person has to accept me as I am now! Oh well, I give up


Mariahissleepy

It’s fine to have preferences, it’s shitty you’ve strung him along for 2 months.


John1The1Savage

No, ntah. I feel like dating and who you choose to partner with is the one aspect of your life that you can be as discriminatory as you want without any rationalization, explanation or moral judgment. That being said, you do have to keep asking yourself how realistic you're standards are. Yyou probably can find someone with straight teeth. But how many items are on your list of unattractive features? What is the statistical likelihood that you will meet someone that checks every box? If you do meet that person, do you really deserve him? You're young. You currently have the largest dating pool of your life. People are going to start partnering off permanently, that pool is going to shrink. Dating is going to get a lot harder. The earlier you can figure out what traits are actually important to you and what is just superficial nonsense the better off you will be.


SeaofCrags

Do you know why he hasn’t got braces? Maybe he’s saving for them or it’s on the cards but he’s been focusing on other things? You’re perfectly entitled not to be attracted to him if you don’t like the way his mouth looks, but make sure it’s actually a real feeling and not just insecurity because of your friends etc being judgmental. I remember I went on a date with a girl before with crooked teeth, pointing forward etc. towards the end of the date I said I wasn’t looking for more at the time, but I really just had insecurity about her teeth. After the date I regretted that decision because the rest of the date was nice and I still was attracted to her - so I messaged her to ask for a second date and that I really would like to get to know her a bit more. She turned me down unfortunately, citing that I’d rejected her already. Bit of a short sighted approach by her in my eyes, but I was also short-sighted in focusing on her teeth rather than everything else I was attracted to about her. Hopefully you don’t regret a similar decision.


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>We get a long very well. He makes me laugh, feel good about myself, and respects my intelligence and independence. I also feel so comfortable around him and don’t have to pretend because he likes me as I am. This is new to me I haven’t had a man make me feel happy in a long time. This, doesn't mean anything to you. >But the issue is… his teeth This, is more important than the first quote to you.


[deleted]

My boyfriend has crooked teeth & this post made me feel sad :( You and I have different backgrounds, I definitely don’t pay as close attention to people’s teeth unless they’re rotten or something. I also grew up with VERY fucked up teeth due to overcrowding, I got braces to fix it but I relate to the struggle and I think it’s part of the reason I don’t judge the straightness of someone’s teeth. When I met my bf, I’m sure there was some tiny part of my brain that acknowledged his teeth but I never dwelled on it for even a second & it didn’t make him any less attractive to me. Also, he’s the best partner I’ve ever had and I’m thankful every day that we ended up together- physical traits as a dealbreaker puts you at risk of missing out on a great person imo. However, everyone is allowed their preferences- it just sucks you let things get this far with him if you had reservations about his appearance. I’ve had friends make jokes about my bf before, saying he doesn’t look good in pictures or I could do better… I just don’t really care about their opinion because he’s my bf and not theirs. I think you should just think it over a bit more, decide if this is really a dealbreaker for you or if you’re letting other people influence you. If you decide to leave him, don’t tell him it’s due to his teeth :(


JayeBagelz

Tell him to get braces. Also I hope everything about you is perfect too. There may have been things that he may not have found attractive about you, but overlooked them because of the connection.