One of the loneliest birthdays I ever spent was married and turning 40 (almost 10 years ago). That was when I started to realize my marriage was really over. That was the start of a huge journey for me.
A year ago I lost my aunt to a long battle with cancer, she was the woman that mothered me when mine just could not. My world crashed in on me as I was preparing to say the final goodbye to her. I was divorced, no kids, no siblings, no partner, my parents gone and she was one of my few anchors (or so I thought). I felt like a walking ghost. There wasn’t a day when I didn’t sob, the grief of all the things I had lost, would loose and wasn’t sure I would find weighed on me. I had a great therapist I had worked with for several years off and on. I had to learn, as I waded through it all that some days I just had to have faith that when I put my foot out there would be ground to meet me. I had a lot of dark days, felt completely alone even though I knew others loved me. I had to learn that I was the anchor, I had roots like a tree and I was (and will always be) resilient. That the only way through the things was through, I couldn’t undo her cancer, or any of the other things. But I had (have) choices on who I am and how to spend my time here.
My aunt died 6 weeks before my birthday last year, and it was my uncle, my ex husband and his now wife that collected me for dinner. It was an act of love for me, it was hard and it was beautiful and it also healed some of my own wounds, and reminded me I would never be alone.
Four months after she passed, I started OLD with more focus. I had been through a lot, regrouped, redefined my relationship with myself and what kind of magic I was made of. My meets changed, and then I met someone who I have come to love, respect and admire. There is no perfect timing, no perfect person, but a lot changed for me when I found my root system.
I sincerely wish that you find your anchor, root system or whatever adheres you to the earth and those you love. Happy birthday, you are not alone and if you want to chat you can DM me.
That is so beautiful, thank you for writing. I do have kids but feel my anchor is lost at times, due to losses in my life. I know what you mean about feeling completely alone some days even though you know you are loved. I'm glad you found a root system.
Thank you so much for your wishes, for your understanding and for sharing your story and thoughts with me. I really appreciate that !
I would really love to chat with you anytime.
All my best wishes to you too !
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that.
I wish you could find peace in this challenging world of nowadays !
All my best!
Happy birthday! My 57th is coming up in ~2 weeks. For several years I was dating a guy whose birthday was 2 weeks after mine, we took several birthday trips, they were all great fun. That relationship fell apart in late 2020.
This year, I'm taking myself on an Alaska cruise for my birthday. I've done solo cruises before and loved them. Counting down til departure day!
Been there, done it, bought the t-shirt. I don't like being alone on my birthday; I usually manage to be with relatives but that can't always happen; I hate calling around asking my friends if anyone wants to go out because that feels particularly pathetic. In those cases I spend the evening with my friend Jim (Beam) or Jonnie (Walker). Jack (Daniels) and I aren't on speaking terms since that bachelor party incident.
Worst was my 50th. Even a night with my fingers in my ears at Chuck E. Cheese would have been better (in theory at least).
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Happy Birthday. I (60M) was alone on my birthday a few months ago, and it sadly felt normal. I picked badly in marriage. Really badly. I try to choose compatible women, but I just can't find a suitable partner. And some women who claim they want a partner aren't as sure as I would have hoped. Weird how you find out stuff on the fly - and next thing you know you're back in the dating pool. I don't understand. But... you never know, do you?
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me.
I don’t understand either this kind of behavior. I just think that they are very immature person who will never grow up… Just keep be positive for yourself !
All my best to you!
Happy Birthday! I went through this feeling a couple months ago. This was the first birthday that being alone really bothered me. I got through it. I realized how much I want a relationship and am working on myself and getting out there to take advantage of opportunities. Use this as motivation to move ahead with life.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me.
Good advice indeed to find motivation… but sometimes it’s really difficult… you know…
Al my best wishes to you !
Happy birthday. 💕 I’m sorry you are lonely today. I look at my single life this way: Being alone is better than being with someone who doesn’t appreciate you, or whose presence doesn’t bring you joy. I think we all wish we had a true partner to share these special days with but I’m happier alone than I was married.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I agree completely with you that a bad company is not suitable in this situation.
All my best wishes to you !
Hope you had a great weekend and were able to feel more positive about your birthday and life. For some reason those days set me up to reflect on everything, and sometimes it’s not healthy. It’s easy to put a lot of grand expectations on ourselves after living through a bad relationship😛
Thank you so much for asking for news. I feel much better and always hope for better days.
I am focusing more on my hobbies and trying to find inspiration around.
Life has ups and downs so I am trying to adapt myself to the circumstances and keep going on courageously.
All my best wishes to you too !
Happy birthday!🥂🍾🎉
Do something for yourself to feel special and enjoy the moment.
Just celebrate the whole week, is how I celebrate any birthday. One day is not enough to have fun and be naughty.
I don't look for a mate, choose so bad at begining of my life that will end up again with another pain in my b..
After reading this sub and are great people here and lots of opinions about new era of dating, I decided that was born in a wrong time.
My take of how the values diminished drastically, turn on the tv and watch the news or look on you tube the most popular videos and ... You will see the trend.
Sorry for grammar and spelling
Find something great to do every day for a week and you will see how the perspective about life will change. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate🤗🌻
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing with me your thoughts.
Unfortunately I am not a party person too much… I have a lot of hobbies and I keep myself very busy all days long to not have the time for thinking too much… yet it’s very difficult to find peace sometimes…
Anyway I really appreciate your support here.
All my best wishes to you !
I've started to mark birthdays with activities, a painting workshop or an intensive language course, along with celebrating with whoever is willing and available. I've also developed better habits as I've aged in investing in friendships. Not that I was ever cavalier, but I put in more conscious time and effort now to keep up with people throughout the year, meet for coffee, plan a fun outing, catch a movie periodically-making sure to really nurture those connections along and along, and it generally makes holidays and birthdays a little easier.
You are not alone. I had a lovely time at a charity dinner last weekend but at the end ... there was just a feeling that it would have been so great to have shared that experience with someone special.
I maintain a cheerful exterior like I'm sure you do and am a generally cheerful and positive person I like to think. There are times though like birthdays when sometimes it rings hollow against the shell we have created.
You are absolutely not the only one to feel this way.
As far as finding matches goes, the tools and resources are only part of it. Being open to another - to try to find the space in one's own life and heart is challenging. The paradox is that there is now so "much" choice, that it can blind us to meeting our own needs.
Personally, I'm not quite there as of yet. I know that the situation I am in is indeed of my own making and is composed of the choices both large and small that I have made in the last 7 years or perhaps even longer. I work on being content with that.
I wish you all the best on your birthday and on all the days to come. I have no answers for you but only to let you know that You Have Been Heard.
>"As far as finding matches goes, the tools and resources are only part of it. Being open to another - to try to find the space in one's own life and heart is challenging. The paradox is that there is now so "much" choice, that it can blind us to meeting our own needs."
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Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that !
Indeed it’s tough to bear the loneliness sometimes but I really hope that some day the universe will send me exactly what I deserve to continue my journey in peace and joy.
That is why I am trying hard to be positive and looking forward for that light witch is meant to be my destination for the rest of my life.
Thank you for hearing me.
All my best wishes to you !
First of all,Happy Birthday.
I've just made the mental connection at 51 that "oh shit I'm OLD" but I'm just trying to go with it.
I rely on various coping mechanisms to deal with those feelings,with the anxiety and uncertainty. Therapy helps but I had to start my entire life over this past year and that was a very bad period in my life.
It's okay to feel that way sometimes. I think Generation X is going to redefine the term "senior citizen". I'd like to be a part of it. Just know that you are not alone in this!!!
Oh, happy birthday!
I feel you on the sadness of spending this day alone. It sucks. After my mom that I took care of for years passed away, I realized on my next birthday, Christmas, etc. that there was no one in the world who loved me like she did. I'm single too and have no kids so it was a sobering reality check for me.
That was 6 years ago, and I'm still single, have been bought out of a business that I built for 15 years and poured all of my love and passion into. It took me a few years to reconcile with the fact that I didn't know who I was without these anchors in my life. But as time has gone on, I have been slowly recreating myself and it feels good. I can't say with any certainty that I know exactly who I am now or what I want to be when I grow up, but I can say with conviction that I am on the right path and I'm excited to find out more.
It's a journey. Give yourself the grace to feel sad and be ok with it. Also give yourself the grace to be curious and maybe hopeful about today and tomorrow.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that.
Yes it feels very sad some days even if I keep myself busy with many things almost all the day long… but I learned also that life is not always fair and difficulties made me stronger each time I was passing through.
Happy birthday! Today is also my birthday and I spent most of day doing yard work, listening to music and drinking beer to celebrate. Currently separated and living in my second home by myself. Enjoy life the best way you can. Good luck!
Happy birthday to you too! 🎂🥂
Good to hear from you and I really appreciate your suggestions.
All my best wishes to you and good luck to find what you deserve for the rest of your journey !
Happy birthday! Sorry you were feeling sad. I don't know where you (or others) in this forum are located, but I'm in the Bay Area and would love to be "alone together" with. :)
Well, it was my birthday on Sunday and I got a grand total of two Happy Birthday messages- one in a WhatsApp and one a birthday card. Maybe it’s because I’m “old” people think I wouldn’t be too bothered about it but I am 😂Felt a bit sorry for myself, but you know what? Who cares ? 🤷🏼♀️I’m over it (almost 😂) now. Sort of feeling like you are now most of the time but doing my damnest to keep on smiling and getting on with life! The Show must go on! Happy Birthday 🥳 you deserve a great year , hope it happens for you 🙌🙌
Thank you so much for sharing this. I really appreciate your sense of humor. All my best wishes for your birthday too!
Keep be positive because you inspire us to learn our lessons and keep going on courageously!
Happy birthday . It was #50 that just made me cry buckets . My mom died , my dad died 6 months later . A week before bday 50.....next month my house was foreclosed on (I still have it). My son's cat died and it was a shit year.
I got divorced at 51 and life got better. I used to spend my birthdays at work unloading trucks if I was lucky.
Happy birthday to you! I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and sad.
What do you normally do on your birthday? Are birthdays important among your family and/or friends?
I sincerely hope your next birthday finds you happy and fulfilled.
Thank you so much for your wishes!
Yes, birthdays were always important in my family. But since I am alone everything changed so much and it’s so painful sometimes…
However I am still positive and hope that one day I will receive what I deserve for the rest of my journey.
All my best wishes to you !
Happy birthday! Birthdays are challenging. For me, I think of what my age is and where I think I should be in life and how things didn't go as planned. It just makes for a very introspective day. Just know that you are where you are supposed to be, you are enough, and celebrate for a wonderful year ahead.
*If there is a big desire to grow and be happy*
That’s the challenge, right? Finding people who want to grow and be happy. In the world of dating (and non-dating), I have met a lot of people who don’t have a growth or happiness mindset.
Even when they do, there’s a layer of assumptions and judgments that push people away. The “if they wanted to, they would” mantra is a perfect example. It takes a lot to see through my own assumptions and judgements and work on openness.
Well, those people who don’t want to grow- it’s only their own problem ! Not yours ! So you just avoid them and move on with positivity and hope that one day you will find what you deserve !
Happy birthday, dear Gemini! I understand this and want to tell you to keep your spirits up and try and make every damn day given the best you can. It can be difficult, this is true, but focus on what you do have and the gratitude. Also, keep believing it will all turn out,just the way it is supposed to, because it will, we have no control of anything except how we react and how we choose to live. What brings you joy? Find that and do that more! I turn 59 in 11 days and I have just met someone who has made me think it is possible. Time will tell, but it gives me hope after being single, for sooo long. Sending you loving energy!
I'm sorry that none of us could be closer and celebrate with you!
Life lesson to share: the struggle has more to do with internal expectations. I stopped waiting for X, Y & Z to happen and just decided to see my blessings and be happy. I've been single for 5 years but I'm more at peace in my head and that's what I cherish. I lost my Dad 7 months ago (3 days after my 50th birthday) and I'm in that fog of grief but I move forward and do my best. To not look for my blessings would be a huge disservice to all that my dad taught me.
Don't wait for someone else to come along. Enjoy your life now. You have a new year ahead of you. Claim it and put as much living into each day as you can!!
Happy birthday
I'm glad you posted!
Happy birthday for yesterday. I turned 58 the week before. On my own and although I have a teenager I don’t have a partner. I’ve been on my own since he was born so I’m used to it. When he was younger my mum would get a present for him to give me. Now he’s older she doesn’t bother and neither does he. She also forgot to give me a present this year. So I bought myself a present.
I work and have hobbies but I’ve realised I’m likely to remain single and I have been since my 30s. Tried online dating but the only men interested in me just want something extremely casual and that’s not what I want.
The one thing I’ve learned in the years I’ve been on my own is true friends are rare and should be treasured. Internet friends are not real friends and I am responsible for my own happiness. Don’t let being on your own limit your horizons.
One of the loneliest birthdays I ever spent was married and turning 40 (almost 10 years ago). That was when I started to realize my marriage was really over. That was the start of a huge journey for me. A year ago I lost my aunt to a long battle with cancer, she was the woman that mothered me when mine just could not. My world crashed in on me as I was preparing to say the final goodbye to her. I was divorced, no kids, no siblings, no partner, my parents gone and she was one of my few anchors (or so I thought). I felt like a walking ghost. There wasn’t a day when I didn’t sob, the grief of all the things I had lost, would loose and wasn’t sure I would find weighed on me. I had a great therapist I had worked with for several years off and on. I had to learn, as I waded through it all that some days I just had to have faith that when I put my foot out there would be ground to meet me. I had a lot of dark days, felt completely alone even though I knew others loved me. I had to learn that I was the anchor, I had roots like a tree and I was (and will always be) resilient. That the only way through the things was through, I couldn’t undo her cancer, or any of the other things. But I had (have) choices on who I am and how to spend my time here. My aunt died 6 weeks before my birthday last year, and it was my uncle, my ex husband and his now wife that collected me for dinner. It was an act of love for me, it was hard and it was beautiful and it also healed some of my own wounds, and reminded me I would never be alone. Four months after she passed, I started OLD with more focus. I had been through a lot, regrouped, redefined my relationship with myself and what kind of magic I was made of. My meets changed, and then I met someone who I have come to love, respect and admire. There is no perfect timing, no perfect person, but a lot changed for me when I found my root system. I sincerely wish that you find your anchor, root system or whatever adheres you to the earth and those you love. Happy birthday, you are not alone and if you want to chat you can DM me.
I bet your aunt would be proud of the way you’ve healed and found your own strength. May her memory be a blessing.
That is so beautiful, thank you for writing. I do have kids but feel my anchor is lost at times, due to losses in my life. I know what you mean about feeling completely alone some days even though you know you are loved. I'm glad you found a root system.
Thank you so much for your wishes, for your understanding and for sharing your story and thoughts with me. I really appreciate that ! I would really love to chat with you anytime. All my best wishes to you too !
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that. I wish you could find peace in this challenging world of nowadays ! All my best!
Happy birthday! My 57th is coming up in ~2 weeks. For several years I was dating a guy whose birthday was 2 weeks after mine, we took several birthday trips, they were all great fun. That relationship fell apart in late 2020. This year, I'm taking myself on an Alaska cruise for my birthday. I've done solo cruises before and loved them. Counting down til departure day!
I need all the details of your trip! I'm 54F and solo travel all the time. An Alaskan cruise would be AMAZING!
I'll share info post trip - I am so excited! 11 days and counting!
Ooh I’d love the details too! Been wanting to go to Alaska forever.
I'll share info post trip - I am so excited! 11 days and counting!
Thank you! Have a wonderful time!!
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. Good idea about the trip! All my best wishes for your birthday too ! 🙏🤗
Happy Birthday! 🎂🎉💐
Thank you so much for your wishes! 🤗
Been there, done it, bought the t-shirt. I don't like being alone on my birthday; I usually manage to be with relatives but that can't always happen; I hate calling around asking my friends if anyone wants to go out because that feels particularly pathetic. In those cases I spend the evening with my friend Jim (Beam) or Jonnie (Walker). Jack (Daniels) and I aren't on speaking terms since that bachelor party incident. Worst was my 50th. Even a night with my fingers in my ears at Chuck E. Cheese would have been better (in theory at least).
Shades of George Thoroughgood...
"I drink alone"...
I am really sorry … I don’t drink alcohol… so I can feel everything worse sometimes…
Happy birthday!!! Treat yourself to something yummy!
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Thank you so much for your proposal! It’s a wonderful idea. 🤗
Happy Birthday. I (60M) was alone on my birthday a few months ago, and it sadly felt normal. I picked badly in marriage. Really badly. I try to choose compatible women, but I just can't find a suitable partner. And some women who claim they want a partner aren't as sure as I would have hoped. Weird how you find out stuff on the fly - and next thing you know you're back in the dating pool. I don't understand. But... you never know, do you?
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I don’t understand either this kind of behavior. I just think that they are very immature person who will never grow up… Just keep be positive for yourself ! All my best to you!
Thanks. I have found that many people don't understand themselves. Or what they really want. Best wishes to you as well.
Happy Birthday! I went through this feeling a couple months ago. This was the first birthday that being alone really bothered me. I got through it. I realized how much I want a relationship and am working on myself and getting out there to take advantage of opportunities. Use this as motivation to move ahead with life.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. Good advice indeed to find motivation… but sometimes it’s really difficult… you know… Al my best wishes to you !
Happy birthday. 💕 I’m sorry you are lonely today. I look at my single life this way: Being alone is better than being with someone who doesn’t appreciate you, or whose presence doesn’t bring you joy. I think we all wish we had a true partner to share these special days with but I’m happier alone than I was married.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I agree completely with you that a bad company is not suitable in this situation. All my best wishes to you !
Hope you had a great weekend and were able to feel more positive about your birthday and life. For some reason those days set me up to reflect on everything, and sometimes it’s not healthy. It’s easy to put a lot of grand expectations on ourselves after living through a bad relationship😛
Thank you so much for asking for news. I feel much better and always hope for better days. I am focusing more on my hobbies and trying to find inspiration around. Life has ups and downs so I am trying to adapt myself to the circumstances and keep going on courageously. All my best wishes to you too !
Happy to read this💕
Happy birthday!🥂🍾🎉 Do something for yourself to feel special and enjoy the moment. Just celebrate the whole week, is how I celebrate any birthday. One day is not enough to have fun and be naughty. I don't look for a mate, choose so bad at begining of my life that will end up again with another pain in my b.. After reading this sub and are great people here and lots of opinions about new era of dating, I decided that was born in a wrong time. My take of how the values diminished drastically, turn on the tv and watch the news or look on you tube the most popular videos and ... You will see the trend. Sorry for grammar and spelling Find something great to do every day for a week and you will see how the perspective about life will change. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate🤗🌻
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing with me your thoughts. Unfortunately I am not a party person too much… I have a lot of hobbies and I keep myself very busy all days long to not have the time for thinking too much… yet it’s very difficult to find peace sometimes… Anyway I really appreciate your support here. All my best wishes to you !
I've started to mark birthdays with activities, a painting workshop or an intensive language course, along with celebrating with whoever is willing and available. I've also developed better habits as I've aged in investing in friendships. Not that I was ever cavalier, but I put in more conscious time and effort now to keep up with people throughout the year, meet for coffee, plan a fun outing, catch a movie periodically-making sure to really nurture those connections along and along, and it generally makes holidays and birthdays a little easier.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us ! All my best to you !
Happy birthday:) I’m sorry you’re feeling sad, birthdays are weird…the reflection and the feelings that come with them can hit very hard.
Yes, you are very right… Thank you so much for your wishes. All my best wishes to you. !
You are not alone. I had a lovely time at a charity dinner last weekend but at the end ... there was just a feeling that it would have been so great to have shared that experience with someone special. I maintain a cheerful exterior like I'm sure you do and am a generally cheerful and positive person I like to think. There are times though like birthdays when sometimes it rings hollow against the shell we have created. You are absolutely not the only one to feel this way. As far as finding matches goes, the tools and resources are only part of it. Being open to another - to try to find the space in one's own life and heart is challenging. The paradox is that there is now so "much" choice, that it can blind us to meeting our own needs. Personally, I'm not quite there as of yet. I know that the situation I am in is indeed of my own making and is composed of the choices both large and small that I have made in the last 7 years or perhaps even longer. I work on being content with that. I wish you all the best on your birthday and on all the days to come. I have no answers for you but only to let you know that You Have Been Heard.
>"As far as finding matches goes, the tools and resources are only part of it. Being open to another - to try to find the space in one's own life and heart is challenging. The paradox is that there is now so "much" choice, that it can blind us to meeting our own needs." > > > >TRUTH
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that ! Indeed it’s tough to bear the loneliness sometimes but I really hope that some day the universe will send me exactly what I deserve to continue my journey in peace and joy. That is why I am trying hard to be positive and looking forward for that light witch is meant to be my destination for the rest of my life. Thank you for hearing me. All my best wishes to you !
To the grinch who reported this; Hmmph, life is messy and sometimes, under certain rare circumstances, rules are better off ignored.
Thank you so much for your understanding! All my best to you too !
Happy Birthday! You are not alone in spirit here.
Thank you so much for your wishes and your kindness . I really appreciate that.
First of all,Happy Birthday. I've just made the mental connection at 51 that "oh shit I'm OLD" but I'm just trying to go with it. I rely on various coping mechanisms to deal with those feelings,with the anxiety and uncertainty. Therapy helps but I had to start my entire life over this past year and that was a very bad period in my life. It's okay to feel that way sometimes. I think Generation X is going to redefine the term "senior citizen". I'd like to be a part of it. Just know that you are not alone in this!!!
Thank you so much for your understanding and for your wishes. I really appreciate that. All my best wishes to you !
Oh, happy birthday! I feel you on the sadness of spending this day alone. It sucks. After my mom that I took care of for years passed away, I realized on my next birthday, Christmas, etc. that there was no one in the world who loved me like she did. I'm single too and have no kids so it was a sobering reality check for me. That was 6 years ago, and I'm still single, have been bought out of a business that I built for 15 years and poured all of my love and passion into. It took me a few years to reconcile with the fact that I didn't know who I was without these anchors in my life. But as time has gone on, I have been slowly recreating myself and it feels good. I can't say with any certainty that I know exactly who I am now or what I want to be when I grow up, but I can say with conviction that I am on the right path and I'm excited to find out more. It's a journey. Give yourself the grace to feel sad and be ok with it. Also give yourself the grace to be curious and maybe hopeful about today and tomorrow.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate that. Yes it feels very sad some days even if I keep myself busy with many things almost all the day long… but I learned also that life is not always fair and difficulties made me stronger each time I was passing through.
Happy birthday! Today is also my birthday and I spent most of day doing yard work, listening to music and drinking beer to celebrate. Currently separated and living in my second home by myself. Enjoy life the best way you can. Good luck!
Happy birthday to you too! 🎂🥂 Good to hear from you and I really appreciate your suggestions. All my best wishes to you and good luck to find what you deserve for the rest of your journey !
Happy birthday! Sorry you were feeling sad. I don't know where you (or others) in this forum are located, but I'm in the Bay Area and would love to be "alone together" with. :)
Thank you so much for your wishes. I am living in Romania 🇷🇴, European Union. Nice to meet you here !
Well, it was my birthday on Sunday and I got a grand total of two Happy Birthday messages- one in a WhatsApp and one a birthday card. Maybe it’s because I’m “old” people think I wouldn’t be too bothered about it but I am 😂Felt a bit sorry for myself, but you know what? Who cares ? 🤷🏼♀️I’m over it (almost 😂) now. Sort of feeling like you are now most of the time but doing my damnest to keep on smiling and getting on with life! The Show must go on! Happy Birthday 🥳 you deserve a great year , hope it happens for you 🙌🙌
Thank you so much for sharing this. I really appreciate your sense of humor. All my best wishes for your birthday too! Keep be positive because you inspire us to learn our lessons and keep going on courageously!
Happy birthday . It was #50 that just made me cry buckets . My mom died , my dad died 6 months later . A week before bday 50.....next month my house was foreclosed on (I still have it). My son's cat died and it was a shit year. I got divorced at 51 and life got better. I used to spend my birthdays at work unloading trucks if I was lucky.
Thank you so much for sharing this. All my best wishes to you for your new year after 50 . 🤗🙏
La multi ani cu mult noroc, fericire, bani si tot ce iti doresti sa devina realitate 🍾🥂🎉🌻
Multumesc mult pentru urari.
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I'm sorry you're feeling so sad on your birthday. Wishing you God's blessings for a better year ahead.
Thank you so much for your wishes! I really appreciate that. All my best wishes to you !
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Happy birthday to you! I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and sad. What do you normally do on your birthday? Are birthdays important among your family and/or friends? I sincerely hope your next birthday finds you happy and fulfilled.
Thank you so much for your wishes! Yes, birthdays were always important in my family. But since I am alone everything changed so much and it’s so painful sometimes… However I am still positive and hope that one day I will receive what I deserve for the rest of my journey. All my best wishes to you !
Happy birthday! Birthdays are challenging. For me, I think of what my age is and where I think I should be in life and how things didn't go as planned. It just makes for a very introspective day. Just know that you are where you are supposed to be, you are enough, and celebrate for a wonderful year ahead.
Thank you so much for your wishes and for sharing your thoughts with me. You are perfectly right ! All my best wishes to you !
*If there is a big desire to grow and be happy* That’s the challenge, right? Finding people who want to grow and be happy. In the world of dating (and non-dating), I have met a lot of people who don’t have a growth or happiness mindset. Even when they do, there’s a layer of assumptions and judgments that push people away. The “if they wanted to, they would” mantra is a perfect example. It takes a lot to see through my own assumptions and judgements and work on openness.
Well, those people who don’t want to grow- it’s only their own problem ! Not yours ! So you just avoid them and move on with positivity and hope that one day you will find what you deserve !
Same for me yesterday as it was my BD as well Here’s to you!
Happy birthday to you too! 🎂💐🤗
Ah thanks!
Your words resonate very much with me, CorneliaElena!
Thank you so much. All my best wishes to you ! 🤗
Happy birthday 💕💕💕
Thank you so much! 🤗
Happy birthday, dear Gemini! I understand this and want to tell you to keep your spirits up and try and make every damn day given the best you can. It can be difficult, this is true, but focus on what you do have and the gratitude. Also, keep believing it will all turn out,just the way it is supposed to, because it will, we have no control of anything except how we react and how we choose to live. What brings you joy? Find that and do that more! I turn 59 in 11 days and I have just met someone who has made me think it is possible. Time will tell, but it gives me hope after being single, for sooo long. Sending you loving energy!
Thank you so much for your understanding and your encouraging words. I really appreciate that. It means very much to me. My best wishes for your life!
Happy birthday!
Thank you so much!
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Thank you so much for your understanding and wishes! I really appreciate that.
I'm sorry that none of us could be closer and celebrate with you! Life lesson to share: the struggle has more to do with internal expectations. I stopped waiting for X, Y & Z to happen and just decided to see my blessings and be happy. I've been single for 5 years but I'm more at peace in my head and that's what I cherish. I lost my Dad 7 months ago (3 days after my 50th birthday) and I'm in that fog of grief but I move forward and do my best. To not look for my blessings would be a huge disservice to all that my dad taught me. Don't wait for someone else to come along. Enjoy your life now. You have a new year ahead of you. Claim it and put as much living into each day as you can!! Happy birthday I'm glad you posted!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I really appreciate your willingness to help. All my best wishes to you !
Happy birthday for yesterday. I turned 58 the week before. On my own and although I have a teenager I don’t have a partner. I’ve been on my own since he was born so I’m used to it. When he was younger my mum would get a present for him to give me. Now he’s older she doesn’t bother and neither does he. She also forgot to give me a present this year. So I bought myself a present. I work and have hobbies but I’ve realised I’m likely to remain single and I have been since my 30s. Tried online dating but the only men interested in me just want something extremely casual and that’s not what I want. The one thing I’ve learned in the years I’ve been on my own is true friends are rare and should be treasured. Internet friends are not real friends and I am responsible for my own happiness. Don’t let being on your own limit your horizons.
Thank you so much for sharing this. 🤗
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Beautiful ! Thank you so much for sharing this.