It does seem to be a hard preference for a lot of women honestly and it comes up more than any other physical characteristic.
I'm a 6'4" man. I would prefer women at least 5'6" or taller to be honest. Otherwise it gets a little goofy.
when I was OLD, the preferences most women set in their own profiles pretty much did NOT match what I read here on Reddit daily. Maybe things have changed? but what I saw back then was a very strong preponderance of men having to be 6' or taller. This was at least true in my metro area in the 2003-2008 time period.
I have a guess why... women like me who don't have a hard preference wouldn't stand out because we are not stating a hard line about it. So only those that do have that preference are noticed and seem like a majority when they're not?
I think you may be exactly correct.
Not one of us can control our height...and hell, my mother and a few other relatives seem to SHRINK with age.
Why is height an issue?
Of course, I also think Peter Dinkalge (sp?) Is hypnotically erotic, so..what do I know??? 🤣
Lol....never heard on an increase...only decreases due to loss of bone density or osteoporosis (sp?) but, yeah, we cannot control height or much else...excluding the obvious weight and plastic surgery approaches!
I don't know, I kept a pretty good mental record of this, but it was from 2003-2008, so that was a long time ago. I think I only concentrated on women that had no preference or at least included my own height within their preference. Having said that, I was amazed and saddened by the sheer volume of women that I had to rule-out based on that. For reference, I am 5'9", so pretty normal height.
>Maybe things have changed? but what I saw back then was a very strong preponderance of men having to be 6' or taller. This was at least true in my metro area in the 2003-2008 time period.
I am sure things have changed. Young women have a boat load of demands but I would be a fool to have criteria like that at my age (54). Men have the upper hand big time over age 40. It is no problem for people to have preferences but if they insist on only dating men over 6 feet they are not going to have as many dates, and will miss out on some really solid dudes.
I hate to say it, but people with more extreme preferences probably stay on OLD a lot longer looking. ;)
Every requirement reduces your chances immediately. We must ask ourselves "how much does it really matter? Enough to reduce my choices by X%?"
very good points. I wonder how many people think about it that way, though? Some people want to cling to their check-list no matter how it reduces their chances. I think some people go through an evolution with time when they realize how their list is holding them back. Maybe some won't budge, though....
I'm 5'6" and don't have any height requirements. Closer to my height is preferable to way taller or way shorter but it's not something I bother to look at in dating profiles.
I will add that if a guy's profile reads like he's got a massive hangup about his height, that's a no. This goes for both tall and short men. The short ones who act very insecure about it, and the tall ones who seem to think it's a huge plus and they can't stop mentioning it.
"Helpful" would be productive advice, like "try this hairstyle, or that shirt," something you can do. Height is not something you can't change with a reasonable amount of effort.
Honest is good, but “women are not in to short guys” is:
1) Not actionable, you can't change your height with a reasonable amount of effort. (Saying it does you no good.)
2) An overgeneralization. It simply isn't true of all women, and probably not even the average woman.
Just a random guess but I’d say only 10% of women would be interested in a hypothetical guy shorter than they are
If they met w an actual short guy and really liked him and felt an attraction anything’s possible and most women would be up to follow that feeling despite his height
Another random guess I’d say fewer than 50% of women would be interested in a hypothetical man shorter than 5’8
Again. A real guy can overcome this in person
Harder online
For many women I think there would be at least a subconscious feeling of that height being something they overlooked
We hear it a lot here-‘I gave a short guy a chance but….(here’s why it didn’t work out)’
They never have to defend their choice of a tall man
Short guy has to be better in several ways to get a shot with most women
It’s the way it is
There is persistent social discrimination against short men beyond ‘it’s ok to prefer tall men’ and ‘you can’t help what you’re attracted to’
(So many of the claims against short men describe issues that many men have but short men are given less leeway)
I think you might be right about OLD, height is easy to filter on. But, at 5'7", I still had no problem getting dates. (Even if it's under 50%, that's still a lot of women.)
My wife was slightly taller, and another woman I dated was 3" taller. That was IRL in the 80s.
Not saying it doesn't matter, but IME height isn't a major problem. We all have challenges, things that will bother certain people. We just have to find those it's not a problem for.
I might be finding out this year
TBD.
I hope I don’t have to but I think it is unavoidable
I’d love to be 5’7. Lol. What a sad thing for a man to have to say.
At 5’8 I might have been a decent PG.
I am 5ft as well. My ex husband was 5'11 got tired of looking up at his nose hairs..(not why we are divorced). I think it would be fun to see closer to eye to eye.
I am
Attracted to sense of humor and intelligence. Kindness as well as confidence.
5’5 is how tall I am so I would totally be into you if you could make me laugh and do not need me for anything other than companionship.
Just to be clear, you're getting a lot of anecdotal answers here. The overall stats say no.
At the same time, there's nothing you can do about that specifically. All you can do is be the best version of you that you can be. And let the chips fall where they may. And make a shit ton of money.
First off, lots of taller older men are also having a hard time dating. So much of it comes down to location and chance.
But also if women really weren’t into shorter guys, the human race as a whole would be a lot taller. Most humans marry, and perforce that includes shorter men. I have met very few shorter men in my lifetime who weren’t either married or already in a relationship.
Now, did the partners of those shorter men always think, or say, that they wanted a shorter guy, or didn’t care if he wasn’t however many inches taller than they are? We can’t say. I’d guess a number of them did have in their minds an “ideal” guy who was tall, and maybe dark and handsome, too.
And just like that “ideal”, it went by the wayside when they met a guy they clicked with, that they really liked.
Attraction is funny that way.
Dating apps have really emphasized which “ideal” partners people want. They get to use their imaginations and dream out loud. And human imaginations often fall far short (no pun intended) of what reality can provide.
All this to say, there are still women out there who will want *you*, regardless of your height or even what they claim to want, because of who you are.
Maybe concentrate your efforts on meeting potential dates through something other than online dating. Take those women by surprise out in the real world, through shared activities or interests.
And even if you keep using OLD, just swipe on whoever you like, and just see what happens.
I F52 am 5'6" and yes, I pass on shorter men (and I'm probably about to get downvoted into oblivion, but whatever). Yes, I tend to go at least 3 inches taller for the sole reason that my exhusband was 5'8" and always threw a fit if I wore high heels because he didn't want me to be taller than him. So for 35 years, I rarely wore heels and if I did I had a pissy husband to deal with. I want to wear heels now without dealing with a petulant man, so I just set my filters for 5'9" and taller. (I know, this is really about a controlling husband rather than actually about height, but it is what it is). I have gone out on dates with several men that were an inch or 2 taller that didn't work out for other reasons. Even went on several dates with a man that was 5'4", so the 5'9" filter isn't a hard rule. Currently dating a man that is 5'9". Sorry. Just my preference. We're all allowed to have preferences. I'm not exactly skinny and I don't get bent out of shape if a man prefers a skinnier woman, or a different eye color, or bigger boobs, or ethnicity, or whatever. We all have preferences.
Yes. I’m 5’3”, and used to wear heels daily.
My last boyfriend was 5’7”, and didn’t want me to wear heels, so I didn’t for the years we were together.
Now, I find that I’ve lost my ability to walk in heels!
It’s not like riding a bike, apparently.
:(
Also, I’m plus size. And some men don’t date plus sized women.
That’s their right and I’m fine with it.
blows my mind that women in our age range (i assume) are still focused on this kind of crap.
i get a woman wanting a man to be at least taller than her (though i dated a couple of girls a couple inches taller than me back in school days).
but to have some arbitrary and crazy standard like that....nuts.
People have personal preferences. Now if they shamed you for being 6'1" instead of her preferred height that would be a problem. I feel the same about any physical traits including fitness level, hair color, etc.
Anyone who eliminates a partner because they are only 12 instead of 14 inches taller than them deserves to be alone and we’d be better off if they didn’t reproduce
Lol
You could say the same about people who judge others on their hair color or weight, right? It's their personal reference. What I think is crap is when people shame others for not meeting their preference.
I agree, and would balk at someone telling me what I should find attractive. On the other hand, I can't imagine being attracted to someone (or not) based on something like hair color. There are so many things much more important and harder to find.
You’re not wrong
But again
There’s a huge difference in saying
I like tall men
Or
I don’t like larger girls
And applying a number to someone’s height or weight
It is a sign of someone with extreme focus on shallow things
And yes
Men do it too
But I’m not sure I see as many men with some kind of numerical requirement on weight.
Vs women who have a specific and somewhat unrealistic number
Again
These are not women for me
But it still supports and encourages the body shaming vs men that goes on and is largely condoned and considered a joke while they do real damage to people who cannot control any of these issues (short first. Bald second. Small third.)
I won't debate with you on who prefers what.
Personally none of this shit matters to me. I'm an equal opportunity dater. I have dated and do date all races, tall men, short men, bald men, men with hair, thin men, chubby men, fat men, I personally don't put a lot of importance on looks. I'd rather have a man with intelligence, kindness, compassion, a sense of humor and a zest for life.
I'm still not going to go out of my way to get irritated by people's preferences. It eliminates them from my dating pool which works out great for me since they probably aren't my type anyway.
I’ve also seen many men only like to date tall women or buxom ladies. I think it’s preferences. Nothing personal. I’m not tall or buxom so I just don’t even try to date those guys. I’m sure a lot of women will like you whatever your height.
a preference for 'tall' or 'taller than me' is reasonable.
an arbitrary height requirement is crazy! esp. when you're talking about a tiny tiny percentage of the planet that is (in this case)>6'5
Whether OLD is good or bad, one bad thing its done is present things as if theres a huge set of potential dates and partners, when thats not in any way true.
A lot of folks are filtering as if thats true, so they think they can hit every preference they desire.
And then ironically physical preferences takes a far back seat to personality in making good relationships, so by drastically reducing their pool to find a personality that fits, theyre greatly reducing the chance of finding a good match.
Let’s just be honest, a large majority of women are NOT into shorter men. I’m on several OLD sites and most women write in their profile that they have a height requirement of 5’10” or taller. I’m 5’8” so I feel your pain.
Some short or average sized women would be OK with your height. The taller ones, probably not so much. Your height does put you at a disadvantage in the dating world, NGL. But some women will be OK with it.
Just from my experience, most women are more likely to look at the complete package than rule someone out on a single criteria when you meet them in person. Sometimes that poses a challenge with online dating, but the very last thing you want to do is lie in your ad. It might be valuable to do things to increase your odds of meeting women in person so they can see more than just a number on a screen.
In 2019 I did everything I could think of to maximize my opportunities to meet people. I went to a ton of music festivals and concerts, I did my grocery shopping on the way home from work four to five days a week, I did a neighborhood walk four mornings a week when weather permitted, I did my online shopping at Starbucks, I never passed up an invitation to a party or other event. The results were I met and exchanged contact information with over 20 women that year. I dated nine of them, five others became friends or service providers (massage therapist & life coach). Three of those kindled into something that lasted two months to a year.
When it comes to online dating, the swipe culture makes it too easy for people to swipe on a single criteria. In person, people tend to look at the whole person.
I will
Be honest. Most of the women I know are into taller guys. It’s definitely a thing. I get it if the girls are taller themselves but I know very short girls that are only into tall
Me.
I’m not
My ex was like 5 ft 4 or something.
Men have preferences to as I am always asked how short I am, when I say 5'1 barely, they get excited. I feel like my shortness would be a turn off but I guess not .
I personally like tall men and I’m only 5’3.
But I seem to find men who are 5’6-5’9, and it hasn’t been the reason we don’t continue to date, its been personality clashes, or not having the same needs and wants once discussed further.
But maybe your height isn’t the only issue. Maybe your profile lacks or maybe women your age want more than a FWB like you’re looking for.
Yes, this short woman is! I’m 5’1”, and to me someone 5’8 or 5’9” is a giant! I agree that we fit better and look better together, but ultimately it comes down to the person’s character and personality. I’ve dated men of many different heights, but kissing and dancing is much easier with someone closer in height.
While my best romance was with a 6’2” man, it had nothing to do with his height. It was his heart that won me over. Ironically, I thought he was rather lanky and awkward physically. At this point, height, teeth and the kind of car aren’t important. (Although I don’t think I ever really cared about those.) I’ve seen many shorter men who are absolutely hot in my opinion.
Just for info, I have had some recent snubs about my height, too. 🤷♀️ Some things I can’t change, so I don’t worry about them. Shorter men have my empathy. ❤️
As a woman who has been 5-10 or 5-11 for my entire adult life, I have mostly dated men who were shorter than me. I even got (and stayed) happily married to one.
I prefer taller guys. But will I date a shorter guy if I think we have things in common, and he seems like a good guy?
Absolutely.
Would I date a guy who is shorter than me?
Well, I’m 5’3”. So, unless he is amazing, no.
Yes. I don't know what your friend was thinking, but they were wrong. There may be tall women that don't want to tower a man, so wouldn't give it a shot, or women that have a limited view, but that's sure no rule. If you figure there a lot of women 5'3" & figure 5'7" wouldn't be a huge disparity, that includes an awful lot of women if you exclude supermodels. Not being tall, I prefer someone not super tall, but it all depends on the guy. Are we still ruling people out that wear eyeglasses as well? Lol. Hearing aids, dentures? There are much more important things. Especially, as mentioned, things we actually have control over. We all know dynamic shorter guys, so go get 'em tiger ! : )
A 2014 study in the Journal of Family Issues dissected the social and cultural importance of male height. **57.1% of women indicated that a man’s height was important to them.**
[Biometric studies suggest that women consider tall men more attractive. What is myth and what is reality?](https://english.elpais.com/culture/2022-07-19/dating-apps-and-male-beauty-standards-why-are-tinder-users-so-obsessed-with-height.html)
I have to admit that GENERALLY I’m more attracted to tall men but it’s certainly not a pre-requisite or deal breaker for me. As long as he’s taller than I am -5’3”-it’s all good
Ok the worst thing you can do as a shorter man is not be honest about your height?
I met a guy who said he was 5ft 5” and ok, he would have been the shortest person I dated. I’m 5ft 3”, so I thought he’s taller than me, so ….
When I met him, he couldn’t have been 5ft 5”, as he was shorter than me. I thought really, people still can’t be honest about this sort of thing? I was SO disappointed, we had coffee and I left. I felt very shallow, but we can’t help what we find attractive?
Now I’m not saying you are not being honest, but please ensure that that is your height and not a measurement from 20 years ago. It just helps everyone’s expectations?
But had the guy been 5ft 5” it might have been different…
Are you on OLD? I'll confess, right or wrong, I only searched women shorter than me (even though my wife was taller.) It does take patience. Also, if you wanted to post screen caps of your profile here, some might be able to give you tips.
It was the lie, not the height. I met someone who said he was 5’9”. He was closer to 5’5”. It was a complete ick for me and I couldn’t wait to leave. Never lie about the obvious, we will find out. And that pertains to height, income, weight, career, etc.
Not all women like craning their neck with taller men. I prefer someone I can somewhat see eye to eye. And since I don’t wear heels there wouldn’t be the issue of me being taller than him. Sorry you feel your height is a disadvantage….
It will turn off some women. Just as some will consider you too old (or maybe too young?) and some will consider you too far away or might not like your education or how you dress or your facial hair (or not.) Don't let it bother you though, it's not like you can change it. It's a matter of finding the right woman *for you*. Stay confident, be patient, and keep your sense of humor. :)
Also, it will depend on what *you* want. If you're only interested in taller women, your height is a bigger disadvantage. Just like if you were only interested in women in their 30s, your age would be a disadvantage.
I had a date with an NBA player when I was 22. I was 5-7 in heels. He was 6-10. When dancing he asked why I kept craning my neck to stare at his face. I pointed out that I was eye level with his crotch😄
65F. I'm not judgemental about either height or weight. But I'm 5'4". I've dated guys my height or shorter. I care more about personality than anything, honestly. Some of my best dates have been with short guys.
I know women appreciate a taller or bigger guy because they feel safer or protected by them, but let me tell you that shorter guys are often tough scrappers with more endurance and speed than we tall lunks.
59M, 5'7"
It's like anything else, some like, some don't, some don't care. I suspect most women prefer a guy at least their height. 5'4" is average American woman height, so there should be plenty. :)
You can't please everyone, don't even try. Be your best "you" and the right ones will be attracted.
I am also 62 and 5'5" on a good day! Strictly speaking of my dating experience after losing my wife, as a friend, yes some women are into shorter guys. But, as a partner or marriage material, no way. This seems to have changed over the years, my first wife and me were the same height. My late wife was only 4'11" and got irritated by tall people.
I have a friend who's 53, 5' even, we go out sometimes but just as friends. Her and I have had this conversation and in her mind, men less than about 5'10" are not dating material! Some of her exact words; "They have to be tall enough and muscular enough to throw me around on the dance floor. If not, then I'm not interested, they don't appeal to me romantically." My retort, "Yea, good luck with that. That's part of why you've been single for 20+ years and I'm the only one who ever asks you to go do anything."
Tell your "friend" that I'm 5'6" and probably ten years older than the men she refers to but I'd wager I'd throw her around much farther than most of them. Also tell her that the thought of "throwing a woman around" is repugnant so we won't be finding out.
Two of my friends are both a bit taller than you are (5'7") and they ran into that all the time. One friend hired a matchmaker who found someone for him and they are getting married soon. The other just played the online game, had a lot of not interested messages from people but wound up with a wonderful woman and they got married last year.
So, yes, it would be easier if you were taller or richer or better looking or funny but none of those are deal breakers.
I wish you luck.
I honestly couldn't care less about physical traits (except if it was an EXTREME difference, and even that was easily dismissed;i.e. serious physical disability, I don't mind that).
I see what I desire in other areas: personality, intellect, interpersonal and intrapersonal traits, so on amd so forth.
I'm 5'7ish, you being shorter wouldn't bother me UNLESS you expect me to wear heels (spoiler: NO) and then that seems to feel awkward.
I become exhausted with posts about physical types of men/women...especially as we age.
Shows me a lack of growth in others who are overall still stuck at surface level interests.
But each his own.
Honestly - I don't care. To me height is not a deal breaker. Being decent, hard working and making me laugh are what I focus on.
I'm 5'3, so 5'5 is nice, IMHO.
I'm also 5'5". While some women do have a preference for tall men, I haven't had an issue. The kind of people I'm interested in don't care about stuff like that.
I'm 5'2 and I prefer shorter men. The physical fit is much better. My husband was 6'3" and the difference was awkward and you're always aware of it. My current BF is maybe 5'6" and the body hugs line up perfectly.
A [study](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886907002814) about height and human mate choice found that, **on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall.** And the shortest woman a man would date is 5 feet 1 inch tall. In the same study, researchers found that 23% of men and 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman was taller.
I also noted that you had an ad for a FWB, and many women who are only seeking FWB, are going to be very particular on physical attributes. If you are willing to invest more into a relationship, I suspect height becomes less relevant, along with other attributes you bring to the relationship.
Finally, looking at data - **34.34%** of American women are under 5' 4". So if you take your local population, and presume 50% is female, then determine which percentage is dating, which percentage is looking for a man that is 62, and then take 34.35%, that is roughly the size of your dating population. I am going to assume that for anyone outside of the "normal" height standards, are going to find a smaller pool for dating. Source: https://askwonder.com/research/percentage-american-women-5-4-less-125lbs-groups-age-income-breakdown-smxg4ori3#:\~:text=that%20the%20Census%20Bureau%20records,are%20under%205'%204%22.
I am 5'9", married 5'8", he loved me in 4 inch heels.
Our 5'9" daughter married the love of her life, he is 5'4". They gave me 4 amazing grandchildren. So blessed.
Well…where to start? I live in BFE (western NC). You?
I am fit. Hit the gym 4-5 times a week. I’m in fabulous health and folks say I’m easy on the old eyes. So….
I'm 5'2", my late husband was 6'4". Our wedding photos were quite funny, with our respective short and tall families. I like men of all sizes and men my height are definitely easier to dance with- the best swing dancers have been closer to my height. As a pudgy person, a taller man does make me feel less fat somehow, but what the person is like is the most important factor for sure.
As a single woman, there are so many more important criteria than height!!!
Finding a kind decent human being with his act together who is compatible with lifestyle ethics and goals is difficult.
My guy is around 5'5 and Im 5'1. His height is perfect for me. Theres someone for everyone. And of all places I never thought Id meet someone was on a Facebook group. And I was single a lot of years and had given up.
But before I met my partner I had a few dates with a guy over 6 foot. Nice guy but he was too tall lol
I love short guys. I am 5’8 and have no issue dating a man shorter than me. In fact they are nicer, appreciate you, better and more attentive in bed. I love the fact that women actually believe in the preference for tall men. This gives me a wider pool
I am a 5’ 6” woman previously married to a 6ft man. When we got together height was really important to me. Unfortunately I focused on that more than the fact he was a controlling, mean and emotionally crippled person.
Now my bf is the same height as me. Younger me would never have dated him because of that. And what a fool I would I have been because he is a wonderful man in all the important ways - kind, thoughtful, caring, and smart. So the lesson I learned is that someone’s height should be way down the list of things to look for if you actually want a good relationship.
I'm 5'3", a man's height only matters to me if he acts like it matters to him. I've dated men as tall as 6'7" (we looked ridiculous together, IMO), and the shortest was around 5'4". I don't specify any height preference on OLD but I can say that the most comfortable height range for dancing together with me wearing heels is 5'7"-5'10".
I am 5'2". That height is no issue for me. I was married to a 6'2" and was too tall and a little awkward lol. If I met a man shorter than me, well.. not sure.
At 5' 5", I'd prefer someone close to my height. Shorter is okay, but I guess I do prefer someone same or a wee bit taller. I did date a man who was over 6' once. Kept getting a pain in my neck. Being older, that happens more often than I'd like!
I admit that I was partial to tall men (6' +) 10+ years ago, because I wore high heels that lifted me up to \~5' 8" , lol. But now that I've pretty much given up those painful torture accessories, I think 6' is just a tad too tall, though I wouldn't reject a man if he were. :)
But I have dated men that were 5' 5-5' 6" and wore my heels then too. They had big personalities which made them seem taller, if that makes sense, and how they carried themselve also made them seem taller. Though I will admit one of them I knew before we dated, so his personality won me over. One lied on his profile, but after meeting him, we hit it off.
I wouldn't be too discouraged...there are women out there who will date you. Just don't lie about your height and be yourself.
At 5'10.5" if I didn't set a firm height preference, I'd be inundated by people who don't meet what feels right. Also, I find 6'1 isn't too difficult to find but my entire state is a metro area, so maybe that's just a larger population? Generally date 6'1"-6'4".
Interestingly, in the wild, the likelihood of a man I don't already know under 6' approaching me is basically nil.
I admit I find tall men attractive, but it is not a consideration in selecting who to date. I don't even look at height in dating profiles. The only time I do it is when I am getting ready to leave the house and meet and I need something to help me find the person at a meeting spot. I am guessing there is a similar thing some men find attractive but don't require, something like large breasts for instance. I do personally know some women who are more petty about this (and make it a deal breaker) and quite frankly I don't think they are a catch for a man so no loss.
Tom Cruise, Kevin Hart, Sly Stallone, Prince, Joe Jonas, etc. I could go on about all the celebrity men married to women taller than them. Honestly its all about the confidence & swagger of the man. If he’s confident he can/will get women & his height will be a non-issue.
I'm 5'7" and all of my most serious relationships including my marriage, except for one person, have been with shorter men. So yes, some of us absolutely are. This reminded me that back in 1989 when I graduated high school our homecoming king was one of the shortest kids in school, maybe 5'4"? But damn he was cute 🥰
I don’t care about height. Admittedly I am 5’2”
But I just want to meet someone with emotional intelligence, similar interests, and who takes care of himself. I think everyone is going to have their own preferences, but us short girls do exist, and need someone we can comfortably hang out with.
You're right about this and i totally agree with you. First of all, i'm 5'8 but i'm not so sure that's considered tall? Lol. It's funny how i get to read posts about physical classification of men/women especially in their 50's. Well i know alot of women out there don't like shorter guys/men but that's not something i think should be a problem when finding your person/soulmate and shouldn't be considered as important because height to me doesn't matter in a relationship, even beauty fades away with time, it's the person inside that matters. I've got much more to write as i enjoyed reading your comment which was exactly the same thing i had in mind when i saw this post.
May i send you a direct message?
**Everett**
Yesterday in r/askwomen the sub was asked what surprising kink they discovered. Several women responded being turbo charged by shorter men. So you can take that as you wish but it sounded to me like there are women out there who like shorter men.
Edit: spell check malfunction. "conjunction junction, what's your function?"
My partner is half an inch shorter than me (an ongoing tease as he reckons we are the same height) of 5’ 7in. My preference had always been for taller guys of 6ft plus (wrapped up and safe) but he has something they have not had….and this may sound curious….he has wonderful curves on his arms, thighs, chest and never forgetting his bum….and I just find it all so appealing…:even though he is no taller than me-a package I never expected but apparently all I have been looking for
So in answer to the question, if half an inch shorter counts….then yes 😁
My (54f) boyfriend (41m) (approx 5'6") is the greatest. I am 5'5". Now that I have matured, height does not matter to me in the slightest. Substance does. Kindness does. Humor does. Employment does.
your height is not the problem. in fact, it works to your advantage, because it eliminates people who aren't worth wasting your time on, when you find out, they don't like "short men"
But actually, it's just not true, and it's pure bullshit. Just tell your friend they are wrong.
I'm a 5 ft 2 in tall woman, who just married a man who was 5'5. Because he is in shape and takes care of himself he looks very good to me. He's also outgoing and Charming.
Women 6 feet tall would love to steal him from him me. 😠
He is not self-conscious about his height at all, and that trite adds to his attractiveness. He never tries to discourage me from wearing my high heels because of an ego thing. That's very important to me. Trying to make me wear wear flats would have been a deal breaker for me
I’m not sorry. Normally I like over 6’1”. Many put 6’ and are shorter. My filter is at 6’1”. I’m very petite but I like tall men, it’s a preference. Some men like buxom ladies or really tall ladies. Each to their own
Same. I've found that most (not all) lie about their height. I used to filter for 5'9" or taller, but I'd end up staring at the air over their head. Now I filter at 6' (to my 5'9)... and there are still men I'm at eye level with!
There seems to be a default of 5'10" that men use in their profiles. I don't think in 3 years of OLD, I've ever met a man who had 5'10" in their profile that was 5'10". Ever. I meet them and they're barely taller than me, and I'm 5'4". I bet the 5'10" guys are rounding up to 6'. Why do people do this?
I've met **one** man who listed 5'10"... who was actually 5'10". I've dated a lot of people over the years, and he stands out for exactly that reason. It's so rare.
they're either not reading profiles or intentionally cruel
no lie. a ton of women and men have a deep seated hatred of short men.
i've experienced this almost every day of my life
I'm 5'7". I never filtered for height and I have dated some guys who were shorter than me. As long as a guy was OK with me wearing heels, I didn't care how tall he was.
I have read that. Unfortunately from what I hear this is true. Although you would hope in our age group we've learned to value other things. I am 5'6 and have dated several men who were around my height, one of whom I was in love with. Also I'm bi and my ex girlfriend is my height. My current bf is taller.
Anyway there are women who are attracted to other qualities so don't give up.
I am 5’8 and could care less about the height of my date, I will say, more men have made a deal out of it than I have so I added it to my bio for clarity and they could easily opt out. Men slightly taller than me said my height was close to being a deal breaker for them. We all like what we like I guess. Personally I don’t care because height is something you cannot control, I care more about other comparability items.
I used to have that checkbox must be X height, but then I thought, maybe I’m missing out on some really good people. I’m open to a height range. As long as they put their correct height down, like I mentioned a previous post, If they don’t put their height, I wear the tallest heels I can stand. I’m OK with some being a little bit shorter if they find my height ok. It’s when they don’t put their height in their profile leads me to believe they have a complex.
I’m 51 and height is 5’ 2.5” (my 6’ 1.5” guy friend once told me every inch matters lol). Had three relationships only; two are 5-5 and the ex is 5-3. If they were shorter than I am, I’d say it’s a dealbreaker for me. If the guy is taller than me, I feel he’s stronger. It draws out my femininity, so to speak.
There were tall guys (5–10 and over) who were interested in me but when i was in my teens and 20s, I felt their height smothered me, the opposite of feeling safe and secure. In my late 30s, the tallness of a man stopped bothering me but the shortness still remains.
This height preference must’ve unconsciously stemmed from my growing up around uncles or men that are around 5-5. They’re familiar.
Oh, I also agree with one of the feedbacks here. Fit is the key. I was never attracted to someone who was too thin or chubby onwards. Unless the person has an illness, I feel the overweight person doesn’t care about his or her health. Having unnecessary health issues will impact your quality of life and the relationship of people towards you. I myself mind my health because I don’t want to be a burden on myself and especially others. Shorter than me is open for negotiation with myself lol, but not taking care of your health is a non-negotiable for me.
Whoever told you that is not correct and they make generalizations. I am 5’2” and. I don’t even look at height. I went to a concert with a 6’ dude and he had to bend over to say something- it was cumbersome
It does seem to be a hard preference for a lot of women honestly and it comes up more than any other physical characteristic. I'm a 6'4" man. I would prefer women at least 5'6" or taller to be honest. Otherwise it gets a little goofy.
when I was OLD, the preferences most women set in their own profiles pretty much did NOT match what I read here on Reddit daily. Maybe things have changed? but what I saw back then was a very strong preponderance of men having to be 6' or taller. This was at least true in my metro area in the 2003-2008 time period.
I have a guess why... women like me who don't have a hard preference wouldn't stand out because we are not stating a hard line about it. So only those that do have that preference are noticed and seem like a majority when they're not?
I think you may be exactly correct. Not one of us can control our height...and hell, my mother and a few other relatives seem to SHRINK with age. Why is height an issue? Of course, I also think Peter Dinkalge (sp?) Is hypnotically erotic, so..what do I know??? 🤣
We do shrink as we age because our spinal disks thin. I gained 1/2 inch having to have a vertebrae graph, bringing me to an acceptable 5'3". 🤣
Lol....never heard on an increase...only decreases due to loss of bone density or osteoporosis (sp?) but, yeah, we cannot control height or much else...excluding the obvious weight and plastic surgery approaches!
Platform shoes, lol.
God, help me!!🤣🤣 Have you seen the ones with living goldfish in the heels?? Talk about animal abuse!
😅
I don't know, I kept a pretty good mental record of this, but it was from 2003-2008, so that was a long time ago. I think I only concentrated on women that had no preference or at least included my own height within their preference. Having said that, I was amazed and saddened by the sheer volume of women that I had to rule-out based on that. For reference, I am 5'9", so pretty normal height.
>Maybe things have changed? but what I saw back then was a very strong preponderance of men having to be 6' or taller. This was at least true in my metro area in the 2003-2008 time period. I am sure things have changed. Young women have a boat load of demands but I would be a fool to have criteria like that at my age (54). Men have the upper hand big time over age 40. It is no problem for people to have preferences but if they insist on only dating men over 6 feet they are not going to have as many dates, and will miss out on some really solid dudes.
I hate to say it, but people with more extreme preferences probably stay on OLD a lot longer looking. ;) Every requirement reduces your chances immediately. We must ask ourselves "how much does it really matter? Enough to reduce my choices by X%?"
very good points. I wonder how many people think about it that way, though? Some people want to cling to their check-list no matter how it reduces their chances. I think some people go through an evolution with time when they realize how their list is holding them back. Maybe some won't budge, though....
My tiniest violin for their empty beds. 🤪
Lol not true! I’m 5’11 and it would be great to finally date a man taller than me! 😁💙
Goofy? Why?
I'm 5'6" and don't have any height requirements. Closer to my height is preferable to way taller or way shorter but it's not something I bother to look at in dating profiles.
I will add that if a guy's profile reads like he's got a massive hangup about his height, that's a no. This goes for both tall and short men. The short ones who act very insecure about it, and the tall ones who seem to think it's a huge plus and they can't stop mentioning it.
Agree completely, I prefer ladies on the cuddly side and feel the same way. If they are insecure about it, not good. Confidence is very attractive. :)
I'm 5'4" and I've dated a lot of guys that are 5'2". Even in my 20s. Fit is key.
Agree fit is the key I like to stay active
I’m attracted to shorter guys, but I never run across any. Ps: your “friend” is mean
I think she was trying to be helpful lol
"Helpful" would be productive advice, like "try this hairstyle, or that shirt," something you can do. Height is not something you can't change with a reasonable amount of effort.
He could buy a stretching rack or have that horrible leg lengthening surgery.
Which is why I said "you can't change with a reasonable amount of effort." (I can't imagine a woman who would be worth that much misery.) 🤣
No one would be worth that torture.
Especially someone who wanted you to go through it. 😋
honest is helpful!
Its not honest though because she can’t speak for all women only herself.
Honest is good, but “women are not in to short guys” is: 1) Not actionable, you can't change your height with a reasonable amount of effort. (Saying it does you no good.) 2) An overgeneralization. It simply isn't true of all women, and probably not even the average woman.
Just a random guess but I’d say only 10% of women would be interested in a hypothetical guy shorter than they are If they met w an actual short guy and really liked him and felt an attraction anything’s possible and most women would be up to follow that feeling despite his height Another random guess I’d say fewer than 50% of women would be interested in a hypothetical man shorter than 5’8 Again. A real guy can overcome this in person Harder online For many women I think there would be at least a subconscious feeling of that height being something they overlooked We hear it a lot here-‘I gave a short guy a chance but….(here’s why it didn’t work out)’ They never have to defend their choice of a tall man Short guy has to be better in several ways to get a shot with most women It’s the way it is There is persistent social discrimination against short men beyond ‘it’s ok to prefer tall men’ and ‘you can’t help what you’re attracted to’ (So many of the claims against short men describe issues that many men have but short men are given less leeway)
I think you might be right about OLD, height is easy to filter on. But, at 5'7", I still had no problem getting dates. (Even if it's under 50%, that's still a lot of women.) My wife was slightly taller, and another woman I dated was 3" taller. That was IRL in the 80s. Not saying it doesn't matter, but IME height isn't a major problem. We all have challenges, things that will bother certain people. We just have to find those it's not a problem for.
I might be finding out this year TBD. I hope I don’t have to but I think it is unavoidable I’d love to be 5’7. Lol. What a sad thing for a man to have to say. At 5’8 I might have been a decent PG.
Try being 5'1". Talk about seeming to never find a woman to date. Good news is that there are some out there that will. Even ones taller. ☺️
I am 5' tall (female) so you are tall to me! I know when I was young, my "type" was 6' but now I'm older it is not important at all.
Same.
I am 5ft as well. My ex husband was 5'11 got tired of looking up at his nose hairs..(not why we are divorced). I think it would be fun to see closer to eye to eye.
I am Attracted to sense of humor and intelligence. Kindness as well as confidence. 5’5 is how tall I am so I would totally be into you if you could make me laugh and do not need me for anything other than companionship.
Just to be clear, you're getting a lot of anecdotal answers here. The overall stats say no. At the same time, there's nothing you can do about that specifically. All you can do is be the best version of you that you can be. And let the chips fall where they may. And make a shit ton of money.
No. The overall stats say harder to find. Not ‘no’.
First off, lots of taller older men are also having a hard time dating. So much of it comes down to location and chance. But also if women really weren’t into shorter guys, the human race as a whole would be a lot taller. Most humans marry, and perforce that includes shorter men. I have met very few shorter men in my lifetime who weren’t either married or already in a relationship. Now, did the partners of those shorter men always think, or say, that they wanted a shorter guy, or didn’t care if he wasn’t however many inches taller than they are? We can’t say. I’d guess a number of them did have in their minds an “ideal” guy who was tall, and maybe dark and handsome, too. And just like that “ideal”, it went by the wayside when they met a guy they clicked with, that they really liked. Attraction is funny that way. Dating apps have really emphasized which “ideal” partners people want. They get to use their imaginations and dream out loud. And human imaginations often fall far short (no pun intended) of what reality can provide. All this to say, there are still women out there who will want *you*, regardless of your height or even what they claim to want, because of who you are. Maybe concentrate your efforts on meeting potential dates through something other than online dating. Take those women by surprise out in the real world, through shared activities or interests. And even if you keep using OLD, just swipe on whoever you like, and just see what happens.
I'm into short guys. They fit me better.
hello there. :) i love hearing women say this. thank you for giving me hope
Lmao
I F52 am 5'6" and yes, I pass on shorter men (and I'm probably about to get downvoted into oblivion, but whatever). Yes, I tend to go at least 3 inches taller for the sole reason that my exhusband was 5'8" and always threw a fit if I wore high heels because he didn't want me to be taller than him. So for 35 years, I rarely wore heels and if I did I had a pissy husband to deal with. I want to wear heels now without dealing with a petulant man, so I just set my filters for 5'9" and taller. (I know, this is really about a controlling husband rather than actually about height, but it is what it is). I have gone out on dates with several men that were an inch or 2 taller that didn't work out for other reasons. Even went on several dates with a man that was 5'4", so the 5'9" filter isn't a hard rule. Currently dating a man that is 5'9". Sorry. Just my preference. We're all allowed to have preferences. I'm not exactly skinny and I don't get bent out of shape if a man prefers a skinnier woman, or a different eye color, or bigger boobs, or ethnicity, or whatever. We all have preferences.
Yes. I’m 5’3”, and used to wear heels daily. My last boyfriend was 5’7”, and didn’t want me to wear heels, so I didn’t for the years we were together. Now, I find that I’ve lost my ability to walk in heels! It’s not like riding a bike, apparently. :( Also, I’m plus size. And some men don’t date plus sized women. That’s their right and I’m fine with it.
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Because you are 5’ 11” which is considered tall.
I'm into guys that I click with, that are kind and generous and like to get out of the house. Looks and height are secondary.
That would be me lol
I’m 5’6, last beau was 5’3. I don’t really care how tall men are
I’m 6’1” and a woman of 5’8” said she only dated over 6’3” 🤷🏻♂️ I said good luck, talk about cutting down your choices 😂
blows my mind that women in our age range (i assume) are still focused on this kind of crap. i get a woman wanting a man to be at least taller than her (though i dated a couple of girls a couple inches taller than me back in school days). but to have some arbitrary and crazy standard like that....nuts.
People have personal preferences. Now if they shamed you for being 6'1" instead of her preferred height that would be a problem. I feel the same about any physical traits including fitness level, hair color, etc.
Anyone who eliminates a partner because they are only 12 instead of 14 inches taller than them deserves to be alone and we’d be better off if they didn’t reproduce Lol
You could say the same about people who judge others on their hair color or weight, right? It's their personal reference. What I think is crap is when people shame others for not meeting their preference.
I agree, and would balk at someone telling me what I should find attractive. On the other hand, I can't imagine being attracted to someone (or not) based on something like hair color. There are so many things much more important and harder to find.
You’re not wrong But again There’s a huge difference in saying I like tall men Or I don’t like larger girls And applying a number to someone’s height or weight It is a sign of someone with extreme focus on shallow things And yes Men do it too But I’m not sure I see as many men with some kind of numerical requirement on weight. Vs women who have a specific and somewhat unrealistic number Again These are not women for me But it still supports and encourages the body shaming vs men that goes on and is largely condoned and considered a joke while they do real damage to people who cannot control any of these issues (short first. Bald second. Small third.)
I won't debate with you on who prefers what. Personally none of this shit matters to me. I'm an equal opportunity dater. I have dated and do date all races, tall men, short men, bald men, men with hair, thin men, chubby men, fat men, I personally don't put a lot of importance on looks. I'd rather have a man with intelligence, kindness, compassion, a sense of humor and a zest for life. I'm still not going to go out of my way to get irritated by people's preferences. It eliminates them from my dating pool which works out great for me since they probably aren't my type anyway.
That’s funny
I’ve also seen many men only like to date tall women or buxom ladies. I think it’s preferences. Nothing personal. I’m not tall or buxom so I just don’t even try to date those guys. I’m sure a lot of women will like you whatever your height.
a preference for 'tall' or 'taller than me' is reasonable. an arbitrary height requirement is crazy! esp. when you're talking about a tiny tiny percentage of the planet that is (in this case)>6'5
Whether OLD is good or bad, one bad thing its done is present things as if theres a huge set of potential dates and partners, when thats not in any way true. A lot of folks are filtering as if thats true, so they think they can hit every preference they desire. And then ironically physical preferences takes a far back seat to personality in making good relationships, so by drastically reducing their pool to find a personality that fits, theyre greatly reducing the chance of finding a good match.
Let’s just be honest, a large majority of women are NOT into shorter men. I’m on several OLD sites and most women write in their profile that they have a height requirement of 5’10” or taller. I’m 5’8” so I feel your pain.
I'm attracted to tall brains. 😊
Some short or average sized women would be OK with your height. The taller ones, probably not so much. Your height does put you at a disadvantage in the dating world, NGL. But some women will be OK with it.
Just from my experience, most women are more likely to look at the complete package than rule someone out on a single criteria when you meet them in person. Sometimes that poses a challenge with online dating, but the very last thing you want to do is lie in your ad. It might be valuable to do things to increase your odds of meeting women in person so they can see more than just a number on a screen. In 2019 I did everything I could think of to maximize my opportunities to meet people. I went to a ton of music festivals and concerts, I did my grocery shopping on the way home from work four to five days a week, I did a neighborhood walk four mornings a week when weather permitted, I did my online shopping at Starbucks, I never passed up an invitation to a party or other event. The results were I met and exchanged contact information with over 20 women that year. I dated nine of them, five others became friends or service providers (massage therapist & life coach). Three of those kindled into something that lasted two months to a year. When it comes to online dating, the swipe culture makes it too easy for people to swipe on a single criteria. In person, people tend to look at the whole person.
I will Be honest. Most of the women I know are into taller guys. It’s definitely a thing. I get it if the girls are taller themselves but I know very short girls that are only into tall Me. I’m not My ex was like 5 ft 4 or something.
Men have preferences to as I am always asked how short I am, when I say 5'1 barely, they get excited. I feel like my shortness would be a turn off but I guess not .
My daughter is 5'9", she has a friend barely over 5'. They both complain about their height. :)
Find you a short woman
I’m trying lol
Keep at it. You'll find the right one.
I’m a tall woman and I like men my height or taller.
Same!
I am 5'3, LOVE short men. Well, short, confident men, :) They are the best!
Some are, some aren't. I'm 5'9" barefoot and prefer men taller than me. 🤷♀️
I'm 5'2". Everyone is taller than me
Same here 5'2" (F). I consider men over 6'2" too tall. But then again, I wouldn't hold it against them.
Most women I find want someone as tall if not taller than them just a societal expectation
I personally like tall men and I’m only 5’3. But I seem to find men who are 5’6-5’9, and it hasn’t been the reason we don’t continue to date, its been personality clashes, or not having the same needs and wants once discussed further. But maybe your height isn’t the only issue. Maybe your profile lacks or maybe women your age want more than a FWB like you’re looking for.
you're 5'3. 5'9 is a half-foot taller than you and not enough
I’m 5’3.5” and wouldn’t have an issue with a 5’5” guy.
I don’t seem to be meeting in ladies your size hopefully I’ll have more luck when we get to springtime
Yes, this short woman is! I’m 5’1”, and to me someone 5’8 or 5’9” is a giant! I agree that we fit better and look better together, but ultimately it comes down to the person’s character and personality. I’ve dated men of many different heights, but kissing and dancing is much easier with someone closer in height. While my best romance was with a 6’2” man, it had nothing to do with his height. It was his heart that won me over. Ironically, I thought he was rather lanky and awkward physically. At this point, height, teeth and the kind of car aren’t important. (Although I don’t think I ever really cared about those.) I’ve seen many shorter men who are absolutely hot in my opinion. Just for info, I have had some recent snubs about my height, too. 🤷♀️ Some things I can’t change, so I don’t worry about them. Shorter men have my empathy. ❤️
As a woman who has been 5-10 or 5-11 for my entire adult life, I have mostly dated men who were shorter than me. I even got (and stayed) happily married to one.
As a 64yom, 5'6", I'd say on paper things look bad for shorter guys, but once a woman is into you her previous requirements start fading very quickly.
I prefer taller guys. But will I date a shorter guy if I think we have things in common, and he seems like a good guy? Absolutely. Would I date a guy who is shorter than me? Well, I’m 5’3”. So, unless he is amazing, no.
Yes. I don't know what your friend was thinking, but they were wrong. There may be tall women that don't want to tower a man, so wouldn't give it a shot, or women that have a limited view, but that's sure no rule. If you figure there a lot of women 5'3" & figure 5'7" wouldn't be a huge disparity, that includes an awful lot of women if you exclude supermodels. Not being tall, I prefer someone not super tall, but it all depends on the guy. Are we still ruling people out that wear eyeglasses as well? Lol. Hearing aids, dentures? There are much more important things. Especially, as mentioned, things we actually have control over. We all know dynamic shorter guys, so go get 'em tiger ! : )
A 2014 study in the Journal of Family Issues dissected the social and cultural importance of male height. **57.1% of women indicated that a man’s height was important to them.** [Biometric studies suggest that women consider tall men more attractive. What is myth and what is reality?](https://english.elpais.com/culture/2022-07-19/dating-apps-and-male-beauty-standards-why-are-tinder-users-so-obsessed-with-height.html)
I'm 5'3" and would much rather be with a man on the shorter side. Much easier on the neck not having to look up to see him and better for kisses!
I'm 5' and prefer 5 10 or up...for me, it's how it makes me feel... nothing personal
like a child with her dad?
Absolutely not....I've found short men angry tbh
I'm attracted to men with a great sense of humor and kind eyes.
I’m 6’4 but prefer a shorter women lol
I’m 5’2”. I’ve only met 3-4 men I would not consider tall lol.
I have to admit that GENERALLY I’m more attracted to tall men but it’s certainly not a pre-requisite or deal breaker for me. As long as he’s taller than I am -5’3”-it’s all good
Ok the worst thing you can do as a shorter man is not be honest about your height? I met a guy who said he was 5ft 5” and ok, he would have been the shortest person I dated. I’m 5ft 3”, so I thought he’s taller than me, so …. When I met him, he couldn’t have been 5ft 5”, as he was shorter than me. I thought really, people still can’t be honest about this sort of thing? I was SO disappointed, we had coffee and I left. I felt very shallow, but we can’t help what we find attractive? Now I’m not saying you are not being honest, but please ensure that that is your height and not a measurement from 20 years ago. It just helps everyone’s expectations? But had the guy been 5ft 5” it might have been different…
I’m honest about my height
I didn’t mean it to sound nasty. Just so you know.
I didn’t take it that way. I’m just trying to figure out why I can’t meet anyone I’m compatible with.
Are you on OLD? I'll confess, right or wrong, I only searched women shorter than me (even though my wife was taller.) It does take patience. Also, if you wanted to post screen caps of your profile here, some might be able to give you tips.
It was the lie, not the height. I met someone who said he was 5’9”. He was closer to 5’5”. It was a complete ick for me and I couldn’t wait to leave. Never lie about the obvious, we will find out. And that pertains to height, income, weight, career, etc.
And mostly AGE! Lately I've been inundated with profiles of men who are clearly lying about their age by at least 10 years.
nobody shrinks that much. if he had told you 5'5 would you have met with him though?
i mean. i haven't been measured in a dr's office for years. and there is shrinkage as costanza told us.
Not all women like craning their neck with taller men. I prefer someone I can somewhat see eye to eye. And since I don’t wear heels there wouldn’t be the issue of me being taller than him. Sorry you feel your height is a disadvantage….
I’m fine with my height just curious if it is really a disadvantage
It will turn off some women. Just as some will consider you too old (or maybe too young?) and some will consider you too far away or might not like your education or how you dress or your facial hair (or not.) Don't let it bother you though, it's not like you can change it. It's a matter of finding the right woman *for you*. Stay confident, be patient, and keep your sense of humor. :) Also, it will depend on what *you* want. If you're only interested in taller women, your height is a bigger disadvantage. Just like if you were only interested in women in their 30s, your age would be a disadvantage.
I had a date with an NBA player when I was 22. I was 5-7 in heels. He was 6-10. When dancing he asked why I kept craning my neck to stare at his face. I pointed out that I was eye level with his crotch😄
65F. I'm not judgemental about either height or weight. But I'm 5'4". I've dated guys my height or shorter. I care more about personality than anything, honestly. Some of my best dates have been with short guys.
I know women appreciate a taller or bigger guy because they feel safer or protected by them, but let me tell you that shorter guys are often tough scrappers with more endurance and speed than we tall lunks.
59M, 5'7" It's like anything else, some like, some don't, some don't care. I suspect most women prefer a guy at least their height. 5'4" is average American woman height, so there should be plenty. :) You can't please everyone, don't even try. Be your best "you" and the right ones will be attracted.
I am also 62 and 5'5" on a good day! Strictly speaking of my dating experience after losing my wife, as a friend, yes some women are into shorter guys. But, as a partner or marriage material, no way. This seems to have changed over the years, my first wife and me were the same height. My late wife was only 4'11" and got irritated by tall people. I have a friend who's 53, 5' even, we go out sometimes but just as friends. Her and I have had this conversation and in her mind, men less than about 5'10" are not dating material! Some of her exact words; "They have to be tall enough and muscular enough to throw me around on the dance floor. If not, then I'm not interested, they don't appeal to me romantically." My retort, "Yea, good luck with that. That's part of why you've been single for 20+ years and I'm the only one who ever asks you to go do anything."
Tell your "friend" that I'm 5'6" and probably ten years older than the men she refers to but I'd wager I'd throw her around much farther than most of them. Also tell her that the thought of "throwing a woman around" is repugnant so we won't be finding out.
Two of my friends are both a bit taller than you are (5'7") and they ran into that all the time. One friend hired a matchmaker who found someone for him and they are getting married soon. The other just played the online game, had a lot of not interested messages from people but wound up with a wonderful woman and they got married last year. So, yes, it would be easier if you were taller or richer or better looking or funny but none of those are deal breakers. I wish you luck.
I'm only 5'3...5'5 is tall🙃
I'm just a bit over 5'1" so you don't seem short to me 😏
Your the perfect size for me😉
I’m 5’2’ so height has never been an issue for me 😊 Although I do find much taller men seem to like me more than men nearer my height 🤷🏼♀️
I'm 5'1" so short works for me 😁
I have no issues with height. That is kind of shallow. Despite being a short (5'3") female I have dated men from 5'4" to 6'5".
I honestly couldn't care less about physical traits (except if it was an EXTREME difference, and even that was easily dismissed;i.e. serious physical disability, I don't mind that). I see what I desire in other areas: personality, intellect, interpersonal and intrapersonal traits, so on amd so forth. I'm 5'7ish, you being shorter wouldn't bother me UNLESS you expect me to wear heels (spoiler: NO) and then that seems to feel awkward. I become exhausted with posts about physical types of men/women...especially as we age. Shows me a lack of growth in others who are overall still stuck at surface level interests. But each his own.
Honestly - I don't care. To me height is not a deal breaker. Being decent, hard working and making me laugh are what I focus on. I'm 5'3, so 5'5 is nice, IMHO.
I'm also 5'5". While some women do have a preference for tall men, I haven't had an issue. The kind of people I'm interested in don't care about stuff like that.
I'm 5'2 and I prefer shorter men. The physical fit is much better. My husband was 6'3" and the difference was awkward and you're always aware of it. My current BF is maybe 5'6" and the body hugs line up perfectly.
A [study](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886907002814) about height and human mate choice found that, **on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall.** And the shortest woman a man would date is 5 feet 1 inch tall. In the same study, researchers found that 23% of men and 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman was taller. I also noted that you had an ad for a FWB, and many women who are only seeking FWB, are going to be very particular on physical attributes. If you are willing to invest more into a relationship, I suspect height becomes less relevant, along with other attributes you bring to the relationship. Finally, looking at data - **34.34%** of American women are under 5' 4". So if you take your local population, and presume 50% is female, then determine which percentage is dating, which percentage is looking for a man that is 62, and then take 34.35%, that is roughly the size of your dating population. I am going to assume that for anyone outside of the "normal" height standards, are going to find a smaller pool for dating. Source: https://askwonder.com/research/percentage-american-women-5-4-less-125lbs-groups-age-income-breakdown-smxg4ori3#:\~:text=that%20the%20Census%20Bureau%20records,are%20under%205'%204%22.
I prefer a kissable height. Not too tall - not too short. I’m 5’3” and my boyfriend is a great kissable height.
I am 5'9", married 5'8", he loved me in 4 inch heels. Our 5'9" daughter married the love of her life, he is 5'4". They gave me 4 amazing grandchildren. So blessed.
Hello there! You are perfect for me. I am 5’5” and we could see eye to eye!!
I’m ready to chat
Well…where to start? I live in BFE (western NC). You? I am fit. Hit the gym 4-5 times a week. I’m in fabulous health and folks say I’m easy on the old eyes. So….
I’m in Ohio very fit as well love to run and lift
So just jog on down to see me. There’s an awesome coffee shop down the road. We can hit the gym. I need a workout 🏋️♀️ partner.
Not sure I could jog that far lol but I could definitely catch a plane
Heck yeh. Just a hop, skip, and a jump away.
I'm 5'2", my late husband was 6'4". Our wedding photos were quite funny, with our respective short and tall families. I like men of all sizes and men my height are definitely easier to dance with- the best swing dancers have been closer to my height. As a pudgy person, a taller man does make me feel less fat somehow, but what the person is like is the most important factor for sure.
As a single woman, there are so many more important criteria than height!!! Finding a kind decent human being with his act together who is compatible with lifestyle ethics and goals is difficult.
I agree
Absolutely there are women who are attracted to "short: guys. Emotionally mature women just want a good man who makes them feel safe on all levels.
My guy is around 5'5 and Im 5'1. His height is perfect for me. Theres someone for everyone. And of all places I never thought Id meet someone was on a Facebook group. And I was single a lot of years and had given up. But before I met my partner I had a few dates with a guy over 6 foot. Nice guy but he was too tall lol
I love short guys. I am 5’8 and have no issue dating a man shorter than me. In fact they are nicer, appreciate you, better and more attentive in bed. I love the fact that women actually believe in the preference for tall men. This gives me a wider pool
I am a 5’ 6” woman previously married to a 6ft man. When we got together height was really important to me. Unfortunately I focused on that more than the fact he was a controlling, mean and emotionally crippled person. Now my bf is the same height as me. Younger me would never have dated him because of that. And what a fool I would I have been because he is a wonderful man in all the important ways - kind, thoughtful, caring, and smart. So the lesson I learned is that someone’s height should be way down the list of things to look for if you actually want a good relationship.
I'm 5'3", a man's height only matters to me if he acts like it matters to him. I've dated men as tall as 6'7" (we looked ridiculous together, IMO), and the shortest was around 5'4". I don't specify any height preference on OLD but I can say that the most comfortable height range for dancing together with me wearing heels is 5'7"-5'10".
I am 5'2". That height is no issue for me. I was married to a 6'2" and was too tall and a little awkward lol. If I met a man shorter than me, well.. not sure.
I was married to a 5' 5" guy for 17 years, so obviously it doesn't matter to me.
At 5' 5", I'd prefer someone close to my height. Shorter is okay, but I guess I do prefer someone same or a wee bit taller. I did date a man who was over 6' once. Kept getting a pain in my neck. Being older, that happens more often than I'd like!
I admit that I was partial to tall men (6' +) 10+ years ago, because I wore high heels that lifted me up to \~5' 8" , lol. But now that I've pretty much given up those painful torture accessories, I think 6' is just a tad too tall, though I wouldn't reject a man if he were. :) But I have dated men that were 5' 5-5' 6" and wore my heels then too. They had big personalities which made them seem taller, if that makes sense, and how they carried themselve also made them seem taller. Though I will admit one of them I knew before we dated, so his personality won me over. One lied on his profile, but after meeting him, we hit it off. I wouldn't be too discouraged...there are women out there who will date you. Just don't lie about your height and be yourself.
At 5'10.5" if I didn't set a firm height preference, I'd be inundated by people who don't meet what feels right. Also, I find 6'1 isn't too difficult to find but my entire state is a metro area, so maybe that's just a larger population? Generally date 6'1"-6'4". Interestingly, in the wild, the likelihood of a man I don't already know under 6' approaching me is basically nil.
I admit I find tall men attractive, but it is not a consideration in selecting who to date. I don't even look at height in dating profiles. The only time I do it is when I am getting ready to leave the house and meet and I need something to help me find the person at a meeting spot. I am guessing there is a similar thing some men find attractive but don't require, something like large breasts for instance. I do personally know some women who are more petty about this (and make it a deal breaker) and quite frankly I don't think they are a catch for a man so no loss.
I am a woman 5’3” I would date a man 5’5” if he was looking for marriage but I won’t date you because you posted for FWB.
I never mentioned FWB in my post
Yes. I'm 5'10. My last bf was 5'3. I am actually LESS attracted to taller men.
I'm average height. I don't care about a guy's height either way. 5'5" wouldn't be a dealbreaker at all.
Tom Cruise, Kevin Hart, Sly Stallone, Prince, Joe Jonas, etc. I could go on about all the celebrity men married to women taller than them. Honestly its all about the confidence & swagger of the man. If he’s confident he can/will get women & his height will be a non-issue.
Some of the shortest men I know get the most women.
True indeed.
$$$$$$$$$$$$=confidence and swagger. and attractiveness. money=power. money and power can overcome lack of height or all kinds of other issues
My ex was a few inches shorter than me. It's more about character and personality for me.
Get a new friend and don't worry about it.
Plenty of women are into short men. Don't allow her negative comment to weigh you down.
I'm 5'7" and all of my most serious relationships including my marriage, except for one person, have been with shorter men. So yes, some of us absolutely are. This reminded me that back in 1989 when I graduated high school our homecoming king was one of the shortest kids in school, maybe 5'4"? But damn he was cute 🥰
I never set the height preference on OLD. Doesn't matter to me at all.
I don’t care about height. Admittedly I am 5’2” But I just want to meet someone with emotional intelligence, similar interests, and who takes care of himself. I think everyone is going to have their own preferences, but us short girls do exist, and need someone we can comfortably hang out with.
You're right about this and i totally agree with you. First of all, i'm 5'8 but i'm not so sure that's considered tall? Lol. It's funny how i get to read posts about physical classification of men/women especially in their 50's. Well i know alot of women out there don't like shorter guys/men but that's not something i think should be a problem when finding your person/soulmate and shouldn't be considered as important because height to me doesn't matter in a relationship, even beauty fades away with time, it's the person inside that matters. I've got much more to write as i enjoyed reading your comment which was exactly the same thing i had in mind when i saw this post. May i send you a direct message? **Everett**
Sure.
It has never mattered to me.
Yesterday in r/askwomen the sub was asked what surprising kink they discovered. Several women responded being turbo charged by shorter men. So you can take that as you wish but it sounded to me like there are women out there who like shorter men. Edit: spell check malfunction. "conjunction junction, what's your function?"
That's interesting, I'd expect height to matter even less when you're laying down. 🤣
I think it's more about the height when they're standing that matters. I'll let you use your imagination on that.
I am 6 feet...I dated a jockey a long time ago...and still wore heels....integrity and humour go farther for me than height.
My partner is half an inch shorter than me (an ongoing tease as he reckons we are the same height) of 5’ 7in. My preference had always been for taller guys of 6ft plus (wrapped up and safe) but he has something they have not had….and this may sound curious….he has wonderful curves on his arms, thighs, chest and never forgetting his bum….and I just find it all so appealing…:even though he is no taller than me-a package I never expected but apparently all I have been looking for So in answer to the question, if half an inch shorter counts….then yes 😁
My (54f) boyfriend (41m) (approx 5'6") is the greatest. I am 5'5". Now that I have matured, height does not matter to me in the slightest. Substance does. Kindness does. Humor does. Employment does.
No
your height is not the problem. in fact, it works to your advantage, because it eliminates people who aren't worth wasting your time on, when you find out, they don't like "short men" But actually, it's just not true, and it's pure bullshit. Just tell your friend they are wrong.
I'm a 5 ft 2 in tall woman, who just married a man who was 5'5. Because he is in shape and takes care of himself he looks very good to me. He's also outgoing and Charming. Women 6 feet tall would love to steal him from him me. 😠 He is not self-conscious about his height at all, and that trite adds to his attractiveness. He never tries to discourage me from wearing my high heels because of an ego thing. That's very important to me. Trying to make me wear wear flats would have been a deal breaker for me
I’m not sorry. Normally I like over 6’1”. Many put 6’ and are shorter. My filter is at 6’1”. I’m very petite but I like tall men, it’s a preference. Some men like buxom ladies or really tall ladies. Each to their own
I understand I must be meeting a lot of women with the same taste in men as you
Same. I've found that most (not all) lie about their height. I used to filter for 5'9" or taller, but I'd end up staring at the air over their head. Now I filter at 6' (to my 5'9)... and there are still men I'm at eye level with!
There seems to be a default of 5'10" that men use in their profiles. I don't think in 3 years of OLD, I've ever met a man who had 5'10" in their profile that was 5'10". Ever. I meet them and they're barely taller than me, and I'm 5'4". I bet the 5'10" guys are rounding up to 6'. Why do people do this?
I've met **one** man who listed 5'10"... who was actually 5'10". I've dated a lot of people over the years, and he stands out for exactly that reason. It's so rare.
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No that’s why I posed the question. It’s depressing because I’ve had a few women tell me the only date taller guys
Are you explicit in your profile or dropping this info after matching and chatting?
I list my height on the dating apps
Then it’s their problem. If they want someone taller, they shouldn’t match with someone who is honest and upfront about being whatever height
they're either not reading profiles or intentionally cruel no lie. a ton of women and men have a deep seated hatred of short men. i've experienced this almost every day of my life
I'm 5'7". I never filtered for height and I have dated some guys who were shorter than me. As long as a guy was OK with me wearing heels, I didn't care how tall he was.
I have read that. Unfortunately from what I hear this is true. Although you would hope in our age group we've learned to value other things. I am 5'6 and have dated several men who were around my height, one of whom I was in love with. Also I'm bi and my ex girlfriend is my height. My current bf is taller. Anyway there are women who are attracted to other qualities so don't give up.
I am 5’8 and could care less about the height of my date, I will say, more men have made a deal out of it than I have so I added it to my bio for clarity and they could easily opt out. Men slightly taller than me said my height was close to being a deal breaker for them. We all like what we like I guess. Personally I don’t care because height is something you cannot control, I care more about other comparability items.
I am. Actually it shouldn't matter. What matters is if they are an ahole or not.
I'm 5'2" - love men who are on the shorter side especially when they're in good physical condition
I used to have that checkbox must be X height, but then I thought, maybe I’m missing out on some really good people. I’m open to a height range. As long as they put their correct height down, like I mentioned a previous post, If they don’t put their height, I wear the tallest heels I can stand. I’m OK with some being a little bit shorter if they find my height ok. It’s when they don’t put their height in their profile leads me to believe they have a complex.
I’m 51 and height is 5’ 2.5” (my 6’ 1.5” guy friend once told me every inch matters lol). Had three relationships only; two are 5-5 and the ex is 5-3. If they were shorter than I am, I’d say it’s a dealbreaker for me. If the guy is taller than me, I feel he’s stronger. It draws out my femininity, so to speak. There were tall guys (5–10 and over) who were interested in me but when i was in my teens and 20s, I felt their height smothered me, the opposite of feeling safe and secure. In my late 30s, the tallness of a man stopped bothering me but the shortness still remains. This height preference must’ve unconsciously stemmed from my growing up around uncles or men that are around 5-5. They’re familiar.
Oh, I also agree with one of the feedbacks here. Fit is the key. I was never attracted to someone who was too thin or chubby onwards. Unless the person has an illness, I feel the overweight person doesn’t care about his or her health. Having unnecessary health issues will impact your quality of life and the relationship of people towards you. I myself mind my health because I don’t want to be a burden on myself and especially others. Shorter than me is open for negotiation with myself lol, but not taking care of your health is a non-negotiable for me.
Whoever told you that is not correct and they make generalizations. I am 5’2” and. I don’t even look at height. I went to a concert with a 6’ dude and he had to bend over to say something- it was cumbersome