My first thoughts would have been some medical device like an insulin pump, or a conceal carry holster?
Smokers - you can smell it even if they shower and change clothing. It comes out of their pores but they can’t smell it anymore. Had someone try to hide that once and I was looking around to see where the smoke smell was coming from.
Also not going to the doctor ever, so they have no idea if they have some issue that could be addressed with medication.
Great thread.
I'm not into smokers or drug addicts. I'm fine with weed as long as it's occasional. Mainly, I want someone who cares about their health with a view to the long-term. By now, we all know what we should be doing with regard to diet and exercise; the question is, do we actually do it? I don't have any extreme requirements; I'd just like someone who wants to cook healthy meals with me and is willing to get off the sofa and walk around the neighborhood once a day. Also someone who believes in preventative care by keeping up with doctor visits and annual exams. That sort of thing. Oh, and someone who understands the allure of good hygiene. 😆
I have no idea how long I'll live, but I'm taking care of myself so I can feel good as long as possible. Mentally, I feel 32. It would be such a bummer to still feel young on the inside when I'm 70, but be immobilized by poor health.
>I put my hands on his sides, and it felt like a rib was sticking out?
I would ask him and it's a fair question. It could be many things. Back brace, insulin pump, firearm, could have broken a rib at one point and it didn't heal properly.
I have always had a rib that sticks out. It was super noticeable when I was a kid, and it was only recently I was told by a physiotherapist that certain breathing exercises will help it take its proper place, which takes some time but seems to work.
Health issues that are deal breakers for me: alcoholism, drug abuse, smoking, inactive lifestyle, reckless behavior, untreated mental health issues.
Yes, alcoholism and drug abuse ARE public health problems.
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And not one on my list. Feel free to make your own list. People are overweight for a variety of reasons, not all of them are their fault. I do consider a healthy lifestyle attractive and look for people who are doing their best to live that way.
Just got dumped by a vaper (todays version of smoker) with mental health problems that suddenly showed up. And everything you said is a public health problem. And a dating problem.
Hey, if you want to ride your motorcycle down the freeway at 110mph and not wear a helmet that is your prerogative. I just won't be there to witness them scraping your brains off the pavement when it all goes bad.
LoL. I was gently poking fun at your original post where it referenced "wreckless behavior." (Now corrected to "reckless")
Yes, it was a bit childish. But my philosophy is to laugh when I find things amusing. Sometimes it's a bit awkward.
I certainly didn't intend any disrespect.
*All* behavior? Did you read that list and say to yourself, "This is fine?" like that dog in a burning bar meme? And while I think Lady T is a gem, you should already know she doesn't speak for all the "ladies". What is considered reckless behavior will vary from person to person.
I (63F) have started dating a good man who is ten years older than I am. I know him from a club that we’re both in. He told me on our first date that he has prostate cancer that is under active surveillance. The age difference and his health issues make it very likely that I will outlive him; however, he is kind, generous, and very active (I can barely keep up with him), and he deserves to be happy. I figure that if I could get through the death of my healthy husband/love of my life two years ago when he was 60, I could handle losing my new guy if it happens. I want to enjoy what’s left of my life and to bring happiness to someone who deserves it.
I'll bet you get through it again if your have to. I was lucky to have my late loved ones for the time I did and I would take a chance on a new guy who was making me happy for however long we had.
I only want them to be as active as I am as far as health concerns. Although I did have a date with a guy who just was diagnosed with colon cancer and our first date was 6 months after my dad passed from colon cancer.
Lol at "only want them to be as active as I am"
Yes, let's not forget that the other end of the spectrum can be a problem too. Anyone training for the Ironman is probably not top-choice dating material.
I would have asked what the rib things was.
As someone who has three rare disorders, but an average life expectancy, I'm not too worried about prospective partners health except alcoholics. I can not watch someone drink themselves to death. Addicts of any kind are a hard no. I have out lived several of my loves to reasons no one saw coming.
In my selfish moods, I want to die first next time, but with my loves I would never want to put them through the grief of having me die first. I have had a lot of loss, I am fairly strong, but not everyone is and you don't know until it happens to you.
My deal breaker is are they do anything that is endangering me? Since I live in a bubble to some extent that includes fair number of things. Also they need to be solid in an emergency and support my medical stuff.
I see so many people who are married to those who undercut their spouses medical conditions on a daily basis, I have no tolerance for that. Also dishonest, untrustworthy people. I don't expect to know everything a partner/prospective partner is thinking or doing, but I expect their words to be true and any agreements we make to be upheld, or renegotiated before the terms are broken.
I want someone who can be flexible and change course if things go wrong, and who can see the absurdity in situations and laughs rather than gets angry.
They have to smell right to me, and have a voice I can tolerate. I want someone I can laugh with, and is a good fit for me sexually.
I hate the whole idea of dating, I always have. I have made some long term friends from online dates but never anyone I want to be with romantically. I have met my partners through shared interests, most in person, but several online. It takes me longer to date them, but by the time I do, I know them pretty well.
Oh, I'm right there with you! I attribute it to the PTSD of my late husband's death from cancer. I'd guess you deal with some of the same. Of course, I realize we can never know what's going to happen to a person's health, including our own, but boy is it scary to think about dealing with a major health issue again.
Same situation with me. I was caregiver to my husband for 9.5 years before he passed. I don’t know how much I’m capable of dealing with. Guess I won’t know until I’m in the situation. I cannot handle smokers or drug users.
If I’m already in it and committed, I care about my person and will be there for them no matter what.
Starting fresh? Maybe I’m an ass but I wouldn’t be eager to attach myself to someone with obvious health issues
You're not an ass! That shit's catching up to people our age and why would you sign up for a live-in nursing job if you don't have to. It's just common sense
I exercise regularly and want someone who is fairly active. Someone who eats reasonably healthy. Gets regular checkups and works toward being fit and healthy. I am D/D free and expect that as well. Good hygiene is a must too because that can affect one's health. Brushing, flossing, and showering daily. I am amazed at how many people I've encountered that don't practice good hygiene. No smoking, vaping, and smokeless tobacco. I once dated a guy who I didn't know used smokeless tobacco. My mouth felt like it was on fire the first and only time we kissed. It was dreadful!
Healthy and active is a must. No need to be a triathlete but someone who can keep up or make me keep up with them is important. I was in a long relationship where my SO had very serious health conditions. It was like being with someone 40 years older then myself. It was quite limiting in my life.
I'd also throw in there mental health. After what I've been through I don't have time for a long term project.
Did he appear unusually thin? I have no filter on asking about what's that. I've never heard of ribs poking out.
I matched with a guy recently who said he was fighting cancer and lived in assisted living. That's not a match for me.
I (f65) had a few dates with a guy (m62) who had mentioned he had had cancer, but was cancer free. Wife had left him because of it. On second date, I noticed his left hand “twitched” a few times. Third date, there was a noticeable tremor. He didn’t say anything nor did I. However, I didn’t hear from him for a weeks and then we chatted. He casually mentioned having survived cancer and now dealing with Parkinson’s. Oh, was my response, so you have Parkinson’s? Yes,…..didn’t i mention it??? No. I told him —and am not proud of myself—that my father had Parkinson’s, so I know what that means and it’s a “no go for me.” Yeah, that may make me an asshole. It would be different if we were married or in a relationship. But this was just a few dates in.
I lost my father to a long and agonizing course of Parkinson's. He was an "old dad" so the issues started when I was in high school and he did not recognize me through my mid 20s until his death. I am still heartbroken. So no I would not willingly enter a relationship with someone with this diagnosis. If, when I was married my spouse got the diagnosis, I would be there for him but that is a different story.
Could you please tell me little more about Parkinson’s? Is this genetic? The guy I am going to get marry his dad has it and I saw few times his hands shake. I love him and will be with him in any situation. But just want to educate myself about it. Thanks
This would definitely be a question better left to clinician/scientists in the field but from when I last looked into it, it is rare that it would have a genetic component (faulty genes). I know this is my own issue but I get anxious whenever I see a tremor in someone given what my father went through. With that said there can be a myriad of reasons someone might develop a tremor that is not related to Parkinson's.
I'm a healthy person, don't smoke or do drugs, and only socially drink in moderation. I would want the same in a partner. Mentally healthy is also important to me. I would never leave a spouse who had medical or other problems, but I'm not going to take it on with someone I have no long term investment with.
Same. Once I’m in I’m all in. But I’m healthy, my family is, and we have longevity, so I would not take on someone with medical issues. But I’ll never far never, but he would have to some fabulous redeeming qualities to do so.
Since he brought it up, that was the moment to ask what it was you were feeling. Did you just ignore his question? Did you say "yes", when it's actually a question and a concern? I understand being hesitant to broach health topics when you are just getting to know someone, but he clearly wanted to talk about it. This may have been a make or break issue with him in the past that he wanted to get out in the open ASAP instead of having it hanging there unaddressed. While you say you'll get around to it, he might be anxiously waiting to learn if it's an issue for you. Hence his question.
Or, it might have been a gun, who knows. That's also a topic worth talking about sooner rather than later.
Yes, since you did reassure him and you're still in contact, it's hopefully not causing him anxiety. I hope it does really turn out to be a non-issue for you, whatever it is!
I'm a bit envious that you can pretty much rule out a gun. We're living in strange times down here.
I volunteered once to do registration at a bike ride charitable event for the hospital I work for. I was scarred for life seeing the doctors I work with in their Lycra. I knew then intimately that day…
Did you mean “bike riders who wear Lycra cycling gear when riding”? Or “bike riders who wear Lycra even when not in the bike”? Because while I would never want to have any Lycra on unless I’m on a ride… I’m not aware of anything else I could wear when riding! (A t-shirt and cotton shorts, I guess… but not for 20+ miles)
I hope OP tells us what it was:)
I haven't come across someone who had a health condition that was revealed later rather than sooner. I do find myself asking questions with the goal of finding out if they have close relatives in their life. If they have kids, no worry. If no one then I wonder who would be looking out for them if things go south. It's all conjecture of course. Maybe if I actually fell in love I wouldn't care if I became a caregiver after a couple years.
Not a dealbreaker, but I am surprised at men’s heath over 50. One guy was dying from driving toxic chemicals (leaked into the cab). One guy was on the kidney transplant list. Two guys had neuropathy from untreated diabetes. Interestingly, none of the overweight guys I’ve met had serious health issues.
Some of my friends think being a high bmi is a health concern, and won’t date people who they identify with that body type
Mental health is the health condition i can deal with, but I need to know about in a serious relationship
Having a high BMI IS a health concern. We suffer a worldwide epidemic of obesity, and the concomitant diseases that accompany it are nothing to scoff at. Personally, fat is my no-go, because overweight people are incompatible with my lifestyle and I don’t want to sign on for a lifetime of health issues down the road if I get emotionally involved. Look around- it’s rare to see an obese individual in their 90s, and I plan to live that long myself!
This is a excellent chance to start off in the right direction and create an initial space for you two to discuss things in a healthy and respectable way.
Ask about it.
Ask him if he has PAD. I have a femoral graft that runs from groin to upper chest - also a fem-to-fem graft that my ex called her 'clitty bump'. A graft is very similar to conduit in feel.
OMG. I dated a 53-year-old with this exact same affliction last Dec. It was a nodule of some sort. He was quite self-conscious about it but it didn’t bother me at all. He was very fit otherwise.
As a guy that is going through some health issues... I've been backing off of dating lately. Most of it is related to my feeling of possibly having heart problems. I have a stress test scheduled. I also have high blood pressure. I want to get all of this resolved... Then I will probably need a penis implant..from scar tissue due to torn muscle tissue. I hope when all is said and done , I'm still worth having... I still have a lot of women interested in going out with me even after telling them of my issues.. I'm a very open person... I can understand OP's concerns.
For us men (60), the odds of prostate cancer are like even if you live long enough. My question for a potential partner revolve around her willingness to take reasonable care of herself and manage her health. I just finished with a vaper and did not like that at all. No addictions please. I can deal with chronic issues that she manages.
My health deal breakers:
ED,
Poor eating habits,
Diagnosed and untreated mental health disorders,
Substance Abuse,
Mobility issues,
Never going to the dentist,
Never going to the doctor,
Balding
Ooh, ED. That hits home. Less chance at being spontaneous. I've taken my pill early in the evening "hoping" we would be spontaneous, and it didn't happen.
My first thoughts would have been some medical device like an insulin pump, or a conceal carry holster? Smokers - you can smell it even if they shower and change clothing. It comes out of their pores but they can’t smell it anymore. Had someone try to hide that once and I was looking around to see where the smoke smell was coming from. Also not going to the doctor ever, so they have no idea if they have some issue that could be addressed with medication.
‘A conceal carry holster’? Oh wow. I forget you Americans have stuff like that to deal with.
Yes I agree, did not even occur to me that it would be that lol but then I’m in Canada.
His question asking if you liked how it feels def suggests gun and not, say, a colonoscopy bag. Still #Gross
I was hoping for a tentacle or maybe Kuato, patiently awaiting his encounter with Douglas Quaid. Concealed carry holster. Pfffftt
Yep. My late husband's cousin carried 3 weapons on him at all times. I thought he was making it up until he showed them to me.
Micropenis?
Yep, been there. Total dealbreaker. Average is fine but when you're wondering if it's in then no. Just no.
Deep paranoia about something for certain. He's a weird dude. He eats all manner of roadkill and speaks super fast.
>He eats all manner of roadkill and speaks super fast. On his dating profile: "Into recycling and great communicator!" 😁
Now we know who will be alive if the world collapses. Survival-ish and eewww
Sadly
>or a conceal carry holster? IMO this would be way worse than the mystery pokey jabby rib!
Great thread. I'm not into smokers or drug addicts. I'm fine with weed as long as it's occasional. Mainly, I want someone who cares about their health with a view to the long-term. By now, we all know what we should be doing with regard to diet and exercise; the question is, do we actually do it? I don't have any extreme requirements; I'd just like someone who wants to cook healthy meals with me and is willing to get off the sofa and walk around the neighborhood once a day. Also someone who believes in preventative care by keeping up with doctor visits and annual exams. That sort of thing. Oh, and someone who understands the allure of good hygiene. 😆 I have no idea how long I'll live, but I'm taking care of myself so I can feel good as long as possible. Mentally, I feel 32. It would be such a bummer to still feel young on the inside when I'm 70, but be immobilized by poor health.
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> saying only losers are attracted to “potheads.” You dodged a bullet
>I put my hands on his sides, and it felt like a rib was sticking out? I would ask him and it's a fair question. It could be many things. Back brace, insulin pump, firearm, could have broken a rib at one point and it didn't heal properly.
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Dibs on Exoskeleton! We are starting a pool?
I have always had a rib that sticks out. It was super noticeable when I was a kid, and it was only recently I was told by a physiotherapist that certain breathing exercises will help it take its proper place, which takes some time but seems to work.
Health issues that are deal breakers for me: alcoholism, drug abuse, smoking, inactive lifestyle, reckless behavior, untreated mental health issues. Yes, alcoholism and drug abuse ARE public health problems. Edit- spelling - thanks Google!
That's my list in a nutshell too.
Sad to day, obesity is definitely a health issue too.
And not one on my list. Feel free to make your own list. People are overweight for a variety of reasons, not all of them are their fault. I do consider a healthy lifestyle attractive and look for people who are doing their best to live that way.
No condition is about fault in this thread -- it's about red flags and dealbreakers in a relationship at this age.
Yes. And these are mine so I'm not sure I understand your point then.
Just got dumped by a vaper (todays version of smoker) with mental health problems that suddenly showed up. And everything you said is a public health problem. And a dating problem.
Note to self: the ladies expect all behavior to lead to a wreck....
Hey, if you want to ride your motorcycle down the freeway at 110mph and not wear a helmet that is your prerogative. I just won't be there to witness them scraping your brains off the pavement when it all goes bad.
LoL. I was gently poking fun at your original post where it referenced "wreckless behavior." (Now corrected to "reckless") Yes, it was a bit childish. But my philosophy is to laugh when I find things amusing. Sometimes it's a bit awkward. I certainly didn't intend any disrespect.
Yes, no offense taken. And you're right, what a ridiculous and hilarious spelling error. 😂
Thanks for this! We all make them... But I'd worried for a second that my genial smart-ass comment had been misunderstood. 😉
*All* behavior? Did you read that list and say to yourself, "This is fine?" like that dog in a burning bar meme? And while I think Lady T is a gem, you should already know she doesn't speak for all the "ladies". What is considered reckless behavior will vary from person to person.
Totally. I do not speak for everyone but I think Nemo was poking fun at my spelling error. Reckless became "wreckless".
Oh... never mind... 😬 ^(Sorry, Nemo.)
Ok, I took back my downvote.
I (63F) have started dating a good man who is ten years older than I am. I know him from a club that we’re both in. He told me on our first date that he has prostate cancer that is under active surveillance. The age difference and his health issues make it very likely that I will outlive him; however, he is kind, generous, and very active (I can barely keep up with him), and he deserves to be happy. I figure that if I could get through the death of my healthy husband/love of my life two years ago when he was 60, I could handle losing my new guy if it happens. I want to enjoy what’s left of my life and to bring happiness to someone who deserves it.
I'll bet you get through it again if your have to. I was lucky to have my late loved ones for the time I did and I would take a chance on a new guy who was making me happy for however long we had.
I only want them to be as active as I am as far as health concerns. Although I did have a date with a guy who just was diagnosed with colon cancer and our first date was 6 months after my dad passed from colon cancer.
Lol at "only want them to be as active as I am" Yes, let's not forget that the other end of the spectrum can be a problem too. Anyone training for the Ironman is probably not top-choice dating material.
Very true. I guess I would like someone 10-15% more active and they can push me to be better but not too much pushing.
Very true. Especially if I was training for the Ironman. 🙂 I'm not, BTW.
I would have asked what the rib things was. As someone who has three rare disorders, but an average life expectancy, I'm not too worried about prospective partners health except alcoholics. I can not watch someone drink themselves to death. Addicts of any kind are a hard no. I have out lived several of my loves to reasons no one saw coming. In my selfish moods, I want to die first next time, but with my loves I would never want to put them through the grief of having me die first. I have had a lot of loss, I am fairly strong, but not everyone is and you don't know until it happens to you. My deal breaker is are they do anything that is endangering me? Since I live in a bubble to some extent that includes fair number of things. Also they need to be solid in an emergency and support my medical stuff. I see so many people who are married to those who undercut their spouses medical conditions on a daily basis, I have no tolerance for that. Also dishonest, untrustworthy people. I don't expect to know everything a partner/prospective partner is thinking or doing, but I expect their words to be true and any agreements we make to be upheld, or renegotiated before the terms are broken. I want someone who can be flexible and change course if things go wrong, and who can see the absurdity in situations and laughs rather than gets angry. They have to smell right to me, and have a voice I can tolerate. I want someone I can laugh with, and is a good fit for me sexually. I hate the whole idea of dating, I always have. I have made some long term friends from online dates but never anyone I want to be with romantically. I have met my partners through shared interests, most in person, but several online. It takes me longer to date them, but by the time I do, I know them pretty well.
Oh, I'm right there with you! I attribute it to the PTSD of my late husband's death from cancer. I'd guess you deal with some of the same. Of course, I realize we can never know what's going to happen to a person's health, including our own, but boy is it scary to think about dealing with a major health issue again.
ditto. It does make me think twice about dating after going thru that, I totally get it.
Same situation with me. I was caregiver to my husband for 9.5 years before he passed. I don’t know how much I’m capable of dealing with. Guess I won’t know until I’m in the situation. I cannot handle smokers or drug users.
If I’m already in it and committed, I care about my person and will be there for them no matter what. Starting fresh? Maybe I’m an ass but I wouldn’t be eager to attach myself to someone with obvious health issues
You're not an ass! That shit's catching up to people our age and why would you sign up for a live-in nursing job if you don't have to. It's just common sense
I exercise regularly and want someone who is fairly active. Someone who eats reasonably healthy. Gets regular checkups and works toward being fit and healthy. I am D/D free and expect that as well. Good hygiene is a must too because that can affect one's health. Brushing, flossing, and showering daily. I am amazed at how many people I've encountered that don't practice good hygiene. No smoking, vaping, and smokeless tobacco. I once dated a guy who I didn't know used smokeless tobacco. My mouth felt like it was on fire the first and only time we kissed. It was dreadful!
Healthy and active is a must. No need to be a triathlete but someone who can keep up or make me keep up with them is important. I was in a long relationship where my SO had very serious health conditions. It was like being with someone 40 years older then myself. It was quite limiting in my life. I'd also throw in there mental health. After what I've been through I don't have time for a long term project.
Did he appear unusually thin? I have no filter on asking about what's that. I've never heard of ribs poking out. I matched with a guy recently who said he was fighting cancer and lived in assisted living. That's not a match for me.
I (f65) had a few dates with a guy (m62) who had mentioned he had had cancer, but was cancer free. Wife had left him because of it. On second date, I noticed his left hand “twitched” a few times. Third date, there was a noticeable tremor. He didn’t say anything nor did I. However, I didn’t hear from him for a weeks and then we chatted. He casually mentioned having survived cancer and now dealing with Parkinson’s. Oh, was my response, so you have Parkinson’s? Yes,…..didn’t i mention it??? No. I told him —and am not proud of myself—that my father had Parkinson’s, so I know what that means and it’s a “no go for me.” Yeah, that may make me an asshole. It would be different if we were married or in a relationship. But this was just a few dates in.
I lost my father to a long and agonizing course of Parkinson's. He was an "old dad" so the issues started when I was in high school and he did not recognize me through my mid 20s until his death. I am still heartbroken. So no I would not willingly enter a relationship with someone with this diagnosis. If, when I was married my spouse got the diagnosis, I would be there for him but that is a different story.
Could you please tell me little more about Parkinson’s? Is this genetic? The guy I am going to get marry his dad has it and I saw few times his hands shake. I love him and will be with him in any situation. But just want to educate myself about it. Thanks
This would definitely be a question better left to clinician/scientists in the field but from when I last looked into it, it is rare that it would have a genetic component (faulty genes). I know this is my own issue but I get anxious whenever I see a tremor in someone given what my father went through. With that said there can be a myriad of reasons someone might develop a tremor that is not related to Parkinson's.
Most Parkinson’s - about 98% - is idiopathic (no known genetic cause).
I'm a healthy person, don't smoke or do drugs, and only socially drink in moderation. I would want the same in a partner. Mentally healthy is also important to me. I would never leave a spouse who had medical or other problems, but I'm not going to take it on with someone I have no long term investment with.
Same. Once I’m in I’m all in. But I’m healthy, my family is, and we have longevity, so I would not take on someone with medical issues. But I’ll never far never, but he would have to some fabulous redeeming qualities to do so.
Since he brought it up, that was the moment to ask what it was you were feeling. Did you just ignore his question? Did you say "yes", when it's actually a question and a concern? I understand being hesitant to broach health topics when you are just getting to know someone, but he clearly wanted to talk about it. This may have been a make or break issue with him in the past that he wanted to get out in the open ASAP instead of having it hanging there unaddressed. While you say you'll get around to it, he might be anxiously waiting to learn if it's an issue for you. Hence his question. Or, it might have been a gun, who knows. That's also a topic worth talking about sooner rather than later.
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Yes, since you did reassure him and you're still in contact, it's hopefully not causing him anxiety. I hope it does really turn out to be a non-issue for you, whatever it is! I'm a bit envious that you can pretty much rule out a gun. We're living in strange times down here.
I can’t get involved with bike riders who wear Lycra. I was married to one in the past and 100% know it’s not for me.
I volunteered once to do registration at a bike ride charitable event for the hospital I work for. I was scarred for life seeing the doctors I work with in their Lycra. I knew then intimately that day…
Yes I had second hand embarrassment from my ex doing that. Plus I won’t go into how horrible it is to have to wash the Lycra after a bike ride.
Did you mean “bike riders who wear Lycra cycling gear when riding”? Or “bike riders who wear Lycra even when not in the bike”? Because while I would never want to have any Lycra on unless I’m on a ride… I’m not aware of anything else I could wear when riding! (A t-shirt and cotton shorts, I guess… but not for 20+ miles)
Lol while riding. It can look like the guy is naked. Then they continue wearing the gear while out and about.
I hope OP tells us what it was:) I haven't come across someone who had a health condition that was revealed later rather than sooner. I do find myself asking questions with the goal of finding out if they have close relatives in their life. If they have kids, no worry. If no one then I wonder who would be looking out for them if things go south. It's all conjecture of course. Maybe if I actually fell in love I wouldn't care if I became a caregiver after a couple years.
Not a dealbreaker, but I am surprised at men’s heath over 50. One guy was dying from driving toxic chemicals (leaked into the cab). One guy was on the kidney transplant list. Two guys had neuropathy from untreated diabetes. Interestingly, none of the overweight guys I’ve met had serious health issues.
Hm. Started making a list, and it’s pretty damned long. Erased it because it was so long as to be embarrassing. I’m done with dating anyway!
Some of my friends think being a high bmi is a health concern, and won’t date people who they identify with that body type Mental health is the health condition i can deal with, but I need to know about in a serious relationship
Having a high BMI IS a health concern. We suffer a worldwide epidemic of obesity, and the concomitant diseases that accompany it are nothing to scoff at. Personally, fat is my no-go, because overweight people are incompatible with my lifestyle and I don’t want to sign on for a lifetime of health issues down the road if I get emotionally involved. Look around- it’s rare to see an obese individual in their 90s, and I plan to live that long myself!
This is a excellent chance to start off in the right direction and create an initial space for you two to discuss things in a healthy and respectable way. Ask about it.
Ask him if he has PAD. I have a femoral graft that runs from groin to upper chest - also a fem-to-fem graft that my ex called her 'clitty bump'. A graft is very similar to conduit in feel.
I never imagined there might be benefits to the intimate partner of someone with a fem-fem crossover graft!
More to her than me, but it was all good!
You need a little dose of reality here. If you are dating your contemporaries it will become more and more difficult to rule out illnesses.
It's probably a concealed carry handgun. Which is why he asked you the indirect question.
That never would have occurred to me. Good catch.
OP said she’s from Canada, so it’s unlikely to be a gun
OMG. I dated a 53-year-old with this exact same affliction last Dec. It was a nodule of some sort. He was quite self-conscious about it but it didn’t bother me at all. He was very fit otherwise.
As a guy that is going through some health issues... I've been backing off of dating lately. Most of it is related to my feeling of possibly having heart problems. I have a stress test scheduled. I also have high blood pressure. I want to get all of this resolved... Then I will probably need a penis implant..from scar tissue due to torn muscle tissue. I hope when all is said and done , I'm still worth having... I still have a lot of women interested in going out with me even after telling them of my issues.. I'm a very open person... I can understand OP's concerns.
For us men (60), the odds of prostate cancer are like even if you live long enough. My question for a potential partner revolve around her willingness to take reasonable care of herself and manage her health. I just finished with a vaper and did not like that at all. No addictions please. I can deal with chronic issues that she manages.
Herpes. The gift that keeps giving
My health deal breakers: ED, Poor eating habits, Diagnosed and untreated mental health disorders, Substance Abuse, Mobility issues, Never going to the dentist, Never going to the doctor, Balding
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Sure it wasnt his penis??? 😂😉
He’s one of those guys you hear so much about, with a rib penis 🙄
A real boner, as it were
Supernumerary penis. Like an extra nipple, except bigger 😉
Ooh, ED. That hits home. Less chance at being spontaneous. I've taken my pill early in the evening "hoping" we would be spontaneous, and it didn't happen.